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 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
pre sexual agreements
Posted: 2/7/2007 10:10:37 PM
sometimes the easiest answers are the best ones.......I hate to say it but, my opinion is that if you sleep with someone, and you are a guy OR a girl, you are both 100% responsible for what happens.......dont play the victim, its not becoming.......take ownership of your mistakes....if you get pregnant, you should have been more careful......
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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flip flops
Posted: 2/1/2007 1:30:40 PM
they are the closest thing to having bare feet....that is why I wear them.....I can go from the beach to the mall and not change my shoes........
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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DO you have a particular style you like your man to have ?
Posted: 1/28/2007 2:01:53 PM
I agree, I hate the cowboy look as well......unless you are on a farm...My fav look would have to be a guy on a bike....bike gear is hot.....sport bike that is.....anyways, to add to the original question, I also enjoy men who take care of themselves.....hygenically.......there is nothing wrong with a shower....clean yourself up a bit...if you are gonna lay in bed all day, brush your damn teeth.......I cant remember when it started happening to me but, I am absolutely turned off by men who dont keep care of themselves..........
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Are Women Easily Manipulated
Posted: 1/28/2007 1:53:24 PM
there have been many times where I have played the victim but, I also have remembered that I am NOT the victim and using that as an excuse is just that.....AN EXCUSE. I dont believe that ppl are manipulated as easily as they are claiming to be. If I was sleeping with a married man, then I was sleeping with a married man and I am not using my best judgment. Its not that the married man is "tricking me into" sleeping with him, I went there, I laid down...etc.

this shouldnt be generalized by women or men, its different in all situations......and with all different kinds of ppl.....i manipulate tonnes of situations on a daily basis....am I smart or a manipulator???? lol

 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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A question about singles search
Posted: 1/28/2007 1:44:18 PM
If a man has a child I wouldnt "judge" him but, if I did not want to play step-mom, then I wouldnt date him. If a man only seeks out slim or slender, I dont "judge" him but, I wouldnt try to date him. I tend not to be a judging person but, yes I do pass by profiles or ppl on here if they dont fit my criteria.

We cant take it so personal that there may be ppl on here that dont want to date us, we can turn that around and think they are judging us.

Just cus you are on a "dating site" does not mean you have to like/talk to/date or become friends with every person that talks to you.

i narrow my search but, I am not looking for anyone.....does that make sense? no, cus why would I be looking or using a search if I am not looking for anyone............
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Sorry you cant come to my place , because I live with my EX Girlfriend.
Posted: 1/2/2007 6:29:01 PM
I used to love hiding in the garage, not knowing the phone number to his house, running up the stairs past the living room to hide in his room, calling ahead to see if she was home, damn those were fun times........AHHHHH!!! I let it happen and I "lived with it"....hopefully she was just an Ex and I dont find out about something later on down the road...........I give too many second chances.....this time I better not get burned......
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Butterflies
Posted: 1/2/2007 6:19:01 PM
I still get butterflies when I see my bf......and he was such a good New Years Date that I think I fell in love all over again.............
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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MOVING IN
Posted: 12/30/2006 10:59:55 AM
deathly afraid of it but, that is just due to the only experience I have had so far with living with a boyfriend.......I might be ready again - one day, lol........

One thing that I dont think many ppl realize is that you are beginning your "can I live with this guy" interview after a relationship turns to the committed side. Once some women, I wont generalize, feel as though that is the next step, they start to watch how you are at their house, ie. cleaning up after yourself, putting your things away, keeping a tidy drawer at her house, etc. She begins to gauge your cleanliness to hers and see if you could live together.

The more crap he leaves around at my house, and the more he leaves junk for me to pick up, the more I am thinking that I have to wait until that changes before I will consider moving in......
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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How do you interpret your date not being able to make eye contact?
Posted: 12/27/2006 6:13:07 PM
I just recently confessed to my current bf that I did not make eye-contact on the first date due to feeling light-headed and weak-at-the-knees if I did for too long......and I had nothing to hide on the first date, nor did I have bad intentions......
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Trust
Posted: 12/27/2006 6:07:05 PM
I am glad that I met my bf online first, then I got to know him a bit better first. Instead of meeting in person and having to deal with the whole attraction thing.

