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cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

Is it just me Posted: 8/19/2009 12:16:56 PM
Personally I have the feeling he is looking for some one to "cater" to his moods. I am not that person as I have been there and done that. Good for you ladybug i wouldnt want to be with someone who one minute wants to be with me and the next he doesnt. I think he's looking for a mother figure to lick his wounds when needed.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Is it just me Posted: 8/19/2009 12:09:06 PM
He said he wanted to call her but talked himself out of it because he didnt want to appear overeager. Maybe it wasnt the fact that she called him that turned him off, but maybe it was something she said. Maybe she pressed for a second date to soon Maybe he should have specified that when he wrote it out what she had said to him, he just came off as being egotistical and that he didnt need her because he could get another date with anyone. Cant understand why these men assume things but it sounds like she was just thanking him for the date if there was more like i said he should have specified it in his thread.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Is it just me Posted: 8/19/2009 9:22:56 AM
Not 5 minutes later my cell phone rang, it was her!! I was so turned off by her over-eagerness I never saw her again. I can't explain that one except to say less is more. Short-attention-span-on-line dating syndrome. Why would it be any different for a woman to call u if u had intentions of calling her 5 minutes before? I think if u had a lot in common and hit it off that u just may have lost the "long term" that u are searching for where it says in your profile. I can see why u are only on 3 members favorites list, it only goes to show that u arent a man of your word and noone wants someone who is full of himself. JMO OP-I think that u should just forget about him and like that saying goes "IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE SET HIM FREE, IF HE COMES BACK HE IS YOURS, IF HE DOESNT HE NEVER WAS". So just continue dating other men and see if he comes around or not and when he does u will be in charge of whether u want to pursue him again or not. Good Luck Girl !!!!

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Dating your opposite ? Posted: 6/17/2009 9:06:20 AM
15 years younger? Be careful. Enjoy yourself but watch you don't end up just being someone to teach junior a few things. Well to be honest i think he'd be the one who would be teaching me a few things not the other way around hahaha. Thanks to everyone who has posted here, sorry for not getting back sooner to check them and u all made good points. I do agree u have to have some things in common but what i meant by opposite is because of his tattoos but ive looked past that. Ive also dated a man who was much heavier than i usually like and when i first met him i saw the weight at first but then the more i talked to him the more i found myself attracted to his charm and sense of humour. So i guess im not as shallow as i thought i was at least i dont think so. Once again thanks to everyone for their posts.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Dating your opposite ? Posted: 5/21/2009 5:48:54 PM
Well thanks ladies for your responses i didnt think i'd get any but its just that im so completely opposite of this guy that i just find it weird. He's got a reddish beard and im a redhead and never found myself attracted to other redheads. Only his beard is red and the top hair is dark brown as for the tattoos well he has some on his arm but it doesnt seem to bother me as much as i thought it would. Like i said he's a sweetheart and ive looked pass all that and saw someone who has potential. Oh incase youre wondering he messaged me on another site im on and i almost didnt respond back but what he said was too cute to let go by. Im glad i did though cause he turned out to be a sweetie and he's 15 yrs younger than me. hehehe

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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How do you handle the first date if not what you expected Posted: 5/21/2009 3:03:56 PM
If i have doubts about his pic then i would ask if he had a cam. If he said no then i would ask for more than one pic or two and if u still arent convinced then i wouldnt bother until he can prove who he really is. Most of them will just give up on meeting u. But since u already did meet him and he wasnt what u thought he'd be then i would politely say "well u look nothing like your pic and i really dont like people who pretend to be other people". Have a friend go with u and then tell them to interrupt u by giving a signal if u didnt want to be there and make up an excuse to get away.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Dating your opposite ? Posted: 5/21/2009 2:49:14 PM
Have u ever met someone and he was your complete opposite of what u go for ? I recently met a guy who is completely opposite of what im attracted to but yet i find myself attracted to him in so many ways. He's charming, witty, sensitive, has tattooes which i dont care for and a few piercings. Just wanted to know if anyone else found themelves attracted to their complete opposite and whether they went for it anyways.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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To Stay Or To Leave An Abusive Marriage! Posted: 3/21/2009 9:18:57 AM
OP you need to get her to ask this question to herself....Do u want to be miserable for the rest of your life? or Do u want to spend the rest of your life being happy? It sounds to me that she has a self esteem problem and doesnt feel that she can find anyone else who will treat her good and if she does decide to leave him then she just might walk into another relationship disaster. They say people tend to find the same type of man/woman they were already in a relationship with. She needs to change that and be happy for what time she has left on this earth. He sounds like a control freak and he knows that she wont leave him for any reason. I hope she does the right thing and moves on before its too late !!!

