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Can someone help me to understand men? Posted: 6/13/2008 12:06:18 PM
men, we like sex. A relationship without sex is a friendship and we'd rather be friends with guys (most of us anyways).

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if a guy just wants sex why dont they go on sex sites Posted: 3/18/2007 1:52:05 PM
what is so wrong with just wanting sex! Sometimes people are just not looking for anything serious, there is nothing wrong with that! Sometimes casual sex leads to great relationships. I think people are too desperate sometimes to get into a relationship. Don't rush things or force it, just take it slow and take it where it goes!

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Truth Hurts Posted: 2/1/2007 10:30:01 AM
From my experience..alot of white women i have known or talked to who are dating/with a black man are in such relationships because of ignorant and prejudiced motivations. Some of these white women believe that white men are inferior and somehow less of a man and that black men are superior. Such women glorify a skin colour and attribute certain behaviours, personalities, and skills to skin colour. This is wrong, racist, and ignorant. I don't have respect for such individuals who glorify a race or skin colour and believe in stereotypes and racial generalizations. I hope your daughter doesn't have such racist beliefs about her own kind as well as blacks.

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Is that all women want is sex? Posted: 1/31/2007 4:47:41 PM
I've been there too thread author! My last date made blow job references and i knew she wanted to **** me. It turned me right off. I like women who initiate contact and are not afraid to ask me out on a date but i don't like women initiating sex if i am not in a relationship with them.

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Males disapproving of women having male friends Posted: 1/31/2007 3:20:28 PM
A man cannot be friends with a woman if he is physically attracted to her... only time a man can be a real friend to a woman is if he is a) not attracted to her b) Gay c) Has someone he holds in higher regard ( i.e hotter gf)

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Racism Is Still Alive Posted: 1/29/2007 6:00:58 PM
Racism against whites is more accepted in society in general when compared to racism against blacks. I don't have to prove anything. Look at the media, hollywood, music, school policies. I could go on. I am not an evil slave master.

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Racism Is Still Alive Posted: 1/29/2007 5:00:41 PM
There is more racism towards blacks because there are alot more non-black people in North America. It's a numbers game. Besides my disgust is the acceptance and tolerance of racism towards caucasians. I was not questioning who has it worse as far as racism goes.

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Racism Is Still Alive - and so is Gang Cruelty Posted: 1/28/2007 10:48:41 AM
I hate the double standard in North American society today. A society where there are black only colleges and churches, where there are black-only scholarships, where there is a black entertainment television, black entertainment award shows, black writer's guild, black this black that etc. Why do some blacks feel the need to associate their skin colour to everything they do? Is there a white writer's guild? No! That is absurd! How does your skin colour effect your writing skills? When you associate and specialize things based on skin colour whether it be black or white it is ultimately racist in its very nature because it promotes the thinking that skin colour matters. That it somehow effects things and that we should be labelling people based on skin colour/race . Why would skin colour be in the f cuking title? When you put BLACK entertainment television you turn off a lot of people who may not be black. Why does it matter what colour the author's skin is? Why in this world today, a white kid can be expelled for saying the word "ni*er" yet when i was in school i heard SOME blacks call white guys crackers all the time ( cracker is a racial slur that refers to the crack of the whip by the white slave masters, it essentially calls a white person an evil slave master because of their skin colour). There is a very real double standard in society where whites who are racist are shunned and treated with alot of severity yet blacks and other non-caucasians are celebrated or ignored when they are racist. racism is alrite unless you're white! I came upon a conclusion why i think this happens. I believe that even though the vast majority of white people on this planet today share no connection with the african slave trade ( of which blacks also enslaved other blacks) they feel guilt for it. They feel that hey "debron's ancestors were enslaved by whites" so i'll just ignore or laugh when he calls me a cracker. I will not feel guilty or show remorse for a crime i never committed. Some british and french settlers do not make up nor represent the entire caucasian race. I will not suffer the sins for men long since dead and gone whose only common trait is skin colour. I will not tolerate racism whether it is from a black man, a hispanic, or a caucasian such as myself. Skin colour does not dictate behaviours, personality, or the make of a man. Culture can factor into those but that's another story. This site demonstrates my point further about how there is a double standard in society and racism from blacks and other non-caucasians is dismissed and ignored by comparison. The n***ger" word if you type it out on this site will be censored but the white racial slur equivalent , "cracker" is not censored at all. Being called a slave or an evil slave master depending on skin colour are both equally offensive and shitty so i don't understand the reasoning why one word is censored but not the other?