In my opinion, it doesnt matter where you meet someone. Just because you met them in a coffee shop doesnt mean that you can trust them anymore than someone that you met online.

I agree with you drugstore cowboy, if you met them here and dont trust them, why are you here to met them?
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Ok Ladies, What do you look at first on a man? body or face?
Posted: 12/27/2006 5:52:36 PM
I look into his eyes first....the more I fall in love the hotter he gets..........bonus for me cus I already thought he was hot when I first met him......
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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If she says you're the one... How can you be sure.
Posted: 12/24/2006 1:57:22 PM
lol...I have said that in almost all my serious relationships cus, like the above, they "at the time" were The One.....I have decided to stop saying that......from now on, when the perfect lying-in-bed-tellin-each-other-how-much-you-love-them moment comes again, I will just say "Mr. Right Now" and see how he responds..........
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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What is it about muscians
Posted: 12/9/2006 12:08:05 PM
.....there is just something about a man with a guitar......all sweaty on stage....hmmm..... I am such a groupie.......
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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tight jeans
Posted: 12/9/2006 12:06:28 PM
Personal Preference for me: I hate tight jeans/pants, etc. I like when a man wears jeans that fit him, properly, so tight to me is not a preference........
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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How did you meet your last boyfriend?
Posted: 12/9/2006 11:55:28 AM
met online, not this site....
just started talking......
the first time we had drinks I couldnt keep eye contact with him for very long cus everytime I did, it took everything in me not to jump over the table and kiss him.......


 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Just friends
Posted: 12/6/2006 6:11:26 PM
wow!! DRAMA QUEENS!!!! They want you to chase them or they see you in a different light and get jealous when you date someone else......"we always want what we cant have"....how quickly are you dating someone else? if you arent turning around and asking someone else, then they dont have the right to get mad....if you allow them their space and they dont come to you, then of course, move on.......get back on that dock and throw out the rod again........keep on fishing.......
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Love vs. Like
Posted: 12/6/2006 5:58:10 PM
if she is worth it, then wait to see what happens....the more you **** about this other guy, the more she will run to him.....just keep being there for her and if its meant to be, it will be.......you cant do much.......I have been there, some women just cant let go of the men that treat them like shit.....they may have "daddy" issues, or are just scared or real love, whatever the case may be.......good luck.....
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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How can i get her to stop hitting on us?
Posted: 12/6/2006 5:54:42 PM
seriously? just tell her to stop being inappropriate.......there is a time and place for comments like that and if you arent at the Strip club then it is not the time or place.......and, secondly, if she is going home to "get some" on a friday night....she aint getting any......most ppl dont broadcast to the world when they "get some"........maybe she is just forgetting to add the last part of what she is getting - wings maybe??? maybe she goes home to eat a bucket of chicken wings every friday night.........lol........
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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How much of the truth really comes out?
Posted: 12/6/2006 5:50:04 PM
when we are drunk we tend to lose our inhibitions a bit more than on a regular day therefore, when we are drunk we may be more inclined to "say everything" to someone......I have put my foot in my mouth a few too many times when I have been drinking...... I would talk to your friend and see if what she said was true or just drunken babbles........or the question is, do you like what she said to you? did she tell you she is in love with you or has feelings for you or just wants to sleep with you?

if you feel the same way back and want to "venture" that avenue, then ask her if what she said was drunken babbles.........if you dont feel the same way and worry about the friendship, wait for an appropriate time to maybe make a joke about it and see her reaction, you know, bring it up but brush it off as not a big deal and see what happens.........otherwise, keep fishing
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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first meeting....she brings gifts..........
Posted: 11/25/2006 4:37:16 PM
this is hard to respond to since I dont know what she brought or what was discussed prior to meeting but, what I will say is maybe she has just had an experience where someone thought that she was a money-sucker and she just wanted to prove that theory wrong. Her nerves of meeting someone maybe made her think that bringing a gift would make you think that she is not a leach........who knows.......

