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uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

Heart Strings Posted: 10/26/2009 8:44:38 AM
Giving testimonials at funerals can get me choked up unless I try hard to stay composed. The Humane Society TV ad is too much for me. I have to change channels. I think as we get older, we are less able to inhibit that emotional response. By the way, people who pressure others to stop crying should be spanked.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Second (or Third or. . . ) Time Around Posted: 10/25/2009 6:59:04 PM
Many of us are attracted to people who would be wrong for us, but satisfy a need for acceptance by those in our past whom we couldn't have. I think we need to be realistic, less fussy, and patient.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Let's get naked Posted: 5/18/2009 7:47:03 AM
Gravity and aging is the challenge of being over 45. You can look damned good at 60, but it takes work and one must not be too fussy. I think this is why night sex is so popular.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Life is Too Short BS Posted: 4/2/2009 12:34:15 PM
Clichés may be tiresome, but they've earned their stripes in becoming overexposed truths. Have we become jaded to truths, or do we simply desire new expressions of them? Gack! I need a vacation.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

Msg: 118 (view)

He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance?? Posted: 3/24/2009 7:53:03 AM
Look at this as a learning experience OP. Right now you're in your early 30's and, for most guys your age, "Little Willy" can stand and salute at the snap of a bra strap. Sadly, as men get older, "Little Willy" isn't always so pert and perky. Sometimes he's better in the morning. Other times, alcohol can make him withdraw like a frightened turtle. A bad day at work can have him drooping, slumping, or limping. It's really quite mental! So...learn to use your head...and his! BTW: One of the questions I hope to get answered when I meet my maker is this: "Wouldn't the clitorus have been better situated an inch or two south?" Or maybe it's some sort of prize for those who can use their head and problem solve?

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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50 and retired Posted: 2/28/2009 8:53:11 AM
The years over 50 become extremely valuable to their owner and not so worthy of possessions and things. These years are irreplaceable and dwindling. Those who have always lived below their means, rather than at or above their means, may find a way to retire at 55 or thereabouts and get freedom through frugality. On the other hand, some folks live to work and love the money. That is just as valid. It's about what is valued.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Anyone else just not know how to date? Posted: 2/26/2009 8:05:26 AM
OP's quote: If I could skip the first couple of dates I am a lot of fun. You can't skip the first couple of dates. Unless you're prepared to find yourself in bed with a stranger. So, instead of seeing the guy across the restaurant table as your future husband and sexual intimate, simply see him for what he is---a guy you're having lunch with--and nothing more. Then go from there. And enjoy the experience.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Men over sixty - seem to like women in their own age bracket. Posted: 2/24/2009 3:43:38 PM
Passionate Cher said: "I, for one, do not think of myself as being very photogenic..." You look great to me, PC! But, maybe it's best not to think of yourself as photogenic...and simply be unaffected and natural. :)

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Do hearts harden with age? Posted: 2/24/2009 7:17:48 AM
I think we bounce back faster from emotional pain and lost love as we age--but that can make us even more ready to love again after failing if we don't allow ourselves to become cynical and jaded.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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a life lived as a slave to ego Posted: 2/24/2009 7:08:37 AM
Quoting OP: "Is it so much about how they look and what people are thinking of them, that they will miss the essence of life and love?" A life lived in clubs is a shallow pond. You may need deeper waters to find the right guy.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Men over sixty - seem to like women in their own age bracket. Posted: 2/24/2009 7:03:16 AM
Younger women make me feel older. Older women make me feel younger. I'm most comfortable with women my age.

uncle_enrico

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Msg: 38 (view)

Secrets Posted: 2/24/2009 6:56:31 AM
I'm still puzzled over that "over 45 virgin." I'd need to know more.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

Msg: 103 (view)

Mannors among the over 45 yr. old Posted: 2/24/2009 6:35:23 AM
Sarah Palin does have a sister. She's the one who married the allegedly abusive state trooper. The business of opening car doors for women seems to be one of those courtship rituals that dies off quickly once couples are sleeping together--or married. So what does this say about marriage and/or intimacy?

