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VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

Things you don't miss about being in a RELATIONSHIP Posted: 6/24/2007 4:22:02 PM
"but I do not miss his farts in beds " heheheh! here here to that! I do not miss trying to be what I thought he needed. I do not miss apologizing for being myself. I do not miss walking on eggshells.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 50 (view)

ok ok something fun Posted: 6/24/2007 4:14:29 PM
An ***hole Meter. And legislation making it illegal for those who score dangerously high on it to appear in public. Minimum wage fast food employees will thank me, just you wait! Make politicians use them. Daily. Make a drug that satisfies addictions without providing whatever it is you're addicted to. if those fail, i vote for the piss-car

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 617 (view)

Dating Someone On Welfare Posted: 3/9/2007 5:34:31 PM
There are many people out there who abuse the welfare system. I grew up in a household based on social assistance, and let me tell you, it is NOT the easy way out for a single mother. My mom chose to stay on welfare and be available for us kids when we needed it, and man were there EVER a lot of times that we did. If that's what this woman is doing, then all the power to her. From the way the OP read, it seems like it's almost a better choice for someone like her. Hopefully as her kids grow older and more independant, she will be able to find herself a job even if it does mean her household income goes down. As for myself dating someone on Welfare, I wouldn't hold it against them, but their goals and the steps they take towards those goals would determine whether or not I could stay with that person. Welfare is a great resource offers to people who need it. I'm not interested in people who are willing to abuse that, and wouldn't put up with it if I saw it in action.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

What's the Most embarrasing Thing That happened to You During Sex? Posted: 3/8/2007 2:46:34 AM
mag1ck_man's story made me FULL-ON CACKLE! I love laughs like those! What a great thread... As far as the OP, though, I got nothin! Well...one time me and my bf at the time were going at it on a futon. We got too close to one side, and the whole thing flipped on top of us! Scored myself a sprained ankle out of that one! ;) Imagine trying to explain the bandage! It was not pretty...

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 88 (view)

artistic/creative people and relationships Posted: 3/2/2007 2:38:40 PM
As a theatrical actor, I always find it much easier to get along with creative types: there's much more to talk about, much more we agree on, and it's a very comfortable relationship. Non-creative types are not necessarily too different from me, but different from me in such a way that it often makes it hard to even put up with their idiosyncrases, let alone try and love them. I don't rule out the possibility of a non-creative person, (opposites attract?) but I'm pretty sure an artist would be a better choice for me.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 64 (view)

what has to be for you to stick around Posted: 2/28/2007 11:48:35 PM
humour, is number one. If he can't laugh about life, it'll never get off the ground. After that, loyalty. I'll forgive a lot, and I like to hope that my match will be able to do the same.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 15 (view)

Why Am I Ignored? Posted: 2/28/2007 11:29:08 PM
You know what, I like your profile. Lots of stuff about you, in my opinion the confession about confidence issues makes you a bit more accessible, cause Lord knows us ladies have enough of them, and why shouldn't we be honest about it, right? The pics are debateable. I would definitely say no passed out pics, drinking is ok, but not if it was taken after the happy-buzzed point, lol! Other than that, you are very photogenic, and easy to look at, which is always good. If you aren't getting replies to your emails, I would say the problem lies with what you're saying. For most ladies, it isn't enough for a guy simply to be polite. Snag our interest. Make sure we know you've read our profile, give us a reason to make the effort. People talk about wanting a significant other with common interests and then don't bother to look for them on dating sites like this. Also, what kind of women are you messaging? It's a safe bet that women on a ridiculous number of favorites lists (think triple digits) will be pretty hard to get ahold of. You said that you messaged a lot of different kind of women, and that's good, but make sure they know that you messaged them for them, and not just because you checked out their pics and found them passable, or whatever. Dating is tricky, but you're halfway there. Don't give up! EDIT PS: you're not thin. I dated a guy who was 6'2" and 130 lbs. You're definitely average, hun! ;)

