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myrtlebeacher

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Why do women not like dating fulltime single fathers? Posted: 10/29/2009 8:16:17 AM
Jenn8800. WOW You are a keeper! Let me guess, the court just decided to give full custody to the man because you had your stuff so together? Drugs or alcohol? Maybe this community can put in a poll to determine what substance you decided was better than your own kids. Maybe it was something else. Complete wack-job? Bi-polar? Hell you could be in your own category. You really have only two choices here. Fix yourself or just keep partying. Don't be ticked at the other parent wanting their children to grow up without substance abuse and sanity issues. No really! You are a keeper!

myrtlebeacher

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Guys, what do you think about this...? Posted: 10/29/2009 5:46:25 AM
That is purely in the taste of the man. He may like certain physical traits such as hair color, body style, and height. There is also the attraction to the personna. Some want the quiet housewife and others a power mogel. Lack of confidence shy is not fixed and can be changed. Some men will walk away from it but there are others who want or need it. I would be worried about men interested in this. I could see a power domination desire here. They may not let you out of this shell. Myself, openness and a sense of humor is keen.

myrtlebeacher

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Am 2 years separated and scared of that first step Posted: 10/29/2009 5:34:22 AM
I would agree strongly with the meetup.com suggestion. It is a group of people with similar interests to just make friends. Who knows, something more could come from it. It would definitely help with your social anxiety.

myrtlebeacher

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What's the reward for Chivalry? Posted: 9/6/2009 12:52:04 PM
Rewards for Chivalry is just not the purpose of chivalry. Still, it seems that chivalry is rewarded with neglect and indifference. It seems more and more true gentlemen get punished because of a "lack" of excitement. It can and does get attributed to clinginess. Holding the door, flowers, and more have become attached to "blandness" and quickly pushes the date down the list of suitors. Hold off on the chivalry until a few dates. If she has proven herself worth being treated like a lady then move forward. Even this statement is flawed. Why should she have to earn special treatment? This seems poor but a sign of the times. LOL This question should be placed on 'Ask a woman'.

myrtlebeacher

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Am I doing something wrong? Posted: 5/6/2009 6:10:18 PM
Stop trying so hard.

myrtlebeacher

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Does internet dating work? Posted: 5/6/2009 6:06:37 PM
Yes it does work but you have to be willing to wade through 100's of profiles and emails. Paid sights are full of fake or old profiles that ARE used by the company to get you to sign up. Other fun tactics involve the "someone is interesting in you" just because they looked at your profile. Could you imagine if this happened in the real life. Does your profile suck? Do you send one-liner emails? Old picture? No picture?* *On that topic, have you ever walked around and randomly grabbed someone and made a relationship? NO.

myrtlebeacher

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What is the easiest way to strip a father's rights? Posted: 5/6/2009 5:57:47 PM
Parental rights, aka visitation is very hard to remove. Even abandonment usually is not enough. The real factor is whether or not they have put the child at risk. It sounds like your ex did something real bad. If he did it around the child then you have a case. Otherwise...

myrtlebeacher

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just friends Posted: 4/25/2009 8:20:56 PM
You want to be friends then ok. Just make sure sometime you do meet the wifey. If you are hoping for more...STOP. Whether he is happy or not in his current marriage, he is married. So many other "fish" in the big pond. Don't steal someone else's "catch." I love these POF puns.

myrtlebeacher

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What are your first-date dealbreakers? Posted: 4/20/2009 7:49:32 PM
First date deal breakers: 1. Wedding ring 2. "That was my high school photo" 3. Starts off with 2 Vodka martini's chased with a shot of tequilla

myrtlebeacher

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Signs You've Had A Bad First Date Posted: 4/20/2009 7:45:56 PM
You agree with her (without the question) that she is meant for her ex and should get back together once he gets released in 2010.

myrtlebeacher

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dating women with similiar interests Posted: 4/20/2009 7:44:27 PM
You need something to share in common. Preferably a common hobby. Something to carry you through those decades (yes, not years). Different viewpoints are good so long as you share winning. If you two are far right and left, give up. Thats what it looks like here. Just too much of the extremes in either pole. Voting two parties is not an issue unless she thinks Pelosi is a goddess and you think Limbaugh is a god. Yes, there will be flying dishware. MB

myrtlebeacher

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How come we all get so picky after 30? Posted: 3/17/2009 7:16:19 PM
Because with age comes WISDOM.

myrtlebeacher

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DeadBeat Mothers Posted: 3/17/2009 7:08:24 PM
All fun aside......you will have to face the fact that you are their [the kids] all. It will get better. They will start helping around the house or do something funny that will make the whole day disappear. Sports and more will start. It is like drug abuse and alcoholism. If the mom doesn't want to be a positive role model and part of the family...she won't. You will not change that. Move on. I would suggest looking on meetup.com. There is a lot of single parent stuff on there.

