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redheaded vixen

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Need some help guys... Posted: 9/8/2008 7:35:21 PM
areelady... any type of boot made by ariat, (they have lace ups and pull ons).. are extremely comfy..and they don't slip when a person is dancing on the table... I have to also agree with fellow posters '''don't cheap out''' on boots..your feet will thank you.

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

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defending a friend or family Posted: 8/30/2008 4:17:07 PM
Orrrrrrrrr she had her posting privilege suspended for her uncalled for comment in message 6

redheaded vixen

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Raising teenage girls Posted: 7/9/2008 9:17:31 PM
OMG you definetly aren't out to lunch..but I do think he is. I have a teenager and she is awesome with keeping things clean..I never have to ask her, and her room is spotless. When she sees that things need to be done around the house ie: dishes, vacuuming, dusting, laundry etc she goes ahead and does it. I guess along with many other's here it is what we have taught the kids right from when they are young. A week ago I was at a cousin's place and she has 2 teenage girls, the house was a pig stye..the girl's do absolutely nothing..but it has always been that way. My daughter was even disgusted.

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

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How long will a women wait Posted: 6/12/2008 12:46:53 PM
OP: don't be so hard on yourself...I agree with what Kyn has said... Also think outside the box..nothing ventured nothing gained.

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Witnessing a child being abused - what would you do? Posted: 6/11/2008 10:34:47 PM
Cndn girl you did the right thing reporting this, and you need to follow up with child protection services to make sure that this incident is investigated. Yes they need to investigate EVERY complaint..let them know that you are willing to give a written statement. Also get the name of the person that you talk to on the phone and keep following up with that person. There are phone numbers posted here. I work at a children's hospital and see too often the results of child abuse it breaks my heart to see little lives destroyed. Don't worry about the 'swamp rat's' word against yours it is you that gets to look in the mirror and like the person looking back at you. OH MY GOD for anyone to try to justify an adult becoming physical with a child, other than to protect the child from harming themselves is totally sickening.

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

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To Date or not to Date Posted: 6/11/2008 10:03:42 PM
Here is what has worked for my kiddo and myself...I make it very clear at the onset of dating a guy that my daughter is first and foremost in my life. She is now a teenager and is stepping out into this huge world and has a life of her own. So now yes I have a bit more freedom also. A more significant question for me is...if the guy is a father and he isn't in his kid's lives then why not? The explanation for this is what I pay atttention to.

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Is SEPERATED a Death Sentence ?? Posted: 6/11/2008 9:25:16 PM
Oh Shartay very well said..

redheaded vixen

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Chick and horses Posted: 6/1/2008 1:30:37 AM
This is how this chick is with horses..I just came back in from a ride earlier tonite..had a sh**ty week and work and just wanted to get away from the hustle and bustle for a few hours, no cell phones/pager. When I go riding I focus on what is going on around me, Mother nature surrounds you everywhere.. the sights, sounds, and smell, I find my senses or more strongly in tune. I honestly get into a different frame of mind being around horses. I have been very lucky and have saw alot of amazing sights that I would of never saw except on the back of a horse. Sometimes I do alot of problem solving when riding and other times I don't think at all...a horse is the best psychologist for this chick.

redheaded vixen

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Is SEPERATED a Death Sentence ?? Posted: 6/1/2008 12:33:10 AM
I know for myself it is definetly not a choice that I will go back and try again. I dated a man that has been physically separated from his ex wife for a yr and emotionally seperated from her for over 2 yrs, he kicked her out a yr ago for screwing around on him. They would talk weekly and amicably as they have two boys, then one of the boys mentioned that his dad was seeing me. We live in a smaller community and she found out where I lived. One night him and I were at my place..I left for 10 mins to pick my daughter up at work, when I got home she had walked into my place pushed everything off my kitchen table and said horrible wicked things infront of my 15 yr old daughter. I asked once nicely to leave as she wasn't welcome at my place then when that didn't help I called the police...then finally as she was walked away she keyed his truck and then threatened to key my car (I had only had it for 1 month) He didn't do anything about her keying is truck as he had his work truck with him. Then 3 weeks ago she tried to run us off the road she was in her car and we were in his truck. Then low and behold my car was keyed some time that night to the tune of over $4000.00 damage. We reported the road thing to the cops and they said the most they could give her was ticket for driving on the wrong side of the road. There is nothing I can do about the keying as we never saw her do it. My daughter was also scared to stay home by herself in case this crazy b***ch came back. In canada i can't get a restraining order against her because I am not a family memember or an ex. So he is no longer in our life due to the fact of his ex all of a sudden taken an interest in what he was doing. Oh by the way she has been living with the guy that she screwed around on her husband with. The huge bummer is that he was awesome to my daughter, and is the first one that she has really liked. So no way in hell will I date a separated man again.

