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xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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I AM CANADIAN!!! Posted: 2/10/2009 7:36:45 AM
Could you explain sarcasm to your fellow Candians [sic]? I've been to Halifax, Montreal, and Vancouver, so I've probably seen a wider variety of provinces than most Candain's [sic]. I love Canada and all of yoru [sic] little idiosyncratic ways. Maybe someday we will all be able to get along and our nations can finally have peace along our shared border.

xusnlt2

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Sex and Self-Respect Posted: 2/19/2007 4:08:14 PM
Now I know who stole my nickname, Brown Eyed Leo!

xusnlt2

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Sex and Self-Respect Posted: 2/19/2007 3:50:12 PM
We have all read the "I respect myself too much to have sex..." lines in profiles. Is there some reason for this statement? Personally, I respect myself too much to waste my capable days (yes, they are probably numbered, guys) as a celibate monk. Can somebody explain why having sex equates to a lack of self respect? There's a line in Rob Roy where Liam Neeson tells his sons that "honor is a gift that a man gives himself." Isn't it the same for self-respect? We give it to ourselves, so what does sex - in or out of Love - have to do with it?

xusnlt2

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I AM CANADIAN!!! Posted: 2/10/2007 1:07:09 PM
I think Douglas Adams had a book title that really captures the way Canadians are viewed by the rest of the world... Mostly Harmless Sure, you could throw on some cammy toques, strap those tennis rackets to your feet and mount an assault on the first degree or two of latitude in the States...but then what? Your spy network would be useless with all of your beards and lumberjack plaid and allergic reactions to above freezing weather. Your attack snowmobiles wouldn't do well on our roads and your pistachio navy isn't sneaking up on anyone! I think that the best you could hope for is that we might laugh ourselves to death or maybe slip into the port of Halifax and either choke on a floating condom or prick ourselves on a floating needle. That being said, I LOVE CANADA - you guys rock (kinda like that off-center neighbor who is a bit different but a ton of fun.)

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Best bumper sticker Posted: 2/10/2007 12:55:15 PM
I had this on my car in high school... "Those who support abortion usually have already been born." I don't know why it said "usually"...

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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How to annoy a wiccan Posted: 1/26/2007 3:43:07 PM
Wiccans are funny...in the same way that every fringe group is funny: Lumberjack Lesbians in plaid and Birkenstocks aren't very mainstream; Leather Men in a**less chaps are a bit over the top; Neo-Nazis with neck tattoos, Doc Martens and bald heads are trying way too hard; BBWs marching around in Lane Bryant lingerie could take it down a notch; Liberals who believe that we should walk everywhere and eat only wheatgrasses... Conservatives who think all poor people brought in upon themselves... Baptists who don't drink, smoke, chew or associate with them that do... Homophobes who think the gay-ness will rub off on them... Jocks who think there's nothing outside of (insert sport here)... Gals who think size really does matter.... (Okay, that last one may have been wishful thinking on my part...but, do you see how ridiculous it can be out on the fringe?) P.S. That Fairuza Balk chick is a true Wiccan with mad, crazy skillz, yo - at least, she is in the privacy of my own imagination!

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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I AM CANADIAN!!! Posted: 1/26/2007 3:12:56 PM
Hmmmmm.....I guess we freakin' Americans actually HAVE some technology to support - Thanks for your assistance, Snoogins, someday Canadians will doff their snowshoes and mittens long enough to need help on a computer! Here's to you, eh!

xusnlt2

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I AM Hungarian!! Posted: 1/24/2007 2:49:50 PM
Does anybody understand the Hungarian's story? What exactly was the point and how did you end up on a border bridge?

xusnlt2

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Pickup lines that didn't make the cut Posted: 1/22/2007 3:11:55 PM
Can somebody please help Judy? I guess they don't have sarcasm in her neck of the woods... You see, Judy, the lines listed by the originator are all adaptations of (in)famously bad first lines... It is along the lines of asking someone, "Would you like to dance?" If they respond, "No." You say, "What do you think I just said?" They respond with your original question. Now, you say in a surprised tone, "Noooooo...I said, 'You look fat in those PANTS!"

