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mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

Why save texts? Posted: 3/20/2009 7:35:13 AM
I'd have to agree with the lot. It is back-up evidence complete with dates and accurate quotes that can't be changed. But it does run down your phone battery and clog up memory.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Childless by Choice Posted: 3/20/2009 7:33:05 AM
Except for a few times where the long-term woman I was with was unable to conceive, I never found the right woman to have children with. Not to sound judgmental but for me it was always marriage first or at least a permanent common-law companion and because that didn't happen, I never had any kids. Would have been nice. Now, I'm afraid of being "the old man" at the PTA meetings. I've been content to be a favorite godfather and uncle to my friend's and family's kids.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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If you are man, and we're stood up..... Posted: 12/23/2008 9:41:43 AM
I guess this pertains to blind or first time dates for me because I usually do the driving otherwise. I've been stood up twice. One time, I had reservations for the daily cruise around Manhattan. I didn't expect to get stood up. I gave her a 15 minute grace period before I called mainly to make sure she hadn't gotten lost or got into an accident. Then another 15 minutes and another. She answered the first two times then let the voicemail get it after that. Turns out she had made plans with someone else. Now, I call two times and I say if there's a problem, let me know. We all have cell phones that call and take msgs so I'll call 15 min after to make sure all is well then another twenty minutes later is my last call. If I don't get some kind of feedback from her after 45 min to an hour, Im off to the show without her. I always call if Im gonna be more than 15 minutes late. And I always call earlier in the day, like lunchtime, to make sure the date is still on.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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What's wrong with sex before marriage? Posted: 11/26/2008 6:39:25 AM
I think that if sex is important to you, then you don't want to end up marrying someone who doesn't enjoy it as much as you do or is very bad at it. There's someone I know who's been married for 22 yrs to a woman whose rarely had an orgasm and now he tells me they haven't had a real sexual relationship since their 17 yo daughter was 14. They even went to sex counseling. He said she only gives it up on his birthday and their anniversary. Kind of shows she's not really interested in sex for herself. I don't need to tell you he has a chick on the side, which I don't condone but in his case, I understand. Sex isn't everything in a relationship but for some it's more than just a component. Everyone has different levels of desire and need and I think part of any good relationship, as much as being a faithful and well-providing husband/wife is to be able to satisfy your partner.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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kravv? which martial arts is the best? Posted: 11/26/2008 12:26:30 AM
My niece recently got into martial arts and I was surprised to see she got into Tai Kwon Do. It's a very aggressive art and she was looking for a more fluid and relaxing style. There is no one "best" martial art but it's best to find one that suits the individual's needs and personality. I prefer wing chun and aikido. Both are good grappling and defensive styles that work well in the street. Plus I don't have to tire myself out with alot of strenuous offense moves that come with TKD which suit high energy people better. Jui Jitsu is another style that works well in normal fight situations.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Electronic Music Posted: 11/26/2008 12:11:45 AM
I like the drum & Bass stuff alot but lately im more into ambient, experimental and trip hop these days. Love bands and artists like Hammock, Future Sounds of London, DJ Spooky, Harold Budd, Boards of Canada, Portishead, Bjork, Tricky, Massive Attack, Robert Rich, Godspeed, You Black Emperor, Tortoise and of course, Brian Eno. Don't let the book cover fool you. I may look like an old r&b guy but I'm extremely versatile.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Prince Rogers Nelson Posted: 11/26/2008 12:01:28 AM
He's a mad genius. He should be so much bigger than he is, hit-wise. He has the talent to write classics 20x a week if wants to. But he doesn't. Too eccentric for his own good. My favorite period is NPG-Prince. No more purple paisley and puffy, ruffled sleeves. He came with the funk. "My Name is Prince", "Sexy MF". However my favorite song by Prince is "17 Days". B-side of "When Doves Cry"

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Boondock Saints VS Pulp Fiction Posted: 11/25/2008 11:54:25 PM
I loved Pulp Fiction. Sam the man Jackson. The return of Travolta. I love Taratino's style of directing. He tosses all his influences in a blender and films backwards and sideways at the same time. Never really liked Boondock Saints much. It's not bad and Dafoe is actually the best thing going in the movie but it doesn't make any of my "best of" lists.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Talking heads/Myriad Creatures Posted: 11/25/2008 11:27:20 PM
Byrne and Eno have a new album out. Sounds very good. The most excited I've been about any new pop music lately. Good song on there called "Strange Overtones".

