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eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Interesting concept Posted: 11/2/2009 2:08:11 PM
It's such a paradox, I know.... The funny thing is that I don't ignore a man before he ignores me. It's chemistry. The lousy luck of meeting someone that really turns me on and then 'he ignores' me. The lousy luck of meeting a man that just doesn't turn me on and he 'adores' me. What the heck is that anyway? It's just a numbers game I guess. One in a while, I don't want to ignore a man that adores me. And that works out great!

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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I'm losing my faith and respect for women Posted: 11/2/2009 2:03:44 PM
You say you're losing faith/respect. However, if it's so easy to cast aside, you never had it. Don't think you're fooling anyone, especially 'women'. You reap what you sow with women. If you don't want to make the effort, then deal with the ho's you get.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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COWARD ! - The Ignoring Game Posted: 10/30/2009 6:45:51 PM
I doubt these men think they are 'sparing' the woman's feelings. It's simply sparing their own. They are innately lazy and are getting out of it the easiest way possible. It's always about THEM. I think men find relationships with women tedious because they're wired to be self-absorbed and thinking about a woman's 'feelings' is boring to them. They put up with it when 'sex' is new and somewhat exciting. But when that starts getting routine, there's nothing in the relationship for them anymore. So they dump her. It's really too bad that women aren't given a better type of human being to get involved with. Men are just too unwilling to 'learn how to love'. So they play their games in order to 'get sex'. If you hold out too long, they leave. If you give it to them, they only stay around a little while longer and eventually leave anyway. Consider the possibility that he did you a favor. If he stayed around he would have been more trouble than he was worth.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time? Posted: 10/30/2009 12:31:47 PM
Men are passive aggressive toward women. They set up unsatisfactory situations because they don't have the backbone to end it and look like 'the bad guy'. So they leave it up to the woman to break things off.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time? Posted: 10/30/2009 12:28:43 PM
Devils: However, if you seriously read the bible, most of the lines are started with a warning to 'men'. It's like the book is admonishing you idiots to get your act together throughout the entire Bible.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time? Posted: 10/30/2009 12:26:52 PM
Colonel: Conversely, men just want sex with a woman but don't want to put in the effort to actually 'love' her. (think of porn magazines). Relationships between men and women don't work because men are innately lazy. Forgive us for not finding the majority of you sexy while you sit on your easy chairs and fart all night. LOL

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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The right timing for sex..... Posted: 10/26/2009 1:36:39 PM
Ok here goes guys. Let's say you recently met a woman you like a lot but you know you're going on vacation for two weeks very soon. Would you want to have sex with her before you go on vacation? Or after you return?

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Why do so many think these things turn ladies away... Posted: 10/26/2009 1:33:23 PM
I don't know what kind of women you have been dating, but, as a woman, I like discussing politics and religion. If for no other reason but to learn about the man's opinions and whether or not I agree or disagree with them. If we agree great. And if we don't it's a basis for some interesting adult conversation.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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my boyfriend asked me for money Posted: 10/26/2009 5:46:11 AM
You're lucky he showed 'his colors' so early on. So it will be easier to end it with little to no pain on your end. Good luck. And next time, don't even tell a man that you have or will get any money.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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What you bring to the table Posted: 10/24/2009 3:08:41 PM
Hoping that a woman was born in the same decade as you isn't much of a condition. I think most men go wrong when they go after a young thing and expect her to understand what Sputnik was. You can't have it both ways. Let's face it. Your hair has grayed, you have love handles and a flat behind. Why do you look for women who are thirty years younger than you? When you get realistic about yourself, then you will meet a woman you can have a realistic relationship with.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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What you bring to the table Posted: 10/24/2009 3:05:37 PM
Bliss: Definitely the one you are now.

