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jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 393 (view)

Does accepting an expensive dinner from a man obligates a woman to have sex with him? Posted: 4/27/2008 7:59:56 AM
"^^^^^^^^^^^why do all they guys that give me hope live so far away?" I feel the same way about women....

jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 1/31/2008 11:09:07 AM
"Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?" Yes of course. My chat experience started out on BBS (no pics), then moved onto the early chat rooms (no pic), and eventually onto instant messaging (started with no pics). All those times I was perfectly comfortable with meeting people without pictures. It still is perfectly natural for me to message people without pictures based purely on the content of their profile and of course their responses to my questions and comments. Having met countless people off the internet, traveled with, even lived with I don't find anything odd about contacting them. It's important to remember, be safe - trust your gut, and if anything seems out of expectation you can always back out. No two encounters are alike, and with that said there have definitely been negative experiences; it's all part of life, or in this case e-life. I look forward to my next picture, or pictureless contact.

jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Has this ever happened to anyone else? Posted: 1/31/2008 8:53:26 AM
I usually refer to those people as "a face for radio".

jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Dating your Best Friends Ex? Posted: 11/7/2007 8:45:33 AM
What if the girl you find, fall for, and only later you find out it was a long ago ex of your best friend? Do you extinguish that flame, even though you unknowingly fell for this person?

jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

relationship problem kinda Posted: 11/7/2007 12:56:11 AM
she is with her boyfriend still and he treats her like shit I get it, you want to be the hero to save her from this awful plight. Like everyone has said in this thread, move on. While you're letting x number of fishies swim by while you wait, she's living her life with a twit you claim she doesn't like. Why should she have all the fun? While you wait, go fishing. If you catch something, and the girl is single at least you didn't wait by yourself all this time. If not, you would not have wasted all the time waiting for someone who didn't even show up. Don't you just hate that?

jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Dating your Best Friends Ex? Posted: 11/7/2007 12:47:35 AM
Have a look at it in several different lights; Once the break-up is finalized that's it for your friend, tell them to quit living their past and move on. Their significant other sure has. Another, who cares what people say. If you really like this person and you think you have a chance to make it work better than your best friend ever could -go for it. Finally; ever heard of sloppy seconds? Who wants someone else's leftovers? Bit harsh, perhaps. But it's there. Think about it. If it's not good enough for your best friend, why would it be any better for you? Ok, so I haven't ever been put into this situation. But these are some of the things I think of IF it were to happen.

jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

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What kind of FISH are You!!! Posted: 11/7/2007 12:40:42 AM
How do you know what kind of fish you are? I see the drop down, I picked one. Where's the test? Is it just something that sounds appealing?

jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 39 (view)

shouldnt friends be there no matter what?? Posted: 11/7/2007 12:19:35 AM
because you're right: true friends forgive each other, no matter what. I agree, friends will forgive, that's what some do..but who says it has to be immediately? If what transpired hurt this gentleman so much, maybe it'll take a while to look back and forgive. You said what you needed to say, now the balls in his court - if takes a lot longer and you've moved on so be it. Hell, he may even be getting a kick out of seeing you desperately trying to reconcile.

jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

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When you start using the 'L' word. Posted: 11/7/2007 12:12:24 AM
I say luv all the time - with friends (and obviously family), but with a partner I rarely say love. The last time I said it she said I didn't mean it. How would one know when it's meant and when it's not? I was sincere and it just came out, I wasn't even thinking about it. It came as natural to say it to my gf as I would to a loving family member. So to answer your question, dutchpirate, "at which point in a relationship do you find you finally start using the L word with your partner?" - almost never, if it will start at all.

jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 129 (view)

Are men uncomfotable when a woman doesn't shave her ARMPITS? Posted: 11/6/2007 11:59:29 PM
Hey, all those grossed out about armpit hair, how about women who don't shave their nipple hair.

jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

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date felt like a job interview Posted: 11/6/2007 11:10:37 PM
i recently went on a second date with a pretty nice guy that i met on the internet, problem was I felt like I was on a job interview and i couldn't wait to get out of there and away from him. this man has had no problem telling me his whole life story. it's hard for me to share like that. it takes time for some people. i would like to leave the past where it belongs, in the past & enjoy the moment. Perhaps this individual felt you were really easy to open up to. Then again, some people are just stuck in that frame of mind. Thinking that perhaps if you can understand where they are coming from you can give them sympathy. It's not company that which only pleases them, but giving the pity card. I figured this one out when I tried to sell my car a few months ago. A guy called and gave his life story, thinking I would ridiculously halve my price. No dice, mate. Back to you though, maybe you're easy to talk to, maybe he's been hurt so bad he needs that constant reassurance that you wont treat him like the previous girl.

jeffs-the-name

Joined: 7/4/2006

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And now? Posted: 11/6/2007 10:40:28 PM
I just finished with the POFile. Few pics up and more about myself and what I'm looking for. Can I get a second helping of review?

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Are pictures the only thing keeping messages away? Posted: 10/31/2007 2:42:59 PM
If you receive an unsolicited contact from a woman with no picture and a nick like "IcyHotOnMyVagina" what is your reaction going to be? My first thought would be "Wow.. how unoriginal" (because I thought of it "first"). I then would head over to their profile to have a look at what they have to offer, either physically or mentally. I see where you're coming from though, picking an extreme vulgar, with a smidgen of inappropriateness. As I first stated, I made the profile as a joke, with an asinine profile, and so the name followed (as the lady above mentioned, it apparently CAN be changed). If you want to be technically nitpicky, the name came first then the profile. So I attempted to wise up and wit out with my profile with little good coming out of my change of heart. It's true though, I do have something to hide - my picture. For reasons I won't get into here, I put a note on my profile that I will send out pics when requested, and sometimes I Send them along without request. You can't really say that messages are unsolicited on this site. You're on a website that promotes the advertising of self. It's like posting an ad in the newspaper and not liking the fact people call you based on that ad. If you are looking to meet someone via online dating, then fortune favors the bold. If you just want a pen pal, then flag yourself that way or mention in your text that you would like to get to know someone a little deeper through email before you schedule a meeting. I really liked that last bit of your message. I will change my profile to that effect, stating more clearly what it is I'm looking for. Cheers!

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Are pictures the only thing keeping messages away? Posted: 10/31/2007 2:28:54 PM
Sure they are! Click on Edit Profile and then select the link from this sentence: "Edit More Registration Details like passwords HERE" Hmm..so you can! How often can I do it, or can I flip flop between names every hour? It's an exaggeration, but I don't care to be locked into the new name I pick.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Are pictures the only thing keeping messages away? Posted: 10/31/2007 11:25:05 AM
There ARE no pictures on my profile. What I meant to say about that is, are (the fact that I'm lacking) pictures the only thing keeping chickies away. I should have worded that a little differently. Ahh, my name.. I never thought of that. There's actually a funny story behind it, which I don't get asked often enough. Unfortunately names aren't as easily altered as profiles are, on PoF.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Are pictures the only thing keeping messages away? Posted: 10/31/2007 11:04:51 AM
Are pictures of myself on my profile the only thing keeping the chickies away? When I first joined PoF, it was more of a joke profile. I was a dink on my own page, and I recall more replies and out of the blue messages. I stopped coming here for a while , and about a month ago I got back into it. After redesigning my profile, putting some more thought into what I was looking for, and presenting myself to this community, I started messaging the new faces (and those without pics). So far, I haven't gotten a single person to contact me on their own initiation. When I make the contact, I pick something off their profile that interests me and I talk about that, usually expanding on the subject and throwing in some of my own ideas. A handful of the time I get a reply, and chat lasts for a couple rounds and then fizzles down to nothing. The other times it's just 'read and deleted'. I filled out all the personality profile jazz, does anyone actually read that stuff? I read the bottom of the message box where it says what top 10 things women want to talk about, and top ten's to stay away from, I've tried to talk about all 20, without any visible success. To all who dare reply..hehe.., what can I do spruce things up, or convince users to continue replying?

