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whothehellknows

Joined: 7/23/2006

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Would you serve on the jury? Posted: 11/23/2009 7:58:24 AM
we will soon have a trial in New York City for the mastermind of the 911 attacks. This is a person who planned the murders of 3000 plus innocent people simply because they represented infidels. He did not care whether they were men woman or children. He is a member of a terrorist group that wants everyone in the world to be either muslim or dead. Well it seems YOU would not do well to serve on a jury because you have convicted this guy based on nothing else other than 'the government said he did it.' If he is guilty, let the government prove the case. I don't want my country to be represented by military concentration camps, indefinite detentions, show trials and legalized torture. If our rights and freedoms are such good things, then let the system work to convict these guys.

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What is going to happen to/in America? Posted: 11/22/2009 12:32:51 AM
Every generation thinks their time is the worst and the end is near. This is nothing new and the world goes on. America will probably eventually collapse under the fiscal burden that decades of loose spending has caused, but it will be a gradual thing and we will still matter in the end. No one stays on top forever and the American military and economic domination is already coming to an end. As long as we continue to spend more than the rest of the world combined on our military we will still be a dominant power, just not THE dominant power. With a shrinking share of the global economic pie, that will be harder to do. Now so much the downfall of the West or America specifically, it's more the rise of the rest of the world. Five centuries of Western domination are coming to an end and the US is just going to have to learn to live with the rest of the world instead of telling them what to do. As far as the future of the US specifically... stagnant economy and high interest rates and inflation are almost a given because of our debts. If they balanced the budget today, we would still have to raise taxes just to pay off 50 years worth of debt. Eight years of the GOP shows they aren't concerned with fiscal policy when they have the power to so something about it, so it really isn't a right/left issue. Both major parties are quite happy to buy their supporter's votes, paid for by other people. Passing our bills to younger generations can't continue forever, so the only question is how long before the real nasty crap happens. We have already screwed the great grandkids, so how much into the future can we continue to fornicate future generations? When China decides to quit underwriting our debt, the shiit will hit the fan. I give it 15 years or so, then the very slow growth, high interest rates and inflation start to really hit home. Think an economy like much of Europe where 10% unemployment is 'normal.'

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Is this a Hate Crime ? Posted: 11/20/2009 10:46:49 AM
Hate crimes are frankly, bullchips. Crimes are crimes, and the punishment should not differ because the victim was a member of a different enthic/religious group. Focus on the crimes, not the background of the victims. If the woman attacked someone because they wore a political party button she did not like, or just did not like the way she looked, that is still the same crime. Why add different levels based on bs issues.

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how do you get promoted Posted: 11/20/2009 9:19:33 AM
Depends on the company, but a strong work ethic does NOT mean you have good personal or management skills. There are plenty of people who are great employees, but it doesn't translate into people you may want in a management position, or one where they have to use initiative, problem solving skills, or the ability to lead others. Obviously personal relationship matter and many people get promoted based on BS, but just because you are good at entry or mid level tasks doesn't mean you are the right fit for advancement.

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couple arrested for not tipping.,, Posted: 11/20/2009 9:15:10 AM
I think there has to be more to the story. It's like every so often you read some article like some kid was arrested at school and the headline reads "Child Arrested For Talking In Class," but you read later (or deeper into the article) that they were running around with scissors trying to stab the teacher after she asked the child to be quite. Pressing charges over a tip is not something the owner would do, and this couple probably would not be willing to go to jail for $16. I am thinking public disturbance or just mouthing off to the cop.

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Blowjob buddy Posted: 11/20/2009 8:52:51 AM
More to the question - what does it make him? Lucky? Blessed? Relaxed?

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Blowjob buddy Posted: 11/20/2009 8:52:04 AM
Let's say you have a friend whom you met recently. Apart from a fairly normal friendship, you engage in receptive oral sex with her without reciprocation. No touching, no intimacy really, not even kissing. What kind of relationship is that? Sounds like a new best friend for LIFE!

