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cyn3100

Joined: 8/4/2006

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Good sex a problem? Posted: 4/10/2008 9:04:23 PM
acehigh50: You said you wouldn't tell!! lol

cyn3100

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faking it? Posted: 4/10/2008 1:20:11 AM
If I fake it, he won't learn! However, sometimes you just want it to STOP! I used to fake it as a good way to get him to stop without hurting his feelings. You can work on it later. Now, if momma don't get hers, poppa don't get his! LOL!

cyn3100

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Good sex a problem? Posted: 4/10/2008 1:14:20 AM
I've had a few partners my history that were so compatible (sexually) with me that we never developed the other aspects of the relationship. We never really talked to each other. EVER! Each time, the relationship eventually died. Have you ever had such great sex with someone that it became a problem?

cyn3100

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Dancers:Why are they such flakes? Posted: 4/9/2008 5:35:47 AM
By "dancer", I assume you mean pole and not ballet.

cyn3100

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Movie moments...what's yours? Posted: 4/9/2008 5:28:39 AM
When I was fresh out of college, a friends fiancée announced to my friend and all who would listen that he was madly in love with me. I dismissed him as being silly. After all, we were all buddies. Well, I got a call a few days later from my friend asking me to talk to him because he wouldn't eat or sleep. Apparently, he was pining. I thought they were both insane, but I said I'd try to help any way I could. He and I met a few days later at a local restaurant. We sat at this quiet table, where I attempted to explain all of the many reasons he couldn't possibly be in love with me while he cried and cried pitifully. It was sweet, absurd, ridiculous, hysterically funny and probably the most (strangely) romantic moment of my life. They have been married now for almost 20 years.

cyn3100

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My new theory on why people disappear after a great date or dating Posted: 4/9/2008 4:47:26 AM
That happened to me recently with a guy I liked SO MUCH. I went crazy trying to figure out what happened. Now that I think about it, you sound right on the money. He kept saying that I was so great I couldn't possibly stay with him. He said that a few times, but it sounded so ridiculous to me (Hey, I'm amazing, but I'm not THAT great or conceited!), I assumed he was joking. Maybe he wasn't. Good Lord!!!

cyn3100

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Is it okay for a woman to hit a man? Posted: 4/9/2008 12:57:24 AM
INDYDUDE: This guy I used to know regularly boasted that no woman was strong enough to kick his ass. I explained that while what he said was true, any thinking female wouldn't have to physically "kick his ass". She'd make him kick it himself. We may not be physically stronger, but we have the power to produce scars that sometimes never heal. That's why abuse, in all it's forms, is a deal breaker.

cyn3100

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What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love Posted: 4/8/2008 12:18:20 AM
Having sex = 1 orgasm Making love = 10 orgasms

cyn3100

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What would you give up for true love? Posted: 4/8/2008 12:16:32 AM
My dilution that there is a such thing as a "true love".

cyn3100

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Friends, after a break up??? Posted: 4/8/2008 12:14:28 AM
When a man says to his ex, "I want to be friends", it translates as, "I still want to be able to have sex with you". RUN!!!

cyn3100

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Are men who have lots of GFs perceived as more attractive? Posted: 4/8/2008 12:11:29 AM
The man who can't please one woman, usually has a revolving door of women. I don't do players for that reason. Besides, I'm a grownup and I want a grownup.

cyn3100

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Is it okay for a woman to hit a man? Posted: 4/8/2008 12:05:09 AM
huggles : I'm not throwing gas on anything. My grandmother was obviously saying "Don't hit because you wouldn't want to be hit". Sorry, but I think that's great advice. She assumed nobody is ever prepared to be hit. That was her point.

cyn3100

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do I stay or do I go? Posted: 4/7/2008 11:59:42 PM
You seem to be a very emotionally intelligent woman. You seem to be making some really great, thoughtful decisions. You are thinking with your head and not just your heart. We can all give advise, but unlike some posters (unfortunately), I have confidence in you. I truly believe you will make the right decision. God bless you both no matter what happens.

cyn3100

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How much time do you spend with your ex? Posted: 4/7/2008 11:40:49 PM
As little as possible if you want a new guy.

