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becca210

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PoF Singles Dance Party - Gainesville, GA - Nov 21st - American Legion Posted: 11/15/2009 5:15:49 PM
Hi everyone....I'm guilty of checking out some profiles to see if anyone is close to my age......sadly most are not...but that doesn't bother me....I just want to meet some fun/single people......and believe that age is just a number...common interests are more important to me. I hope to join you on the 21st but I've not signed up...I'm not 100% well and never know how things will go.....but I have good intentions. Classic Man......I wanted to ask you something but can't message you. Hopefully, I can talk to you later. Becca

becca210

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Monroe, Ga. Saturday, August 15, 2009 - Los 3 Mariachis - 8pm - POF singles meet and greet Posted: 8/7/2009 3:49:16 PM
I've not signed up yet but do plan to attend. I attempted to send mail to Monroe Man...but am too old...lol. I have an old friend (within your age range) that just moved to Monroe and I plan to bring her with me......hopefully you can meet. I will officially sign up when I've confirmed all this. Great to see something so close and this will be my first POF outing as well.

becca210

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Gainesville, GA - PoF Singles Dance Party - June 20th - American Legion Posted: 5/24/2009 5:22:58 AM
I had signed up for the May dance and just was not well enough to come on my own. I intend to gather a few friends and make it this time. Thanks for giving us an option!!

becca210

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Gainesville, GA - PoF Singles Dance Party - May 16th - American Legion Posted: 5/14/2009 11:54:54 PM
I am planning on attending this meeting. Have been wanting to for some time..hopefully this will be the one....sounds like a great crowd.

becca210

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SHINDIG at my house November 15th, 2008, East Dublin, GA. Posted: 11/15/2008 12:20:16 PM
Happy Birthday....life just gets better, it's just a number but you are older and wiser. I hope the party is a huge success....sounds like a great time. I'm gonna come that way soon......meet some of the nice people. Becca

becca210

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Odd dating requests... Posted: 9/29/2008 8:35:38 AM
OP, I think most women have had similar requests but certainly not on the first date. I think you should just step back and think about what you were expecting from the date and your future. If you were looking for something more serious in the long run and find her behavior strange....she is probably not for you. If you were looking for some kicks....give her a shot. Years ago, I spoiled my father with really expensive/100% cotton boxers. He questioned me about them....saying how wonderful they were......so I continued to buy them. When he passed away....there were still new ones in the drawer and my college age nieces.... took them (along with matching tees). They wanted something of his......and they loved sleeping in boxers. I don't think it strange......just not the best move on a date where first impressions count. JMO.....Becca

becca210

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Deleting profile b/c of inappropriate messages from men Posted: 9/7/2008 4:10:00 PM
Frankly, I'm surprised you got any kind of response from that profile. It says nothing. You must have had a very appealing photo!! Bottom line, finding MR. Right takes time and a tough exterior.....same for the guys. If you aren't willing to put out the effort....it's best for you to move on. Becca

becca210

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3 Months, no sex? Posted: 9/7/2008 2:07:50 PM
Call her bluff...not in the literal sense but move her to the friend zone and start dating someone else. Only she knows her reasons and we can speculate all day......but if she has feelings that she had managed to hide; seeing you with someone else will trigger her emotions. I do not believe it is normal to withhold feelings that long...you can maintain your virginity (which is not the issue) but you can't hide it when someone really excites you. Therefore, I think you owe it to yourself to find out.....regardless of the outcome. Becca

becca210

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Why are they so mean? Posted: 8/15/2008 7:17:37 AM
OP, I'm not sure you are listening. Are they telling you that they may be interested in dating or going further? Sounds like you might be guilty of hearing what you "want to hear". It is a common mistake that women make (maybe some guys too) and sometimes it will cost you a great guy that doesn't like to be rushed. A real relationship must come in stages and move at the pace of both of you. Honestly, it is all about timing and sometimes our timing is just wrong. Don't discount us "older women"....we have experience that you don't have; but you have to learn to navigate dating for yourself. Think of it like "shoe shopping"........you certainly don't buy every pair you try on...but you don't find the right pair without "trying on" many pairs. I met someone from POF back in February and we are still uncertain what to call our friendship, mostly because we are rarely on the same page. Good luck to you. You have already received some good advise and on POF you shouldn't bare your soul without expecting people to be honest and caring. Becca

