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 Author Thread: Do men really screw anything? Looking for honest answers.
 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 245 (view)
 
Do men really screw anything? Looking for honest answers.
Posted: 5/17/2013 9:07:00 AM
I agree with cautiousluv!
I know a lot of men that have had sex with women just because they could - but wouldnt be seen in public with!
Like she said "closing time at the bar or club" over the internet or often on this site - to many people I know this site is known as "plenty of fvcks"!
Its not just men that do this though - I think for some women its a case of bad self image and having a one night stand or just sleeping with any man that shows them interest is a way of feeling wanted - on a VERY temporary basis!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Tone of voice
Posted: 5/10/2013 2:55:39 AM
No I dont think he was nervous Icurusi - he appears to be a confident bloke - and his nose was in proportion ;)
@misslegs
I completely agree with you that there isnt ever going to be a match where two people like absolutely everything about the other person - but how did you come to the conclusion that - Quote -
" you sound like the type of person who would rule out a man for the slightest fault and then moan there are no decent men left on here"
Hahahaa - Youve got me all worked out ;)
Maybe I wasnt what he expected, maybe Im doing him a favour so he can find a woman that appreciates him and maybe youre equally as judgemental as me!
Just saying ;)
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Tone of voice
Posted: 5/9/2013 3:28:00 PM
Im glad its not just me!
I was feeling really judgemental and a bit of a **** for being put off by something like a voice - but it is really important!
If you end up with that person - that voice is something you will have to listen to every day!
I was having all sorts of images when I was chatting to him of us in bed and his erm... pillow talk eeeeewww no I just couldnt lol!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Quirky Things You Find Attractive?
Posted: 5/9/2013 3:22:14 PM
^^^ does it make your teeth grind in a good or a bad way ; )
I cant wolf whistle either mely : ( but it doesnt mean we dont want the odd one ourselves does it ; )
Oh and on topic - I really fancy men with****ey accents at the moment - its a new thing - I had a little chat with a man that looked like papa smurf the other night but I found him really attractive because of his voice!
OK I admit it ........ its ahem ...... been a while ; )
lol x
 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Online Dating=Unhealthy?
Posted: 5/9/2013 2:15:43 AM
Exactly what stray cat said!
Some people take it all far too seriously!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Tone of voice
Posted: 5/9/2013 1:56:52 AM
I think Im over sensitive to the way people talk and their tone of voice!
I was chatting with a guy I met on another site for around a week and he seemed lovely - funny, articulate all the qualities I like in a person - I was even willing to forgive that he was the same height as me ; )
I know its impossible to interpret body language and tone in writing but I never thought I could misinterperet someone so much!
Then last night I had a chat with him on Skype!
Its changed everything - he talks really quickly and mumbles!
Among other things about him that I find unnattractive that didnt come across in writing at all!
Oh no! What do I do? Im going to have to tell him that Im not interested - god Im shallow!
Does anyone else feel like this or is it just me?
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 30 (view)
 
do you sometimes get all confused and end up doing silly things?
Posted: 5/9/2013 1:50:20 AM
All the time!
Ive missed a flight because it was leaving at 8am not 8pm Doh!
Writing lists and then forgetting to take the list with me Doh!
The usual going to another room in the house and forgetting why Im there Doh!
Too many senior moments to mention!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Quirky Things You Find Attractive?
Posted: 5/9/2013 1:41:50 AM
Im with you mely - bring back wolf whistles!
Too much PC rubbish going on these days - Im not attracted to metrosexual men at all!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 22 (view)
 
No longer desirable/dateable
Posted: 4/29/2013 1:08:11 AM
I wouldnt worry about it OP - we're always going to be too old, to young to fat too thin too this that and the other for someone!
It amazes me that some people feel the need to point this out!
They must be really bored!
I get a lot of messages from men / boys in their early 20s saying "Im not to shabby for an old bird" lol!
Id be flattered if I wasnt busy feeling old enough to be their mother!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Work, friends, families and fitting it all in...
Posted: 4/25/2013 3:17:07 PM
@ msg 20
I dont think the OP mentioned anything about not being there for his parents!
I think it was about someone he was in a relationship with making time for the relationship if they had so many other commitments!
And why should anyone feel bad about not wanting to be a care giver to an elderly parent!
Not everyone has the strength patience and a million other qualities you need to give care to an elderly person!
Sooooooooooooooo judgemental!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Work, friends, families and fitting it all in...
Posted: 4/25/2013 2:53:55 PM
I can relate OP - I was with someone a long time ago that was very family orientated - he spent a lot of time with them and expected me to want to do the same!
Im not very close with my family - I love them but we dont see each other that often.
I also had to make a big effort with his freinds as they were also a big part of his life - as mine are, but the same effort wasnt returned on his part.
It all seemed a bit one sided, lop sided and quite frankly a lot of effort for people that I didnt choose to be in my life!
I chose him but I didnt choose them!
And I found that if I wanted to spend time with him I had to spend time with all of these people that I didnt really care that much for!
Maybe I am a bit selfish and want someone that can make time for me rather than pencil me in when they have time!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Sleepless nights - how do you cope?
Posted: 4/22/2013 3:48:08 PM
I say burn them purple pants is not a good look ;)
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 21 (view)
 