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Differences in what men and women look for.... Posted: 3/21/2009 9:08:10 AM
Well i have to admit that i have met more guys on the net that wanted just the sex more than a committed relationship but im not saying that some dont want it though. Perhaps its just that the person who u meet has already been thru the committed thing before and it didnt work out so for now they just want someone to hang with and be a lover. As for myself well i am looking for that committed relationship as well as the sexual part of it. Ive met a wonderful man on another dating site in Jan. and we talk about everything and we are both looking for the same thing, so when it comes time for us to be together sexually we will know what each other likes. I know i'll be able to please him as well as him pleasing me and i look forward to the day when we can be together !!!!

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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INTERNET VERSES THE REAL WORLD Posted: 3/21/2009 8:58:15 AM
So yes.. the sexual innuendos may catch your attention.. but in the end...if you don't have a great foundation (friendship, honesty, loyalty, respect) it will NEVER work. Be honest.. don't waste anyone's time (or your own for that matter) pretending to be someone you're not.. .it's far too expensive in the end... and I've seen this happen so many times in the past... it leaves me scratching my head and asking..."Why would you lie about who you really are, when eventually the truth will come out.. then what? I agree 100% about honesty and if youre going to lie sooner or later it will come to bite u in the a**, especially if u intend to meet one day. Most guys or men that ive talked to all have the raging hormone that they sooner or later talk about and i dont think its a bad thing if they want to know your sexual preferences. If u intend to meet someone and u know u are going to have sex then getting to know their likes and dislikes is a good thing. Ive met this great young man from another country in Jan and we plan to meet this summer and we are getting to know each other, so that first time together will be special as well as exotic.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 11/15/2008 6:39:09 PM
UPDATE Thanks for everyone for more posts, i didnt realize that my thread was still going. Just letting everyone know that ive recently tried KY and it worked great. I put a little too much on not knowing how gooey it was but next time i'll know better (hahaha). Anyways thanks for all the suggestions u all have made, i will look into some of the other type of jellies to see which one is better. NO MORE BABY OIL FOR THIS GIRL!!!!!