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

PARTY GIRLS HIDING BEHIND ALCOHOL? Posted: 2/28/2007 11:18:27 PM
why does blame need to be assigned in this kind of situation at all? Assumably, a girl wouldn't need to hide behind the excuse of alchohol unless something bad came of it (STD, pregnancy, ruined rep, etc), and once something bad does happen because of drunken actions, why can't everyone involved assume responsibility? The drunker one shouldn't have gotten that lit, if they knew they were prone to doing stupid stuff. The more sober one should have been smart enough not to let it happen. Excuses are just that. People have no one to blame but themselves for getting themselves into bad situations.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 80 (view)

Why do you not reply to IM? Posted: 2/28/2007 10:58:42 PM
I'm surprised no one's mentioned the aggravating accordion sound!!! If I wanted to hear accordion music all night long I would phone my grandmother! lol! That being said, I personally just ran into too many problems with the IM box, and shut it off. Everything the ladies above posted as well as other things. I don't appreciate being blasted by someone because I declined an invitation to IM. "No" is a valid option for everyone here, and many women don't feel like dealing with the backlash we get if we turn someone down. So we shortcut. Deal with it. Bottom line: the women declining your IM's or emails are obviously not the love of your life anyway, so why waste time over it?

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

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Loneliness and Being Alone: Your Thoughts on a Man's Perspective Posted: 2/28/2007 10:46:40 PM
Guardian, you are so right. Now what us lonely, down-in-the-dumps people who have lost sight of how amazingly simple life can be, need to know is how to remember what you have said when we need to. It's fantastic that you've realized what you have, but can you really keep sight of it and let it comfort you late at night in a big empty bed? There've been many times when I couldn't. I think that is true happiness for singles.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

the jig is up ladies Posted: 2/28/2007 10:40:24 PM
I did that once. I swore up and down I would never cheat, or help someone else cheat. Then someone broke up with me, and when he started dating another girl, it didn't make one iota of difference. It was a huge mistake I'll have to live with, because I know deep down that I didn't give one rusty f*ck about what I had said, or what this poor new girl felt. To some extent, I felt our relationship was more special, and that he broke up with me before he was ready, and I was just showing him the error of his ways, and eventually he would realize how perfect we were for each other and come back to me. But mostly it was plain old selfishness. I wanted him, so I took him as often as I wanted. I've beat myself up about that for a long time, but I realize now, that a lot of it was him too. He had no right to keep both of us on the string and allow things to happen. Your friend is JUST as in the wrong as his women are. They are being selfish, but so is he. If he valued just one of these women as much as he SAYS he does, he wouldn't have done that with any one fo them. The two exes are in the wrong, but the OP's buddy is just wrong for stringing three women along for his own pleasure.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

Hey Ladies, do you bother....?? Posted: 2/28/2007 10:33:18 PM
You might change your profile picture and see if that gets his attention. Sometimes, we just get numb to seeing the same pictures over and over. I completely agree, and it's a good idea! I don't know, there isn't much you can assume about guys until after you've messaged them. The important thing for everyone, male or female, to remember on this site, is that nothing will happen unless you make a move. Even if it's timidly adding the person to your favorites, or changing your profile pic.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 90 (view)

Treat them mean,keep them keen or be a gentleman?? Posted: 2/25/2007 7:12:53 AM
Honestly, it takes a bit of both. Being a gentleman is a good place to start, and always a good safe place to refer to when things get sticky (like, you spilled your tomato soup on her white designer dress on the second date--eep!), but you need to liven things up a bit, both at the beginning and the end with a little judicious jackassery. Perfect example: A guy I work with, who's in a committed relationship, and it's not hard to see why. He can be a complete butthead, and during our shifts we argue, laugh at each other and compete, but he's always there to help if I can't lift something, or cover a shift that conficts with my school schedule, or just listen to my problems. If that's the way he is with his girlfriend, then I am decidedly jealous! We girls like a challenge, and while we want to be treated right, we also don't like doormats.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 462 (view)

