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phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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how do you know if someone is out of your league Posted: 12/31/2012 1:50:42 PM
walking through town....leagues dont seem to exist! its peculiar,aim for the stars

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Internet v Real World Dating Posted: 12/29/2012 3:23:54 PM
All of this makes me laugh. "I feel perfectly fine, going for who I want, for whatever reasons I want. Whilst I see no problem with it and think that people who think it's out of order need to man up.... I DO understand why they might get annoyed, by that dismissive/shallow stance. I just don't particularly care. In the same vein, if some Doris wants to be ultra-selective about who she goes for, then fair play to her.... I would be surprised, if they can't/don't understand why some men get a bit narked off by (seemingly) constantly being overlooked for a superficial trait. No reply ISN'T a reply and it IS fairly shallow, to only go for certain physical features.... But it's that individuals choice to make and if people don't like it, then go talk to someone else, who has a mindset closer to theirs. People on here don't have to behave, in a way that each of us thinks they should behave. Once you get used to that idea, this place is gonna be a lot easier to deal with. " ok it all works out for you, sweet..even smug...care to offer youre solutions?

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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What do you look for in a profile picture? Posted: 12/29/2012 2:51:07 PM
no wedding ring the ex kids pi$$head friends obvious signs of cheap hotel rooms pub toilets pints of beer anything short of class basically

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Is it ok to chat you up in a supermarket? Posted: 12/29/2012 2:13:48 PM
"Well I gave you the misery, now the reason. When I was 18,19,20 I went out for a bit, had some fun. Then a few girls played mind games, leading me on, calling me over to them and then telling me to ** off you're ugly, and bullies spreading rumours about me any time a girl was interested, and after that to be honest I can't be bothered at all anymore. I did have a 5-year relationship in between that and now but between that and all the bullying, cba anymore.2 ffs man! life can be cruel, no sh!t ! you are a man, you rise above it, you sink tha what people expect, surprise the ** ers and rise! its more attractive

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Is it ok to chat you up in a supermarket? Posted: 12/29/2012 1:37:57 PM
"Peas to meet you". Cannot possibly go wrong..." what about " a rich deep filled tart"?

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Internet v Real World Dating Posted: 12/29/2012 1:04:50 PM
"....but speaking as someone who doesn't fit many men's profile of what they want in a gf because I'm not slim ..." this is what is written, as is the 'no less than 5'10" ' line, thing is, you can lose weight, you cant gain height, you have a choice! men dont say, no less than 5'2" , nowomen over 6' ..the height thing is a female prerequisite, and yes, most if not all prefer taller men, if he is loaded or is in a powerful position then that will cut the deal

phl45

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Is it ok to chat you up in a supermarket? Posted: 12/29/2012 12:58:45 PM
"Oooops - seems I got carried away and posted twice! sorry peeps x" you dont get double clubcards for that

phl45

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Is it ok to chat you up in a supermarket? Posted: 12/29/2012 12:49:29 PM
if she fancies you, its ok, if she doesnt, move on the the booze aisle and try your luck there! its always ok

phl45

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Internet v Real World Dating Posted: 12/29/2012 12:44:17 PM
"makes mental note of all the short guys complaining...projecting their insecurities back onto the women that like a tall man" most if not all women prefer a tall man dear, its not rocket science. Insecurities? shaming language as usual! cant you come up with anything more insightful?

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Internet v Real World Dating Posted: 12/29/2012 12:12:10 PM
"Tom Cruise is short." to be fair he has got gazillions of dollars which oddly enough, make him look at least 6'2"

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Internet v Real World Dating Posted: 12/29/2012 12:05:31 PM
"Personally I wouldn't give a crap what other people think if I was walking by with a taller lady due to heels or otherwise. There are more important things like, I don't know, enjoying ourselves on a date? I guess that makes me weird." its not about how you feel, its about the heels and how she feels! the heels thing is quite funny, when you are out on the town, there are very few women who can actually carry themselves in heels, most of the walk like its their first time on skates

phl45

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Internet v Real World Dating Posted: 12/29/2012 6:00:24 AM
"DOES IT? !! have you done a survey on this subject." No I havent done a survey but based on my observations and experiences, yes it does! "How dare that man message me,who looks like ..jabba the hutt swiggin a bottle of plonk!! my god im worth much more than that.." theres nothing like a dollop of reality of whats in store for you." And who wants to get in ya knickers..Yeah i feel really valued." how very dare he indeed!!!

phl45

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Does someone having kids put you off Posted: 12/29/2012 4:17:42 AM
yes it puts me off, been there done that. got my own kids and they are all grown up! Ive had my fill of the restrictions kids put on life, I dont want to have those restrictions again, having to pan dates, weekends holidays, events around kids again???? no thanks

phl45

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Internet v Real World Dating Posted: 12/29/2012 3:17:03 AM
regarding online dating, Womens value goes up, mens goes down

phl45

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Internet v Real World Dating Posted: 12/28/2012 1:17:50 PM
there is no substitute for eyes locking across the room and the following mental and emotional dance leading up to ...contact, in real life situations. its more fun and more telling than a click on a profile will ever be...thank god!

