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iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 162 (view)

CHEATING as a self defense, protection tool.... Posted: 1/5/2008 11:40:54 AM
Peppersmom, I so hope you weren't in the brief relationship knowing he was married, because that just means you were enabling a cheater and makes you no better than the cheater himself. I am assuming you didn't know and when you found out, it was over with on the spot and then called his wife and apologized for falling for his lies and deceit. I hope the very first thing a woman asks when a date is about to take place is: "Are you married?" If they are married, the answer should be yes, if they are separated, the answer is still yes (not technically yes or technically no), if they are "getting a divorce" the answer is still yes. Anything other than complete honesty is just a long list of cons he is about to perform on you. If he says no, then the very next set of questions you should be asking are "What is your full name, age, phone number, address and place of employment?" Then start doing the background check. If a guy is truly single and truly honest and can appreciate the type of society we live in today, then he will have no problems or issues with your questions at all and will be completely understanding and compassionate to your feelings of safety and intentions. Women say there are no good guys left in this world, well I am here to tell you that if a guy has no problem with your simple, honest, sincere, questions upfront, then you have a more than great chance that you just snagged one of the good, honest, compassionate and understanding guys.

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 156 (view)

CHEATING as a self defense, protection tool.... Posted: 1/5/2008 10:11:16 AM
How does a foreign student become a professor prior to the age of 31? I can easily look past the bad English coming from a European, but I find it hard to believe that the original post was intended to be anything but antagonism coming from a "forum junkie" per the profile. I also find it hard to believe that the original post is not directly related to her personal relationships. Question: what are you a professor of and how long have you been a professor? You say in the original post "imagine the following situation", but all through this thread you speak of it in a context that is hardly imagination. I'd really like to know what your true motivations are for this post. If I had to guess, two things come to mind. 1) You like controversy and used the forums as a way to start your own personal drama, or 2) you are masking the very real connection between this post and your personal relationship. I don't see any value in this thread at all. Cheating starts in the mind and when it manifests itself into an action, it is a conscious act. So the question remains, why do you care?

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

BrOkEn HeArTeD Posted: 1/5/2008 3:51:52 AM
What part of "she broke up with you" didn't you understand? Everything after that point was your own fault for having any contact with her. Also you abused a little childs mind by allowing your child to call someone who is not the child's mother "mom". The child has a mother already. Don't destroy a childs mind by purposely confusing the child. The relationship you describe in your terrible english says that you should never have been in that relationship to begin with and shows your "visual" approach to women rather than your mature keen of mind approach. You refused to recognize the "flags" in the relationship, failed to recognize her character flaws, and her issues, and you don't grasp the concept of earning trust. If you go through this life just blindly trusting people, you are going to get stabbed, shot, robbed, scammed, used, etc over and over again. Trust is NOT at the foundation level of a relationship. Trust is earned by worthy people. You got used by a conniving mentally unstable woman. Be man enough to admit you got used and move on. When she said it was over, and you went to her and sat her down to talk to her? WTH is up with that? it was over when she said it was over. You deserved what you got after that point. You should have taken the Gold Ring when she handed it to you. I realize this post was started last April, but I wrote in response hoping people can see from your mistakes just how we "enable" relationships to drag us down. Don't "enable" them. It's a sickness akin to alcoholics. I hope since that time you have found a refreshing new relationship that is not visually oriented and you have found the love that comes from the heart and not between the legs.

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 91 (view)

Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number?? Posted: 10/19/2007 3:06:16 PM
I have to laugh. When I first posted a comment on this thread back in the first week of august (page 3), I thought it was a pretty dumb question. Now I am convinced it was. If you aren't smart enough to figure out that the guy or girl you are dating is a schmuck, lying, deceitful, conniving, player in other ways, and have to resort to your only line of defense (or qualification) by asking "Do you have a home phone number?", then you shouldn't be dating to begin with. I mean come on already!!! There are over 150 million cell phone subscribers in America out of a population of over 300 million. I China there are over 400 million cell subscribers. This is the age of technology people, get with the program. Hell, even the land line companies were losing so much money to the popularity and "evolution" of cell communication that they finally decided to offer free long distance as well, as a sales pitch. They are lucky enough to be ripping off the general public (still using land lines) with their ancillary and pointless 911 fees, taxes, line lease fees, line maint. fees, FCC fees, etc, as it is. In 25 years no one will have a traditional "land line/home phone" anyway and you will look back on how stupid this question really is. I even entertained the idea of getting one of those voice activated phones with a 50 year battery in them that can be implanted behind the ear. It's bluetooth so you can upload your frequently called numbers from your computer, turn it on and off with a voice command, dial with a voice command, everything is voice command, but I am putting that off for another 10 years. Ok ok I drove the point to the bone...Peace :)

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

Why She WILL Message You Back Posted: 10/19/2007 2:30:50 PM
The best email I have gotten ( ok ok, it was the only one, but still qualifies as the best) had one word in it... "what?" I suppose they didn't understand the humor, or the title of the email I sent which was "I just read your profile." But then I shouldn't assume people can put the title of the email together with the body of the email. But seriously, I don't know who is trying to fool who, or why people have to play such elaborate games, especially on dating sites like this. We all know it comes down to the looks. Just be "you" in the process. I for one find no value in these dating sites and I have been a member far too long. "If I had a dollar..." 1) for every woman that put "average" in their profile when their thighs are bigger than the horse they are standing next to in their profile pic... 2) for every woman that said they are looking for smart/intelligent guys with a sense of humor, not the shallow "players", and then have a picture in their own profile purposely exposing as much of their cleavage or boobs as they can... 3) for every woman that says "Shallow people need not apply" in a profile right next to their photo of them in a bikini.... 4) for every profile of a woman I have read that has stated "I am looking for a tall, dark, and handsome guy who is honest and intelligent, please reply with a picture only"... (LMAO..thats my personal favorite one) ...I would be so filthy rich that I wouldn't have time to type on a computer, I'd be too busy counting my billions. I mean seriously folks, while you are all busy trying to "impress" each other in the most creative way you can on dating websites... you are missing out on some really good dates outside your door. Stop using a "criteria" to "qualify" the people you go out with, and just go have fun "WITH" people. No one is perfect, everyone had quirks, we all have flaws, we are all human, and if I type too much longer I am going to be late for tonights date... Peace and chicken grease...

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

What do early thirties men really want? Posted: 9/17/2007 1:56:21 PM
What do early 30's men really want? are you saying what we want isnt good enough? or its a lie? or that what we want isnt good enough? The mentality of asking that kind of question supports this answer......A.) What we want...isn't here on POF (Plenty of Freaks). I have read hundreds of the absolute stupidest, contradictory, mentally and maturity devoid, game playing, saleswoman, mundane cookiecutter, profiles on here and I have read the forums until I am ready to puke. Its almost like a death wish to read the trash people come up with. Its like a car wreck, you just have to look. If you people would just stop bullshitting everyone, and stop "selling yourself" like a high priced hooker, and stop trying to outclass or outsmart your competition like you are fighting for the last man on earth, then the REAL men would come out of the woodwork and you wouldnt have to deal with what you have here on Plenty of Freaks. The NORMAL people are out here in the real world...read a few hundred profiles every month and you will have STARK comparrison.

