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Calling all foreign film enthusiasts Posted: 5/4/2009 7:42:17 AM
Woman of the dunes, the Japanese film from the 50s or 60s - black and white, metaphoric and beautiful.

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Controlling daughters Posted: 3/26/2009 12:22:58 PM
Msg 60 from 'me myself and us' is informative and courteous to you, OP. Your sarcastic comments back make you look like the would-be controlling one.

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Calling all foreign film enthusiasts Posted: 3/26/2009 9:48:37 AM
Alice in the Cities (Alice in den Staaten) by Wim Wenders. A kind of 70s road movie about a photographer landed with looking after a young girl. Aguirre, Wrath of God. Kinski rotating on a raft down the amazon. Documentary about the film's production is just as good as the film, including Kinski firing a pistol at other actors. Eyes Without a Face (Les Yeux Sans Visage). Georges Franju's 50s horror/love story, weird and beautiful. Mouchette. Robert Bresson film about an adolescent girl. Les Valseuses. Brilliant French movie . http://www.amazon.co.uk/Valseuses-VHS-G%C3%A9rard-Depardieu/dp/B00004CN5W/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=dvd&qid=1238085866&sr=1-2 Knife on the Water. Polanski's first film, made while at fim school I think. Two men sparring over a woman on a boat. Some Pasolini, Fassbinder, and Luis Bunuel's Exterminating Angel is good.

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Controlling daughters Posted: 3/23/2009 3:51:36 PM
Ditto Sandia Rose's concluding thoughts. But also it sounds as if you really dislike these girls and ideally would have them removed from the situation through directly or indirectly (ie, through him) exerting so-called adult authority. I didn't notice you refer anywhere to the necessity of befriending these girls on your own behalf, only their existence as a 'problem' for this new quasi-family.

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Dry humor vs sarcasm Posted: 3/23/2009 2:55:36 PM
Interesting thread. r.e. the OP "dry humor vs sarcasm" - it seems that humour is often used to quickly establish whether two strangers are on the same side as each other. When you know that they are, sarcasm can then be used in a playful "I'm the smarter one here" kind of way. Each side knows that it's a game and plays the moves. It becomes irritating when it's used as if to mean "you think I'm joking but I actually do think I'm the smarter one", or sometimes as a way to conceal insecurity. I had a friend who was studying for a PHD in Marxist sociology, but when he was around other friends who were into politics and wanted to talk about it, he would turn sarcastic. He clearly feared being 'shown up' for not knowing as much as he felt he ought to.

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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 3/23/2009 2:07:53 PM
I think poor spelling is not a problem at all (save for ambiguous homonyms), but grammar can totally misconvey a thought. Reading internet forums like Yahoo Answers, it seems that almost nobody knows how to use grammar to separate different aspects of the sentence meaning. It seems that these people don't have the patience to either think about how they come across or to listen to the subtlety of another's experience: that's why they seem so disrespecting and limited.

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Always wondered... Posted: 3/14/2009 2:12:09 PM
OP, I think it may be that strip-joints make the majority of their income from businessmen and their clients using expense accounts to entertain the visitors. The notion of 'showing off the women' ties up with old notions of male hospitality.

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noodles and stir fry dishes........? Posted: 3/10/2009 5:32:43 PM
Pack of Japanese Udon noodles (the chubby ones). Pot of Tom Yam thai soup paste. Spring onion. Tin of tuna. Fresh chillies. Beansprouts. Spoonful of paste stirfried a minute. Cup of hot water. Add tuna and simmer. Add noodles for a couple of minutes or so. Add the rest. Then season. That's it.

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So what gives? Posted: 3/10/2009 5:19:34 PM
I think no reply will be taken better by most men than an "I'm not interested", which they usually perceive as a slight.

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Just Plain Bad Humor! Posted: 3/10/2009 4:26:45 PM
I once had an odd meeting where an older woman met me to 'chat about books'. But she turned up, insisted on paying, then insisted on ordering the food for me, then began a non-stop spiel about her work. (I believe 'talking shop' is socially prohibited unless you're going to be coming at something else via it). I finally interrupted to enquire regarding her avowed tomboyness - were any of her family engineers too? She resentfully listed them as all being engineers, but then, to somehow defeat a perceived oneupmanship, noted that her brother was no engineer but a psychiatrist. To which I merely added "An engineer of the soul...!". She was as they say p***ed at this, and we ended the sushi morosely and without joy.

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Is my light sarcasm nicely added or just lame... Posted: 3/10/2009 4:01:44 PM
It reads rather breathlessly, as if you have been to a stand-up comedy gig and then ran up a hill to relate the jokes.

