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__Sara__

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is everyone over 30 taking antidepressants? Posted: 12/31/2007 7:32:40 PM
I heard someone say the hardest thing to be in life is yourself... So how can you be yourself if your medicated? Taking Anti-depressants for a short time to reprogram your thought patterns into a happy more positive way of thinking is maybe ok... However i think they're a huge mistake society is making... Too many people are taking these medications then throwing caution to the wind! Maybe they'll take risks with relationships or breaking the law and even gamble their money away... Ok, not to be rude, but that is an extremely careless statement to make, and you obviously have never had any experience whatsoever with these medications or with anyone who has been properly medicated with them. People with severe anxiety, depression, and mood disorders due to either stress from extreme life situations or chemical imbalances are likely to make bad choices like that BEFORE medication because their emotions are SO overwhelming they can't function properly. That is the reason for the medication, not the effects of it. Medications like these are difficult to get properly dosed, because brain chemistry is such an individual thing that cannot be accurately tested, but that doesn't mean it doesn't need to be worked through until the proper match for a person is found. As someone else said, sometimes these medications simply make you numb, no ups or downs. But when the right dosage of the right medication is found, it allows the person to be in control of functioning not being controlled by their emotions, but still being able to feel their emotions. And God forbid, someone who might be thinking of getting help should read your post, and not get that help because you've scared them off with some ill-thought out ignorant arguement that the medication will make what they are already experiencing WORSE!

__Sara__

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Saturday March 17th: Come out and celebrate St. Paddy's Day @ FunkyTown! Posted: 3/12/2007 2:10:42 AM
Count me in blah blah stuff to make the posting minimum blah blah

__Sara__

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Kansas/Missouri (KC area?) Posted: 1/31/2007 7:27:39 AM
I'm in. Mid Feb sound good to anyone else?

__Sara__

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What next ? Posted: 8/7/2006 4:37:51 AM
Tami, how old are your children? How long have you been seeing this man already?

__Sara__

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Why is it easy to find a girl to have sex with but not for a relationship Posted: 8/7/2006 4:33:06 AM
Just be patient, enjoy being single for as long as you can. Find some girls to go out with, if you get stood up, just keep trying. Dating is a crap shoot, you never know what you'll end up with, but it only takes being really lucky once to win big. You seem like a sweet guy and I hate to say this, but being 19 is not an advantage. For the most part girls don't really know what they want (and guys for that matter) until a little later on in life. Only thing I can tell you is to try and have some fun and hold onto that sweetness as long as you can so that you're not too jaded when the right girl does come along!

__Sara__

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Do women really like threesomes Posted: 8/7/2006 4:25:38 AM
Been there, done that. It was an experience I was curious about, so I'm glad I have the T-Shirt, but it's definitely not for me. I'm a one on one kinda girl and I don't like to share either apparently.

__Sara__

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Calling all Kansas City Singles.... Posted: 8/7/2006 4:22:20 AM
K... well it looks to me like there's alot of people willing to attend... so why don't one of you people who have experience with these things through KC Singles post something going on and we'll go, or setup something just for us... never heard of Class reunion but it sounds good to me...

__Sara__

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should it always be up to the man to make the first call? Posted: 8/4/2006 10:23:30 AM
I don't know how you girls feel, but it seems to me like the amount of time it takes him to call back, and the frequency he calls the first few times after you meet kinda set the tone for communication in the relationship. If he calls alot, then I'll feel free calling him when I feel like it... if not, then I might swallow some "I miss you"s or "Just called to say I hope you have a good day"s in favor of letting him continue to take the lead.

__Sara__

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Spray me, degrade me? Posted: 8/4/2006 10:19:22 AM
Watching your partner get more and more turned on is contagious. It makes EVERYTHING possible. THAT is perfect... right there... sums up the whole experience. Getting off on other people getting off is in my opinion one of the greatest fetishes there is on both sides. I love watching him get turned on by me and I'd do just about anything to watch him get turned on... if I'm a little wary of how it might look, or how I might look doing it... WHO CARES as long as it turns him on? I'm not the one looking at it LOL... There is something incredibly sexy about watching a man get super turned on.. makes you want to keep doing it over and over. It's a great feeling of power knowing you can turn someone on like that, and when you're in love it just makes it that much sweeter.

__Sara__

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should it always be up to the man to make the first call? Posted: 8/3/2006 8:58:27 PM
If you like a woman. Tell her. Tell her as quickly as possible before she moves on. Don't follow any damn rules about waiting. You snooze, you lose. Women are pursued like nobody's business on this site. You don't call her after a date to tell her that you enjoyed the date and her company then that shows you have no class, no manners and guess what...you might just end up with... no girl. Amen Sista.... in my opinion... "two day rules" and "waiting for her to call cos you think she should" is naught but game playing and that's crap... if you're a MAN step up and BE one... personally... I prefer he call first, but I have been known to leave sexy or sweet messages on answering machines to be waiting when he comes in the door...

