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venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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what is the best complement you have ever recived. Posted: 11/26/2008 6:18:36 PM
When my son's teacher told me what a wonderful boy he was and what a wonderful young man he had grown to be! THAT was the BEST!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Childhood songs that comfort you now? Posted: 11/26/2008 6:16:20 PM
For me it has to be "River Road" by Crystal Gayle. I'm a rocker by nature but this was the one and only song I could tolerate from my parents, who typically blessed me with the likes of Gene Pittney, Charlie Pride and Carol Baker. Ahhh...I still remember those long road trips with both of them smoking one cigarette after another in the van with the windows rolled up tight (it was cold you know), mixing nicely with the fumes from the leaky exhaust pipes...hmm...wait a minute...maybe I was just high! Maybe Crystal was really a horrid singer and this was all an illusion! Wow! Clarity DOES come with age!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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How Taxes Work Posted: 11/11/2008 6:45:52 PM
OP...as I have progressed toward higher financial literacy in my life, I have come to know and understand that everything you related in your analogy was 100% true! Thank-you for your simplified version of reality...check!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Bad dreams Posted: 9/7/2008 7:42:20 PM
Ok...that's a good one Byrd! Kind of goes hand in hand with Monty Python's "Life of Brian"...you know, the scene where Brian is mistaken as the Messiah and is being chased by a hundred horny and topless women....hmmm....did you watch that before going to bed?

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Good Beer... Posted: 9/7/2008 7:28:45 PM
Somebody out there ought to try out the Polish beer Zywiec...and the Greek beer Mythos! Yum! Come to think of it, they likely tasted better because we were in Poland and Greece at the time...but damn they were good!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Anybody like Jeff Dunham the stand up ventriloquist? Posted: 9/7/2008 7:21:04 PM
Ummm...have you not seen the Dead Terrorist yet??? "SHUT UP! I KEEEL YOU!" You have NOT watched the best of Jeff Dunham until you have seen the Dead Terrorist! Right Nichttamed and 135791?!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Can't get enough of Europe! Posted: 6/8/2008 9:53:21 AM
I just got back from a whirl-wind one month tour of Europe and the Mediterranean. I love it! The culture is amazing, the history fascinating, and the food so "clean" (you know what I mean...no chemicals, preservatives, MSG, growth hormones, etc). I will not hesitate to go back again, and would not hesitate to go back again with the travel mates I just returned with. So much fun!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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tubes tied and the health risks that come with it(women only) Posted: 3/17/2008 7:39:03 PM
I had it done 9 years ago. No problems getting someone to do it...I went to a female doc. No complications since that time, and absolutely NO regrets! I have 2 kids in teen years now and one nearing double digits. Best decision I ever made quite frankly. But that's just me and we are all different.... Besides, nowdays they don't cut, they twist and clamp, making it easier for those who regret the decision and want a reversal. Stay healthy and it should be pretty painless.

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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I love you! Posted: 7/14/2007 1:08:34 PM
Thank-you for your kind words Kazot. I might just do that...and a tropical paradise is just what the doctor order for both of us!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Talking to my girl makes her cum faster????? Posted: 7/14/2007 12:59:10 PM
Hey, I'm with the majority! Sexy...aka naughty...talk before and during an intimate encounter is way beyond erotic! It' s freakin' mind-blowing! Bring it on babe!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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I love you! Posted: 7/14/2007 12:49:28 PM
What I'm hearing from everyone is that there is no way to really and truly SAY "I love you" in a manner that gives the appropriate value to the words. I have always felt that...and right now I am involved with an amazing man...and I struggle every day to tell him how I feel. I have given up on telling (I still do, but again, it never seems like enough), and I just show him. To me, nothing in life becomes anything until you put it into action...desires, dreams, wishes, needs, etc. are all nothing until you realize them through action. Love is like that for me (same with regret and sorrow for wrong-doing). So what do I do? I support him. I listen to him. I help him without being asked. I share with him. I talk to him. I ask him. I confide in him. I touch him. I believe in him...In every way I can I show him how much I care and how much he means to me and how truly wonderful it is that I have him in my life to share our ups and downs. WOW...I feel great just saying that! WHAT A RUSH!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Bureaucracy survival tips.... Posted: 6/6/2007 5:39:08 AM
Thanks...I'm going to do that!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Bureaucracy survival tips.... Posted: 5/29/2007 8:49:26 PM
Agreed...and I have begun the process of moving into the private sector. However, it's not the job I hate...it's the bureaucracy. The system seems to stand in the way of acheiving the very goals that have been set out by the system in the first place. Disillusionment is, in general, a common end result for people I am guessing. Starting this thread was to help shed some light on this problem and to offer some serious help to those who are still submerged in the system and think there's no way out. I appreciate all the comments posted here, and in particular I thank you Mixalot for being so candid. Anyone else facing this issue ( and reads this thread) can only benefit!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Bureaucracy survival tips.... Posted: 5/29/2007 6:13:45 AM
Mixalot, you finally said everything I have thought for 20 years! Thanks for the validation!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Kids who see white lights Posted: 5/28/2007 10:58:28 PM
Anyone out there in POF land know anything or have experience with kids who say they see white lights ( and the kids are NOT in an active state of psychosis)? I am curious. I know that are books written, but I have some personal first hand experience with a child like this and want to hear from others that have some insight...