true love/relationships
Posted: 4/22/2013 3:46:55 PM
I think it just depends if the feeling is mutual Ruth!
The person that is left comparing everyone to their ex is usually the one that isnt over it!
I dont think I believe in "the one" I think that whatever stage in our life we're at then there is someone there to compliment it!
In my opinion that is why it fades away because our needs change - and usually people dont feel the same things at the same time
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Racist or just rude?!
Posted: 4/22/2013 3:40:09 PM
I agree with a lot of whats been said here - but the simple fact is - I was born and raised in Hertfodshire - my mum is from Hertfodshire and when I was born my dad had been in this country 50yrs!
Im lucky and havent really experienced any racism in the UK growing up or as an adult - well not to my face anyway ; )
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 19 (view)
 
true love/relationships
Posted: 4/22/2013 3:33:19 PM
Its so hard when you have had someone that was "the one" you need to be over that person before you can even think of being with someone else!
I would hate to be the person that was being compared to someone else!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 74 (view)
 
Sleepless nights - how do you cope?
Posted: 4/22/2013 3:30:27 PM
On topic - sleepless nights can cause depression or vice versa!
Its almost a state of unreality to be exhausted all the time!
And to judge people on what action people choose to make to combat these feelings isnt right in my humble opinion!
Different things work for different people - Im fortunate enough to have not suffered with depression - exhaustion perhaps and feeling "fed up" or grumpy because I dont get enough sleep.
I have experience with people with depression and the feeling of hopelessness they have is something that I wouldnt wish on anyone!
Whether its councilling, drugs or diet or a combination of all three that helps - I say do whatever works for you!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 14 (view)
 
ridiculous human pastimes
Posted: 4/22/2013 3:19:47 PM
Spending too much time on social network sites updating your profile every 5 mins about what you had for lunch and the last time you went to the toilet!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Sleepless nights - how do you cope?
Posted: 4/18/2013 3:46:57 PM
@msg 14 aw thanks Daver - yep 2013 is going to be my year Ive decided!
And big hugs to you Mysti - it takes time - I know a bollox cliched thing to say but true - I went through it with my dad x
 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Sleepless nights - how do you cope?
Posted: 4/17/2013 4:20:21 PM
Ive never been a sound sleeper and have tried nearly everything to catch the zzzzzzzzzs!
Apart from a good shag Daver - chance would be a fine thing atm lol!
I usually sleep better when Ive been very active during the day.
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 43 (view)
 
How can i believe that i am real? Please help.
Posted: 4/13/2013 4:16:05 PM
Are you sure that this type of attention is good for your mental state OP?
I think you are a very clever person and know how to go about finding help xx hugs xx
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Racist or just rude?!
Posted: 4/9/2013 4:34:48 PM
Thanks for the replies - even the ones from the spelling police ;)
Im sure there will be plenty of spelling mistakes to pull me up on in this post too ;)
After Id stopped crying like a twat I was making all sorts of assumptions about the fact that they were South African - and were of course a couple of racists!
I dont want to be the same as them and make assumptions about people - but I have never been proved otherwise!
So maybe they havent been proved otherwise either!
Most people make generalisations about people - that is the way that it is!
But I think being a rude, ignorant, confrontational twat is something you can avoid!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Racist or just rude?!
Posted: 4/8/2013 3:57:38 PM
OK Im going to have a little rant here sorry in advance ;)
I have just got in from a night out and was standing in line freezing to death at a taxi rank getting nearer the front and getting exited about nearly being home in the warm.......
Then an older couple I'd say they were in their late 50's just jumped in front on me and everyone else in the que!
I was so cold that I tutted very loudly - and the man span round and said in a very thick South African accent "whats your problem girl"
I asked him what gave them the right to push in the que and he said "there is plenty of taxi's to go round"!
THEN I heard him say to his wife and maybe to the rest of the taxi que Im not sure - "they're bloody rude at home and they're rude here too"!
Im assuming he's reffering to my colour!
I couldnt quite believe it and instead of saying anything I just burst into tears like a twat and got in the next cab!
I wish I had his number so I could tell him that my family isnt from anywhere near Africa ;)
TWAT!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Stop the world, I want to get off!
Posted: 4/2/2013 6:13:33 AM
Oh FFS!
I cant even find words - Im jumping off with you Daver I cant bear to hear any more of this type of nonsense!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Holy Grail?
Posted: 4/1/2013 5:31:01 PM
Well - you have clearly had your question answered OP ;)
You are a very attractive articulate intelligent woman OP - Im sure you must have realised that the POF asylum isnt the place for you by now!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Be honest. Does my profile suck?
Posted: 4/1/2013 5:26:36 PM
@jo van
HAAAAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!
Am I allowed to be in love with you from afar or is that against your rules ;)
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 197 (view)
 