eastendwoman

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What you bring to the table Posted: 10/24/2009 3:02:18 PM
You say you're not obsessed with finances, but you are. Admit it. If someone lost all their money in this economy, doesn't mean they were financiall irresponsible. You're shallow and superficial. The only one that doesn't know it on this board is you.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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How do I find her? Posted: 10/24/2009 2:42:24 PM
Follow your own interests. If you like archery for instance, you might meet a woman at a saturday class. Then at least you'll have something 'real' in common.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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why are MEN over 40 so desperate to get married?? Posted: 10/24/2009 2:40:43 PM
Men need women more in later years. They need a nurse maid, a mommy, a housekeeper, so they can toddle around and druel everywhere and know that somebody is cleaning up after them. However, women need to know that the bills will be paid while she's mopping up the bathroom floor after he 'miscalculated' his middle of the night pee pee. So it's a wash. LOL

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Putting the Cart before the horse Posted: 10/24/2009 2:17:27 PM
Good move that you blocked him. If he won't be patient enough to get to know you. Then that proves he's only out for easy sex, and he should go screw himself. lol

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Are Your Filters Set Too High? Posted: 10/24/2009 2:11:39 PM
Men are unbelievable. 'Are women's filters set too high?' Gimme a break. Is the translation of that question to mean, why won't women fall down and give them sex when they do next to nothing to prove they care about her? Men were never close to perfect by any means, but at least in the old days a woman would get a rose and an invitation to dinner. Now it's, I don't like to email, I hate typing, how about a cup of coffee and let me jump you in my pick-up. You reap what you sow fellas.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Why Are Over 45 Men In Love With Motorcycles? Posted: 10/24/2009 2:02:09 PM
They think the bike makes them look sexy. They want women to think they're exciting. Probably, NOT. Especially on those bikes with 'saddle bags'. Gimme a break. They want to recede into their long lost adolescence. However, between their ears, they never matured past it. I ignore any mans pic with him on a bike. They look ridiculous.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married? Posted: 10/24/2009 1:59:21 PM
Addicted: Women want to go slow (before sex) in order to make sure the man actually cares about them. However, men push and push and rush them into sex, then 'after they get sex' they say 'whoa', we're not exclusive. Slow down! Men are liars from the get go. You evidently led those women to believe that you cared about them and then put on the brakes when you had to 'prove it'. You're a worm. Those women had every right to be angry with you. Get a hold of yourself. You're not 17 anymore. You're irresponsible behavior is no longer cute, or mischievious or endearing. Grow up and stop lying to women.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Second (or Third or. . . ) Time Around Posted: 10/24/2009 1:15:08 PM
I had practically the same experience. In my first marriage, I realized he wouldn't keep a job, and boom, I left him and didn't look back. However, my old-fashioned Italian relatives (women) said, I took a vow for better or worse and I was wrong to leave him. That weighed heavily on me. So when I met my 2nd husband, I vowed to try harder. Over the nightmarish 28 years, he took advantage of me in just about every way possible. And I stayed. Even 'he' told me to my face that I had no right to expect better since I was already a 'loser' before we ever met. In his opinion, I was lucky to 'get a man at all'. Finally, after 28 years, I left him. I felt drained, used and had no self-worth whatsoever. I realize today that I should have told my old-fashioned relatives to 'stick it'. Marriage isn't supposed to be about tolerating abuse. My 2nd husband didn't respect me, because I didn't respect myself. There will be no 3rd husband. lol

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 10/24/2009 12:48:32 PM
Well, after a marriage to a man that was out of work more than he worked, money is important to me. I'm fed up with getting evicted. If you don't like that answer, what can I tell you. We all need a roof over our heads.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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A Twist on EXPECTING Sex by the 3 rd date. Would You Date Her/Him ? Posted: 10/24/2009 12:28:41 PM
I'm inferring from your post that a woman put some pressure on you to 'put out' before you were ready and thanks for admitting that it made you feel uncomfortable. Women have been dealing with this kind of pressure for at least, decades, possibly centuries. And to be completely frank, it sucks. At my stage of life, I drag it out as long as possible. I won't be pressured, or flattered, or manipulated or bullied. Recently I met a man, he was terrific, but since I was dragging things out 'so long' he lost interest. IMO his loss.