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Far From The Truth .........'The Date' Posted: 12/26/2012 1:59:05 PM
^^^^ very good point, people are far more complex than we think, its completely unrealsitic to expect to get to know someone from a couple of dates, being comfortable around them is as good as it can be in those stages

phl45

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Has your view of the opposite sex changed since using this site? Posted: 12/26/2012 1:29:32 PM
I just wondered if people viewed online dating as easier than real life? if you are just looking for sex, this kind of site can probably make that route easier but what most seek is an LTR or at least a relationship of substance. what strikes me is that there is a pervasive 'air' of mistrust on here /online that I dont come across in real life interactions. there will be success stories Im sure but my view is this place makes me more jaded, fortunately Im pretty secure so dont sweat about it but I can imagine this place seriously messing with some peoples heads

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Has your view of the opposite sex changed since using this site? Posted: 12/26/2012 1:03:37 PM
if so, in what way? have you become more cynical? in despair? have you been beautifully suprised? not sure if a such a thread has been made before, if it has point me to it and feel free to delete this one

phl45

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why does the conversations always turn sexual??? Posted: 12/26/2012 12:37:36 PM
^^^^ absolutely! there are a considerable amount of female profiles with cleavage displayed with intent, short skirts, provocative positions and headlines with sexual innuendo, then in the profile.....'please no sex talk, there are other sites for that sort of thing...' obviously its a coded warning...if your hot bring it on and sex me up...if your not, your a creep, thats the way it works

phl45

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Friends with extras - Can it work? Posted: 12/26/2012 6:03:45 AM
must be so reassuring for any future LT partner to know that at the first sign of any bother, the good old FB is waiting in the wings to comfort the poor soul when they need a 'friend'

phl45

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Contact History - what's yours? Posted: 12/26/2012 4:35:28 AM
"Made first contact with me...237 I made first contact...Nil" so your the one they all send their message to? Im impressed

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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why does the conversations always turn sexual??? Posted: 12/26/2012 2:04:26 AM
is she is sexually attracted to you, its fine, if she isnt you are a pervert/creep/deviant...its really that simple

phl45

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Contact History - what's yours? Posted: 12/25/2012 3:58:18 PM
132 not out! day 345 of the 43rd test, phl45 receives the first ball after lunch and plays a forward defensive push to mid on for no run

phl45

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Contact History - what's yours? Posted: 12/25/2012 1:49:25 PM
do you have to have a pof upgrade to view this info?

phl45

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why does the conversations always turn sexual??? Posted: 12/25/2012 1:42:50 PM
"General consensus on here seems to be that women arent that comfy with it before they have met someone...and men think they should be..?" hmmmm, I mentioned my mate in another post. He gets sexual very quickly. some guys cant do it, some guys cant

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Contact History - what's yours? Posted: 12/25/2012 12:20:59 PM
what wizardry is this? contact history? I know my laptop is old but I cant find this peice of withcraft, then again I cant even make any comments on here, bold italics etc etc.

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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What puts you off messaging someone? Posted: 12/25/2012 9:15:37 AM
"where are all the good guys/have all the good guys gone?" I really dont bother responding to these, of course I think I am a good guy, I know I am

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Replies... Am I Going Wrong? Posted: 12/25/2012 5:49:16 AM
"IMO there are a lot of myths here which i think men like to believe because it makes then feel better, about which I have posted before but still, i don't mind going to the troube of repeating myself for the education and enlightenment of others: Myth 2 - all women get at least dozens of emails every day therefore Normal Decent Men don't get replies; This is not a myth, it may not be dozens every day but there will be a reasonable inflow. Myth 3 - women are shallow some women, like some men, are! thing is you can usually tell from profiles in the first place Myth 4 - only men message women, women just sit back, wait for the messsages to pour in (see myths 1 and 2) and cba to demonstrate even basic politeness therefore Normal Decent Men don't get replies. the overwhelming flow of messages will be from male to female, I have a friend on here, the quinessential, tall, dark good looking guy, he has shown me the messages he gets...and some of the photos, so yeah, women do send messages Here is a TRUTH - lots of normal decent women who don't look like Barbie don't get messages in the first place. I dont think that is a truth, Im sure there maybe a few who dont get messages but lots?

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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What inspires you to message someone? Posted: 12/25/2012 5:06:53 AM
"I like msg bloke's who look like teletubbie and with the IQ of Ferret, and I am spiolt for choice on here!!" oh the Irony!!!!

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Documentary featuring the turquoise lunacy of David Icke - Was David Icke Right ??? Posted: 12/25/2012 4:22:23 AM
I like Icke, he is entertaining if nothing else. he does raise some valid points and I think you dismiss some of his conspiracy theories at your peril, he may well be wide of the mark on some things but I believe he is scarily close to the mark on others. This world is not what it seems in that the powers and authorities are not who we are being led to believe they are

phl45

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Lonely b*stard meal for one? Posted: 12/25/2012 4:13:18 AM
I dont mind it really, had my sons around for breakfast, sausage sarnies, swapping pressies, but its homemade chicken curry for me, I like to cook and am reasonably good at it. Christmas meant more when the kids were very young, I miss that but the rest of this poor excuse for a celebration is pants and hypocrisy, why just goodwill to all men one day of the year? I donated to crisis this year, I dont think people should be alone unless its their decision and hopefully my few bob will help someone feel a bit of human kindness even for a short time.