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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cant find a forum for this but it's movie related Posted: 11/25/2008 11:25:11 PM
That Arnold Schwarzenegger Christmas movie. "Jingle All the Way". Very funny.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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How Many Men Will Admit to Being Sexually Dysfunctional? Posted: 9/26/2008 9:14:22 PM
I got diagnosed with diabetes II some years back. Before that I'd been gaining weight pretty rapidly and noticed that my libido was way off. I wasn't gaga over over sex with the girl I was seeing like I usually was and my erections were substandard. In fact, when I did get it up, I had trouble keeping it up long enough to get the condom on. Actually lost that girlfriend over it. It was my urologist who discovered that my testosterone was low partly due to being overweight and partly due to the meds I was taking for diabetes. He gave me a cream which raises the T levels in men. It even made me lose alot of weight and gave me more energy. Doc also gave me Levitra which works very well the few times I've used it. The cream actually gave me back most of my desire, but I keep the levitra in the cabinet for emergencies.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Do you expect to know all the details of your partner's life? Posted: 9/24/2008 4:53:58 PM
Sounds like some control issues here. Dude sounds insecure. I don't expect to know my girlfriends' daily actions or even every bit about their past. I would never reveal everything about myself to anybody. You have a right to keep details about your life to yourself. He'll just have to deal with it.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Saying I Love You Posted: 9/24/2008 4:47:10 PM
Unless he gave you some other sign, he more than likely meant it as a friendship thing. I got male friends of mine telling saying that stuff to me sometimes like "I love you, man". And they're sober!! I'd say, nothing to worry about.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Would you date a guy/girl who doesn't drive ?? Posted: 9/24/2008 4:23:46 PM
No excuse for guys though I know a few who don't drive. As for women, depends on how far she lives. I dated a girl in the next state and not only could she not drive, she couldn't even tell me how to get to her house. She had no sense of direction of even where she lived in relation to the next town or nearest city. I had to pull out my maps to find her house since I was already on the road. Because I live in a big city and she was in suburban hell across the state line, I had to come and get her bring her back to my place or the city for our activities then drive her back home before I could go home. Also when you take someone out and the date goes bad, that drive back to his/her house is the longest drive in the world. I put a woman in a cab once after a bad date. "Mad money" is a good thing ladies.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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What's the best place & circumstances for a good first date? Posted: 9/24/2008 4:02:09 PM
Coffee shop or a diner is always good. Neutral and unassuming public place. It says "we're feeling each other out and talking". There's no pressure for anyone to put out alot of money or try to show off in case things don't go well so no one feels like a "sucker". I like to make lunch dates as a first date where possible. Then if things go well it's easier to take the date onto something else then or a little later. Maybe the park, window or flea market shopping or later at the movies. Dress semi-casual. No sneakers of flip flops. Dress to impress but don't go overboard.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Tattoos on the breasts Posted: 9/24/2008 2:00:02 PM
I also have to agree with the OP. I hate seeing tattoos on women. It makes them look cheap. Just my opinion. A small rose or heart tattoo on a shoulder or calf/ankle is cool. But the breast tattoos and large tramp stamps on the small of the back are unattractive to me. Maybe because they can be seen by everyone pretty much all the time because they're meant to draw attention. I always saw tats as a guy thing and growing up, the only women I ever saw wearing them were toothless biker hags. Did a wedding gig a few years ago and all the bridesmaids had gross tattoos on their shoulders with strapless dresses. Made the wedding pictures special.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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sex compatability Posted: 9/24/2008 1:48:39 PM
I learned the hard way that if sex is important to you then you have to talk about it with any future partners beforehand. Definitely by the first or second week and emails or by the first coffee date you should know if there's a sexual connection. Don't wait till your picking out china patterns. Had a girl I was in love with who became uncomfortable every time we talked about sex and I let the discussion go by the wayside. I just figured she was like me at that time, in that sex is an activity best discussed behind closed door during the act. WROOOONG!! Turns out not only was she bad at it; she considered sex to be one of the least important parts of a relationship. She felt anything more than 2x a week was abuse. Im surprised she let me french kiss her, she was so frigid. Of course, I'd known all of this for about a month but old "macho man" here thought he was just gonna stick it in and she'd change her religion with one orgasm. Now I looked like an oversexed perv for breaking it off. Im not blaming her. There could have been any number of reasons why she didn't care for sex but Im saying I should have checked our compatibility alot earlier because sex in a relationship is very important to me.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

