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Name one good thing about yourself. Posted: 11/22/2007 5:03:57 PM
I like to give of myself, altruistically, no matter who you are or where you're from.

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Who loves sex more, men or women? Posted: 11/2/2007 7:11:03 PM
If a man can conquer my mind and emotions, then he will conquer everything else profoundly, deeply, and greatly.

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Who has found relationships tougher as they get older? Posted: 5/12/2007 6:54:31 PM
I have to say relationships have gotten tougher to get into as I've gotten older because my standards have changed. I know better who I am and what I want, and I'm not willing to enter into a relationship for shallow reasons.

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Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 5/12/2007 6:50:53 PM
I wouldn't mind dating someone younger, but not too much younger than me.

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What happens when you can't move past an ex? Posted: 5/12/2007 6:46:50 PM
Time heals all wounds, as cliche as it sounds, it's the truth. I can say it from experience. Yes, 2 months is too soon, but there does come a time when you start feeling more hopeful about life once again, and you actually become curious about other fish in the sea. It's a very good feeling.

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Should I tell him she doesn't like him Posted: 4/13/2007 9:33:35 PM
MDNinja You know, I feel bad for this guy but do you think it's my business to tell him? I hardly know him really. What would you do?

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Should I tell him she doesn't like him Posted: 4/13/2007 9:28:08 PM
Moonfish Why are you so bitter?

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Should I tell him she doesn't like him Posted: 4/13/2007 9:25:03 PM
Thank you gwendolyn2006, for your feedback.

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Should I tell him she doesn't like him Posted: 4/13/2007 9:17:52 PM
MDNinja I know very well who I am and I'm not any of those things you just mentioned. I'm definitely not a loser. I'm not passive nor agressive. The harder you judge the more things you have to hide about yourself. I hope that you may find peace in your life and that you may find true friendship.

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Should I tell him she doesn't like him Posted: 4/13/2007 3:03:24 PM
Thanks funny girl. I liked your insight.

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Should I tell him she doesn't like him Posted: 4/13/2007 2:40:12 PM
To funny girl I am interested in him but I keep quiet about it.

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Should I tell him she doesn't like him Posted: 4/13/2007 2:38:08 PM
Well, I guess I should have said co-worker and friend. This is all outside of the workplace.

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Should I tell him she doesn't like him Posted: 4/13/2007 2:22:26 PM
I know of someone, more of an acquaintance, that has an obvious crush on my co-worker. He has sent her flowers and told her he's interested. Over the past month she has rejected him in every way possible. Her nickname for him is "vomit", meaning he disgusts her. Well, it's obvious he continues to persist. She always gives me a list of why she's not interested in him. Should I say something to him?

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 12/2/2006 8:52:54 PM
Before I ever did "online dating" I responded to newspaper ads or I would select dates through the phone ads. Ninety-nine percent of the time it was not a good experience at all. There's a good chance that in my not so long lifetime I've probably met about 30 people or more through newspaper ads or phone ads which means no picture was available before the first date. I even met up with the same person twice in the course of 2 years without meaning to and both times I was not attracted to him. He didn't recognize me from the first time but he made it obvious that he was attracted to me the second time around. Basically, there has been no physical attraction with 99% of the guys, men, or gentlemen that I have met "blindly" so to speak. This lack of attraction has been in spite of a great phone conversation and some kind of connection over the phone. One guy turned out to be 47 instead of 37 and about 80 pounds heavier than he said. I was 20 years old at the time. There was one guy though (that 1%) that I did find hot and whom I dated for a while but because of drastic misunderstandings we did not stay together. I think when one is meant to cross roads with another person, romantically in this case, a way will be found and no obstacle will be too great, not even the lack of a photo on the PoF profile.

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Is Lack Of Religion A Good Reason To Turn Me Down? Posted: 11/21/2006 4:55:55 PM
I would say give other people a chance. She let you go for a concrete reason. It may be neither wrong nor right, but there doesn't seem to be enough flexibility for you to pursue this any further. Heartbreak is difficult and you are not alone. We are all in this together, but we all know that it is very possible to move on and to find happiness with someone that will love you exactly as you are. Keep your spirits up and keep looking. It's easier said than done, but, once again, many many of us have been through this. Someone out there will have enough compassion for your "streak of bad luck" and they won't turn away from you because of a temporary setback in your beliefs.

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am i wrong for thinking like this? Posted: 11/17/2006 5:54:40 PM
This marriage has to be postponed indefinitely. I think the only 'selfish' and 'inconsiderate' thing you might do is to go through with the wedding. I really hope that you sum up the courage to be honest with both yourself and with her. Backing away from her would be good for the both of you.

