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~JustSimplyMe~

Joined: 8/18/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

Cheating Posted: 11/22/2009 8:57:35 PM
Why do people cheat? Because even if they aren't happy in a relationship they are comfortable. People tend to be too lazy to fix the relationship...or to even walk away. What do you consider cheating? An emotional and/or sexual relationship with someone other than your SO Is watching porn considered cheating? hell no Is going to a strip club considered cheating? nope Do you think it's easier to cheat now days with all of the technology we have than back in the old days? It may be easier, but it seems to also be easier to be caught if you cheat. If cheated on, would you stay w/ the person who cheated on you? why or why not? No, I wouldn't. If he did it once, and proved to me that I am not enough to make him happy he could never convince me that he has changed. If you are the one that cheated, do you ever feel guilty about what you have done? or do you feel a sense of accomplishment because you pulled it off? When I cheated..yrs and yrs ago I didn't feel guilty nor did I have any sense of accomplishment. I was young and dumb. On that note..my bf at the time that I cheated on stayed with me after he found out.

~JustSimplyMe~

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Should I hang in there Posted: 11/18/2009 10:17:37 PM
Sorry hun, sounds like he has already moved on. Don't read much more into it other than he said goodbye, he wanted to say goodbye...and nothing you say is going to make him change his mind.

~JustSimplyMe~

Joined: 8/18/2006

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A different angle - Social Assistance Programs Posted: 11/18/2009 1:38:11 PM
Ok ...she's getting whatever from the gov't...get over it already! Seriously what harm is it doing to you? I was on a rental assistance program for a year, and my thoughts on the matter was since my mom, dad, step parents, myself bla bla paid taxes for JUST THAT! so that when someone needs such assistance they can receive it. I'm betting that not more than 1cent of YOUR taxes go towards whatever assistance she personally receives, since that seems to be your main complaint. If you really believe she is defrauding out government, report her...until then shut up about it. Nothing worse than someone whining and complaining when they have no intention of doing anything about it.

~JustSimplyMe~

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birthing stories!!! Posted: 11/16/2009 7:58:14 AM
With my first son, the ob/gyn checked me at 34weeks, said baby was in a weird position...I would need a c-section. Went into labour at 42 weeks ( little bugger was comfy) waters broke at 10am Monday morning. Was admitted into the hospital at 6pm. I lounged around pukin my guts out begging for meds...horrid back pain(he was facing up instead of down, his spine was along mine). Finally received my epidural at 6am, had a sleep...every nurse on shift had the pleasure of shoving their hands into my crotch to feel how baby had dropped quickly and wedged my cervix between his head and my pelvic bone. After numerous attempts to dislodge said uterus I was sent for a c-section at 3pm Tuesday afternoon. 8lbs 10.5oz little boy I wasn't very happy with my dr considering she had said for weeks prior to labour that I wouldn't be delivering naturally. Baby number 2 was a scheduled c-section. We lived in another province then, and the ob/gyn said that my body was not made to deliver babies ...hmm go figure? So, appt booked at 6am for baby girl to come out...listened to a rocking party 2 floors up the whole night (lottsa sleep for the expectant mother) Get to the hospital, wait around a bit more, hubby has to wait til just before they cut til he can come in. Epidural's suck btw if you aren't in major pain already. Get my epi, lay down...they get ready to cut...I ask for hubby, he's passed out in the waiting room LOL. I won't let them cut til he's there, I was scared sh*tless. Ok, he's awake and being a supportive wonderful daddy:) they cut...OMFG I felt that! I screamed when they cut my belly...hmm apparently the epidural wasn't done properly or something ( I don't quite remember) 7lbs a 5 oz perfect baby girl.

~JustSimplyMe~

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Pop ups Posted: 11/11/2009 3:50:03 PM
http://www.mozilla.com/en-US/firefox/upgrade.html go there...download that browser :) You can pick and choose, but there is an adblocker available.

~JustSimplyMe~

Joined: 8/18/2006

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Daddy's Poem Posted: 11/10/2009 2:15:16 PM
oh my, that brought the tears. Thanks for posting it, it reminds me that at heart I'm still a little girl and my dad will never be too far away.

~JustSimplyMe~

Joined: 8/18/2006

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Ex coming back? Posted: 10/31/2009 8:32:21 AM
I will give you my standard reply about ex's and taking them back Would you throw away a jug of milk and then take it out of the trash can 2 weeks later hoping that it tastes any better? No matter why it ended, the thing to remember is that it DID end.