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Sarcasm red flag or not? Posted: 3/10/2009 3:27:27 PM
Apologies if I'm butting in on a sumo fight, but to return to the OP, I find that people in the UK massively overuse sarcasm. Such people are always p*ssed off with their lives and hoping to attain a superior ego-ideal with the notion of themselves as 'witty'. They tend to work in admin, watch a lot of television, and nothing amazes them.

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How important is it for our children to remember the holocaust Posted: 3/9/2009 4:28:48 PM
For those who posted comments concerning what they believe to be its irrelevancy to the present, I wanted to add one point. The bureaucrats of the Holocaust (not the Jewish name for the event, Jews know it as the Shoah), were assisted to escape Germany in 1945 by the Allied Forces. Many of the major administrators of the Nazi party were resettled in South America - for example, Klaus Barbie. Of those prosecuted, for some of the more notable mass executions, the vast majority served only a fraction of their sentences. The outcome was that by the mid-1950s, postwar democratic Germany's political elite contained many former war criminals, and the industrialists who brought the NSDAP to power in the 30s regained their position in the 50s and 60s. This was what motivated left-wing terrorism (kidnappings etc) - the brutality of the fact that Nazism was merely a freak fluctuation of a social democracy perceived as ordinary political control.

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I have a huge bag of carrots Posted: 1/31/2009 4:49:25 PM
Carrot Jam, unquestionably. http://www.carrotmuseum.co.uk/jam.html Also you could use it to bait rabbits.

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Bolognese Sauce Posted: 9/20/2008 8:45:47 PM
This version looks alright: http://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/database/spaghettibolognese_2071.shtml It is pointless making it without wine. And it has to be rich, so some soaked dried mushrooms are good in the stock. And it needs to simmer very slowly for a very long time - at least a couple of hours.

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Chronic Fatigue Posted: 8/2/2008 7:03:55 PM
Just been reading this thread and want to add my experience. I lived in a house when I was a student in Bath and the landlady had a daughter, late teens or early twenties. When I moved in the landlady mentioned her daughter being sick with M.E., and living there I barely ever saw her. The mother was a strict Christian of the type you might expect in 1950s literature, cross round the neck, thin tight lips, stern, cold eyes. I would say mentally ill, something vengeful about her - my feeling was that she controlled every aspect of her daughter's life. Each morning there would be a plate of dreadful salad wrapped in clingfilm waiting for the girl when she got out of bed. Though the girl was thin and pale, there was something eerie about her - she was not depressed, there was no spark of rebellion in her: It was as if the mother had extinguished the daughter's capacity for life outside routine. No doubt she was on a timetable of pharmaceuticals too. What was obvious was that this 'illness' was nothing to do with the girl as such, but was entirely about the mother-daughter dyad. A pact had been reached between them, one in which the threat of familial violence had been replaced by an 'acceptable life'. So... to throw a hasty comparison into your request for advice - this is what I feel is clear: your friend won't get the necessary help from any authoritative source, because that would put into question the family's 'expertise' over her. Perhaps they even resent you for what they see as interfering, or will do if you're effective at helping her. I semi-agree with the post that advised you to give up, but not as advice - I think you need to set that as your base point, not that what you might try will destroy your friendship, but the awareness that you now don't have a friendship, and that your friend may be irrecoverable. (I'm thinking of a girl I knew for a short time who was on lithium and about three other anti-depressants, and none of it helped because despite every friend being 'on her side', she was being raped by her father and insisted on returning to him. She told me 'I know it sounds crazy but I want to be with him, to live in his house, to be at home with him' - our friendship ended when she came out of hospital after a lithium overdose and broken ribs from 'falling down the stairs' and accused me of calling her a liar when I said that was obviously caused by her father. The intense power of the family over the more subtle, more diffuse and generous notion of friendship.) Given that, as someone else said, you must meet her outside somehow. I would suggest you spend an entire morning writing her a letter detailing everything that you liked about her - be funny, poignant, aggressive - don't underestimate what it'll take to break through the current situation. Write what you think about her, her history, her mother (my guess is that you haven't yet fully thought about her yourself), and anyone else involved. Say what you want from her, why you need her back, and don't be sensitive to her feelings, the more piercing you are the greater the chance of having an effect. So insist on meeting her outside in a cafe - and a long walk perhaps, or a train trip somewhere - knock her out of her familiar life. Then when it seems right give her the letter and say you've been thinking about some things that you'd like her to read. Having it written means you won't back out of what you really mean to say. What happens then I don't know, but you have to place your relation before her for there to be hope. I wish you well.

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