myrtlebeacher

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how do u know if he's not a predator? Posted: 3/17/2009 6:57:57 PM
Kick him in the nuts. If he tries to choke you, you'll have your answer. Also look at clues. Wife-beater shirts, T-top'd TransAm, and a shovel in the back seat.

myrtlebeacher

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Forehead Kissing Posted: 3/17/2009 6:55:41 PM
"Thank you for the date, I'll call you" "At least I was able to get that spaghetti noodle off her forehead" He's 6'3" and you're 5'2" "Damn! I bet she was kissed a lot. This might be the safest place"

myrtlebeacher

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can i meet someone not on parole???? Posted: 2/16/2009 8:06:26 PM
First of all. Never, never, never say anything in your profile like: Looking for an honest man Can I meet someone not on parole No losers They will FLOCK to you! It is like pouring gasoline on the fire.

myrtlebeacher

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Pre-Nupts in Canada. How much teeth do they have legally? Posted: 2/16/2009 8:03:28 PM
Ok. I am really scared now. There is teeth involved with Canadian prenumtuals?

myrtlebeacher

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Online Dating Etiquette -- It would be rude to ask face to face Posted: 8/8/2008 8:03:43 PM
Etiquette is like being PC. You have to decide which side of the door you are going to play and you need to throw out the key. You cannot flop from room to room. ??Someone asked your weight?? Not in my first 1000 potential questions to ask. So block him....LEGO his profile. Still, have you stopped chatting with someone without closing the dialog?? I mean, a few emails back and forth and then nothing? I would consider that RUDE. Do you delete emails that someone put time into or just group them with the one-liner's asking for a coffee date or sexual innuendos?

myrtlebeacher

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The Mother Hen and Large Groups Posted: 8/8/2008 7:54:45 PM
Perfect scenario last night. Got called over by a group to take pictures. Yep...tons of pics. Afterwards was starting to talk to one seemingly nice woman and then....WHOOSH! Super Fridge pushed her way in. 6 foot 250 pounds and gave up HER pro-football career for a shot at Senior Mother Henning. Intimidation and the usual butterflies are one thing. To actually fear this Hen was crazy! Otherwise, I do agree that groups should usually be 3 or more. I would expect no less myself if my buddy was getting picked up on. Twosomes are an interesting scenario. Wild thing is I seem more interested in meeting people than anything else. Nothing out there yet to stimulate my mind as well as my loins.....

myrtlebeacher

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Have you ever experienced a real courtship? Posted: 8/5/2008 9:49:44 PM
no i have mentioned it, hinted and even explained how it works, said i prefer someone to court me, told them i was taught it at church...specified i want someone to respect me and wait until im ready or even when we are married....and no no no no they don't listen, they don't care .....there's your answer. 8567 Your problem here is that they have to WANT to court someone. They cannot be told to do it. In the same balance, the woman has to be open to it. It is a two way street. There has only been a few women in MY life that I have wanted to romance......

myrtlebeacher

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Too Picky Posted: 8/5/2008 9:41:21 PM
Here is another thought.... Maybe you should not consider the must-have's. These may only be desires or wants. Why not look at your failured relationships. Here you will located the must-nots! If you are always looking for the 100k+, etc. etc., you are short sighting yourself by "fishing in the same lake." POF! Keeping on the fishing Pun....if all you catch is pretty carp....it is still CARP! Look for patterns and learn from them! If you want the player or the Jerry Springer hopeful, keep it up.

myrtlebeacher

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Date women with or without kids Posted: 8/3/2008 9:19:07 PM
The choice of a ready-made family or not is your choice. Keep in mind, you will also have the other father's possibly involved. It varies. Also imagine multiple children with multiple fathers. Even more fun! There is also the post-40 ages. The early ones have become empty nesters. Still, I do not believe someone in the 30's has a limited pool. It looks like you have at least started to analyze the situation. Knowing yourself, what you want, and the opportunities is key! Keep it up

myrtlebeacher

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The Mother Hen and Large Groups Posted: 8/3/2008 9:02:38 PM
Perhaps you should use those "superior female communication skills" women love to talk about. If you can't convey your message, it's you the one with the problem, not your target. That was funny! I also agree with the statement about the Mother Hen getting jealous. She is in a relationship, why should her friend be able to meet new and sometimes exciting potentials? Never thought about that....