eastendwoman

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do your breakups revolve around the same issues? Posted: 10/24/2009 12:15:36 PM
My break-ups usually are for the same reason. When a man shows he wants me, it's great. Then after he realizes 'he's got me'. He moves onto the next 'thing' he wants. Whether it's more money, or more 'stuff', or more of anything else except 'me'. Then it's time for me to move on. I don't like being taken for granted. lol

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 10/24/2009 12:09:58 PM
You have to evaluate the whole situation. You have to remember what this economic crisis has done to people. Some people are forced to live at home because they can't find a job, and that's not entirely their fault at this juncture. Or, if you're sure they're just 'moochers', then you're right in assuming they're not worth getting to know better. What I'm saying is that you have to think about the big picture before you make a judgment.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Why Indians are scared to love? Posted: 10/24/2009 12:06:55 PM
Actually, Indian customs aren't that different from european or asian customs. Romeo and Juliet was based on true love ruined by their feuding families. In the King and I, an asian couple couldn't love one another because the girl was promised to the king and she and her true love could never be together. These are customs from another age. A time when the life expectancy was around forty years old. There was little to no education and the masses felt afraid of what 'their god' might do unless they lived under strict supervision. Today is a different story. Let's face it India is being 'westernized' as you put it because American corporations outsourced American jobs for cheaper labor in India. With that being said, money changes everything. Suddenly, those that are making a few extra bucks are beginning to question ancient ways. Many other cultures felt this way over the past 100 years of entering the US. What someone would have to do in order to elevate their thinking isn't an easy task. In a way you will find yourself feeling like a 'pioneer' crossing uncharted territory. Elders in your family will be strongly opposed to your 'new self-appointed right' to marry the one you love instead of the one they selected for you. In a way, they might even be envious of your newfound freedom. A freedom they were denied. So sooner or later you will have to make a choice. Marry whoever 'they' want you to marry and live a life that is unfulfilling but enjoy their approval. Or, marry whoever you fall in love with, and face the music probably for the rest of your life. It's not an easy decision. But I assure you, American born people who have parents who immigrated here, have weathered the storm. True love is the right choice, no matter what your elders think or whatever punishment they inflict. Good luck to you in your choice.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Is it bad to compramise our values? Posted: 10/22/2009 8:16:52 AM
I used to be like you. When I was young I would stop fraternizing with people who I found to be liars. But I also found that when I did that, I didn't cut off half the world. It was more like 90%. So I decided to learn how to contend with a certain amount of lying in order to be able to interact with other humans. What got me through was that I learned how to listen to what people said more carefully. Most of the time, when you encounter a liar, they're lying because 'they're afraid' of something. Maybe they're afraid of how people might react if they told them the unvarnished truth. Many people are afraid of being judged so they lie to skirt the issues. And I also weighed factors like, what are they lying about. If it was something superficial, or relatively unimportant, I'd let it slide. There was no need to make an ethical issue out of everything. If their lie got them through the day and it didn't hurt me in any way, so what. However, if on the other hand, someone lied to me and it did hurt me in some way. For instance, like when my ex-husband used to lie about 'paying the bills' and I found out when the sheriff showed up that our rent hadn't been paid in months, WELL THAT WAS A BIG UNFORGIVABLE LIE. And I dealt with it accordingly. He's now my EX. Hope this advice helped. Good luck.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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A real woman Posted: 10/19/2009 6:04:09 AM
Dear Boink: If you're looking for a 'real' woman, the first thing you should do is change your screen name. Just from looking at it I'd guesstimate that you're just looking for a quick encounter. So does it really matter if she's, real, or latex, or made of straw?????