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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What was I thinking? Posted: 2/21/2009 9:05:01 AM
Hmmm...hitch hiking to San Francisco from L.A. with a college roommate. The memory of the rides is hazy, except for one desolate on-ramp in the Central Valley with one car every 15 minutes. After an hour, we decided to get on our knees and beg (just for the helluvit) and it worked. Driving with my wife to Baja California in our VW beetle with a hand drawn map telling us to turn left at the copper mine. As we neared the point where the copper mine should have been, I began wondering what the heck a copper mine looked like. Then we made the left at what seemed to be a cooper mine and drove up a gravel road...got totally mired in sand...got out of the car and walked along the road...105 degrees of relentless sun..then a miracle...there were our friends at the campsite. BTW, I haven't seen a hitch hiker in maybe 30 years--except on Twilight Zone reruns.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

Msg: 175 (view)

Why is it okay for women to date more than one guy ? Posted: 2/20/2009 8:43:19 AM
We're all guilty of double standards. The real question is: how much time do you want to devote to the business of dating and over what span of time? I prefer not to speed through people. But, others may want to find that needle in the haystack sooner than later. Now, exclusivity and cheating are a different matter. Men are more guilty of this than women--due to our innate desire for variety--a bad tendency if you desire a good society. Sadly, too many women are easily tricked by these bad boys.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Profiles...What They're Really Saying Posted: 2/15/2009 7:52:42 AM
Insightful and funny, OP. Good read.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Its happened again Posted: 2/15/2009 5:04:35 AM
Four dates is not an engagement. That "still in love with my ex" excuse is likely a code for "we're not a match." Keep looking. Finding that match ain't easy.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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women - glut on the market? Posted: 2/14/2009 4:06:56 PM
Are there too many over-45 women compared with men? There can never be too many women!

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met Posted: 2/14/2009 6:59:24 AM
Why would people post old pictures of themselves? And does it happen a lot? Yes. It does. And the reasons are pretty obvious--though some folks just stop taking pictures of themselves after 40. The best way to deal with this issue is to keep your own photos up to date. If a young hottie shows interest and you are a guy, one of the following is likely true: 1. The young hottie is selling photos or wants money for a "plane ticket" to come see you. Such requests involve cash. 3. That hottie is really age appropriate and looked terrific in their youth and probably still looks pretty good, but...be prepared and be realistic about expectations. OTOH, I did date a woman who looked much better than her picture. The beauty of some people requires animation--stills don't do the job.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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he has a foot fetish and i hate my feet! Posted: 2/13/2009 9:41:45 PM
Hmmmm....I have great looking feet and no woman has ever commented on them. It must be a guy thing--submission, I would say.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Are we all commitment phobic?? Posted: 2/7/2009 7:03:06 PM
I think there is a problem with internet dating. Yep. Too many fish. They're all biting at once...then poof. They're gone. With no real estate, no flesh and bones, no neighborhood, there are just a lot of electrons buzzing. Then the buzz stops and you've got nothing...like a hard drive that fries and all the data disappears. It's so easy to pull the plug and phhhhhhtt.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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I slept with someone i shudnt have oops?? Posted: 2/7/2009 6:16:04 PM
What do your brothers think about him? Or do they know? One thing you probably know about guys--they are not capable of turning down sex the first time. After that, it's much easier for them...so beware...be patient...and be prepared never to see him again. Next time, let him pursue you...turn him down the first time (but with a secret smile and glint in your eye)...and he'll come back.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Is this a major turn off for anyone else? Posted: 2/7/2009 9:56:56 AM
You could get handcuffed to the bed and be toyed with for hours. You sure you want to do this?

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Please tell me what fisted means Posted: 2/7/2009 9:22:24 AM
Maybe the guy was describing himself as "tight fisted." That means he's cheap. Stay away from fisters. Any proctologist or GYN will tell you that. Happy Rebel is right. You can Google any sex term, any scientific term, any slang word, even the first few lines of a poem and you find what you're looking for. Now...go Google and no fisting.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Lesbians get the Hottest Chicks Posted: 2/5/2009 2:49:55 PM
dunno where you live, but around here, you have to look at most lesbians twice to figure out if they are actually women. Hmmm...Could it be that hot looking lesbians are migrating out of Georgia? Perhaps in long caravans?