xusnlt2

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Is It Me Or Is It Him?!?!?! Posted: 1/22/2007 2:33:05 PM
Bree, If you can deal with his issues, you might consider staying. I'd advise you to move on, though. Clearly, you need someone to commit to you (by the way, that's not a bad thing), and this guy is unwilling to commit. On the one hand, his honesty is nice, but it's still not a committment. Believe it or not, even a "committment" can go south, so you're in the same place as thousands of people. Are you in a relationship that you can accept or do you need more? Answer that question and you'll know what to do...even if it's hard. Like I said before, you don't seem to be getting what you really want. As far as needing to be loved, you will not be able to substitute "boyfriend love" for "family love" because they are different animals completely. The familial version is more unconditional and doesn't have the romantic aspect. If you try to fill the void you feel with a boyfriend, you run the risk of becoming overly attached to someone and that can cascade into some very poor decisions, e.g. staying with a cheater or an addict or an abuser, or simply becoming a doormat. Deal with the pain from your loss. Grieve. Talk to friends. DO NOT latch onto a guy to soothe that pain - it won't work in the long run. Remember, you're young and have a full life ahead of you...enjoy it! Michael

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Best bumper sticker Posted: 1/18/2007 4:05:37 PM
"Casualties in Iraq - 1,000/year, Highway Fatalities - 40,000/year, Democrats please pull off the highway now, I have a job to get to."

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Is It Me Or Is It Him?!?!?! Posted: 1/18/2007 3:55:35 PM
SisterMary has a point! Now imagine raising those kids solo....(Suddenly, I think I feel a bit sad...)

xusnlt2

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Long walks... Posted: 1/18/2007 3:51:39 PM
Ms. Nomonomonomonomenon, FunkPhenomenon, Nomeneniowa, whatever... You crack me up, so I hope you can find someone to take you jellyfish walkin' on a first date someday!

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Best bumper sticker Posted: 1/18/2007 2:19:02 PM
luv 2 laugh27 - I saw that slogan tattoed on a woman's lower back...

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Is It Me Or Is It Him?!?!?! Posted: 1/18/2007 1:00:20 PM
PackageDealx3, I understand the social mores, but I believe that adults can shrug off convention - it's one of the beauties of being in a free country and of gaining the maturity not to rely on others' opinions when determining our own private actions. Whom I sleep with and when is my own business - the same goes for any adult, male or female. If you don't want people to think that your "easy", then don't have sex with lots of people in front of them or, at least, don't tell them about your escapades. Life is simple like that. To the princess, Good luck to you! I believe that for your situation, you have made the right decision. There is an added element of his being a bit of a control freak that should help you stay away from him. A guy who says that he's not in a relationship but, at the same time, demands that you not date others is either over the edge or too close to the edge to be a safe bet. Get away and consider yourself lucky. Not to be alarmist, but ask anyone who has dated an abuser and they will tell you about the petty controls that eventually lead to crazier and crazier demands. Good luck! Your prince will come - you just have to recognize that it's probably the Nice Guy and not the Bad Boy!

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Long walks... Posted: 1/18/2007 12:43:30 PM
Oh, Canada! Here I am posting about walks in Texas and at least half of the replies are from the Great White North. I guess it makes sense that walks in the frozen tundra might become problematic... Anyway, ladies, I understand the need for conversation, but I'd still like a different activity to accompany the walking, e.g. visit a museum or visit a zoo. If you want to up the pressure on a first date, eliminate everything that might detract from conversation! That's a tough pill to swallow on the first go-round. It's nice to be able to comment on something like "Gee, that rhino really stinks," or "I guess the ancient Greeks just had small ones..." The conversation doesn't have to be completely focused on our pasts. (For the record, that's how people accidentally talk about their ex's too much.) For the fellas, you guys totally get the sarcasm of the original posting! I like the warm, candle-like glow of the television - that's classic. Rock on, eh! (BTW - All of you BC folk who want to comment on the mountainous beauty outside of central Canada, don't bother. Texas isn't one big desert but we understand where the stereotypes come from...)

