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pss12

Joined: 10/12/2004

Msg: 9 (view)

From sex to abstinance? Posted: 3/29/2009 9:40:49 PM
It'll be really hard but nothing worth having is ever easy. Is he worth it is what you need to ask yourself

honeybrown12

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Why do ladies looking for friends ignore married men? Posted: 8/11/2007 10:42:20 AM
I have no problem talking to married men or men in a relationship as friends. They at times try to move further and I will let them know that friends is as far as it goes unless in the future they happen to ge single again.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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feelings from the start Posted: 10/18/2006 1:54:01 PM
in my experience, either it was there or not from the start. All my lasting relationships have had sparks from the start. Maybe two it was the 2nd or 3rd date. Sometimes people have to warm up to show more colors of themselves.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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some child support help... Posted: 9/8/2006 4:49:20 PM
You have to take care of your daughter. That includes going to the courts to get help in enforcing support. Even if he does run, he will have a balance that will keep running. This you will always be able to prove. The court will help you keep track.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Would you continue a relationship with a person who had a violent child? Posted: 9/8/2006 4:44:01 PM
No, my kids are the most important thing in the world to me. That definately includes men.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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do men actually exist that date women with kids?? Posted: 9/8/2006 4:41:53 PM
There are alot of men that do date women with kids. There are alot that don't. I do let men know that I have kids because my kids are not going anywhere anytime soon. This way, I don't waste their time, and more importantly, they don't waste mine.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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is there something wrong with my wording Posted: 12/1/2005 6:49:24 PM
so it's mainly that "over the hill" comment then. Okay, I see that. I put the wayy past it because I got alot of men twice my age. I guess I can tone it down. any others????

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Capitalize 'I'. Posted: 12/1/2005 6:41:43 PM
it may be just laziness of pressing the "shift" key. Things things aren't very formal.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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is there something wrong with my wording Posted: 12/1/2005 6:40:08 PM
Here's the thing. I get hate mail from older men. I specify in my profile that I'm not attracted to them. Wouldn't want to waste their time as well as mine. I will talk to older men as potential friends but that's it. Is there something wrong or offensive in my wording of this information?

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Any Advice??? Posted: 11/8/2005 11:04:50 AM
Maybe I'm wrong but it seems you like her alot as well. otherwise you wouldn't post for advice. How much do you like her and how good of friends are you with your pal? I have missed out on relationship for being a friend. I suppose this question is how much do you like the girl? Is is enough to put issues or even break up the friendship you have with your friend??

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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what do you do when you don't feel the hurt anymore? Posted: 11/6/2005 4:50:58 AM
the doctor is not an option. I absolutely don't have the time. My oldest is autistic and it hard to handle at times. Sitters are just about nonexistent for me.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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what do you do when you don't feel the hurt anymore? Posted: 11/5/2005 6:14:36 PM
Thanks ajadams I do believe that's the best way to deal with this. I use to keep a journal until several people read it. I stopped that. But now my living situation is different so I can start up again. the thing that makes this so complicated is that the anger is actually divided in to a few people. However, the main person that I'm angry at is my youngest childs father. He's not a person that can be out of the picture completely. Well....he can but unfortunately he has the only thing that I can't give my child which is a father. I will most definately do the journal and letters though. thanks a million you guys.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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No love for my Birthday Posted: 11/5/2005 6:00:10 PM
Mine this year was just like another day. Happy birthday anyway.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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what do you do when you don't feel the hurt anymore? Posted: 11/5/2005 5:56:14 PM
thanks guys, I might try the punching bag. As far as anger management classes I can't take because I don't have time. I'm ALWAYS with my children when I'm not at work. I'm just afraid that my anger will get the better of me and do something I'll really regret later.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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what do you do when you don't feel the hurt anymore? Posted: 11/5/2005 2:35:34 PM
What do you do when you no longer feel hurt? In it place has come anger. Anger that you can't shake off. It's been a while since I stopped feeling hurt. I'm not saying that I'm not hurt. It's just that anger has now drowned it. I need to let go but haven't been able to. It's gotten to the point that vicious ideas have made their way to my head. I'm not able to have "me" time because I have small children that soak up my time off of work. Any ideas before my thoughts get the better of me??