becca210

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Athens Rules... Lets get a POF hang out here!!! Posted: 7/28/2008 10:57:30 PM
I have no idea how many POFers are in this area but it would be nice to at least have the first meeting......just to find out. If you know others already, why not come up with some tentative plans and put them out there. Becca

becca210

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The older I get......... Posted: 7/27/2008 2:22:30 PM
As a much older woman, I find that my wants/needs have changed over the years; yet I still sometimes don't know what I want. I know a lot about what I DON'T want...or will not put with from experience. I've been divorced for over 30 years.......so it is questionable as to whether marriage is or will ever be right for me again. However, I know I don't want to spend my golden years alone..so what do I do? Even with all this experience, I still find that I sometimes have difficulty reading men. Some still give you the rush until they get what they want.......and are right be to commitment issues once you think things are progressing smoothly. Bottom line, it will never get easy.........you have to make the best choices you know how and be honest with yourself about your feelings and needs. Becca

becca210

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What to cook!!!! Posted: 3/12/2008 11:24:58 AM
This is an idea for a meal that is really easy and impressive to your tastebuds and your company. Pork Tenderloin, Asparagus and Yellow Rice. Prepare a package of Mahatma yellow rice according to directions. Great just like this but you can add spices if you like. Takes 20 minutes to cook. Take a small tenderloin (1 for 2 people) and marinate in a combo of citrus juice (I use what I have on hand - lemon, lime, grapefruit) and Worchestershire sauce. You can marinate overnite or for an hour...it's ok. Seer the tenderloin in a large skillet....then put a lid on to even the cooking. Brush with remainder of marinade every time you turn. When the meat is about done, move to the side of the pan and add fresh asparagus that you have covered in EVOO (olive oil). Don't overcook the asparagus....! Top asparagus with bleu cheese crumbles if you like. All of this should be ready at the same time. Very aromatic and lots of color on your plate. If you desire bread, try these. Canned biscuits...better variety with butter flavor is best. Cut into 2 or 3 pieces. Place on baking sheet. Brush with bleu cheese dressing (great way to use up the last in a bottle). Top with poppy or seseme seed, garlic or parsley. Bake until tops are bubbly and browning. Even if you are not a fan of bleu cheese, you will love these. I guarantee you a happy dinner party!! Becca

becca210

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Anyone else rather SKIP the phone conversations? Posted: 2/23/2008 1:14:40 AM
I would never meet anyone without talking on the phone. Maybe it goes back to my headhunter days......but I can tell so much from the phone ...that I could never learn from emails. I can tell you that I've given my cell number to several guys that have never used it. That tells me they aren't serious......and it goes no further. If a guy calls when he said he was going to.......then you can pretty much count on him to show up for the date . However, the main reason I want to talk on the phone is to hear the voice......the strength of the voice, the comfort of that person in the conversation...just so many things. If you are uncomfortable talking on the phone, I encourage you to push yourself to overcome this.......you can sell yourself so easily on the phone......the lilt or joy in your voice may do a better job of creating interest than all the emails you could ever write. Becca

becca210

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Anti Valentines Day...WHO'S WITH ME! Posted: 2/12/2008 7:06:34 PM
The reality is .......that if you had that someone special.....your opinion would change so fast. You would want to plan a special night, etc. to show your lover how special they were. I have had very special Valentine experiences and some that I'd just as soon forget......but the overall thought is wonderful and I would never want to deprive anyone the experience. This year I'm making a special valentine.....from old ones and have bought special treats...but the main thing is spending some quality time with that special person. I wish you a Valentine for the future.....and the tolerance to understand others and the idea that thoughts of love and affection are not just meant for lovers. Becca

becca210

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When the numbers don't add up Posted: 2/5/2008 6:39:59 AM
Not sure about the affects of weed...but my friends and I call those "senior moments"...we all have them!! Becca

