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Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

Am I acting inappropriately? Posted: 8/4/2007 9:04:06 PM
What did someone say to you or about you to get you to second guess character traits that you obviously like about yourself? You're attractive, personable and responsible. For shame!! (waggles finger) You seem pretty kick-ass to me. Keep on with your bad self.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Why put long term or dating on your profile and than contact someone looking for sex? Posted: 8/4/2007 8:57:09 PM
You never know unless you ask.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Are you in stealth mode? Posted: 8/1/2007 10:22:37 PM
I'm in stealth mode only when having sex! In and out before anyone knew I was there!

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Masturbation to thoughts of you Posted: 8/1/2007 10:20:51 PM
Sounds like you've had it a bit rough, why not take your pants off and tell us all about it.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Why Do I Get Rejected If... Posted: 8/1/2007 10:16:54 PM
This made me giggle. Then I felt kind of gay for giggling, then I embraced it and said 'F@ck all ya'll.. I can giggle if I want to!' Thanks for all that zombie lady.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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can a man just switch off? Posted: 8/1/2007 10:01:39 PM
It looks like you've had a few of these situations pop up in the last year. At least gauging by your forum history. My advice to you: Take some time off from dating. You need to forget about guys, and start caring about yourself. All your hopes and dreams and goals etc. Go chase them around. Get some self fullfilment. Become a happy, glowing, crazy about yourself kind of person and FORGET about succeeding as a couple. Succeed as YOU. Then, and only then, once your foundation as a kick a$$ human being is solidly in place, you can start to build on it with someone else. Judging by your smiling face in your picture, you're probably doing alright with that already, but this trauma that you're posting around here is NOT going to help. So, I reiterate. Distance yourself, and let it find you.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

Are there some people that are unlovable to the opposite sex? Posted: 8/1/2007 9:39:50 PM
"The only people that are unlovable are the people that don’t let others love them.. they close themselves off, get lost in the pain of the past, or isolate there feelings for others." Word, brother. The only unlovable folk are those who don't love themselves. For whatever reason. Gotta start with numero uno, then once you've accepted yourself, 'flaws' and all, then you can truly get out there and start loving the hell out of everyone else. Dustin

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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The Wing-Man Posted: 4/20/2007 8:52:52 AM
Wing man is a term used to describe your team-mate in the dating/scoring scene.. Mostly involved in the bar aspect of dating.. Ladies, you know how you like to go out in groups so you can all dance in a circle and exclude that weird, really drunk dude, who keeps grinding up against you? Travel in a pack for protection? Well, the wing man is like the male equivalent to that. Wing men will: Point out the hot ladies that the 'point man' should approach. Agree with 'point man' that she was a b!tch for shooting him down. Distract the 'I look better by comparison' girl that the majority of ladies seem to have with them, so the pretty one can be chatted up without the 'YEAH! SO SHE'S PRETTIER THAN ME!' stare down that comes along with the 'comparison' girl. Wing men will also grab drinks so the point man can be smooth with the new lady, and will also 'gaurd' her while the point man hits the bathroom, and will chat up the lady about the point man. Try to make him look good, but like a jack-ass at the same time. It's basically just a buddy system for guys. Whether or not it includes 'taking one for the team' is entirely up to the wingman. It is also the point mans responsibility to make sure that IF it comes to taking a hit for the team, the wing man is so sloshingly drunk, he probably won't remember, and if he DOES, it'll be some terrible story about how he threw up all over her bed and ended up sleeping in a ditch. Dustin

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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THE ART OF PICKUP Posted: 4/19/2007 11:58:54 PM
She knows 'Jumbo's' post was a joke, right?

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Does he, or doesn't he? Posted: 4/19/2007 11:55:37 PM
Windowshopping04 nailed this one on the head. She's like Yoda without the dyslexia! Dustin

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Is there ever a good reason to be unfaithful? Posted: 4/15/2007 9:08:12 PM
The only good reason to cheat is if you are trying to prove to the world and yourself that you're a cowardly, two-faced, lying, waste-of-fvcking-skin douchebag. If you're with someone, you're with them. Wanna be with someone else, be an adult and deal with it. Tell him to fvck off. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Why are all guys fake? Posted: 4/12/2007 10:32:26 PM
The same reason ALL women are b!tches. Oh, sh!t.. did I just stereotype an entire gender? Gee, that makes me feel like such an as$hole. Pack your bags, fellas. We're going on a guilt trip. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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wierd or normal behavior?? Posted: 4/11/2007 9:22:49 AM
Your lack of confidence is going to be your downfall.. If you're looking for him to validate how YOU feel, it's the wrong way to go. If you NEED to know where you stand, you have to say so, and not in a way that is going to make it seem like you're a psycho hose-beast. Approach your interest and say 'I really dig you, I want to be exclusive to just you, and I want you to be exclusive to me.' gauge his reaction and deal with the consequences. Asking 'Where is this going?' to anyone but yourself puts all the weight on them, it puts them in the drivers seat, and you along for the ride. Why not take the helm? Dustin,