myrtlebeacher

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Too Picky Posted: 8/3/2008 8:46:12 PM
Being too picky IS a problem. Nice fella bumps into you somewhere but has with weekend yard clothes on....do you ignore him? Could he be someone upstanding with a good career? The biggest help I can offer for anyone post mid-20's is learning from your relationship mistakes. The random bar love that fails, the beefcake/supermodel vixen, etc. etc. These will usually fail. Another great pool of knowledge is your friend's mistakes. They may be in one right now...make sure you have gotten feedback on both sides. Online dating is by far the hardest of the ways to meet people....AND WE PAY FOR IT, usually. So easy to delete an email or to shotgun toss sexual innuendos.

myrtlebeacher

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The Mother Hen and Large Groups Posted: 7/27/2008 8:18:23 PM
Hmm. The answers have definitely posted more questions than answers.....guess that is dating. Large groups are more entertaining than a challenge. Most of the time it is a pink face scenario. I get a smile or a laugh and I am off. I agree, the large groups are usually pushing for a ladies night out. Still, I believe there is a glint of hope in all their minds that Mr. Abs shows up and is interested in her and not her friends. Mental note....need abs.....hmm. What is real interesting is how many people believe that women go to the bar to get out and men are there to go fishing (doh...bad pun on this site). So the real question is where do women go to...yep, go fishing?

myrtlebeacher

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The Mother Hen and Large Groups Posted: 7/25/2008 12:09:37 PM
Rarely, do you see women (yes, in general) singled out at the bar/clubs. Most of the time there is the single friend (married, dating, or...) who is sometimes called "The Mother Hen" who watches out for the single woman. Whats the best way to approach this and to get the chance to talk to the friend? Secondly, large groupings...wow. Talk about pressure. How does someone cut in for a few minutes to meet everyone? What works ladies?

myrtlebeacher

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expectations Posted: 7/25/2008 12:02:11 PM
do you lower your standards now that you're older? No, no, no! Actually, you are boosting your standards. You have learned from your past relationships. All the failures. You have seen the failures and successes all around you also. So, your only potential lower standards would be physical. So where does this stand when you are 60?

myrtlebeacher

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Why do some women ignore what might be the best men for them? Posted: 7/25/2008 11:57:33 AM
I agree with a lot on this posting. It simply doesn't matter in many cases of the "WHY." Still, we all hope to improve ourselves. Not understanding why things don't spark will not change. Still, if the person knows what is lacking or negative they can: 1. Do something about it 2. Accept it and move on Both sides want the perfect mate. Still, is that what is really wanted? How many times do you see top officials, sports figures, and their spouses cheating on and on. I have seen by far, women more open to the physical failures of men in general. Online, we men don't have much to offer but a few sentences and some pictures. We have to compete with the players. The real quality is hidden. It is their choice to find out more or just..... ....PUSH DELETE.

myrtlebeacher

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Have you ever experienced a real courtship? Posted: 7/18/2008 8:06:58 PM
Yes, I wanted to romance and court an Amazing woman in a prior relationship and I....... ....exactly! I have no idea what happened. I think, yes...maybe even guess...she was not even close to being ready to be respected and treated like a woman. There is a fine balance within every woman on her insight of the perfect man. Something like a shining knight, on a Harley, carrying a box of chocolates. I hope to one day find someone who stimulates my mind as well as my loins. Eddy Murphy had that down pat!

myrtlebeacher

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no answer Posted: 7/18/2008 7:53:17 PM
I can understand the whole not wanting to get involved and spending the whole night saying "sorry, but not a match. Keep fishing." Still......can't we block people here? If the man (or woman....YES IT HAPPENS ) can't take "no" or is just stupid...Block them. Make a huge Lego wall! Everyone also has to understand that this is not a in-person scenario. You cannot read the body signs. No****ails to be thrown on you. Oops that's my buddy. LOL. I suggest leaving your area and introduce yourself to 10 people. Every time you leave do it again. The same way you break the ice in person should be followed through stronger conviction online. Remember, they cannot tell totally that you are kidding without the usual "LOL". I completely agree with NOTHING NEGATIVE on your profile. Finally, ask yourself are you trying for something out of your league? What matters most in your soulmate?

