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Joined: 7/14/2006

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Body size--men this time Posted: 7/20/2006 6:20:25 AM
I am a 47 year old woman who is very health conscious and physically fit. I work out every day, avoid red meat and haven't smoked in 25 years, blah, blah, blah. I say all this because the older we get, the nearer we are to our expiration dates. So when a seriously overweight man, or one that smokes, approaches me for a date, I decline. Our physical decline happens quickly enough as it is, and I am too spry and full of life to become a nurse to a badly aged couch potato. (Excluding a tragic illness or accident of course.) Interesting. People who are overweight have all sorts of excuses, and I get called shallow because I want a wife who does not weigh more than me for once. But I have seen what weight does. My ex, at 52, needs knees. It is not an esthetic issue, it is a health issue. I plan to live another 30 years and I want a partner who can too. It is gratifying to hear that I am not alone in the, particularly from a woman. Thank you.

Joined: 7/14/2006

Msg: 57 (view)

LIve together first or wait untl marriage? Posted: 7/19/2006 8:16:44 AM
The "good old days" when people didn't get divorced does not mean marriages worked well. Without the option of divorce, they had the option of learing to compromise, to get along, and they had the option of seperate bedrooms and not even being friends, and they had the option to simply seperate. I have seen all three. The ones that worked well, or the way you think (not seperated, even emotionally) were commited to the relationship and learned to compromise and work things out. As already mentioned, the (counterintuitive) fact is that divorce rate is higher among those who live together first. Perhaps they are not as commited to the realtionship? I think I hear that here. Outside of physical abuse, people want to test drive so they can see if they can get along with the other person. That is radically different than commiting to make it work. Having said all that, I have always lived together first and then married, so I a obviously not biased against it. You should also know that none of them worked out.

Joined: 7/14/2006

Msg: 57 (view)

Best break-up lines Posted: 7/19/2006 7:14:23 AM
I would not claim that these are the best break-up lines, but they are the most memorable: I don't want to be a wife and mother anymore. I fell in love with my brother-in-law

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Much Older People Seeking Younger People. Posted: 7/18/2006 5:27:20 PM
>Most men of any age can't keep up with my thought processes--it has nothing to do with age but innate intelligence. It would be fun to try, Gwen :) Seriously, I have to agree that age can matter. My last wife was 11 years younger. It made less difference 16 years go than now. At 63, I have slowed down. I can't deny it. I still look at a young woman and think "wow", but a peek in a mirror reminds me of my age.

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Starting a new relationship before ending an old one. Posted: 7/18/2006 10:36:39 AM
... is just plain wrong. Or so it seems to the recipient. But that will not stop it from happening. It can get murky ... seperation can be the end of a relationship, or it can be a cooling off period.

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Okay, is turning 45 the worst or what? Posted: 7/18/2006 6:27:54 AM
LOL!!!! 45? Piece of cake. Hitting 60 was a bit of a bummer, but the best was 50. It really hit my dad hard when he realized he had a son 50 years old. It sure took the sting out of it for me.

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