redheaded vixen

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Single parenting Toughest job in the world Posted: 5/28/2008 10:30:51 AM
Thank you Casino.it has been the most challenging thing I have done, but I really don't think I would of changed any part of it. Mine just turned 16 and oh I am sooo lucky to have a thoughtful, bright, happy 16 yr old, and I can say I did it on my own.

redheaded vixen

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Please critique my profile - looking for your point of view Posted: 2/27/2008 8:46:22 PM
Hi Eddie could please also critique mine..I have tried to redo it a couple of times but it still sounds a weekly grocery list. rhv

redheaded vixen

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unable to find men to take me seriously Posted: 2/2/2008 9:23:02 AM
OP don't take it to heart..many of use women on here get those kind of emails/IM's that is what the 'block' option is for. If you do a forum search you find many posts regarding this. OMG!!!!!!!!! Lyndee first I was stunned to read your comment and now I'm just plain laughing..... what a rude comment..no one should ''''settle'''' no matter... gender..., color..., nationality...

redheaded vixen

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Any Docs on here? Advice please.... Posted: 2/2/2008 1:05:29 AM
Thanks Simply bummer to hear that she isn't getting a whole lot better. I check your posts everyday to see how things are going. As being a mom myself I feel for you and think of you and your daughter everday...

redheaded vixen

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Any Docs on here? Advice please.... Posted: 1/21/2008 8:20:20 PM
Hi Simply... glad to hear that things may be on the mend with your daughter. Thank you for keeping us updated...nothing worse than having your children sick. What a bunch of great supportive swimming in this pond. May your dreams include at least one with that hot young doctor...;-)

redheaded vixen

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Any Docs on here? Advice please.... Posted: 1/20/2008 3:37:24 PM
Hello OP nope not a doc but I work at a children's hospital. Here are hopefully some helpful suggestions.. >yes continue with the tylenol suppositories you can also give gravol that route..but phone the pharmacy or the nearest ER to get the dosage..the dosage on the box is very very generic..when we give tylenol at work we give it by the children's weight. >Her antibiotics may be contributing to the nausea and vomiting, not every antibiotic is a good one...nor the right one. Also keep a diary regarding how many times she has ear infections, what you have treated it with and what does and doesn't work. >Since she has been sick so long she is most likely dehydrated..is she becomes lethargic and she quits peeing..you need to get her to emerg asap..It doesn't matter how many times you have taken her to ER..you may need to get a bit more assertive, give them the history that you have here..they should act on it immediately, if not then kick your assertiveness into high gear. >The BRAT diet is perfect you need to keep nutrients going into the bowel as it doesn't take long for the bowel to become extremely irritated. Ok after all you should just probably take her back to ER. Just in case maybe pack an overnight bag also. P.S...teething does not cause temps in children. I have been told this by many pediatricians. Please keep us updated on how your daughter is doing.

redheaded vixen

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Does anyone know a good homeade buiscuit recipie..... Posted: 11/21/2007 4:43:54 PM
Here is my grandmother's buttermilk biscuit recipe...It is to die for 3/4 cup of white sugar 2 teaspoons baking powder pinch of salt 3 cups white flour 3/4 cup of shortening 1 tsp of baking soda (actually just shy of a teaspoon) 1 cup buttermilk (not the lite variety) Mix all the dry ingredients together then cut in the shortening, blend together. Add the buttermilk and mix only until moistened, roll onto counter and then cut with round cookie cutter. I have found that over mixing = hockey pucks. Bake at 400 for 8-10 minutes until top golden brown.

redheaded vixen

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how do you answer a stepchild: do you love me as much as your own child? Posted: 10/1/2007 10:31:04 AM
OMG ^^^^ lieing to a child is one of the worst things you can do. I work with children in hospital environment and even if I am going to do a hurtful procedure to them I never ever lie to them and tell them it won't hurt. I have been thanked many times over by parents for being honest. Kids love/trust unconditionally and it takes a nano second to ruin that trust. Kids are extremely smart, they see, hear , and process information waaay different than adults. It may seem a simple and easy enough question but it obviously isn't black and white. Op there is alot of great suggestions but jmo CaitlynO nailed it bang on.