__Sara__

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Am I the odd duck? Posted: 8/3/2006 8:38:21 PM
By the way............porn stars get paid to have a smile on their faces while being humiliated for your entertainment............ I do it with a big assed smile on my face and I'm not being paid anything but the knowledge that it turns my man on...

__Sara__

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Brazillian (shaved) Posted: 8/3/2006 1:11:33 AM
took a few deep breathes and yanked the strip of..................................about fell out in the middle of the bathroom floor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Unplugged everything......gathered up the bottles and put everything away in a drawer. Went right back to shaving!!!!!!!! Persistance is the name of the game in waxing... like I said in my previous post, if you can get past the first one, you're home free! First strip hurts the worst, and the first wax hurts the worst. Now it barely hurts and I always get turned on when I'm finished.

__Sara__

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Women and makeup Posted: 8/3/2006 12:58:45 AM
Makeup for me is a total mood thing... most of the time I go bare, if I'm feeling a bit sassy I'll throw on some eyes... when I go out I might end up looking like pic #2 on my profile with glitter, eyes, and major gloss... sometimes I'm feeling moody and I go with goth black eyes and black / blood red / or dark purple lips... and then there's the skank makeup I save for special occasions ;)

__Sara__

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Spray me, degrade me? Posted: 8/2/2006 11:44:45 PM
There's one other way to look at this which no one has yet mentioned... it may be about degrading to some... it may be about control to others.... however, to some it is about wanting. My boyfriend and I ended up in this same position not too long ago... me on my knees and him in front of me. I think what turned him on the most was me being open and wanting his cum wherever it ended up... my face, some in my mouth, whichever... it was hot. Girls, try putting yourself in his position... do you like it when your man looks you right in the eyes when you're cumming watching you intently wanting and waiting for you to cum?? Do you ever ride his face, or cum on it when he's between your legs? It's all the same to me...

__Sara__

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Spray me, degrade me? Posted: 7/29/2006 1:53:25 AM
Actually thats a power position. Ok... I've heard men say this before... that they see a woman on her knees as being in a power position... I don't see it myself. For me to get on my knees in front of a man, and put him in my mouth, I see myself as doing something for him... being submissive... can you explain the logic on your side?

__Sara__

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Spray me, degrade me? Posted: 7/28/2006 9:04:34 PM
Personally, I find this hot once in a while... if it feels degrading to you and it's something he really wants to do, try asking him what he gets out of it. Some men just like the way it looks when it goes off all over a girl's face. Personally I think it feels awesome, and I like alternating power roles, i.e. begging for it, getting on my knees etc... and for that matter... if you're sucking him off, you're already kindof in a submissive position.

__Sara__

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Thanks for the sex, now get out... WTF? Posted: 7/28/2006 8:58:28 PM
Good luck to you sweetie, sounds to me like you have the right combination of maturity and spunk to carry long term with a woman at the right place in her life. PS, I absolutely adore your profile description of yourself, very creative! ;)

__Sara__

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How Not to Act After a Date Posted: 7/27/2006 9:12:15 PM
oi.... duh... thanks.. didn't see that ;)

__Sara__

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should it always be up to the man to make the first call? Posted: 7/27/2006 5:30:23 PM
I have absolutely no idea as to the "rules" of calling, never have, never really cared to, but maybe I should get a list from someone LOL. If I like you, and you're too slow on the uptake.... I'll call. I have a guy friend that I usually get advice from on this front because it seems that most men run when you're the one to call first, which I find infinitely st00pid, BUT it happens more often than not, so I tend to seek advice on this now. Now... as to this: As the man in the relationship, you need to follow the 2-day rule. Basically, you should go ahead and call her 2 days after you two exchanged phone numbers, and after you said you would call her. A man calling a woman before the 2nd day (you should call her up the EARLIEST around late afternoon ONE TIME) is normally a semi-big mistake. It's normally a mistake if you are the man and you call her up the 1st day after you said that you would call her as that means that you are expressing to much interest in her and then she will drop ALL interest in you just like if you were a leper with AIDS. I will say that this is bull hockey, I appologize sincerely if this has been your experience with women, because in my mind, the longer he waits, the less he is thinking about me, and personally... I like to be on a man's mind when I like him... nuff said.

__Sara__

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How Do I get her to break up with me? Posted: 7/27/2006 5:15:41 PM
My advice... screw self esteem, it seems to me like she's got a bad dose of the "I don't give a shit about anybody else"s.... she needs a reality check...