Msg: 132 (view)

woman bad in bed? Posted: 9/24/2008 1:30:25 PM
Ditto. Cold fish syndrome. Also being too conservative or too much complaining about positions or accusing us of being too freaky or nasty for simple stuff like doggy and oral.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Total Turn Off Posted: 9/24/2008 1:15:24 PM
Yeah, that's a turn off for me too. If a woman won't let me go downtown, it's pretty much over. Intercourse is still the order of the day though but it probably won't go much beyond that. I expect her to go down on me too but not all women enjoy oral. A sad truth.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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i like phone sex Posted: 9/24/2008 1:08:39 PM
I've learned to like it. Not that big a fan bt in long distance situations, it's a good way to bond. Seems like women always kind of initiate at it with me by telling me they're naked in bed and then turning the talk to sex. It's a good way to see how far you can go with a woman sexually without actually doing it though. You get to hear how crazy she gets during orgasm too so you know what moans to listen for when you really do get to have sex with her and see if you're hitting that spot right.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Is it cheating . . . . . . Posted: 9/24/2008 12:20:13 PM
Guys with high sex drives have to whack off if they're not getting daily to a few times a day. Doesn't mean they all do. It's just natural. If I caught my girl masturbating, I'd hope she was jacking off to me but if not I'd look at it as a challenge to show her reality with me was hotter than any of her fantasies with Denzel Washington or Brad Pitt.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Have you slept with a partner's parent?????? Posted: 9/24/2008 12:07:53 PM
Almost but she was an ex-partner and 6 yrs later Im watching her mother twisting away on the dance floor at a local club looking hotter than when I was dating her daughter. In fact, she always looked hotter than her daughter who was about 30 heavier. "Hot Mama" was more than a little drunk and cutting loose and had my complete attention. We had a few drinks and some touchy-feely moments as we were talking but then I realized that she didn't even remember that I had dated her daughter as many times I had been in her house and I felt a little embarrassed then the angel on my right shoulder grabbed me by the ear and left that potential escapade alone. Im no saint. I probably would have gone and done it.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Does it really matter any more? Posted: 9/24/2008 11:53:59 AM
It doesn't bother me anymore. I've lived alone most of my life and though I'd rather be married to a great woman who loves and respects me, I don't spend every waking moment wishing for it. I know plenty of people who couldn't imagine being single or alone. A few friends of mine spend hundreds of dollars to be on several dating sites every month and go on two or three dates a week. I have my moments but I've made peace with being alone. I can accept it and I think it's helping me deal and prepare for when I meet the right woman as opposed to just getting married for the sake of it. Besides, no one said just because you live alone that you have to stop dating. I still sometimes go on dates with women I know Im totally incompatible with if I got a shot at some good sex. haha!! "oink"