redheaded vixen

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New Medical TV Shows Posted: 9/27/2007 8:20:11 AM
I love all those medical shows on TLC. I work in the medical field and love watching the high drama stuff and without having to be involved personally. Honestly I have gotten some great ideas on how to deal or talk to some of my real life patients. From what I have dealt with at work I have a different outlook on life..I have learnt to really stop and smell the roses, quit my &(&...and to suck up lifes little lumps and bumps as there is always someone out there worse off than myself. And I think some of these shows pervay the same thing to the viewing audience. The internet does far more damage to a hypochondriac than these shows ever will. jmo

redheaded vixen

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Anyone here grow orchids? Posted: 9/3/2007 9:04:45 PM
^^^^^ don't repot them they are airiel (sp) roots..'most' orchids grow in very humid climates and those roots are necessary. I have phal orchids...a great site to learn more about orchids is the 'orchid lady' she also has further links there follow.

redheaded vixen

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help? what to do with my daughter? Posted: 8/16/2007 11:40:32 AM
OP lots of great advice here. I hugely believe in the reward system but not to make a monetary (sp) reward on a regular basis. I don't know what your bedtime routine is but here are some suggestions that worked real well with my daughter and I. It is amazing how smart children are, and how well some parents can be manipulated unknowingly by little minds. Have some quality cuddle time right before bed-- t.v off, story time or chit chat time. Let your daughter know that it is daddy's house and that she is to sleep in her bed, and that at mommies house it is between her and her mom. This worked great for me when my daughter was younger. You are not being the bad person, just reinforcing that rules are different between her to two homes. -night light with the door open -the monster spray bottle also worked well at times. Then when she was 10 we were the victims of a B & E (thankfully we weren't home at the time) The thieves came in through my daughter's room, needless to say she was terrified to sleep in her room following. We went to the paint store and I let my daughter pick out a paint color that she liked (within reason of course). I painted her room and then we went and picked out a matching curtain, sheet and bedspread (her choice) I also rearranged her room so that nothing was the same as prior to the B & E. She slept with me for the first week then we made up a bed on the floor (I got tired of being kicked in the kidneys) and she slept on the floor in my room for the first 6 months...occasionally sleeping in her room for part of the night. Then we graduated in baby steps to her room all night with night light on and door open. She was always so proud when a new baby step was accomplished, as I made a big deal about it. For the last 3 yrs she has slept in her room, with the door closed and no night lite. P.S she always needs to know that you will there she needs you. Goodluck

redheaded vixen

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Baby taken from parents at 2 days old???? Posted: 7/20/2007 1:41:35 PM
Well now that the story has been heard KUDOS to the nurse for following up on what she had asked the mom to do which is to seek medical attention for the baby. There was one statement here in regards that the nurse was out of line????????? Thank god the nurse was doing what she has been trained to do. Or maybe there would be two parents grieving the loss of their new baby that had succumbed to SIDS. As a nurse that works with children on a regular basis if we or the general public suspect any kind of abuse verbal/physical/neglect it is our legal responsibility to report the situation to the authorities. Once a nurse has dealt with abuse involving a child we never forget it (wish we could) and the red flags tend to go up real fast. Don't get me wrong this wasn't abuse but it was a type of neglect and in the end I am sure the parents will be thankful that they will have a baby to bring home again.

redheaded vixen

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Moving slain Mayerthorpe Police Officer's body Posted: 7/10/2007 9:36:42 AM
Epica thank you & sorry I stand corrected. I was just going on what I saw on the news for the last two nights, Leo's mother was heart broken. forumfish..I agree that it should be private but it was on the media and both the family and the widow had replies. Now maybe this post should rest in peace also.

redheaded vixen

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Moving slain Mayerthorpe Police Officer's body Posted: 7/10/2007 9:00:58 AM
^^^^^^^^^ have made some wrong assumptions his parents have not gone to albertans nor to the MLA's. It was a question that I myself posed. For two nights in a row I have sat and watched on the news how much more grief this decision has brought on to Leo's parents. I have to agree with everyone '''may Leo"' rest in peace''' Thank you to all the people in law enforcement/military that have given their lives in order so that we can live in a better place. As to the general public hashing over people's choices..if you didn't like the post then why reply? There have been many people that have read but kept their opinion to themselves. I put it on here as a question and so followed with my opinion, and respect everyone's else opinion. We all have an opinion and luckily live in a free nation where we can still print or voice our opinion.