becca210

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When the numbers don't add up Posted: 2/1/2008 7:25:33 PM
Kevin, I think we have all experienced what you are talking about. I have a problem in that I have almost a photographic memory and sometimes it's a curse. On the other hand, it is a valuable asset in my career and most other places. Recently, a guy that I've known for about a 1.5 years (he was my neighbor but I met him online...don't laugh..it's true). He's fun but has way too many problems for me to ever take seriously. Recently because of some problems I've had, he decided that he needed to take care of me and that meant marriage. Well, while trying to convince me that this was a good idea.....he contradicted himself numerous times.....as to his assets, his desires, on and one. I could never seriously consider marrying him.....but he has a hard time understanding why. I think sometimes people tell things a certain way to feel good about themselves. I would prefer to hear nothing than a half truth. Don't forget also, that some people and I think women are very guilty of this......telling you what you want to hear! Guys tell you what you want to hear to score sometimes......women do it make you "like them"....whatever that means.....lol. Bottom line....you just have to stay one step ahead of the pack. Becca

becca210

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How do you know when a man loves u? Posted: 2/1/2008 7:47:03 AM
I've been fortunate to have been truly loved by several men. I have the strongest relationship of my life right now. When he walks in the door, his face lights up just seeing me. After sex, instead of rolling over to go to sleep like most men, he holds me and looks into my eyes to tell me of his love. Men are as different as women, not all men can express their feelings..but they can all tell your by their body language. For those of you that say you have never experienced real love, please don't try to second guess your man. Spend as much time recognizing what is positive about your relationship, as you do worrying about the negative. Becca

becca210

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Valentine's Day Posted: 1/31/2008 4:03:16 PM
I wouldn't hold my breath about finding true love by Valentine's Day...that is just asking too much. However, I did have someone contact me just prior to Valentine's Day 3 years ago....and he is now my best friend. Which brings me to my original idea for posting, the pressure of Valentine's Day for singles or not so happy couples. While a cupid is the symbol, Valentine's Day is about more than just a hot date. I always received Valentines from my Dad. I always sent them to both my parents, my sisters, my nieces/nephews, or special friends. You don't have to be the "Scrooge" of Hearts.....just because you aren't madly in love. I've worked with people that had a fit if their flowers weren't delivered early in the day... and even called their husband's to find out what was going on. I think that is stupid. It is nice to expect nothing....be surprised if someone is nice......and especially to remember that the emotions of the day are between you and your "Valentine"....what you give or what you do needs only to be special for you. It is not a contest. Enjoy, Becca

becca210

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What do men find unattractive as far as behavior when dating? Posted: 1/30/2008 9:42:09 PM
OP, you have received some really good answers. It is fine that you are concerned about your behavior.....but I encourage you to be yourself. Because of my age and the type of men that I date, I am certainly not into texting and calling just to shoot the breeze. I am a busy woman myself. If I need to confirm something or pass on information, I make my phone call quick and to the point.....not rude but more business like....in all business calls, I never assume someone has time to answer my questions.....I ask if this is a good time, etc. You will know from the responses on his end if he has more time to just chat. This said.....note also that some men are clingy......they want to hear from you. Just be very alert to the signals you are being given by your dates. But in the end, if they are not giving you the attention that you need or desire, they may not be the guy for you. Happy fishing, Becca

becca210

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Hairs the story... Posted: 1/30/2008 9:18:04 PM
It is amazing what will set some people off. It was probably the cut and the color.....but it is her hair. When I was married, my husband never said anything about my hair ...until I did something different. Like, why did you do that..I really liked it before! Well, why didn't he let me know? Years ago, I had a live-in (never again) that just went bonkers because I rearranged the furniture! He didn't like change. It is hard sometimes to know what we should discuss or not.......too often men act like they are paying no attention to us or anything we do.....it takes shaking them up to get their attention. If this guy really left over a haircut......he needs to stay gone. Becca

becca210

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kinda at a loss....what to do Posted: 1/30/2008 2:17:36 AM
Ok guys......the eyebrow does seem like not such a big deal....but it really is if you are a woman. The eyebrow will not grow back exactly the way it was.....and a pencil is good for fill in but by the end of the day this woman will be looking like some kind of freak because it will eventually smear, etc. I do think that missing work was a bit much....the band aid would work temporarily. Your friend needs to see a professional and get the best make up available....a tatoo might be the answer because they really aren't permanent....they tend to fade etc...so it might be ok with hers growing back. I have a best friend that has no eyebrows and has been tormented forever with "the fix"....finally she got tatoos that "took"...but it took a while. I agree that this couple is very immature.......but most women would be devastated if this happened to them. Becca