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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What are they here for? Posted: 10/16/2009 10:27:51 AM
I used to meet men from this site after say 3-4 emails & a few calls, but found, 100% of the time, all they wanted was to jump my bones in their pick-up. (Yeah ok... lol) So after learning that, I stretch out the email & phone call phase. If the guy hangs on until I'm good and ready to meet, then maybe we'll have a nice dating relationship. But if he bails, then he wasn't worth my time in the first place. Maybe other women have had the same problem and they want a longer span of time until you jump their bones.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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YOU NEED THERAPY! Posted: 10/16/2009 5:46:28 AM
IMO unless you have thoughts of suicide or thoughts of doing harm to others, I don't think anyone else 'needs therapy'. They just have to give themselves permission to be human. Therapy has been invented as a quick fix in our instant cure culture. We don't need anti-depressants and we don't need to 'pay money' to see someone 'when it's convenient to them' in order to feel better about ourselves. What I learned at times during my lowest lows, is that I felt my worst in the middle of the night when a therapist would 'read me the riot act' if I woke them with my garden variety neurotic thoughts. That being said, I thought to myself, if I could get through a lonely night without them, then I could absolutely get through my day without them too. You just have to learn to BELIEVE YOU CAN.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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YOU NEED THERAPY! Posted: 10/16/2009 5:41:50 AM
NewToMichiana: Perfect response. Very funny.

eastendwoman

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Starting Over and Over Again Posted: 10/14/2009 7:06:00 AM
Forum 123: I hate statistics. Isn't it bad enough we have to be inundated with reports that the stock market is 'better than expected' according to statistics? Now we have to hear about it .. about love? These to-do list/statistic people are getting out of control. Love should be instinctive. The last thing we need now is some dumb-bunny going around showing bar-graphs and pie-charts predicated on our love lives.

eastendwoman

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Starting Over and Over Again Posted: 10/14/2009 6:58:21 AM
You did admit that you tend to 'smother'. That's probably the center of the problem. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to be up their butt 24/7. Maybe you should seek some counseling to learn how to be loving while respecting other people's boundaries. If you address that problem then I think your next love interest will work out better. JMO Good luck.

eastendwoman

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Is our society much more selfish than at any other time in history? Posted: 10/7/2009 6:06:58 AM
Ghost: You have a good point. Many of us are total hypocrites. Some of whom, can't even be honest enough with themselves to admit it. They tell themselves that the US is the best country on earth, however, if you look it up online, America doesn't even make the top ten. The initial reason all of us are so selfish and unhappy isn't our fault. It's what our capitalist society imposes on us. Yet, how we all react to our society's problems is our fault. #1- we don't have to elect officials that lie to us. We have the right to peacefully assemble and question the methods by which we are governed. We could add lazy to the list of misbehaviors we have. Many countries hate Americans because they look at us the way we should be looking at ourselves. We just don't because we don't want to admit that we're screwing up. Nobody in our society wants to inconvenience themselves anymore on behalf of another person. They don't want to explore what's past their 'comfort zone' and commend themselves for their self-respect. Not that anyone should put up with abuse, however, saying 'thank you' or 'good morning' isn't that much of a stretch is it? #2-people who were screwed over by Madoff, deserved it. They were the type of people that would give an employee a less than shining evaluation in order to pocket the difference in their Xmas bonus. You live by the sword, you die by the sword. What goes around comes around. However, isn't it delightfully entertaining to see how all of them are crying now?

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Is our society much more selfish than at any other time in history? Posted: 10/7/2009 5:41:50 AM
While it is true that some Americans have enough creature comforts to be thinking about people starving in far away lands, you have to realize that those kind of people, are thinking along those lines in order to get 'tax write-offs' . When that happens, they're not being generous but actually more selfish. Some people pick and choose who they want to be generous to for self-serving reasons. They want other people to 'think' they're nicer than they actually are. For instance, those ladies in the office who all huddle together and gossip about a co-worker day after day, but never offer even a kind word (that would cost nothing) to that person. But at Christmastime, they're fawning all over one another to chip in five bucks each to help some 'deserving' family in their narrow-minded opinion. Once again, giving sometimes, has nothing to do with how much money you give. You can be unselfish with your thoughts and words and that doesn't cost a dime.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Is our society much more selfish than at any other time in history? Posted: 10/7/2009 5:36:21 AM
I agree. Money has insinuated itself into every personal relationship in this age. Also the corporate mindset of evaluating one another has a lot to do with it as well. We don't permit anyone including ourselves to be simply human anymore. On the dating scene, everyone has their eyes peeled ready to jump back as soon as they see the slightest red flag. Marital partners judge one another without using the love they promised to give on their wedding day. Parents glare at their children's every move waiting to pounce on them for making the slightest human error. We're just all so friggin stressed out. The source of this I think is that we blame ourselves for things that are not our fault. It's not the average person's fault for losing their job for instance, in this economy. But I'm sure most people are down on themselves for being out of work, and they probably get an ear full from their closest family members about it too. When that happens, anyone you might want to date will judge you for being out of work, whether you're male or female. We measure each other's worth by how much money they have all the time. That isn't something we created in our relationships, that's something that our society has conditioned us to believe. We all need to stop and think about the difference between what society has imposed on us and what we really should be doing.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women Posted: 10/6/2009 12:13:43 PM
Men regard women like a TV set. Once they have that remote in their hand, and they're watching a show they like, they still channel surf to see 'what else is on'. It's just the way they're wired. They are never satisfied. You could be a goddess in bed, a great cook, make a million dollars a year, and yes, they will still look around anyway. This reminds me of a joke I heard a while back. Adam asked God, why did you make women so beautiful? God answered, 'so you'd like them'. But then Adam asked God, 'why did you make them so stupid'? God answered, 'so they'd like you'. That's it in a nutshell. Good luck.

