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 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Should I be worried..
Posted: 4/30/2013 5:23:59 PM
Maybe he fired his "love cannon".

Hope it worked for him.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 746 (view)
 
Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want?
Posted: 4/30/2013 5:19:52 PM
Yes they can.
:-)
But they don't have to.
:-(

checkmate
on us guys.
:-P
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Have a good life in a breakup e-mail
Posted: 4/30/2013 4:51:13 PM
I have had that blessing bestowed upon me....
with a not so nice intent once.

silly me.
I just went ahead and had a good life.

HAPPINESS!
the
ultimate
retort.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Extreme body mods
Posted: 4/30/2013 4:32:35 PM
When your shirt comes off....I'm sure she will ask:
"What the f_ck else you got???"
You can fill her in then.

Good luck.

And don't worry.
Women are drawn to the mysterious.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
High IQ Vs High EI
Posted: 4/29/2013 5:07:03 PM
Computers can only pick the best move out of
the millions of options calculated.

Computers cannot do strategy.
In that they cannot....like a human....
move pieces deceptively to set up bad positions.

In the earlier PC chess games there was an obvious rookie flaw
where the computer would often move the queen in front of the king.

It could not foresee that an opponent could threaten
the queen with a piece which would then cause it to be stuck there.
(It could not move the queen or the king would be in check.)

A queen in front of the king is not a bad position mathematically.
However it is often fatal strategically.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Should I be worried..
Posted: 4/29/2013 4:53:31 PM
Bad guy move.

You should stay on till she brings it up.
If she likes you
she certainly will.

But if she is on POF still...she is not there yet.
Don't be worried.
She is going out with you.

Just cool your jets
and don't try to rope her in after only a few dates.
Too much intensity too soon could scare her off.

So take a deep breath.
Go on a few more dates.
and don't think about it till then.

good luck.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
The Attraction Attraction
Posted: 4/28/2013 2:22:22 PM
We often pick up subtle clues about people
that goes completely under our radar.
Especially us guys who are quite abit denser
in the picking up subtle clues dept.

In our dreams things we missed....
are shown.

She had an attraction to you before the dream.
Not after.
You just didn't consciously sense it.

Whenever I dreamed a girl liked me...
turned out
she did.
:-)
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Am i being silly?
Posted: 4/26/2013 12:24:58 PM
I think...maybe he may be different than your past guys.
In that so far he is a gentleman.

I'm guessing you've mentioned how
other guys you have dated were....
so he is trying to be different.

Go one a few more dates with him and see.
and enjoy.
so far....so good.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Such a turn of is when a man.....
Posted: 4/25/2013 9:09:26 PM
If you were not impressed
tell him it looks quit small to others you have seen.

And that should end that.

Look if a guy gets rude in text.....have fun with it.
Be creative.
Be brutal.
have a laugh.
It's a freebie with no bad karma attached.
and might teach him some proper manners.
:-P
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Forum Link
Posted: 4/25/2013 3:58:53 PM
Maybe mods could answer all the newbie questions.
If forums are here to help folks date,
that would be the best solution.
Only let mods have the ability to post.

I am not a mod so would be excluded.

All forums....worldwide....on any subject....
generally devolve into what you just mentioned Hawking.
Those that run em either restrict access
or let the garbage pile up and live with it.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Advice for a pick me up
Posted: 4/24/2013 8:16:03 PM
If I gave up three GFs ago.....
I would be a lot different as a person.
Not near as polished and noble.
I grew some
with every loss.

And my next girl.....she will be so damn lucky
that she will pinch herself to see if she is dreaming
:-)

You seem very attractive OP,
and seem to have alot to offer a guy.
Pain now, only deepens your soul
to hold more future joy.

Hope that helps.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
What Is A Real Man?
Posted: 4/24/2013 7:13:27 PM
me.

It's a big planet though.
I'm sure there are tons more.
:-P
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Can I pick your collective brains, for a second?
Posted: 4/24/2013 5:02:32 PM
No need to drink goat's blood
when tequila will do the trick.

A few shots on a date will get you over
your resistance.
:-)

but on a serious note.....do you even need a guy?
Not being sarcastic.
You may not be open to all the annoyances and such
that even a decent guy would bring.

And trust me, us guys have to be a bit masochistic to
deal with all you ladies bring.
But we do.
Cus we feel the need for someone.
(even if it is just to pick up after our goofy selves)

You shouldn't date just because you feel you should.
Or your friends pester you.
If you are fine being alone....there is nothing
wrong or abnormal with that.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Childfree life
Posted: 4/23/2013 3:24:32 PM
Not all people want kids.
Especially at 25.
You probably have other priorities anyway.
Explore life.....education...career....whatever.

