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How do YOU stop loving someone Posted: 11/23/2009 2:01:47 PM
It's different for each and every person. For me when all the lies I was told over the last several years of my marriage kept slapping me in the face that was it. Now whatever happens to the POS happens. Karma's a b*tch and I figure the way he treated me, Karma will bite him in the end.

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are women ok with a man who does not orgasm, yet still enjoys every moment? Posted: 11/23/2009 12:47:25 PM
Having to work sucks, but at least you have a job at a time when so many others don't. Vacation is great!!! I love getting to stay in bed all damn day long if I want to. LoL HOW on Earth could she not know??? What about the wet spot?

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Your two cents worth...... Posted: 11/8/2009 11:13:36 PM
I have that quote attached to my email. Only it's "Any man who can't handle me at my worst damn sure don't deserve me at my best." LoL

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A Plugged up Toilet, so she packed up and left?! Should I let it go? Posted: 11/8/2009 11:20:07 AM
What should you do? You should change the locks, that's what you should do!!!

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'I love you' during sex Posted: 10/12/2009 1:59:30 AM
Maybe it's not you she loves, but the sex.

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How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him? Posted: 10/4/2009 6:49:19 PM
As long as he can and does pay his bills I don't care how much money a man makes. I have a job so I take care of myself. I'm not looking for someone to do that for me.

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I don't do separated... Posted: 8/16/2009 8:30:26 PM
In my opinion NO you aren't wrong!!! Several months after my divorce I was in a relationship with a man who claimed he was separated. One of the worst mistakes I ever made in my life. Several months in to the relationship I found out that he wasn't separated and had no intentions of ever being separated from his wife. Relationship OVER!!! Lesson learned for me. I WON'T go down that road again. I know the heartache that can be caused when your spouse cheats on you, I don't ever want to be the cause of someone else going through that heartache. If a man isn't 100% single then he's wasting his time with me. I don't need the turmoil.

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IF Posted: 7/19/2009 8:31:00 PM
If you're not sexually attracted to him then tell him the truth. To do anything but that makes you a player in my mind.

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High Maintenance versus Being Realistic Posted: 4/26/2009 9:56:08 PM
I don't consider myself high maintenance. As far as I'm concerned the finer things in life are free. Love and respect don't cost a dime. While you have to earn respect it doesn't cost you one thin dime. All I want is someone to share life with, not someone to cater to my every whim.

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Sex with the ex.. Posted: 3/16/2009 5:53:32 AM
Although, most will never admit to it, I'd bet most people at one time or another have had sex with an Ex.... Sex with an ex boyfriend, yes. Sex with the ex husband, not unless hell freezes over. That's why they make batteries!!!

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Sex with the ex.. Posted: 3/15/2009 8:35:23 PM
Not if he was the last man on Earth. Who knows where that cheating d*ck has been.

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Never had a One Night Stand Posted: 3/15/2009 8:18:39 PM
I don't think it's odd. Many of us just aren't in to that sort of thing.

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Physical attraction progresses as age does? Posted: 2/12/2009 2:12:46 AM
I understand what you're saying OP. When I was in my teens I would have dated someone several years older than me or someone a few years younger than me. Now that I'm in my mid forties I am more attracted to people closer to my own age. People in their thirties or younger don't appeal to me. In my younger days the age gap could have gone anywhere from 2 years younger to 6 or 7 years older, now I prefer it to be about two years either way.

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Husband of 26 yrs. Left for a girlfriend 15 yrs younger Posted: 2/7/2009 1:23:34 AM
Shady Lady52 I can feel your pain. My husband of over 23 years walked out on me for someone who he supervised. She is 16 years younger than him. He wouldn't even go to counseling to attempt to save our marriage. I don't think I could do what you are doing. I couldn't still live with him knowing he's going off to his girlfriend's on the weekends. I'd tell him he could move in with her while at the same time still supporting you. If she wants him so bad then let her support his sorry a$$ until the mortgage on your home is paid off.

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Vagina Sensitivity or Lack Thereof and Solutions Posted: 2/5/2009 9:54:23 PM
I didn't know there were g-spot creams. That's interesting. As far as cremes for the clitoris goes try vigel.

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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone you did not find attractive physically? Posted: 2/3/2009 10:17:44 AM
I dated one guy when I was in High School that I didn't find attractive at all. I married a guy who I didn't find attractive. We were married for over 23 years.

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Coming up on Valentines day # 3 alone Posted: 2/3/2009 12:52:46 AM
OP, this will also be my 3rd Valentine's Day alone. It will also be the third anniversary of the divorce that the ex filed for. Ironic that it became official on V Day. Since then, I look at V Day as just another day. It's day 45 of a new year. I'm actually looking forward to it this year because it will be the first Saturday I haven't had to work since going back to work after the holidays. LOL

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multiple positions during 1sex session, hows it possible Posted: 2/3/2009 12:17:07 AM
If you want to really have fun: Try not using steps #1 & #3 . . . That's always a good time. Kinda like playin nekkid twister. LOL Fun times, fun times!!!