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Why do some younger men want to have sex with an older woman? Posted: 10/7/2008 7:46:00 AM
Younger men in my opinion want an older woman because they know what they will get in return. Most of the younger men that ive talked to said that younger women just lay there and do nothing to please them. Older women tend to be more aggressive in the bedroom and they dont wait for a man to start anything. I find myself attracted to younger men between 27 to 39 yrs old and its not for their body types but its because they boost your self esteem (well at least they do for me). And being a BBW they tend to appreciate a woman of my size and the romantic side of me.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Long Distance Relationship Heebie Jeebies...Is there hope? Posted: 10/7/2008 7:24:44 AM
Gee it sounds like youre complaining of the time spent together. I wish it was that easy for me to just get up and go and visit someone for a weekend. Unfortunately it isnt because i do have two kids, so he'd have to come here, which never seems to happen. I had a long distance relationship with someone for 13 yrs and yes i said 13 yrs (off and on of course) but he never could make time to see me. We visited each other 3 times in those 13 yrs, he came here and i went there once and then we met once halfway in a motel for a weekend. I would have liked to have been able to go see him more often but when u have kids its hard to make that transition. Now we are just friends but if a man wants to spend time with me well he has to make the sacrifice to come and see me even if it means 7 hr drive, its not like i'd only let him stay for a day. I'd definitely make it worth his while.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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His gf answered the phone! Posted: 9/13/2008 9:42:02 AM
Youre right she had no reason to call u a stalker since he was the one who was doing the stalking. I would say just let him go on his merry way with the gf and find yourself someone else. Im sure u have no problem finding someone else but thats only if youre truly over this guy. I finally ended things with my ex who lives in a different city than me because he was calling me and messaging me while he was with another woman. Sometimes i called him and wondered if i was going to catch them in the middle of something but now if i had the chance to do that i'd love to tell her what he's been doing all this time. I knew there was no future for us but i kept pursuing it and hoping. I feel sorry for his new gf cause she has no clue that i was still in the picture.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Would u re-locate if asked by someone u were serious 4? Posted: 9/7/2008 8:10:13 AM
I would only relocate if it was in the same province and country otherwise moving to another country wouldnt be a very smart idea. Too many scammers out there looking to come into our country and there are some countries where there are too many rules and laws to start with. My youngest son is involved with a lot of agencies here in Ontario and receives a small disability cheque and im not sure how other provinces or countries deal with children with special needs. So i wouldnt want to lose any of my sons benefits in order to move away for his sake.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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When You Stop Looking You Will Find What You're Looking For. Posted: 9/7/2008 7:51:26 AM
I dont necessarily believe that if u stop looking that it will happen, at least not in my case. If you stopped looking for a job do u think it will just land in your lap just like that? I dont think so, we all have to go out and still send resumes or look in the newspapers etc. So same goes for a relationship, if you at least dont give it an effort, u might be lonely for the rest of your life. If youre happy with that then so be it but if you are looking for someone, u need to put yourself out there in order to be noticed. JMO

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Why do Babes dig ugly guys? Posted: 8/31/2008 9:19:35 AM
Why do girls date ugly guys? Depends on your definition of ugly OP. Everyone has their own preferences and the minute a gorgeous woman is with a man who is slightly average looking they always assume a woman is after his money. Not always the case but there are some out there who do. It can also go both ways why are some average looking women with some drop dead gorgeous men. Its not always about the looks but whats inside a person and believe me ive come across a few gorgeous guys in my time and its just how u come across to them that they are attracted to not the physical aspects of it.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Apparently those Nigerian scammers are using Yahoo messenger now... Posted: 8/31/2008 9:12:08 AM
RED FLAG for sure!!! Ive come across quite a few on chatlines and dating sites such as Netlog and Tagged. If u have a profile on any of them and they give you their email address to contact them, dont do it especially if u use a personal email address like hotmail or outlook express. Just recently i got a message from a woman claiming to be dying and that she needed someone to be her beneficiary for 3.5 million dollars and asked me to message her for more information about it. She even had a picture of her in a hospital bed with a doctor beside her but its so easy nowadays to get any pic like that online. Of course i reported the message as spam to the dating site and deleted it. You just have to use your common sense about these type of things cause u can end up losing a lot!!!!

