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 Author Thread: When Mom needs to be OUT of your life!!!
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
When Mom needs to be OUT of your life!!!
Posted: 7/29/2006 4:37:16 AM
{quote}I"m not sure how many people can relate to this but... I have some major issues with my mother. They cause me problems even now and I'm 47 years old. I'm not the type person who will hurt another person no matter what they do to me. My mother has backstabbed me for many many years.. told people lies about me and my family. Each time I hear some of the mean things she says my hurt comes out all over again. When this happens it sends me into a depression and a "funk" even though I'm on medication for depression this is something I cannot help and end up feeling really bad about.

Recently, I've decided that I want her out of my life permenantly. For those who want to say "but she's your mother".. don't bother. My MOTHER left me when I was 5 years old. She remarried.. started another family and never even told her husbands family about me and my brother. One year for my 17th birthday one of my Aunts let me use her phone as a birthday present to "find" my mother. Oh god how I wish she hadn't!! While there have been some good times and fun things that has happened the mean stuff and craziness far outweighs it. My father, grandma and uncle along with the rest of the family here raised me and my brother. When you hear "it takes a tribe to raise a child" that is what we had and I'm very very thankful for it. I thank god everyday my mother did not raise me. Everyone who has been in her life, is disfunctional.

I guess i'm just wondering how many other people have a parent who they have thrown out of their life. My mother is just a sick person.. self centered... mean... a hybitual liar... and more. I just need her out of my life.. and I don't want to even think of the confrontation about it because everything is always someone elses fault and she does not owe anyone an appoligy for anything she's ever done. My friends all back me on this because they have seen the affect she has on me.{/quote}

Regardless of what your mother did in the past, nothing will change the fact she's your mother and you only have one mother(Everyone makes mistakes) I personally think you should be ashamed of yourself.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 137 (view)
 
Spray me, degrade me?
Posted: 7/29/2006 4:23:27 AM
It's no more degrading than a guy eating you and you cum in his face. I had women squirt buckets on my face, did I say anything about it being degrading to me? of course not!

I think you've real issues if you find that degrading.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
This is my first posting be kind, please...
Posted: 7/6/2006 7:39:02 AM
Excellent poems Gal, You definately have a gift.I really enjoyed reading them.



I want you to know that I love you,
I want you to know that I care,
And if you should need me to talk to,
I want you to know that I'm there.

You're telling me it's time for you,
To live your life alone,
It's time for me to realize,
that you have finally grown.

This may surprise you but i agree,
It's time that I let go,
But before I do, there are some things,
I think that you should know.

If your car breaks down,
Or your rent is due,
And your money is running low
I want you to know that my well ran dry,
A long, long time ago.

I've just cut down my money tree,
that was out in my backyard.
The leaves were picked so many times,
that they were all dried up and hard.

Now my job with you is finally done,
you can let your wings fly free,
But as I let go of you my Love,
You must let go of me.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Any Dominant woman
Posted: 7/6/2006 7:32:21 AM
okay!
Any Dominant woman in Vegas wants a slave boy to worship ground you walk on
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Stalkers: Only those who've never had one brag about it
Posted: 7/6/2006 7:25:42 AM
Yeah Stalking is not fun,My ex girlfriend stalked me for 6 months after we broke up and said she knows where I live and actually theatrened my life.I'd like to know what causes someone to actually go that far.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
When women don't call
Posted: 7/5/2006 8:07:38 AM

Men love the chase and once you stop making him chase you he loses interest.


Actually, you've that backwards! Women love the chase and once they have us, they go for another chase.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 171 (view)
 
Original Poems by POF'ers
Posted: 7/5/2006 7:59:46 AM
got your back
You got mine,
I'll help you out
Anytime!


To see you hurt
To see you cry
Makes me weep
And wanna die


And if you agree
To never fight
It wouldn't matter
Whos wrong or right


If a broken heart
Needs a mend
I'll be right there
Till the end


If your cheeks are wet
From drops of tears
Don't worry
Let go of your fears


Hand in hand
Love is sent,
We'll be friends
Till the end!!!!
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
 
c'mon vegas locals!
Posted: 7/5/2006 7:20:24 AM
Vegas sucks and the women here are absolutely pathetic
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
I know you are out there I can hear you breathing......
Posted: 7/5/2006 7:03:44 AM
I'm not breathing lmao
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Any suggestons/tips on surviving?
Posted: 7/5/2006 6:18:40 AM

Hello everyone, I am thinking of relocating to Nevada, however I have grew up in Vancouver, BC area , so I think there are going to be some adapting, since I am going from a rain forest to the desert, Do any of you have helpful tips to survive living in the desert?