xusnlt2

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Is It Me Or Is It Him?!?!?! Posted: 1/16/2007 3:14:06 PM
"Giving it up too easily" happens in high school. It's what we tell our daughters to avoid doing so they don't ruin their futures (even if 'housewife' is that very worthy future) and so we don't end up taking care of our grandkids on a full-time basis. The only way that you can be "played" is if you allow yourself to be played. If you only want to have sex with someone with whom you share a relationship, then don't have sex until you've established the relationship. If you have sex before then, it's not because you got PLAYED, it's because you got COMFORTABLE. I am amazed by the number of people who say, "I'm not having sex with anyone, so don't contact me if you want sex." That's crazy. With rare exception, EVERYONE wants sex! It's the TIMING that gets everyone all wound up. Is it too early? too late? too often? not often enough? What's the big deal? If you're going to feel guilty for 'giving it up,' then don't give it up. If you want to wait for Mr. Right, then do so. If a guy says, 'We're not in a relationship' after you've gotten busy, then, clearly, you're NOT in a relationship. If he's met the folks, done the getaways and movie nights, and he doesn't consider that a relationship, then CONGRATULATIONS! you are in an upper end 'booty call' or 'friends with benefits' situation. I say 'upper end' because there are non-sexual activities in there somewhere. If you don't like it, DUMP THE GUY. It's not rocket science, dear. And, no, it probably isn't you that is the problem...except that it is you that he isn't comfortable being in a relationship with. Think about it. If I were you, I'd either enjoy the moment or move on. If you choose the latter, do it fast and without turning back. Think of the story of Lot's wife, if it helps...

xusnlt2

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Long walks... Posted: 1/16/2007 2:59:35 PM
Is it me or is there an abundance of female First Date ideas that include a long walk? To be perfectly honest, I don't want to take a long walk on a date. I'm probably going to be sweating from the nerves involved in the date anyway, so why compound it with exercise? Plus, some of the posters appear to have avoided long walks for the past several years themselves, so what gives? (Okay, that last line was insensitive, but I think we all know what I mean...) One caveat, if you are going to go the route of "It's like making love on the beach," then I may just get sick - I've done that and the sand in uncomfortable places overrode whatever From Here to Eternity emotion that I started with... Okay, you can start poking holes in this now!

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Do any dads get child support from the moms Posted: 1/11/2007 10:18:18 AM
By law, Child Support and Visitation are completely separate issues. Visitation is for the benefit of the children and not for the parents. Texas and most experts believe that it is best for children to interact on some level, even supervised, with both biological parents. Grandparents, in-laws, etc. VERY RARELY are awarded any type of visitation rights and must pursue that avenue legally if they are actually interested in forcing you to give them access to the kids. Since your ex is an addict (recovering or otherwise), you have the right and the responsibility as the Managing Conservator to keep the kids from going into harm's way. If somebody in Law Enforcement or in the courts wants you to let the kids go with their mom, then get them to sign a release saying that they take responsibility for the safety of the kids - I don't know of anyone willing to go out on that limb for a drug addict...at least not outside of the ACLU... Good luck.

xusnlt2

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Do any dads get child support from the moms Posted: 1/11/2007 10:11:47 AM
I did my own divorce and put child support into the divorce. The judge reduced what I was asking since Texas goes by what the non-managing conservator (parent with whom the children live) earns and the ex was/is unemployed. For three children, she was ordered to pay $240 per month. I have seen nothing...ever...and she is not being pursued by the state. I could file a request with the state to pursue the funds, but I'm not trying to create issues with the ex since she pretty much leaves all of us alone. If you want to do a divorce on the cheap, look for a book titled How to do your own divorce in Texas. It has all of the forms in it already and you just pull the pages that you want. I spent about $300 (parking included) for my divorce and the book (about $20). Good luck!

xusnlt2

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Sexy Pics Paradox Posted: 9/28/2006 4:15:02 PM
To those who have responded, thanks! I will throw in a few lines now... First, I don't know how one makes the leap to acceptable rape because, frankly, there's no such thing. Let's just close that subject forever. Second, I have no problem with posting provocative pics - it's the 'don't view me as a sexual being' attitude that I find perplexing. Third, I don't review men's profiles, but I have seen the Pec Shots in forums, etc., and I don't have a problem with them. You would probably discover that those men would respond rather enthusiastically to being viewed in a sexually positive light. I suspect that more women view other women's profiles than men doing the same with men...but that's a whole different forum thought! Fourth, I'm reminded of Chris Rock's stand-up when he commented on some women in the clubs: "You may not be a ho, but you're wearin' the uniform! That's like dressing in a cop uniform and getting mad when people come up to you for help. Just 'cause I'm dressed like this doesn't mean I'm a cop!" Fifth, if you're proud of how you look, then congratulations! I'm proud of my mind and never once got mad when someone told me how smart I am... Regards, Michael - that's my real name not my pen name (or "nom de plume" for those wondering what that term meant)