becca210

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WHY DID HE STOP CALLING? Posted: 1/28/2008 1:40:20 PM
OP, you have received some good advise. The only possible answer that I don't think has been discussed is that the relationship he had with you is typical for him. He finds someone that he enjoys....that he can have sex with and he enjoys it for a while and moves on. How else could he stay unmarried all this time. It is possible that he is not even conscious of his relationship pattern. Or he could be a player and perfectly aware of how he is. Don't beat yourself up. I personally think that at 42 you are entitled to make your own decisions about who you sleep with and when.......we all live by our decisions. We just have to own them. Happy Fishing.... Becca

becca210

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Is it wrong to really not be attracting to less attractive women Posted: 1/27/2008 5:18:52 PM
OP, have you looked around at the people that are your friends, associates, past girlfriends, etc. and thought about how your perception of those people changed over time? The really hot girl faded as you got to know her ****y personality, the very average girl became cuter and cuter as you became endeared to her personality. I'm not saying go for anyone you find unattractive, I think that would be mean and certainly sending mixed messages. However, I am suggesting that we all have time to give that person a chance to "grow on us". Unless you are the super model type yourself, we all have issues that we would like to change.......but we have qualities that make us stand tall above others as well. In the final analysis, we find ourselves in a comfortable relationship made of those qualities that makes us the most happy. Think back to a time that you were the happiest....even for a few hours.....what triggered that happiness? For me, it is someone that loves me for totally who I am.....and vice versa....someone that brings out the best in how I feel about myself and them as well. If you do some soul searching, I think you can answer your own question. Best of Luck. Becca

becca210

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A Dramatic POF Tragedy - Real life! I swear! Posted: 1/26/2008 1:22:07 PM
Haven't you heard about people that thrive on drama?? Sounds like you and your guy thrive on drama plus. A normal relationship would not be exciting enough for either of you. You are caught up in the passion and treat each other as possessions....not with love. You certainly need to get away from him.....but until you can control your hormonal urges it is hopeless. We have all given into this to some degree.....minus the drama. In this case, you have to share the blame.....and he is just looking for more drama by coming back to you after you violated his possessions.......just sicko to me. Becca

becca210

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Dipping your pen in the company ink Posted: 1/23/2008 5:45:12 PM
Years ago I was the purchasing agent at a local hospital. The juiciest gossip ever was who was doing what to whom at the hospital. It went from orderlies to department heads. It was against my personal rules then and 30+ years later I am even more convinced that it is a big mistake. I've known women that got so connected that their job/house/car depended on the guy they were boinking......just too scary for me. I want to be in control of as much of me as possible. And when I am dumped or do the dumping, I don't want to have to greet the other party every day. My statement for many years has been "too close to the flag pole"!! Becca

becca210

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ok, here's the question........ Posted: 1/23/2008 4:08:42 PM
The question is......what is wrong with everyone? Do you all need to get laid? Not every person abides by "your" rules.....no money spent on first meet, no flowers, no this -no that. Belly is a grown man.....let him do what he wishes.....you know the rest of you do! Belly, it did take a few posts for me to get the whole story and I do applaud you for not outing your date....like that creep Ceasar. There could be 2 schools of thought here... 1 - the perfect time for anyone to "get away" was when the child called and needed food. Mom could pick up and take to him...and I agree, sounds like she was stocking up for the winter at KFC. 2- it was a nice gesture for you to offer to pay but in my opinion, it was a very bad move for her to accept (given the amount) if she had any idea she wasn't interested in more. My "rules" are that anyone asking me out for dinner...buys dinner. Just like if I invite you to my home for dinner...it is my treat. I do have a problem with the large numbers of people (men/your friend and women) who prostitute themselves for a meal or drinks. To answer your question, your friend is certainly a hypocrite. If his date insisted on paying, he could have left after dinner.......instead of dragging the night out.....that is sending mixed messages to her. And the nerve of him to refer to her as "carp"...that is crass and shallow. Lastly, I think it is shallow of your date to end things because of your "belly"....if she is that picky....surely she had a clue before you met.......I would have been curious about your nickname........but shame on me for asking before the flowers!! Becca