Surviving tips? you're relocating to vegas? best tip I can give is don't move here lol the police are corrupted right down to the mayor.If you want to survive, seriously don't move here!


I do know one.. hydration, I know when I went to Wendover NV, I drank sooo much water, that I didnt dare drink anything else, and that was on cool day.



Yeah That's what I drink all day everyday is water.The summer days are worse 120 degree weather.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Corrupt Public Officials
Posted: 7/5/2006 5:43:16 AM
This whole town is corrupted from the police department right to the fricking mayor.I'm seriously comtemplating moving again.I'm from New Jersey and moved to Vegas three years ago and I'm all ready to move again.


Vegas is a joke!
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 44 (view)
 
ultravoxgurl
Posted: 7/5/2006 5:36:09 AM
Hello everyone,

Well,I'll start by saying It's great to be here. I just moved to Las Vegas three years ago,I'm originally from New Jersey.I hope to make some new friends here.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Bisexual woman,what's up?
Posted: 7/5/2006 2:16:16 AM
Man you people are mentally ill! First off,I don't believe in females being Bi...That's the biggest excuse for saying I don't know what I want.I'm old fashion guy believes men and females belong together but, this thread opened my eyes to all the scummy sick crap that actually goes on. If most of you are Bi or lesbo or Bi man etc why the hell are you on a damn dating site for supposed straight people?

If my girlfriend ever confesed to me she was Bi, I'd kick her piece of crap ass to the curb.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
High School Crushes
Posted: 7/4/2006 5:45:09 AM
She's the one that rejected him 4 times and she's wondering what's wrong? I hope that guy moved on with his girlfriend.You can't expect chance after chance to keep arising.You blew your chance. No guy can EVER understand what's inside an woman's head.

You loved him , had huge crush on him, 4 times, he came up to you to ask you out and your scared? do guys a favor and don't date any guys.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Latin people
Posted: 7/4/2006 5:30:37 AM
Latin women are so incredibly sexy. I know a few latin women personally.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 745 (view)
 
Would you marry someone just because they are rich ?
Posted: 7/3/2006 8:37:06 PM
I think us guys need to start finding rich women, it seems to me women have no problem with that.It's pretty damn sad.women claim to be indpendant and want to be equal but, not when it comes to money.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
getting married
Posted: 7/3/2006 7:10:40 PM

is there any guys who WANT to get married out there?


LOL oh god choked on my water!

Best of luck to you!

I'll marry if or when I find the right woman!
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Any input is welcome!!
Posted: 7/3/2006 6:25:09 PM
I would not care either.Trust is essential to any relationship.If you've trust issues, maybe you shouldn't be with the guy.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Would you?
Posted: 7/3/2006 4:43:15 PM

I've seen em advertise with dogs, cats, fish, hamsters, etc. all at the same place.


You must have been reading my mind lol

My ex girlfriend had 2 dogs, 3 cats, hamster, fish, rat, bird...When I went to her house, I thought I was in some animal movie .
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Relationships
Posted: 7/3/2006 4:40:20 PM

It means he wants in your pants


That's exactly what he meant! nobody tells someone "I love you" on the second date.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Mail order brides
Posted: 7/3/2006 3:25:52 PM
I always thought this was a real stupid concept but my room mate works with a guy who has a mail order bride from Korea and they are very happy and have been for 15 years. I am not at all interested in getting one I am just wondering if anyone thinks this can work and a meaningful relationship could come of it.


Actually, that's not a bad idea.Can't be any worse than the dating scene now.Sign me up for an Japanese or russian woman
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Is it wrong or arrogant to be upfront on what you are looking for in a woman?
Posted: 7/3/2006 3:23:46 PM
No, It's not arrogant or wrong.More people should be up front about what they want from a potential mate.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 1026 (view)
 
Why are you single?
Posted: 7/3/2006 3:17:39 PM
Right now I'm single by choice, my ex girlfriend screwed up our relationship.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
You Walked Lightly into my life
Posted: 7/3/2006 2:17:02 PM
Thanks "Just Different" Glad you both liked it.

This poem has meaning to me,I wrote it about 4 months.