redheaded vixen

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Moving slain Mayerthorpe Police Officer's body Posted: 7/9/2007 10:00:24 AM
So be it Dusty..you respected your husband's wishes. Neither Leo's widow nor his parents mentioned that it was Leo's desire, to be moved to Regina. I am sure if it was he would of been buried there initially, instead of being laid to rest in the town where he grew up. Also you are signignificantly younger than Leo's parents so the drive right now is no problem for you. But remember from the ^^^ post his parents have been to his grave site every day. Yes she was his wife....BUT what about the parents who raised Leo? What about the woman who gave birth to him? The community that supported him, the officers that to this day go to his grave side for emotional support? If it was Leo's wishes to be moved to Regina then so be it and I feel that everyone involved needs to respect that. I know that on Wednesday his parents will be in my thoughts, and I hope that the community of Lac La Biche once again surrounds the family and supports them.

redheaded vixen

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Moving slain Mayerthorpe Police Officer's body Posted: 7/9/2007 8:10:22 AM
Well, how much more do the families have to put up with? What is this world coming to?????? His widow has decided to move the police officer's body from Lac La Biche to Regina to be reinturned (sp) in the RCMP Memorial Grave Site. What the && is up with that? His parents have been to his graveside everyday for over 28 months. Also members of the RCMP in Lac La Biche have also gone to the graveside when they have had especially trying shifts. He is a home town boy and his parents aren't spring chickens anymore. Gee so now they will have to drive for over 10hrs to visit their son's graveside, they are devastated by this decision. The widow lives in Airdrie, and when contacted by the news states 'I stand by decision' Do you think that she should have the right to do this?

redheaded vixen

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Mayerthorpe Mounties make two arrests Posted: 7/9/2007 7:56:13 AM
As per the news last night there are two others that have been charged and are in custody. The police have always wondered how the psycho got back from point A to B. There were still saying last night that there was only one shooter. It will be interesting to see how this all plays out.

redheaded vixen

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Scooter??? Posted: 7/3/2007 5:24:14 PM
thank you I stand corrected....helmet

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Scooter??? Posted: 7/1/2007 3:53:19 PM
PP: please, please enforce no helmut.. no riding the scooter. I see them all around my community and very few riders wear helmuts. I also work in a children's hospital and sure as heck as like with atvs we will start seeing broken bones, necks, and smushed heads (no helmuts) as a result of the scooters. My daughter's friends have them, and I've been on a couple and there is a huge potential for major injuries.

redheaded vixen

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I have a Question for all of the women out there, but men feel free to put in your two cents Posted: 6/29/2007 12:21:30 PM
Absolutely agree with the statements about taking along one red rose, or be different and bring 3 roses a different color, ask the florist to the stems into the little plastic water reservoirs, then she won't have to worry about them for the rest of the night... being a true romantic I buckle at the knees when a man gives me flowers.

redheaded vixen

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Cheaters...How do you deal?? Posted: 6/28/2007 8:55:40 PM
There is a HUGE difference between a fwb relationship and being the other woman...If I was the fiancee I would definetly like to know...been there done that.... but I wasn't a fiancee...we were living together.

redheaded vixen

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packrat syndrome Posted: 4/19/2007 1:27:52 PM
Trubble didn't say anything about putting his dad in a senior's home. If his dad is living in conditions that are dangerous to his health then yes someone has a right to step in. From what trubble described it is a safety issue. With most of us our parents raised us in safe healthy environments, so why should not be concerned and do something about it when the roles are reversed? For anyone to tell him to leave it alone, obviously you haven't been in this position....OMG I am supporting one of trubble's posts...lol I guess hell has froze over. Just kidding trubble you will do what you feel you need to do. Yes I have gone through this twice...with a great aunt and with both of my grandmothers. Both grandmother's had dementia to the point when we would throw out old papers my one grandmother would cry. Yes it was hard to do for all of my family to see a loved go through that. My gr. aunt had all her faculites about her and for anyone to get around in her apt we had to walk sideways. She was easier to deal with as she knew that it had to be done in order for her to stay in her apt rather than go into a senior's home. In my past I have worked with senior's and they pretty much all think that going to a senior's home is like putting the old grey mare out to pasture. Or they feel that a senior's door is the last place before death. I so dread if the time comes when I will have to go through this with my parents.