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Favorite Quotes Posted: 10/14/2007 2:15:09 PM
A squeaky wheel peels the rubber. My geography stands to your superior.

icyhotonmynuts

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OTTAWA (Downtown) ~ PoF WEEKNIGHT CASUAL MEET & MINGLE ~ WEDNESDAY, MAY 2nd, 2007 Posted: 5/1/2007 1:12:32 PM
I feel so left out - age-wise - at these events. fak.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Did I overreact? Posted: 3/6/2007 12:43:38 PM
Personally I would have had her out BEFORE I left the city. That way I can ensure she doesn't have one last romp around with another guy in MY BED or sabotage any of my possessions. I'm a firm believer of laying it out on the table. Sure some feelings will be saved if it's kept hush hush, but that won't benefit either party in the end. Maybe your ex is just a coward and want herself to feel bad for 'hurting your feelings'. What I mean by not benefiting either party in the end is that, well as the saying goes "no pain no gain". If you don't learn to deal with break-ups now in a grown up fashion, to move on even after so much commitment invested, you're always going to want to take the easy way out and sneak your way out of troubling times. Just be up front with it and take things head on. That's it.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Nigerian Scams Posted: 2/13/2007 8:18:28 AM
We can get on here and talk about oral sex etc but we can't give a heads up on scams? What is this not politically correct? Please enlighten me here? That's easy to answer. This is a dating site where oral sex and relation tips are welcome. If you want to have a heated discussion about scams then find yourself another forum where that place particularly specialize in such talks. duh!

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Is Sarcasm Funny? Posted: 1/31/2007 4:15:05 AM
"Is Sarcasm Funny" It's only funny when you're so sly with it that it can't immediately be detected, or only but a handful realize you're being a devil about it. Try saying your sarcastic remark out loud. If it sounds emphasized and that.. tone people sometimes use to patronize and belittle the 'target' - then you're doing it all wrong. Be calm about it, and make it sound like absolute truth, as if you are serious meaning what you say. Only then is it funny, when you can choose to burst out in laughter and poke fun at the person who believed in your sarcastic jackassery or when others around realize you were being sarcastic and join in on the laughter. If you're trying to pick up women with your sarcasm, I gotta tell ya - there are easier ways. I won't tell you which ways. Rest assured there are ways.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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When the girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS Posted: 1/31/2007 3:44:45 AM
her and hang out at her house. I've done so much for her that I could write a book but not once did I ever get any type of affection or anything in return and Maybe you should write a book about it. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and for wasted time. If not affection, at least get some money back from all the effort invested in loving one-way.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Caught in the act Posted: 1/26/2007 1:40:48 PM
Karma isn't meant to be regarded as a vengeful tool, or a means of retribution. Yes, you got the shaft - but do you really want something bad to happen to the mother of your three children?

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Caught in the act Posted: 1/26/2007 11:01:35 AM
I've been neither. However, I was walked in on, being the "other guy". He was understandingly upset. At first, I was shocked (to find out she was cheating on me), but then it turned into a bit of comedy when I realized she was cheating on her bf with me. A bit odd, but being the one opposite of the one being cheated on doesn't feel as bad. Anyone else feel this way?

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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How to get out of a bad situation Posted: 1/26/2007 10:53:12 AM
Sit on your hands and don't do anything. Keep living in the fantasy life you have created in your mind. Pretend she likes you, and make yourself think she has to leave for other reasons than her lease is up/doesn't share the same feelings you have for her. Don't tear yourself up over someone you have no real connection with. You live in California, and if 80's movies have taught me anything is that there are lots of beautiful people there who are more than ready to let you have a second chance (just not with her).

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Has money, but you wouldn't know it. Posted: 1/22/2007 3:43:48 AM
As the many men and women on this site who are insecure about sharing their appearance with the world (for whatever reason) and thus hide their pictures, would rather want you to get to know them through their words, and action before revealing their physical attributes. This I believe was the motive behind the person who decided not to share their true income with you. I can understand his/her situation, and I would back them 100%, because to tell you the truth, if I won the lotto - I would want as few people to know I had made it, as possible.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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need addvice Posted: 1/19/2007 7:29:45 AM
First piece of advice, get a dictionary and use it when you send messages. OR, get a spell checker (FireFox 2.0 has one built in). Perhaps they're not returning your messages because you cannot talk to them except using "internet speak".