becca210

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Panic,why does this happen with the sleep overs? Posted: 1/21/2008 4:57:23 PM
I totally agree about the sleep overs......I'm used to my own space and it takes a lot of effort to be comfortable for a weekend. If your date is considerate, it makes it a lot easier. With just casual sex, the partner has got to go afterwards.....and I am going home...even if it means driving in from Atlanta....just want to wake in my own bed. I'm old, settled in my ways.....but I know it and make no excuses for it...lol. Becca

becca210

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why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink?? Posted: 1/18/2008 9:31:30 AM
Mottleydude...the saddest thing around is a RocknRoll partying guy like you that can't move on to the next phase of their life. I didn't bother to check age etc. but I've known men like you that couldn't function any other way. ....always seeking the next "party". I know I'm much older...but I've enjoyed every phase of my life.....including drinking my guy friends under the table. After doing that a couple of times and living to tell about...it has far less meaning than it did before. OP, I've basically been a non-drinker for several years. Not because I have an issue, it's just that I don't have any desire to be hung over or to upset my meds by alcohol. It has not been a problem for me. I would hang out and play cards with some of my guy friends and some drank, some didn't. Just do what you feel best with. But don't make an issue out of. If you just order and make no big deal about it.....if your date ask you...assure her that you have no prior problems but that alcohol is not the big thrill it used to be for you personally. I know many ladies that would love to have this "problem" to deal with. I've noticed some of the younger posters here in the forums lately, making far too familiar references about getting wasted. Crazy and dangerous at the same time. Keep looking....you will find what you want. Becca

becca210

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Just Why Do You Girls Love Motorcycles??? Posted: 1/17/2008 12:09:25 PM
Not enough $$ to make me get on one......too much knowledge of severe injuries. Please be careful. Becca

becca210

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was i being childish? Posted: 1/16/2008 6:02:04 PM
Tigger, your situation is a case where "honesty is NOT the best policy". He only used the information against you. He cheated and so you got back...maybe a little overboard...but you did. It is a moot point in any reconciliation. Surely the STD was history by the time you are thinking of sleeping with him?? This is information that you should have carried to your grave....understand.....to your grave. He has no right to know.....you were broken up. It's kind of like that old joke about the woman who would never give her husband a bj...she said he would think badly of her. So for years she never did......then on this 50th birthday...she decided that maybe she had judged him badly and that he deserved something special....so she gave him the best head she was capable of.... He replied....."That was great, you little****ucker!" You are young......just remember the lesson. Becca

becca210

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Income/Car Status Posted: 1/16/2008 5:50:49 PM
I did not know I was "out of the loop"! Where are these questions? I've never filled them out. But like many, I don't expect to ever get anyone else's money...don't want it. But I do want them to be able to look after their own wagon. And on the subject of cars...I have a nice car.....always have had, need it in my job...and I'm in Georgia!...but I keep mine clean. I had an ex come over to take me to dinner after I was sick......he drove 3 hours one way...so that was nice. I got in his car.....and there was so much animal hair there was no where for me to sit...yet he insisted on taking his car. I don't really care what you drive...just keep it clean...especially if you expect a 2nd date. Becca

becca210

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Multiple dates.....do you tell the other dates? Posted: 1/15/2008 6:25:01 PM
Jess, my advise may be too late with the musician, but overall don't worry about telling anyone who you are dating until you sleep with someone ....then you really have some questions to ask yourself. I think you should accept dates.....if the musician calls...and you are booked.....just say you already have plans. That is not game playing. Waiting around on him when you are concerned about his intentions is only going to hurt later on. In telling your stories, it is obvious that you drink a good bit. I know this is typical; but I think it is ill advised when you are out with strangers. And sleeping in a car or in a hotel room, with someone that you already sized up at "nuts" is very immature on your part. Once you know it is not right for you.......escape! You are a beautiful girl from your photo, you do not have to put up with this. How a date treats you is pretty much up to you. Becca

