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atouchoftink

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Are looks important when looking for friends? Posted: 3/7/2009 4:24:51 AM
Looks shouldn't matter whether it's friends or relationship... It's about more than what's on the outside...

atouchoftink

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Women V/S Men Posted: 1/10/2009 12:27:56 PM
When God created man she was only kidding..........

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/10/2009 12:26:02 PM
Googled the big word as another poster used it. It was during a time in a four month span my relationship of 30 years ended, I lost my job of 24 years and my mom was diagnosed with Dementia and died in August of 08. Think maybe I became a mental terrorist to myself.... Less than that have brought other people to their knees... With me it just screwed up my head to the point I probably didn't think at all.........FOR A MINUTE........

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/10/2009 4:19:39 AM
Thank you, thank you..... It's all about your outlook.. Mine was pretty screwed up after I lost my mom in August 08 but as they say time is a healer and each day gets a tad easier.. Now what did I do with the stink bait? I'm out to snag a sucker fish............. Isn't that a carp in fish terminology?

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/10/2009 4:05:55 AM
Tri: I need a couple before I started......

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/9/2009 3:51:41 PM
What is Narcissism? ?Written by Dr. Sam Vaknin Part 1: About Narcissism Part 2: Symptoms of Narcissism About Narcissism A pattern of traits and behaviors which signify infatuation and obsession with one's self to the exclusion of all others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition. Most narcissists (75%) are men. NPD is one of a "family" of personality disorders (formerly known as "Cluster B"). Other members: Borderline PD, Antisocial PD and Histrionic PD. NPD is often diagnosed with other mental health disorders ("co-morbidity") - or with substance abuse, or impulsive and reckless behaviors ("dual diagnosis"). NPD is new (1980) mental health category in the Diagnostic and Statistics Manual (DSM). There is only scant research regarding narcissism. But what there is has not demonstrated any ethnic, social, cultural, economic, genetic, or professional predilection to NPD. It is estimated that 0.7-1% of the general population suffer from NPD. Pathological narcissism was first described in detail by Freud. Other major contributors are: Klein, Horney, Kohut, Kernberg, Millon, Roningstam, Gunderson, Hare. The onset of narcissism is in infancy, childhood and early adolescence. It is commonly attributed to childhood abuse and trauma inflicted by parents, authority figures, or even peers. There is a whole range of narcissistic reactions - from the mild, reactive and transient to the permanent personality disorder. Narcissists are either "Cerebral" (derive their narcissistic supply from their intelligence or academic achievements) - or "Somatic" (derive their narcissistic supply from their physique, exercise, physical or sexual prowess and "conquests"). Narcissists are either "Classic" - see definition below - or they are "Compensatory", or "Inverted" - see definitions here: "The Inverted Narcissist". NPD is treated in talk therapy (psychodynamic or cognitive-behavioral). The prognosis for an adult narcissist is poor, though his adaptation to life and to others can improve with treatment. Medication is applied to side-effects and behaviors (such as mood or affect disorders and obsession-compulsion) - usually with some success.

atouchoftink

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Tattoos.......20 years later......visable Posted: 1/9/2009 3:43:26 PM
A tattoo doesn't make a person.... I would rather be in the company of a decent caring human being with ink all over them than to be with a self centered, judgmental, egotistical a$$hole..............

atouchoftink

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Women V/S Men Posted: 1/9/2009 3:38:39 PM
Who care who there coming from.............. It's refreshing to find a man who can find humor in jokes whether it's about male or female.....

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/9/2009 3:36:11 PM
STINK BAIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Especially manufactured for men......... New line of cologne....

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/9/2009 3:15:46 AM
It is what it is and I just let him know where we stand.... Things will work out and I hope he finds someone to be with... As for me I'm going fishing (literally)

atouchoftink

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Tattoos.......20 years later......visable Posted: 1/6/2009 9:31:40 AM
JB: I got my first tattoo while I was married and it was on a whim. Wished I had read your response before I stayed married to him for 25 years after the inking took place.... And by the way he cheated on me not the other way around. Wonder if the tattoo made him do it... Just a thought!!! What the heck is a bad boy image? Someone who has tattoos, who doesn't wear a suit everyday. Define the term to me..... I'd like to know if that's what I'm attracted to.... Next tattoo will be on my forehead: I always seem to fall for a$$holes. Priceless...

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/6/2009 3:14:09 AM
Touche... I heard that one....