xusnlt2

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Possibly relocating to TEXAS. What good/bad about TEXAS? Posted: 9/27/2006 5:06:20 PM
Good: 1. No state income tax. 2. Low cost of living - Dallas is higher than Houston 3. Never buried under snow - Houston gets snow once a decade...sometimes. 4. Decent hockey...if you like the Red Wings, you'll get to see them occasionally. 5. Cheap gas - kinda falls under #2, but we ARE Texas, so oil is kind of a "thing" here. 6. Concealed Handgun License - protect yourself from thugs, etc., and feel like a cowboy. 7. Real Mexican food - not that Taco Bell stuff. 8. They still sell the "I wasn't born here, but I got here as fast as I could" bumper stickers for you out-of-staters... 9. All of the teachers who fled Michigan are now in Texas...I guess that's a good thing? Bad: 1. If you like unions, this state isn't the best for that...Right to Work State 2. No Canadians to laugh at. 3. If you like the Red Wings, you should keep it to yourself. Same for the Lions and Tigers...oh, my! Oh yeah, nobody cares about the Big 10 either. 4. Nobody knows what the U.P. is.

xusnlt2

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Sexy Pics Paradox Posted: 9/27/2006 4:55:30 PM
Okay, this one is just for my curiosity. Why do so many female profiles talk about wanting someone to respect them for who they are as a person while at the same time they post a cleavage shot or some other suggestive pose? Isn't that like a rich guy throwing around money and expecting someone to ignore his wealth...?

xusnlt2

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Has anyone ever been dumped via email? Posted: 9/6/2006 5:04:22 PM
Hold on a second, I'm about to jump in the shower... Just kidding! Actually, I think that it just might be the male version of "I'm washing my hair tonight..." That being said, it is retarded for someone to just say nothing, or "I don't feel comfortable discussing my reasons..." I thought human beings possessed the power of speech for a reason.

xusnlt2

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Why is sex on the first date considered taboo? Posted: 9/6/2006 4:49:00 PM
Some men are idiots. Sex is not the end-all, be-all determinant of a person's character. If a woman "gives it up" to me on a first date, I just consider myself "trustworthy" (or, at least do-able) and consider her "interested" (or, at least do-able). If sleeping with someone on the first date is WRONG, then which date makes it okay? The second? Fifth? Tenth? It's an arbitrary standard. If you want to be high and mighty, then pick something that has REAL meaning behind it - e.g. no sex before marriage - at least then you make some sense because we've all heard of the biblical standard and it's not some number that you just pulled out of thin air. For the record, a psychopath can have just as much patience as you, so waiting doesn't make it safer, and some of the best "players" (or playas) have patience as part of their game - so, it's a crapshoot no matter what. So, what am I saying? A woman is not a whore if she has sex on the first date...unless she charges for her services. A woman is not a tease if she holds back on the first date, but she is exercising faulty logic if she has picked some random number of dates before getting physical.

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Has anyone ever been dumped via email? Posted: 8/31/2006 5:27:20 PM
First: I believe in the Golden Rule - Treat people the way that you want to be treated. I actually met someone who had stood me up when we were supposed to have our first meeting. She'd had a bad day and didn't have the courtesy to call me and let me know that she changed her mind. A few days later, we went for ice cream and ended up watching a movie at her place. She was very giddy and enthusiastic when I left, but she stopped answering e-mails and phone calls altogether...ZERO EXPLANATION. That's Life, though. I've tried to tell people why it's over in person - sometimes it works and sometimes you spend weeks getting unwanted calls and e-mails and text messages. I guess it's a crapshoot either way.