becca210

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what do men prefer? Posted: 1/15/2008 6:01:16 PM
This is a really nice thread.....everyone being honest about what they like and it is a mixture of both or center. If I had known at age 30 about all the guys who actually prefer chubby, my life would have been even more wonderful....lol. Tomozzo, I think Reese Witherspoon might fit your request.....can you handle her? I just think that all of us have to find a blend of looks, intelligence, humor, background, etc. that we are comfortable ......but remember if you limit yourself too much...you might just overlook something awesome. OP, your case is interesting to me...people usually put on weight sitting around...not working. Pull yourself together girl, don't let a few pounds change your overall outlook. Becca

becca210

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Where the hell is my Mr. Right? Posted: 1/12/2008 1:25:03 PM
OP, you are living in a fantasy world and need a reality check. First, I agree that your attitude needs a drastic adjustment. Next, your friends may be with the one guy..but none of them have really tested their relationships with marriage/family and the realities of life....so don't assume that any of you have won the prize just yet. I do agree, that your generation is mostly about immediate gratification; whether it is a boyfriend or a cell phone. Life will smack you dead in the face one day and you will be at a loss of how to cope. Your best interest will be served by dating, finishing your education and enjoying your freedom.....until Mr. Right comes along......and I do believe it just happens but you earn it by living a good life and being in the right place to recognize him. Becca

becca210

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How do you know if its ok to kiss her? Posted: 1/12/2008 12:53:14 PM
Really cute thread. I totally agree about the confident man......don't ask ...just do it. I've had someone lift my hair and kiss my neck before they kissed my lips...that was pretty cool. But please, don't do the kissing hand thing....unless someone is from a foreign country and it is their custom.......I think it is goofy. And to rebut someone earlier.....the second date is just fine for a kiss.......no tongue unless her response leads to that......but if you didn't offer me a token kiss on the 2nd date, I would assume you weren't interested. JMO, Becca

becca210

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Southern BBQ Posted: 1/11/2008 9:27:06 PM
I make a BBQ sauce that is very popular in Georgia. It is very simple: start with a stick of margarine and about 1/4 cup of good quality black pepper. Cook over medium heat until the butter is melted and the combination starts to smoke. Add 1.5 cups vinegar...stirring well. This gives you the basic sauce. From here I add different things depending on what I'm cooking. Most often I add some ketchup for thickening and color, lemon juice (let the lemon float while simmering), red pepper flakes for more heat to taste. This sauce is great on Boston butt. whole hog, ribs, or chicken . Sometimes I will add honey or jelly for a little sweet and more tendency to stick to meat. At other times, I have added whatever was in fridge or cabinet that had just a bit left; i.e. wine vinegar, Italian dressing or 1890 dressing, horse radish, prepared mustard, onion or garlic to taste. I also have given the basic recipe as gifts. As the sauce cools, it will separate because of the margarine......just heat to use. Enjoy...Becca

becca210

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Is politics a deal breaker for you? Posted: 1/9/2008 5:03:35 PM
The only deal breaker for me is if the person has no opinion. I'm very much into politics and pay attention to it all. I consider myself an independent; knowing that I have some very liberal views as well as some conservative. I love talking politics; especially with someone that has knowledge of how things worked in the past (i.e. world politics). I actually date a politician now and we agree on almost everything....but this is a first for me....usually there is a big difference but never has been a problem. Becca

becca210

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Catholicism vs Wiccan Posted: 1/9/2008 7:15:11 AM
My one and only introduction to Wiccan was a younger man. This was several years ago. What he believed and practiced was more like Pagan, in my opinion. It was all about outdoors /nature; but those camping trips bordered on orgies.....seems like all the guys made an effort to service the senior Goddess type. Not sure all the details, just know that most of the time I was dumbfounded. Religion means something different to each of us. You must make choices based on your feelings/beliefs....not those of your parents, etc. However, one of my first thoughts of Catholics is the big family and all it's traditions. Choose wisely. Good luck, Becca

becca210

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Question - please decipher this email response for me Posted: 1/7/2008 2:36:11 PM
I don't there is much to decipher.....he answered in the same spirit as your email. I often send a compliment to someone who's profile is really nice or something is really outstanding about them.....and I expect nothing. Most people respond with a thanks. I am glad for that and give them kudos for just having good manners. As opposed to the person that does not acknowledge my mail. Your email could have been an opener for conversation but he didn't pick up on it...but it is not bad on his part. I also agree with some of the other posters.....cute is not a compliment to more mature men. Just tuck the experience away for reference and proceed to have fun. Becca

becca210

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Msg: 14 (view)