again, this is hard to respond to without all the details........
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Friends/Hang Out vs. Dating
Posted: 11/11/2006 7:41:39 PM
I met my b/f online and now just come here to read the forums......but, I do agree with the other posts, most ppl are looking to find friends first and hopefully that will turn into someting more.......why is it so hard to find new friends anyways, I can get a date no problem but, no one wants to hang out.....
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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do girls like a guy who has a hairy back and chest?
Posted: 11/11/2006 7:35:25 PM
who cares about the hairyness??? I dont!!! As long as he treats me right and keeps me happy, I dont care.......now, hairy bums - that is different - no thanks
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Couples who go to strip clubs
Posted: 11/11/2006 7:30:37 PM
I love the strippers, not the male strippers - I dont like to see men in thongs, I like to see the female strippers. A womans body is a beautiful thing, why not enjoy it with your friends and a pitcher of beer?
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Does this happen to any other girls?
Posted: 11/11/2006 7:23:15 PM
Thank god - I was thinking that this only happened to me......I also just cant work my legs....cant move for a minute.....I faked it if my legs arent shaking, lol........
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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How To reassure him I CARE!
Posted: 11/5/2006 12:08:41 PM
Just to be sure, have you seen pics of him? I only ask because maybe he began talking to you and wasnt honest with who he was and now is afraid that you will figure out that he doesnt look like how he described. I know that sounds weird but, that is how my thoughts work......the flip-side: totally self-conscious about a Zit that he got right before you showed up and didnt want to see you......just remember, if its meant to be it will be.......give him the benefit of the doubt and explain to him how much that upset you and let him explain himself.....
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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how long before you have your boy friend meet your parents?
Posted: 11/4/2006 5:58:14 PM
I think it should be a bigger deal when you introduce them to your best-friend or group of friends......my friends approval is more important to me than my parents........and the plus side to that would be my friends would tell me the truth about their opinions about him......my parents would just live with my decisions, my friends would tell me to ditch or not ditch......
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Do you like having your hair played with
Posted: 10/22/2006 3:04:25 PM
I also LOVE my hair being played with, pulled on, brushed......etc. Except by complete strangers on the bus (true story) lol..........

start a new topic about women saying the word 'dude', this is about Hair, lol.
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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O.K.....On a Serious Note,Do Women Think About Serious Relationships Anymore?
Posted: 8/27/2006 9:00:20 PM
I will know if I want something serious with the one I am with, otherwise........I will continue to keep dating around..........
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Ex-Girlfriend DRAMA!
Posted: 8/20/2006 2:03:56 PM
he doesnt want her to leave him alone - point blank!!! we should tell these guys to stand up and be a man, get rid of the ex if you want to be with the new gf/fwb/etc.......do you like him that much to deal with this??? (I shouldnt talk, I am easily swayed by a charming man with kind eyes)
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Ex-Girlfriend DRAMA!
Posted: 8/20/2006 1:38:34 PM
How long have you been seeing each other??? a few weeks........if he will not give her stuff back, and you dont know when they broke up........he is seeing what is out there and leaving her on the back-burner, while he dates you....it might sound like they are broken-up but, the fact that he wont let her go away by hanging on to her stuff is a little strange.......you need to either talk to him or get out while your are still intact........make sure you take all your stuff back from his house before you run, apparently this guy uses womens stuff to hang on to them
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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Ex-Girlfriend DRAMA!
Posted: 8/20/2006 1:10:27 PM
she might be psycho or he may have not really cut things off with her, maybe he left the door open to her still??? you never know because you arent there when they talk and you just have to trust that what he tells you is the truth (as hard as that is sometimes)........why wont he give her stuff back?? that sounds a bit funny........has he been honest with you about the whole situation??? how long were they dating for??? all of this is relevant in deciding what you should do.........you need to ask yourself if you care for him enough to "deal" with the ex or if you tell him "to go fly!"......
 elisabeth81
Joined: 8/2/2006
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**SOS**
Posted: 8/20/2006 12:34:03 PM
that is one of the strangest commands to test obedience that I have ever seen........if someone was trying to test me by asking me to buy them something that cost that much, I would run for the hills......you should never have to test obedience and never with money.....sounds a little bit like a scam to me.....sorry
 
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