Myrtlebeacher

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Female advice needed - does my profile say 'Read - Deleted'? Posted: 3/27/2008 8:09:16 PM
Always drop the ex stuff. They are the ex. They are not going to be part of the next relationship so why carry them along for the ride? Move on! Any decent woman will get hundred of emails a month. You need to be on top off all that noise that includes crass sexual advances, players, and worst. Think of this like an interview or a salepitch. As for your standards, nice to shoot for the moon but there is a lot of cracked, broken, and even shattered stuff out there that looks good.

myrtlebeacher

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Before Initial Meet..You Think..I hope shes not... Posted: 3/13/2008 2:46:25 PM
You ask about weight but this is so grey a factor. Have they gained 10 lbs or 50 lbs or more since their last picture? I think you are correct about knowing the deal breakers. Those simple must have's (or have not's) that hopefully have been weeded out via the profile, email, or preliminary phone conversations. Too many people fail to realize there just has to be some basic rules that the potentials must present. I have already bumped into two just scary scenarios. 1. The high school photo pre-hormonal destruction. 2. Being separated and not divorced. Try dating in Michigan......

myrtlebeacher

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Women paying child support Posted: 2/28/2008 8:04:37 PM
Many people like to cry it is the "system." Well..... Who cares. Pull their visitation rights and then parenting rights. Done. If they don't care enough to realize the person who is 90%+ raising their children to be role models, then they don't need to know they have children any more. Stress, yet. But no more courts. I think the courts are horrible on either side. I have dated a few ladies who tell me the horror stories of missing one court date and the men running for the hills for 3 months. You aren't going to change their minds but you sure as heck can stop giving them the "free" time with the kiddies. Be careful though, you have to worry about the children on this decision. A quick exit of mommy could have drastic effects on their minds and self-worth. Lately, I have seen a lot more dad's taking full custody. In the past this was due to the woman falling off the horse but more and more are literally dropping the kids in leu of a career.

myrtlebeacher

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does a guy with no dating experience stand a chance Posted: 2/28/2008 4:38:43 PM
Hmm. Did you learn to ride a bike on the first try? Same thing here. Get out there and get your feet wet. These forums are fun but also informative.

myrtlebeacher

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The whole children at home standard.... Posted: 2/28/2008 4:35:26 PM
Let me clarify. There seems to be some confusion here. I am seeing profiles that don't care if one is a father. They just don't want the children living with the father. POF doesn't really have the ability to chose what the perfect match would be like other sites. It is in these selections that I see every setting for their perfect man including. no children has children partial has children live away The gap here is for those who, like me, have taken on the responsibility in full and seem to be penalized. I understand there are ages where someone doesn't want to get back into diapers or are not ready for teenagers. What I have seen is same ages (within 5 years) with the children. If someone doesn't care I have children, why hold it against people that they have full custody. It is just a WEIRD break. Small little mind screw. LOL.

myrtlebeacher

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The whole children at home standard.... Posted: 2/27/2008 5:04:50 PM
I have reviewed god knows how many profiles between Match.com and Plentyoffish.com. Still, one crazy one-sided scenario is nuts. Profiles that don't care if you have children SO LONG AS THEY DON'T LIVE WITH YOU. WOW!! Let me add to this. This pertains to women who have children themselves that are not post-highschool. So.....they have children. Most of the times it is full custody. Yet, they want to meet men with or without children SO LONG AS THEY DON'T LIVE with Dad. This shows a man who is not wanted to run away from responsibility. Someone who believe in family. Now, I turn the floor to the POF female dieties. Yes, that means you. LOL

myrtlebeacher

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How do you get back on the horse? Posted: 2/21/2008 9:46:13 PM
Psychologically you need a rebound person. Listen, it happens. You will figure out at some point that it is not right. You will boost your confidence and you will get insight to what failed in your major marriage and why the current one sucks. Many cases you will find that some of the people you date post-long-relationship will be similar to the person you left. At that point you will better understand yourself and be able to look forward to a better pick. I know it sounds methodical but the days of highschool love are over.

myrtlebeacher

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Is 30's the dead zone in dating? Posted: 2/21/2008 9:33:19 PM
Lots of theories. It does look like a few people agree with a "gap" in this 30's age. I think there might be also some fact regarding divorces involving children. Usually, the higher percentage of cases have the children residing with the mother. There simply may not not time to date until the children reach an easier age. I agree age doesn't really matting in this range. It is not like the old days when you heard some girl in highschool was dating someone in college. +/- 10 years is almost nothing (except for music).

myrtlebeacher

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to the women over 30 and 'Undecided' on children... Posted: 2/1/2008 1:28:08 PM
This one is WILD. The broad group of people I hang with have the following crazy stuff when it comes to children: One couple - both don't want them One couple - didn't want them BUT.....is thinking about it One couple - make too much money to have children (yes, read that one again) One couple - promise broken, wifey decided 7 years later doesn't want children Knowing this, two of these four are now filing for divorce. Undecided is not a horrible option but IF someone knows one way or the other, SELECT IT! Being wishy-washy on this subject can destroy any relationship. The last one listed above is one step from a Jerry Springer poster child.