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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I feel bad when I judge people on their weight.. Posted: 8/31/2008 9:00:07 AM
OP Well would u rather have something cushiony to land on or would u rather have hip bones sticking out, jabbing you?? As a bbw myself i know most men ive talked to say that they just dont like the skinny women because there is nothing to them to grab and their hipbones dig into them and leave marks when having sex. I suppose its all in whether u want that to happen to u or not and your preference of course.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Can you have sex with a man and not be together, but still be friends? Posted: 8/31/2008 8:47:02 AM
Been there and done that and for me i cant anymore because i get too emotionally attached to that person. I need romance not just sex and if its not there then i'd rather just leave it alone altogether.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/14/2008 9:02:56 AM
Well ive read all the recent posts since my last posting yesterday and I know you are all looking out for me, which i appreciate. I know u all seem to think that i ignored most of your posts and trust me i didnt, i read each and everyone some of them even twice. I can answer my own question and say YES i am fooling myself because now that i think about it, there probably wont be anymore sex now that he's moved his kids in his home. Once school starts he could possibly call me on his lunch hour for a quickie but im not the type that can do something like that in a hurry. So i will probably be turning him down if he does call. Just so u all know i do have a few other potential men that i can date, one actually is from this site and from where i live, so we'll see what happens when he responds back to my message that i replied back to him. PAMPERPOOCH hope i spelled that right, if youre reading this i hope i wasnt too harsh on you and i did appreciate the things u had to say even though u dont believe me. Thanks for looking out for me.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/13/2008 2:12:20 PM
Like i said i wont sit around just waiting on him, if an opportunity comes for me to go on a date with someone else and im attracted to that person then i will go. In the meantime i still want to keep my friendship with this man even if it means we still have sex once in awhile when we can.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/13/2008 12:27:09 PM
Thanks Nuttyirishman, i will look that up

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/13/2008 12:20:20 PM
What I hope for you is that you don't let a good relationship pass you by because you are hung up waiting for the "happily ever after" that ISN'T at the end of your involvement with this man. Cindy O I never said anything about sitting around waiting for him if something else came along. What im saying is that i enjoy spending the time with him when i can and i feel comfortable being with him sexually. Im not a woman who sleeps around with every tom,****and harry due to my sexual problem that i talked about in my other thread. If Mr Right comes along and we get along mentally and physically i wont let that pass me by. For now im just comfortable with being with him sexually.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/13/2008 11:38:36 AM
Then you will wait until after the divorce, and you will wait while he sorts out all his other problems, and you will wait while he gets his head together, and you will wait while he dates someone else because he still doesn't know where his head is at the moment etc etc. I will continue being friends with him, if sex is involved then so be it. As for him dating someone else besides me i doubt that very much and i know that for a fact because if he was to date anyone else then why not just come out in public and say something about me ? You make it sound like he doesnt like me and u dont know crap about his feelings for me. You seem to have your own opinion about whats going on and i dont even think u even read all of my posts when i talk about our friendship and how close we are. You seem to pick out the parts that only suit u in order to suit your own needs. Maybe you have a similar problem or had a similar problem with a man and so youre assuming all men are the same. JMO