Is Intelligence A Curse In Relationships? Posted: 2/25/2007 6:36:35 AM
A gifted child is different and may need some assistance with socialization, and if they are very gifted, they will have read that and understood their need very early on. I beg to differ. A truly gifted child doesn't understand that their social behavior isn't typical, and it's because they are far smarter than the average bear. All they know is that, their peers don't seem to like them very much. Why do you think the geniuses of history tend to be such crazies? If they don't understand social convention as adults, they certainly won't as children. As for the OP, I think it's more of a curse to those seeking a relationship. I know, as a pretty intelligient person, I don't want someone dramatically less intelligient than myself, but I also don't want someone who is intelligient and flaunts it. That makes it pretty hard to find the right mix of sauce and substance, doesn't it? ;P

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

What drives you crazy? Posted: 1/17/2007 9:24:02 PM
I love the little things guys do when they just can't handle it anymore, whether it's the hip grab in doggie style, or the hair pull...but when they get a bit more rough just before they go...that just makes me go crazy!

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

Humor in Emails Posted: 1/16/2007 3:52:31 AM
creative punctuation!!!! ;D

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 68 (view)

Just how strict is your boyfriend? And...where do you draw the line? Posted: 1/16/2007 3:51:09 AM
this entire thread is frickin bizarre...I swear I could hear the Twilight Zone theme the entire time. A) Cuddle's, if you had any self-esteem at all, you'd know from the start what to say when he tried to force you to do something you didn't want to you. B) Jeep, you aren't the sharpest knife in the block either, if your recent posts are any indication. So I don't see where you get off calling HER crazy. If it didn't hurt me so much inside, I'd say you two were a perfect match.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

Why do women exhibit such severe pms symptoms so early on in a relationship? Posted: 1/16/2007 3:38:09 AM
dude--is this the same chick who says she's going to get pregnant with or without you? why hasn't it occured to you that you've posted two SOS threads in the mere three months you've been with her? TAKE A HINT!

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

love has deep problems Posted: 1/16/2007 3:20:08 AM
erggg...^^^ was random... Wexus, I'm sure you didn't mean your post as an attack, like you said, but WOW that's sure the way it read! "(You wouldn't even say what you were talking about -the THING that was or couldn't be NAMED...NOT AN ATTACK- Just that you didn't say what it was or how old he is etc...)" what didn't I say? He's only a year and a half older than me. Why is that relevant? "Do you keep him fed just enough so that he & you don't really blossom - Always in the "Budding Mode"....? Time to face facts you don't know him.." Keep him fed? What does that even mean? I'll be clear about our relationship. We are friends. We used to be best friends. Before that we were f*** buddies. Before that we dated. Happy now? "You may want to consider helping him by researching the proper place for him to go into & pay for it all...(that may bankrupt you)..." Great idea! oh wait a minute...hello STUDENT LOAN! "...& for you to make excuses for yourself as to why you & he hook up & POWWOW!" way to keep your post from being an attack. good job. The last time I checked, spending time with a friend, who I care about dearly didn't automatically constitute having little secret meetings, and the use of the word 'hook-up' is just offensive. For the last time, my side of this relationship is completely platonic. While I can't do a damn thing about the way he feels, I don't let him make mistakes that will return to haunt both of us. "I really want what's best for your friend since you mentioned that this is a VERY serious thing - HIS deep desires to leave planet earth...." Thank you. In conclusion, I haven't spent any time alone with him since I posted this. No luck on getting him to see a counsellor, because of that fact. Still trying to figure out how to bring up the subject without him shooting it down. He is an excellent actor, and as such, also a good manipulator. He is a very flawed person, but I have compassion for him and I know that he at least thinks he loves me. I really do want whats best for him. I'm trying. Thanks for all the brain food, although a lot of it was pretty tough to chew.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 199 (view)