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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HELP - How is this done? Posted: 9/24/2008 11:27:25 AM
That's typical online dating sometimes. People sometimes just one day out-of-the-blue stop communicating. Some people get lucky and hit a bulls eye the first time but it's pretty rare. It's not that you did anything wrong or even that he decided he didn't like you , but more than likely he's playing the dating game and courting other women from this or other sites and he's just a serial dater. There's also the possibility that he's kind of scared because he sees the potential for a serious LTR and isn't sure how to handle it or has been out of the relationship/marriage game a long time. You can let it go or you can confront him in person or by phone to let him know how disappointed you are that you've stopped talking. Maybe it'll get the ball rolling again or at the very least make him feel like a immature jerk for trying to be a playa but at least you'll know what's up. If he says he's been busy, dump him. Nobody's that busy they can't call, email or even drop a text to a person they like or are interested in. I've recently had a woman I was talking to for a month stop talking to me. We had been on 3 dates and were calling, texting, web-caming, and just like that she stopped answering my calls. I thought she was sick or something but I saw her online often on the site were we met but she wouldn't even talk to me through the site. No reason, nothing. Thought maybe I stepped out of line during one of our last discussions but there wasn't anything controversial I could remember. Anyway, that' s the online dating game. Sometimes you have to go in half-heartedly and cautious. Have fun.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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How do you get a guy to ask you out? Posted: 9/24/2008 11:02:51 AM
Im assuming you already know if whether there's another girl in the picture or not. You should really get more personal with him and make sure he's not pining away for his ex or maybe there's another girl floating around that he's more interested in. I think the fact that you say there's a little "sexual tension" between you, he's referred to his wife as "ex" and that he "gently teases" you kind of says he's probably feeling you out a bit. If you're the flirty one, you may have to make that move, steer your discussions away from work and ask him out for coffee. Better yet, get casually dolled up, take a shot of tequila if you need a kick and say to him " so when are you gonna ask me out ?" and then watch his reaction. Take a chance.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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What to do for her Birthday? Posted: 9/21/2006 2:30:00 PM
She loved Yanni. I hated new age music. Yanni is as lame as John Tesh. He came one year and she gushed over the concert poster on the side of a bus. But I couldnt sit throught that crap so I never even looked into getting tickets. I didnt realize how disappointed she'd be about not going. She didnt make a big deal about it but she had a girlfriend who went and gave her all the gory details. So the next year as soon as I found out he was coming, I ordered them online. Third row aisle. I told her we were going to dinner a Japanese restaurant to throw her off. We took a limo with another couple. She caught on when we got to the stadium. She was so happy, I wish I had a camera to show you the smile and elation. She was beaming. Even better, her birthday was that Sunday and the concert was Friday so we had a nice birthday celebration weekend.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Be truthful, guys about this one please Posted: 9/21/2006 2:01:30 PM
Though it's nice to know what a woman thinks of you, sometimes women really bare their soul a little too much. I dated a woman who on our first date said that "a year from now on our first anniversary, we should come back to this restaurant....". i was like, "whoooaa??!". She pretty much planned out part of my life for the next 365 days in one sentence. I liked her but she didnt really give me much in the way of post-date options. I dont have a problem with committment but you dont put all your cards on the table so soon. Let the relationship grow nto something first.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Is it wrong to want to start over? Posted: 9/21/2006 1:44:05 PM
If youre gonna be living in Richmond then it makes sense to start over in a new town. Nothing wrong with staying friends with the girls in Ohio bt that may be more their choice than yours. It may be time to cut ties. Being friendly with ex's is easier than being friends. Im friendly with several of my ex's bt I would only same Im "friends" with one of them. Depends on how much time you invested in relationships with them too. Were you just casually dating or were they LTRs?

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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When it comes to the opposite sex, what is your weakness? Posted: 9/21/2006 1:31:38 PM
As the saying goes..."Im a sucker for a pretty face" with nice smile. Nice hips and a sexy ass dont hurt either.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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why do men always have to look at other women!! Posted: 9/14/2006 9:06:04 PM
There's no harm in looking. A beautiful woman is a beautiful woman. When I meet my soul mate, I'll still look at other women. Its when you pursue other women that it becomes a problem. We're all human and women look too. They're just better at not getting caught. We dont do it to disrespect you. Its just instinctual.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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The truth about Introverts. Posted: 9/14/2006 9:01:07 PM
Excellent subject and post. I tend to lean toward the introverted side. I love my "me" time. I took a job that allows me to spend alot of time alone every day. Im able to think better when I dont have someone in my ear every minute. My best relationships are with women who are either intros themselves or at least understand that I need a certain amount of time alone each day to recharge. I can talk with the best of them but when Im in "intro" mode, dont expect any interaction. You're on my time now. Im not a loner but I do enjoy and need my "alone" time. I can easily process and organize the millions of thoughts going through my head when Im by myself. Unfortunately, we get linked to crazies like the Columbine fools and this new kid in Montreal who just pulled a copycat. And yes, extroverts can talk for hours and say absolutely nothing. I know people who utter every word that comes into their head. They're basically thinking out loud and dont even know it. There should be more studies done on these two groups.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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anyone on here heard of david deAngelo Posted: 9/14/2006 8:39:50 PM
I used to get his emails all the time. I clicked on the Double Your Dating site and got bombared with emails 2x a week about how to not be a wimp with women. Alot of it was informative but also very mysoginistic. Then David De Angelo started showing up in my emails with his cd/dvd seminars. Basically, they demonstrate how to deal with women without looking like a wuss. Their techniques seem to be geared more towared trying to bed women than actually getting into relationships. It works better for men aged 21-29 who are still sowing their wild oats or men who are basically "doormats" for women.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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So what makes a slut? Posted: 9/14/2006 8:21:05 PM
My idea of a slut is a woman who has promiscuous sex indiscriminately with no purpose. Even a nymphomaniac has a purpose. A slut will have sex just because someone else wants to. Almost like she's a man. haha