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Was the best sex you've ever had been with someone that you were in love with? Posted: 10/31/2005 7:10:02 PM
I don't think that they belong in the same category. Making love can't be compared to sex with not emotional involvement. It's like apples and oranges.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Prospective date asks to spank your child, how would u react? Posted: 10/22/2005 7:51:19 AM
It's obvious to me that this man was not joking. The main reason is because he had reason in HIS mind to spank him by saying that your son wasn't letting you two talk before he even mentioned that was joking. I'm sure he was "joking" after your reaction came out. You did the right thing. Always trust your maternal instincts.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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to Tan or not to Tan Posted: 9/13/2005 6:55:20 PM
I prefer no tan lines but not that big of a deal.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Pregnant girl threatening Posted: 9/8/2005 9:12:56 PM
Abstinence is the ONLY safe sex. (Well maybe also solo sex and toys). Anyway, sex comes with risks. It's just how it goes. The best thing for him is to try to be civil. He knew what he was doing and knew the risks involved. Maybe he should be thankful that it's a baby and not AIDS or something like that. I'm sure alot of unfortunate people would have much rather gotten pregnant. but basically, what's done is done and can't be reversed.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Pregnant girl threatening Posted: 9/8/2005 9:12:31 PM
Abstinence is the ONLY safe sex. (Well maybe also solo sex and toys). Anyway, sex comes with risks. It's just how it goes. The best thing for him is to try to be civil. He knew what he was doing and knew the risks involved. Maybe he should be thankful that it's a baby and not AIDS or something like that. I'm sure alot of unfortunate people would have much rather gotten pregnant.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Are all Arizona Girls Just Pissed??? Posted: 9/6/2005 10:35:48 PM
After so many people treating you the same. THEY can't be wrong. Take a step back and check yourself.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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won't give up Posted: 9/6/2005 10:33:32 PM
well, it may have been better to just tell him that you weren't interested. Although, it is weird that he kept sending you messages after you did not respond. A normal human being would have stopped sending them. This site allows you to see whether the messages were read. he would have seen them unread deleted. Something is up.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Libras everywhere!! Posted: 9/4/2005 10:13:24 PM
I know what you mean DragonRed. According to the zodiac we are really bad with Cancerians. Us Libras are really good together too. However, infidelity if very very possible.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Libras everywhere!! Posted: 9/3/2005 8:14:28 AM
Heck yeah we rock!! In many ways.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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no photos ladies!!!!!!! Posted: 9/1/2005 9:47:44 PM
I didn't mean your pic or anyones pic. What I mean by a reason for me not to reply is that some people can be mean. Others are flat out ignorant. they send dumb messages and are mean when I decline as nicely as I can.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Libras everywhere!! (locked--not a review) Posted: 9/1/2005 9:20:43 PM
Maybe it's because I'm a Libra myself, but I have noticed that there are alot of Libras online. I'm wondering if it has to do with the characteristic of the sign itself. what do ya'll think?

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Picture Thieves...... Posted: 9/1/2005 9:17:41 PM
well, just something that you run into when you decide to go online.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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no photos ladies!!!!!!! Posted: 9/1/2005 9:03:30 PM
posted pic or not, I try to respond to every message that comes through. Unless the person has given me a reason not to respond.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Does age really matter? Posted: 8/31/2005 10:36:48 PM
To each their own. I personally don't like older men. I'm just not attracted to them. There would have to be something really really specific for me to be into an older man. I'm not into young guys either. If you like him I don't see why you couldn't try to be with him. The age might bring up some issues but what relationship doesn't have issues?

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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I need some honest female advice.... Posted: 8/31/2005 10:25:24 PM
her weight is YOUR issue, probably not hers otherwise she would have lost it already. Being "out of shape" myself. I wouldn't want anyone telling me that I need to lose weight for them to be attracted to me. For one, even if I did lose it, it would always be in the back of my mind as long as I dated the guy. My major thing is time. You say she has a house, kids, and everything else. That's alot to juggle. Have you ever thought that she might have a hard time to fit it in her schedule?

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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AUTISM..... Tell me anything!!!!! Posted: 8/27/2005 11:17:08 PM
The biggest thing I would say is patience. Learn to pick your battles or YOU WILL get burned out. My son is classified "at risk". I don't know how you guys got a diagonis so soon but I am told that doctor's won't diagnose him until he is six. Maybe it only my state. Anyway, autism has many levels and some of the characteristics that I know is that they work better by themselves, are impulsive, and the scariest part to me is that they can develop epilepsy in their teen years. It is also important that you don't pay attention to ignorant critics. as you learn more about autism and your child as an individual, you will know what is best for your daughter.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Why do Men make it such a big deal ....I AM A GREAT COOK! Posted: 8/26/2005 3:13:23 PM
well....I won't starve

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Passing gas as a sign of true love??? Posted: 8/16/2005 6:12:44 PM
I wouldn't say it's a sign of true love but it is a sign that you are comfortable with that person or they are comfortable with you. That only applies to people who have shame. I know some people that just fart anywhere and everywhere. They'd be the opposite. They just don't care.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Getting your girl or boyfriend to stop smoking? Posted: 8/9/2005 4:25:18 PM
my exfiancee smoked and I didn't like it. He knew it and he didn't smoke around me. I would have liked it if he quit and he said he would. But I understood that in the end it would be his choice. If he didn't I would have to deal with it or let him go. If she's not willing to not smoke around you. You may either have to deal with it with a smile or let her go.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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I dont get it Posted: 8/6/2005 9:28:25 AM
to squirrly and doxx the letter "J" in spanish sounds like an and "H" as in hat. Doesn't sound German all squirrly. Very PR. To tkd1st sometimes people can be too honest. Not saying you should lie, but have you ever thought that she just plain doesn't like you.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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I need ideas.... Posted: 8/4/2005 9:50:53 PM
well, I know I will video tape it but this is more me than him. He'll enjoy our company but I don't really know what he's into yet aside from food. lol. He's getting cake and ice cream without a doubt.