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

What exactly are guys looking for? Posted: 4/15/2007 10:59:56 AM
...methinks that he could want the same with his long winded posts....nyuk nyuk... assuming you are paid to think. But then at least we have your unrelated to topic, one liners to balance out everyone else who is "long winded" in comparison. BTW, don't you have some other guy to stalk? someone you are less interested in where you don't have to keep track of how many posts or how long the posts are?

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

What exactly are guys looking for? Posted: 4/6/2007 2:12:20 AM
why are girls even trying to answer for us? Hopefully, what guys are looking for is in their profile. That makes this a somewhat stupid question. It could be that people just want their name "up in lights". Who knows. Maybe they just think its prestigious to start a thread or forum discussion. Lets just suppose, that any of the answers meant somethng. What would it mean? Q. What are guys looking for? A. A woman who wont lie, who wont cheat, who wont cling, who wont question, who wont nag. A woman who will have sex with us whenever we want, who wont talk until her teeth fall out, can cook, can wash clothes, will listen to us rant about work and other people. Now, that's just a generic answer from a generic POFer. My question is, What value does that answer or any answer have that you cant find out in a profile? What purpose will the answer serve? There are a lot of crappy answers, and a lot of cookie-cutter answers. The "real" answer is we are looking for someone that is attractive [to us] and we will want to have sex with, whenever we want. Everything else is secondary or a line to get to the real answer above. If it sounds like a line from a salesman, looks like a line from a salesman, it must be a line from a salesman. Temet Nosce

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 230 (view)

Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...? Posted: 4/4/2007 3:19:23 PM
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iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 228 (view)

Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...? Posted: 4/1/2007 8:34:38 PM
Optimism - I have no idea who you are, I have never spoken to you, I can't understand your language. I directed all the comments directly to the people I meant them for, and the rest were general comments not directed to anyone as was evidenced by no name preceding them.

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 219 (view)

Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...? Posted: 4/1/2007 2:23:45 PM
Kmiller - I don't subscribe to cliche's or sayings like "Good things come to those who wait" because that is reinforcing laziness to me. However, in contrast, good things come to those who put forth effrot, who try hard, (even if they fail) and those who make every effort to go out and DO something. For those that posted comments about this being a better way to meet people than going to bars, nightclubs, etc., everyone has their opinion. But many people have met their match in bars, and nightclubs, way before the net came along. The other places were bowling alleys, church gatherings, parks and recreation sites, museums, Poker Runs, Baseball Games, (all sport games) Festivals, marathons, craft shows, flea markets, Auto shows, I could go on and on...but I think people are just whining and being pessimistic. If you lack the possitive attitude, that could do serious damage. All these dating sites have a majority of people saying "I am here because I just cant find a good guy/gal" or "I am trying this for the first time because I havent had any luck on the outside". But seriously..if you read that attitude, you hear "I aint gettin what I want offline, so as a last resort I am stooping to online". To me it makes NO difference what the venue is, be it online or offline, or where the location is. Its about attitude. Possitive attitude makes the difference. I'll be stopping by once in a while to drop off my 2 cents, but I did find someone through POF and she rocks!! I don't know what I did to deserve her but I will do everything in my power to make her just as happy with me as I am with her. Good Luck to all Fishers!!

irocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 181 (view)

it is what it is, the relationship junkyard. Posted: 3/28/2007 1:00:13 PM
LOL SL, your posts have been quite entertaining. The very fact that people think what they want to think, and then make it a fact in their mind is hilarious. Your nickname is a good example. I don't think I saw you explain what your nickname is about, but I find it fascinating that someone hasn't thought about the fact that it could be a patronizing representation of what someone called you because they misunderstood you, or were insecure in your presence. Who knows. Maybe you are caling yourself a stupid loser because you honestly believe you are one. Doesn't matter, only you know, and everyone else will just assume. Although I don't agree with everything you have posted, the majority of it makes sense and you seem fairly enlightened. I especially liked the "relationship junkyard, as most of the dating sites are games of "king of the emotional scrap heap in the relationship junkyard". I guess I have been around the internet too long now ( I started geeking the net in 1985 while I was in the military) and dating sites as well as chat rooms are just far too comical to be anything else. The propensity for repeat human behavior associated directly to these sites is overwhelming. I for one enjoy your humor and the 10% more gooey center. LOL Its amazing that the spin Dr is all but lynched on these sites. How dare anyone have an opposing point of view or a different take on things. All I see is "you must conform or you will be relegated to being an outsider" type of mentality on these sites. Wait, that's America. What was I thinking? Hell, I dont think anyone noticed you changed the topic or even how you did it. LOL

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 73 (view)

Grantville St. Patrick's Day Party-Country Style-Mar. 24/07 Posted: 3/27/2007 12:58:00 PM
Deb - I notice he didn't even sign up on the sign up page where he's supposed to either. Like you said, he waited until a day or two before the event to even mention he was going to attend. Not that anything you posted had any bearing on this, but like everyone else who seems to be so mentally challeneged they can't follow along, I can plainly see that there was SOME sort of party starting around 9:30 to 9:45pm. I am glad they all had a good time. MY chief complaint hasn't changed. If you can't figure it out, read it til it's clear, and I will give you a hint, it's about a party that was supposed to start at 8pm. Deb, not that you are ever going to be privy to what my itinerary is or what I do on a daily basis, I didn't know if I was going to even get to go until an hour or so before I got on the road and I am not required to explain to you or anyone why. As for signing up, why would I sign up for something that is open to the public, when I had no idea I was going to even get to go until hours before the event? Dont bother answering, its rhetorical and obvious. The problem is overwhelmingly obvious and no amount of patting each other on the back or dancing around the problem is going to change anything. From all indications in this thread and from personally being present to witness it, there was no host to be found between 8 and 9pm, almost a full two hours after she said she was going to be there, and apparently no party was being had until almost a full 2 hours after the start time. The Bar employees were all completely unaware of any such event, and the hotel manager and Ashley (whatever her title is) both said that "nothing" was confirmed, verified or firmed up in any way shape or form. I'm glad anyone that showed up to party after the fact, had a great time. I'm done with this thread.

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 68 (view)

Grantville St. Patrick's Day Party-Country Style-Mar. 24/07 Posted: 3/26/2007 6:01:28 PM
Please do direct it all at me, because my point is extremely valid and not refutable. No one is disputing that anyone was able to find pony at 9:30, 9:45 or later(jena, failing to leave out what time you arrived). This is not about finding anyone almost 4 hours after pony said she was going to be there. I wont be making excuses for her. I wont be making excuses for "anyone" that says they are going to do something and then dont. I drove 4 hours and made it "on the appointed time of 8pm". I fail to see where anyone was as challenged to be where they said they were going to be at the time they said were going to be there. But then I wasn't the host and I am not the one making excuses.

