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bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Appropriate behaviour before & during a date Posted: 9/27/2008 7:20:49 PM
Don't condem all guys because of one bad experience. What your never going to date again? Some people are just way too dramatic.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 159 (view)

Ladies, how many of you ask guys out on first meet or date? Posted: 7/24/2008 6:49:22 PM
Curlyboop how come there's not more women in the world like you.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 58 (view)

Manson follower wants compassion........................... Posted: 7/17/2008 4:03:31 AM
She gave up her rights when she and the rest of the manson family killed those people. I don't think she deserves any consideration and should never be let out of prison.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 48 (view)

Guys, how would you recommend I answer this question? Posted: 6/18/2008 7:10:05 PM
It's really hard to answer how you should respond to these guys. I have a trade in auto mechanics and when someone finds out what I do they always say they have a problem with their car and can I look at it. Do get me wrong I try to help the less fortunate as much as possible but there are limits and like it or not sometimes you have to be blunt. Most people like to talk about what they do for a living and usually it will come up in some sort of conversation so lying about what you do for a living can be just as harmful as being truthful. If someone finds out your lying about that why would anyone believe anything you say? No matter how you slice it someone is always going to be offended if the subject comes up and if one is so bold as to ask the question. I wish i had a better answer for you. Good luck

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 73 (view)

What is Going On These days With MEN??? Posted: 6/15/2008 6:59:34 AM
Sounds self absorbed to me. Trying to set the tone of the relationship by letting you know who is the boss. Kind of like my way or the highway.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

age old question.... can women ask men to date? Posted: 5/31/2008 8:28:49 PM
Why not? We ask you say yes/no/maybe or we get the line I'll call you. You just have to be prepared to go what we go through, and when it happens you'll know how we feel.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

Shy People or people who are just hard to get responses out of Posted: 4/16/2008 5:57:59 PM
ahh. so that's why you only get a hello but no further response.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 55 (view)

Phone call after loads of great emails a BIG disappointment! Posted: 4/10/2008 7:06:15 PM
I'm not to great at talking on the phone myself. Too short and run out of things to talk about quickly. I guess if telephone talking is a pre-requisite then I guess I'm going to be single longer then I thought.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Hilltop Party Pics April 5th Posted: 4/6/2008 4:43:17 PM
That was my first time out to an event. It was pretty well organized and it was nice to see people in person. Only stayed for a couple of hours but that was okay. Gonna try some more events too. Rather meet people live even if it's only to say hi. Great job to the organizers.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

What do people think of a girl at a bar alone? Posted: 4/6/2008 2:58:03 PM
If you sit around waiting for other people to decide to take you along to events or a bar you could be waiting a long time. Some people don't like bars or going out period. If you feel like you want to do something it should be for you who cares what other people think as long as you enjoy it. I personally don't wait around for anyone. If I want to do something I just do it. Like one person said here when your by yourself you need to be wary of the people around you without being paranoid just be safe if there is such a thing.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 53 (view)

Courtice, Hilltop PARTY, SaturdayApril 5th Posted: 4/5/2008 2:53:47 PM
Na I'll just wear long pants.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Courtice, Hilltop PARTY, SaturdayApril 5th Posted: 4/5/2008 2:21:29 PM
Is there a dress code?

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 87 (view)

Does anyone else feel like all of us here are like a used car? Posted: 4/2/2008 6:57:56 PM
What's scary carolann that they are cracked and split or that they are soft and supple?

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 72 (view)

Am I to insensitive? Posted: 4/1/2008 8:10:21 PM
I don't think so but then I'm probably a to insensitive myself. God I hate when someone needs approval from others to make a decision. Just do it and live with it.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

<:{{{{ Durham Region Meet & Greet ~~ Riley’s Olde Towne Pub ~~ Thursday, March 27, 2008 <:{{{{ Posted: 3/24/2008 6:11:36 PM
I'm a newbie, not to a bar been to lots of those just not to anything organized.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Rejected after the first date? Posted: 3/14/2008 6:07:36 PM
I don't know if it is called spark but I can tell you one thing it doesn't happen too often and it happens less often as time goes on.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

Really weird dude.. Posted: 12/22/2007 6:09:41 AM
I guess he didn't read the part on your profile about the first date likes. God don't give up we're not all boring insensitive jerks.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

Do i have grounds to be suspicious? Posted: 11/11/2007 3:41:55 AM
Big trust issue here. What is it with people. Don't call and everyones automatically fooling around. Call too often and your too needy and smothering. WTF. No wonder theirs so many single people.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 198 (view)

are you in love with someone you can't have? Posted: 11/10/2007 1:34:41 PM
I'm not in love with anyone I can't have but I have a question to all. If your in love with these people do they know? I know some people are in lust with people they can never have but the ones that are closer do they know you love them? Have you ever told them?