~JustSimplyMe~

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So broody and no where to vent that energy :( Posted: 10/30/2009 8:45:36 AM
You have the perfect place to vent any pent up energy, turn it into love for your child! She/He would benefit so immensely from mom not being moody about the one she lost, and instead focused on the one she has :)

~JustSimplyMe~

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Muwahahaha Happy Halloween Posted: 10/28/2009 9:24:30 PM
My girl is going to be a pretty princess in a beautiful dress I found her. My son sweet talked me into an awesome bumble bee transformers costume, but has now decided he wants to be a ninja :( what happened to the days when I got to pick what they would be? lol I'm going to go as myself...wicked witch of PG

~JustSimplyMe~

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Confused About Pics Above Inbox Posted: 10/27/2009 9:15:36 PM
I'm curious why all my pics are from people in the lower mainland? (the 10 thumbnails in my inbox) is it just a case of deleting my cookies to fix it?

~JustSimplyMe~

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Constipation and Congestion Posted: 10/25/2009 8:24:42 PM
Try saline drops for his nose...he will fuss a bit, but it will cut up the mucus alot!. They doe make them for little ones :) I had a thread titled 'poor kid' that I started about my dd's horrid cough, there are a ton of great suggestions in there if you would like to search it :) I hope babes is feeling better soon!

~JustSimplyMe~

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Constipation and Congestion Posted: 10/24/2009 6:57:02 PM
For the congestion, I would sit with my daughter in the bathroom(with the shower going full hot) for 15 mins or so....sooner if she got too warm. Anything to help loosen up her lungs. I have yet to find an over the counter med/syrup that actually did more than make my kids sleep....so I'm tempted to tell you not to bother. Constipation.....I would give him watered down prune juice, if its all he's offered, he will drink it :)

~JustSimplyMe~

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Birth Orders - Oldest, Youngest or Middle Child? Posted: 10/22/2009 10:32:22 PM
I was the youngest of three, dad had 3 more so I became a middle child. Being the youngest of the first I was no more spoiled than anyone else. My oldest brother fits the oldest child stereotype to a "T", as does my 'middle' brother. I don't fit any stereotype I don't think...I'm just me :)

~JustSimplyMe~

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Things That Make You Go Ewww Posted: 10/21/2009 7:09:28 PM
having to clean up vomit makes me go gag. Especially when its still warm, and the warmth seeps through the layers of paper towels and plastic I'm using to scoop it up ......BLECH

~JustSimplyMe~

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Cheap and thoughtful Christmas gifts Posted: 10/11/2009 4:54:54 PM
apparently the cool type of people just re-gift the thoughtful gifts they have received from family and friends to pass on...just hide out til boxing day :)

~JustSimplyMe~

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The google street viewer, what's your opinion? Posted: 10/8/2009 9:55:23 PM
I couldn't find pics for my place...it did say though, that the cars a currently driving in Prince George..so perhaps they haven't been posted yet. Hmm will be interesting

~JustSimplyMe~

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pink cookies Posted: 10/7/2009 10:00:30 PM
what about kool aid or some other drink crystals? You dissolve in a bit of water and substitute it....??

~JustSimplyMe~

Joined: 8/18/2006

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Video Profile; Suggestions? Posted: 10/7/2009 9:46:05 PM
^^imeem has been discontinued on this site

~JustSimplyMe~

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Need some honest answers Posted: 10/6/2009 12:32:01 PM
No, I don't think you should tell the boy anything other than mom and dad couldn't work things out. Like carterscutie pointed out...you have no proof that she was cheating, nothing other than your gut feelings. I would never allow my gut feelings be shared to hurt my children. What do you gain? The possible respect of an 11yr old who may in turn hate you in coming years for wrecking his adolescence. If you want to continue feeling like the better parent..don't torment your child with issues that are really none of his business. I want to play devils advocate here a little bit and say that after all she went through with the cancer treatments and surgeries....it isn't a stretch for me to believe that she HAS changed. It would change your total outlook on life, what you are doing and where you are going. The judge gave her the overnights...that is not her fault if the judge ruled that way. Pay what you can, be nice to her and hopefully she won't take you back to court for not paying the full total.

~JustSimplyMe~

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Msg: 27 (view)

Holiday or Birthday Cards, Do you help your kids or nothing? Posted: 10/5/2009 8:52:42 AM
I make sure that the kids call their dad on every major holiday...generally first thing in the morning. They are and always have been the very first people to wish him a happy birthday/fathers day what have you. My mom takes them out to buy me cards or whatnot for major holidays. When we lived in the same city..he would take them to buy me a gift or card. As for pictures....I put them on facebook...at xmas time I will send him a school photo or a portrait if we get one done this year. He generally offers to pay half of the package prices to ensure he gets a copy of the photos. Perhaps you could mention to your ex that you would love to pay for half the photo price for walmart portraits or school pics..... it ain't your daughters fault but chances are...you're gonna lose your daughter. Yea...you give kids way less credit than they deserve. I had a step-dad for as long as I can remember. Little girls never forget their daddies...even if they only speak to them every couple of weeks. I saw my dad maybe MAYBE 5 times a year as a child. I never loved him any less.