Dating someone with depression..
Posted: 3/31/2013 5:18:44 PM
Yawn!
Back to the original question - no I wouldnt date someone with depression - I cant be arsed!
Much like needing or wanting to read most of the looooooooooooong posts on here!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 118 (view)
 
What inspires you to message someone?
Posted: 3/31/2013 5:16:00 PM
Its a miricle! I agree happychappie! not even a trace of bitterness on most profiles on here ;)
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 57 (view)
 
How much does religion affect your choice of date?
Posted: 3/29/2013 1:31:00 PM
Im with lucipher - god botherers and hardcore atheists arent for me either!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 386 (view)
 
What puts you off messaging someone?
Posted: 3/29/2013 1:28:07 PM
Maya I have seen your picture - how very dare a 64yr old think he's in there lol!
Wishful thinking on his part clearly!
Im put off by men that only want women younger than them - which is most men Ive noticed!
Most 50yr olds only want women between 20 and 37 - he wishes! ;)
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Would you Date Someone with a Disability?
Posted: 3/23/2013 6:26:43 AM
I was with someone who was wheelchair bound and if Im completely honest it was hard work!
The person inside the chair was what attracted me initially and I dealt with it - and didnt even see it after a while but I would think twice about getting into something like that again - relationships are hard enough as it is!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 332 (view)
 
Taken In Hand Relationship
Posted: 3/11/2013 5:46:44 PM
I like Jo Vans posts and usually agree with a lot of what he says!
There are a few people around here that make themsleves look like bellends ( naming no names of course! )
and he isnt one of them!
Back on topic ....... people should have whatever relationship they choose to have innit ; )
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Looking a lot younger then you are...
Posted: 3/11/2013 5:13:38 PM
I really hope that looking younger is genetic!
I am half white and half black and my mother is white and she looks amazing for her age - shes nearly 80!
But she has lived a fairly healthy life and is still active now walks everywhere and doesnt drink or smoke or eat unhealthy food.
I think I look a bit younger than my age but close up you can see the wrinkles!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 331 (view)
 
Taken In Hand Relationship
Posted: 3/11/2013 4:49:22 PM
Wow! for some reason I just read a lot ( not all thankfully! ) of this thread - as I previously ignored it as it was taken over by the usual people being right and needing to write epic monologues about being so!
On topic - everyone to their own and all that! if someone wants to be dominated then its their choice!
Who knows what it means to anyone in any type of relationship!
Every relationship has its own dynamic whether it be a sub / dom "traditional" or pony and harness type affair ;)
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Couple-ability
Posted: 3/6/2013 4:18:17 AM
Ive been single for 3yrs now and I miss having someone but like everyone else Im not going to settle for someone that isnt right just for the sake of being with someone!
I have too many examples of relationships like that around me - they are not happy!
I am just as comfortable with being single as being in a couple.
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Attitudes to sex
Posted: 3/3/2013 8:41:30 AM
I dont think peoples atttudes have changed I just think that the media go on about it a lot more!
Sex sells and all that!
As for gay lesbian and bisexual people being more liberated I think thats a load of rubbish - promiscuity is there regardless of what gender you choose to have sex with!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Facebook has completely destroyed this site over the years!! :(
Posted: 3/3/2013 8:36:03 AM
Yawn!
Lets not feed the troll!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 88 (view)
 