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 259 (view)

Why don't tall men choose to date tall women? Posted: 11/4/2007 5:02:21 AM
I'd much rather talk face to face then have to be looking down all the time but there are so many variables involved in attraction. I like someone who is close to my height.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Opening lines Posted: 11/4/2007 4:54:53 AM
I've tried them all long,short, funny even simple hello. Some respond some don't. No response usually means not interested and that's okay with me too. I think some people feel worse if they get the " no thanks not interested " line. No big deal. I find very few people who can actually carry on a long conversation on line and I'm no different. I learned to talk long before I learned to type and believe me when I tell you typeing long essays is not something I'm good at.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

Do men look at ring fingers? Posted: 10/31/2007 7:46:30 PM
absolutely. don't want to even think about trying to woo someone who is married.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 98 (view)

45 men mailed me and still no date AAAHHHH!!!! Posted: 10/21/2007 3:31:16 PM
How long does someone need to be on here to get a dang date? Forever. It's like everyone just wants to talk or sorry there is no talk it's some one typeing in what ever you want to hear. When you never date there's no rejection. No feelings. If you reject someone here who cares just email someone else and move on.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

What did I do wrong to deserve this? Posted: 10/20/2007 6:41:32 PM
I don't think you should expect to get an explanation. It sounds like he has done a 180 and doesn't want anything to do with you. I know it's hard to believe some one can act like this but it does happen unfortunately it happened to you.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Dumped! The surprising reasons guys call it quits..? Posted: 3/17/2007 7:34:33 AM
At the very least an interesting read.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

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A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL? Posted: 1/18/2007 4:04:53 PM
Never that busy and if I were really into someone I would make time. It would be too bad to lose someone for this reason especially if you took the time to originally meet them.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

MEN ARE MESSES! Posted: 1/6/2007 9:10:18 AM
Oh! I so like to clean my place instead of going out and having a good time. Not.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

Anyone care to explain this one? Posted: 1/3/2007 5:38:15 AM
whoever sent it is an moron. I never use to be a overly suspicious person but this online crap is certainly changing the way I think about people. Send her an email and tell her she's an airhead. Always make me feel good.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 15 (view)

The Challenge?? Dating101.... Posted: 12/31/2006 7:29:24 AM
Wish I was ten years younger and lived in texas. I think this dating thing is a bit of a crock. It's hard to find someone who has the same interests as you or someone who is willing to adjust for either person to try to make something work. Seems that everyone is looking for a quick fling but not always.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 428 (view)

Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy? Posted: 12/30/2006 6:41:21 AM
The thing with hot girls is they get hit on by all guys so they probably hear the same boring sht all the time and are always looking for that 1 person that has everything they want. In all honesty you should be looking for someone who is right for YOU. You shouldn't be looking for approval from her you should be basing your choices on who YOU would like to meet and you really can't do that from a couple of hot pictures or some bulls*t that took someone forever to think up and type out.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 64 (view)

how is everyone planning on handling new years eve alone? Posted: 12/29/2006 5:16:16 PM
Don't Read Till New Years Eve. Here's Your big Kiss

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

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What happened to oldfashioned love? Posted: 12/24/2006 7:25:53 AM
AH old fashioned. Meeting on datings sites was something you would have never thought 30 years ago. As far as I know there was no such thing so you went out and met people and if you found that special person you were lucky but you actually met them. You could see what they really looked like (no fake picture) how they behaved ( not always good or bad ) and if you found a connection then forward. On sites like these you when you post a picture it may or maynot be you and most everyone trys to put there best foot forward when describing themselves and what they want. how do you make some laugh at something that might be funny person to person by typing HaHaHa. The problems now a days is life is too fast. Snap decisions no thought and it's like everyone wants to live the fairytale in 1-2 years. Sorry I'm rambling. Have a merry christmas ( oh ya no longer politically correct but that's my era) and maybe the new year will bring you a different outlook on todays dating scene.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