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Women on Submarines Posted: 11/20/2009 8:48:41 AM
I think that men who are on a ship for that long need a sexual release, so yes, bring 'em aboard! It's not a fluke that in the Navy 'head' is the name for the bathroom. So not hard to figure out where the phase 'getting head' came from. If women want to serve on subs, bring em on. In my 7 years of military experience (which was about 15 years ago) all the negative issues related to women were almost always caused or allowed by their male superiors in the chain of command. If they are held to the same standards, most women will conform. There are always some apples, male and female.

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People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them? Posted: 11/15/2009 8:18:48 AM
Well I am 41 and I must say that most of the reasons I am single have to do with me. Not that much of a big deal, especially when I meet some women who either have a HUGE baggage collection or in some insane desire to find a husband NOW! Most of the time I am just to lazy to put forth the effort into a serious, long term relationship eventually leading to marriage. I can be the best boyfriend/casual dating partner anyone wanted, but once it gets more serious, it's just not for me. One marriage was enough for me and have no desire to go down that road again. No problem being monogamous or committed, but marriage just isn't going to happen. Obviously that is a deal killer for many women. Many women my age have their biological clock kicking their ovaries and they don't want to waste time with someone who isn't looking for marriage or children. Others have their own issues and drama, but reflect it back unto men and whole groups of said women get together and talk about how "good men are hard to find!" There are plenty of good men out there, just very few live in castles and run around riding white horses while dressed in shining armor. People are looking for perfect in a imperfect world, and wont waste time with someone whose flaws are basically equivalent to their own.

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Catching someone nude by accident... Posted: 11/15/2009 8:02:43 AM
Ive been caught plenty of times lol doesnt bother me in the slightest It hasn't happened to me plenty of times, but when it did it wasn't a big deal. Who cares? The other person normally was a fault for either not knocking or one of us did not know the other were there.

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Bypassing the phone, is it okay or not? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:56:09 AM
When I meet someone new I have zero expectations and I have found when talking on the phone alot, you tend to create them, even unexpectedly. You miss so much about a person when you don't see them face to face and get many nonverbal cues. And since I have low expectations at first, what does it hurt to just meet for dinner/drinks/coffee or something similar? If we click and I have a desire for a 2nd date, THEN I start letting the expectations grow and start having wishful thoughts. lol But before that it really is not that important, so talking on the phone isn't really that important to me either.

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What someone does that really turns you on? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:49:39 AM
Turn ons - Women who have a backbone and speak their minds, within reason. - Active in sports. Nothing is sexier than a fit woman! Not to be confused with skinny, but fit! - Intelligence. Someone who has some smarts about topics I enjoy is a HUGE a turn on. I really don't want to talk about organizational theory or the newest fashion trends, but if she can teach me a few things about why the Minoan's collapsed, I'm all ears! - And of course any woman walking around my house in her pjs is sexy, but by that point I think she already knows. Something about a woman when she first wakes up to me is just very sexy, even with bad breath and bed hair. Turn offs - Don't like animals - Rude to servers. Those two are the biggest deal killers and I tend to think both are psychopathic killers in disguise.

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Should I Report This Guy? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:35:48 AM
Well I will be honest and say I did not read much past the first few sentences. If he seemed confrontation upfront, why did it even go further? If he calls people with a more liberal political attitude 'libtards' then why would you ever expect you are dealing with a functioning adult? No excuse for his behavior and you should not be treated as such, but it's like people who try to pet dogs who growl at them. Whose really at fault when all the signs were there upfront?

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speed dating Posted: 11/15/2009 7:31:20 AM
I would luv to speed date......... as soon as I'm bored............ ding. Speed Dating in many ways is like real dating. If you are open to just meeting new people and the ONLY expectation you have are a nice evening and hopefully good conversation, then it can be a lot of fun. If you are looking for a significant other and hope to find him/her before the appetizer even arrives, then you are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment.