I know, I was so mean!!! Posted: 1/5/2008 8:27:41 AM
I have to agree with the others, it doesn't sound like you are that into him. If you really care for someone, you look for dates and reasons to be giving! If you do really care and mean what you say (to him)..then I have an idea that I've used when I just had exhausted normal gifts. I bought my guy his favorite liquor (Single Malt, Jack Daniels) and in the card I put coupons for: a spa night, a massage, a meal of his choice, the worlds best bj! You get the idea.....something that is just between the 2 of you.....that money can't buy. But only do this if you truly want to make him special/happy. Good luck.. Becca

becca210

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Msg: 20 (view)

Why would you lie about your age? Posted: 1/2/2008 3:41:07 PM
I think it is perfectly understanding why he lied....he is a guy and a lawyer!!!...lol. Couldn't resist....actually the age isn't the issue.....but if it creates a pattern of lying...then that is the problem. I agree with a prior post.......before you accuse anyone of lying...be sure that you've not stretched the truth. I don't think it is very smart to be so restrictive in your age range.......some 40 year olds act like 60 and vice versa. My profile says from 40-70......just so that it doesn't exclude anyone that I might find interesting. JMO Becca

becca210

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Msg: 67 (view)

I have a question regarding Airline Pilots and dating Posted: 1/1/2008 9:33:02 AM
Having dated several pilots over the years, I think it is ridiculous to put them all in the same category. First there are all sorts of pilots......from a Delta (big bucks guy) to someone running freight for UPS. ....even to those that own their own planes. They are as different as the planes they fly. But most importantly, at the end of the day, they are just people..mostly men and they get in their pants the same way everyone else does.....one leg at a time. My experiences, while totally different, were all very positive. Becca

becca210

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Msg: 25 (view)

Do You Go Out With Someone Who is Ending it with a person who has a Friend with Benefits Posted: 12/30/2007 9:50:39 AM
OP, I understand your concern but there are several things that I consider very commendable from your guy. First, the fact that he is going out with his FWB on New Year's Eve and will honor those plans, confirms what I've been trying to say about FWB relationships all along........it is about more than sex......just not LT. How he managed to tell you about all this would be interesting conversation I'm sure; but the fact is...he did tell you. He could have come up with a million other reasons not to be with you..albeit he wanted to. I've had dinner with a couple of new men in the past 10 days.....but New Year's was not discussed....I feel that we all had a life prior to meeting anyone.....and sometimes things just need time to adjust to this new interest. Since, you have such little time invested but seem to enjoy this man, I would certainly give him the benefit of doubt and go out with him again.......timing has just not been in your favor...but overall he could be a keeper. Happy New Year.......Becca

becca210

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Msg: 65 (view)

Fuck Buddies/Casual Relationships: Advice Please Posted: 12/29/2007 1:25:21 PM
I've posted my approval of FWB in previous threads. One thing that never seems to get through is that, in my experience, you don't just ask someone if they want this kind of relationship. For me it is something that has just evolved. After seeing each other a few times, you realize that a LTR is not in the picture.....but you have mutual attraction, respect, etc. There is caring on the parts of both people...just not strings, exclusivity, etc. Since posting that I was happy with such a relationship, fellow POFers emailed wanting such a relationship. They did not understand that there had to be the friendship part up front. I suppose every person is different.....and to someone young, that hasn't had a husband/wife and all that goes with it......I would not suggest "settling". I would, however, suggest an open mind. If your experience with the opposite sex is limited......gain that experience somewhere so that you truly know what you want. Most of all...to thine on self be true.!!! Becca

becca210

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Msg: 14 (view)