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 65 (view)

Grantville St. Patrick's Day Party-Country Style-Mar. 24/07 Posted: 3/26/2007 12:48:01 PM
My apologies for not seeing the post on the buffet being canceled, and also for not seeing the post on the hotel room discount being canceled. Irish, if you will go back and re-read my post, I stated that Fairyhawked and I BOTH went to hotel management, as WELL as the bar management. Fairy and I walked thru the saloon several times at ALL the tables that had no signs on them, and no people with name tags on. WE also asked the bartenders several times about people from POF, and all 3 bartenders said they had not seen a single person wearing nametags or any signs to this effect. As for your comment about people looking like their picture...I look E.X.A.C.T.L.Y. like my picture...right down to the flat top haircut which btw, I was the ONLY guy in the saloon with a flat top, AND I was with Fairy most of the time we {the group of us} wandered around inside the saloon from one wall to the other back and forth in front of the dance floor where EVERYONE could see us. I got there at 8, Fairy was already there, we left at 9. I find it HARD to believe that our wandering back and forth in the saloon for an hour as well as hanging at the corner of the bar by the front door made us invisible. Meanwhile, there were no table available between 8 and 9 as we asked the bartender for seats AND the only table that didnt have people at it, Fairy approached and asked the gentleman if we could sit at it and they said they had saved it for their friends. We obliged them and stood. ALL ELSE ASIDE, you said you would be there to greet people at 6pm. I was raised that if you say you are going to do something, you do it. Generally, other people believe the same thing and that being the case, if anyone didn't like the fact that you had obligated yourself to greeting people as they arrived, then I would think they have a problem, not you. This is not a brain teaser puzzle. Some people aren't going to look like their picture as you stated as would be expected, and because of that fact, it would have made sense for everyone arriving to be able to "easily" locate or spot other members of POF, not necessarily you. hey y'all i'm going to be leaving soon.......rocket, i'll be there by 6pm so no worries, i'll be there...... Hilde That's funny...my friend and I, another member on POF, got there about 9:45...and happened to see the table with everyone sitting at it...WITH NAME TAGS ON !!! Read the front page that says the party starts at 8pm. Also that pony would be there at 6pm. Pardon us punctual people. However, this does lend MORE credence to the fact that nothing got done at 6pm, or 8pm, and more like something got done after 9pm when Fairy and I finally left the saloon. Hunter, I'm sorry we missed you at your table by yourself as no one else was there by 8pm. I apologize for the waitresses and bartenders having amnesia and not knowing where your table was . They all must have gotten amnesia at the same time. It's a conspiracy man!! lol I think the most important thing being that when a gathering involves members coming from across the state, much like coming from your end to our end, that this is kept in mind and a little more effort is put into keeping your word, and "hosting" as people arrive. I am almost certain that no one had any problems coming to our side of the state, locating POF members, and having a good time as is bore out in the many posts that followed that particular get together. I guess some people are just a little more responsible and keep to their word better than others. Oh and I don't see anyone asking for a portion of their covercharge back. We, as mature adults, after spending an hour exhausting the desk clerk, the hotel manager, the sales manager and the bartenders and waitresses ALL in the hunt for ANY sign of a POF member or name tag, we left and NEVER complained or asked for our money back. But I can see how someone like you might be financially devastated over a $4 cover charge enough to think the 7 of us wanted our money or a portion of our money back. That's right sweety, besides the bartenders and waitresses and the hotel staff looking for POF members, there were 7 of us in our group looking between 8 and 9pm. I'm not saying it's impossible, but I find it hard to believe ALL of us could not find ONE person wearing a nametag of ANY kind between 8 and 9 pm. Maybe we should have more get togethers on this side of the state and avoid all of this all together next time.

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

Grantville St. Patrick's Day Party-Country Style-Mar. 24/07 Posted: 3/25/2007 6:09:31 PM
how would we know where to go once in the saloon? i will be arriving at the saloon for 6pm to put up a few signs on the area we would be at. i would also have a table at the front of the area where we would be so i can make up name tags for everyone including the guests of any of the pof members. ------DID NOT HAPPEN!!! How many hands does it take to sit at a table with a sign on it?

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 58 (view)

Grantville St. Patrick's Day Party-Country Style-Mar. 24/07 Posted: 3/25/2007 6:07:50 PM
how would we know where to go once in the saloon? i will be arriving at the saloon for 6pm to put up a few signs on the area we would be at. i would also have a table at the front of the area where we would be so i can make up name tags for everyone including the guests of any of the pof members. ------DID NOT HAPPEN!!! How many hands does it take to sit at a table with a sign on it?

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 55 (view)

Grantville St. Patrick's Day Party-Country Style-Mar. 24/07 Posted: 3/25/2007 4:57:59 PM
Well....That was fun....NOT!!! What a totally misleading, misrepresented, almost total lie this get together turned out to be. I drove from pittsuburgh (4 hours) got to the holiday Inn, and no greeting table, no ponygirl, ( I got there at 8). I asked the desk clerk where the buffet was, there was no buffet. I asked the Head Sales Manager, and he would check into what was going on. He got in touch with Ashley (the lady ponygirl said she contacted) and Ashley said that NOTHING was firmed up. The Cover charge was $4 (like Fairy said), there was no buffet at all and there were no seats for anyone at the winner circle. There was no table inside the winner circle with anyone looking like a POF member with a name tag on or anything. There was no sign/s that pony said she was going to put up at 6pm. The hotel rooms were $129.00 not $104 before the group discount. I didn't recognize anyone there from POF, however, I soon discovered that Fairyhawked was a pof'er and to my delight, what started out as one hell of a botched get together, the two of us and some of her friends had a great time at another location. To add icing to the cake, the next day we went to Hershey, PA and the Hershey Factory and took the tour, watched the 3D show, had pictures taken, went on a cool ride through the history of Hershey, bought some great chocolate, and all in all, it was a GREAT day. So in retrospect, I am VERY happy the get together was so badly botched. It was a blessing in disguise :)

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 48 (view)

Grantville St. Patrick's Day Party-Country Style-Mar. 24/07 Posted: 3/24/2007 10:52:57 AM
okiedokie. Casual for me is shorts and a t-shirt as I spent a great deal of time in Florida and Ga. However, will dress my usual scummy self and I will be on my way about 4pm. That should get me there around 8ishish. If I dont spot anyone, I will be the idiot standing in the foyer looking lost. :D Messages this short may not be posted

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 84 (view)