eastendwoman

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Should sex be discussed? Posted: 10/1/2009 6:05:32 AM
I was just wondering about this. Sometimes when a man and a woman live together (whether married or not) a short period of time goes by when sex quiets down. Maybe there's work pressure. Or things are going on outside the relationship and one or the other partner 'just doesn't feel like having sex'. It doesn't mean it's over. Maybe it means that both of you are secure in the relationship. So my question is. Since men put more importance on sex than women (most of the time). Would a man prefer to discuss 'the whys or why nots' sexual frequency has waned? Or would they prefer that it just picks up again naturally without any discussion?

eastendwoman

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How does a man approach a new relationship? Posted: 9/23/2009 10:33:09 AM
Of course, I don't identify myself as either one of those categories. I was just curious. Since I'm a woman, I only know about how women handle situations about how to trust a man and I just never asked a man about he might handle it.

eastendwoman

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How does a man approach a new relationship? Posted: 9/23/2009 9:58:00 AM
To be honest, we've all been hurt at least once. But after a man's been hurt, how does he decide that a new woman might be worth pursuing more seriously? To explain, if a man has been cheated on, what kind of 'test' would he give a new woman to ensure that she's not like that? Or if she took him for all his money, what kind of 'test' would he give a new woman to make sure she just didn't want him for money again? Thanks in advance. Have a great day!

eastendwoman

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Never been in this situation, would appreciate a guy's opinion. Posted: 9/23/2009 9:27:55 AM
I think since he started liking you for U in the first place, just continue being U. Don't focus on what he 'doesn't' want you to do. Because once you get into that mindset, then you'll quickly fall into that manipulating game of tisk for tat. Don't measure yourself so much. Just do what you want to do. Don't try so hard to side-step his regulations.

eastendwoman

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What is a man's definition of being a 'gentleman'? Posted: 9/23/2009 9:22:35 AM
I was just curious since I see so many men refer to themselves as 'gentlemen' and/or even use the word in their screen name. Since everyone is so different, I thought it might be interesting to read all the different scenarios men have for the word. Thanks in advance. Have a great day!

Eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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does anyone still write love letters? Posted: 9/23/2009 7:51:12 AM
I dated a man in 2007 who sent me an e-rose on valentine's day. What a turn off.

Eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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does anyone still write love letters? Posted: 9/23/2009 7:46:17 AM
I would love to write love letters. But it's so hard to find someone that enjoys it too. I would even go for love emails. However, most of the time, the men I meet want to jump to the telephone call stage. After that the blush on the rose fades to either him wanting phone sex, or a quick meet, that he tries to steer to a quickie in his truck. I guess the idea of romance is lost unfortunately.

eastendwoman

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Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that? Posted: 9/22/2009 5:14:25 AM
Older men who are fit make me more nervous than other men. You can never tell what they really want. The double-standard is in full play with this problem. No matter how far the women's movement has come, women are still viewed as old while older men are viewed as distinguished. They look at younger women because they know it's possible to still get one. While older women rarely get a younger man for anything more than just a sexual fling.