If you change your mind later....
you can have kids then.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Harsh Reality of Dating these days.
Posted: 4/23/2013 3:21:08 PM
^^^
First off,
It's great you got a counselor to help you over your rough patch.
(most folks try to tough it out and just end up suffering longer than need be)

And it's good you educated him about this site.
It'll probably make him a better counselor for his patients
who are also frustrated with online stuff.

I agree we can be our own worst enemies as to dating.
However, we can change that.
We are not doomed to be that way forever.

We can only work on ourselves though.
Can't change others.
Only endure em.
:-P
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Why resume?
Posted: 4/21/2013 2:41:50 PM
It's all they got.

If they had something else to say,
they would have said it.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
what to make of this and if/how to respond now after weird evening of events
Posted: 4/17/2013 10:11:25 PM
Well no sex,
so no sin.
Just part of the learning curve.

Next time.....might wanna ask about seeing someone
before you get all comfortable.
:-P
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Is the art of communication dying?
Posted: 4/17/2013 9:33:31 PM
Easier to interact with a phone than a person.
We have more control with a phone.
People are a messier conundrum.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 122 (view)
 
What is going on will all of the shootings....
Posted: 4/15/2013 9:36:07 PM
whoever they stole if from...
or bought it from.....
would be liable then.

if the last person legally responsible for the gun
had to have insurance....
they would be more careful who they sold it to.
or just left it lying around.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Lots of interest in 1st week and then....
Posted: 4/15/2013 8:15:13 PM
If you miss that newbie thrill...

Change your username and main pic
and you can be freshmeat again.
:-P
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
(Long) Help Me Understand Her: Why?
Posted: 4/15/2013 8:03:01 PM
OK......deep breath.
She may have been just wanting a FwB thing with you.
Nothing serious.

You got serious.....
because you are too young to get it.
LoL
It's OK.
That's a newbie mistake.
but now you know.

At work yall are just friends now.
So just be that.
Without the wB suffix.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 117 (view)
 
What is going on will all of the shootings....
Posted: 4/15/2013 6:35:12 PM
The long and short of it is
Gun manufacturers want to sell guns.
any limits on that, limits their profits.

The collateral damage of kids and civilians
is just part of their business model.
And it's a cushy one
as they are not liable for misuse or their product.

If folks were required to have insurance on firearms
we'd have a lot less killing
and victims could at least be compensated.

win/win!
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Forum Link
Posted: 4/15/2013 3:38:53 PM
Well personally I think it is best the forums remain,
but hidden to newbies.

Two reasons.

1) Being newbies they will post something stupid and get flamed.
Then get all depressed over it.

2) Might cut down on redundant threads.
How many ways can we answer the number one POF guy question:
"Why won't girls reply to my messages?"

Geez, if this site had a shock attachment,
I'd be hitting that button every time someone asks that...
AGAIN!

If folks can't get to the forums,
maybe they shouldn't be in the forums.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
scent of an older man
Posted: 4/15/2013 3:21:37 PM
As we age.....
our bodies secrete more thru the skin.
What we eat..... or any internal imbalances...or any meds we take.....
quickly become our own personal scent and ambiance.

When we were younger
our bodies absorbed/digested/processed everything easier.

So as we age,
it is a good idea to eat alot of greens and veggies
to give off a pleasant ambiance.

However if we are heavy on meats, fats,coffee, alcohol or tobacco...
we smell a lot different.

If you are over 45 and want to test this theory...
Just eat nothing but baloney all day and see what you smell like in the evening.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Main Profile Photos
Posted: 4/12/2013 2:49:18 PM
I've toned down my main picture.
to where I look very average.
Wearing plaid is an intentional part of that.

I got tired of women hitting on me just because I was in a suit.
Got way too much mail from dames looking for a generou$ guy.
LOL

I get less mail now,
but have better results.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Free Tickets offer
Posted: 4/12/2013 2:41:19 PM
I think it would be a good idea if he could meet you there.
A long drive with someone you are not into could be awkward squared.
Once there it should be fun no matter how the date goes.

It is a very good guy friendly way to meet.

good luck!
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Do genetics matter in a mate?
Posted: 4/11/2013 9:33:46 PM
I agree with others who said our genes express their genetic programming
subconsciously without us knowing it.

What we may take as passion, love, or desire
may well be our genetic instinct.
and not emotional free will.

I did not consciously select my ex-wife based on genetics.
As I remember it was more about extreme passion and young love.
and I thought....our choice.

However since we got such a handsome and smart crop of grandkids,
maybe it was our genes' choice all along.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Girl finds sexual activity nasty...
Posted: 4/11/2013 4:20:54 PM
OK, two things.

One, don't think about being intimate with her
unless you really want to marry her.

Perhaps that's how she was raised.
Perhaps that is her culture.
And if cynical...perhaps that is her rout to staying legally.

The second thing is don't EVEN think of marrying her
unless you are sure she can warm up to sex.
Virgin or not, when a woman thinks sex is nasty,
she often remains that way.