Do men really mind dating women with children?? Posted: 3/24/2007 8:46:36 AM
Smjle said The man is only a checkbook. She is going to make all decisions about the children, and likely will let them run wild. The man is an outsider and she will very possessive and will not allow any suggestions on how the children should be raised. This kind of thinking boggles the mind. The man is only a checkbook? wtf?? She is going to be making all the decisions about the [her] children yes, but how the hell does following up that thought with "and likely will let them run wild" give any credibility to the statement?? That's what I call following a fact with a HUGE chip. The man is the outsider yes, the non-blood factor in the equation (and again a fact) followed by yet another HUGE chip of an assumption that she will be very possessive due to that fact. WRONG. And what makes anyone think she will arbitrarily not allow any suggestions on how the kids should be raised because of that fact?? The following, IMHO, is why there are so many problems in relationships that involve children of previous relationships: 1. Why do men (predominantly, but women also) automatically assume it is their right, their job, their responsibility, their purpose to raise another womans children just because she is a single mother? The children already have two parents, a mom and a dad. (assuming one hasn't died) It is the mistake of the adults coming into the family, that assume their new job in the relationship is to raise and discipline the other's children. This is so terribly wrong. The children know you are not a relative and have no relation by blood and that you are the outsider and you have zero, none, no authority over their well being and lives, whatsoever. Assuming you "do" is your mistake, not theirs. 2. The only capacity in which the outside adult has any authority or responsibility for the children's well being or discipline, is only if the blood parent/s "gives" you that responsibility in their absence. Yes males, by nature, are protective, and we will protect all human life related to us or not by virtue of our nature, if those lives are in imminent danger. But this doesn't give us an assumed authority over all other matters especially discipline. 3. It is not our job to "replace" an absent parent just because you are the new romantic interest in the equation. We are being "added" to the already existing family, be it a broken family or not. It is very likely that the two divorced people are even better parents to their children as divorced parents, than they were as married parents. But the fact remains, the children already have parents, and dont need an "outsider" to do "anything" for them. Be supportive, yes. Be an adult friend, yes. Be compassionate and understanding, yes. Be a role model by living through example, yes. Do NOT undermine your romantic interest's authority over her own children or the authority of the absent parent with his children. She has a tough enough job being "both" parents in the absence of the other parent to have to deal with us assuming its our responsibility to "step in" when it's not. The only exception to any of this is if there is a complete understanding and agreement between "all adult" parties involved that we will be an authority of some sort. This must include the children (if they are of age to understand this) being fully aware that the "outsider" will have authority over them in whatever specified circumstances the adults agree on. This requires a full and open level of communication between the outside adult, and the parents of the children. Basically, stop thinking in terms of ourselves, and start thinking in terms of the well being of the children and their emotional health and understanding. Do men mind dating women with children? Some do, some dont. If they do, so what, and if they don't, great. Why would you care about the non-issue of the men that do mind? You obviously wont be dating them. Temet Nosce

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

Just to clear up a few common misconceptions about me.... Posted: 3/23/2007 8:08:54 PM
Well..my birth name is Scott Wolf. And yes I was born before the actor of the same name. (Party of Five) My brother used to call me Scott, but just says Hey Bro now. My sister calls me...Scott, My neices and nephews call me Uncle Scott. I know..try to keep up...it gets confusing here. My friends all call me Scott except the ones in the military who always called me Sgt Wolf. I know the name looks the same, but everywhere I have lived I have been called someting different like ...ScOtt, or Scawt, or Scottie (hated that one since its a dogs name for a Scottish terrier) So, with that said....( and we wont go into the name people have for me on here which starts with A ) I am certainly open to a nickname. I got iRocket from the movie i Robot. And no..pocket rocket wont work, it's been taken

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 15 (view)

What exactly are guys looking for? Posted: 3/23/2007 7:43:21 PM
Well, since this question/topic has been raised a number of other times on POF , Ask A Guy what do guys want when they say they are looking for friends? (Page: 1, 2 ) smileatmyheart 33 480 Dating and Love Advice What are the big guys looking for? darkpumpkin 10 324 Off Topic What are guys really looking for? (Page: 1, 2 ) juliadream 37 622 Sex and Dating What are guys looking for? ............... then it would be kinda silly to once gain give the same advice everyone else is giving on this topic in all the other threads. So, I will just go a different route. Everyone is looking for something they want. It wont do any good to classify or categorize how many are looking for a particular thing. I've noticed that there have been a bunch guys in the area looking at my profile...only a few have emailed me or messaged me....what exactly are guys looking for? Here is where it gets confusing because your question could have different motivations for being asked: 1. a rhetorical question in a forum just to be able to say you have a bunch of guys looking at "your" profile. 2. you are assuming that people looking at your profile MUST be attracted to you or they wouldn't be looking at your profile, and it upsets you that they don't just automatically message you. 3. You think a few of the men browsing your profile are good looking and it pisses you off that they haven't messaged you so you decided to post a redundant thread about it. 4. what was quoted above from your thread was two thoughts that have absolutely no connection whatsoever. You have a bunch of guys in your area browsing your profile, ok...cool. A few have messaged you, again, ok...cool...is that a complaint? What are guys looking for? ok...talk about a waste of bandwidth. How many guys are there in the world? Thats how many different things guys are looking for. Are you trying to meet the "popular criteria" so that you can change who you are to suit what guys are looking for?? I sure hope not. You could have read Cosmopolitan or Redbook or People magazine and found the same question (every single year to fill the pages of those rages) and gotten the same answers you are going to get here. YOu have in your profile that I'm a therapist to a lot of my friends. that girl that has a lot of guy friends, I'm good at hooking up others yet with all that solid trustworthy experience and advice you give others about guys to be able to hook up your friends, here you are asking the seemingly most mysterious question of all based on what? That the right guys in your area aren't messaging you? Your profile says you don't want a player or guys playing games, yet this seems to be game to you. Well, here is a guy that isn't playing any games telling you like he sees it. No emotional cuddling(or coddling) in hopes of getting in your pants, no glorifying anything to make life easier to swallow for you. No groovy cool things to say that will give you a look on your face that says "You're right, that's it, how did I not notice that" or suddenly "enlightened" look from an answer to a question that has no answer. Don't get me wrong, everyone will try and give you an answer that doesn't exist to a question that can't be answered, but the whole point is to say something really cool that you will like, and then you will be attracted to that person for saying something that doesn't apply or fit or answer the question at all. LOL OMG I need a vallium!! Smartie, guys have messaged you.... answer them and that is all there is. How wonderful those guys that messaged you must feel that they messaged you and you came here to say "whats up with you guys? why arent you messaging me after looking at my profile?" tsk tsk tsk. My advice, stop playing games and you wont have guys playing games with you. I apologize for being harsh..no wait..I don't. Its tough love and thats all. If you didn't want someone that wont BS you, you should have stated so in the beginning

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Msg: 65 (view)

Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/23/2007 6:45:42 PM
Baxy, I SOOO loved that one line in your profile. "I seek someone who doesn't scare the horses!" I laughed so hard I think I spotted. I really like the "don't contact me if's.." Way wicked good ones:) I only have a cell phone because I refuse to pay a monopoly like Bellsouth or any of the bell companies $35 or $40 a month plus inside line maintenance for it to sit on my counter doing nothing AND I can't take a home phone with me, AND it's just one more thing I have to dust or move to dust. But I sure as hell loved the "{men}who ALWAYS seem to be driving some place when they call,". LOL Now I can ONLY call from my cell phone, unless you want me to drive to a payphone, which..btw...I haven't seen one of those in a very long time. Hmm...must be because we all have cell phones now Hell, I liked ALL your don'ts Ruthie~ EXCELLENT call on that one. His comment, from a guy that has "caring and loving" in his profile. And what I would like to know, is why people like that get away with a 4 word post, and I can't get away with less than 4 lines without getting that stupid message that it's too short. . . (the message....not what you were thinking)

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Do men really mind dating women with children?? Posted: 3/23/2007 2:57:26 PM
9 of the last 12 posters have made me truly ashamed to be part of the male gender. I now fully understand what you women have to deal with on a daily basis and in your searches for male partners in life now. I only have 2 virtual roses a month to give, but what I need is about 1.7 million right now for every woman on and off POF that is dating just by virtue of the fact they will run into at least one guy like some of the last group of posters, in their life, and for that, you deserve a rose at the very least! Temet Nosce