cyn3100

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Who's in the wrong? Posted: 4/6/2008 5:07:42 PM
One problem I've found with internet dating is that people seem to "fall in love" with some idealized version of who you are, not bothering to find out who you really are. You "love" you fantasy of who this woman is. Once you really look at her, she doesn't seem quite as perfect as she is in your head. She doesn't put you first, but expects you to put her first. If you can live with that from now on, stay. If you can't, since she's never going to change (and you can't change her), look elsewhere. If you chose a female friend over her, she would blow a gasket. It's not ok for her to do it to you.

cyn3100

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do I stay or do I go? Posted: 4/5/2008 2:46:40 AM
Years ago, I suffered a brain injury. Half of my body was paralyzed and I couldn't even remember my own name. I had to relearn everything from walking to putting sentences together. Now you can't tell any of thatever happened, but I am in the unique position of being able to understand where this man is coming from. Recovery was long and arduous. I was helpless in front of people who once admired me and thought I had it all together. Those people loved me, so it was hell for them too. It made the work I had to do much harder. I hated the fear in their eyes. I hated the responsibility I felt for being the cause of their pain and fear. It took a LONG time for me to open up to people after that. Even after I knew I was fine, and would continue to be fine, I couldn't let anyone in. I never wanted to see that look in the eyes of another person I loved. It's still hard. I live with that (irrational) fear every day. This man is facing things that you can't begin to understand. If you move there he is going to feel all the more responsible for you. He is going to be afraid every day that you will leave as he gets worse. He will see his deterioration through your eyes every single day.That is going to add to his already hellish situation. He should not have to worry about your feelings or what you want right now. He has quite enough on his plate as it is. I suggest a visit. Go there and talk to him. Tell him what you want to do, but please listen to whatever he tells you and let the decision be his. Some people need other people when they are going through something like this, but some people need to be left alone. Don't just decide for him and expect him to accept that decision with love and gratitude. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. This is his fight. His alone. Support however HE choses to fight it.

cyn3100

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Poke Me & Die Posted: 4/5/2008 2:09:20 AM
Apparently you can't live by your own rules, but you expect him to. Usually it's people who cheat who are the most paranoid about getting cheated on. You are not his mother, so stop acting like you are. You two have had a parent/child relationship. The problem with that is the child (your boyfriend) is growing up and rebelling. Of course you believe in "Give & Take". He did all of the giving and you did all of the taking. That was heaven for you! Be grateful he hasn't grown a pair of b*lls and didn't walk out on you like he should have when you screwed up. What a hypocrite you've been. Change your attitude and give him time to recover from your screw up, or lose your boyfriend. Simple.

cyn3100

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Is it okay for a woman to hit a man? Posted: 4/5/2008 1:53:33 AM
My beloved grandmother told all us girls, "Never hit a man unless you're prepared to get hit back!" I think women get WAY to much of a pass in this area.

cyn3100

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WOW it always wins... Posted: 4/5/2008 1:48:26 AM
I would kick his ass out. You can't "break him of this game". You have a million excuses as to why you could never do what you already know you should do. So try this. Every time he starts WOW, get GORGEOUS and leave! Go out with your girls or by yourself. After awhile, he's going to notice you're not there. When his laundry isn't done, or his dinner isn't ready, or it starts to get really LATE and you're not home. When he confronts you, tell him just because he has something better to do than spend time with you doesn't mean you're going to be alone. If he doesn't want to spend time with you, don't worry. Somebody else would love to! I don't like games, so let me state something clearly. You deserve WAY better that this. Leaving someone who knows what you need and does not care enough about you to even try to give it to you isn't something stupid. Love isn't what you feel, it's what you do. You love him, but he doesn't seem to give a damn about you. You should kick him the f*ck OUT. How are you going to feel a year from now when you're still there giving him your best and getting nothing in return? Sweetie, never love anyone more than you love yourself.

cyn3100

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What are the chances of you contracting AIDS or HIV with a condom used? Posted: 4/3/2008 1:07:08 AM
Being from a largely gay populated area in Southern California, being in the entertainment industry, and having lost some really good friends to HIV, I can tell you this. Your chances of contracting HIV are way less with a condom than without. Until an effective vaccine is developed, condoms are the best protection you've got (short of not having sex at all). I've had a really good sex life, but I haven't had sex without a condom in many, many years. To me, it has been the smartest thing to do. I'm healthy as a horse! If you're scared, talk to your doctor. There are safer methods you can use.