Surely there are other women in NY you can date.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Psychotic or Logical
Posted: 4/10/2013 6:05:57 PM
It's easy to push a fat guy under the train..... in theory.
In real life....
he'd shove you under the train to save the kids.

So you would be dead,
but at least...not psychotic.

:-P
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Is FATE a factor?
Posted: 4/10/2013 5:59:31 PM
I work around fate as it has never bought me anything good.
So just another obstacle to navigate.

Fate does not mean
that only good things are fated.
:-P
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Long distance dating
Posted: 4/9/2013 5:40:56 PM
I can't answer this.

Wait until you meet,
then ask.
As you may not even like him in person.
No matter how long you've been in contact,
it is still a blind date first time.
E-compatibility is a poor indicator of real life compatibility.

Good luck all the same.
If the meet goes well,
we'll be happy to confuse you further.
LOL
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Stroking her ego ??
Posted: 4/8/2013 9:32:56 PM
My thoughts:

I think you were right about her and the other guy.

But it didn't work out.
(he bored her)
and now she wants you back.

Whether you take her back is up to you.
but lay down the law if you do.
No more of the stuff that annoyed.

Sometimes the grass isn't greener.
And when a woman finds that out...
you have control of things from then on.

good luck.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 40 (view)
 
More questions...
Posted: 4/8/2013 9:02:57 PM
Question #1: Is being an introvert bad for dating?
No, but it makes it tough for you to break the ice
or for a guy to. I suggest you contact guys you may like
and not wait for them to contact you.

In a dating situation, if you like the guy(some)......say so.
Being quiet can be interpreted as not being attracted to him.
So a compliment or a "I'm having a great time" can go a long way.

Question #2: I have a hearing loss. Bad for dating?
Difficult, but if a guy knows that....and is told how
best to communicate, not a deal breaker.

Question #3: Right now, I'm under-employed.
Most guys don't sweat what a woman earns.
Those that do....you shouldn't date.

You are attractive, so most guys will want to
cut you some slack and work around the obstacles.

good luck.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Men over 50 and sex
Posted: 4/8/2013 3:25:19 PM
Since those guys are 10 to 15 years older than you....
I'm wondering if are you meeting them for their health?
or their money?

In shape guys(of any age) will probably be a better match.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Making Me Jealous? Player? CRAZY? I can't deal with these games!
Posted: 4/8/2013 2:59:23 PM
If I didn't post this on your earlier thread,
might as well now:

At best.....you are a potential backup FwB.

However if the mentoring is useful to you,
stay in touch.
But I wouldn't recommend dating him seriously though.
As he seems doggish.
and abit sloppy about it.

good luck.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
First Date Nerves
Posted: 4/8/2013 2:08:11 PM
OK, first off I'd like to say congratulations.
He likes you!
alot!

What you describe is a guy liking a girl,
and being very self conscious about it.
He probably thinks you are out of his league
and has you on a pedestal.

If you like the guy...
that is a good start.

You know he likes you.
You are in control.
and if you patiently date him up to your speed...
you can mold him to your liking.

Enjoy the process.
:-)
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
So....How many of you actually meet someone IRL from here?
Posted: 4/8/2013 2:02:32 PM
Wow. I have been in here off and on 7 years.
(I had to check)

Anyways, within that time I have met numerous ladies.
Some liked me.
Some didn't.
Some I liked.
Some I didn't.

I have had three serious relationships where I
hid my profile and pics.

They didn't work out.
So now I am back in.

Not sure if my track record should be considered
successful or a fail.
I suppose I will know if a 4th serious relationship happens
and sticks.

All I can say is I've had no problem being able to meet and date ladies in here.
If the results are not what I'd preferred,
that is due to who I've chosen
or poor execution after I have.

This site is only about possibilities.
How they work out for us,
is up to us.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Just a question - that's all
Posted: 4/8/2013 1:53:26 PM
To me, you have a nice figure.
But as I am outside your age group
I don't know if my opinion is relevant.

However as a universal rule that always applies....
If a guy is very picky about one body aspect...
he just too damn picky.

So probably best ignored.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Why do Men of a Certain Age HATE Facebook?
Posted: 4/8/2013 1:48:09 PM
^^^
I agree with the above.

I do enjoy seeing pics of my kids and grandkids.
Do love that part of FB.
But not so much the jpeg or cause of the day.
I post vacation pics of my doings.
but nothing else.

I also do not have twitter.
And may proudly go to my grave as having never tweeted.
I mean geez, I'm not a "follower"
and if I had followers then I'd figure those people
badly needed to get a life.

I think when the techno newness wears off
people will go back to doing normal things again.
in real life.