Obsessive behavior Posted: 12/26/2007 9:09:00 PM
OP...I have to agree with the others......his behavior is not obsessive...maybe just annoying. I hate to block anyone.....but sometimes that is the only option. And making that first call is like a death sentence unless you are interested. You've probably learned a valuable lesson. Becca

becca210

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Msg: 90 (view)

is everyone over 30 taking antidepressants? Posted: 12/26/2007 9:02:52 PM
After reading the newest comments, I just felt the urge to speak further. I for one, am not hiding behind anti-depressants..just using them sensibly. Some of you are talking Xanax...and I'm not certain if that is classified as an anti-depressant.....but I know that it is highly addictive and abused by many....if one feels good.......3/4 is better. I'm talking about drugs in combination with hormones....based on your history...with the aid of your doctor. And often some woman.....gets on her soapbox and is determined not to take them.......and drives her husband/family nuts because she is so mean! Another use that I have experience with........my mom was prescribed a mild dose after being diagnosed with Alzheimer's....it helped to reduce the agitation. The difference it made in her behavior was just awesome. I'm certainly not promoting use.......I'm just saying that often they can be the answer to many issues. Having been married to a psychologist, I am certainly not discounting their worth. However, there are many people that can not afford their services. JMO........Becca

becca210

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Obsessive behavior Posted: 12/26/2007 6:26:18 PM
This thread is both funny and pathetic.....not enough information to be serious..so you are getting some good laughs. You said you didn't date this person.....did you meet him in some capacity that you don't consider a date......so that you could observe what you deem to be obsessive? I can only think of that wonderful Jack Nicholson movie where he was obsessive/compulsive to the point that it was totally crazy.....but even he found love! Maybe you want to tell us more? Becca

becca210

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Msg: 19 (view)

is everyone over 30 taking antidepressants? Posted: 12/26/2007 7:41:43 AM
No...not everyone over 30 is on them...but God knows there are some that should be. I've had friends/co-workers that just made everyone miserable with their issues because they wouldn't/couldn't take an antidepressant. I was put on Prozac many years ago ..after my dad died and my boyfriend was dying. Like some others that posted.......I cried all the time...and I hated it. I was a perfect Prozac candidate.....kept me from mood swings with no side affects. I came off Prozac several years ago when a major diet caused my doctor (same one) to change the brand I took. Now I take Cymbalta...which was prescribed for me during my spinal battle for something other than depression. I dropped anything else and am fine. But go 3 days without...and I am so mushy/emotional I can't stand myself. I totally agree that post #4 is without a clue and if she reaches my age without some preventive medications.........then I would be checking her doctor's credentials. There have been too many breakthroughs in medicines not to pay attention to what is available. Sometimes trial and error is necessary...but trust your doctor. Becca

becca210

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Msg: 102 (view)

People in high demand Posted: 12/25/2007 10:51:32 AM
OP, you are just frustrating.....you ask for help then you reject it. People aren't giving you answers to be mean...they are trying to make you understand that you have to step up to the plate......you have to get in the game......and if you continue to make excuses for yourself...you will never hit a home run. You have watched this girl for some time now.....she has to know that you are there watching her.......what is so difficult about saying hello. That is just a baby step...but it is big for you. Don't even think about what will happen.......where it will go.......just say hello. Next time you can take it further. This girl is most likely not for you.....but she is a damn good place to start! And where did you ever the idea that girls have to do nothing?? You obviously don't have a sister.......or you would have grown up with all the things that girls go thru just to make some guy think that they have to do nothing. Then of course there is "birthing babies" which is a whole 'nother story. I'll giving up being Scarlet for the moment and get back to reality... but please just try something that seems hard....it will get easier and easier. Becca

becca210

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Msg: 121 (view)

Best place to meet some one other then the Internet Posted: 12/23/2007 8:43:28 PM
Seems some of the best opportunities for meeting new people is when I'm on a date...what's up with that? I've taken bridge classes, cooking classes.....any thing of personal interest and met nice people. I'm in a college town...and there is always something going on.....one being the Texas Hold Em games..they are all over ...at bars, restaurants...all kinds of places and they attract all ages...not just the college kids. I think a smile and a good attitude opens all sorts of doors! One other place I've struck up good conversations with strangers is the wine store. Ask other peoples opinions or suggestions.......good opportunities. Becca

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