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 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Grievances
Posted: 3/9/2013 8:30:24 AM
Thanks for the comments everyone. Much appreciated.

I will contact ACAS tomorrow and I'll find out what I can do as I think 3 months is far too long. I also have prood (during my grievance process) that procedures were not followed.

My grievance was about bullying and discrimination. The reason I mentioned holidays was because the company has always given holidays for someone who is sick, to help them financially. In the 2nd meeting I had, I told them I was fit to return but couldn't until my grievance had been resolved due to the nature of it. Despite them knowing I was ready to return, my holidays were still denied. I have proof of people taking holidays while being on sick.

Also, my grievance was against the entire night shift management, and the HR Manager has involved the night's management in my grievance.

I was also never offered representation.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Grievances
Posted: 3/8/2013 5:09:43 PM
I'm currently on 'work-related stress' at the moment whilst my grievance is dealt with. I put my grievance in January 3rd. I received an outcome on February 24th. I appealed it and I have yet to hear back. I still have 3 weeks holidays left which reset at the end of March and I've been refused my holidays due to the fact I'm 'sick'. Since I've put the grievance in, I've only had 2 meetings.

Anyway, it's such a huge story, so I won't bore people. My questions are:

-Should I escalate the grievance to perhaps an external company? ACAS?
-Has anyone had a similar experience?

Thanks ;)
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 22 (view)
 
No Replies
Posted: 3/4/2013 4:19:55 PM
Are you one of those guys who message:

-hey


If so, well...
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 20 (view)
 
GP surgerys
Posted: 3/4/2013 4:15:20 PM
I've never had such an experience, but it makes me angry just reading it. After all the trouble to then request you to move to an alternative surgery is ludicrous. I'd remain in the surgery and put a further complaint in explaining exactly what they said to you.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 16 (view)
 
from America to the UK... dating women
Posted: 3/4/2013 4:07:51 PM
I like how you've called yourself ScouseGuy. Also, you moved to one of the worst places, I don't say that in a bad way - I mean their dialect is difficult to understand if you aren't English.
 lyamb
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 15 (view)
 
A great guy???
Posted: 3/4/2013 7:58:10 AM
I don't think she was interested after meeting you in person. She was just trying to be nice. Let it go ;)
 lyamb
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Second date, no kiss?
Posted: 3/4/2013 7:48:18 AM
Maybe he doesn't want you to think he's just after sex, so he's taking things cautiously slow. If he kissed you; you'd probably be on here saying he's moving too fast. :P
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 17 (view)
 
girls with guy friends?
Posted: 3/4/2013 7:15:05 AM
Just tell your boyfriend that your friend's gay.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 8 (view)
 
what about therapy
Posted: 3/4/2013 7:13:30 AM
I see it as a plus. If someone's having therapy, they're trying to better their life. So many people assume therapy is for lunatics, or for the mentally unstable. That's my opinion, anyway... :D
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 10 (view)
 
whats with womens sudden mood changes at bars/clubs
Posted: 3/4/2013 6:59:33 AM
Seems more like a rant than a question. Just dance, if that's what you enjoy doing, then you shouldn't care what people are thinking. JUst have fun! :)
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Does Size Matter?
Posted: 3/4/2013 6:32:52 AM

dicks, diamonds and wallets.... or whatever the ditty is... basically some things are just better when they are bigger...

if a chap were big enough in these areas, i would forgive him for being a little bit short in height... thats because im not shallow like all them others...