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Grantville St. Patrick's Day Party-Country Style-Mar. 24/07 Posted: 3/23/2007 2:47:36 PM
ok...quick question..is this a St. Patricks Day theme one week after St Patricks day or is this a country theme? I have to know how to dress if I come. {Messages this short may not be posted} {Messages this short may not be posted} {Messages this short may not be posted} {Messages this short may not be posted}

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Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/23/2007 2:13:54 PM
LOL GG, if I knew why I haven't been gobbled up yet, I'd be gobbled up today As for the brain, heart and spelling? Well..my mother would smack me in the head with a big wooden spoon that my dad woodburned the words "tough love" into until I finished my english homework It was a no lose situation..."something" was going to sink in

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Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/22/2007 5:06:28 PM
You are so right GG. There is a HUGE difference between a typo and not having mastered the English language. Of course..people that know how to spell, have good grammar, and can type more than one sentence are usually the foreigners and not students from American public school systems. To me it's a self pride issue, a self esteem issue. If someone didn't find learning english worthy of their efforts, then they probably don't have a lot of ambition for the more difficult things such as relationships, communication and the biggest challenge of all, learning to understand a female. (heh, had to throw that in there just for the fun of it:)) Be careful GG, you could stub your toe on the "depth" of the male psyche. lol

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Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/21/2007 5:21:54 PM
Sounds like a plan. Just say when. And my wall is dismantled, however there are still so many other ways to contact me, since you found my blog:) lol Those poor farmers. Speaking of which, I really need a good topic for my blog, if you have any ideas, I am open. just post a comment there:) Temet Nosce (Messages this short may not be posted)

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Nudie Bars and Lap Dances Posted: 3/21/2007 5:13:18 PM
LOL Lohki..I am sooo with you on that one. a rose is still a rose by any other name. It is objectifying women. I am not proud of the fact that I worked the lights at a couple strip clubs in Florida, Carmichaels and the Lions Den when I was in the military, but it made me some spending cash. The really sad thing is, I saw a hundred women a year come and go in those clubs, and not a one of them had any self esteem, and always attracted the wrong kind of guy and ended up in bad situations. The vast majority of them did do drugs, and the ones that didn't were addicted to their abusive boyfriends. Eventually I couldn't do it anymore and had to quit. I found myself getting in trouble for trying to get a lot of the dancers to leave and find real work. The kind we work twice as hard for, for half the money, but come away with a better feeling of self worth with. Anyone can pimp themselves out (and I use that term loosely for any act of using sex to make money, be it dancing or prostitution, using sex to catch a husband for financial security, etc) and make fast money, but no amount of money makes up for self worth and self esteem. No amount of material things or money replaces the emptiness inside. I am way inclined to agree with artsy also on this. Neysha~ forums are opinions. They are not fact columns. So if your statement is to be applied, all forums stink. If you want facts, try the world fact book online:)

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Msg: 55 (view)

Do men really mind dating women with children?? Posted: 3/19/2007 12:24:56 PM
Just another Dude ~ Just a couple quick question, at what point did you decide that you had to replace the kids father? When did you learn that the father of the children "wanted" you to replace him? And finally, at what point did you decide that the kids father was no longer the kids father? (aside from death). Texasguy ~ I agree with your comment with one exception, I have always known I was a "family guy" as far back as I could remember. However, as I got into my 30's, I realized I started too young. And my ex was definitely too young. I was 21 and my wife was 17 and we had only been married 10 months when my son was born. 36 years old for a female with no kids may be a bit odd, but it is by far not uncommon. I feel that waiting until the early 30's to start a family has made some very spectacular, mature, responsible parents who were truly "parent minded" by that age, and not trying to party all the time and raise kids at the same time. I would be really interested in reading what some other women have to say on this topic Vixn started. I haven't seen any feedback from Vixn in a while, but I'd like to see more female input in any case. When is food?

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Msg: 54 (view)

Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/18/2007 6:41:20 PM
LOL..I'd be happy to Martha. Something about a "friend in need" comes to mind:) Just say when and I will come fix it. (or did this whole shower ting go way over my head?) lol Ok wait..I'm confused..was that a pass or was that serious? :D (taking up space so I have enough characters to post this) (Messages this short may not be posted)

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Do men really mind dating women with children?? Posted: 3/18/2007 6:33:57 PM
Tis is truly a serious topic, and it begs much discussion and thoroughness. It doesn't cross ones mind very often how any of this affects the kids, like a few posters previously mentioned, the kids could get attached to her "date" even in a short period of time, week or two and so on. What's even less likely is the fact that most guys automatically assume its their responsibility to act as or take up the job as daddy in this new relationship with kids. This just isnt the case. no matter what relationship it is, the kids already hav a mom, AND a dad. It doesn't matter if dad is deceased, incarcerated, dead beat, semi-present, or a good fully involved dad. To the kids, they "have a dad". In Child psychology this is a real potential problem if the adults don't understand an accept this from the onset. A child knows who the authority in their lives are...Mom..and Dad. To the children the blood is thicker than water and will defy any attempts at non-blood to try and discipline them. Children bond with their natural parents no matter how bad we think someone is as a parent. They do it naturally out of self preservation. They have to have the distinction in knowing who is who and why. Children also don't readily accept any new people into one of their parents lives, because this infringes on what a child calls the safety ground. This is where children find safety and security and balance and solid ground, not with a stranger. Any attempt at a stranger being chivalrous and taking up an "assumed" responsibility with the kids of the other person, may well be seen as chivalry by the parent, but not by the kids at all. Children dont see the world like we do or understand it like we do, they work with what is black and white first, before they learn the grey. You also have to take a look at it from the absent father/mother point of view. I have a son that is 21 and I am divorced, not dead. If any new guy in my ex-wifes life took it upon himself to take my place as my sons father, ever tried to lay a physical hand on my son, ever spoke to my son in a manner that was not 100% prudent, mature, respectful and friendly (while my son was being raised), That guy would wish he was never born. It never stopped being my responsibility to raise my son and I will never stop being his father. The mom needs to understand that in the dads abscence, she has to be mom AND dad, disciplinarian, teach, mentor, everything to the children, for the childrens emotional and mental state of well being. Not pass this on to a stranger who has no blood relation or responsibility. That being said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a big brother, supportive, understanding, compassionate and responsible "as a friend" to the children, as an adult friend. Crossing the line in 95% of the cases has proven disasterous to the children and everyone else involved. Only very few exceptions exist such as, the children never knew who their real father was, so there is no confusing circumstance to be presented to them. My only hope is that more peole keep this very important information in mind when dating a "parent". Hell..for any situation, anywhere in the world, the kids are THE most important and should come first before ourselves, in all situations. We should be grown up enough to accept this and practice it. is it dinner yet?