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/5/2009 5:46:59 PM
Pretty much how mine came about... The only real problem we had was the head games he would try to play. I ended the sex part but told him we would remain friends and I would still continue to care for his child. His response was he'd make other arrangements....At the beginning we agreed that if we wanted to date other people just let the other know, so after a couple of months I had my first date in years and the FWB tells me he'd rather I didn't go and if I did the sex between us was over. It was a head game through out the entire friendship so it was better to remove myself from the equation..... I rather have the whole cake not the crumbs......

atouchoftink

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Women V/S Men Posted: 1/5/2009 5:37:33 PM
Super keep em coming.......................

atouchoftink

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Tattoos.......20 years later......Boobs.......visable Posted: 1/4/2009 5:36:31 AM
I myself have a few discreetly placed tattoos and 20 years from now I'm not gonna care what they look like. I'll probably have Dementia and won't remember them anyway... My daughters both also have tattoos and like stated earlier it could be worse.. They could be strung out on drugs, be alcoholics, so I'll take the worst of the evils... At least I'm not gonna spend 10's of thousands of dollars on botox, butt jobs, liposuction, only to have gravity hit again in a few years and I'm back to looking exactly as God intended. Saggy boobs, saddlebag ass, and enough wrinkles that my face looks like a road map......

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/4/2009 5:17:27 AM
As I said he was trying to be a player(not that he is). Neither of us dated anyone while this arrangement was in place and if I moved on to a meaningful relationship it wouldn't be to come back to him..... The reason I suggested that he thought he was a player was because of remarks he would make at times...

atouchoftink

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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 1/3/2009 12:04:00 PM
SUMO: Same reason frickin men do............ Put that in your bottle and suck on it.... Same reason sumo's wear their undies in their crack, and are fat......

atouchoftink

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Rejection Posted: 1/3/2009 6:26:48 AM
I have to agree that if all the other person stated was that they did not think they would be a match how could that be misinterpreted as they aren't good enough?

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/3/2009 6:08:52 AM
Agree with that... I believe that was his trying to be a player, but you can't play someone who is not willing to play... Anyways I gained a lot of knowledge and he lost a friend out of stupidity.........

atouchoftink

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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 1/3/2009 6:03:38 AM
As for me it's a matter of likes and dislikes.. I didn't get mine to impress anyone, nor to disgust anyone. It was something I wanted and I went with it. They can all be covered and neither one makes me less a person... I agree that the majority(and I didn't say all) of people that tattoos disgust are the older generation. I can't believe I just said that... I'm 52.. LOL... It's like a female having her privates pierced can be revolting to some and a big turn on for others.... It's a matter of what's right for that particular individual... As for me it's a case of mind over matter... I don't mind and if you can't accept me for what I am you don't matter...

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/3/2009 5:41:46 AM
Cons: #2: I agree as for a minute I was in that type of situation and when I did start dating he just pointedly told me no more sex........... All I said was I'm going on a date, I'm not going out to have sex... Then there's the head games he liked to play...... Don't you know how I really feel about you? Yadie, yadie, yadie.... Yes I know we are friends was my reply. Needless to say this friendship is on the brink of self destruction..................

atouchoftink

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 1/3/2009 5:34:44 AM
Where's the love in the forums????????????

atouchoftink

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 1/3/2009 4:55:27 AM
Smells like clorox to me........................................

atouchoftink

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Pros and Cons of Friends With Benefits Posted: 1/3/2009 4:42:14 AM
I wanted to ask what the views on friends with benefits are. What are the ups and downs of this type of friendship? Is it just a meaningless way to have sex based on the fact that there is no relationship issues to get in the way? So tell me what you think, is this a healthy way to conduct a friendship?

atouchoftink

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NEW YEAR RELATIONSHIP RESOLUTIONS Posted: 1/2/2009 4:16:33 PM
Not that I put too much faith in resolutions, but I'll give it a shot.... I would resolute not to have the dumb asses chewing on my butt at all given moments... Stay out of self destructive relationships and away from men that don't want a relationship, then they do, then they don't. W.T.F....... No wonder I feel psychotic!!!!!!!

atouchoftink

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NEW YEAR RELATIONSHIP RESOLUTIONS Posted: 1/2/2009 4:08:30 PM
yna6: I wanna go.............. Pleeeeease!!!!!!!!!!!

atouchoftink

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The ^ Game Posted: 1/2/2009 4:05:10 PM
^^^ Happy New Years ms.polite... < I agree zee's must not leave the forums..... ^^^^^We'll run the morons off......

atouchoftink

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Responding To Someone Who Is In Denial Posted: 1/2/2009 6:00:03 AM
As for me love and honor mean just that. I was married for 30 years and never once cheated even though he cheated many times.. I ask myself numerous times what did I do wrong? Never once realizing at the time hell it wasn't me... It was his insecurities, his lack of self worth.. Now I'm happy to say he's with a woman that cheats on him(he's aware of the fact) she openly admitted to him she was with him for his money. I'll leave him to weed out his overgrown garden......