Tattoos on women turn on or turn off? just curious Posted: 1/16/2007 2:51:25 AM
ok, for all the guys said that women were a thing of beauty and tattoo's just f'cked that up, well, a good tattoo should mean something. That's true for everyone, and isn't that a celebration of the person's soul, and experience, and just as beautiful in it's own right? I mean random butterflies and cupcakes on a girl's ass is just stupid, and they'll regret them when they're eighty anyways. Let karma do it's job. I have two tattoos, both of them representing ideas, and people in my life. My first is a rather large stargazer lily on my left shoulder because it's my favorite flower and for my neice, and the second is a purple Virgo symbol on my wrist which is a memorial for my mom. When a tattoo is done for the right reasons, it can be beautiful, and any guy who can't see that doesn't know what he's missing.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 48 (view)

When do you consider yourself to be in a serious relationship Posted: 1/16/2007 1:18:07 AM
'en one side starts talking about the feelings and commitment ... and the other side doesn't run' couldn't have said it better myself! For me, it's when he says I love you on his own. I think those words are too special to just be thrown around, and I won't say it until I know he feels the same.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 43 (view)

dudes don't want a crazy bitch! Posted: 1/15/2007 8:22:01 PM
revokd, I'm pretty sure I'm not a nutjob. In any case, the guys I've left behind still accept my calls, and I've never exhibited most of the signs from msg 30. well...I am in theatre (gulp) but I don't think I'm certifiable, the way most of the replies described. kasandriod, I love your whole post! Everyone should pass a spelling test before being allowed on the threads, lol! I see your point about guys wanting a doormat in actuality. Honestly, I just wanted to know for curiosity. I've never really had any bad experiences with psycho women (obviously, lol) and it always made me curious, when men on the threads, or their profiles went off about not wanting a crazy b*tch.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

Who know women better? ( Bachelors or Married man?) Posted: 1/14/2007 4:49:38 AM
neither! they're men!

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 67 (view)

Dressing/Undressing In Front Of Your BF/GF/SO Posted: 1/14/2007 4:43:22 AM
I think most of the replies summed it up perfectly. Probably a mixture of insecurity, and modesty. On a scale of one to ten, though, she's up there! Like an 8.7, if ten is "utter prude." "I consider it my solemn duty as a man, to get naked in front of women as much as possible." LMFAO!

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

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dudes don't want a crazy bitch! Posted: 1/14/2007 4:36:35 AM
see THAT kind of reply is why I posted this thread! wtf does that mean?? What makes you guys go, "this girl is a crazy ****, and needs to take her medication"?

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

Does I NEED YOU mean I LOVE YOU? Posted: 1/14/2007 4:33:35 AM
It means "I think I'm in love with you, and the chemical imbalances in my brain are making me think that infatuation is the same as love, or neediness." When a guy says, "I need you," run as fast and far away as you can, because no good can ever come of that.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

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dudes don't want a crazy bitch! Posted: 1/14/2007 4:31:49 AM
So what do you guys mean when you don't want a lady who's "psychotic" or "neurotic." I can understand anybody not wanting to be with a literal mental patient, but I'm sure many of you guys have exes of normal intelligience with a techinically average level of sanity who you consider to be complete cosmonauts. What is it that makes a girl "crazy" or "psychotic"?

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

A Hypothetical Question Regarding Sex and People Posted: 1/12/2007 4:42:53 PM
"If there was no sex between men and women,the female race would have been long gone. Unless of course we would still need woman to reproduce. In that case we'd have women farms." um...actually, it would be the exact opposite. Biologically speaking, females have an unevolved ability to reproduce asexually. If we kept you irritating men folk around at all, it would be for sex, and if sex wasn't a factor, there'd be no use for you. Too bad for you.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Emoticons. Posted: 1/10/2007 10:20:32 PM
(_> <_) beer farts.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Starting The New Year On The Right Foot? Posted: 1/1/2007 7:52:58 AM
my goals are all career-oriented...I want to be in a completely different place in my life by this time next year, and I want to have furthered my career discernably.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 103 (view)