eastendwoman

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what could it all mean Posted: 9/17/2009 4:40:08 PM
If you see a woman you would like to know better on the subway, write a cute note on a piece of paper and say that it's an awkward moment but you would like to chat. Give her your email. If she responds great. If not. What can I say, it's a numbers game after all. Good luck.

eastendwoman

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Is Being Young The Only Time Men Can Be Polite? Posted: 9/17/2009 4:34:21 PM
Ok here goes. I was at the gym the other day and sat down at my usual stationary bike. A middle aged man always sat at the bike next to me. One day, I said 'good morning'. Not like I was trying to 'come on' to him or anything, but we've been sitting next to each other for like 3 weeks. He wouldn't reply and looked at me like I was dirt. The following day, a 'young hardbody female' was sitting at my bike and I noticed that he was chatting and smiling at her like nobody's business. I thought, 'what the hell'? What's up with that? So I figured he was on the prowl and since I was closer to his age, he didn't want to start up any kind of chat with me. He just wanted to make points with a 20 sumthin airhead and stare at her boobs. What do you 'guys' think? Can't you just be polite and friendly without your pecker getting involved?????

eastendwoman

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Are other countries better at relationships than America? Posted: 9/17/2009 2:35:14 PM
You weren't taught about gender roles because all the protests in the 60's & 70's made the U.S. more open-minded. Women entered the workforce which grayed the line of demarcation about what a woman should do and a man should do. Now in America, couples can make up their own relationship and work on it as they go along. There are no more 'rules' that a woman can or cannot do anything and there are more rules about what a man should do to enhance the relationship other than just bring home the bacon.

eastendwoman

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A Dangerous Perspective Posted: 9/17/2009 1:38:41 PM
The reasons for adultery cannot be understood by anyone who has never been married. When you're single you idolize marriage as a sacred union, which it should be, however, when one spouse crosses the line in the sand (before the other thinks of adultery), things like being irresponsible with money and getting them both in a whole helluva lot of trouble with creditors, or, verbal or physical abuse, or, one simply being the taker all the time and not reciprocating, over many years, the other party gets just plain fed up. Many people don't understand the vows they take when they're in front of the preacher. Love, honor and cherish is something that needs to be proved in every day life and cannot be something that they consider 'just words' and now the law glues them together no matter what. When, and only when, both parties feel loved, their ethics and feelings are 'honored' and they cherish one another, could a good marriage work. Those three words simplify many aspects of everyday life that either party take for granted over the years. So to simply say, a person needs to 'rationalize' adultery, isn't fair, unless you know first hand, how much it hurts when your spouse 'adulterates' those vows way before the other spouse decides to find love elsewhere.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

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Is being added as a favorite an invitation to e-mail? Posted: 9/17/2009 10:04:47 AM
I've wondered what men do when they put me on a favorites list. Since most of the were kind of 'eh', I didn't email them back. But if I came across one that looked nice and had an interesting profile, I would email him. Those men would even respond. But nothing ever came of it after that. So I concluded that they put a woman on a favorites list, thinking maybe she's attractive or interesting, but after that they hesitate. Maybe they're already seeing somebody and don't feel right about going further than that. Maybe they're even married, who knows?

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

Msg: 73 (view)

When You Move In With A Debater Posted: 9/16/2009 10:36:15 AM
Wow, so many different opinions. Well, I didn't want to wash the pots before dinner because, when 'he' washed the pots & dishes before dinner, dinner went cold. I wanted yellow curtains because the backwash was yellow and white ceramic tiles. I chose yellow. And as for the salt & pepper shakers, I just never looked at them when I'd pick them both up in one hand and put them on the table. As far as if I knew he would behave like that, no I didn't because we both moved out of our parent's house for the first time to move in together. I don't even think 'he' knew he was like that until we moved in together.

eastendwoman

Joined: 7/15/2006

Msg: 72 (view)

When You Move In With A Debater Posted: 9/16/2009 10:27:46 AM
Verity: I did not move into 'his' home. We got an apartment together.

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