No, more like I have casual sex with countless random women and no protection

have really... really, yet to see a "bisexual" girl past college age.

This leads me to believe one of two things... either, the bisexuals just started one day at the same time... and are slowly aging with me, OR bisexuality is just a "testing ground" to experiment, and you'll go one way or the other when you finally mature.

I find "bisexuality" a turn off, not because they tend to be promiscuous however, because they really come off as indecisive, immature and selfish.

Personally, I look for people who have their aspirations, who know what they want in life. If someone says to me they are bisexual, that really comes across as "I still don't know what I want out of life, so I'm just going to try everything as it comes". That really doesn't leave me feeling very secure in going into that relationship, seeing as the person hasn't figured out who THEY are as a person yet.

Sit here and defend your monogamist/non-monogamist relationships... I still don't see the potential for a long-term relationship with someone who is still discovering who they are.

Ummm Actually I did sort of defend her on the point. I've uh, found the act of violence to be quite liberating. They're much less happy to run into me than I am to run into them now.

It's very possible that men who have lots of partners are also labelled for it. I've heard the expression "man-whore" kicked around over the years.

I wasn't trying to defend his point of view as much as I was trying to point it out as "a point of view" Whether or not its a valid point of view to others is irrelevant, to the person involved it's a very serious matter. Now in my own case, I'm very territorial. I know the women I am with have pasts, I just don't want it rubbed in my face. I've been in the situation of being in a room where there were 5 men and 1 woman who had all been with my girlfriend before me. I found out afterwards, and also found out that as far as they were concerned, I was the "joke" for being with her.

For example, a person who slept with 50 people in highschool, then married and settled down, didn't cheat or have any further partners since implies one outcome. A person who is the same age and still boucing from bed to bed, implies another outcome. My own past has given many women pause, including a few that have broken up with me because of my numbers. If asked, I tell, I'm not worried about reactions.

So are women proective of the number of sexual partners in general, or only to men they think are going to think less of them if they tell them? But why date these judgemental men in the first place? Why not tell how many and use it as a way of weeding out the prudes via their own reaction to the number? Seriously.

Or do they hide this number from "marriage/LTR/SO material men"?

Has anybody heard of sex addiction? you should all read up on it,

Hmmm Interesting that you would jump on a statement such as this. I did not imply ownership or property by such a statement. I could live in "MY" neighbourhood, without implying ownership. Or for that matter live on "MY" street without implying ownership. But as soon as the statement is made in context of a woman, you feel that it is all about ownership and proceed into trying to demean men. So perhaps you need to "get the fvck over it."

That is not at all surprising, there are far less alpha males in the world than the other varieties. Often less dominant people prefer to have someone take charge of their lives. That's why some men prefer to find a woman who is like their mother.

And your degree in psychology comes from where????

Besides, they're just looking to get laid. Not the same set of priorities a man has who is looking for a long term partner or spouse.

A lot of it for men is territoriality. We don't want to have shared our woman with a bunch of other guys either before or after us. The whole concept of a string of guys being ahead of us is something we avoid thinking about. We don't like to think of our woman being penetrated by numerous guys. We close our minds to the realities of sex, the sweat, the semen, the fluids. The lower the numbers, the easier it is to "close our minds". I know one guy who had no trouble with his girls' numbers but broke up with her over visions of her performing fellatio on her lovers.

Regardless of how I may come across to you, I'm in the same boat you are. Having been with my husband from17-41 (when he died), I didn't get much of a chance to do it when I was younger. Of course, the fact that I went 3 1/2 yrs after his death without ANY sex may have had something to do with it....Once the hormones woke up, they raged. Lucky for me I found someone within 6 months who I thought would work out to be forever. It didn't. This doesn't mean that my 'numbers ' are not important to me, its just that I'm picky and realized that casual sex was not for me. Sometimes I do wish I could be otherwise. It doesn't make me frigid-I love sex. I just don't want it with JUST anyone.

Maybe that's the difference between a young 20 something and a 40 something. With age comes more maturity and self respect about sex-at least with me.