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cheating, how prevalent is it? Posted: 11/15/2009 7:27:10 AM
Before I answer the question, how does the OP know these women are cheating? Seriously. Work place rumors are just that, rumors. Unless you were actually there with the six women, I would not put much stock into what you heard. But as far as fidelity... Woman are just as bad as men, worse in some ways. They just don't feel the need to tell the world who/what/when they are having sex like so many men do. Being faithful just isn't something that society pushes these days, no matter how much many talk about it. Look at how many religious and political leaders talk a good game, but yet get involved in their own multiple scandals? With the advent of DNA testing, there are thousands finding out they are not the child of whom they have called daddy their entire lives. While birth control and women's rights (by allowing women to have careers and not just housewives) have made casual/premarital sex much more frequent than in the past, fidelity in relationships really has never been THAT strong regardless of the hype. How many of the people you know who cheat say that they expect their partner to be faithful and believe monogamy is the right way to live, but yet their circumstances are somehow special that preclude that? Having fidelity while in a relationship has never been as strong a trait as many make it out to be.

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when you deal with a difficult boss Posted: 11/14/2009 11:18:05 PM
Start looking for a new job NOW. Being the new person, and older, your days are probably numbered there if you have this must trouble with the bosses. The odds are he/she isn't going anywhere, you it will be you.

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BF will not tell me his birthdate or where he works - is this Weird to you guys? Posted: 11/14/2009 11:13:27 PM
I had one terrible experience .... she showed up at the office and made a scene.... I never give exact work address or work tel after that incident. I had someone show up at my job once to 'surprise' me for lunch. I asked her to leave and called her later and said I did not wish to pursue anything with her. That's just creepy to show up at someone's job to surprise them. She was trying to cause a scene, just "surprise!" Wasn't a girlfriend, just someone I had went on a date with and mentioned where I work. I no longer share that info with people I am 'just dating.'

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BF will not tell me his birthdate or where he works - is this wierd to you guys? Posted: 11/14/2009 11:00:01 PM
If he is not sharing that info, then you are just some woman he is sleeping with. NOT his girlfriend. It's normal to be a little standoffish about info when you first meet someone, it just common sense. But after you decide the person is more than just a date, sharing information is just part of the deal. If he isn't telling you basic stuff like that, it's a huge flag.

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Should the President render salutes to military personnel ? Posted: 11/3/2009 9:24:54 PM
Like the above poster mentioned, Obama does not slaute, he returns the salute of his subordinates. It's a respectful thing to do. If he did not return the salute many of the same people upset over him doing it now would be bashing him for being so arrogant to not return salutes.

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Join the army at 40 Posted: 11/3/2009 10:00:15 AM
Just from my experience in the military years ago, it always seemed the older 'new' soldiers always had a hard time with fitting in. Going in the military even in your late 20s is tough because everyone is so much younger when you first join, and all the people your own age are much higher in rank. Generally speaking, there is not that much social intermingling in the military when there is a significant rank difference. How would you react being a mature, experienced adult having to report to some 21 year old 'kid' whose sole experience in life is flipping burgers and the military? If you live in the barracks can you handle living with people half your age? I know for myself that teenagers and young adults get on my freaking nerves, I can't imagine having one as a boss now or living with them in a semi-dorm setting. Can you handle an environment that is a wasteland of intelligent conversation? I am not bashing the military, just the age and experience differences. I enjoyed the military a good deal and it is an experience I would recommend to others (well maybe not now since I disagree with Iraq, but that's a whole other topic...), but going in at your age is going to present a whole host of mental/social issues that most recruits would never deal with. The physical activity might not be an issue, but how will you react to someone literally half your age and still wet behind the ears having power over you? I was in the army, but if I were serious about a new stint now, I would seriously look into the Navy or Coast Guard. If you are serious, good luck. But I think your biggest issue will be how you fit into the social enviroment.

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The details... Posted: 11/3/2009 9:34:40 AM
I don't keep track of the details like a detective working on cracking a case, but I do keep my mind open when still getting to know someone. Generally if people are lying to you they get caught up in their own lies eventually. Also MOST (but not all) people's intuition is actually correct. If you get the feeling someone is lying to you but you can't really put your finger on it, for most people they actually turn out to be right. Now there are some people whose intuition is just wrong as hell, so it doesn't work for them. But if I start getting the feeling things just aren't adding up, I'll step away. I might not be able to put my finger on it, but something just isn't right and I don't want any part of it. But that said I really don't put much faith into what people tell me before meeting them anyway. I go into first dates with zero expectations, so details really aren't even an issue unless they 'forget' they are married or attached. Only once it goes beyond that do I start to worry about intuition.