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Can't get off during sex Posted: 2/1/2009 11:51:53 PM
Has any one ever needed to be more or less in love with someone to even be able to get off with them. I think the majority of my problem is a comfort issue. You just answered your own question. When you find someone who cares about you as much as you care about her, you're in for one amazing experience! I've never really been emotionally involved with any one, and thats something I want more than anything even sex. Op, there's nothing wrong with you!!! Take pride in the fact that you are someone who has to care about the person he's with.

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are you vocal in bed?? Posted: 2/1/2009 6:21:58 PM
I've never been vocal. That just wasn't something my ex and I did in our 24 years together. Probably because most of that time there were children in the house. I've been in a couple of relationships since my divorce. Both of them were vocal in bed and wanted the same from me, however, both of them chose to talk about our sex life with their buddies. That shut me down pretty damn quick. If I know I can't trust someone to keep what happens between us between us, then I can't let go. It's probably a mental block, but that's just the way I am.

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What is it exactly about pulling hair?? Posted: 2/1/2009 2:17:43 PM
Hmmm, while I like someone to brush my hair or run their hands through my hair, that relaxes me, if someone tried to pull my hair I think that would be the end of that. I'd pack up my toys and go home, or if I was already home he'd be heading out the door. Notice, I said "I think". No one has ever tried that on me, so I can't say for sure, but I don't see it as being a turn on for me.

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multiple positions during 1sex session, hows it possible Posted: 2/1/2009 1:26:41 PM
Hmmm, sounds like you only know one position. Before you go from doggy to anal you'd better make sure the woman you're with is ok with that. If you choose to go from anal back to the vagina you'd better clean your penis first. If you don't want to have to stop and go wash, then keep some wet wipes by the bed. The brief intermission is far better than the infection that's a possibility when going from the back door to the front without cleaning up.

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Panties Posted: 2/1/2009 1:15:13 PM
yea sepia77 the op said the word panties made him think of little girls ...but then he sugested underoos . The op is a she, not a he. Sorry, just had to point that out. OT I don't care what anyone calls their panties, knickers, whatever. To each their own.

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Cuddling Posted: 2/1/2009 3:02:07 AM
I love to cuddle!!! I fall in to a much deeper and more refreshing sleep when I have someone to cuddle with. I do tend to roll over at some point during the night or have to move due to achy bones but as long as I'm still able to touch it's all good. Cuddling, it's the thing I miss the most about being married or in a relationship.

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Choosing not to have children Posted: 2/1/2009 2:28:30 AM
So, what do you think of people choosing not to have children? I think that's an individual's right!!! No one should be forced to have children if they don't want to. One poster suggested using the "Prefer not to say" option. My question is why??? If you don't want children, you don't want children. It's that simple. If someone can't handle that then that's their problem, not yours. Just my opinion.

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Which is HARDER for you.. to give away your body or your heart First Posted: 2/1/2009 2:20:53 AM
The trick is to find someone who wants both my heart and my body. Now that is the best! My sentiments exactly!!!

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which do you consider to be the lesser of two evils? Posted: 2/1/2009 2:11:22 AM
The other woman or man in the scenario is NOT to blame. I have to disagree with that!!! I could agree if the man or woman didn't know that the other person was married or in a relationship, but when they do know and they go ahead and screw around with that person anyway, then hell yes, they get to be blamed too!!!

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How Do You Know When You Are Being String Along ? Posted: 1/31/2009 2:47:42 AM
He won't introduce you to his family or friends? I smell a married man here. Cut the cord and don't walk, RUN!!!

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Are poker-playing skills relevant to dating? Posted: 1/31/2009 2:34:11 AM
Ummm, I think perhaps the better place for this question would be in the relationships section since you're asking about dating.

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discussing sex in the forums Posted: 1/31/2009 2:32:13 AM
Due to the nature of this thread, and some very shady people acting in cowardice, MsMicki was handed a ban of 23 days from posting. WTH??? To me the only possible reason for banning someone would be if that person threatened someone else. Oh, wait, never mind. Since MsMicki is open and honest, she is a threat. I forgot, liars and cowards don't like people like her.

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embarrassing question re: feminine products Posted: 1/31/2009 1:50:45 AM
There must have been plumbing problems already. The problem comes when you are on a septic system, not a sewer system. While tampons won't, or shouldn't clog a toilet, over time they will create problems with a septic system.

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Women's Sustenance and Men Done In Moments Posted: 1/29/2009 9:50:31 PM
willsniffurundies said Once you have soaked my face with your satisfaction it really doesn't matter how long or how brief the actual act of intercourse is. I say WRONG!!! I can't speak for all women, but for me personally, just because I may have gotten mine prior to intercourse doesn't mean I want intercourse to be wham bam, thank you mam. It doesn't have to go on for hours, but at least 10 to 15 minutes would be nice.