cyn3100

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Should we not be trying to prevent unwanted prergnancy and the spread of STI'S Posted: 4/3/2008 12:50:54 AM
kthyg: Actually, the spread of HIV is increasing in some demographics even in this country. It is believed that it is being caused by a false sense of security (created by the previous decline). People are relaxing and becoming less vigilant resulting in increases in some areas (NOT ALL). There is a great new documentary about this very subject. I can't remember the name of it, but I'm sure it isn't hard to find on search engines. The op didn't seem to be condemning anyone. I think her message is appropriate. By the way, I LOVE sex, but believe in responsibility.

cyn3100

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Should we not be trying to prevent unwanted prergnancy and the spread of STI'S Posted: 4/3/2008 12:38:43 AM
uofijamie: A number of clinics offer free contraception. Also, if you're really interested, contact Planned Parenthood for more info. OP: Absolutely. I'm shocked that today there are still men who have problems with condoms. It's insane.

cyn3100

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Do women like the taste of a mans semen? Posted: 4/3/2008 12:32:36 AM
The taste depends on his diet. I knew a guy who drank a LOT of Pepsi. His semen kinda tasted like Pepsi! It also depends on the consistency of the semen. Basically, it all depends on the guy.

cyn3100

Joined: 8/4/2006

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A Kissing Primer - for guys or those who need it Posted: 3/31/2008 5:23:23 PM
How did you get so smart? You are absolutely right. Finding a good kisser is rare, but I've met a few. Good kissing can make your clothes fall off all by themselves!!

cyn3100

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Sex...Not all it's cracked up to be.... Posted: 3/31/2008 5:16:20 PM
My first time was AMAZING! He did everything right. It was insane.

cyn3100

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Did Doctors really treat hysteria with vibrators in the early 1900s Posted: 3/31/2008 5:08:37 PM
Yes and there was a sudden, massive outbreak of hysteria! Funny, but true.

cyn3100

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Would you leave him if he didn't go down on you? Posted: 3/31/2008 5:05:56 PM
I would leave him immediately!!! I was dating this guy and when things got physical, he didn't do that for me. I asked about it. His response was he rarely did it, but he'd think about it. I never had sex with him again. I lost all desire for him. Bad sex will ruin a good relationship every time. If this relationship were to go on for a long time, it would be a long time of bad sex. If you want to stay, talk to him. Maybe he's teachable.

cyn3100

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Unprotected sex and multiple partners Posted: 3/31/2008 4:48:28 PM
Honey, I haven't had unprotected sex in 20 years. Not one condoms has broken in all of that time. I don't play with my health.

cyn3100

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Do i worry to much about STD's? Posted: 3/31/2008 4:46:04 PM
Fear about STD's is a GOOD THING! However, the answer to your dilemma is information. Get informed about STD's. The only sure thing is not having sex. Next to that, condoms are very, very effective. There are even things to protect you during oral sex. Talk to your doctor. The more informed you are, the more relaxed you will become.

cyn3100

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Situational question Posted: 3/31/2008 4:39:56 PM
Maybe that's the way she likes it. Each woman is different. If she's not complaining, she's probably happy with things the way they are. You should probably talk to her about it just so things are clear between the two of you.

cyn3100

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advice ASAP Posted: 3/31/2008 4:36:44 PM
I would reply. She was at his place, but nothing happened. People with nothing to hide, hide nothing. I would say though that any further inquiry should be directed toward this cheating man. He's the problem, not your friend.

cyn3100

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Multi-Orgasmic women and Faking it Posted: 3/31/2008 4:27:26 PM
I must add, I NEVER fake. The man won't learn if you fake it. I understand that sometimes you just want it to stop already, but faking doesn't solve the problem.

cyn3100

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Multi-Orgasmic women and Faking it Posted: 3/31/2008 4:19:43 PM
I am a multiple and it has absolutely nothing to do with happiness. It's how you are physiologically wired. Some women orgasm only once no matter how happy they are. It's biological. I'm the same as your girlfriend and it's that way even if I'm alone! We are just lucky.

cyn3100

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How many times a day can you handle havin sex??!!! Posted: 3/31/2008 4:12:15 PM
It depends on the guy. How many times can he give me without ending up hospitalized?

cyn3100

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Talking about sex.... Posted: 3/31/2008 4:09:27 PM
I talk freely about sex. I'm very open. I think sex is a fascinating subject. My problem is if I'm talking about it with a guy, he assumes I want it with HIM. I don't have that problem when I talk about it with my girlfriends! lol

cyn3100

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condoms who is responsible for bringing them? Posted: 3/31/2008 4:05:31 PM
Since I'm the one who would get pregnant and I don't want to get pregnant I carry my own condoms. Fighting disease is easy when you protect yourself anyway. He should carry protection if he is planning on sex, but if he doesn't, I'm ready.

