I think the real problem shirley is that all the older men want women or girls in their thirties and preferably twenties and teens.

It doesn't matter what your health concern is,no one knows when some catastropic injury or death will take them, but love is love and finding a person is a task for all of us.

Hey Op..so u have had great dates from the website? Why didnt any of those pan out? You've only been on here less than a week. Give us a photo op on your profile with you dressed to the nines. A sundress and flipflops doesnt cut it. Show us what u got, when u go out at night on the town. My suspicion is that you are too casual most if not all the time.

i have more than 5x in fact.
it was mostly to do with a bad feeling
or getting a hunch i shouldn't, felt something was up
or i just changed my mind last minute because of nerves

well i dont understand people who are seperated for more than a few months, cos i seprated in april 1999 and was divorced by sept 1999 so why does it take so long? i wdnt date someone who is taking so long cos maybe they are thinking about getting back together.

On the surface, it has all the symptoms of deep depression. I have myself experienced depression that was so deep and vast, that it didn't feel as though I were depressed anymore. Like going down into the Grand Canyon, and finding an area that opened up so much, that you no longer realized you were still in a very deep hole in the ground.

That you felt you should talk about it, suggests that in some way, you really are not entirely sanguine about it. I'd suggest therapy, if I knew you well enough to be able to tell for sure.

Welsh, how do you define this love?

A lot of it is chemistry, I think - where one absolutely needs to be with the person because they make one sizzle. The rest of it is the fact that one communicates easily (i.e. similar in goals and values), and as a consequence, one might decide that one would want to be loyal and committed to that person. But those are actions based on what one feels.

Love is a feeling - I think.

What are the components of love that make it different from friendship with chemistry?

It's amazing that these dimwitted women still think they can find a prince charming on a site like pof. Sorry, but you get what you pay for.

Those guys are almost as bad as a woman who has trust issues and feels a need to snoop. Since you didn't mention you and any of these guys had the exclusive talk, being on POF was their right to do so. If you did NOT see them on POF, would you have told them you were snooping, trying to catch them on a dating site, and they came out with a clean record? If there's no trust in a relationship, there is no relationship. If I was dating someone and she felt a need to investigate me and I found out, she would be history. What's the point of dating someone who doesn't trust you?

Yes I did say that, but ended up leaving those dishonest meet & greets with a sour taste in my mouth and quickly lost interest.

The man I wrote this post about who is tall and handsome wrote me in response to my asking him why he lied and said "I am not lying - it is the way I present myself". I told him, "it is lying and good luck with that" and blocked him. Yes...he was handsome but like many have said on here there could be more he is hiding and I would prefer not be be somebody's doormat.

"I think you're a wonderful guy, and some woman will be very lucky to have you---unfortunately, I'm not that woman. After our webcam chat, I just didn't feel that elusive, indefinable, completely unpredictable "it factor" I need to pursue a relationship with you. I wish you all the best in your search."

A woman/man that gets out of bed, goes to work, pays his bills and maintains her/his own home is a more desirable partner that someone that is living in his parent's house, disabled and unemployment.