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Replies... Am I Going Wrong? Posted: 12/24/2012 4:34:46 PM
cross..you wont see one..."These threads are beyond tedious and i have yet to see one where women who send out messages whine and gripe about not getting replies." how many women message men? 0.07% .... men are remorselesly lambasted for being poor communicators, when they do...blank!!! its a luxury to be a female dear, switch the **** sheild to 'off'

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Replies... Am I Going Wrong? Posted: 12/24/2012 12:50:52 PM
I wish men had the "such and such has expressed a robotic interest in you ...and has had to put the mere effort of clicking amouse to alert you of this fact but dont take it too as too much of a come on" button

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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What puts you off messaging someone? Posted: 12/24/2012 1:10:03 AM
anyone who requires that I 'apply'...what kind of job am I applying for? are you saying you are hardwork? smokers...enough said! anyone who is looking for a knight in shining armour ...get real! a nice guy...= mug

phl45

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Past sexual history Posted: 12/24/2012 1:05:42 AM
everyone is judgemental, doesnt matter if its someones past, current, looks, social financial status...whatever, you browse profiles, you make a judgement. if someone wants to bang for England, thats up to them, knock yourself out, but you be spending the the rest of your life with me

phl45

Joined: 9/30/2010

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Replies... Am I Going Wrong? Posted: 12/23/2012 3:43:21 PM
no reply = no or little interest, no reply in itself, can be a message, treat it as such and move on

phl45

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What inspires you to message someone? Posted: 12/23/2012 2:44:54 PM
oh msg 26? or what you choose to interpret?

phl45

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What inspires you to message someone? Posted: 12/23/2012 1:20:38 PM
Attraction, thats it! looks, style, hair eyes, smile, has to be backed up with a reasonable profile though

phl45

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Past sexual history Posted: 12/23/2012 12:54:03 PM
Thing with STI's is, you can cure the regualtion ones, syph, Gon, etc with anti biotics and they are gone (although there is now a strain of gonorrhea that is very resistant to anti biotics) however I dotn thin people realise the risk of HPV. there are many many strains of HPV which are pretty much harmless, there are though, a handfull which are potentially lethal, leading to cervical cancer and oral cancers. many people have HPV and its russian roulette which one you might have, ther eis no cure, there is now preventative vaccination but that is only of any use if you werent already infected. not to mention herpes and HIV

phl45

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Past sexual history Posted: 12/23/2012 12:13:46 PM
If you are just looking for sex or a short term thing, PSH doesnt really enter into it, if you are aiming for the long term/marriage, it does, for me anyway and I think subconsciously it does for lots of people. as a bloke, do I really want to commit to someone who has had dozens of other blokes through her? erm...no thanks. its unrealistic to expect her not to have had some sexual history but not one of a porn star

phl45

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Past sexual history Posted: 12/19/2012 2:11:23 PM
of course PSH matters, as a man, I dont want a woman who has not only been around the block, but done a lap of honour! its not old fashioned, its a huge turn off in terms of having an ltr with a woman. the ability to really bond with such a woman is vastly diminished. and what counts as sexual history? sex within a relationship or the numerous BJs behing the club/pub?

phl45

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Does Anyone Really Believe In Fate? Posted: 2/11/2011 8:23:32 AM
“Each player must accept the cards life deals him or her: but once they are in hand, he or she alone must decide how to play the cards in order to win the game.” Voltaire Does it for me

phl45

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Does Anyone Really Believe In Fate? Posted: 2/10/2011 12:54:33 PM
prove it! how do you know? you might have met them anyway regardess of your crappy hands

phl45

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The catastrophic break up of the NHS. Posted: 2/10/2011 12:52:42 PM
Private healthcare is coming to the UK, like it or not, personally I dont. There is a lot wrong with the NHS but there was a hell of a lot right with it and an awful lot to be admired. healthcare and research wll be driven by profit in future and if you cant afford it, you wont be getting it. What really worries me is that the British corparates are so more greedy than even the USA that our healthcare costs will be astronomical, a huge bloody cash cow to be milked dry, that is the real driver behind healthcare 'reform'. those who knock the NHS should hang there heads in shame, the old..ive never been to the doctors in my life bollox ...is exactly that bollox, where were you born? in your front room delivered by a shamen? who paid for your healthcare and education before you could financialy stand on your own two feet? maybe you were lucky enough to have a family fortune to support you, the majority dont and its the majority who paid into this mutual organistion.

phl45

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Does Anyone Really Believe In Fate? Posted: 2/10/2011 12:15:58 PM
definately not! whatever happens happens, if its good, its called fate, if its crap its fate???? if its meant to be it will happen...bollx! it would be lovely to believe in fate, it keeps peoples hopes up and allows them to abdicate responsibility for their own futures to some thing/being/presence/fairy . whatever happens, YOU make the most or worst of it

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