~JustSimplyMe~

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How to date if you work weekends? Feeling guilty about sitter. Posted: 10/2/2009 8:58:43 PM
I feel guilty getting a sitter so I can go on a date, especially since my sitter is usually my mom and she already takes them after daycare/school until I get home. My days off are Tuesdays and Wednesdays...I work til 7 almost every other night so feel like I spend very little time with my kids as it is. If I am just going on a coffee date, or a first meet I let the other person know that it can only be a short date the first time...perhaps progressively longer. I refuse to take too much time away from my kids...especially for the wrong guy.

~JustSimplyMe~

Joined: 8/18/2006

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Overkill.... Posted: 10/1/2009 7:22:52 PM
I work in a very public setting, and I must say that personally I have yet to meet one person I would classify as 'ugly'. I can see beauty in everyone :)

~JustSimplyMe~

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Staying with someone you're with because you dont want to expend the enegy getting to know another.. Posted: 10/1/2009 7:21:43 PM
I stayed in a crappy relationship simply because for all the headaches it was more convenient and comfortable than getting out and looking for possibly better. I have since learned that being alone is more convenient and comfortable than I was in that relationship.

~JustSimplyMe~

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I'm on the couch ! Posted: 9/29/2009 11:06:18 PM
OK, from a girls perspective. This Saturday ask her to please go have a 'her' day. Get her haircut, do some shopping...anything that is just for her! While she's gone clean the house, play with the kids, get dinner in the oven. Walk in her shoes for just ONE day...and see how horny you are at 9pm when the kids are finally in bed and all the chores are done. If a woman says she doesn't have the energy...she is obviously working her arse off all day to ensure you and the children are cared for. Help her out ffs

~JustSimplyMe~

Joined: 8/18/2006

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Waste of time? Posted: 9/29/2009 10:21:36 PM
A waste of time? It would take maybe 6minutes tops to ask her out for dinner...

~JustSimplyMe~

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Can't one rule fit all Posted: 9/29/2009 10:01:36 PM
I'm just a tad bit confused...in your profile you say you don't have nor want any children?! I don't like him to sleep his day away. Either way, you said it yourself, it is HIS time to do with as he pleases.

~JustSimplyMe~

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Anyone been through this? Posted: 9/29/2009 3:12:16 PM
I sit and think would this child not treat me that way knowing how much damage his father did to me through the years?? Not if he watched you take it from his dad....why would he think that you wouldn't take it from him too? Don't take it anymore. It's called tough love! He needs to know that you are his parent, and as such are immediately deserving of his respect, and if he mistreats you again....he can move out and find someone else to abuse....kinda like his daddy did!

~JustSimplyMe~

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My 18-yr-old son has been stealing from me. Posted: 9/29/2009 9:52:26 AM
He's an adult and capable of holding a job. If you had a room-mate say...how long would that said room-mate be allowed to stay rent/expense free before you asked them to move? You can't say that he isn't allowed to stay since you can't afford to feed him...would you tell ur 13yr old to move out cuz you couldn't afford his food and needs? Yea....I didn't think so. At 18 (we had this convo on here before about 18yr olds still being teenagers, not adults didnt we?) He is old enough to accept some responsibility. Tell him to pull up his socks or move.

~JustSimplyMe~

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he has a gf! drama Posted: 9/28/2009 7:59:59 PM
.... the truth will set u free You are the second person to say that...what 'truth'??? And exactly what is it going to 'set me free' of??? LOL I don't OWE either of them anything besides maybe my pity. It's a sad story in a way.