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 357 (view)

Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 1/7/2007 10:35:22 AM
"Why are older women not into younger guys" Apparently you've never heard of Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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MEN ARE MESSES! Posted: 1/6/2007 9:03:44 AM
Only a handful of the ladies I've ever gone out with were clean all the way around. A shame, I disliked walking around on my heel at their places, always watching where I put my next step So don't put the MEN ARE MESSES squarely on the gents. Some of you girls are slobs too.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

Are you threatened, when dating someone who speaks a Foreign Language? Posted: 1/2/2007 2:33:07 AM
Threatened? No way. If you're worried if people are talking about you in front of you in a different language, it sounds as though you are insecure of yourself. As a person who speaks 4 and some languages I find it fascinating to meet someone who speaks something I do not. Although conversing for long periods of time in an unknown language around someone who doesn't know what's going on, I consider rude. It's like whispering among company.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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How far would you travel to meet your date? Posted: 1/1/2007 9:38:32 PM
"How far would you travel to meet your date?" One time I had known this girl from Pennsylvania, never met in person but our travel plans in Europe coincidentally were ending up pretty close to one another. Rather than either of us driving as far as it would take from Pennsylvania to Ottawa we decided to meet in Europe somewhere and spend a few days together.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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I don't get it - why does he bother? Posted: 12/26/2006 9:16:02 PM
I have had that, too. Where people come on, have nothing to say.. just sit there sending back one word replies. I don't even add people my to msn anymore. I can put in a much better conversation if it's left to letter sending or over the telephone, hell in person works too. People who have added me to their favourites know how much I can talk about anything I see msn messenger as an unnecessary middle man between meeting online, and meeting in person.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Why Do I See More Caucasian Men Dating Asian Women? Posted: 12/25/2006 10:43:41 AM
"Why Do I See More Caucasian Men Dating Asian Women?" The real question is, why do you even care?

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy? Posted: 12/16/2006 6:45:07 PM
"Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy?" What planet are you from? I see 'hot' girls go out with complete toads all the time. So it's not necessarily how the toad looks to the world, but how the toad sees himself in that world.. Seriously, chicks can sense if a guy thinks he's a toad, and unsure, uncomfortable in his own skin. You gotta be confident and feel good about yourself. So what if you stutter, so what if you're short, bald and fat. Turn that pessimism around and use it to your advantage. Make light of it, joke about it, don't insult yourself. Or just go about your day as if nothing is wrong and you're the hottest shit around. Just remember, it all starts with you. And, as cheesy as it sounds - if you don't love yourself, no one will (ok maybe your God, but that's it).`

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 91 (view)

How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did? Posted: 12/14/2006 8:38:16 AM
If going to school, the range can be higher. Up to and including 29, I'd say. I'm lenient, what can I say? But if you're an adult, have no job and leeching off your parents, then fahgettabout it. I think the main thing here is that you have no job and leeching. Thats the major turn-off.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Has anyone ever been dumped via email? Posted: 12/14/2006 6:12:08 AM
answering machine, totally out of the blue. Hmm....then again she was 13..BUT I WAS 11!~