Doos

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To Pic Or Not To Pic Posted: 4/11/2007 9:17:11 AM
You would have to have one helluva profile for me to contact you. For me, your profile has a few red flags that would stop me. 1) A few extra pounds 2) Has children 3) Profile isn't anything special. Not to shoot down you or your profile, but without a picture, those three things add up to me not contacting you. That's just me though. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Is the pressure too much? Posted: 4/9/2007 3:50:23 PM
This is one of those questions with too many answers. Sure, some guys will feel the pressure. Some won't. Some have friends that pressure them, some have parents that will. Some people go into outer space. It's all relative. I think you and your friends hit it on the head.. Some guys (insert statement here) Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Are looks that important?? Posted: 4/9/2007 3:46:16 PM
Personality can add to looks. It doesn't go the other way, but it can feel like it does. 'She's so hot, I know she's a mental midget.. but I'll give 'er anyway.' Haha.. Just add dynamite and it's a recipe for disaster. Dustin.

Doos

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Ok Guys, Tell Me What This Means Posted: 4/9/2007 3:42:38 PM
Maybe he just nailed and bailed. Sounds like you all have a nice bit of growing up to do. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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IF YOUR PARTNER BEATS YOU DO YOU STAY OR LEAVE Posted: 4/4/2007 2:44:46 AM
Have you never seen an after school special?

Doos

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caught him staring....? Posted: 4/4/2007 2:43:18 AM
It means he wants you to walk up to him and take his d1ck out.. Don't you ladies know anything yet? Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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WOULD THIS WORK Posted: 4/4/2007 2:40:37 AM
If you're talking as much as you say you are, why not turn the conversation to the two of you.. He says he doesn't want a relationship though, so if you do, you should state that. Why drop contact without giving a reason, when you have a perfectly GOOD reason to say to him 'Look, I really like you, but I want this to be something that could go somewhere, and if you're not into that, we should go our seperate ways.' Nothing wrong with that.. Honesty, communication and trust. Take 'em everywhere. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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attention condom haters.. Posted: 4/3/2007 1:40:04 PM
'I will just drop the issue since it will do no good to discuss this unless you have some formal education in biochemistry.' Ooh, does that mean that you're right and we're wrong? I have no formal education in biochemistry. As I'm sure you've already assumed. I do have an education in ex-girlfriends and the pill. My closing statement is that, it works for some for others it doesn't. If it isn't required do not use it. Lady says 'Use condoms to fvck me.' Guy says 'No, you go on the pill.' Lady says 'Fvck off.' Case closed. Dustin