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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would you date someone who is not capable of intercourse? Posted: 9/14/2006 7:34:10 PM
Dating is one thing. I dont mind dating a woman without having sex but as far as a relationship, Id say that''s out of the question because at some point Id eventually have to have sex with someone else and that would be cheating.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Have you been tempted to lie about your age? Posted: 9/14/2006 7:18:13 PM
I never thought Id get to that age where Id want to but lately Ive felt that way. But I never would. I just keep shaving and cutting out my gray hairs.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Tattoos on the breasts Posted: 9/14/2006 6:22:51 PM
AMEN, ebrown!!. I hate seeing tattoos on women. If it has to be then Id rather they just have a small ankle symbol or something small on the shoulder. Tats on breasts or visible body parts are a peeve of mine too. Large tats on a woman are a turn-off. I know plenty of women are getting them but I dont find them attractive on women. I tend to associate them with bikers and tough guys. I think they just diminish a woman's classiness and style. just my opinion.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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vampires! Posted: 9/14/2006 6:15:44 PM
One year, I was at a Halloween party and ran into a co-worker. I was Blade and she was Xena. We had fake swords and got into a mock swordfight during the party. Five Jagermeisters later, where locking more than just swords. I had fangs and would nuzzle her neck all night. She wanted to have sex in our costumes but all that leather was too hot for me. She got pissed off and left me but at leasst I got to lay my fangs into her left breast. It was sweet.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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how to live with out a love Posted: 9/14/2006 5:49:22 PM
You have to learn to be your own best friend and enjoy your own company. I enjoy playing guitar and piano, read, write, work on my car. All kinds of stuff but that doesnt mean I want to live alone. It's just that I wont let not having a love at this time ruin my enjoyment of life. Some people cant be alone and have to be on the phone or around people all the time. I actually think most people are like that.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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Bad internet dating experiences,have you had them???? Posted: 9/14/2006 5:34:42 PM
Too many to mention. I could make a season long sitcom with some of the stuff Ive been through. The worst was with a girl who lived in a pretty bad neighborhood. Since our date wasnt till 8 pm and my nightvision was pretty bad, I came through earlier in the day to find her house to avoid mistakes. When I came through, I see a woman and some seedy-looking thugs on the steps of the house next door hitting a crack pipe. I could only imagine how bad it would be when I came back later that night. Of course, when I came back that night I discovered my date was the same woman I saw free-basing earlier that day. She looked to good to walk out on but I wasnt about to kiss her on the lips, much as she wanted me too. No telling where those lips had been besides a crackpipe. I think she thought I was Mormon or gay.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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For those who don't have pictures...why? Posted: 9/14/2006 4:44:41 PM
I only put mine on becauae I like this site. I dont put my photo on alot of other sites I belong to because I hardly visit them and I know alot of people on them who arent necessarily discreet. Ive talked to and gotten responses from more women here than alot of other sites. I usually dont put my photo up for privacy reasons. I dont mind sending a photo to a woman upon request.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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i cant believe its works like this Posted: 9/14/2006 4:03:07 PM
I hear you talkin' bro. Ive been on a few differnt sites as well. I live in the same area and most of the dates Ive had lately are in western PA or Northern NJ. Alot of the women who are writing me are in NC, FL and CA. The local ones rarely get back to me. Ive tweaked my profile several times, added different photos (waiting for some new ones to add on this site) and occasionally joined the chat rooms. Maybe its time to move. Philly women are tough anyway. I dont know why. Sometimes you just dont fit in with yr environment. My buddy went down DC to visit and never came back. He met a girl a few weeks after he was there and said "**** Philly!". Ive never had such rotten luck in any area ive lived but here.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

Msg: 196 (view)

Interracial Dating.... Posted: 9/7/2006 6:16:42 PM
I dont have a problem with it. No matter what race I've dated, they all drive me crazy. I wouldnt have it any other way. I could only imagine what Id be missing if I limited my choices by race.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

Msg: 121 (view)