......I'm not saying that its always the case but I can see why it would happen. And I'm NOT saying that everyone that thinks casual sex is ok for them, that they have low self esteem or lack self confidence.

Perhaps all those sexual partners are not around any more because they never intended to be. A lot of men look at a woman who is too accomodating as just a sex toy, not as relationship material, and once the novelty has work off, they move on. And with so many women willing to have sex at the drop of a hat, it's no wonder they felt that way. It's a self-perpetuating cycle.

t's a common mistake women make. They confuse sex with love and its a cycle they get into.
They feel down and so, to pick themselves up, they go out and have sex with a random guy to make themselves feel better.
This makes them feel used and down and so, to pick themselves up....etc etc etc
Further down the road, you will start to feel worthless and used, I can almost guarantee it...no matter how much self esteem you have right now.
I will say this again.
The best sex IS had in a loving relationship with someone who you know and trust so don't you think that maybe you are missing out on quality and making up for it with quantity?

'll say it again.
In my experience, people who have slept with a large number of people haven't done so because they enjoy sex as the best sex is had with a long term partner who you know and love.
They have slept with a lot of people because
A. They use people just to get off....adding another notch.
B. They have low self esteme and allow themself to be used.
C. The fools paradise thingy

If you can add another 'viable' reason for sleeping around then please do let me know.

Because she's selective - you said she is a LADY. What would you call her if she wasn't selective? Would you have the same respect for her now if she slept with every Tom,****and Harry? I don't think so.

So if I understand your earlier post, its ok to be intimate with someone no matter how many people they may have slept with in the past. But yet if she sleeps with everyone, she's not a lady and you probably won't have any respect for her? Well then, if you won't have any respect for her, why would you sleep with her? OH yeah...another notch on your belt!

He confessed a smiliar number ? Ha ha how long did he pause before coming up with a number to match yours ? Sounds to me like a loser who cannot get real/respectable women so has contend with the easy ones.

I think the reason most women don't want to tell their number is that THEY ARE INSECURE!
Don't give me that men judge us by our numbers crap.... If you weren't insecure you'd tell us and be damned with how we feel about it....
If all women honestly gave out their numbers (and this applies to men too....) there'd be a lot less judgement.

You tell a guy it's none of his business and he probably is going to have higher number in his head than you and all your friends put together...

Maybe he's just asking to see if you are as "honest" and "open" as you claim...

I get sick and tired of hearing this.. we shouldn't judge, we shouldn't judge.

SAYS WHO ? WHO is to say who can judge and who cannot judge ? If *I* choose to judge somebody, can somebody stop me ??

Oh I couldn't care less if my partner would cheat. I wouldn't even think that far ahead. Just to know the fact that she used to be a town slu t and a hundred d icks have squirted semen up her pu ssy would nauseate me enough not to want to pursue a relationship with her.

I hear this a lot:
s a situation where you have to be very secure in your relationshi
but I have to say, I disagree, completely! I think that "playing" in this manner is only safe for those NOT seriously involved. Separating sex from a relationship, in my eyes (and my heart) is possible only when there is no relationship at stake. I know of far too many couples for whom experimenting in this manner was nothing more than the beginning of the end. Sometimes, it is the consequence, other times, the symptom. Far from a prude, I think this only really "works" when there is nothing emotional at stake. Just my two cents.

YOU may be proud of it, but to a normal guy looking for an LTR or a wife it will make you quite unattractive. It has little to do with double standards or social stigma. Men are instinctively averse to promiscuous ("experienced") women, though few will turn you down for a quick lay. If that's what you are after, then you are fine.

The men who deny this do so out of fear of turning women off and hurting their chances of getting them to bed. "Experience" does not earn women points. In fact it does quite the opposite. Women are well aware of this and so they hide their history behind "it's none of your business" and "past is the past..".

**** take this****................

what happens when the script is flipped & she's far better than her lover?

Whatever y'all want t do is fine by me, but don't sit there and call me a homophobe or make some snide comment about my repressed sexuality cause I don't want to do my man with a strap on. That ain't even in the same ball park.

LMAO, and in my world, humans who have penises are men...not women. Yeh, I know...don't tell me...my personality traits suck.