__Sara__

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How Not to Act After a Date Posted: 7/27/2006 5:14:05 PM
Damn! They killed the links... would someone be kind enuff to shoot me an email with them? I LOVE a good retard...

__Sara__

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Do you like them LONG or SHORT? lol Posted: 7/27/2006 5:05:08 PM
My ex and I spent the whole weekend together on our first real meeting... I don't know if you would call it "a date" though. We worked together, but never really talked to each other much until this one evening we both ended up at a work party. We talked all night, and ended up back at his place with another guy from the party. The other guy passed out on his bed, and my ex spent the night sleeping on his livingroom floor next to me. We spent the whole weekend together, and spent damned near every waking second together for the next five years. He was my best friend from that day on, and while it didn't work out, it was the most amazing relationship I've ever had. As far as online dating goes, I have had an 11 hour date... we met for coffee and ended up talking about everything under the sun until 6am.

__Sara__

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WHEN IS IT TO SOON TO HEAR THE WORDS I LOVE YOU Posted: 7/27/2006 4:57:02 PM
I'm with Harley... sometimes you just know. I was head over heels for my ex within a couple of weeks and it lasted five years. It didn't end up working out, he left, but it doesn't diminish the fact that I did love him, with my whole heart, and was prepared to be with him for the rest of my life. It took me damned near five years to get back into the dating game afterwards, so it can certainly BE love, but I would say that's certainly not the norm. Love like that doesn't come around all the time. And yeah... admitting twitterpation is totally cute at any stage as long as it's returned LOL.

__Sara__

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Got stood up tonight, but will see her Wed; suggested responses? Posted: 7/27/2006 11:18:42 AM
I'm with her... very classy, way to stick up for yourself!

__Sara__

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No Pic = Hot Chick? Posted: 7/26/2006 6:02:17 PM
When I'm looking I just prefer to pick myself men I'd want to talk to. K... I totally understand what you're saying here, except that the guy I'm dating is absolutely wonderful, and he's not someone that I found... he found me. I had in my search criteria that I wanted a man who was my age (25) or ten years older, because (and no offense here) but in MY EXPERIENCE, there tends to be a bit of a maturity gap with men my age and myself, so I tend to get along better with older men. Then I got an email from a 24 year old, went and read his profile and my jaw dropped. We've been talking for a couple of weeks, and have seen each other a couple of times and I'm totally twitterpated... so in short... I can understand your reason for wanting to pick those you talk to, but you can do that by choosing who you reply to... and ya may just be missing a great one by limiting your options.

__Sara__

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Is dating impossible these days? Posted: 7/24/2006 4:17:11 PM
Fact is, there's a line between being with a horn dog and a monk... the trick is to make her feel attractive without making her feel like she's being pressured.

__Sara__

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Circumcision... Posted: 7/24/2006 4:15:02 PM
K... this is a re-asking of a previous question for which I have seen no response... and since this is a sex forum and people seem quite at home talking about d1ck cheese.... uhm ICK... I'm going to bring it up again.... for those of you women who have had both, or maybe for some of you men who have been both or helped a woman figure it out who never had been with an uncut man... what is the logistical differences here when we are talking about blow jobs and hand jobs? I've been with one uncut man, and I must admit, the BJ was a bit daunting for me which hasn't ever been a problem before... it wasn't bad, just different... like I was starting all over again... Any advice?

__Sara__

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Bad sex Posted: 7/24/2006 3:33:07 PM
Preach on sista!! i've never met a girl that really "likes" giving oral You've now met two... Howdy N Stuff. As for the 19 yr old, she may not be comfortable enough in her own body yet to want to experiment. She may have been told before that she's bad in bed and/or giving head so she sticks to what she knows. Do your best to make her comfortable, don't push, that will backfire on you... just tell her how beautiful she is and how much you like it when she does this etc, and how hot it would be if you could do that... blah blah etc... she'll come around.

__Sara__

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Brazillian (shaved) Posted: 7/24/2006 3:21:01 PM
I just think that hearing an adult using words like "foofer" & "hoo hoo" is hilarious well typically I say snatch... but it just seemed like the thing to say at the time LOL

__Sara__

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How to make a move on a friend. Posted: 7/24/2006 2:11:23 PM
This is an age old question... a good question with a sucky lack of answers... in my experience if you make it past that initial point of "I like you" and let it cool to the point of becoming friends, it's really hard to backtrack. Sometimes you'll look at a friend and all of a sudden think that pair of shorts he's wearing makes him look sexy as hell and want to jump him... but it rarely happens to both friends at the same time...