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Has anyone ever been dumped via email? Posted: 8/31/2006 5:21:43 PM
We weren't dating, but I once got a text message saying that she was going back to her husband. I wished her luck because from her stories she was definitely going to need it.

xusnlt2

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What do you think about women who just like the company of men? Posted: 8/28/2006 5:24:26 PM
I'll lead with an interesting quote,"Men will never understand women, and that's a good thing because women do and they don't like each other." Yes, it sounds sexist, but I've seen far too many women pick at or even deride their closest friends behind their backs to discount the quote. I agree, in general, with the people who have said that there is probably a reason for a woman to have so many male friends. If a man has a harem of female friends, I'd suspect him of (a) womanizing, (b) being gay, or (c) being a nice guy stuck in the "friend zone." If it's a woman with the harem, I'd suspect her of (a) being too ****y for other women to take, (b) being insecure and needing male validation, (c) trying too hard to be one of the guys, (d) a tomboy, (e) an incredible tease stringing all of these guys along. or (f) being a promiscuous woman. As you can see, most of the options slant toward the negative end of the "relationship material" spectrum. Obviously, there are exceptions to every rule, but a betting person would bet against the success of a relationship with someone who only has friends of the opposite sex. Another way to look at it might be this: even if the women have platonic intentions, the men, in general, will be looking for an opportunity - it's genetic and scientific fact. Women are the guardians, men are the marauders (metaphorically speaking). Were it not so, scientists suggest that humankind would never have survived and flourished.

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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women on this site are kidding themselves Posted: 8/28/2006 2:52:07 PM
No: They aren't kidding themselves. And No: It isn't harder today to find The One. Statistically speaking, there are more people today, so there are more potential Ones out there. The problem, or, at least, the difference today is that people (that's men AND women) are so self-absorbed and shortsighted that they aren't willing to put some work into a relationship. Furthermore, society no longer places the same negative stigma on divorced people that it once did, so there's less reason for couples to try and work it out. Throw into the mix the fact that the women's liberation movement actually belittled stay-at-home moms and traditional family structures so, now, we have kids raised by nobody, women unhappy and unfulfilled in the workplace, men unhappy at home and sometimes feeling second-rate to a higher paid spouse, record numbers of single parents, increased drug use, decreasing age of sexual activity, and - in your words - a world too busy for compassion and caring. Of course, you probably took a philosophy course or read some existential text that left you wondering about being and nothingness, when all you really need to do is look for Real people instead of looking for Prince Charming. There may not be a perfect man in the world, but there's a really good chance that there's a man perfect for you. Put down the Cosmo, change the channel from Desperate Housewives, and look at all of the actual people out there in the world. Some of the guys you know as "friends" might be The One if you gave them a chance...

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Best bumper sticker Posted: 8/25/2006 5:39:51 PM
Those in favor of abortion usually have already been born.

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Nicknames men give their pleasure sticks! Posted: 8/25/2006 4:57:58 PM
Oops! I forgot the Star Wars entries: Open Wide Kenobi Luke Thighstalker Boba Fett (a helmet reference) Darth Vader (another helmet reference) Lightsaber R2-D2 (anything with a round head, I guess) Unrelated entries: The Insider (inside her, get it?) Reveille (gets up in the morning and stands at attention) I've heard folks call Air Force gals "cockpits" and Army gals "foxholes." Go Navy.

xusnlt2

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Nicknames men give their pleasure sticks! Posted: 8/25/2006 4:47:19 PM
For his: German or Prussian soldier, Moby, Purple Headed Yogurt Thrower (rolls off the tongue smoother than 'yogurt spitter' - no pun intended), the Submarine (it goes deep and it's long, hard and full of seamen), Mr. Nixon (Tricky D), the Tree of Good and Evil For her: Lady business or Tender parts, the Valley of the Shadow of Death (referring to psycho exes), the Garden of Good and Evil, Willy Wonka's Elevator (this is sexist and obscure, but it implies that the aforementioned Tender Parts are the only way to break the glass ceiling), Den of Iniquity I don't know why the Bible is a source for so many of these...guess it's a duality thing... My goofy cousins used to call his and hers "Chicken" and "China," respectively. I guess it had something to do with a c*ck and va"gina" ...or something? They don't remember where it came from either...

xusnlt2

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Favorite Quotes Posted: 8/25/2006 4:25:43 PM
Danimo - Walken rules! My kids quote that line and request cowbell when we're in my truck...