"Will you ever"

I don't think you will
ever fully understand
how you've touched my life
and made me who I am.

I don't think you could ever know
just how truly special you are
that even on the darkest nights
you are my brightest star.

I don't think you will ever fully comprehend
how you've made my dreams come true
or how you've opened my heart
to love and the wonders it can do.

You've allowed me to experience
something very hard to find
unconditional love that exists
in my body, soul, and mind.

I don't think you could ever feel
all the love I have to give
and I'm sure you'll never realize
you've been my will to live.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 75 (view)
 
love and weight gain
Posted: 7/3/2006 10:40:36 AM
So If you met someone and fell in love with them and then the relationship progressed to very serious....etc.etc..and this person was slim when you met them but gained 50lbs or more would you still want to stay with them...I am just interested in what people think about this subject...I dont think there is a right or wrong answer..just opinions are interesting.


I'd stay with her if she gained weight(It's called unconditional love) however , majority of people probably won't.

Sad thing is people have absolutely no concept of what true love is suppose to be....It shouldn't matter to your spouse if you gained few extra pounds unfortunately, that's not reality.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
You Walked Lightly into my life
Posted: 7/3/2006 10:27:30 AM
Thank you for the comment and hope everything turns out well for you and your son.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
neatfreaks unite!!!
Posted: 7/3/2006 10:20:58 AM

Ok, I am a recovering neat freak, My last girlfreind was meticulously good at her hygene and style , but when it came to her home it was a total mess nintey percent of the time... It drove me nuts.
When we split I figured that if nothing else I wouldnt have to deal with the looking at the mess all the time anymore... heres the thing though

The last two women that ive been on dates with have also had very messy homes...
Is this some kind of new trend or something... some kind of trading spaces subliminal message?

anyone else get really irk'd by this?


I'm a neatfreak as well, My last two relationships, there houses were way beyond messy however, they had kids from previous relationships so, what I did was help them clean the house.

Why can't you help them clean the house if it bothers you so much? don't moan about it, do something about it. Relationships suppose to be working together.If you see the house messy with clothes around, pick them up, help to vacuum, if you see dishes in the sink, help wash them.(You see where I'm going with this right?) help your woman out!
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 97 (view)
 
Domestic Violence-Were you a Victim
Posted: 7/3/2006 10:00:14 AM

How many women and how many men (yes men also)were ever a victim of Domestic Violence?
The pain,the humiliation,the fear,the betrayal from one we considered a friend, a lover.
The tears of children,who witness through the eyes of innocence,How can it be?The scars
that we can't see,but are there,the wounds that won't heal.
Can we be whole again,can we trust,can we ever be as we were before?


I wished I could find an woman that'd batter me (Sorry, couldn't resist lol)

The sad thing is if kids are involved and they see one of their parents abusing the other.Emotional scars are the worse, It stays with you a lifetime.I'm not sure if we can ever truly trust again.Most people bring that in to the new relationship and the vicious cycle never ends.

One of my best friends used to physical abuse his girlfriend and as soon as I found out.I got her some help and I ended our friendship and the thing is most abusers won't ever change.People need to realize that.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
TOUCHING
Posted: 7/3/2006 9:34:56 AM

Why do you think that is ? Does anyone else have a problem with touching ????


wow! I quess some people do have a problem with touching! I never had that problem,I love touching the woman I'm with.Kissing ,holding hands,hugging, public display of affection and so fourth.

It depends on the individual if he/she are the emotional type I suppose...

Interesting thought provoking topic!
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 66 (view)
 
MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/3/2006 8:30:24 AM
What boggles the mind is posting this thread, women do it all the time with us guys.Don't generalize all men unless you want us generalizing you all.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
how many more times?
Posted: 7/3/2006 8:25:59 AM

GOD im so tired of heartbreaks....REAL love sounds good... but it doesnt seem to be in my destiny...Why do people break hearts? That is so destructive. My sympathy goes out to any of you on this site who are experiencing that awful feeling of heartbreak. I barely made it from the last one....It put a severe stress on me.... Advice: Dont trust someone just because they say i love u, or they show you they love you. Later on, they will show their true colors.


I'm starting to think true love doesn't exist, so many people bring issues in to an new relationship and end up breaking your heart.I was engaged to this woman and I treated her like a damn queen and nothing was good enough for her.She had issues from an previous relationship.

