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That annoying question but I want to know Posted: 3/26/2013 1:44:03 AM
I went on a first day with a man I met online on Saturday. While on the date he flirted casually and mentioned having an Iron man Marathon since I haven't seen them. Anywhoo I am being a total girl and thinking he isn't interests just because he hasn't made any further plans with me. The date was fun and simple he reached out to me via text yesterday but no mentioning of further plans... Is he interested? Oh when we were messaging before the meet he said he wants to go slow... Does taking it slow mean giving me a hug at the end of our date? Or he isn't interested? Thanks for any opinions well except for the nasty negative things some people like to respond with!

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Concerned? Naw concerned is too serious of a word. Posted: 4/18/2012 2:59:39 AM
I suppose I could have said this earlier but the main reason for asking advice is because I get tons of emails on here. But about 90 percent of the time the guy only wants a sexual relationship with me. So I think there is something I have wrote or possibly my pics that scream "come and get me I want it now." I don't think I am over thinking this as I do a lot of things, I have had this profile for a couple years now and this has been a problem from day one. I by far am not needy although sometimes I wish I were (the needy girls seem to always have a guy) weird. Thnaks for the comments

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Concerned? Naw concerned is too serious of a word. Posted: 4/17/2012 11:02:24 PM
I am curious as to how my profile reads to the male viewer/reader. I am aware that men generally speaking respond/initiate based on photos alone and I am a bigger girl so I should expect the lack of messages. But with that being said I am not one to defend my weight because I certainly am not ok with it and am now pro-active in getting healthy. I don't know that it would help but I somewhat think I should write something about my lifestyle change (working out, eating right) in my profile. But for some reason I think that type of information reads so horribly also not sure it would be more helpful. My main objective here is this: a) Understand how profile reads from a males percpective b) Anyones opinion on the type of guy my profile attracts. Thank you for your time and comments

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Is intellegence a deal breaker? Posted: 3/12/2012 1:25:09 AM
Is it a deal breaker for you if the girl you're on a date with is not very smart? I do not mean total ditz but say you bring something up that the general public is knowlegable of and she has no idea what you are talking about. Will that turn you away? Especially on the first date considering first impressions are decision makers. When I first start dating a guy I am somewhat nervous so things I usually can talk about I sorda freez or say something so stupid. I just want to know if this is something that guys are aware of and look past or they assume I am a total moron and move on...

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Did I ruin it? Posted: 3/8/2012 12:23:59 AM
I am suuuuper old fashioned and believe if the guy is interested he needs to confront me. Mans job not ladys..... > and that is why all of my friends say I am single "too set in my foolish beliefs" I can't help it plus I am shy as hek!

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Did I ruin it? Posted: 3/8/2012 12:11:56 AM
Seeming like a crazy person isn't normal for me.. that isn't who I am. I am usually goofy, silly, sarcastic kind of sense of humor and have a lot to say. Around guys I am attracted to I shut down :/ Oh well. I WISH guys would just tell me they are interested instead of the stupid dance they do.

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Did I ruin it? Posted: 3/7/2012 10:50:13 PM
In my English class there is a guy that I have been smiling at trying to make him notice me over the last several weeks. Lately he has purposely coming near me (stopped at my table to put his books away when he sits accross the room, practically followed me to my car, sorda slowed down to walk with me down the hallway etc) I am super shy so I hadn't spoke to him any of those times.. Ok so a little about me. Guys that I am attracted to I am super weird around them. They will say something to me I will respond with like a few words then just stare. In my mind I am just trying to read him like what is he thinking right now etc. but to them I realize I look like a crazy person haha. Today this guy, two other girls and I were put into a group together. So finally we meet... He starts a conversation with me immediately Says something like "Oh I am so tired just got a second job and started reading the hunger games... so my essay is probably bad." (I had to read and analyze his essay) I said "oh thats unfortunate, second job would suck" then just stared and smiled. when I realized that i was doing it again I looked away haha.... Question Did I ruin my (if any) chances with this guy? My grammar, spelling, and all the other proper English stuff is horrible I know! I am exhausted.

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He's just not that into me?? long but please read! Posted: 2/17/2012 10:05:48 AM
Thanks for all the advice. The person that said need to question the integrity of our mutual friend. This friend is an amazing guy who has been there for me at all costs in the last 6 six years. He is a virgin and is devoted to his fiancé so his integrity is just fine. About the guy and the photos. It began with just exchanging normal photos like our nieces and places we have been and ourselves. Until a couple days into exchanging I sent one with cleavage (unintentionally since I have large breasts it is inevitable) then he asked for more with cleavage. I got weird and stopped responding as much etc... My friend said I was wrong about how I handled it (thinking this guy was only interested in sex) not about not sending the pics. Anyhow I will see the wedding goes thanks again. OH and I would and have never had sex with a guy I am not in a relationship with.

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He's just not that into me?? long but please read! Posted: 2/17/2012 3:35:28 AM
Hahaha that's halarious! I would never do such a thing!! I couldn't do it sober.

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He's just not that into me?? long but please read! Posted: 2/17/2012 3:33:50 AM
So say you are correct. Your or other's opinion... Do you think I can change his mind? Lol I am not the desperate type I back away soo much that guys have told me they had no clue I was interested in them but this guy is amazing and I am willing to put myself out there if it means I have chance to date him. Is it rediculous to think that I can make him interested if he isn't?

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He's just not that into me?? long but please read! Posted: 2/17/2012 2:42:15 AM
I met a guy through one of my best friends. We only have the one friend in common so we don't see each other often. Anytime I talk to my friend if this guy is with my friend he will tell him to tell me hi or just try to talk to me. He finally started to text me (he took my number from our mutual friend). In the begining he would only text me when he was with our mutual friend. Then one night he continued to text then called we talked for a while that night. We text for few weeks after. During this time I moved about and hour away from him. He had told me the next time I am in town that we need to hang out or something. I said ya sounds good. We continued to text but he started asking for more and more photos of myself (he is a photographry major and owns his own photography business). He started asking for pics with cleavage. Ugh long long story shorter... I am sensitive to anything sexual flirty like with a guy too soon. I am afraid he will get the wrong idea so I didn't play back a whole lot. All of this being said...He stopped texting me... Then when I was in town I let him know and said we should hang out. He didn't reply. I definetly do not presue anyone. I am too shy. So I didn't talk to him again. Our mutual friend asked me about him and I and I told him what happened and I that I got the impression that he only wanted one thing from me. My friend told me that I over reacted and I was wrong. NOW it is like five months later and I havn't put this guy out of my head.... Is he totally done with me? Our mutual friend's wedding is in May. This guy text me a couple days ago out of the blue and asked if I was going to the wedding and I said yea.. he replied with "Boss!" >whatever that means haha!! anyway guys help me understand what I think I already know.. If was interested I would know YES?? or NO??

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