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Msg: 38 (view)

Do men really mind dating women with children?? Posted: 3/18/2007 11:40:43 AM
Eldubu, dont take offense to that statement. I dont think anyone read anything into it other than he meant there is a possibility there is more than one dad. We dont know, but it is something that will need to be discovered sooner or later. Down south it is VERY prevalent that a single mother with kids has had them by more than one dad. Try not to imply with your anger that there is something wrong with it. There isn't anything wrong with it, and nothing can be done to change it. Vixn's kids may be by one dad or two, we don't know, and it doesn't matter unless you want to date her. He just meant he would like to know upfront in a profile rather than discovering it later. It's just his opinion. Nothing wrong with it.

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Msg: 51 (view)

Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/17/2007 9:45:28 PM
What did I miss? is someone being bitter and fed up? or was that just a generalization? that was for Astreaa :D Have you considered that others might see the interests that they list--I, for one--not as cool sales-pitch tools, ... yes, but as you reinterated from another poster, "afterall, these are ads" "I don't kiss ass." Seems like that would be the default attitude for most of us. in my experiences, it just "seems" that way to us. I don't have a chip but if I do I hope I have one on each shoulder, so I can at least be balanced. This just keeps a lot of the women that want a "pet" or "boy toy" or "maintenance man" from wasting their time and mine. Although I am experienced in carpentry, masonry, framing, roofing and plumbing, I would want to bring that to a relationship as an added extra surprise, not as a criteria for a successful relationship. You should note that the mail settings edit feature does indeed allow you to omit age specification. I did not know this, thank you and I am glad you posted for all who may not have known this...very handy tip I just want to say, I don't expect any of my text to come across the way it does when someone is talking to me or can "hear" it. The tone of voice, the body language, all tend to change the way something is meant. This being the case, I don't expect anyone will "get my meaning" from text and wanted a qualifier in my profile that if anyone is interested enough, they will have to "get to know" me, and I can tell everyone now, they won't accomplish it through text on a message board/forum. I am way more than text on a screen if you want to get to know me.

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Msg: 27 (view)

Do men really mind dating women with children?? Posted: 3/17/2007 9:09:43 PM
Vixn, this is the problem people don't think about before they start having kids. Of course they probably weren't thinking about having kids when they were having sex, the kids were just a result of it. If peopple took more time to think before they "did" it would be different. Things like, "if I have sex, will I have kids as a result?" "If I have kids, is it with a guy that is going to be around the rest of our lives?" "If he isn't going to stay, what will dating be like if I am a single mother?" "Do I want my kids to be involved in all the men I date just to find a new husband?" "Will I have time to find a good guy AND raise kids?" That's just to name a few things no one ever thinks about. Now, I read your profile to get a "sense" of where you were coming from. I skipped over the fact you are in college but can't spell to save your life and looked more at the message you are sending to see if I could find where the problem was and give you good advice. You say you are blunt and honest, so by that I figure you can handle the same in return. First of all, I am not sure what you mean by older men, since for someone that is 22, almost every living man is older than you. (and I stress almost) but the problem you are having is more than likely due to the fact the men you are seeing, arent looking for an instant family. They see a 22 year old female with kids who is not married, and they think to themselves "opportunity for lots of sex'". "she must like sex, because she is single with two kids, which means no strings with sex". Now I am not giving these examples of what goes through guys minds because its right, it just happens to be what you are up against. Second, you are reinforcing that message in your profile with a picture of your ass, a picture of your cleavage, which says to men "here is what I have, come and get it". Now, you may like your tat, and that may be what you are proud to show off, but that's just you. Men don't see it, they see where you put it. And if you want blunt honesty, I think you put it there for a reason and you aren't liking the men it is attracting. Again, actions before thought. Third is your nickname Vixn (vixen) again a message you are sending to guys, and again, the pictures, your nickname are not telling me you are serious about a relationship, and the guys you are attracting "is" the kind you want to deal with. I don't get the impression you are doing anything to help yourself find "serious" men. (not to mention you want people "voting" on your pictures just reinforces your message that you arent serious. You are just looking for the miss popularity crown). You are 22 looking for a serious relationship, I am not even going to ask why you put "20" in your search criteria. The guy that put a great testimonial in your profile probably wasnt a keeper, but if he is right about you being mature beyond your years, (and women usually "are" more mature than men, by about 10 years) why are you looking for guys younger than you? Now, if you are looking for a serious relationship, and you want a guy that is looking for a serious relationship, your kids are definitely going to be a factor because honestly, unless you are going to date a guy that already has kids of his own, then having kids "with you" is going to be on their mind "if they are looking for long term" and that means a family of 5 just for starters. How many single guys who want a serious relationship, and a kid of their own with the woman they love, want a family of 5 right away? It's going to be a small number. We havent even begun to discuss if your kids father/fathers are actively involved in their kids life and are mature enough to be taking that responsibility even after the breakup. This is something that definitely goes through a guys mind as a few have already mentioned in previous comments here. Serious minded guys want a relationship with you, and quite possibly the kids, not with the daddy or daddies of the kids. Guys want to build a life, a family and a "private" relationship with you, not you *and* the daddy/ies. You have been the architect of your own destiny, your own situation, so you are going to have to deal with these issues seriously. I do advise rethinking the messages you are sending guys if you are serious about what you want. If you are serious about a relationship, your ass and your chest with a tattoo between your breasts, is not "who" you are, and shouldn't be a factor in a serious relationship and any "good guy" you are going to catch is not going to worry about your ass and your chest as a factor for a life long relationship. I would advise against involving the kids in your dating life at all costs until you have found someone you feel is going to be "the one". And even if you find "the one" and you involve the kids, and then it turns out he isn't the one, your kids will be affected as well, not just you anymore. I believe your kids are the #1 priority to you and as such their mental and physical health is the most important to you. Their mental/emotional state is going to be affected by exposure to your dating. How much they are exposed, is totally up to you. Temet Nosce

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Msg: 35 (view)

Misunderstood Lyrics Posted: 3/17/2007 7:52:27 PM
Yanno Artsy, that was only 5 words you posted, and as you know, I dont write short messages (LOL) yet I always get that stupid page that says my messages are too short. did I set a trend? does POF now "expect" me to write more than 50 words per comment and tags me if I fall short of that? what gives? LMAO Messages this short may not be posted

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Msg: 39 (view)

Nudie Bars and Lap Dances Posted: 3/17/2007 7:38:49 PM
LMAO Lil...that was great! And I always laugh when they go "ooops" and then come back with "I was just kidding" even though you can't see it or hear it if they were (no smiley's no lol's no haha or hehe's) but your response was classic ..................................................................................