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Good While Dating, But not for Marriage or LTR Posted: 10/31/2009 7:59:31 PM
Well if it was someone or some thing I was not comfortable with, I would not even date them. I don't have double standards for what I like or dislike depending on if it is serious or more casual.

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Initiating contact Posted: 10/24/2009 8:17:31 AM
It's like a conversation. Introduce yourself, mention that you were interested and maybe include WHY you were interested. Make it a few sentences at least, but not very long. I just delete messages I get that are very short that just say "hello" or "How are you?"

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Signs of Endearment Posted: 10/24/2009 8:14:36 AM
He will spend time with you doing something he normally would not do. Such as going to a play or some high estrogen film or hanging out with you and a friend that he can't stand.

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too much in debt? Posted: 10/22/2009 10:54:28 AM
Debt for a home, car or education is okay in my book as long as it is reasonable, but besides that... major deal killer. By reasonable I mean like they have a home that is not McMansion, a hugely expensive car or deep into student loans for a major that frankly is not in demand. I've worked hard to put all my stuff in order and I would expect the same in a partner.

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Girl denied health care for being too skinny Posted: 10/22/2009 8:57:27 AM
I have health insurance and nothing has changed from when I did not. They deny everything and claim it was pre-existing, even when you have proof it wasn't. Those who think our health care system isn't broken have for the most part never used it or have one of the few insurance companies that actually give decent service.

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Are unions at work good anymore? Posted: 10/20/2009 8:24:06 AM
I worked at a company that was represented by the UAW for 13 years. The money and benefits are better in union shops, but the work environment is dysfunctional in many ways. The unions thrive on protecting the lazy, play favoritism, argue over any and everything ( such as: pick a piece of paper off the floor and the janitor wants to file a grievance), and generally create a very hostile work environment. Before working at the union facility I generally made more money than most other people in other jobs I held, it always bothered me to know I was making the same amount of pay as the laziest, most incompetent employee there. Now I don't work in a union plant and while the money is much less (but wages are depressed everywhere), I enjoy the work environment much, much better. All the extreme lazy and incompetent people get fired and those who come to work and take pride in their job are able to enjoy actually going to work.

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Women on Submarines Posted: 10/15/2009 10:12:23 AM
There is still, also the HUGE problem that women are not supposed to be in combat (law, not opinion), so the subs would be limited in scope, wouldn't they? Not law, policy. And it has been broken in every war going back to atleast WW2. Women are still not allowed in combat arms units (infantry, artillery, armor, spec ops), but they are in every other segment and face combat every day in Iraq and Afghanistan. Women have been allowed to fly combat aircraft and serve on surface warships for well over a decade.

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Women on Submarines Posted: 10/15/2009 10:08:00 AM
I think they should be allowed to do any job for which they qualify. Interesting how many countries around the world have females in all kinds of military roles, but in the US apparently we aren't professional enough for that to occur. But personally, I would hate to be trapped on a submarine with a bunch of women all suffering from PMS at the same time.

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Dating outside of one's race Posted: 10/13/2009 8:59:27 AM
If I find someone attractive, I will pursue a relationship with them. But that said I do have preferences in looks, personality and weight, so that weeds out a lot of people. It's not prejudice against their ethnicity, I just tend to find some traits I like/dislike more prevalent in some groups and not so much in others.

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What do you think the world will be like in 50 years? Posted: 10/11/2009 3:33:36 AM
There will be 15-20 billion people in the world, which will create much worse environmental degradation, political turmoil, religious extremism and widespread poverty. Much like today, there will be ample evidence of man made climate change, and there will still be people who claim it's all made up. Lots of advances in science, but they wont keep up with the stresses brought on by over population. Iraq will still be a basket case.