__Sara__

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Brazillian (shaved) Posted: 7/24/2006 1:35:00 PM
K... the first time is torture, granted, especially if you've been shaving regularly because that makes it grow in thicker... BUT it gets much easier after that. It doesn't get the bumps like before, it only hurts a bit the first few swipes, and personally, it makes me horny as hell now, but I do it myself (I have no interest in someone I don't know taking a gander at my hoo hoo). After a couple of times it does start to grow in much finer and after a few times you don't have to do it nearly as often. Now I have the first few within a week or so but usually not enough to mess with until about the second week. In summary... once you get past the first couple, waxing RAWKS

__Sara__

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can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive? Posted: 7/24/2006 1:28:18 PM
Yep, this is all true. Ya start out with different fantasies and then eventually you run out of stuff to turn you on. Granted, relationship sex is different than porn in general as there is the emotional and mental stimulation as well, but I would definitely back way off for a while so that when you are ready, you are as excited as ya can be. It's like when you hold off your orgasm during, the one you end up having is more intense than the two ya could have had during the hour or whatever you held off.

__Sara__

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Question on inside Ejaculation Posted: 7/24/2006 1:21:58 PM
I apologize, however it was not ignorance, but based on YOUR words.... a first date implies limited foreknowledge of the person, generally speaking, and you said, that she agreed LATER that she felt the same way about wanting a child... which is not something to be taken lightly. And ya might wanna read up on what you call "cultist views" in the form of a newspaper or psychological journal and you might see that there is a reason for the notion that a loving family makes for a more well adjusted child.... the reason is that it does!

__Sara__

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Is dating impossible these days? Posted: 7/24/2006 12:50:26 PM
I think its possible. Both people need to have similar ideas in mind of what they want, and in my experience due to the "disposable" society we live in, too many people have been "tried on" like clothes then thrown in a pile to rot in the closet, so that even when they DO know what they want from a relationship, they get to a certain point, get scared of it happening again, and run like hell leaving the other person holding the bag instead. I think dating in this current society just takes some heart and nobility and bravery that's not terribly common, but it can be done. At least I hope.....

__Sara__

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Experienced Women? Posted: 7/24/2006 12:39:07 PM
Sex is an important part of relationships.... not THE most ahem men cough cough but you should be able to enjoy it as much as he does. Think about what turns you on about the whole process, what gets you going, and then talk with him about it. Maybe there's a thought you can hold onto, or something he can do or say during to help you out. My question is, does he know you're not getting off? And, as alot of these women have said already, there's alot of us that can't get off with simple penetration.... try and find your g-spot if you haven't already, that helps out tons... google it... there's pics and explainations that can help you and him find it. Lots of men like talking about sex, and I bet if you bring it up he'll be more than willing to do what it takes to get you more involved in your sex life.

__Sara__

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Question on inside Ejaculation Posted: 7/24/2006 12:08:09 PM
I've ejaculated in a few girl. The last on the first date, she didnt seem to mind and nor did i....i think i was ready to be a father and it was about that more then anything else. Later on she agreed she had felt the same way. Each other was more or less tolerable considering the payoff. So intimate it was not. And we carried that on for awhile. Turned out she had ovarian cyst's......no child. Dude... are you mental?? You want to have a kid, so you attempt it on a first date with a chick you barely know and aren't very into? WTF? No wonder there are so many freaking screwed up kids with not-together parents. and "I THINK I was ready to be a father"??? I feel very sorry for any child who is concieved on a first date by two idiots who aren't sure they even like each other, but THINK they are ready to be parents.

__Sara__

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Who Likes Big Chicks Posted: 7/24/2006 11:55:58 AM
That may be true Md, but there are more women than men in America, and eventually some men just have to grow up and realize that waist size is not the, and in fact not even truly an important part of a relationship. My best friend is a non-apologetic narcisist and he's always been with the model types. He was with one for eight years who treated him like crap. Now he's dating a woman who's a little bigger than he's used to, not sure he would be able to handle it and finding himself having the time of his life with someone who's sincere and makes him feel like the greatest guy on earth.... so I would say to you, it's wise to pick your battles in life, or you'll end up a loser in the end.

__Sara__

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Who Likes Big Chicks Posted: 7/17/2006 3:52:57 PM
Fat chicks rawk, I grew up in a snooty clickish part of Kansas City, and moved out first chance I got. I'm bisexual and even from my point of view there is something oh so sexy about a woman with the right curves, no matter the size. I'm bigger than I'd like to be, but I am perfectly capable of losing weight if I really want to, and the snotty head cheerleader from my High School ended up fat with three kids and living in a trailer anyway so I think some people just really need to get over themselves LOL.

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