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Msg: 49 (view)

Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/17/2007 11:06:30 AM
What did I miss? is someone being bitter and fed up? or was that just a generalization? Martha ~ I am assuming that your "day of the revelation" was the day you finally UNDERSTOOD what your friends' wives meant... That would be correct :) Or, is the 5% the group of women you'd expect to hold your same value of disregarding looks in their search? Do you require the same value in your potential mate? That would also be correct:) And just to explain a bit deeper on that, I am less interested in what' we have in common" than I am in what values, morals and philosophies we have in common. When we were young we used to see how many things we had in common before we considered a potential partner, and we compared favorite music, favorite books, favorite movies, favorite sports, etc. These are things that I don't need to have in common with anyone. I have a widely vast number of interests and very few favorites. I am happy to explore my partner's interests and maybe even discover some new ones between us as well. I guess to describe my whole approach to the profile, I am not into selling myself with all kinds of cool things I think others would like to see or flashy "catch phrases" or "attention getters". My idea was just a couple things I am interested or involved in, and a whole bunch of deterrents because honestly, I don't want to spend all my time sifting through messages from people I'm not going to be interested in. People say my profile is negative, but that just tells me they are missing what is being said. 1. Not a player, and I don't need one ~ not really negative, just matter of fact and a great deterrent. 2. I dont do first impressions ~ basically I suck at them and most people do and I have some really great friends that made bad first impressions with me. so that is more matter of fact also. 3. I don't kiss ass. ~ Depending on who you are, that could be a positive or a negative lol 4. Don't walk in front of me, or behind me. ~ this is not a negative, it's simply saying, I believe we are all equal and I want a woman that is willing to walk side by side in the relationship. 5. I don't do bars, or night clubs ~ this one...well...says it all lol, if that is negative to anyone, they can go away. 6. If you can't be honest with yourself first, don't try convincing me of anything. ~ ya, some people may find this negative, and if they do, they can go away too, because they will just be wasting their time and mine. It goes along with not BSing me. This is getting rather long, but the people I am interested in will see there is a positive that goes with just about everything that some might find negative (in my profile), and people tend to focus on the negative and skip the rest. Again, those type of people I am certainly glad keep looking elsewhere. They are missing the whole point of my profile. As for the age range I posted, it was because didn't want to come across as desperate and they dont have an option for "age not important". I suppose if people think that is needy or desperate, there is nothing I can do about that and they can move on as well However, Martha, you can most certainly message me on my blog and I would be more than happy. Lets see if I can avoid the spam filters and avoid people collecting addresses for spamming me. I use Windows Live Messenger which requires a hotmail account. I have one son who at the time was 20. I bet you can put it all together. And anyone else that puts it all together and would like to message me, I would certainly be glad to chat with you :D (yes male or female)

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Misunderstood Lyrics Posted: 3/16/2007 5:27:32 PM
Hildebrandt? Can I call you Cliff? from the movie Mr. Destiny. Not that, that isnt a great picture (and no I am not gay, just not afraid to say so) mostly because of the great backdrop, but I have to laugh every time I see you Cliff:D (ya that was pretty obscure..it's ok if everyone ignores that:D) (Messages this short may not be posted)

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Msg: 53 (view)

Is it cool to send flowers to men? Posted: 3/16/2007 5:16:29 PM
Jena, I think I speak for a vast majority of men that the response you got would be the same just about 99% of the time :) And as much as I think women should have to burden the "courting" that men have generally had to endure (traditionally) for all of history, I don't think women would have to worry much at all because of the kind of response you got Jena, from a simple gesture and a nice gift. (off topic, my friend just(last week) had a 4 year PFA put on him, from his ex wife of 5 years who had it issued "from jail" and he has been happily married to my best friend for the last year and a half) LOL

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Msg: 44 (view)

Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/16/2007 4:52:38 PM
I couldn't have said it better myself, star. You see all the time people are trying to justify "seeing" the person, be it a picture or in person and the honest truth is, people are using the physical attractiveness as the "deciding factor" before they take the chance of finding out what someone is like. It takes one hell of a person to step above physical appearances, and I accept the fact that the majority of the world's population is visual, however, nature is not a democracy, and just because the majority of people are visual, doesnt mean that is the limit of our capabilities. WE have the ability to evolve to rise above, to step up to the plate and take the challenge of growth beyond the sum of all our parts. I am not saying people are "completely" shallow because they can't understand that love has nothing to do with looks/physical attraction (otherwise blind people would be sh!t out of luck in this world), I'm just saying that people who use the physical attraction as their deciding factor to even get to know a person, is. I have a number of married friends and some of the females I have learned a great deal from, including the ones that have told me "I didn't think he was a good looking or attractive guy at all before I marred him, and then one day, after getting to know who he is and what he was about, he suddenly WAS attractive physically". This was a concept I admit I had a HARD time coming to grips with as it was more than 15 years ago and I was still young and naive and had out of control hormones. It eventually made sense to me, however. I am a happy person and I like who I am and enjoyed my life experiences thus far. I also know I will probably be single the rest of my life ever since the "day of the revelation" and looks stopped being important to me. That was the day my dating "potentials" was reduced to less than 5% of the general population. I'm not holding my breath for someone from POF to like my picture or be impressed with my profile, but one day, someone will come into my life and discover they dont have to fall in love with me, all the y need do is accept the love I offer as a gift. To me it is a gift, not "at first sight". Love is something you have for someone that is even more than a friend. How can anyone be more than a friend at first sight? Ok...I have enjoyed my travels way way off topic, and I enjoyed the scenery along the way...(I wish there was an E-ticket for this ride) :D

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Msg: 50 (view)

Is it cool to send flowers to men? Posted: 3/15/2007 1:08:47 PM
And now.....A comment from the High Priest...of the Church of the Painful Truth. *WARNING* The following may contain, Free Thought, Radical Expressions, and/or Psychological NUDITY: Last I knew (back in the 90's) it had become so popular for women to send each other flowers and gifts, that men pretty much stopped. Unless it was for his wife or girlfriend. I could be way wrong on this. It may have been as far back as ERA. It also didn't help when women starting arbitrarily suing men in the work place, bars, bowling alley, nightclubs, etc for sexual harassment. It only takes a few well publicized events to change society and the way things are done. With the number of frivolous sexual harassment lawsuits and frivolous restraining orders women file, not many men are going to take the risk anymore. The price is too great and irreversible. (oh and I didn't mention stalking and the new abuse of the word to mean anything BUT stalking) The days of old when a man could court a woman without being accused of these things, before ERA and frivolous lawsuits, are long gone and dead. (heavy sigh)

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Msg: 30 (view)

Misunderstood Lyrics Posted: 3/15/2007 12:40:35 PM
I am almost too ashamed to admit this one, because it was me and not my brother hearng it wrong...ok, no I'm not ashamed...I'm too shameless lol anyway "I can't fight this villian anymore." and later in the song I thought they were singing "It's time to take a sh*t upon the shore and throw away the whores forever". Ok If my hearing was that bad back then....I should be stone deaf by now I'm starved...when is chow?