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/13/2008 10:58:44 AM
If you're a 'big girl' and can 'handle anything that comes my way', why in hell post your plight on here, only to grab onto the one reply that says what you want to hear? Im not just grabbing onto just one reply like i said i appreciate everything that everyone is telling me its just that noone really knows this person im talking about only from what im telling u all. What i should have said in my first post was that he said he wasnt looking for a gf at the moment when we first started being friends. I dont know where his head is at now that we've been sexually active together. I havent really talked to him about his feelings for me now since then. If youve all read my previous thread i wrote about "is it ok to use baby oil as a lube?" u will see that we tried several times to have sex which didnt always work out but he still continued to pursue me. Also even when he used to come over on his lunch hour and it wasnt always a good time for us before we had any kind of sex, he still kept calling. Maybe i am fooling myself but i dont want to give up on him right now not until he tells me that even after the divorce there will be nothing more.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/13/2008 10:42:17 AM
he obviously feels relax and comfortable with you to be so honest, and stayed on the phone for 3 hours at a time. so there is a friendship. both of you are non-attached and may feel lonely sometimes. so nothing wrong to share some fun. at least he has the decency to let you know that he is not emotionally available, rather than string you on. as long as you are fully aware there is nothing more than friendship and fun; he and you can still date other people; you can continue whatever you are doing and enjoy life. Thank you!!!!! Finally someone who sees the positive side of my relationship with him. We are good friends and when we get the time to spend together, its great and he tells me that he likes me for my personality and that im fun to be around. We dont always get together when we can for sex, it has happened only 4 times in the last two months after his separation and before that we seen each other quite a lot or talked a lot on the phone. I know u all are trying to help me avoid getting hurt and i appreciate that but im a big girl (no pun intended) lol and i can handle whatever comes my way.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/13/2008 10:17:45 AM
but a man will not introduce a woman to his friends, family etc until he feels he has a deeper connection with her, and he doesn't feel that with you which is why he keeps you at arms distance. Youre wrong though he does have a strong connection with me but right now he's just being cautious because of things that can jeopardize his divorce settlement. He works very hard for his money, is a great dad to his kids. Doesnt everyone need someone they can talk to when going thru stuff like this ? And while talking, is it such a crime to be sexually attracted to another ? His third wife was never interested in the work he does and vice versa but i enjoy watching him do his job (when i can that is). Thats when the attraction to him started with me. I am reading everything that everyone tells me here dont get me wrong and im not making excuses for him, i know where i stand with him right now, im just asking when his divorce is final, that perhaps we might go public. If not then i'll have to decide what i want to do with this FWB thing.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/13/2008 9:58:07 AM
And try to stay away from men while they are still married.[ I dont pursue men that are married, as a matter of fact i try to steer myself away from them but im sure there have been men and women here who have found themselves attracted to someone they couldnt have. Plz dont make me sound like im a woman who goes chasing after married men because im not, but sometimes u just cant help who u are attracted to. We started out as friends and i never in my dreams did i think i'd find him attractive because he's a heavy set man and im not usually attracted to that type of man. I saw him in a whole different light.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/13/2008 9:50:40 AM
He has sex with you while ending the third marriage - thinks thats says it all. If i was a willing participant with the sex then i dont see where he is using me and third marriage only because he found out only after he married his first wife that she was a psycho, second wife died and then this third one i think was more of a "getting over the shock of his second wife dying". He said the relationship was great with the third wife and sex was good but then it just seem to be a marriage of convenience. Maybe i felt bad for him because no man should be in a marriage and not have the love and sex with his partner. As we talked about it thats when we both knew we were sexually attracted to each other but only after quite a few months of getting to know each other. Im ok with not marrying him because ive never been in that type of situation nor have i ever lived with a man so i dont know if i'd like it or not anyways. What i would like though is to be able to spend more time with him without having to sneak around. Is that so bad ?

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/13/2008 9:25:32 AM
I appreciate all the comments made but one thing is that we both were talking about sex not just him talking to me about it because it had been a while since i had been with anyone too. Im not looking to marry him or move in with him but what i meant by "anything more serious" is him telling his family: mom, sisters and kids about us. I want to be able to go on dates with him, take our kids to the beach in the summer, go camping together etc. Right now were not able to do that because his kids are still friendly with the ex and he might be afraid that they might say something to her about me.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/13/2008 8:52:44 AM
he was living with his wife while you were have sex??? No we never had any type of sex while he was still living with her, it was after he moved out and started his separation papers that we finally got together. He's ending a marriage. That would be enough for me to stay away. Don't know about you! He's ending the marriage because in the last year there was no more sex involved due to the fact that there was a lof of conflict in the marriage because they both had kids from previous relationships. Wasnt working out because the disciplining was only working on one side, his kids were being disciplined but hers got away with lots cause they wouldnt listen to the stepdad and go running to the mom.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/13/2008 8:45:33 AM
The main disadvantage of KY (and Astroglide) is that it dries up and gets tacky over time Thats what im afraid it might do even though ive never tried it. I dont have a problem getting wet at first during foreplay its when he's about to go in that i dry up too fast if he doesnt do it while im still wet. But even after that i dry up quickly so i need something that will stay moist for a bit longer. Ive never heard of ID Millenium lube, is that one or two brands ID and Millenium or one of the same ??