Just high maintenance. :D

I personally think size does matter. I couldn't be with a woman who was bigger than me in either height or mass.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 10 (view)
 
A couple of questions....
Posted: 3/3/2013 7:11:21 AM
You seem so pessimistic. As for the hair, I'd wax, or at least the main parts...I mean, you don't want a nice evening ruined by a woman screaming King Kong.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Memberships yay or nay?
Posted: 3/3/2013 7:03:25 AM
Don't spend your money on this.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Should i ask him out again?
Posted: 3/3/2013 7:02:22 AM
Just pursue him. For all you know, he's thinking the exact same.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Ex Girlfriend's Pictures on Facebook?
Posted: 3/3/2013 6:59:33 AM
I have pictures of me and my ex girlfriends on my Facebook regardless of what terms we ended our relationship. I feel nothing for them but they're pictures of me, so I keep them.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 25 (view)
 
hypothetical question but............
Posted: 3/1/2013 12:50:04 PM
Wouldn't bother me.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 21 (view)
 
how to break the never ending circle?
Posted: 3/1/2013 12:23:30 PM
I've messaged people who have been more/less educated/successful than myself and received replies. I think it's stupid to tell someone not to message on the grounds that they might not be as successful or educated.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Is he addicted to OL dating?!?!
Posted: 3/1/2013 9:20:07 AM
I know you say you only come online to check messages and meet-ups. What's to say he isn't doing the same?

It just seems very hypocritical.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 55 (view)
 
why do women play hard to get in online dating? its a reason your on here!
Posted: 3/1/2013 9:13:25 AM
People have to remember that when you think their playing 'hard to get', their just not interested.

I've never exchanged messages when someone's played hard to get, and if they do; I stop messaging because I assume their not interested.

That's my take anyway. Probably wrong :(
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 18 (view)
 
how to break the never ending circle?
Posted: 3/1/2013 9:06:59 AM
I don't see an issue with men sending too many messages and women receiving them.

How can this 'issue' be fixed? If people want to send messages, then they will. I don't know the exact number of women to men ratios, but I think there's a lot more men, which in turn will create an imbalance in messages.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Money,Money,Money....
Posted: 3/1/2013 8:53:31 AM
What kind of issues have you been having?
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Do you have children?
Posted: 3/1/2013 8:49:05 AM
I've never come across a profile which states "prefer not to say" to the question. If I did however, I'd assume they did have children.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 21 (view)
 
What women like to talk?
Posted: 3/1/2013 8:45:14 AM
Religion. Politics. Ambitions. Regrets. Concerns. World view.

People will argue that these topics are the ones to avoid, but these topics will keep the flame ignited. With the mentioned topics, I think you can really get to know someone. When you're talking to someone over the phone, it can get difficult after the simple small-talk.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Girl taking my number question
Posted: 3/1/2013 8:36:58 AM
I think if you meet up for a second time, there's obviously 'something' there.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 14 (view)
 
how to break the never ending circle?
Posted: 3/1/2013 8:19:37 AM
You say you aren't targeting a specific gender, yet you post in the 'Ask a Girl' forums?

Will someone please simplify the question?
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Why do women think sarcasm is a desirable trait?
Posted: 2/27/2013 4:44:22 PM
Yes, it depends how sarcastic someone is. So the base of argument is that they are VERY sarcastic, where as mine is just that they are sarcastic.

You do define people by their personalities and traits, but not just one.

It's the OP's opinion, he dislikes it, he doesn't speak on behalf of the male population.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Why do women think sarcasm is a desirable trait?
Posted: 2/27/2013 4:19:26 PM
There's a difference?

I'm fully aware of the differences, Professor.

You're a right, a relationship isn't that. But as the OP admitted, he's not a fan of sarcasm. So, let's say he meets up with a woman who turns out to be SARCASTIC! Then what? If anything, he should be thankful he's been given a heads up.

I'm sarcastic and flippant at times, but does that define me?
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Why do women think sarcasm is a desirable trait?
Posted: 2/27/2013 4:12:33 PM
Do you consider 'clumsy' desirable? I don't, and yet I've listed it on my profile.

I've seen tons of profiles where I've read stuff that I dislike, and then I remember profiles aren't written around my needs and expectations.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 16 (view)
 
What am I doing wrong?
Posted: 2/27/2013 3:58:39 PM
Cupid + dating website = irony

Just be patient, friend.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 14 (view)
 
fallow up messages, yay or nay?
Posted: 2/27/2013 3:50:45 PM
Fallow?