atouchoftink

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Have you ever known anyone admit that a break up was their fault? Posted: 1/2/2009 5:51:09 AM
snow: I have a male friend that none of his relationships have ever lasted over two years. He's judgmental, is always right, has no room for compromise, and each break up was the woman's fault... Go figure....

atouchoftink

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Responding To Someone Who Is In Denial Posted: 1/2/2009 5:40:41 AM
prince: There arrangement was to love and honor. Do I believe she knows? No I don't believe she does, but as you've stated it's best to stay out of it... My reason for staying out of it is because I remember what it was like when it happened to me now that I've given it some thought.. She's a smart lady and she'll figure it out on her own... And my friendship stays in tack..

atouchoftink

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Rejection Posted: 1/2/2009 5:35:51 AM
zee's throws her wadded up panties at skydiver........ Clean or dirty???? This one made my morning!!!!!

atouchoftink

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Rejection Posted: 1/2/2009 5:25:15 AM
Promise: No I don't whine and and what would be the point of being manipulative? I just move on as it's not in my blood to just lay down.....

atouchoftink

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Women V/S Men Posted: 1/2/2009 5:22:00 AM
That one was a hoot....

atouchoftink

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Rejection Posted: 1/1/2009 3:10:12 PM
Even though it was their loss......

atouchoftink

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Prayer Request and Updates Posted: 1/1/2009 11:58:56 AM
sea you and zees are two of the kindest people that are on pof....

atouchoftink

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What Does Your Name Mean? Posted: 1/1/2009 11:56:08 AM
A brain, a studmuffin, and gluteus maximus all in one package...

atouchoftink

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What Does Your Name Mean? Posted: 1/1/2009 11:50:28 AM
M: Adorable A: Very good in the sheets R: Perfect person to date C: Great kisser I: Best personality ever A: Very good in the sheets Hee Hee..... Look guys two good in the sheets. I'm not being flooded with e-mails...

atouchoftink

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Your Four Legged Kids Pet Names! Posted: 1/1/2009 11:41:35 AM
Mine consist of Tinkerbelle, and Prince George Chalupa

atouchoftink

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Rejection Posted: 1/1/2009 11:34:39 AM
I agree with you cogie. I've e-mailed men who don't respond at all and I figure they are not interested. Do I feel rejected? No it's a matter of choice... But I don't feel the need to be ugly about it. Aren't we all suppose to be mature adults?

atouchoftink

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Hurting over the Love of my best friend Posted: 1/1/2009 11:30:01 AM
Cut the ties now. I did the same thing and made the mistake of falling for my best bud, had to listen to all the tales of his love life(I mean what do best friends do) but for my own sake much as I hated it I had to let go...

atouchoftink

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Responding To Someone Who Is In Denial Posted: 12/31/2008 6:56:41 AM
She probably does and like a lot of women she's in denial or just doesn't care....

atouchoftink

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Responding To Someone Who Is In Denial Posted: 12/30/2008 6:34:59 AM
A friend of mine husband is cheating on her and she chooses not to see it. Should I try to make her face reality? I'd like some honest opinions on this touchy subject... Below is what I've figured to do in this situation... There are times when denial is the only link to sanity or stability, and it must be preserved. Then on other occasions, to break the bubble of illusion can be a loving thing. Either way it is risky to awaken a dreamer. As her need of denial is intense(and it is) she's gonna lash out at the one who threatens it's validity. Any sound advice would be appreciated...

atouchoftink

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Women V/S Men Posted: 12/27/2008 1:34:38 PM
But soon to be!!!!!!!! Too bad men have two heads to think with and use the wrong one to do it with...

atouchoftink

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Women V/S Men Posted: 12/19/2008 9:41:10 AM
Women have no faults, men only have two.... everything they say and everything they do.....

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Women V/S Men Posted: 12/19/2008 9:38:59 AM
Do you want to speak to the person in charge or the women who knows it all????

atouchoftink

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Women V/S Men Posted: 12/11/2008 10:05:03 AM
Too funny...............

atouchoftink

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Road-Rage Xmas Posted: 12/9/2008 10:45:28 AM
Is there a reason for leaving Christ out of Christmas?????

atouchoftink

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A letter to Dad. Posted: 12/9/2008 10:35:56 AM
Awesome..........................

atouchoftink

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Women V/S Men Posted: 12/9/2008 10:34:15 AM
Don't change the channel football's on, she'll break your neck....

atouchoftink

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WHEN GIRLS DO NOT PUT OUT Posted: 12/8/2008 9:54:23 AM
That's too cool...

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