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Pictureless posts... implications? Posted: 8/26/2006 9:31:02 PM
I immediately skip over a profile or an e-mail with no picture posted. It seems people will assume it's shallow. I don't consider myself shallow in any way. Outside of online dating I think a vast majority of people that are looking to date are closely scoping out potential mates in any given social gathering. I know there are cases where you can warm-up to someone over time due to proximity such as in a work environment, but generally I think a lot of us are looking around, literally. So why shouldn't it be the same with online dating? It's absolutely normal to be immediately curious to see the person responding to your profile, or to see the face of the person who's profile your looking at. To me, looking at a profile with a picture is just one more sign of just how serious the person is about meeting people online, or anywhere for that matter. Why should anyone protect his privacy while dating online? If your intentions are wholesome I don't see why you should have anything to hide from anyone. I think that no matter which way you go about it it seems like friends and family are prone to make some discouraging remark especially about anything related to dating. A friend of mine has more than once mentioned to me extreme cases of deceit and even of murder related to online dating. Well, deceit and murder are going to happen under any circumstance, and bottom-line is "Why do people have to be so negative?" A person that is truly happy in his or her life will only encourage those around him or her instead of instilling fear.

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whats the biggest turn-off on a first date? Posted: 8/26/2006 4:52:24 PM
I remember a first date where at one point I literally wanted to walk away from him. He was so desperate to get a clue that I was interested in him that he was being so awfully childish. Because I didn't respond the way he wanted me to he was implying that I was being too reserved or prudish. My advice for anyone is to just ask. It really works. btw It didn't dawn on me until later that he was trying everything to get my attention. He didn't have to try so hard.

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Girls and partying/clubbing Posted: 8/26/2006 4:39:53 PM
I went through a phase similar to what you described, but in my case I think I was just so reserved in high school that I suddenly exploded. I wouldn't call it a bad thing or a good thing. It was a phase in my life which I'm glad is now over. I didn't socialize much in high school. I was a total bookworm. I never even had a boyfriend. I wouldn't go as far as to criticize or judge a woman OR A MAN that is into clubbing to the extreme. It's an escape, an obsessive-compulsive addiction and some people go through it for one reason or another especially in their early 20's. It's not normal, abnormal. It's just something kind of crazy that some of us go through. I'm glad I learned my lessons and that I don't miss it at all. I'm kind of curious to know why it bothers you quite a bit. It must be commonplace and it could be most girls you meet and you like happen to have this "problem." You might have to start meeting people that are not into clubbing so that you won't be so bothered by these women that club too much.

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you see somesome one so attractive then you see them do something that. Posted: 8/26/2006 12:44:45 PM
I once went out on a date with this guy years ago. When we went back to my place he took off his shoes and threw them, literally threw them, across the room. A few minutes later he grabbed a pen and started picking at his ear. Another time, I dated a guy that smoked four cigarettes on our date. We were on our date for about three hours total. That was a turn-off.

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Guys who won't give home # or address after a month of exclusive dating Posted: 8/22/2006 7:57:11 PM
He just be extremely cautious before exposing his child to a new person so early in the game He is being extremely cautious yet he doesn't realize that the person he's dating has been obviously giving, open, and honest? He's being very weird. Were he normal he would think to himself that he's obviously not reciprocating all the honesty and generosity he's been receiving. He would take appropriate action to communicate the emotional discrepancy. He would set a healthy boundary so that all parties involved are being treated with respect, consideration, and equality. He's hiding something for sure and it's worth walking away from.

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Would you trick someone? Posted: 8/22/2006 6:33:05 PM
I read several of the responses to this interesting forum. Somewhere, someone mentioned that online dating is unrealistic, in certain words. It may or may not be, but I can't imagine dating people you meet in everyday life being less of a challenge. I have been meeting people online for only 7 months in all these years. Everyone else I have met through social interactions. As you may have guessed, I am not in a commited relationship at the moment. This goes to say that it does not matter where you meet people there are always challenges though in a different form for each unique circumstance. In all aspects of life it is important to be free of addictions, or "excess baggage" in order to be ready to attain a truly loving and commited relationship. If I find myself with the urge to continue looking in spite of having met interesting persons on POF, for example, chances are that I haven't formed the relationship I seek. I agree that it's not a good idea to "spy" on others, but some things are hard to resist. If I get a bad hunch about someone I'm getting to know the healthy option would be to back away and to be honest with the person about my doubts. It's a sure sign that if you can't be honest then something is wrong with the relationship.