redheaded vixen

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Songs that mess you up... Posted: 4/14/2007 12:13:57 AM
--Feed jake puts a huge lump in my throat. --Whiskey lullaby --Rascal Flatts signs a song about a little girl that has just found out she has leukemia --Picture

redheaded vixen

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i love my kids mom but.... Posted: 4/1/2007 4:18:55 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Yeah!!!!!! Sweetandreal you pretty much summed it up. Although you didn't say what the OP wanted to hear so too bad. The OP had many excuses..he asked for our suggestions but blows them off. And to top it if off you complain about the hours of job. Suck it up and be thankful that she is working to provide a good environment for your son. OP now you will find out what really being a single parent is like. You hit the nail on the head that you are being selfish.

redheaded vixen

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Ways of disciplining a child Posted: 3/28/2007 9:41:41 PM
I agree with bits & pieces from each of the above posts as each child is different. T/O was the worst thing that I could do when my daughter was younger as she hated to be by herself. Time out also worked as I had a few minutes to think, and to be rational about the choice of discipline. I was told waaaaaaaay back when the dinosaur's roamed the earth that for each yr of the child's life = 1 minute of time out. I have also found that consistency & setting boundaries are the biggest help. If you are going to remove a privelage (?spell) make sure that is realistic for example. -If you and your child's only mean of transportation is by bike then taking away her bike privelage isn't realistic. -Also have the time equal the crime.

redheaded vixen

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So You Are Going To Have A Baby? Posted: 3/4/2007 9:26:42 PM
It has been a few yrs since I worked labor and delivery, and out of 11 docs that I worked with only 2 would even do them. So you need to discuss this with the doc previous to delivery. If the Delivery doc won't do it then ask if they can refer you to someone who will. Many of our docs are from overseas and they don't believe in it, so definetly discuss it prior to delivery, and possibly be prepared for some flack. You will have to pay for it prior to the circ that I do know.

redheaded vixen

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Biological father loses custody to adoptive parents Posted: 1/29/2007 4:01:36 PM
Treeman.......I take huge offense to you labeling the 'adoptive parents as greedy, and total strangers? ^^^^^^^^^ Says it all, no education, drinking problem, already has a daughter that he has not contact with...Geesh who in their right mind would want a child to go to a bio father like that????????okay turning the tables now or to the bio-mother. Believe me big boy.. as an adoptive parent the shit that my ex and I had to go through in order to receive the most precious gift that anyone could ever give to me was incredible. Our lives were an open book ...our application form was 42 pages long (typewritten)and the only thing they didn't ask us is which hand we wipe our butts with. Before our adoption could go through the bio father was petitioned (mandatory) He did not step up to the plate. Over the yrs in order to try to conceive I have had 13 surgeries, right after one surgery they just about lost me within 3 hrs of the surgery. Infertility is huge strain on a relationship, my ex was ridiculed by his friends and family that 'he wasn't man enough not to just be shooting blanks' We were always the last to find out that friends or family were expecting babies because no one wanted to tell us as they all knew what we were/had gone through. Two yrs prior to us getting my now daughter we had another adoption fall through as the birth mom changed her mind 18 days after the baby was born, I was on maternity leave, friends put on a huge baby shower. Both of the girls are mine whether I gave birth or not to both of them. When we had to take the first baby back it was like getting my heart physically ripped out of my chest. We went to counselling and yes we did grieve that little baby that was taken back. Adoption is very costly adoptive parents pay more to become parents than what most bio parents spend in the first 5 yrs of their children's lives.. Sorry for getting off topic but damn I am an adoptive parent and I am defiently not greedy. P.S. Our adoption is open but we no longer have any contact with either of her bio parents. Yearly I send pics and along letter to the bio mom. We left this decision totally up to my daughter. Due to the openness of our adoption I know for a fact that my daughter has a better life living with me than she ever would of had with her bio mother.