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Is something wrong with me or is this a common problem? Posted: 1/29/2009 12:58:19 AM
docmegaman said: What the hell kind of a comment was that? This woman has not negated the pain and agony of someone going through cervical cancer. This is not some contest on "who has more pain". I know this is an old post but I believe the point that Diceman68 was making was that by refusing to have a papsmear the OP ran the risk of having cervical cancer and not finding out until it was well in the advanced stages or too late for treatment. Thankfully, the OP has begun medical treatment for her condition.

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is this odd women Posted: 1/27/2009 1:38:21 AM
Harry Pitts don't bother me. I don't know him. As for the question about shaving. I shave my underarms when I feel they need shaved. I probably don't do it as often as a lot of women, but I tend to get a rash if I shave too often.

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Does anyone forget what it's like? Posted: 1/26/2009 11:07:09 PM
What's a sex life? Yep, it's been awhile. Like you there's times when I think it may never happen again and that makes me sad. BUT, IF it does happen again I want it to be with someone who I plan to spend the rest of my life with. I'm not in to one night stands or casual sex.

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Most unique ploys to get sex? Posted: 1/25/2009 10:23:21 PM
There have been a couple of guys on here offering to give me massages. Uh huh, sure that's all they wanted to do. I was born during the day, but it wasn't today. LOL Then there was the guy I'd chatted with for a month or so on here. Thought he was great, til he "got up the nerve" to ask me to meet him. His idea of a good place to meet? A hotel. Said he needed to know if the sexual compatibility was there. Hmmm How about actually meeting and getting to know if the personalities are right first? Oh yeah, people will use anything they can think of to get sex.

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What does I'm nice and sex is good mean? Posted: 1/25/2009 6:20:57 PM
Not really. I interpret it to mean that he also wants to keep you on a string until he finds something / someone better. My thoughts too. He's making the OP an option.

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Married Women Looking For Sex Posted: 1/25/2009 3:43:51 AM
Any man willing to sleep with another mans wife has no morals or self confidence. "Not man enough to find one of your own?" Losers! I agree. The same goes for any woman willing to sleep with another woman's husband.

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Does sex get better after you hit 40? Posted: 1/24/2009 1:13:37 AM
Dunno... I'm working on my Masters in Celibacy! Damn, that makes two of us. I think I'll be a born again virgin soon.

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Code Red Posted: 1/24/2009 1:00:01 AM
My ex was never bothered by my period. That week and the week after was when I was at my peak so we just went with the "flow". LOL Oral even occurred compliments of Tampax. LOL The guy I saw for a few months after my divorce was a virgin when it came to sex when a female was having her period. Shame on me for taking that away from him. I don't even have to worry about it now so life is good. LOL

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Do you guys think this is fair? Posted: 1/24/2009 12:11:52 AM
let me say this again I LOVE HIM and i cant just leave because of bad sex. Then WHY are you asking for advise? You've already made up your mind so there's nothing any of us can say that will help.

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After Orgasm Erection Posted: 1/19/2009 11:47:20 PM
Have you tried masturbating prior to sex, or as someone else mentioned, oral sex?

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first time,, How long... Posted: 1/19/2009 10:19:10 PM
And you know they're lying how? Are you every guy?

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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men? Posted: 1/19/2009 10:16:25 PM
Sounds to me like your friend isn't really sure of her sexuality. While I can look at another woman and see her as attractive it's in looks only. I have never had a sexual fantasy involving women. I'm with you, her statement is a bizarre contradiction.

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What is it about married/attached people that makes them so attractive? Posted: 1/19/2009 9:46:24 AM
Ha ha, a doctor with "some college?" I noticed that too.

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Sex and Dreams... Posted: 1/18/2009 7:15:18 PM
Those are the BEST dreams. Wish I could have them every night. LOL

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What's so Wrong with Being Jaded? Posted: 1/15/2009 1:01:55 AM
Hey, thanks for catching my mistake red_relaxed!!!

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What's so Wrong with Being Jaded? Posted: 1/15/2009 12:50:10 AM
Most women lie and do it with pride. Jaded much? By that same token then I should be able to say that since my ex decided to cheat on a 23 year marriage when I was going through medical difficulties, all men cheat.

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Is this guy worth the effort? Posted: 1/15/2009 12:20:10 AM
IMO if you really like this guy just take things slowly. As you get to know one another you may be surprised to see him opening up more. Who knows what his ex may or may not have done to cause him to have issues regarding sex.

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Is sex better with your FWB or in a relationship? Posted: 1/14/2009 10:23:49 AM
As far as I'm concerned sex is always better in a relationship. But then, what do I know? I'm a prude.

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