xusnlt2

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Favorite Quotes Posted: 8/25/2006 4:18:44 PM
Wondermutt: the answer (4 months later) is: Kevin Costner in Bull Durham...

xusnlt2

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Freudian Slip Posted: 8/25/2006 4:03:38 PM
Freudian Slip defined: "If it's not one thing, it's your mother."

xusnlt2

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Things you wouldn't hear a Southerner say: Posted: 8/25/2006 3:48:52 PM
Jinx, that's where we got the term "relative humidity."

xusnlt2

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Im Dating Ur EX-Husband Posted: 8/16/2006 5:56:51 PM
One other thing, we English speakers USUALLY say that things get WORSE...

xusnlt2

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Im Dating Ur EX-Husband Posted: 8/16/2006 5:43:26 PM
Ok, MissyElliot, I'll take the bait... As a single father with custody of 3 children (8, 6 and 4), I will say that little miss hottie thang is just sad. Here's why.... Children come first - period. That's why I'm a single dad. I chose them over myself and over my ex. When I lay alone in bed, I'm reminded of the sacrifice. When they run up to hug me after work, I'm reminded of the benefit. Real men get divorced when their marriages are over. I did mine all by myself and it only took a year - if the court had not been missing a judge serving in Iraq or if I'd hired a lawyer, it probably would have gone faster. Living with someone else's children will always be more difficult than the alternatives. Add more people, add more personalities, add more variables, add more difficulty - it's simple arithmetic. With any luck, the adults will sort out a livable, peaceful arrangement amongst themselves so that the children aren't overly distressed. Hopefully, one of them isn't a self-absorbed, "I must be hot since I have your man" little girl... Worrying about how children will act when they become teenagers is premature - why do you think parents get older, too? You see, as the kids grow, so do the parents...funny how that works, right? Studies have shown that when marriages break up, the people involved often spend some time re-hashing their passion. It's not love, it's just that old habits can be hard to let go of and sometimes a little sex takes the edge off. This can even happen when the relationship was abusive - therapists build whole careers on this phenomenon. Finally, as a single dad, I don't let my children meet every woman I date. Sometimes, it may not work out despite the fact that our conversations went well. Since the children come first, I spare them the pain of growing attached to someone or the agony of getting their hopes up that they might have a woman in the house. And when I say "woman" I don't mean female - a woman knows better than to hook up with a 'married but getting divorced' man, a woman doesn't wring her hands over child rearing, a woman doesn't taunt other women by saying 'I'm dating your ex-husband' and a woman knows INSTINCTIVELY that children come first. It's the little girls of the world who don't get it...

xusnlt2

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Men dating single mothers Posted: 8/16/2006 5:03:55 PM
No. I do not pass up single moms. In fact, as a single dad, I only get responses from single moms. The issue isn't the fact that they are or are not parents. More important are the following: 1 - Do her 3 kids have 3 different dads? This is a gal who just loves losers (then whines about them being jerks) 2 - Do her kids live elsewhere? With the courts favoring moms, this usually points to a less- than-motherly mom. 3 - Does she want someone with no kids of his own? This one is a head scratcher for me, but a father definitely doesn't want the headaches of being with someone who is predisposed toward disliking or mistreating or neglecting or ignoring his children. Now, I'm sure that there are exceptions to these 'rules' - but I've never met her and don't know anybody else who has either...

xusnlt2

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Help me, single mom attempting to potty train a 2 1/2 year old boy Posted: 8/15/2006 6:14:37 PM
I'm the oldest of six children (4 boys), father of three (2 boys), uncle of seven (4 boys) - that's my experience. With my sons and brothers, it took a day of taking them to the bathroom every hour - whether they needed to go or not. When they actually "performed," I acted like they'd just discovered electricity - lots of enthusiasm and congratulations and "You are SUCH a big boy!" With my nephew (sister is a single mom), we got to a point where I actually took him with me to the restroom. I stood there and did my thing while he watched. It was interesting, hilarious and a tad uncomfortable, but it was for my sister so I took the hit. I could see the wheels turning as he looked at me and then followed the stream to the bowl a couple of times. After that, he understood what was going on and was trained in no time...which was good since he was very tall for a two year old and diaper changes were more like working on a 5 or 6 year old. I hope this helps...

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