redheaded vixen

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Mom, Matchbox cars, and me. Posted: 1/23/2007 8:28:04 AM
In all honesty I agree with eastcoast, the mom has parenting issues of her own..be less tolerant if he was your own child??? He doesn't need to be of your own flesh & blood in order to respect you & also your relationship with his mom. Personally I would have more respect for a man if he was to stand up to my daughter and not be a push over. My daughter is now 14 and is a good kid, I don't think I would have bought into the games if she would of tried to do some of the things that the boy has. I have done hrs & hrs of reading on this & listening to friends that have gone through it as I would rather be prepared than to lose out out on a super guy. I wouldn't have a problem with a SO stepping up to bat and helping me as long, as he understands the way I parent. What the heck! he may even have some great suggestions in order to help me be a better parent. I definetly wouldn't be insulted at all. You need to set the limit real fast as it is a mole hill developing into a mountain. Reinforce to gf that you are dating her... and her son is an added bonus. Ask gf what role she sees you as in her and her son's life. And then let her know what you would like regarding being in her and her son's life, maybe you would be helping her to be a better parent since as you say her parents weren't. I really do feel that you need to set up that dinner date...let her know how important your issues are. Also let her know prior to the date what you would like to talk about so that she doesn't feel like you've blind sided her. Okay off to bed as worked last night and couldn't wait to see what other's have suggested. Please keep us updated as I am sure there are many on here that have or are going through what you are.

redheaded vixen

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Mom, Matchbox cars, and me. Posted: 1/22/2007 9:10:11 AM
Algy... I totally agree with the posts where they have said that you need to set some boundaries, and be consitent with them, children respect boundaries. You have obviously accepted him and his mom as a package, but..the boy needs to understand from the get go that you and his mom will be having some one on one time. I am stunned that he interrupts you in the bedroom..that is unless he is having bad dreams or is scared..(and that can be manipulated very easily) Here is a suggestion for nix naying that..maybe all 3 of you, at the boy's bed time go into his room and have some 'package time'..reading him a story or just having some time to talk about what happened in during the day. Reinforce if it has happened that the boy did give you and mom some one on one time (reinforcing positive behavior) and then let him know that you will see him in the morning. Children are wayyyy smarter than us grown ups give them credit for. Oh oh gonna get shot down for this...from you last post re:cooking..the boy obviously manipulated that one. I am stunned that your gf didn't step in and tell her son that now wasn't an appropriate time, you really need to communicate with her. You telling him that you want to spend time in the morning waking up is totally not being a bad guy..sheesh when I get up in the morning it is pretty much 'don't talk to me until I've at least had one cup of java' I grew up in a household where my dad worked away alot. Believe me when he got home his attention wasn't soley on myself and my siblings. To this day none of us have a problem with it. If he gets hurt because you don't want to go and 'play' with him all the time then oh well that is life it isn't always what we want and you may be teaching him a life lesson. You may have to back track in order to undo some things that you have done..ie: spending so much time with the boy doing one on one. I think you really need to discuss your concerns with your gf one on one and not be afraid that her son will over hear the two of you. Possibly arrange for a sitter and take your gf out for a nice dinner, where children are not widly accepted. Or let her read your posts here, I feel it is a big issue with you and is already putting a strain on what could end being one happy family. good luck

redheaded vixen

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Realistic Access Posted: 1/22/2007 8:30:57 AM
Saralee..I was in your same situation when my daughter was younger..saw her hurt way too many times by the man that she calls 'dad'. I never slammed him nor did I make excuses for him, he needs to answer to his own actions. Now she is 14 and believe me, she sees him in his true light. She has totally backed off from spending time with him, I asked her one day casually why she hardly ever sees him anymore? Her reply was "mom I wasn't stupid when I was younger" Let me tell you my chin hit the floor as she had him on such a pedestal, well I thought she did anyway. I totally believe and have lived 'what goes around comes around' Be the best support for your children, and try your hardest not to let them down. The children are smarter and process more than we give them credit for.

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Bad Diaper Rashes~~~Help!! Posted: 1/22/2007 8:15:26 AM
OP if it is itchy it might be a yeast infection, and because you have tried everything I am leaning more towards that, yes a yeast infection can make the butt raw and bleed. I have only one daughter but work in a children's hospital. We use an antifungal ointment that you will need a prescription for. But you could also try canestan or another adult antifungal cream. Good luck.