~JustSimplyMe~

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he has a gf! drama Posted: 9/28/2009 3:24:20 PM
I'd like to know how she got your email. She messaged me on facebook...he said the only place he had pics was on there, so told me to add him...that's when she supposedly questioned him about me.. On another note...I did notice in his info it said he was in a relationship...and when I asked him, he told me they broke up a month or so before, he just hadn't changed it on there. I found it to be believable....silly me LOL No harm, no foul...not like I'm in love with the dude or even know more about him than where he works and what his name is lol

~JustSimplyMe~

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he has a gf! drama Posted: 9/28/2009 3:09:01 PM
According to her, it's been 7yrs that they have been together and she just wanted MY reassurance that it wasn't a big effing joke. LOL niiiice ask the girl who really had/wants nothing to do with the whole mess. I finally replied to her, telling her the truth..there was never any talk of meeting, hooking up or anything...he told me he just wanted someone to talk to. And since she asked me to keep it confidential between her and I...I messaged him to thank him for getting me embroiled in his drama. I hope they work it out @rockman

~JustSimplyMe~

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he has a gf! drama Posted: 9/28/2009 1:34:26 PM
Well, I must say this was a first for me. Started chatting with a dude from another site on Saturday night...we moved to msn/yahoo and chatted for a few hours. I said hi the next day, no reply..he just signed off quickly. I shrugged and said next! Well...today I get an email from a girl mentioning that she knows I met her BF on ***** and is just curious what his intentions in befriending me were. She gave a long spiel about how she can't trust him, and hopes that I would honestly tell her what happened, what we talked about and if he even mentioned that he was in a relationship. I'm at a loss of what to tell her? I don't want to get involved in their drama, seriously I don't. Has it happened to you? What did you say...or did you say anything at all? My word...this makes me miss highschool!

~JustSimplyMe~

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Single Mom Fighting With A-Hole Dad Posted: 9/24/2009 9:45:35 PM
Well....YOU moved away...not him. I find that selfish and ignorant that you blame HIM for not being there for the baby. My children's father moved away for several reasons...that makes it his fault for not being a day to day part of their lives...if it had been me to move, I would be 100% at fault. Even with him moving, if I met someone and got married I wouldn't let the kids call the new hubby dad just because he's there! The baby shouldn't call anyone but the biological father daddy /imho

~JustSimplyMe~

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Nasty children- how to overcome? Posted: 9/24/2009 7:22:11 PM
My son has been missing his front teeth since he was a toddler so he has been a perfect target for bullying since grade 1. I found it to be a great opportunity to teach him about bullies. And informed him that the bully is a wimp who has no better way of showing his jealousy than to pick on other kids. He got another lesson about bullies when walking to school and getting the pleasure of watching a boy being beaten up. He came with me to tell a teacher about what we saw. I teach him to tell an adult and that hitting back only gets him into more trouble than the person who was originally picking on him. The 'if they hit you, hit them back harder' mentality is the wrong thing to teach. Kids here get punished MORE for retaliating. I believe teaching them to walk away will benefit them more in the long run than teaching them to stoop to the bullies level and fight back. I grew up with the 'walk away' technique...and yea I got my ass kicked when I was younger...all that taught me was that I needed bigger friends. It also taught me to stand up for the little guys who always got picked on. I still stand up for the loner being picked on.

~JustSimplyMe~

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Full of crap. Posted: 9/22/2009 8:38:54 PM
I was on a 2hr trail ride today, and seriously my horse crapped a minimum of 4 times...FOUR. How the heck would I have been able to get off this huge beast( i needed a stool to get on her) Pick up her multiple piles of poop and drag it with me for 2 hrs? Not to mention the 4 other horses in the group who all pooped at least 4 times each lol. Horse dung doesn't seem to stink as bad as dog poop...and since we weren't riding on concrete there was less of a chance of humans walking in it. I understand the OP's frustration....its just simpler to bag your poochies crap than it is to bag a horses poop. Personally, we see more dogs on trails than horses....

~JustSimplyMe~

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He/She Still Loves Them & has Pics - Can You Handle It? Posted: 9/22/2009 9:10:13 AM
I have pictures of everyone on my walls....kids have pics of their dad in their room...and can see him on the walls in the living room. If I met someone who had an issue with it, I can't see myself taking them down. They are pics of happy times in our lives, and I am huge on memories. Man, I have a pic of my mom and dad cutting their wedding cake in a beautiful frame on my wall...they have been divorced for 28yrs! If I won't take it down for her, I'm not taking my ex's pic off for any guy.

~JustSimplyMe~

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how long to wait??????? Posted: 9/22/2009 8:10:47 AM
I wouldn't know how long you should wait. I have a standard rule not to date anybody unless they have been split up and living apart for a minimum of 6 months. Who would want to be the rebound girl?! I couldn't handle knowing he was still living in the same house with his wife.

~JustSimplyMe~

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there's something wrong with the site Posted: 9/21/2009 8:46:17 AM
ive noticed when send a message to Marcus or whoever is running this show you never get an answer It's funny...I had a question and it could very well have been answered in the FAQ's....but Markus replied rather promptly with a solution.