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Bureaucracy survival tips.... Posted: 5/28/2007 10:53:45 PM
Private sector doesn't do the job I do...yet...because social policy is NOT the forte of a Conservative, capitalistic government...but I CAN do other things...I just wanted to know what kinds of advice others can offer to those who might make bureaucracy their home for the next 30 plus years....you know...save a soul or two!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Bureaucracy survival tips.... Posted: 5/28/2007 8:31:37 PM
Ha! That was my first lesson when I found my personal identity reduced to a number in university. Annnddd...I agree about the voting issue...if I actually believed in the government I was voting for, then it might make a difference. The government I currently work for is far from tansparent, interested in coming in under budget, not because it is the "right" thing to do but because it secures the bonuses for the managers and CEOs, and the people in power are willing to sacrifice clients and staff for a few votes. So, again I ask...how does one survive this treachery?

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Bureaucracy survival tips.... Posted: 5/28/2007 8:00:35 PM
Unionized yes...dog-eat-dog...is so! Just because you have "protection" from unions does not mean that you have protection from your unethical coworkers or psychopathic managers, CEOs and other leaders! It just drives the shitty behavior underground, makes it more subversive and therefore much more damaging and harder to track or prove. Personally, I would prefer to deal with someone who tells me to "f-off" to my face than to try to frame me by "losing" the documents I just handed to them, or telling the manager that I never gave it to them in the first place...anyone else know what I'm talking about? I know you are out there..come on...I want to hear from you!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Bureaucracy survival tips.... Posted: 5/23/2007 10:22:23 PM
Can anyone provide our POF friends with some much-needed advice, tips or just general self care ideas when they work in or with government bureaucracy? What is the key to survival? What does it take to make a change or a difference when the environment seems so unethical and dog-eat-dog?

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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What are you afraid of? Posted: 5/22/2007 9:31:11 PM
Worms! And Nichttamed knows why...

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Unusual Pick Up Places Posted: 5/22/2007 9:26:49 PM
Ok..so that is not me...but I thought it was funny anyway!

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Unusual Pick Up Places Posted: 5/22/2007 9:25:59 PM
My friend is a Child Welfare worker...and following a nasty apprehension and emotional explosion by the parents, the dad gets her into a room by herself at the office and asks her if she might like to go out for chicken sometime! Not coffee...not drinks...CHICKEN! What? I was waiting for the "Kentucky" to be added and I've heard it all! She's not only not interested at this time, but she is also a vegetarian! And the Child Welfare office is not exactly the setting of the Cinderella story.

venus mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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What was your first album,cd? Posted: 10/15/2006 8:43:44 AM
Let's see....I think it was Andy Gibb first and then Meatloaf-Bat out of Hell. I still have that one but on CD now!

Venus Mist

Joined: 7/24/2006

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fess up..... ideosynchrocies Posted: 10/12/2006 8:54:04 PM
I eat yogurt and pudding with a baby spoon....you know the kind with the plastic, padded covering over the spoon part that makes it all soft....it's sad, but true.

oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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What touches youre heart ? Posted: 10/3/2006 7:55:50 PM
Seeing an elderly couple walk down the sidewalk hand in hand...watching my oldest son help my youngest son with a social problem without being mean about it...listening to a baby giggle from deep in their belly...watching my cat clean the ears of my dog...smelling my mom's fresh-baked cinnamon buns...knowing how much the man that I am seeing loves and adores his children...and last but not least, hearing the words "I love you" back when I tell someone I love how I feel about them!

oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Influence Posted: 10/3/2006 6:54:44 PM
This one is easy for me...my kids! Never before have I had to contend with the range of emotion they bring out in me. As a result, I have had to come to terms with all sorts of areas of my life, from my own feelings of self worth to my need and drive to protect my young'uns. I have had to grow emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and yes, even had to take care of my physical well-being because if I wasn't there, who would look after the monsters? LOL. My kids have forced me to face certain truths and certain falacies about my life, and in particular made me remember how to set priorities (is someone really going to disintegrate if they see my kid's bedroom a mess, or is it more important to have fun one evening while we ignore the mess in the bedroom...hmmm?). Yep...the people who have had the most influence on me...my kids! A close second...good ol' MOM!

oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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what is the nicest or sweetest thing someone has ever said or done for you? Posted: 9/29/2006 10:35:50 PM
I had a guy tell me that the man I was dating was dating was the luckiest man alive and that he hoped that that man knew the calibre of woman he had in his midst.......he was sincere, and so full of integrity that he then left me alone to develop my relationship as I needed. I still talk to him every now and then, and he still tells me the same thing.

oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Random Acts of Kindness Posted: 9/29/2006 10:09:48 PM
A coworker was very emotionally unhealthy and unable to work her way through it. I gave her my necklace pendant ( a crystal said to be great for healing and health). I wore it every day as it had been a gift to me. In the moment I felt the need to pass it on to the next person who really needed it. She didn't know it was from me.

oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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wooohoooo ... lol ..the thankful thread Posted: 9/29/2006 9:35:39 PM
The patience my kids are trying to teach me; the memories my family have given me; that I have been given the gift of an open heart in spite of it all; the health of myself and my kids; my ability to see things for what they are in the end; my ability to not put up with crap if that's what I see in the end; my willingness to love and be loved; chocolate; music; books and Cosmo magazines; bubble bath; campfires; those that will willingly and lovingly take part in all that I value and treasure, not because they feel obligated, but because they care about what matters to me.

Oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Oddest thing used as mix Posted: 8/31/2006 8:57:38 PM
Malibu and Diet Rootbeer...we thought it tasted like Oreo cookies...who were we kidding? It tasted like Malibu and Diet Rootbeer! Oh..anyone remember Moody Blue wine...with the denim-looking label? I drank bottle after bottle of that on a very tight budget in school! Why don't they make that stuff anymore..even if it was just for the nostalgia...?

Oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Freaking Out, Doggy Style... Posted: 8/27/2006 8:50:31 PM
My aunt had a cat who would lick the Gold Bond medicated lotion off your legs...my aunt used to freak out about it too...maybe because Gold Bond is too expensive to be feeding to the cat? I don't know....

Oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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A little list of getting to know you.....newbies too... Posted: 8/27/2006 8:32:30 PM
1. FIRST INITIAL?........D 2. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE? ......not that I know about if I was 3. WHEN DID YOU LAST CRY?.......today....nostalgia hit home.... 4. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING?..... Not particularily...but I can read it..that's good 5. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT? .... Buffalo Turkey breast 6. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU? Without at doubt! 8. DO YOU HAVE A JOURNAL? .....No...thought about it lots though 9. DO YOU USE SARCASM A LOT? ....every day..can't live without it! 10. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS?..... yes 11. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP?....not sure, but a few drinks might make the decision easier 13. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOES WHEN YOU TAKE THEM OFF?....no...not ever! 14. DO YOU THINK YOU ARE STRONG? ...in every aspect of the word 15. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM FLAVOR? ....anything chocolate or resembling chocolate! 16. SHOE SIZE? .....8 1/2 17. RED OR PINK? .....depends on the shade, but I'd have to go with red generally 18. WHAT IS THE LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT YOURSELF? ......hmmmm....my love of chocolate ice cream 19. WHO DO YOU MISS THE MOST? ........my cousin Diane...even when I see her she's not with me anymore..... 20. PEPSI OR COKE?.....Diet Pepsi 21. WHAT COLOR PANTS AND SHOES ARE YOU WEARING? .....blue jean capris and a blue v-neck tee shirt 22. WHAT IS THE LAST THING YOU ATE? Semi-sweet Chocolate chips 23. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW? ..... my cat snoring 24 IF YOU WERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE? ....periwinkle blue 25. FAVORITE SMELL? .....fresh ground coffee, certain men's colognes, campfires, the ocean 26.THE LAST PERSON YOU TALKED WITH ON THE PHONE? my daughter....telling me she wants to get a job at 12! 28. DO YOU LIKE YOUR SENSE OF HUMOUR?.......generally...sometimes it's a bit warped, but most can appreciate it too 29. FAVORITE DRINK? .....wine (alcoholic), coffee (but only that first cup in the morning before you do anything else), water in between! 30. FAVORITE SPORT? ...Basketball 31. HAIR COLOR? ...blonde 32. EYE COLOR? .....Blue 33. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS? .......yes (unfortunately) 34. FAVORITE FOOD? ... garden fresh potatos, peas and carrots 35. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDING? Happy ending, as long as it's not a movie that makes me sad first..can't handle that....comedy is where it's at for me...too much of a softie to do the tear jerkers... 36. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED?...Chicken Run...with a special someone 37. WHAT COLOR UNDER GARMENTS ARE YOU WEARING?......none...ever 38. SUMMER OR WINTER ....Summer 39. HUGS OR KISSES? .....oh.....oh....Kisses! 40. FAVORITE DESSERT?......my mom's rice pudding.... 41. WHO IS MOST LIKELY TO CALL YOU THIS MORNING?.......my daughter 42. FAVORITE SEXUAL POSITION?......ummmm....all of them....and anything else that might come to mind...lol 43. WHAT BOOKS ARE YOU READING? .....We Need to Talk About Kevin...not through it yet...kind of a heavy, dark book really. 44. WHAT'S ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? ....Tom and Jerry....and Jerry is a "mouse" 46. FAVORITE SOUNDS? .....my kids talking in thier sleep, rain on the camper roof, the surf at the ocean, silence 47. ROLLING STONES OR BEATLES?....it's the Stones.... 48. THE FURTHEST YOU'VE BEEN FROM HOME? ...in my dreams, Greece...in reality, Florida 49. DO YOU HAVE A SPECIAL TALENT? ....a weakness would be my ability to see myself as having a special talent...not sure that I do. 50. WHEN AND WHERE WERE YOU BORN? ...Alberta....1968....small northern town....to the most interesting redneck family EVER!

Oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Should you give up? Posted: 8/25/2006 8:39:18 PM
Sorry...reruns are NOT considered to be an active participant! Typing skills need some work on this end...lol

Oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Book Suggestions... Posted: 8/25/2006 8:31:12 PM
Pauline Gedge...House of Dreams...if you like a book that has everything. Set in ancient Egypt. The main character is a horrible despicable person, but you can't help but love her and support her. Weird! It's a great book!

Oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Better SEX: Before or After 30? Posted: 8/25/2006 8:23:16 PM
Older...better...older....and better...and better...and better...who could have known hey? (well, I kind of suspected it was true, but suspecting and knowing are two very different things). I can't wait to find out what 40 is going to bring me! Yee haw!

Oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Stressed out!!!!! Posted: 8/25/2006 8:19:34 PM
Let me suggest the best book ever written for those hard to manage children..."The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene...second edition. It saved my life with my son, and it's written for parents, not psychologists. The reality is, some kids can't be managed in the same way as most others...with time outs and removal of priviledges. It simply doesn't work for them and you just end up feeling like a failure as a parent and your child is chronically in crisis state. This book will simplify it all. But here's a warning...let go of all your preconceived notions about what parenting should or ought to look like, and forget what everyone else tells you about disciplining...go into it with an open mind and life can and will get better. My son is nearing 14 now, and we still have our moments from time to time (because he's still an explosive child), but amazingly we have a relationship and we still like each other. He's independent, working and has solid friends now....and isn't that the name of the parenting game?

Oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Should you give up? Posted: 8/25/2006 8:11:03 PM
Hey, I agree with those of you who don't believe in sitting back and letting love find you....does the fridge stock itself without a bit of effort on our part...do your friends know you are a friend if you've never taken time to visit with them...do the flowers grow without water and sunlight....NO! So why do we think we can be passive and observational and suddenly love will find it's way to our laps, nurture iteself on nothing, and we will reap the rewards like children with a good crop of candy? NEVER, EVER give up! On anything! If you want it, get out there and get it. Watching reruns of "The Golden Girls" by yourself every night of the week is considered to be an active participant in life!

Oceanblue86

Joined: 7/24/2006

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Overwhelmed? Posted: 8/25/2006 7:51:56 PM
I think back to what my grandmother always said to my mom...who of course says it to me, "There will come a time in your life when you forget about all of the tough stuff. The battles and the fights and the poor behavior all melt into a blurry mess, and you forget what it was all about anyway." My kids are getting older now (teens) and interestingly, despite the fact that the early parenting years were marked with challenges, I have a difficult time remembering some...no alot..of the things that happened. I think it's a neurological thing that happens too...like when you have a big problem and it seems insurmountable..then you sleep on it and all of a sudden in the morning it all seems managable again. This is alot like that. In other words, everything comes to pass eventually, even though at the time it feels like the biggest kidney stone you ever passed! Kids are the most amazing creatures on this planet...savor it all, because some day it's over...Here's to my offspring!

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