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US national health insurance and US suspicions Posted: 10/1/2009 10:43:19 AM
For all the complaints I hear about how 'poor' health care is in Canada and much of Europe, I have never heard any of their citizens say they prefer the US system. Any system will have it's problems, but overall their health care systems beats ours hands down. And they have several different systems depending on the country, they are not all the same. I actually have health insurance, but they fight to pay for anything and claim whatever the issue is a 'pre-existing condition.' And I am in good health! I am fighting CIGNA 4 months later over a freaking physical! I have a friend (same company and plan) whose husband was denied a cat scan over a possible brain tumor, as recommended by thier doctor. What I gather from what I have read is Obama's plan in basically government health insurance as well as stricter rules governing what private insurers can and cannot do. Roughly what Switzerland offers. NOT government ran hospitals or doctor's offices, just government insurance. If you have lots of money, the US does have great health care. But that is true for any country as those with the funds can always buy better service.

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Meeting her other suitors? - wtf Posted: 9/29/2009 9:07:23 AM
Are some guys really willing to be humiliated beyond all stupidity just because of a vagina? I guess cause I have one, I don't understand how some men lose brain cells from being in close proximity. Well some have more pull on you than others. It like it uses some Jedi mind trick on you and next thing you know you are under it's spell.

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Wii Fit Posted: 9/29/2009 8:58:53 AM
Does anyone use the Wii Fit to exercise? I bought a wii a few weeks ago and have been using the Wii Fit program almost every day. I like how you can track for 'fit age' and weight, as well as some of the other things. I'm sure I do some of the exercises in poor form, but it's fun nonetheless. Anyone else use the Wii Fit?

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Being blocked? Posted: 9/29/2009 8:46:13 AM
If she did not reply to your message, it means she is not interested. So what does it really matter if you have been blocked or not? Many women block guys they are not interested in just so they don't get follow up messages either begging for a 2nd chance or insulting them for not replying. Why do women block guys? Mainly because so many guys are a-holes and can't handle rejection.

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white collar woman, blue collar man. Posted: 9/29/2009 8:40:09 AM
I was actually talking to someone last weekend who has a graduate degree and I assume works in a white collar profession. The moment they found out I worked in a blue collar profession, it was like all these warning bells and whistles went off. She was very upfront about it and said she wasn't interested in a guy with that kind of career. I was actually VERY thankful. Saved me a bunch of time and probably some money by not going on a actual date before finding out how insanely shallow she was. It actually was a decent conversation up until that point. I have had the feeling some people in the past have not been interested because of my lack of formal education or my career path, but I have never met someone who was THAT upfront about it. She was apologetic, but I was literally laughing about it.

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seeing the person you've just started dating on a date with someone else Posted: 9/29/2009 8:31:30 AM
I've had something similar happen and if I am alone, I instantly leave. Not out of jealousy or anything because it isn't that serious, but because it is just weird for everyone involved. If we are just casually dating then I assume she is probably dating other people until we have that 'couple' conversation. If I had it happen when I was on another date, I would just try to stay on different sides of the place. And try not to look.

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Can I collect unemployment if I get fired due to do poor job performance? Posted: 9/23/2009 8:55:13 AM
Why not just look for another job and avoid unemployment to begin with? Oh no, then you can't stay home and milk the system for a few weeks/months.

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How can men sleep with women they have no interest in? Posted: 9/20/2009 11:34:18 AM
Okay yes, maybe happend to me a couple times, but I know its not just me. And where do you accept responsibility for your own vagina? Unless you were raped, don't get mad at men for taking what is being given away.

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What is your number one fantasy? Posted: 9/20/2009 11:32:24 AM
1- What is your number one fantasy? 2 - Or is there more than one, depending on the "emotional climate?" 3 - Do you want to pursue this fantasy, or are you happy with it remaining "just a fantasy?" 4 - Have you or would you share your fantasies with your partner? 1) I have a couple, which one is #1 at the moment really depends on the mood. 2) See above 3) It really depends on my partner. Not a crazy urge because most of the other ones were better as fantasies, but I'm open. 4) I have shared with some people. Not a big deal really because if they freak out, then we would not be a good match on all kinds of levels.