~JustSimplyMe~

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Can't add to favorites Posted: 9/16/2009 7:22:08 PM
Ive removed people who have added me again...so, i dunno about that ^^

~JustSimplyMe~

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Thongs or Bikini Briefs... Posted: 9/16/2009 2:51:54 PM
His boxers When I am unable though...then boy shorts all the way!

~JustSimplyMe~

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Ex getting worse over time.... Posted: 9/16/2009 9:15:00 AM
Will co-parenting classes and mediation stop the nasty communication I receive from the ex? I somehow doubt it So, because you "doubt it" it isn't worth a try? A good friend taught me a very valuable lesson once...if you aren't willing to do everything in your power to change something...you have absolutely NOTHING to complain about. I've since learned that many people complain just for the sake of complaining....especially when its obvious they 'ignore' the problem and don't attempt to change it. I've done nothing to deserve the antagonistic treatment Maybe not...but you continue to allow it to happen! Nav..you know better I wasn't referring to u

~JustSimplyMe~

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Need better skins/layouts for profiles Posted: 9/16/2009 8:59:49 AM
hmm considering this is a 'free' site, you are preaching to the choir. There are several threads that talk about your screen resolution settings - so you can see more of your theme.

~JustSimplyMe~

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Ex getting worse over time.... Posted: 9/16/2009 8:54:35 AM
I agree with Nav on this one. There is a difference between sucking it up, and dealing with it. Its never good for the children if mom and dad can't have a decent conversation...and it gives them a very bad example if mom and dad can only communicate via journal ~which I will assume the kids pass back and forth??~ I will always remember that no matter how much my mom disliked my dad (he cheated and left her for a younger girl) she always ensured that if he wanted to be involved...he was. I remember countless christmas and thanksgiving dinners that dad sat at the table with us. You could cut the tension with a knife sometimes, but we will always be thankful for mom making sure we had them both when she could arrange it. On another note, he will continue to berate you, **** you out, and generally treat you like shit as long as YOU let him. Stand up for yourself already.

~JustSimplyMe~

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I'm confused... Posted: 9/15/2009 11:19:54 PM
I gave my number out to one person, and when he called said I was busy because his voice was much too feminine lol

~JustSimplyMe~

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Morning SEX yes? no? Posted: 9/15/2009 8:35:58 PM
^^^ seriously I do...I'm in a rotten mood for the rest of the day. I should clarify it isn't all the time....I've managed to absolutely GLOW after great morning sex, but generally I'm not so pretty after

~JustSimplyMe~

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Morning SEX yes? no? Posted: 9/15/2009 8:18:01 PM
hmm I have always wondered if I am the only person who gets cranky after morning sex?

~JustSimplyMe~

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What Happened to Showing Time Faves Online Now? Posted: 9/15/2009 9:32:25 AM
You should always go by the last time they logged in anyways, not the 'online now' thingy....as they could have logged off 9 minutes ago, and would still show up as online for another 6 or so.

~JustSimplyMe~

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Overcoming the Disneyland Uncle Phenomenon.... Posted: 9/11/2009 11:29:08 PM
How do I keep an even balance between letting my daughter have a good time but understanding that when I say it's over, it's over, without ending up in this situation where I'm the bad guy and he's the favorite uncle? I can take this sentence and re-word it to pertain to me and the kids dad. Since he doesn't see them often its always twice as fun to go to dads...and the kids don't want to come home. At dads house they get treats, and toys, go here, there and play play play. They then come home and tell me all about how much greater daddy is...and how come I can't be fun like Dad. I remind them that I am their parent, not their friend. I gently say...I am your bread and butter, the roof over your head, the bandaid on your owies, the snuggles when you are scared, and the high fives when you do something Amazing! I am a mom who does many things, sorry you have to understand somehow that I am not the person who is your play toy. And I understand that while at dads, or with their uncles...they get to do many things I can't or won't let them do. And I thank the outside influences in their life for showing them more of life than I am capable of showing them. I think when we get frustrated with the 'disneyland' relatives...it is a touch of jealousy coming out knowing that they are able to provide such joy for our children that we don't have time to. Just be thankful OP that your kids have an uncle who obviously loves them as much as you do!

~JustSimplyMe~

Joined: 8/18/2006

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Change your POF password! Posted: 9/11/2009 11:06:23 PM
Should everyone change their password...or only users who used the imeem option?

~JustSimplyMe~

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HPV Vaccine for BC female students Posted: 9/10/2009 10:29:15 PM
Yea I noticed that it was an American link, it was just a little bit of food for thought as to why men haven't been offered the vaccine.

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