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I now understand why guys don't like dating single moms Posted: 8/21/2006 6:42:50 PM
I'm a single mom but I consider myself to be a fairly positive person. In fact, I'm a better person now than before becoming a single parent. My belief is that complainers or negative people can be either single parents or just plain single. I also do believe however that certain persons have a heavier karma than others (I'm a firm believer of karma) that's why certain individuals tend to feel sorry for themselves. They have a very hard time finding the bright side of life, and it would makes sense if one takes a closer look at the individual's life. It is possible for everyone to find happiness but I think that for some the task might be harder to achieve though not impossible. I might say that others find it hard to date me as a single parent of one because I have to find a place in life where I must practice greater selflessness, patience, tolerance, and compassion. I have no complaints though. I'm exactly where I want to be, and should I encounter someone on this path of patience, tolerance, and compassion there will be no doubt in my mind that this person will be special.

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Have you ever had this happen...? Posted: 8/21/2006 6:07:46 PM
Wow, I can totally relate to this one. It doesn't necessarily happen after a date. Usually I'll have great rapport with someone on POF and the chances are increasing that he and I will date, but as soon as we stop chatting, or whatever, I'm online checking messages or eager to see other responses to my profile. I concluded a while back that it is an addiction. I end up feeling like I hate myself for loving POF or any other online dating service. I think that the day I find the real one I will no longer find a need to keep looking around. Truthfully, this brings me back to the fact that being happy with oneself comes first.

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percent of initial chemistry based on physical looks Posted: 8/21/2006 5:56:52 PM
I don't think I'll give you the answer you're looking for. My beliefs are that physical chemistry is astrological. There are certain astrological aspects that may exist between two individuals that may foster intense physical attraction. It makes sense to me considering that I can't always explain why I'm so drawn to someone I just met or hardly know. I might have certain preferences in the looks department but when I find myself attracted to someone it doesn't make much sense as to why. Bottom line, for me, it's astrological. I recommend Linda Goodman's "Relationship Signs". For me, percentages are out.

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Fellow ladies, would this gross you out, or is it just me? Posted: 8/19/2006 6:54:14 PM
Hi Freebird, I just wanted to mention that I am not part of the uncaring majority as someone in this forum mentioned. I doubt that there is an uncaring majority in these forums. I would rather believe that most people, like me, actually care to answer questions and to aid others. If you're looking for a long-term relationship I would definitely conclude that his discussion is inappropriate. Is his behavior inappropriate? It all depends on the morality of each individual. Personally, I wouldn't feel very comfortable associating with someone on a romantic level had he disclosed such information to me. Then again, I would have to ask myself what the motive is behind such a disclosure. In your bf's case I think he shared something which was thrilling to him and probably continues to be. Were I a casual observer I wouldn't judge or criticize, but I can't honestly say that I would be a truly happy human being and that I would feel normal participating in such sexual escapades. That is who I am. It's what works for me. His behavior brings to question his potential for a mature, loving and commited relationship. Whether he's gross or not just depends on each individual's point of view, but ultimately I would say that the best question to oneself would be what kind of a relationship is one seeking?

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How can the dating scene really work for single fulltime moms Posted: 8/19/2006 6:30:14 PM
I have wondered about this myself since I'm a single mom. I figure that I might end up paying for the sitter but my hopes are that my date will pay for our evening or day out.

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i will never beable to get over this one... Posted: 8/17/2006 9:01:02 PM
I wish you much strength and courage. I went through a very difficult time when I was pregnant with my daughter. She will be five years old soon. To keep it as short as possible, her father said to me, almost the moment he found out I was pregnant, "Think very well about having that child because he/she will not have a father." I spent my entire pregnancy without him not to mention all the other years after I had my baby. He has been there minimally, but I can tell you that I got through it all. I have the opportunity to start a new life and I just thank God that I got through those difficult days. I assure you that you will heal and that the love you have for your child will give you tremendous strength and motivation to do great things with your life. Take care.

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After 4 dates he closed his account on here Posted: 8/14/2006 2:52:07 PM
It's happened to me before. It's one of the reasons I remind myself to take things very slow. People are very changeable. Only time will tell if something is going to last or not. No matter how many beautiful things a person might tell you it's never a sure thing until the passage of time. I think I would go as far as saying that if the ring isn't on my finger and we're not saying our "I do's" then anything can happen really. I don't take such things personally, or I try not to because what most matters in the end is that you believe that you are "one hell of a woman." He should be honest with you instead of just leaving you hanging, but, at least, you got to see one aspect of his personality that doesn't sound too great.

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