Doos

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attention condom haters.. Posted: 4/3/2007 11:47:08 AM
I stand behind my post, yet I also say 'WORD!' to CardinalDuke. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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attention condom haters.. Posted: 4/3/2007 10:54:53 AM
I agree with you OP. I think it's comepletely disresepctful.. Birth control pills are insane. The hormonal swings that ladies have when using them or changing them or use the wrong kind.. It's just nuts. The ones that stop the flow completely are just out of this world. It's a natural occurence, menstruation . It's supposed to happen, why try to stop it? Anyway, you have a choice, condoms, or no condoms. You made your choice, and this guy is trying to convince you otherwise. It seems to me that if he wants to play in the pool, he'd better bring his swim gear. Any pressure applied to try and change your stance is an effort to undermine what YOU think and know is best for you, and that's disrespectful. Tell him to fvck off. To all you fellas saying otherwise, a lady tells you 'Hey, you wanna fvck, you need to use a condom.' It sounds like a pretty freakin' decent demand to me. Your other option is to take a hike.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Why do men need to be chased? Posted: 4/3/2007 10:14:57 AM
From your post, it's hard to gather what kind of tone was being used by this guy. The statements made by him could have been quite playful, but taken the wrong way by you, if you weren't in a playful mood. I assume though, that you know playful when you hear it, and perhaps that was not the tone of the remarks. Let's say for example, that this fella had been very attractive. If he had used those same lines, with a playful tone, would you have chased? If not, why not? Both sexes like to be chased, don't they? It's just a way for one to show interest in the other. Nobody 'needs' to be chased, but it is a nice feeling when there is some playful back and forth between two people showing interest in one another.. Everyone wants to be wanted. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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blatant lack of respect or mild retardation? Posted: 4/3/2007 8:46:56 AM
Ha. He's making fun of the OP, Browneyes. OP: Perhaps you led him on with your wily cougar ways. Perhaps you attracted some pr!ck who wanted to get into your pants on the second date, and decide to show you how he felt, instead of tell you. Perhaps a lot of things. All I know, is when you come into a forum filled with guys with your messages dripping with condecension towards the same men that you ask questions of, we're not going to appreciate it. Look, you seem like a really nice old lady, and your vocabulary is pretty kick-ass, but don't come in here acting mean towards us gentle boys just because somebody grabbed some flab with a nipple on it. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Why don't men ... Posted: 3/31/2007 5:26:27 PM
You're expected to wear it because men say so! Hahaha.. Kidding.. Who expects women to wear that stuff? I expect women to wear clothing.. As for what clothing, that's up to them. All I know is it usually looks the same crumpled up on my floor. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Should I give up on this relationship Posted: 3/31/2007 5:23:49 PM
Y'ever hear the expression KISS? Keep it simple, stupid. It's a good one to live by and if you apply it to your situation, you'll see that this is already over. Just look at your subject line. Is that the question of a healthy relationship? Move on, don't find closure, just go. Love yourself first and foremost, and someone worthy of loving you will come along. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Here three days and only 250 letters . . . what am I doing wrong? Posted: 3/30/2007 6:44:19 PM
I didn't read it before.. But I think it's pretty funny now. Couple of spelling mistakes. Unless they're intentional.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Give Me Some Reasons For Why Not Posted: 3/30/2007 3:22:16 PM
Those guys are my heroes.. Because they make me look good. The only time I'd hesitate is if it looked like the congo. I'd still go in though. I'm an adventurer.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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I need some current opinions Posted: 3/30/2007 3:19:01 PM
"But here comes the gotcha! As soon as you found out his age, bingo, no longer interested," Interesting. I think the 'gotcha' lies more in the fact that a 50 year old dude that is supposedly cool with a great personality had to lie about his age to try and get together with a 27 year old girl. It's not like he stretched the truth, there was an actual snapping gesture involved. Which, by the way, is always the best way to try and start a relationship. Based on lies. He must be a very mature 50. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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What do you know about women? Posted: 3/29/2007 11:09:33 AM
My old roomie used to say 'Women are b!tches..' and that was that.. In my experience, he was half right.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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For both of you or just you? Posted: 3/29/2007 10:59:08 AM
I always try to give the lady the best bang for her buck. Not that anyone would pay me for my services. But the euphemism is out there.. No matter what the situation, relationship or public relations (One nighters) your reputation preceeds you. Dustin.

Doos

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Do you read peoples forum messages Posted: 3/28/2007 9:48:50 PM
"SareeG, count me in with GameOn ...best wishes to both of you! You know, a tiny amount of sarcasm/smartass can be fun, sometimes!" What about a lot of sarcasm/smartass all the time? Dustin

Doos

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No visits to his home.. Posted: 3/28/2007 7:36:25 AM
That he's an anti-social b@stard that lived with his mom.. Why'd you let him get away?

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Do guys really... Posted: 3/28/2007 7:34:06 AM
No, it's not cool, and I think only one person so far in the thread is condoning the action. You said this guy threatened you and your family? That's ****ing retarded. Anyone who resorts to threats of violence when they don't get their way has no excuse, and honestly should be introduced to our wonderful prison systems. It's childishness at best, just like our legal system, so I feel you should introduce the two. Also, I noticed a few guys in this thread trying to say 'He was probably hurt..' as if that's any kind of excuse to threaten someone. Someone tells you they're not interested, is that how YOU react? Dustin.

Doos

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How important is a pic for the profile? Posted: 3/28/2007 7:25:28 AM
Very important

Doos

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good sex and falling in love Posted: 3/28/2007 7:25:02 AM
I recently met a lady on this site, and we've been steadily falling for each other for the last few weeks. It has been the easiest 'relationship' I've ever slipped into just because of the honesty. Honesty right off the bat is the best way.. Hide nothing, and be proud of who you are, whoever you find/finds you, will be lucky to have you, and you them. Dustin

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Would you move across the world? Posted: 3/25/2007 8:14:28 AM
"Surely there has to be someone suitable in your area" 'Suitable' is what got most people on to this site in the first place. What if Fvcking amazing is what you're looking for? When you cross the world to find love, you're somewhere new. What's wrong with that?

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Would you move across the world? Posted: 3/25/2007 8:11:34 AM
I'd move to friggin' Kingston Ontario.. It's only like 4,400 km. 4 provinces away. Not a big deal, right?

