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Joined: 7/16/2006

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FAQ - Instant Messenger Help. Posted: 1/28/2007 6:51:10 PM
What does "see message 1212/late" mean? [see message 1232/late™]

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FAQ - Instant Messenger Help. Posted: 1/25/2007 6:55:18 PM
I have been having the same problem myself. I dissabled the pop-up windows dowloaded flash, and tried again. I still keep getting the "you must upgrade your flash player by clicking on the link". I do and then I get a new browser window which tells me to download flash player. I do and then I get the message that te download was successfull, but nothing changes. What do I do now? [See message 1212/late™]

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over 30 and still living at home Posted: 1/1/2007 7:52:46 PM
This is one of those stories that just won't go away. There are so many misconceptions and pre-judging of people without looking at thier circumstances or taking time to get to know them. North American culture is rife with with the image of someone tsill living at home as some sort of loser or mama's boy. This same culture also reinforces the belief that one must move out of ones parents house as soon as possible, no matter how illprepared that are. I'll be the first to admit that I moved out "", but when I did I was fully perpared for the transition. I experiencd plenty of prejudging when I lived with my parents. Several of the women judging me told me that I could easily afford to hire a nurse/contractor for my parents, and that my parents could do the same. After I moved out those same still judged me. They were worried were worried that I would not have enough money left over after mortgage patments to take them out. A few of those women lived at home, but it was OK for them becasue it gave them the chance to buy shoes, designer clothes, and hang out at expensive martini lounges. How's that for a double standard!!! I am the first born son of conservative Eurpoean immigrents. I was expected to stay and contribute my share of "The Obligation to the Family" at least untill I got married. I was expected to save an invest my earnings. If I had spent all my money on nice cars, gadgets and designer clothing, I would have been kicked out. Thats one thing I'm very greatfull for. After dad returned from the hospital with his new hips, I promply bought a condo that I was keeping an eye on. Immediatly my parents started thier "Why are you abandoning us?/What have we done to you?/ Where's your love of the family?/Those people that laugh at you have no family values!!!/Its wrong to live alone!!/You have been polluted by North American attitudes that have no respect for the family!!/Can you even afford it?!?!" diatribe. It took them a while, to come around. They come from multy generational households, where everyone is expected to stay together and look out for eachother. They are convinced that most North Americans "throw" thier kids out too early, and it is the root cause of some of the problems our society is facing. Even though they are very proud of my accomplishments, and know that I am always a phone call away, they still think I abandoned them and the concept of family. Would I date a woman that still lived with her parents? Yes. Would it bother me? No would I date her if she lived at home because she wanted to afford designer clothing, and/or contributed nothing to her family? Absolutlry Not.

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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 8/1/2006 2:31:24 PM
"Women who just prejudge a man just on this basis are doing just that--prejudging" I experiencd plenty of that when I lived with my parents. Several of the women judeging me told me that I could easily afford to hire a nurse/contractor for my parents, and that my parents could do the same. After I moved out other women that lived at home, but still judged me, were worried that I would not have enough money left over to take them out. How's that for a double standard!!! I am the first born son of Eurpoean immigrents. I was expected to stay and contribute my share of "The Obligation to the Family" at least untill I got married. I was expected to save an invest my earnings. If I had spent all my money on fancy cars and all sorts of gadgets and designer clothing, I would have been kicked out. Thats one thing I'm very greatfull for. After dad returned from the hospital with his new hips, I promply bought a condo that I was keeping an eye on. Immediatly my parents started thier "Why are you abandoning us?/What have we done to you?/ Where's your love of the family?/Those people that laugh at you have no family values!!!/Its wrong to live alone!!/You have been polluted by North American attitudes that have no respect for the family!!/Can you even afford it?!?!" diatribe. It took them a while, to come around. They come from multy generational households, and are convinced that most North Americans "throw" thier kids out too early, and it is the root cause of some of the problems our society is facing. Even though they are very proud of my accomplishments, and know that I am a phone call away, they still think I abandoned them and the concept of family. Would I date a woman that still lived with her parents? Yes, if she is contributing, and planning to make a life for herself.

Joined: 7/16/2006

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Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married? Posted: 7/21/2006 11:38:03 AM
Looks like an interesting subdiscussion on the subject has been added. After attending several singles events with some friends, we got the impression that every woman we met between 30 and 40 at the event was so picky and judgemental that no man would ever be good enough for her. What wsa advertised as a nice relaxing way to meet new people, turned out to be a long drawn out affair with the women dissmissing most of the guys as "Not up to par" (I overheard this at the bar), and the guys we met saying why bother. We could have gone to a bar for the same experience for much less. We will not attend those events anymore. I would like to explain this pickyness explained. I fear that those picky, judgemental women will be alone for a very long time.

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 7/20/2006 11:04:17 PM
I have met several women form other sites without seeing a pic. I don't see anything wrong with it.Those women turned out to be nice, and I have become good friends with one of them. On other occasions, I have had pics e-mailed to me prior to meeting. I have never had the "That picture was really my younger prettier sister" experience either. The 2 most notable observations are that several of the more attrctive women seem to have next to nothing written in thier profiles, or they demand that pics must be supplied by whomeever is contacting them.

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Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married? Posted: 7/20/2006 7:22:08 PM
There are plenty of guys over 35 looking to get married. I am one of them. Unforunately we ones that are are often the ones that are overlooked by women that are specifically looking for marriage. The funny thing is that they: -We often dissmissed because we have not gone through the "starter marriage" yet, and are treated like something is wrong with them. -We are the ones that don't need to become a womans make-over project. -We are the ones that were concidered ncie in the past and were overlooked then and now. The ones that would make great fathers are deemed to be not ambitious enough. -Just becasue we work in technology and the skilled trades women dissmiss us as "nerds", "Homer Simpson", "......That guy that works in a factory.....", and "Just another grease monkey". -We may not sweep a woman off thier feet right away, yet women never give us a chance becasue a spark has to be felt right away. -When we say we are interested in a long term relationship, we are not lying, and that scares some women. -We are happy and content with themselves. Women are convinced that something is wrong with them. I have experienced all the above. Any one else like to add?

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