Do Men liked 2 be chased? Posted: 9/7/2006 6:05:35 PM
Id rather a woman let me know she's interested with a smile or a "hello" or at least respond to my flirting then I will pursue her. I think a lot of guys feel that way. We just want a "green light" to let us know it's ok to try rather than making a fool of ourselves with someone who isnt interested or already in a relationship.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

why didnt´jazz die? Posted: 9/7/2006 12:38:02 PM
Jazz is America's classical music. It's more than historic. It breathes. Listen to Miles Davis (pre-'66), Coltrane, Charlie Parker, Stan Getz, Eubie Blake, Charles Mingus. Too many to name here. You want to learn more about jazz? You have to experience it live. Find a jazz concert or performance in your local city and witness firsthand what it's like to create music out of thin air. No drum machines, DAT machines, synthisizers or CGI. Just a piano, sax, bass and some drums. Or any combination of acoustic intruments and/or voice. you wont have to worry about Ashlee Simpson doing a jig offstage cuz her "band messed up". . No excuses with jazz. All mistakes are part of the performance. It's pure. And any american pop music youre listening to anyway is a **stard grandchild to jazz. Rent or purchase Ken Burns' Jazz dvd series. Gives a nice history of jazz. Not perfect but a nice primer and place to start.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

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GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 9/7/2006 12:20:31 PM
Well what's the sense in doing other things if you're not gonna have intercourse? Oral sex is still sex. Heavy petting is for teenagers. Adults who get into petting will eventually move toward sex out of frustration unless they're already virgins. If the wedding was this coming Monday then I guess I could wait. It'd be hard though. Rock hard!

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship? Posted: 9/7/2006 12:15:26 PM
Ive had sex on the first date a few times and it's usually turned into a relationship but not necessarily deep loving. I dont think it has that much bearing on how a relationship turns out. If it happens, I dont turn it down but I dont put out any pressure for it to happen either. I try to remain a gentleman and wait for the "go ahead" sign before sex. If it's a woman I really like and am beginning to fall in love with then I dont mind waiting as long as it takes.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

Msg: 213 (view)

Photos and the older person! Posted: 9/7/2006 9:47:49 AM
Ive seen profiles where the main photo is 4 or 5 yrs older than the other photos which are more recent. Obviously when you see a 40-ish woman looking 30ish, you tend to be impressed especially if its a sexy photo. People in general would rather use their best looking photo whether its recent or from a few yrs ago. That's natural but when that photo looks significantly younger than your present person, it can be a little shocking and a bit deceitful. It doesnt take much to have a decent pic taken since just about everybody is carrying little cameras on their phones and webcams. Everybody wnts a natural photo instead of somethng prepared or staged but who's to know but you and whoever held the camera?

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

Msg: 57 (view)

How's your Health? Posted: 9/7/2006 9:31:12 AM
I developed diabetes a few yrs ago. Im on pills now. Bringing my weight down has helped. Changed my diet bt I occasionally still cheat (pizza, hoagies. Hey, I live in Philadelphia. What am I gonna do?). Other than that, so far so good. My bloodwork comes back looking good and my blood pressure and cholesterol are excellent.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

Msg: 110 (view)

how do you feel about getting old? Posted: 9/7/2006 9:25:53 AM
Cant say Im happy about it. I cant eat what I want anymore and I find more aches and pains in new areas on my body every week. Never thought Id be going through this but now I understand what my older friends and members of my family had been complaining about for years. All you can do is take better care of your body and get a better relationship with your family doctor for preventative measures. Exercise, water and dietary changes.

mermanus

Joined: 8/7/2006

Msg: 152 (view)

Dressing too young Posted: 9/7/2006 9:19:10 AM
Who would want to dress the way these young folks dress anyway? Bellbottoms? Khakis?, Pants hanging off yr ass? Timberlands? Paris Hilton skirts and berets? To be fair, Ive always dressed like my dad and my uncles anyway so Im in no danger of being mistaken for Generation Y or even X. I like wearing loose-fitting linen in the summer and sportcoats and overcoats in the cooler months. I only wear sneakers in the gym or when Im doing a lot of walking in the city. Im seeing alot of older women wearing tighter more fashionable clothes, shoes and hair styles. Some of it looks good but most of it looks silly and desparate. Now throw in tattoos, body piercings and those crazy fingernails and top it off with some botox and now it looks ridiculous.

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