Till then....I am an ahead of the curve rebel!
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 62 (view)
 
unwritten rules of POF for new members
Posted: 4/7/2013 12:11:48 PM
Everyone online is a stranger unmet.
Most, thankfully so.
Just mere chimeras.

so give no thought to them.
no matter the interaction.
(good or bad)
Only give thought and emotional energy to those who you may meet
or know in real life.

There really is no reason to get worked up
over characters in cartoonland.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Bacon Hater! Worst/funniest date evah!
Posted: 4/7/2013 12:06:54 PM
On the one hand.....
that story is encouraging to us guys.
As most of us could do way better than that on a date.

but on the other hand....
it's kindof depressing that somehow...
bacon paranoid guys get chosen at all.

There is a lesson there.....somewhere in that story.
Sortof buried in there
like mysterious bacon.

:-P
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Education and Career... Why ?
Posted: 4/7/2013 11:55:14 AM
To be honest...
I find most women's preferences silly.
(extremely)

If my qualities are not what they are seeking...
I give em no thought.

cus happiness is being
preferred.
:-)
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Is There Something Wrong With My Profile?
Posted: 4/5/2013 4:13:43 PM
Yup, that's because we try to be helpful
here in Ask A Guy.

Not like over in Shrew Land.
Over there, those bitter harpies are constantly filing their claws
just waiting for some fresh kill to wander in.

:-P
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 91 (view)
 
Getting to know someone and seeing if you're 'sexually compatible' or 'teasing'???
Posted: 4/5/2013 4:05:28 PM
Completely_Incomplete,
the scenario you laid out is not teasing by either party.
It is negotiating.
:-P

In dating and in relationships both peeps generally test boundaries
and negotiate limits. As long as neither gets weird or mad about it,
then it is a fun way to clarify things.

And It is a good way for two compatible people to draw closer.
He learns she does like him
when he is allowed to test her boundaries.
And she learns he does like her
when he sparks her up but respects those boundaries.
win/win
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
I was wondering when you get the feeling that you're being taken for granted
Posted: 4/4/2013 8:13:03 PM
Hey that happens to us guys as well.
And when it does, I speak up about it.
and if nothing changes, then pull back.

However if it is a constantly reoccurring pattern,
I would wonder if I am just being too needy.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Need a Man's Advice
Posted: 4/4/2013 6:44:09 PM
Every guy who posts in here will probably give you completely different answers to your question.
Which just goes to prove that all us guys are different
and would react differently to the same situation.

Which also means we cannot know how your ex-guy would react.

So you can only work at your end.
And do what you feel best.

To know...for sure...one way or the other.....
I think you should risk sticking your neck out,
and apologize.
Say all you've typed in here and see how it goes.

Be prepared for a letdown.
He may not reply.
Or reply negatively.

But at least you will know...for sure...and have closure.
You won't wonder about it further.
Knowing each other well and having spent a week together...
I think does give you the right to try one last time.

If he replies negatively I think you two would have broken up anyways.
Perhaps you two cannot jell as a couple.
And if not this...then maybe it would have been something else later on.
So don't beat yourself up needlessly.

It is not foolish to try to patch things up.
and who knows....maybe he'll come around.

good luck.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Is There Something Wrong With My Profile?
Posted: 4/3/2013 8:18:10 PM
I think your profile and pics are OK.
For what it's worth...I'd date you.
but I don't live in Florida.

It's probably that you are separated that hurts you.
But once you are finally divorced your luck
should improve.
 stray__cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Is this true:basically men want a sexy woman/women want a successful man?
Posted: 4/3/2013 8:14:42 PM
I think that is true as to what most folks try to find.

However the supply of successful guys and sexy women is limited.
So most folks will just miss out if they don't broaden their criteria.
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Do all women over 50 cringe when they hear the word SEX !!
Posted: 4/2/2013 7:38:11 PM
Finest wines?
Expensive travel?

Dude, you are trying too hard.
You only need some imported Shampanya:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEHvFr7dO2g
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
A friend that I like and want a relationship with
Posted: 4/2/2013 7:16:21 PM
If I pick up a lady for dinner...
(not knowing if she likes me or not).....
I generally go for the tame hug.
If she looks up at me longingly...yeah I'll kiss her.
but most times.....
it's just a hug.

and that's cool.
Closeness established.
So next I put her elbow/arm in mine
and escort her to my truck.
It's not planned...just naturally happens.
(kindof a polite southern thing)

It's a smooth casual move.
You are already hugging,
so as you break just gently put her arm in yours
and she will naturally hold your hand
as you walk her to your vehicle.
Smile as you do so and she may even lean in on you some.
:-)

So then have a great time.
talk.
laugh.
dance.
Enjoy the spring air.

If you haven't kissed then,
when you drop her off....
repeat the above.
only backwards.
You open her door and gently place her arm in yours
as you walk her back to her place.
then hug.
then kiss.

good luck.
 
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