1 message - keen
2 messages - little creepy
3 messages - blocked
*Create a new user*
4 messages - restraining order
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Guy says I am perfect for him....but....
Posted: 2/27/2013 3:35:14 PM
He's just telling you anything you want to hear, so when he's sat on his computer all alone, he can simply move his hand to the phone instead of his &&&&&.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Ladies who like to take it slow
Posted: 2/27/2013 3:20:45 PM
Chloroform.

I personally think the best way for this, is to invite her to your house, for a nice meal, a movie, perhaps some Wii Fit (to burn off those calories from the delicious meal you made [or bought...]) After all this and the night is nearing an end, simply ask "would you like to stay over?"
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 28 (view)
 
trust: clean slate or earn it?
Posted: 2/27/2013 3:05:54 PM
I think, despite your relationship exclusivity, you need to earn trust. I can't imagine a couple taking their relationship 'to the next level' with trust issues, unresolved.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 13 (view)
 
The word Love
Posted: 2/27/2013 2:59:24 PM
Regardless of how often and in what context 'love' is used. When you tell someone you love them, whether it was 200 years ago or 200 years from now; it'll always have the same meaning.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Stalker!! O_o
Posted: 2/27/2013 2:38:56 PM
Well, it seems being an upgraded member has it's hidden benefits...literally.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Badge of Honour - my mobile phone is 18 years old
Posted: 5/23/2012 3:44:47 AM
Because old is good. My father uses a Nokia 3310, I've gone through over 5 phones in the same lifespan as his.

Not everyone uses dating websites and Jesus, I couldn't image my grandmother use an Iphone, she'd get stuck unlocking it.

The invention of a 'mobile phone' is exactly what it is...a mobile phone, a phone which is mobile. All these new smart phones are just upgraded mobile phones with extra features which aren't relevant to everyone.

Perhaps it’s nothing to brag about, but I tend to find a lot of people who do mention their ‘oldschool’ phones say it in a more joking manner.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Free IVF.................as long as you're gay.
Posted: 5/23/2012 3:34:42 AM
England's trying to prove that they are anti-discriminitive.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Did I do something wrong?
Posted: 5/23/2012 3:30:46 AM
"Maybe he has no credit on his phone, maybe he has been in an accident, maybe his phone broke or was stolen. Send him an email just confirming tomorrow or phone him - don't text in case he still doesn't have credit."

Ahhh, the optimist! :)


Just move on. If he can't be bothered to reply to a text message, then he certainly can't be bothered to move his ass to the meeting location.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Saturdays..
Posted: 4/1/2012 12:26:19 AM
I went to the cinema to watch Wrath of the Titans. I fell asleep 20 minutes in and awoke on the credits. I was tired; but the film must've been incredibly boring. Anyway, that was a waste of £7.75, popcorn and a Pepsi...
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Fuel crisis scuppers POF romance?
Posted: 3/31/2012 11:58:53 PM
I never knew about this 'fuel crises' and it really pissed me off, because I genuinely needed fuel but was unable to get because of the huge queues :(
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Profile Changes :$
Posted: 3/30/2012 11:47:53 PM
We live quite away from another and because she's at University and I'm fully employed; it can be difficult to arrange proper meet ups. It's been rather busy lately for the both of us.

We speak once every 2 days and text each other regularly.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Profile Changes :$
Posted: 3/30/2012 11:39:30 PM
Hey,

I've been seeing someone for around 2 months. Although we've only met up 4 times, it's been great. Each time we've seen each other (including a night at hers) - it's gone really well.

Anyway, I have no problem with either of us using POF since I use it a lot for the forums; but I noticed she'd edited her profile recently. She also changed it to 'single'. We spoke just yesterday and everything seemed fine; but I'm a little confused as to why she's updating her profile and making it more interesting. Perhaps I'm being a little paranoid, but I really do like her, and I don't want to get too attached knowing it's a dead cause.

Any advise would be greatly appreciated. Should I confront her about it and risk humiliating myself or move on?