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How does one lie about being gang-raped? Posted: 9/20/2009 8:19:24 AM
Notice how in the news article the woman's ID is still hidden, but the men are mentioned several times? If she was a rape victim, great. But at this point she is the criminal. Interesting how she was about to send 5 men to prison for rape for several years each, but yet the prosecutor is not sure about charging her. The ONLY thing that saved these guys is one of them filmed it on his cell phone. There was a case in my home state recently where a woman cried rape against a guy and it took 6 weeks for the prosecutor to drop charges against the guy, even through the 'victim' has several prior convictions of false rape charges and her own family kept saying she was crazy and prone to do stuff like this. This guy was charged before even a basic investigation was performed. Since the above case apparently involved 5 black men, it makes me wonder if race played a part in this depending on the race of the victim. They should post more details about her since they slandered these guys all over the news.

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Female Homocide Posted: 9/20/2009 8:03:06 AM
I wrote a book here, then went back to edit it. Never mind. lol

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Waking up to a bj... yay or nay? Posted: 9/20/2009 7:59:25 AM
I think he doesn't understand what a great roommate he has.

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Meeting her other suitors? - wtf Posted: 9/20/2009 7:54:06 AM
Can you girls help me decode what the heck she is trying to say with her actions? And why would someone want to arrange a meet-up between the 2 guys she dating? This is one of those things that if you can't figure it out yourself, then no amount of explaining is going to clue you in. But that said... You had a choice in this whole matter. You CHOSE to spend the evening with her and the other guy, so don't **** about it later. If it wasn't cool with you, you should have said so and just dropped her off and went back to your place alone. If you keep seeing her, only hang out at your place in the future if you don't want company

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Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left.. Posted: 9/20/2009 7:48:42 AM
I was waiting so long the waitress had to tell me, everything was paid for but he left. If he has to run like that, he did you a favor. Be glad he left as obviously his character is lacking. But he did atleast pay for everything, so he is only 99% douchebag.

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Casual Dating...what is reasonable expectation? Posted: 9/20/2009 7:45:36 AM
I'm curious to see what the different expectations are here, and especially, are they different between what the men expect vs. what the women expect. For example, if a woman calls you after 2 or 3 days , is that being clingy or needy? Well people have different expectations, not just based on gender. If a woman calls me after two or three days I would assume she was not that interested, but is now bored. I would think if she was interested she would have called/texted/email the next day (or I contact her) just to say "Thank you. I enjoyed the date. blah, blah blah. Let's do this again..." Now if you call and he doesn't call back and you keep calling, THAT is clingy, desperate and needy. To me casual dating is being open to dating other people and things not being that serious. But if I don't hear from the person until they are bored, then that's either just a friend or a booty call. Hopefully both. :)

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Last minute date requests Posted: 9/20/2009 7:39:04 AM
Is it OK to ask a woman in POF to meet you the first time I contact them. Well the first time sounds just creepy and desperate. I think it goes without saying that if a woman replies to your message in a positive manner, she would be interested in meeting you (if you don't screw it up). Maybe not that quickly, but she is interested. Take your time, exchange a few messages and then propose a date/meeting and see how things go.

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When he won't go down on you Posted: 9/19/2009 7:30:05 AM
Well if there is nothing wrong with you (hygiene or odor), I would look for a new guy. Well first I would ask him "why not?" Unless he has a very good reason, start looking elsewhere if it is that big of a deal. I don't really care to receive, so if my partner did not orally service me I could not care less. But to each their own. :)

whothehellknows

Joined: 7/23/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

Your thoughts on someone's history: married more then once... Posted: 9/17/2009 10:46:34 AM
Married more than once raises all kinds of warning flags, directly proportional to the number or failed marriages they have had. Especially since in my experience I have found those whom have been married often seem to be also looking for a long term relationship eventually leading to marriage (again). Just been my experience, but I think those people are rushing into things (obviously).

whothehellknows

Joined: 7/23/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Want more success in Online Dating? It's official - be an Atheist! Posted: 9/17/2009 10:34:59 AM
I am an atheist, but if I changed nothing else and called myself a christian I would still lead a more moral lifestyle than many of those who run around professing they are saved. Personally if I read a profile of a woman seeking a 'god fearing man' or listed church or church related functions as some of their interests, I would not reply. Not so much against that person, I just know we would have very little in common. Plus I just can't handle the hypocrisy that so many live by. If you are going to use the bible as your guide, use all of it and not just pick and choose the verses you like.

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