Friends with extras - Can it work?
Posted: 3/3/2013 8:34:18 AM
I dont think it can work - feelings and emotions are far too complicated and if you want to remain someones friend for a long time then never have sex with them!
If that person doesnt mean a lot to you then by all means sleep with them because it wont be a loss when
the "friendship" inevitably ends!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Dating Deal Makers
Posted: 3/3/2013 8:31:48 AM
Im not that interested in looks anymore either zenndy!
Im not saying its not the first thing I notice in a person because it is - but my compatibility radar seems to be waaaaay off at the moment - so someone I find instantly attractive usually turns out to be completely wrong for me!
A dating deal maker would be someone thats easy to talk to, someone who makes you feel instantly comfortable and obviously the "spark" has to be there!
Its all in the way they talk, move, interact - thats what makes someone attractive not the way they look in a picture or sound in a profile!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Are you 'happy'?
Posted: 3/3/2013 8:11:07 AM
I wish I could say Im happy most of the time but Im just not!
I get sad sometimes and every emotion inbetween!
Thats normal isnt it!
I dont think there are as many "balanced" people on these forums as they make out lol ;)
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 44 (view)
 
The word Love
Posted: 2/28/2013 2:53:25 PM
I think that words like love or hate are bandied around too much!
Im guilty of this too!
It goes without saying that someone loves their child etc... but I think it would be out of context to say that I love custard as much as a parent would love their child!
Even though custard is up there with things I think are rather special!
;)
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Shops or online shopping.
Posted: 2/28/2013 2:50:05 PM
I prefer seeing things in real life instead of on the internet!
This goes for shopping for clothes or men ;)
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Groping
Posted: 2/28/2013 2:45:44 PM
^^^^ What?
Anyway .............
Im quite a tactile person but think I know when its appropriate to kiss and hug someone or not.
Maybe people are complaining that Im groping them I dont know!
Its not always comfortable to tell someone to get out of your personal space - so maybe you should tell this man what these women in your group have said OP?
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Aggressive blocking - Why?
Posted: 2/26/2013 9:09:20 AM
I dont feel the need to block people unless they have been offensive.
No one knows why these women are blocking you other than these women!
Why scenario about something you will never know the answer to - and why do you care!?
Ive learned to have a thick skin on this dating site and if I was to analyse everything that everyone ever did or said on here I would drive myself nuts!
Move on!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Swearing
Posted: 2/26/2013 6:35:35 AM
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Bollox!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Why do
Posted: 2/26/2013 6:32:43 AM
Oh FFS the thread title of "why do" sucked me in - even though I have no idea what that means!
To then find out its just another poster whining about not getting messages - yawn!
Why lie about your age - its not like people arent going to find out!
And why shouldnt people have age restrictions on their profile if thats what they want to do?
Yawn!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Child free by choice
Posted: 2/25/2013 3:23:54 AM
@msg 31 - aw thankyou that just cheered me up xxx
@traycoli - it sounds to me that you are implying that if someone has a child then they are a better person!
Everything that happens in everyones life changes a person and changes their priorities and perspective - I think its unfair to suggest that just because someone has chosen to remain childless that they are selfish!
I get the impression that people with children often think that they have more "important" things to think about / worry about than people without!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Is music important?
Posted: 2/23/2013 8:10:22 AM
@msg 55
I agree that someone who is passionate about something is a very attractive quality!
But when its a passion you dont share it becomes boring very quickly!
To feel very strongly about something makes it a big part of your life and I dont think I could stand someone who harped on about their music choices 24/7!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Child free by choice
Posted: 2/23/2013 8:05:54 AM
I get this ALL the time OP!
People not understanding that Ive chosen to take a different path from them!
When I was your age I was adamant that I didnt want children - I found the very thought of having a child in my life repulsive as I was travelling 6 months a year and living the kind of life style where children just didnt fit!
Now Im more settled the thought of having a child isnt so repulsive - but Im not in any major rush to have them or will I be devestated if I dont have any at all!
Thats clearly because Im really selfish ;)
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Is music important?
Posted: 2/22/2013 3:47:40 AM
I agree with there-sownrose - I dont like music snobbery!
I like what I like and dont give a toss who its by and what genre its from!
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 stillsparkly
Joined: 5/26/2010
Msg: 40 (view)
 
what do girls like in first message?
Posted: 2/21/2013 8:15:50 AM
Hahahahaa - Yes Pollygraf Lucipher has a way with words eh ;)
As for men being less fussy then I completely agree - I did a lil experiment and sent out a few messages that just said "hi" some that said "hi gawjuss" and all got a reply - maybe I should send a few with naked body parts and see what happens lol!
Joke btw - for the odd forumite who misses the point ;)
Im not having much luck on here Nottinghamfellow so Im thinking of sending a few out the the gals too ;)
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