Do you ladies really do this? Posted: 12/31/2006 5:49:21 AM
I agree with message thirteen. I think the non-cliche tests that non-psycho women use have more to do with passively observing how the guy reacts and acts in certain situations, than it does with placing the guy in a situation through the women's retarded behavior and seeing what he does.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 218 (view)

Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat? Posted: 12/31/2006 5:44:06 AM
this reminded me of my friend's parents... his dad doesn't wear his wedding ring because his mom is a smoker and promised to quit when they got married, but didn't. He told her that until she quit for good, he wouldn't wear his wedding ring...Of course she still hasn't, and he won't wear it, but they still have as happy and stable a marriage as you can hope for these days. So the to-quit-or-not-to-quit issue doesn't have to be a deal breaker. Personally, if the person that I KNEW I wanted to spend the rest of my life asked me to quit, I would tell him straight up: "you had better be The One. Because if you're not, and I quit, you won't survive the coming month." And as I do not particularly enjoy murder of loved ones, I would rather not have to deal with that. :)

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

Would you want to know? Posted: 12/30/2006 2:53:49 PM
this sounds exactly like me and my ex... it sounds like you already know what you should do, and that's kick the ****er to the curb! He left you years ago! He may think that he has feelings for you, but what he's doing amounts to a cheater bootycalling you. And you and I both know you're better than that. And definitely don't tell the GF...she already suspects or she wouldn't be forbidding him to talk to you. Plus she may feel you're a little too close to the situation, and think you're trying to ruin their relationship for your own gain, or something equally stupid like that... Let her find out in her own time. People don't like to be told their world is falling down around them...for some reason they need to let it happen and hit rock bottom before they can start dealing with it. Good luck, OP! Let my banana dance for you!

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

I really need some advice Posted: 12/30/2006 2:43:11 PM
renegade, you have some really good advice here...and as irritating as I find ya472's opinions sometimes, his message 52 is probably correct. You need more evidence and you need to make sure that even though you've gone home to the UK, Ann is going to continue this to the bitter end. This man MUST be taken away from those he's hurting...and I worry that now that you've gone home, things will slide back to the way they were before, especially given Betty's bad reception to the news. Please please don't let this die, for Angie's sake, and for the minor's... = me right now....

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 60 (view)

Ladies What Do You think Of Mens Profiles That List Their Toys,Cars,Boats,Etc. Posted: 12/30/2006 2:29:50 PM
"If a guy is REALLY into something he owns (say a motorcycle) then I don't see a problem because it's part of his lifestyle. If a guy lists every single thing of worth he owns to try and attract attention, that's lame." EXACTLY. Like, having a passion for boating, or motorcycles, or whatever is totally cool. And I'd love to see pics about that. But when every pic is a different type of vehicle, and there's one pic of the dude himself, and there isn't an iota of personality in either the pic or the profile... I run screaming into the night... I'm not after your money. If I was, I wouldn't be looking for it here... I like to know that you're independant, and have your shit together...but no one needs the whole nine yards.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 60 (view)

Who is more responsible for everyday stuff Men Or Women ? Posted: 12/28/2006 4:28:15 PM
Ok, Sparticuss, so, what you're saying is that childcare is not a job, or at least leaving the child to it's own devices, entertaining itself while the woman relaxes (often times AFTER periods of hard work taking care of children, home, and work) is not considered work. Let me ask you this? Why are child care workers subsidized by the Canadian government? The stingiest of all corporations wouldn't put out dime one if taking care of kids (whether or NOT they were being well behaved) is a FULL TIME JOB. One that often doesn't allow you to have breaks. And if I may remind you, you said yourself you don't have kids, so what do you know about childcare anyway? How about you become a registered caretaker and care for three or four young children at the same time, and then tell me it's not work.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 89 (view)