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SHORT GUYS Posted: 1/28/2007 10:10:13 AM
Myn friend is 5ft7 and i consider that short for a man. I am about average at 5ft10. When i first met that particular friendl i was all smug about his lack of height and thought that i had an advantage over him. Wrong! The guy is confident and has never referred to his height or lack thereof. I have seen him date women even taller then me! He just doesn't overcompensate. I don't think he makes it an issue so it becomes a non-issue with the women he dates. If you make it an issue, it will become an issue. Be strong and confident and you'll be fine.

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Respectful ethnic question Posted: 1/26/2007 11:56:09 AM
I've dated black women, an asian, had some carefree fun with a native chick. Women are women. Black skin, white skin etc does not dictate how you have sex. The individual determines their attitude and behaviour towards sex not skin pigment.

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Was I Ditched!!!!!!! Posted: 1/26/2007 10:49:45 AM
Calsurf why are you directing your comments towards myself? I just pointed out that men are seen as more attractive to most women when they are challenging and less readily available. This man fcked up because he presented himself to be too readily available, unchallenging, and the girl quickly lost interest and stood him up. I mean, unless you have no social life, who plans their b day festivities the day before? I don't phone girls that much myself. But i make sure it is known that i have a life outside of dating, my time is valuable to me, and i don't put up with bullshit. If a woman turns out to be flaky i simply never call her, she's not interested and i don't care of the reasons why. I usually have other girls i am 'talking to'/dating.

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Was I Ditched!!!!!!! Posted: 1/26/2007 10:21:56 AM
I didn't read your initial post in its entirety but i don't think i need to in order to point out how you fcked up. Your birthday was on monday, you made plans for it with this girl the day before. You were too available and you posed no challenge for her whatsoever by being able to make plans for your birthday the day before! If you are too readily available, most women lose interest. You should of told her you had plans already and that you were available (make it a few days down the road to show you have alot going on) say thursday.

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Rejection: nothing to be afraid of! Posted: 7/27/2006 1:09:46 PM
it wasn't a pick up line nor was it insincere. It is a way to find out quickly if a woman is available and it's a good conversation starter...both are key in approaching women and ultimately getting the digits

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Rejection: nothing to be afraid of! Posted: 7/26/2006 2:38:52 PM
not really...some of the stuff like i mentioned before came from books such as the aforementioned...but others things i learned elsewhere or through my own experiences. He's not the only souce on dating tips...and some of these things i learned on my own

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Rejection: nothing to be afraid of! Posted: 7/26/2006 2:16:58 PM
lol well it's things i've learned ...from other people, my own experiences, or books etc. so many guys i know make huge mistakes and i just shake my head incredulously

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Interracial Dating.... Posted: 7/26/2006 1:25:47 PM
the only time i have a problem with interracial dating is when the motivations for dating another race, are in my opinion ignorant and just plain wrong. I dislike when people believe in positive and negative stereotypes of any races.. ( i only date this race because the men in my race are ___ and i like dating this other race because they have___) I have been involved in interracial dating...i was just dating a beautiful guyanese woman a couple weeks ago and now i am presently talking to a black/asian woman. I have dated black, asian,brown, and of course white women before. I date individuals, not a race. white, black, asian, hispanic, indian, native, arab...if i find you attractive and you have the kind of personality i like...game over

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Rejection: nothing to be afraid of! Posted: 7/26/2006 12:38:34 PM
word, for shizzle

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Rejection: nothing to be afraid of! Posted: 7/26/2006 12:07:43 AM
any feedback, pof? Anything you agree or disagree with? Sometimes us men need a kick in the ass, this is mine to you! Get out there and start reeling in those babes