myrtlebeacher

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Is 30's the dead zone in dating? Posted: 1/28/2008 6:18:56 PM
Have you ever just tried searching based on sex, race and zip code. Seems like there is a large pool of mid-20's and mid 40's. It would be a joke to say it is the people not yet divorced and those that accomplished that task. Not to say I haven't met a ton of nice people in the 30's but it seems most are like me tied up with the little-in's! Yes, I know. I must be an engineer. Only an engineer would notice patterns. LOL.

myrtlebeacher

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new to single parenthood and dating Posted: 1/24/2008 9:01:00 PM
Guns n Roses named it properly: "Welcome to the Jungle!" First and formost, you need to decided if you are ready for this. Secondly, how do you approach the whole children meeting the date after so many dates/months/etc. Age is not an issue. It is very easy to find someone +/- 10 years now that you are in your 30's. Work more toward what didn't work out in the last date(s). Make sure you don't make the same mistake with the next. As a single parent, you do not have time to do 10 dates a month. They matter. Make them count.

myrtlebeacher

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Any Docs on here? Advice please.... Posted: 1/24/2008 8:50:44 PM
Not a doctor. Still, is there any common fact to the time of her lapses? Is she around an environment that is destroying her immune system? Black mold and chemicals are some easily identified factors in localized induced symptoms. Seriously, you have a serious problem here. Too many bacterial infections. The lack of fluids can also lead to other issues. You need to take her to a better ER. Bring any notes with you of days, sickness, history, etc. The more information the better for the doctors.

myrtlebeacher

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Was I a jerk? Posted: 1/24/2008 8:43:18 PM
WOW. 9 pages. No time to read it all. I decided to flip a coin..... Drumroll.... Jerk. WHY: Bottom line. Children matter. I would not have ruined the children's day and took the bullet. At the end of the day, I would have been direct with her and said what had happened was beyond belief. Once again, keep the kiddies happy but scorn the lady in private. Take both cars and have her risk the tickets. Seriously, how did you get involved in a date with 6 children without knowing? ALSO, who in their right mind would bring their children to a date with someone they barely knew? This is sending off BIG flags.

myrtlebeacher

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Wearing shirts with sayings on dates? Posted: 1/24/2008 8:35:38 PM
You have fought through the emails and IM's. Even taken the time to exchange numbers and setup the date. Now come the first real impression. Obviously you are going to make a decision based on the date locale. Still, what is you you want to promote? There is only one first impression.....

myrtlebeacher

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Is there hope after 30? Are girls 20-25 still interested? Posted: 1/21/2008 5:25:38 AM
If you are really interested in finding a soulmate then you need to figure out what it is you really need. 20-25 usually is still a heavy partier; man or woman. Personally, I do not think you have clue. This message was fun for you and other based on one fact. Age. What if you were 41? Remember, IF you are looking for someone to hang your towel with then you need to look at the bigger picture. Heck, you are hoping to find someone who will be with you the next 40 years. Youch!!!! As for the fries lady, move on. Funny. Psychos, wackos, nut jobs, bi-polars, alcoholics, and more are out there all the time. I've been on enough dates to pick things out within the first 5 minutes. The fries incident really showed you a great insight to pure stupidity.

myrtlebeacher

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what makes a guy above average Posted: 1/16/2008 4:28:50 PM
I'll agree. He has to be into me. I am the princess, right? There is no perfect man or woman. All we need is stimulation of the mind. We want to picture Brad Pitt (oops).

myrtlebeacher

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Why is humor the #1 thing girls look for?? Posted: 1/16/2008 4:26:33 PM
We have to love something about you. If you are not funny, you a nothing more than a night tool.

myrtlebeacher

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Ladies... advice please. Posted: 1/16/2008 4:25:10 PM
Run. Make the move to Australia and worry about the rest later.

myrtlebeacher

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Sitting back or taking the initiative? Posted: 1/1/2008 8:27:41 PM
Ladies, How many of you actually USE an online dating site to find someone as compared to sitting back and reading tons of emails that most likely don't match? Do many feel the need to hide pictures or delete their profiles after being cluster bombed by every single man in 100 miles?

myrtlebeacher

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Do gentlemen still exist? I mean sweet gestures Posted: 1/1/2008 8:22:52 PM
Gentlemen are out there. You just have to filter out the noise. Take a solid look at where you are "fishing" (I love that term on POF). If you are fishing in a rotten area, you will always pull carp. Set your standards higher and look at better areas to meet someone special. IE...stay clear of the bars. Another thing....you are at an online dating site. This one doesn't have many filters. Try another site for a month and mold your "perfect partner."

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