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

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T-ball Posted: 1/22/2007 7:44:25 AM
Yeah to you calgaryguy to not only wanting to get your daughter in extra curricular activities but also for wanting to volunteer to coach. I have always had my daughter in extra-curricular activities as feel it is an investment into keeping her out of trouble in the future. She tried gymnastics, bowling, soccer, and first t-ball then softball. She did not like gynmastics as she was 4 and didn't like the fact that I had to leave her (the clubs rules so that the kids weren't distracted on the equipment)....she is quite shy so I tried the team sports, they didn't work. Then 5 yrs ago my mom suggested I try figure skating and wow it has taken off. She now skates 4 days a week, @ the arena 2-4 hrs/day and competes roughly twice a month. She has learnt so much about herself ie: self discipline, goal setting, sportsmanship, healthy eating and lifestyle. Never in our wildest dreams did my family think that she would be able to step on the ice by herself & compete but she is at her best when at a competition skating under pressure.. Wow sorry for going on a tangent but in first paragraph it is nice to see parents getting involved...unfortunately it isn't like that in my town...the only time that you see a parent wanting to get involved is when they want to whine and complain. I have volunteered in all the activities that my daughter has been in and have saw the 'missing parent' phenomenom way too many times. Sorry I have no suggestions for your questions

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

Msg: 66 (view)

Question about putting him on the birth certificate Posted: 1/21/2007 7:47:58 PM
OP I too live in Canada and have had a couple dealings with what you are going through. My daughter is adopted (privately) and her birth mom was told by the social worker that if the birth father's name is on the BC then he would need to also be petitioned and informed of the adoption...he wanted nothing to do with the birthmom or the baby....that was 14 yrs ago. My sister also is a single parent and never put my nephew's father on the BC due to the fact that if she was to get married and her son was to have his step-father's name then they would have to petition the birth father in order. So I guess you need to get ahold of a lawyer for some advice as the what the future legalities would be. In my sister's case they did do a DNA and the man that my sister named as my nephew's dad indeed really is.

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

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contacting my kids father Posted: 1/20/2007 9:29:02 PM
Taz from your post in message 9. I think you answered your own question re:why do you want to contact him. (Sorry but I don't have the copy & paste thing down) In message 9 you basically said that you want to contact him just to let him know that you have been a great mom when he said you weren't. You have absolutely nothing to prove to him and just proud in the fact that you are raising healthy kids in a safe environment. Not to put you down but da## why would you even think of contacting a pedophile? Sheesh if I knew that one lived in my near surroundings I would get the hell out of dodge. Let alone try to initiate contact with a sick dog like your ex even if he is your children's father.

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

Msg: 40 (view)

one good deed... Posted: 1/11/2007 9:29:17 AM
Wow great thread to warm the a person when it is so da-- cold. At timmie's drive thru I always buy the person behind me a coffee. Also about 3 nights before xmas it was really cold, I was working nights and went across to timmie's. There was a young guy standing out in the freezing cold with just a blanket wrapped around him. He asked if I had any extra change...I told him hell no...but if he wanted something to eat I would gladly buy him a sandwich and some hot soup. He followed up on it and then was able to sit in timmies's where it was warm for the rest of the night. I wouldn't give him money as didn't know if it would go to support an addictive habit.

redheaded vixen

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Msg: 42 (view)

child support info Posted: 1/10/2007 10:00:58 AM
Weezy...I work with a girl and her ex has all 3 of her kid's. She pays child support for all of them, and she also feels strongly that she should. So yes it does happen.

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Touchy-Feely Posted: 1/9/2007 9:42:44 PM
^^^^ agree here....but no butt slapping.

redheaded vixen

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Msg: 60 (view)

Why are there so many hot nurses on POF? Posted: 1/9/2007 9:39:00 PM
lovely tina thank you so much for the encouragement.... <--------------100% real nurse and real person ..no extra air Yes the shift work & working weekends does make it harder for dating, but that goes with any shift worker. I have been recognized from my pics here at work, and I don't have a problem with it at all.

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Would you take the risk? Posted: 1/5/2007 7:23:31 PM
OP I took that risk 5 yrs ago and haven't looked back...it was really really hard at first and many tears later to step out of my comfort zone but I have really found my niche in my field. So according to my experience I say go for it...but don't burn your bridges along the way as one never knows. P.S missbex good luck

redheaded vixen

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Cooking for your Date? Posted: 1/5/2007 7:20:59 PM
papabear if you are willing to share post your recipes plleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaassssseee

redheaded vixen

Joined: 7/27/2006

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Cooking for your Date? Posted: 1/5/2007 7:19:40 PM
I bbq year round...from my experiences wheezy almost anything that resembles a home cooked meal will do...I have more problems picking out what kind of wine to serve with what..so if anyone can elaborate on that along with wheezy's question it would be very much appreciated from me also.

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