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Would you date a Tomboy ? Posted: 2/5/2009 10:32:47 AM
My ex-wife was a kind of cute Tom Boy. She could get dressed as fast as I could. Hair and make up was a minute or less. I loved it. Unfortunately, she was moody.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Chemistry vs Attraction? Posted: 2/5/2009 10:29:58 AM
Chemistry is like attraction but it runs deeper...into personality and soul territory.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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The Past Revisited Posted: 2/5/2009 10:27:35 AM
I miss the R&B music coming out of the AM radios and the groups with perfect harmonies and their choreographed routines on the Dic* Clark Show.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Body image Posted: 2/5/2009 10:16:58 AM
You look terrific in your skin. It's all about attitude. Keep beaming! Love those outfits and this topic.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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WHAT IS THIS SPARK PEOPLE ARE SEARCHING FOR? Posted: 2/5/2009 10:11:47 AM
First of all, you're fabulous and deserve enough spark to ignite London. Secondly, this online medium invites tentativeness and ambivalence. People are fishing here, often half-heartedly. So don't be discouraged. Keep plugging at it. Any hook you're baiting looks quite fetching to me.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Help, can't get my guy to cumm Posted: 2/5/2009 9:56:25 AM
Have you tried tea bagging?

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Lesbians get the Hottest Chicks Posted: 2/5/2009 9:48:30 AM
...why do lesbian chicks always get the hottest chicks? Are they hotter, or do they just seem that way because they're inaccessible to you? Maybe you only notice the hot ones? Do you feel the same way about the chubby ones wearing boots and riding Harleys? Could it be the short hair do's? Their boyish good looks? Their devil-may-care attitudes? Maybe you'd like to get roughed up by a couple of chicks? I have no answers--just questions.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

Msg: 292 (view)

men, how do you feel when the woman you love tells you she had many [30-...] f- buddies? Posted: 2/5/2009 9:26:11 AM
Let's see...1 out of 5 adults has genital herpes so---ask your doc about Valtrex.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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sexual liberation...or not so much? Posted: 2/4/2009 7:25:58 AM
My question is, now that most of us are over the age of 45, do you feel you have become less inhibited than you were say, in your 20's or 30's ? I am not referring to lowering your moral standards, I'm referring to having more confidence in your own sexuality to try new things, be more adventuresome, dabble in erotica.... Finally a good topic in this forum! The answer is heck yes! Having intercourse with a post-menopausal woman without worrying about birth control is liberating. Also, O.S., which I didn't much care for when I was young, has become the best part of romance, and get this...giving is better than getting. Why? Staying in that romance zone for hours is way better than the quick release. Through some miracle of biology, woman can glow after a climax---while for guys--they want to get out of bed and go do something else...which is not good for couples and it's a downer for the guy. I'll take several hours in the zone over that.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Where's granny's advice when you need it? Posted: 2/4/2009 7:14:30 AM
Maybe it's just holiday blues. I miss my Grandma! She knew everything, loved everybody, and made the best divinity fudge in the world. Why not have a conversation with her? She's not going to answer back but you know darned well what she would say. Consider it like therapeutic role-playing. And make sure no one is listening.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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what if you prefer both? Posted: 2/3/2009 2:24:57 PM
she taught me the real way to eat pu$$y That would be with a lobster bib.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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what if you prefer both? Posted: 2/3/2009 9:19:14 AM
Ladies, calm down. G.O.R.'s sarcasm is justified and amusing. Madonna and Britney tongue kissed in '2003. The OP is behind the curve and the L word is in season 6. This hot chic fad is a cliché, not a ground breaker. Finally, the taco and sausage image is a funny kicker. Give him a break

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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How do you handle too pushy on this site? Posted: 2/3/2009 7:47:18 AM
I don't want to make anyone feel "rejected" or bad...but... Pushy people count on decent folk to be nice. So, with them, you have to push back. There's no way around it. If you're uncomfortable with a pushy guy online, imagine how awful he might be in person.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 2/2/2009 11:23:21 AM
Yes I have, and no matter how hot they look, it's not worth it. No sir. Nope! No way!

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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kissing with tongues Posted: 2/2/2009 10:47:24 AM
Have you ever heard of french kissing ? I am not a prude and if I like the guy i will french kiss a guy on a 1st date ! You were lucky that all he did was tongue kissing because there are guys out there who will try to go a lot farther ! LongLocks...I salute you. Your answer is the most interesting, your smile is amazing, and the more I think about it, Iowa is sounding better and better!

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Posted: 1/30/2009 7:57:29 AM
(Online dating) sucks for guys, (is good for women) plain and simple. Sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Frankly, I rarely initiate contact with women. I just like to post in the forums and occasionally get noticed by the fairer sex. Now there is this site, I won't mention the name, but it's new and I'm on it. There's no forum there, but I'm getting an avalanche of contacts from women who are much younger than I. They want me to go to Instant Messaging, and they want to send me naked pictures of themselves. They also need money for plane tickets to fly to see me. Is this the kind of thing that you would like? I'm turning down one gorgeous woman after another and it's really an ego boost at my age, I'll tell ya!