All I can say is, Wish you the best.Hope everything works out for you.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
An observation
Posted: 7/3/2006 8:01:56 AM

Well I think some big ole hairy boy smokin' a cigar that goes by the name of "Bambi" is sending you mail to get you to join the pay site...but I could be wrong


Bingo! lol I think you hit the nail on the head!
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
It's late. What do you grab?
Posted: 7/3/2006 7:35:19 AM

I'm terrible for late night snakin!!! I've been known to cook a steak and hour before I hit the sack. Smoked oysters on ritz crackers is a fav for sure. Egg salad sandwich takes no time at all!!! Garlic sausage, veggie wheat thins, with colby cheese!!! I live to eat!! Dang good thing I have a fairly high matabolizm(sp)


I've a great metabolism as well.I can eat anything but, I usually just have bottled water and maybe a sandwich if I get the munchies.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 527 (view)
 
Can men and women be friends without sex?
Posted: 7/3/2006 7:28:38 AM
Well, instead of reading through 500 plus posts lol I'm sure somebody said this.I don't think women and men can be just friends.In my case personally every woman I tried to be friends with tried at some point wanted to become more than just friends with me. Unless it was just the physical attraction to me but, my personal experiences proved It's hard just being friends.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
what it takes for a guy to fall in love?
Posted: 7/3/2006 7:16:17 AM
For me, Looks are important just like most everyone else, If you can't get past the first physical attraction.You won't be able to see the personality .Afterwards I'm attracted to the woman'`s personality...Looks fade in time,Personality always shines through.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
You want what!! A key to my house!!!
Posted: 7/3/2006 6:48:27 AM
I totally agree with that, for all you know, the person can be planning on robbing you lol
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
When is the right time?
Posted: 7/3/2006 6:41:49 AM
Actually moving in before marriage is better.I was engaged to this woman and we moved in together and the relationship did not work out.You'll find out a lot of things about the person beforehand so,I definately recommend moving in first before getting married.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Why is the unemployed woman more accepted from a man?
Posted: 7/3/2006 6:15:01 AM
That's basically it! Most women think they're above the guy and funny thing is, there not above guys!.I've had the same curiosity with that question.It's always a double standard with women.Accept me for me yet, if you don't have a job I won't accept you.

Give me a break!
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
You Walked Lightly into my life
Posted: 7/3/2006 6:08:51 AM
"You Walked Lightly"

You walked lightly into my life
Captivating and lovely to my mind,
At first, I never cared who you were
Now I don’t know who I am without you,
You kissed me
I felt my world change,
You held me
I heard my heart awaken,
You loved me
And my soul was born anew
You walked lightly into my life
Now my heart knows who you are
And with every breath
And every step
I take down lonely roads,
Your hand is my staff
Your voice is my guide
Your strength my shelter
You’re passion my awakening.
You walked lightly into my life,
And all my pain
You took as your own,
And all my fears
You cast into the sea,
All my doubt
Lost in your eyes,
You walked lightly into my life
And no matter if you choose to stay or go,
My life is forever changed,
Just because you loved me
For a moment in time.
And because I choose
To love you
For the rest of mine.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Forgiving the ex. and wanting her back
Posted: 7/3/2006 6:05:16 AM
With all due respect man.If you take her back you're a sap.If she cheated on you once, she'll do it again.I believe once a cheater always a cheater.If I found my girlfriend kissing some guy, that's it as far as I'm concerned.

Being drunk is no excuse for cheating, My philosophy is if they love you, cheating on you should never even enter their minds.

I wish you good luck but, if that was me she cheated on, I'll never take her back!
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Hello everyone
Posted: 7/3/2006 5:56:29 AM
I just wanted to say Hello to everyone.I just joined this site and from what I see, looks like an great site.I hope to see some of you around the forum and possibly make some new friends.
 YourThrone
Joined: 7/3/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Good sex does not buy you Love..
Posted: 7/3/2006 5:42:04 AM
Well, as long as long as they know where you stand,It's their fault for getting attached.Myself,I don't just sleep with any woman that comes a long for the simple reason of hurting them if their is no chemistry between us.

Sure it happens to everybody at some point in time.I totally agree with you about more than just good sex.Few years ago This woman I dated we went out on 4 dates and had sex but, no chemistry between us.Needless to say, She got attached to me and we couldn't even remain friends after that.

As long as they know where you stand, There shouldn't be an problem.Just make sure you're completely honest with them from the get-go.
 
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