Do readers prefer readers, and for good reason? Posted: 12/27/2006 9:25:32 PM
As a big-on-books nerd like everyone else on this thread, I totally say yes, I want someone who reads. "But there are limits to the conversations I can have with a non-reader." this is exactly why, OP... I love conversation, and people who don't read are limited when they don't read. I read a little of everything, with favorite authors in crime fiction, fantasy, sci fi, and drama (oooh, Timothy Findley...), and non-fiction books on everything from theatre histroy, dog training, science, to parapsych... for someone who comes from a family of big readers, the idea of dating someone who doesn't read is a little scary. Also readers tend to be better writers (bad typing skills is a huge pet peeve for me), they're obviously smarter, and better speakers, as well. Plus, when a dude is a reader, it says to me that they have times when they slow down and relax without needing something to stimulate their senses for them, like tv. Reading rocks.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

Smiling on the street Posted: 12/27/2006 8:57:27 PM
"By the way, I love the word "onomatopoeia". But it sounds sort of painful, for some reason. Maybe something you'd need to get removed." LOL, TearsAreCool! I always enjoy your posts, even if the simile one totally blew over my head! Whatever, I'm short. I used to know a guy named Yan Zhao. Me and my friends thought his name sounded like an onomatapoeia, so we'd whisper that to each other everytime we heard his name. sigh good times...

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 54 (view)

Who is more responsible for everyday stuff Men Or Women ? Posted: 12/27/2006 7:45:10 PM
Sparticuss: Who told you that every household on earth includes a mother who raises kids, watches soap, and ****es when asked to do a "Man's Job," and a long-suffering father figure who brings home the bacon, works long hours at a physical job and comes home to watch the game? Welcome to the twentyfirst century! There are tons of women who do men's work, men who do women's work, and members of both sexes who play mother AND father to their kids! Honestly, you keep coming up with more and more A) contradictions of yourself, B) hypocritical statements, and C) parochial viewpoints! It seems like the only reason you are on forums at all is to play devil's advocate to everything, and not particularly verbosely, either.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 46 (view)

Who is more responsible for everyday stuff Men Or Women ? Posted: 12/27/2006 1:57:08 PM
"If a man is sick the ridicule of "the bigger the man the bigger the baby" is deafening. It's so bad that men often don't seek medical treatment for fatal conditions untill it's too late and they are dying." You make it sound as if you men are going extinct! Ok, don't get me wrong. I love the dudes! I love almost everything about them. But honestly, if you guys out there claim to be dying from your own pissing contests, then you're even more pathetic than I thought. Honestly, Sparticuss! Everything that comes out of your mouth... How about you look at my previous post another way. Girls--DEAL WITH IT. Guys--have to be mothered back to wellness.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 45 (view)

Who is more responsible for everyday stuff Men Or Women ? Posted: 12/27/2006 1:51:14 PM
Squirrly, here here! I think you totally got to the root of Sparticuss' problem! "Thinking outside the circle, looking at the FULL picture." Now if THAT isn't the biggest pile of BS of you've ever written, Sparticuss! Every single post you do is about how all women don't look at the full picture, and how we always complain about stuff, and we're not nearly as sweet as we think we are, and all this other crap... If you ever looked at the big picture, you would never say the things you do. This is called--wait for it...HYPOCRISY! you know what? You act exactly like everything you hate in us, with the sole difference being an extra y chromosome. Way to go, buddy.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