honeybrown

Joined: 10/12/2004

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I need ideas.... Posted: 8/4/2005 7:34:04 PM
I need ideas of what to do for my son's 1st birthday. It'll only be me, him and his brother that I'd like to include. Do any of you have any ideas of what I can do to celebrate it. any input would be much appreciated.

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Are you up to the challenge? Posted: 8/2/2005 6:56:07 PM
[That's typical of children.] But it still works on adults as you can see.

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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why do woman not make the first move Posted: 8/2/2005 6:54:07 PM
I don't recall ever making the official first move. Might set myself up to have a guy make the first move but I am more traditional. It's how I was brought up.

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Are you up to the challenge? Posted: 8/2/2005 2:38:38 PM
You'd have to think of it as a goal, challenge, or conquest. There is always something very appealing of what you can't have or is very hard to get.

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Sorry, I just don't find you attractive Posted: 8/2/2005 7:56:00 AM
I'll tell guys that I'm not interested in them as a bf and they argue or try to convince me that I'm wrong. This after I've talked to them for a while. I talk to anybody that doesn't give me a reason not to. Friends are always good to have but sometimes I think that maybe I should stop talking to them. Some of them just don't leave it alone. If someone wasn't attracted to me, I'd leave it alone (hypothetically speaking that I'd put myself in that situation).

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Bad kisser, what do you do? Posted: 8/1/2005 4:54:51 PM
to dayzeyblue: eewww too graphic, but funny. Glad it wasn't me. I haven't had anything nearly as bad. You just made me feel alot better girl. lol

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Bad kisser, what do you do? Posted: 7/31/2005 3:21:30 PM
I've had a bad kisser or two in my experience. I don't recall teaching them but I did let them know. I didn't hint either. I guess I'm not as nice as alot of people here.

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Bad kisser, what do you do? Posted: 7/31/2005 10:54:58 AM
What do you do if you go out with someone you are really into but then you kiss and they are bad to really bad. Not bad breath or anything but just technically bad. Do you tell? Lose interest and not go out again??

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Do we believe in friendship between oposite sexs? Posted: 7/31/2005 10:51:32 AM
I use to. But lately I'm not so sure. Every guy friend that I've had has always had an alternate purpose for being my friend. At one point or another they've wanted me. Recently a coworker of mine said that there is no such thing as guy friends. As I think back, he is right.

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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They've Got Everything You've Ever Wanted...Yet Posted: 7/29/2005 12:20:14 PM
my best bet I would say is couseling? Unless you can figure it out yourself. You have to find out what gave you the fear to overcome it.

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Feeling suicidal tonight Posted: 7/27/2005 7:09:58 PM
Well Tat, I'm pretty sure that I've met, had, and lost the love of my life. We were engaged for about a minute then it took a turn to the end of our relationship. I now have to live the rest of my life without THE LOVE of my life. When I think about it, it really gets me down to think that the rest of my lovelife will be non-existent but I have learned since then that the only person that can keep me down and depressed is me. I'd be happIER with him but I can be happy being single. I know that I have to be in peace and hapiness with myself just in case we never get back together again. (Neither one of us is dead after all.) Some movies that I see hit really close to home. In this case it was "Under the Tuscan" Don't know if you've seen it but it was the lady bug story. I am now asleep and when I wake up I'll be covered with ladybugs....

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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what do you do when you get a phone number Posted: 7/13/2005 10:11:46 AM
I usually don't call guys at all. I'd rather they call me. But usually when I do give guys a call it is the next day or the day after that. Depends on how much I liked him and how busy I am also.

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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would you date a stripper? Posted: 7/9/2005 11:57:09 AM
I'd probably date him if he was really really cool but nothing serious. I know me and it just wouldn't work out for me. Also, I was brought up that a man who lives off women (in a sense) is not a respectable man.

HONEYBROWN

Joined: 10/12/2004

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Is it true?..... Honesty..... Posted: 7/9/2005 8:23:27 AM
Cheating is a choice so it depends on the individual. Another way to look at is if I play a sport once that doesn't make me a jock. Cheaters have a choice. Alot has to do with who they are with and also the point in their life that they are in. In know people that were total dogs a few years ago. Now they are married and not in their old ways.

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