Doos

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Why would you snoop on a girl..... Posted: 3/25/2007 8:07:07 AM
If I were friends with a girl and I knew that was the kind of thing that would make her wig out, uncomfortably, I'd do it. Just for fun. As long as it wasn't the kind of thing to make someone freak out for real. Perhaps the question you need to ask is 'Why does it bother me?' If someone wanted to root through any of my stuff, messages, e-mails, actual clothing and tax files, I'd let 'em.. As long as they weren't out to steal it. Dustin.

Doos

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What are bedroom eyes? Posted: 3/25/2007 8:01:33 AM
You're telling me that you've never told some guy, with just a look, that you want to get nailed like a coffin? Perhaps not the best simile for the situation, but there it is. Next time you're feeling the urge to get humped, say it with a look to your fella, and you'll know what bedroom eyes are. (If you give the dude a stare, and start touching yourself, that'll let him know for sure that those are bedroom eyes. Not some mixed message he may be receiving.) Good luck in your search! Dustin

Doos

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Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move? Posted: 3/21/2007 8:22:12 AM
Apparently it isn't a problem, as long as the first date comes after approx. 50 messages back and forth, and then 8 hours of phone conversation. Then, it's decided that sex WILL be happening on the first date.

Doos

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oral sex Posted: 3/17/2007 8:18:40 PM
I love to give, I love to get. Although after many discussions with multiple ladies, I've discovered that the majority spoken with do not enjoy the 69. Did you hear that fellas? I was blown away. Maybe it's just the ones I was talking to.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Asking a woman questions about their sexual history...... Posted: 3/17/2007 8:06:21 PM
I think honesty is the answer to this question. If you feel uncomfortable talking about something, it's usually an indicator that you feel guilty or embarrassed about the topic. That's a pretty decent flag to mark a mistake that you haven't dealt with. Why be uncomfortable talking about anything? Realise that you've got nothing to lose, and everything suddenly becomes a lot easier.

Doos

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Women want to change men - do men ever want to change? Posted: 3/17/2007 8:02:18 PM
People who cannot be comfortable until someone else has changed are the people who need to spend more time focusing on their own problems and not someone elses. To state it again: If you want someone to change, you need to change. If you're in a state where you can't be happy unless such and such happens, you're in the wrong place.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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What did I miss with this one? Posted: 3/17/2007 12:04:10 PM
First thing that popped into my head is: If he's into you, do you really think he wants you to see him torn up and grieving this early in a 'relationship'? What if he called you to say 'Hey!' then broke down weeping on the phone. You want to deal with that? He probably doesn't. Give it a bit. See what happens.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Is it my destiny to be single??? Posted: 3/16/2007 9:43:50 PM
Holy f@ck.. Woe is you, lady. Look, forget all the bullsh!t that you jotted in after the subject line. None of it matters, it only feels like it does because you're down. The first thing you need to do, is go look in the mirror and give yourself a big stupid f@ckin' smile, and a kick in the ass. Tell yourself that you rule, and friggin' believe it. You go around looking for dudes with the mentality you're wearing now, and you're going to find nothing but heart break and bad action. Happy it up lady. You only get to go on this ride once. Dustin.

Doos

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WILL I EVER FIND MR. RIGHT? Posted: 3/16/2007 7:13:25 PM
"I always end up with rejects that really aren't looking for the same thing that I am looking for. " Stop picking rejects. Perhaps evaluate your elimination process. "Are there any real men out there who are not afraid of committment?" Married guys. They thought they weren't afraid of committment, but ask 'em now! "I always end up with naggy men who really don't know what they want in a relationship." Well, as much as they say opposites attract, they also say: like attracts like, birds of a feather, fools seldom differ, great minds think alike, and so on and so on. "Is there anything wrong with wanting to remain monogomous?" Absolutely not. Unless you're in porn. Then it might be a problem. Awesome.. I'm like Yoda and sh!t.. Dustin.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Emotions - sex or sport? Posted: 3/16/2007 7:00:47 PM
I think about my problems. That's why I have so few of 'em, and why I usually have no need to speak of 'em. When a biggie comes along though, I like to run. Flat out, as fast as my feet can flail. Just give 'er until I can't breathe let alone think of that thought that is tormenting my brain. Then, once I've calmed, let the thinking commence again.

Doos

Joined: 8/5/2006

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Do men really mind dating women with children?? Posted: 3/15/2007 10:16:18 PM
Far too much responsibility right off the bat. As a single mom, you can SAY a lot of things about it: Father is out of the picture. Not looking for father looking for boyfriend. Etc. Etc. The truth is, guy walks into that situation knowing it isn't just him and you. Which can be problematic enough, just getting two people together and having a good time. Mix a couple of kids up in that, and it's just a lot more responsibility and maturity than some dudes would be willing to muster just to get to know someone. I mean, maybe I'm just young, but I certainly wouldn't want that kind of responsibility unless I created it for myself.

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