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? Posted: 12/12/2006 8:38:25 PM
Guys, look at the girl first and read the profile second. Do you just ignore profiles with no pictures? I usually scan profiles first, then see if they have a pic, then read through it (if its less than a page!). If the first few lines have something worthwhile, I may just read the whole thing.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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4-year-old student suspended for inappropriately touching a teacher's aide Posted: 12/12/2006 11:16:46 AM
I'll probably get in trouble for this, but um, are you insane?? First of all, how do you fire an entire school board? I'm also wondering, are you serious when you say an entire school should be closed because a four year old student hugged a teacher?? My daughter is five, and she hugs everyone involved in her school, and I don't mind at all. Clearly he is sarcastic and making light of the fact that all these crazy suspensions and lawsuits coming out of the states. You heard of the kid who brought plastic butter knife with him to school to butter his bread? He got suspended, and..I think (dont quote me) expelled under the "zero tolarence" rule. I'm sure there's lots more, I can't remember every little quip. Must have taken place in an up tight religious community somewhere in southern United States.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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What's wrong with asking for a photo? Posted: 12/11/2006 10:46:47 PM
Nothing is wrong with asking for a photo. You shouldn't even be offended if no photo comes your way. I don't have a photo on my page, and I rarely even ask for one. If you want to show me who you are, great, if not, that's great too. If photos were meant to be on profiles, there would be a lot more bullshitters on this site.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 256 (view)

Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy? Posted: 12/7/2006 9:38:33 PM
Of course good looking girls go out with 'average' looking guys. I've even seen good looking girls go out with absolute toads! visa versa too..

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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whera have you been??? Posted: 12/4/2006 1:12:34 AM
I still haven't gotten rid of my travel bug. I've been to: Canada: --------- Ontario Quebec USA: -------- Alabama Florida Georgia Indiana Kentucky Michigan New York Ohio Tennessee Europe: ---------- Austria (Wien) Belgium (Brussels, Ostend) Finland (Helsinki) France (Cannes, Lyon, Metz, Mont Boron, Nice, Orange, Paris, Reims) Germany (Saarbrucken, Munich, Stuttgart) Hungary (Budapest) Italy (Firenz, Genova, Pisa, Roma, Venice) Luxembourg Monaco Netherlands (Amsterdam) Romania (Bucurest, Deva, Hunedoara, Oradea) Vatican I hope to see more of Western Canada and the United states, and if possible jump the Pacific Ocean and see what Australia and East Asia has to offer :)

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Best and worst airlines in Canada and worldwide. Posted: 12/4/2006 12:47:48 AM
I'm not sure if anyone mentioned KLM, but.. KLM. I've flown with them at least a dozen times. They take especially good care of children. I know because I used to be one :P As in, traveling alone from age 7 to mid teens. I've never had any problems with them. Awesome airline.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Photography enthusiasts,your favourite destination? Posted: 12/4/2006 12:43:43 AM
Paris, France Lyon, France (at night) Nice, France (Mont Boron ) Monaco Venice, Italy (island, not the mainland) Southern Austria (amazing mountainous views)

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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Ottawa and Bilingualism Posted: 11/27/2006 9:42:11 AM
Generally speaking, and from experience it's not really a necessity to know both languages. The only time I found the need for both languages is if you pick up a job in a call center, something to do with government relations or if the company you work for deals a lot with the Quebec side. Personally, I speak 4 languages, where french is my weakest. I'm thankful for the fact that I get to use my 3 other languages daily and so my practice with them are up. The only time I find myself speaking french is when I'm on the Quebec side for whatever reason - and that's rare.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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deleting my account. Posted: 11/11/2006 10:46:23 PM
delete the thread? how do you delete a thread? they're talking about deleting their user account.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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deleting my account. Posted: 10/17/2006 8:12:02 AM
This site is like crack. How can you possibly leave? And if not for dates, love, or a little hanky panky, but just some random convos with strangers about topics that (dis)interest or provoke thoughts and emotions.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

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dating the wrong woman:( Posted: 10/14/2006 6:40:07 PM
^^^ lol. I do that sht from time to time for shts and giggles

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 108 (view)

favorite pick up lines Posted: 7/6/2006 10:36:42 AM
My name is George. I'm unemployed, and live with my parents. Seinfeld season5, episode 22

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 174 (view)

how do u handle being a virgin past 25 Posted: 7/6/2006 10:33:06 AM
If I ever turn into a virgin, and get to 25 I'll let you know how I handle it.

icyhotonmynuts

Joined: 7/4/2006

Msg: 329 (view)

why do men think its so easy for women to get some? Posted: 7/6/2006 10:32:03 AM
Is everyone on crack? Obviously guys can get laid faster than women can. NOT the other way around.

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