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Nudie Bars and Lap Dances Posted: 3/14/2007 12:53:23 PM
There are so many ways to look at this LOL 1. At least he is coming home to "you". 2. Maybe he knows he is coming home "to" you. 3. Maybe someone at home isn't doing enough, and he has to go out to "get" worked up to come home to you. 4. Maybe he gets better attention at the bar. 5. Maybe strippers know what guys like more than the wives do. 6. Maybe the stripper is willing to turn the guy on without ever being asked to. 7. How many fat strippers have you seen? 8. Maybe the guy knows that when he walks away from the stripper, she wont follow him from room to room, and he might like that feeling. (once in a while) 9. Maybe his character is so twisted that he likes to "pay" for a woman to be "nasty" and you just failed to identify that in his character before you made him your boyfriend. 10. Maybe he HAS to go before coming home to you. So many possibilities. I hope you all took that as humor, because that's all it is:) Personally, when I see a strip joint, all I see is a bunch of low self-esteemed women willing to demean themselves for a fast buck. OR the strippers are getting better attention at stripping AND getting paid for it before they go home. So I guess if we looked at both sides of the coin, everyone at the strip club is getting what they want before going home. :D

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/13/2007 5:56:14 PM
lol Jena...I got lambasted for having a negative profile and a negative attitude. Though I am hardly what anyone would call negative, my profile did only list the don'ts, as well, and it is very effective.The people I am interested in are not thwarted by my approach in my profile. They understand it's simplicity and effectiveness. I wasted a LOT of time with people I wouldn't be interested in when I used a similar criteria for my profile like black knight just described. Unfortunately, all I got were the "hollywood" types. You know the kind that key in on fashion, and elegance, and flashy show, and quite honestly...my profile looked like everyone elses by using a "guideline". I hated that. I am unique and I am different, and I won't "sell" myself using a profile guideline. My approach is different, and people don't have to like it. We all have our way of doing things. Some people are followers, others are leaders. People are going to decide if they wanna get to know me, first on what I look like, then if thats good enough they might hear what I have to say. I don't want to get to know people like that, so I have a picture of my face. thats it. it will have to do. I am not impressed with "cookie cutter" profiles, or anyone that follows a guideline "to a better profile". That may work for a salesman, but ya know, I am a lousy salesman. I think no matter how good or how bad a profile is, it should be original and it should be the way THEY want it to be, not the way anyone else thinks it should be. I am impressed with originality, and speaking from the heart. I am impressed with honesty and I despise "buttering it up" or "flowering it up to save my feelings". That's all BS to me. I don't need anyone to embellish for me, and I won't embellish for anyone else. It's not very attractive, and it's not very tasty, and it doesn't have a lot of color, but I prefer a dead aim and a straight shot, to any other approach. Most people respect the fact they don't have to wear hipboots around me, or save their expensive jewelry because "it's getting deep" around me and a lot of people get a kick out of my "matter of fact" statements and candor that get them laughing. I'm just me and I like me the way I am.... when do we eat?

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 151 (view)

Is Anyone Seriously Looking 2 Meet & Date On Here...? Posted: 3/13/2007 3:28:22 PM
Yes Rose lol, but I had to twist it a bit to make it fit match-finding's comment;) When twisted just right...it looks straight....(coming from a twisted person) :D (message this short may not be posted LOL) (message this short may not be posted LOL)(one more time) (message this short may not be posted LOL)(third time's a charm)

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/12/2007 4:59:16 PM
There are no divorce rates for the lazy......they were too lazy to get married (ha) (I checked my profile for typos, I must be sick, there weren't any) I don't want anyone to get me wrong, my premise is fairly obscure in relation to my examples or stats of blind people. I worked with the Center for the Visually Impaired in Daytona Beach for some time, and I have worked with them in some assisted living facilities that also handled blind people. I dont see them as handicapped, just labeled by society. My blind friends have given me more insight than anyone of my friends with sight. I think I use being blind as an example of contrast more than anything, because it relates to relationships in that what really matters, and what really counts, is who a person is, not what they look like. We go through life using comparisons to give ourselves a better understanding of something, and to give us reference and clarity. For instance, how do we know how precious life is, until someone close to us dies. How do we know what light is unless we have been in the dark. And there are millions of comparison examples we all experience daily. Intelligence is only a comparison in relation to other people. We all have the ability to learn, and what I have learned from some of my blind friends, is that love and relationships, intimacy and attraction, are not bound to sight and not dependent on sight. People that are not bound by sight (the blind and some sighted people) understand this and have a deeper more meaningful relationship because they don't have physical appearances getting in the way, and I believe the divorce rates of both groups bear this out. I think physical attraction is what gets in our way and actually prevents us from finding someone to share the rest of our lives with. I know way way too many people who have wasted so many years on a marriage or a relationship because it started out great (lots of sex and physical attraction etc) only to end up hearing over and over again "if I had known what he/she was really about sooner in the relationship, I wouldn't have gotten involved". This pretty much ties in with the things that truly impress me about a person, that don't require my eyes. And because I have a pretty good understanding of whats important in love, in relationships, in who people are, that if I ever lose my sight, I know I won't miss out on finding my one and only. I will just need to be more careful what I reach out and grab for, for balance. You have to ask yourself, what are your chances of finding love and finding your someone, if you ever go blind (due to an accident or work related incident or what have you)? Do you have anything else to work with other than your sight? And how do you imagine other people will see you? Worth talking to? worth being friends with? Things we never think about until it happens, and its usually too late then. But its all just food for thought...nothing more. Anything else...just ask me LMAO sorry 182...I couldn't resist

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/11/2007 8:18:48 AM
LOL...ok hold up here. I am not a negative person. I call em like I see em. But just because I see the fact that 99% of the profiles on POF is a car sales lot, and I verbalize it...that makes me negative? That would be like saying The News anchor is a negative person, because all they report is negative. The news is very negative, it doesn't make the reporters or journalists or anchors, negative people. And though it isn't obvious in my profile, I truly enjoy a great many things in life and do a lot, that only someone that takes the time to get close enough to discover, will see about me. Things someone can only discover by going out and being with someone. Lynng - I do understand that some people have to have a physical attraction before any normal relationship can occur, however: "What percentage of blind and visually impaired Americans are married? Currently, approximately 42% of blind and severely visually impaired Americans are married, 33% are widowed, 13% are separated or divorced, and 13% have never married". (For more information see Statistics and Sources for Professionals) You have to ask yourself why this is, if the divorce rate of people with vision is almost 68% in America (of the 290,00 million of us there are) and the divorce rate of blind people is 13% (of the approximate 10 million of them), which group is doing something wrong? Personally looks don't mean squat to me, but that's probably why I am single still. I'm looking for someone that understands what relationships are truly about and what love truly is and it doesn't have anything to do with looks, as I am sure blind people already discovered and understand. 13% divorce rate sure says a lot.

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

Schools of Thought - What impresses you? Posted: 3/10/2007 9:53:25 PM
I'd pay money to find a woman's profile that isn't selling herself in it. (and of course it can't contain a boob shot in order to qualify) Messages this short may not be posted(attempt #1) Messages this short may not be posted(attempt #2) Messages this short may not be posted(attempt #3) Messages this short may not be posted(attempt #4 grrrr)

iRocket

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 49 (view)

which would you lie about, your age or your weight? Posted: 3/10/2007 8:12:22 PM
Pro Bodybuilder - # 2002 Mr. Olympia - 6th # 2002 San Francisco Pro Invitational - 1st # 2002 SAN FRANCISCO GRAND PRIX - 1st # 2002 IFBB Arnold Classic - 4th # 2002 IRONMAN PRO INVITATIONAL - 2nd Vital Stats * Name: Lee Priest * Location: Venice, California, USA * Born: July 6, 1972 * Height: 5'4" * Off Season Weight: 270-285 lbs. * Competition Weight: 200-225 lbs. * Training since age 13 * Arms: 20 3/4" (in competition, pumped) to 21 3/4" (off-season, pumped) Now I'm only 6 foot nuttin and 220lbs, and he may have me on weight and muscle mass and be able to put a hurtin on me real damn good, but I bet my DICtionary is a LOT bigger than his ROFL

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