Thanks :)
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Date rape, how do we change people's opinions?
Posted: 3/9/2012 6:44:11 AM
I think there should be more focus on online meet-ups. I watched a film recently called Trust about a 14 year old girl who's raped after meeting a man online. The worst thing is...is that she doesn't realise it because she's so in love and so naive that she thinks he loves her. Not only does it show the trauma it caused the girl, but also how it rips the family apart.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Jobs and working...slave labour
Posted: 3/4/2012 5:21:07 AM

Dont bother working when you get paid to do nothing? I got the princely sum of £67 a week and I am expected to work for that. Would you? Would you do your current job for £1.91 an hour?


You say £67 a week, but for all I know; you're doing 5 hours. I'd work for the equivalent of JSA. I prefer my CV to be full than empty. Also, experience is always a bonus.


What sickens me is that companies see the unemployed as some sort of cheap alternative to actually hiring people when they can afford to because they make millions of pounds in profit a year.


I don't understand this.


And being on different wages to your colleagues isnt unusual. I once earned £11 000 a year and a colleague was on £14 000 even though I was qualified to do the job and he wasnt. Because my employer matched his last employers salary and they didn't match mine.


Then go to ACAS. So many things can contribute to someone's salary. Training, yearly wage increases, performance, age, etc...


You chose to work in McDonalds, that is the point. You had a choice. People being forced into schemes or they get their benefit cut don't have a choice. You might complain if you were working a 35 hour week with no prospect of a full time job at the end for £1.91 an hour while colleagues beside you get a wage, overtime etc.


I'm pretty sure that wage is illegal.


Oh and the thing is I am quite sure the Govt are well aware that people will be too busy bashing people on benefits who don't want to do it than to actually have a think and see how wrong schemes like these are.


In 3 years, I've had 3 jobs. I was made redundant in the first 2 but had another job within a week. The 2nd job I had was horrible, I hated it - but I worked it. How was it so easy? Because I did the jobs others wouldn't.

If people are browsing jobs and see a position for a 'cleaning vacancy' - they'll probably just skip it.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Facebook Can Ruin Job Prospects?
Posted: 3/4/2012 5:13:04 AM
They should make some kind of law against this. If a juror looks at a defendant's Facebook page; it's a mistrial and they're removed from the panel (from my understanding). This is because people are judgemental and biassed whether they admit it or not and FB statuses/pictures/comments will always have an influence. If you are perfect candidate with drunken, silly pictures and they look - they probably won't hire you.

But if you apply for a job, fiddle with your privacy settings a bit.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Jobs and working...slave labour
Posted: 3/4/2012 5:02:58 AM
I don't think JSA covers a full-time job. JSA is what? £60 a week? I doubt any official company/business pay £2 per hour (30 hours)...not even apprentices...

The argument of "why bother working when you get paid to do nothing" is unethical and sickens me.

Here is how the wages stand:

£6.08 - the main rate for workers aged 21 and over
£4.98 - the 18-20 rate
£3.68 - the 16-17 rate for workers above school leaving age but under 18
£2.60 - the apprentice rate, for apprentices under 19 or 19 or over and in the first year of their apprenticeship

But no, this can't be classed as 'slave labour' on sooooo many levels.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Does anyone save anymore.
Posted: 3/4/2012 4:56:39 AM
I was stupid enough to get out a credit card with 45% APR even though I could've bought the item, I didn't want to use my own money...I regretted that but learnt :)
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 7 (view)
 
The mass mailing approach
Posted: 2/28/2012 11:50:41 AM
It's not difficult to create a specific message which is relevant to one's profile. Just keep trying; you'll get a response.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 36 (view)
 
The Root of Evil?
Posted: 2/27/2012 8:52:00 PM
Anonymity is the reason why they they do, some people bully others to help with their own insecurities.
 LyamB
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 26 (view)
 
What is God ,Ghosts Spirits Made From ?
Posted: 2/26/2012 12:45:58 PM
I'd say:

45% lie
30% naivety
20% gullibility
5% optimism

I've watched so many documentaries, read so many books that I have past the threshold of 'believing'. I consider everything you stated supernatural or fictional.
 
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