Who is more responsible for everyday stuff Men Or Women ? Posted: 12/26/2006 9:38:09 PM
"How long since any of you women - changed a tyre .....well, I helped my mum change a tire when I was a kid... - replaced a roofing tile....ok. I have never done that. - mowed a lawn.......Last month. Out of my three roommates, I was the only one who could. - hung a door........I helped hang a door for the set of my last show, A Christmas Carol - laid a carpet or other flooring.......I think I was two at the time; Grampa's add-on. - installed a bath......never done that. - shampooed a carpet........in my old house, before I moved out. - laid concrete paving.........this summer actually. My brother was laying a new driveway while I lived with him and helped him when ever I wasn't workign one of two full-time jobs. - built a carport......never done that. - repaired juniors bicycle......I used to fix my own bike when I was a kid. - tutored the kids" ......I have neices and nephews. There's always something one of them needs help with. My mom used to say something interesting: that for centuries men had been the bread-winners. But women, historically, raised children, which as all you parents know, doesn't exactly allow you to have sick days. When your young child needs care, a woman instinctively suppresses her own wants and feelings to take care of that child. And the fact that millenia of those instincts are so ingrained in women's psyche, makes us naturally more responsible. We're better multitaskers. Just food for thought.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

Smiling on the street Posted: 12/26/2006 9:22:14 PM
interestingly, if you go to Vancouver, or any of the large West Coast cities, people are pretty unfriendly and don't greet each other on the street...but as soon as you go to Vancouver Island, the people are COMPLETELY different. My roomies is from the mainland and notcies this all the time, because someone will say hi to us, or good morning, while we're walking somewhere, and she'll avoid eye contact, and I'll just say good morning back.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

Are you a DREAM CHASER or do they stay in bed with you? Posted: 12/26/2006 8:36:59 PM
I think dreams of what you can do with your life ar emeant to be chased...dreams concerning a man or woman, though...I don't know. I would rather discover the guys I meet as I meet them, rather than search for one guy with all the qualities of some mysterious dream guy. That's a little like looking for a needle in a haystack, right? "Can't seem to ever remember my dreams till oneday....poof....it hits me! Been there, dreamed that." that's happened to me before...cool feeling!

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

Gah .. competing for attention... with my cat Posted: 12/26/2006 8:27:22 PM
HAHA, oh man, Girly Woman, thats funny! I love those moments!

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 28 (view)

why are we so happy the blame everything on the opposite sex? Posted: 12/26/2006 8:22:41 PM
Summerskies: true, I haven't. And I'm sure if I do, I will go through the whole "global warming is caused by the hot air being spewed from that jackass' gaping maw" phase of depression. lol! "VivaLaPinto, Were they barking spiders?" well...no...but you could tell they are planning my demise! You can see it shining through eight beady, evil, compassionless little orbs! Spiders are EVIL! They should have everything blamed on them, not the opposite gender!

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 385 (view)

Would you sign a prenuptial agreement? Posted: 12/26/2006 12:49:09 PM
Maybe this is just me, and I'm either immature, or old-fashioned, but if the man I was about to married asked me to sign a prenup, I would seriously question if I knew who it was I was marrying. To me, marraige is forever. I won't get married until I find someone I can see myself living with for the rest of my life (not The One, but someone I coud feasibly grow old with), and once I do, I'll be damned if I don't get my diapers changed right along side that same person. To me, divorce is not an option, and prenups seem to invite it, or at least facilitate it. And that makes me sad.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 4 (view)

why are we so happy the blame everything on the opposite sex? Posted: 12/26/2006 12:41:47 PM
hmmm, you may have something there, boys... but then again, if we segregate, who's going to kill my spiders for me?

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

“Pursuit of Happiness” Posted: 12/26/2006 12:39:40 PM
rawr, double post.

VivaLaPinto

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 15 (view)

“Pursuit of Happiness” Posted: 12/26/2006 12:39:19 PM
I haven't seen the movie yet, but it is my first choice right now. Just watching the Oprah special made me cry. The man went from living in subway bathrooms, to being a multimillionaire. Now what, if not that, says to everyone, "YOU CAN DO IT, if you just work hard enough" And if that wasn't enough, he did his best to give the same opportunities to those in his situation! We should all be so generous! The real Chris Gardner? One of my heroes now. The movie seems so inspirational. It's one of those I'm going to buy as soon as it's out.

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