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is this man too perfect? Posted: 7/26/2006 12:05:24 AM
if he is constantly complimenting you and telling you how happy he is to be with you he may be needy and a bit insecure...compliments should be less common and more meaningful (not cheap and easy to earn). You should have to work for your compliments the scrab book of your first three months of dating does seem a bit soon (only three months for heaven's sakes!) and it hints of manipulation as some of your friends have suggested (alot of work put in). If you are having doubts then i believe that the situation is less then perfect and you need to come back to reality. He could just be a hopeless romantic but he needs to tone it down because too much romance is a sign of neediness and insecurity and is usually unattractive to women and could eventually pry you two apart. Tread carefully my dear

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is this man too perfect? Posted: 7/26/2006 12:00:35 AM
he might have low testosterone which could explain his low sex drive. or he could be one of those people who just naturally have lower sex drives. i'd advise him to see his doctor and check his t-levels...or maybe suggest a meeting with a sex therapist/psychologist. I am sure it has nothing to do with you. Having a low sex drive is common among several men and women. Help him through it and support him.

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Rejection: nothing to be afraid of! Posted: 7/25/2006 11:45:24 PM
**caution: not for those with short attention spans, very long but some good advice* Why do so many of us men have a fear of rejection? We can get into fist fights,we can go to war, we can jump out of a plane but we are scared to death about the thought of being rejected by that cute lithe 120 lbs woman! If any of you can relate then you need to get a handle on this fear! What's the worst that can happen qhwn you approach a woman realistically speaking? The worst feeling is letting a opportunity pass you by and mulling over the tormenting question, "what if?" Seriously, if she rejects you so what? Maybe she was having a bad day, maybe she is taken, maybe she's a lesbian (it's possible, girl power!), maybe she is just a cold biotch(and who wants that?). Life is too short to play the victim and to ponder what if's. Seize life by the throat carpe di'em!!(sp?) You need to start talking positive when you are talking to yourself. Don't think about negative things like she is out of your league or prolly taken. Stop the negative self-speak...it will defeat you before you even begin. If you talk positively when talking to yourself then such positive and confident vibes extend to your body language and thus giving you a better chance of achieving success. Use that fear to motivate you...anything that gives you that rush, that feeling of excitement is worth doing. Don't let fear control you, control it. There is nothing to fear but fear itself. You are going to face rejection, it's a part of life.It's what you do after, how you react to it that sets you apart.The most successful people in life don't let rejection bother them. They pick themselves off the floor and keep going. They don't let it bother them or affect them negatively(atleast not for long). You need to take a business approach to dating. How many potential dates will you go on if you approach 0 women? How many potential dates will you go on if you approach 20 women throughout the week? yea...your chances go up when your attempts do. Some basic tips...Hygiene and good grooming will improve your chances...nobody likes a slob and a woman will assume that if you can't take care of yourself even, then you most likely can't take care of her Do not compliment beautiful women, psychologists have proven that it is actually counter-intuitive to compliment beautiful women early on or often and is actually a turn off (women will fight me on this one ...compliment them when you get to know them more...and do it once in awhile because nobody respects or appreciates shallow and cheap compliments) You don't have to have a cheesy or witty pick up line or be very original...just have confident posture and body language (chest up and out, shoulders back, good eye contact, no fidgeting) and say hi!..ask her if she is single and if she says yes, smirk and say you have a friend that you think would really like her! This will make her curious as to whether you do have such a friend or if it's really you! it shows you are playful and confident and it will get you the information you need (knowing if she is available or not) without the guessing game. Then just simply ask her for her number (if she tries to back out or asks you for yours, just smirk and say, "just write down the number, it'll be ok...i will only call you 400 times a day, 600 if it's a slow day!" and crack a smile). Good luck on overcoming this fear

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Buying condoms Posted: 7/25/2006 3:03:04 PM
lol i like buying condoms...to see the reactions of the female cashier as i place Large condoms onto the counter

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