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Am I fooling myself that he'll ever want anything more serious in the future? Posted: 8/13/2008 8:33:41 AM
Here's my situation, i've recently been seeing this man in the last year. At first it was just a few nites talking on the phone, then it turned to having a few beers with him where he works. He also would come over on his lunch hour (during school time) hoping to get some but it was never a good time for me. Within the last two months he had finally ended his marriage and moved out and was in the process of fixing up his other house. While doing that we were able to get together when he worked late while his kids were being taken care of by his mother. The thing is we've been together 4 times sexually and I have come to have strong feelings for him but he said he wasnt looking for a gf. This was his 3 rd marriage that he ended. He was afraid that i might get hurt in the process but i cant seem to deter myself away from him. We get along great and sexually we are very compatible. He's the first man ive ever met that can sit and talk on the phone for 3 hrs at a time. What do u think my chances are that he'll change his mind about me after the divorce is final ??

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 102 (view)

Using teeth during oral sex Posted: 8/9/2008 11:00:21 AM
I gotta say that i can totally relate to a lot of the topics on here and yes i just recently used my teeth during oral on him because he had asked me to bite him a little. I usually like to just run my teeth on the tip (but gently for all the men who are feeling squeemish right now). It turned him on more and he was very happy!!!!

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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LAT (Living Apart Together) Posted: 8/9/2008 10:50:51 AM
Another good thread!!! Im in a similar situation right now with a local man who is just recently separated and just moved into his own house permanently this past weekend. Although i'd love to see him more often than i do, the situation isnt good right now due to the fact that he has younger kids and noone in his family knows about our discreet rendez-vous. He wants to keep it that way i suppose until his divorce is final then im not really sure if he'll reveal anything about our relationship. We dont do anything outside of the house together because like i said its still a sticky situation right now. As for me wanting to move in with him in the future, that will all depend on him later on but for now im happy just being able to spend time with him when we can.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Who is mostly likely to introduce something different in the bedroom? Guy or Gal? Posted: 8/9/2008 10:16:57 AM
From my perspective i would have to say most of the time its the guy who does but there are some women out there who can be creative too when it comes to the bedroom. All depends on how comfortable someone is with each other.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/9/2008 10:08:28 AM
OP -the problem could be hormonal as in you might be premenopausaul.. So weird that u mention premenopausal stage because i thought the same thing because i know women tend to have dryness in that stage. Thanks thats one thing i had forgotten to mention in some of my posts that i could possibly be in my premenopausal stage.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

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Is it wrong to want a Friend with Benefits? Posted: 8/9/2008 10:02:08 AM
Glad to see this topic on here because right now i am in a similar situation. He is just coming out of a marriage and im a single mom. We talked about the sexual part of our friendship (him letting me know that he thought about wanting sex from me) teasing each other when we talked on the phone and when he was still living with his ex he wasnt feeling good about it. Now that he's out of the house and we had finally got together he made it clear that he wasnt looking for a gf type right now not saying that he wont later on once the divorce is final. He did although mention to me that he was afraid to hurt my feelings but i know there is an attraction there for me. The thing is my feelings are getting stronger for him everytime we do get together and i dont know whether i should tell him or not and jeopardize what we have right now. We dont get to see each other as much as i would like but like i said we do talk on the phone a lot and try to get together as much as we can which so far has only been 4 times since June but we've been friends for over a year now.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 84 (view)

Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/9/2008 9:37:29 AM
Mr.Lordi thanks for clearing that up with me, i wasnt sure if your remarks were targeted at me. deerdog1, i realize this is a forum and yes we will come across a few people who will try to be funny and i suppose i just take things on a more serious note than others but i do appreciate a lot of the suggestions that people have given me though. For all of u wondering if i went the KY Jelly way, well i havent tried it yet since my partner is out of town until next week but i will definitely look into it. Thanks all!!!!!

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 112 (view)

Attracted to same body type as your own???? Posted: 8/9/2008 9:21:40 AM
Great thread OP!!!! Im a plus size woman with curves and I at one time preferred men who were of average size (not muscle type men though). I met a great man who is on the heavy side recently and after getting to know him, I found myself attracted to him even more and now i find myself wanting to be with him all the time!!!!