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Shallowness; Guys vs Girls Posted: 1/30/2009 7:31:53 AM
would you date a woman that was born with both a penis and a vagina? Hmmm...I guess that depends on how you define "date." I've dated a number of women whose genitals I never saw. On the other hand, I'm trying to imagine an earlier age. Let's say I date this woman for months and months. We are celibate. I fall in love with her. Our families bond. The marriage date is set. On the wedding night I discover the physical anomaly. What do I do? I have one. She has one. But she also has what she ought to have. Is the thing that I have, that she has, in the way of the thing that she should have, that I have sought? I think I'd be torn and confused. I suppose I could get an annulment. But what if I said, "Oh what the hell" and just went on with it. I guess I might get used to it. Maybe learn to love her uniqueness. Who knows? Fortunately, premarital sex has pretty much been the rule for me.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Alcohol and clubs versus online dating Posted: 1/30/2009 6:49:12 AM
I am surprised to hear that the only possibilities to meet people are online or bars I agree. One of the great romantic elements lacking in online dating is "chance." Finding someone through cosmic intervention or the hand of God can give a budding romance a huge kick-start. Instead, imagine a first date after an online email. You meet and find that the two of you are totally UFR--unfit for romance. Unless the coming train wreck is interrupted by an outbreak of war, what follows can be an excruciating 30 to 60 minutes of forced smiles, glancing at watches and concocting an exit excuse. That's the downside of online dating--which many assume is an easy way to meet someone.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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once a cheater always a cheater?????????? Posted: 1/30/2009 6:12:37 AM
Judging by that very attractive photo, you're probably attracting a wide range of scoundrels. That's one of the hazards of looking hot. If you want to attract a quality guy, show less to get more. Or, as those urban poets might say, "Hide that junk in your trunk."

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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need help with boys! Posted: 1/30/2009 5:55:02 AM
Think of yourself as the surviving member of a long line of ancestors going back to the beginning of time who struggled to make your life possible. You owe it to them and yourself to demand more from those you choose to love. God bless.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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even the heavens cried Posted: 1/30/2009 5:30:15 AM
First--you deserve way better than the guy you fell in love with. You're beautiful. He's unworthy of you. Second--you owe it to yourself, your family, your future, and every ancestor going back into the eons never to accept this sort of behavior from someone you love. Vow never to allow this mistreatment again. Third--before you plunge into the next great love, have people you trust meet the prospective love and get their honest opinion. People who love you can see things you won't see. God bless.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Separation advice Posted: 1/30/2009 5:11:14 AM
Separation can rekindle romantic interest. It can also lead a couple astray. My ex moved out on me many years ago, but we kept a romance going while dating others. By the time she decided she wanted to return, I had moved on. With enough time away from her, I realized how much happier I was without her.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

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Bipolar and Alone Posted: 1/30/2009 4:48:02 AM
Weight lifting, music, hiking, reading, writing, hot coffee or tea, a pet, push ups, crunches, self-talk... Self-talk: talk to yourself as if you were a team coach using short imperative sentences like: "Get up brother and go for a walk--you'll feel better!" If you believe this will work, it will. If you don't, it won't. Cheers.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

Msg: 139 (view)

Can a relationship work out if the woman does the chasing? Posted: 1/29/2009 5:31:24 PM
You're cute. Chase.

uncle_enrico

Joined: 7/11/2006

Msg: 61 (view)

I guess I just called my girlfriend fat Posted: 1/28/2009 11:17:26 AM
Fat has killed many a romance. Two years into a 10-year relationship with my ex-girlfriend, she asked me how much weight she could gain? We were walking along the beach. I slowed just a pace and took a look at her fanny and was shocked that it had gotten larger without my notice. I don't remember what my answer was. All I know is that I didn't say something to offend her and we lasted another 8 years and maybe 50 pounds on what had been the adorable person I fell in love with. Finally, I could no longer do dining, sex and shopping and we broke up. She didn't take to cycling and she wanted to walk less and less. I wanted to be healthier and didn't need an eating buddy. I think we all have an obligation to try harder at basic maintenance.

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