cyn3100

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Can You Be Str8 after being in gay Relationships Posted: 3/31/2008 3:49:34 PM
People have "come out" after having straight relationships all of their lives. I don't see why the reverse couldn't be true. I think sexuality is sometimes a fluid thing. As people grow, we find out new things about ourselves. Some of those things surprise even us. I would no more doubt his experience than I would someone who comes to terms with being gay.

cyn3100

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shaved bald men Posted: 3/31/2008 3:26:52 PM
I met a guy from here that shaves his head. Normally, shaved heads do nothing for me, but for some reason his shaved head drives me crazy. I swear I just want to lick it!!

cyn3100

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Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 2/18/2008 6:07:16 PM
In my experience, it meant he used his children as an excuse to be emotionally unavailable to me. I was never able to scale the enormous wall he put between us "for the sake of the children".

cyn3100

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What is it with someone that tells you they are in love with you Posted: 2/16/2008 5:21:27 PM
I've found that telling a man you love him can be a tricky thing. I told a guy I loved him and he freaked out. He thought I was saying I was "in love" with him. I wasn't saying that at all! I was saying that I loved him as someone I had gotten very close to, as a friend, but not just a friend. I was saying he was important to me. We had been dating face-to-face for only about 4 months! I can't fall in love that fast. Are you sure she was saying she was "in love" with you?

cyn3100

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Do ladies really like romantic guys Posted: 2/15/2008 1:51:29 AM
You were cheated on and ended a long relationship 4 months ago. You are a heartache waiting to happen. Take some time to really get over your ex. There's no rush.

cyn3100

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is everyone over 30 taking antidepressants? Posted: 2/14/2008 5:02:05 AM
I'm over 30. I'm not taking antidepressants.

cyn3100

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break up by text message Posted: 2/13/2008 10:14:28 PM
That happened to me too. I gave him credit for being a better man than that. He proved me wrong.

cyn3100

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Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 2/10/2008 11:19:59 PM
I just retrieved my things from my ex's house. We met here. He broke up with me in a text message. He offered no real explaination. He gave me the old, "It's not you, it's me". He is a single father and I'd fallen (hopelessly) in love with his two kids. They care a great deal for me too. I had been caring for them. He was too much of a coward to face me and give me my things himself, so he hid in his bedroom and had his children do the dirty work for him. I hugged them hard and for a long time. I've resigned myself to the fact that I will probably never know what happened or why. I don't get how I could have been that wrong about a person. Since I left, I can barely breathe. Honey, being alone forever is looking pretty good to me right now!

cyn3100

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Need some advice! Posted: 1/30/2008 2:27:41 PM
If he wanted you, he'd have married YOU.

cyn3100

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Why do you think men don't cry? Posted: 11/8/2007 2:15:19 AM
I love a man who cries...when I beat him up! LOL

cyn3100

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Need advice, help, a bullet Posted: 11/8/2007 1:06:35 AM
This, ladies and gentlemen, is why I never let anyone move in with me. You are being USED.

cyn3100

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What is considered cheating? Posted: 11/8/2007 1:00:07 AM
Just should talk to him. You two don't seem to agree on where your relationship is right now. If it's not serious yet for him, he probably doesn't think he's cheating. If he is emailing, texting and possibly seeing this other woman, you are not "only seeing each other at this point". You are only seeing him.

cyn3100

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Death In The Family Posted: 11/7/2007 3:13:16 AM
I just met this really sweet guy whose mother is really sick. He doesn't think she's going to make it. All I can do is say MANY prayers for her and listen when he needs to talk. I hope that's enough. I don't know how this is going to effect us. I'm afraid of being the girl he met when his mother was dying. However, if that's what it is, I'm willing to take a chance on us anyway. He's a really good guy. I like him, so I'm going to be there for him in whatever way I can.

cyn3100

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Why won't you talk with married men??? Posted: 11/7/2007 3:04:45 AM
It's funny. I've never, ever had a series of conversations with a man where he didn't try to turn it into sex talk at some point. That's why I never deal with married men. 1) I don't cyber. 2) I don't help people cheat on their spouse. I find that irrepairably disrespectful.

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