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 78 (view)

If your date was bad in bed the first time would you not see them again? Posted: 8/9/2008 8:57:26 AM
Good question but for me I wouldnt kick someone to the curb after the first time because the first time is always awkward. I am proof of that because i did go thru a similar situation in June and I knew he was tired from working all day and we both were a bit shy with each other. The next few times together turned out to be awesome!!! If the sex continued to be bad after that then i would definitely sit down and have a talk about what we both want and need from each other. If after doing all that it still isnt going good then i would make a decision to just be friends.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 74 (view)

Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/8/2008 11:37:16 AM
Sorry that was suppose to say not harvesting, typo

cuteazabutton

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Msg: 73 (view)

Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/8/2008 11:36:20 AM
I am surprised that no one has mentioned the other problem - what about the poor babies that this oil is being harvested from? First of all im harvesting any baby oil from babies cause i dont have any small babies in my home if that was directed at me personally. As for the comment about welfare moms again im not on welfare so that comment wasnt necessary either. If your answers are only to be sarcastic then plz do not post in my thread. All i did was ask a question about baby oil and whether it should or can be used an a lube which i thank all the people who have given me good advice on the subject.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 56 (view)

Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/7/2008 8:26:17 PM
Hmmmmm...........anything like baby oil may affect condom usage. I would advise caution. Are you really narrow, or just a little apprehensive of the event? To answer your question yes im very narrow, been told by a gynecologist that i am and for that reason it is why i had both my sons c-section. I know there has been a few jokes about this subject but for me this is a serious thing because when u cant enjoy sex due to pain it gets very frustrating to even want to be with a man sexually. I know the jokes are all in fun and i will take all of your opinions seriously and go with the KY Jelly. As for someone mentioning spit or getting me more wet well that doesnt work for me, trust me ive tried to stay wet and it still caused a problem just as he is ready to penetrate me. For some reason i dry up too quickly before he's able to put it in. So i will try the KY Jelly instead of the baby oil after hearing all the bad things that it could do to the insides of me. Thank you all for your suggestions, i really sincerely appreciate all of your feedback. For everyone who has posted!!!!!

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/7/2008 3:46:08 PM
So... nobody's going to mention how fantastic someone's body looks when it's all rubbed down with baby oil? It's not always about the lubricant aspect of it... Baby oil is FUN. Your Honor, members of the jury... I rest my case. youre so right it can be fun all over the body but sometimes a bit too slippery. I just wanted to mention that i didnt squirt any of the baby oil inside of me, i just put some at the opening so that it would be easier for him to slide in easier but i will definitely be going to check out the KY Jelly and see how it works for me.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/7/2008 3:26:05 PM
Wow a lot of people seem to agree on the KY Jelly and if its not harmful to me then i will give it a try but one poster said u can get some that give u a tingly feeling. I've never tried it so i dont know but that does sound like something i'd want to try. Is there any specific name brand i should be looking for ? Thanks all for your opinions, its very helpful!!!!

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/7/2008 1:35:48 PM
The only reason i havent tried the KY Jelly is because im afraid it might irritate me inside. Can that happen to someone or is it 100% safe to use ? I dont have a problem getting wet when it comes to the foreplay but for some reason i dry up fast inside so then its not comfortable for me or the guy to penetrate me.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/7/2008 1:26:12 PM
Thanks for all your suggestions but if im not using a condom with this particular person and i want to use the baby oil, is it still not a good thing to use ? Im not afraid that this man is promiscuous and has any type of std and we've been together sexually a few times but we only tried the baby oil that one time because he was getting irritated by me because i was very narrow.

cuteazabutton

Joined: 8/8/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/7/2008 1:10:07 PM
why waste any money on lube at all, just get a handful of fat from the deep fat fryer (once it's cold of course!) works a treat. OMG u cant be serious to use deep fryer oil, i dont want to smell like the fish that i cooked the nite before in it, i'll spend the extra money on either the baby oil or other stuff. Never heard of using deep fryer oil thats crazy!!!!!

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