When they are drunk. Posted: 12/23/2006 6:06:44 AM
This is nothing new. Guys do it Girls do it. Like one of the other posts says you feel ten feet tall. I wouldn't say it is their true colors more of a induced happy go lucky thing. Have you ever been totally straight and around a room of drunks or people that are high? You say to yourself who TF are these people and how come they don't act like this normally. Getting high is the greatest most least expensive way of taking a holiday from real life for a short period of time. Maybe she will realize what she was like and not go so far next time. Being that loaded isn't sexy it's a sign of weakness. IMO

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 40 (view)

Whats wrong with wanting friends Posted: 12/20/2006 4:42:46 PM
Not a darn thing. I honestly don't know how you can move to another level without liking each other.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

Why so pushy? Posted: 12/17/2006 7:37:32 PM
some people prefer to meet in person. I myself prefer to meet in person for no other reason then I find I really don't like using a computer to meet people.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

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knowing what to say and not when you are dating Posted: 12/15/2006 3:55:59 AM
You can tell when this happens. The conversation usually goes very quiet. Then there is the " It was nice to meet you " goodbye. No ones perfect. I think everyone rubs somebody the wrong way at times. You'll never know though especially if your just being yourself. Hell I do it all the time and don't even know it. Oh well.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

Have you had a man from POF make a date and cancel prior Posted: 12/12/2006 7:14:26 PM
Don't let people who treat you badly change your goals. Just brush them off and move on and please don't think that all guys are like this. It is just not true. Keep your head up.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 28 (view)

Do you take one step at a time? Posted: 12/12/2006 4:17:41 PM
I hate being rushed into anything.

bluelight139

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An online confession .. and a question =) Posted: 12/12/2006 4:04:23 PM
one so far. Didn't really know how to express myself.

bluelight139

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Msg: 100 (view)

Where are the men with integrity? Posted: 12/12/2006 3:56:16 PM
The internet is a wonderful tool but in something like this place it provides anonimity so for all any of us know we could be talking to anyone from a married person, single person, or a criminal. Married people will talk to you here and try to meet you somewhere where they are sure no one they know will know them. If you met a person in an area where they are known by other people it would be hard for them to explain what they are doing with you when other people know they are married. people lie to start the interaction and keep lieing until they are caught then cease interaction and usually leave the other party wondering what happened. This is nothing new and will still be going on long after this thread is finished.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 53 (view)

ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS? how are you dealing with it? Posted: 12/7/2006 6:31:49 PM
That Sucks. You would think your own relatives would at least have some compassion for you. Why do people have to be so mean. I will wish you a Merry Christmas even if he won't.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS? how are you dealing with it? Posted: 12/7/2006 6:25:28 PM
Always get invited out by friends which is good but starting to feel like the odd man out. still it leaves you with funny feeling that isn't too merry.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Do men like short hair on a woman? Posted: 12/2/2006 2:08:38 PM
I think short hair looks fine on a lady but not buzzed right off.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 153 (view)

Why Some People Will Remain Single Posted: 12/2/2006 1:47:29 PM
Wow. Hide the scissors.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 62 (view)

why are men so pushy on pof!!!!!! Posted: 12/2/2006 7:31:06 AM
I think you should tell him your feelings. If he backs off and pursues you in a less agressive manner then that's what your looking for. If he goes nuts then your better off without him. I know I would not want to be with someone that is controlling or too needy. Drop him a subtle hint that a straight line is not always the best route.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

judgement on attraction Posted: 11/26/2006 6:58:55 AM
IMO I don't really feel that anyone can make an honest decision about someone else from a first time meeting. There just seems to be too much pressure for most people to act the way they normally do and it's a 2-way street there could be something other then physical attaction that puts the brakes on any relationship. I have met people I did not like initially but through time and familarity they either became freinds or they did not and it isn't all about physical attraction. These sites are great for finding new people but nothing whether it's pictures or electronic words will ever replace face to face contact.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 49 (view)

why are men intimidated when a woman asks them out? Posted: 11/25/2006 6:25:06 AM
What do you mean "in real Life". This is real life whether your online or face to face. I don't think we become scared so much as we are looking for the same things as women and what they call chemistry or love at first sight or whatever you want to call it.

bluelight139

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

men whose lose their tempers Posted: 11/17/2006 4:27:28 PM
Be carefull. No one deserves to be used as a punching bag no matter what the problems are.

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