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.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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NORTHPORT/FT MYERS AND BEYOND Posted: 8/11/2009 8:01:52 PM
Thanks for hosting another one of your Famous Parties !! I having been out in so long and am looking forward to seeing you again... I'm sure ths party will be one to remember just like all of your parties..fun,fun,and more fun!!! I will be bringing a few non-pof people to add to the fun! See ya there girlfriend

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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message problem Posted: 4/21/2009 10:49:50 AM
Thanks for your response! I did review all the restrictions and links.....like I said, maybe it did have too many characters????? Unfortunately though, I tried the back pages but unfortunately it has disappeared. I guess I'll know better next time I write something that took alot of thought to save a copy!!!!!! Thanks again Cowboy

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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message problem Posted: 4/21/2009 10:20:09 AM
I sent a messege to someone and it said: message Sent!!! It is not showing in my 'sent messages' I know this sounds like all the others but I have a different question about it. How can I relocate that particular message I sent now????? I can't find it anywhere!! It may have contained too many characters...not sure......but, now I can't even find it to at least have the chance to 'fix' it. I checked all restrictions he had posted...none apply to me. Can you help me?

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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North Port/Port Charlotte/Ft.Myers Singles Party-October 18, 2008 Posted: 10/15/2008 2:10:22 PM
Hi Laurene, so nice to see that you are back!!! Welcome Back my dear friend. I am not really positive yet if I can really make it to your party but I am doing everything I can to try to be able to attend a party hosted by you. There is no doubt this one will be great and full of lots of fun just like your others....always a Blast By the way girlfriend, you look absolutely beautiful........great new look! I am looking forward to seeing you and the old gang again.........but, if I am unable to change my existing schedule and find I am unable to attend.....I hope you have a wonderful time and am sure everyone is excited about seeing you knowing you host the very best Get-Togethers!!! Smiles, Kathy

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 170 (view)

Have you ever waited for a love? Posted: 5/29/2008 1:36:14 AM
OP, oh my goodness!!!! i am embarressed and angry with myself because yes, I did exactly that....... The worse part was that he had just figured that I was still sitting home witing for him to "Miss me" and finally come to his senses and come after me like a knight on a shining horse to swoop me up in his arms and the two of us go off in to the night and live happilly afterafter....Well, that's a fairy-tale and I now have opened my eyes and see things as they really are!!!! he had even gotten married to some woman in the short time that we were separated (only 3 months) and he showed up at my door telling me how much he missed me and what a big mistake he realized that he had made by letting me go!!!! Well, I refused to pick-up our relationship where it had ended and jump right back into bed with him....I told him that I would not allow him to use me as his own personal band-aid to help him feel all better whenever he is feeling bad and going thru another divorce.....I am worth more than that!!! I told him, Listen.you dumped Me for this woman and you actually married her, now you really think you can come back into my life because YOU now realize and remember how compatiable we actually were together, how We never argued, the tons of laughter we shared together along with our romance, quite times all alone just doing nothing but still feeling complete just being with each other, how 'our love-life ' was great because 'we' seemed to fit together so perfectly, like we were made for one another!!! You did not appreciate all the little things (and the big ones) that I was constantly doing for him just to make him feel LOVED and Cared about without ever having to wonder or worry about whether my feelings of true love were changing even a tiny little bit!!!! I'm glad I was able to add some stability and reassurance to your life that you, my dear were able to truly experience and enjoy that magical feeling of being so totally Loved by me with all my heart and soul. I say this only because of what you have said to me when you suddenly just showed-up at my door obviously assuming that I never moved on with my life after we split-up. I often wonder if you're ego was over-inflated when you found out that I never bothered to go out and search for another guy! now, here it is...another year has passed and you have once again come to me for help with this divorce.asking me to help you find another house so you and your daughter can move back to this coast and WE can be enough again!!!! You know that old saying: Hurt me once..shame on you,,hurt me twice..shame on you!!! My waiting Days are over!!!!!! Why give a man such power and control over your heart and your life??? He obviously thinks it's just fine for Him to keep going out and having his dessert and eating it too!!!! Don't make the same mistake I did and allow this man to contact you thru the years whether it be thru emails, texts or phone calls. It is a lousy dirty feeling to know you are 'his little Secret', but, expected to always be available if HE should suddenly MISS you again...LOL What a crock of bull sh**! I was living in this stupid fairy Tale of a life for the past two years, always alone, wasting time that I'll never get back again because he had me so convinced that he really was madly in Love with me and losing me is what made him finally realize just how much he missed him.... as for me.....Unless he shows up at my door with a diamond ring for my left hand and shows me his new Divorce papers....he should stay away from me forever. it's sad that he rushed into this new marriage and is living a life of total misery and actually has to see a psychriatist and a Therapist just to be able to deal with his miserable, stressed-out life and the feeling of being trapped and used by this woman and her grown sons while all the while now realizing that when he let me go..he lost a good thing!!! Don't make the mistake I made and let your man have your life and heart in his hands to control and keep on hurting you over and over again. Always remember this....You are a Somebody...God never took time out to make a nobody!!!! respect yourself first and foremost...then and only then will you notice how others will start to show you all the respect + more that you deserve! the faster you turn your back on him...the faster he'll get the message that you're no longer hisdoor-mat to wipe his shoes on anymore!!!! tell him to get to stepping on down the road because the 'old' you doesn't live here anymore! Good luck to you sweetie and please..protect your heart first and foremost...you're #ONE!!!! Just sharing my mistake I had made and telling you how you can pick yourself up, brush yourself off and get out there strutting your stuff on the beaches...Life is short..go out and enjoy it!

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 98 (view)

I give up... Posted: 4/19/2008 8:04:00 PM
Hello and much gratitude and sincere love and respect to you as a United States Marine that served and protected all of us during this awful crisis in Iraq. You fought so my children, my grandchildren, me and all my loved ones were able to live our lives feeling safe and protected and sleep in our own beds safely and owe it all to you!!! Kudos to you..our military are and always have been MY Personal Heros! Thank you for all you went through for the rest of us!!!! God Bless America! Now, back to this forum.....Please do not be hurt or angry with me for what I am able to say....... You spend two full days with this woman, drove her to the store and even helped her with a little cash. Great, nice guy! Then, SHE invited You to come back to her placeand even cooked dinner for you. You stated you were a gentleman, watched movies, played boardgames and cards, hugged alittle and had some intimate kissing (not jumping into bed to get you some) you then left that night feeling secure in yourself that you had treated her with respect. The next call thanking her for dinner and an enjoyable evening. Really seemed to me that you did the most gentlemanly thing. Next, she invites YOU over again for the next day..you bought or is that supposed to state "brought" her out to dinner? (not a big deal anyway) fact is; you supplied the Dinner, you both seemed to enjoy each other company as you both watched movies together and again you left for home that night still being the gentleman and not forcing sex from her! Again, SHE is the one that mentioned getting together the next day!!!! HMMMMM, so why are people acting like you were in the wrong? Sure sounds like she was doing the inviting!!! Now, please don't think I am putting My military hero down but......my opinion or 'advice', even call it just my thoughts about all this. She was obviously interested in you at first..that's obvious to all I am sure but, as unfortunate as this sounds (and it's happened to me, yes, I must admitt it) She then got scared, insecure or perhaps..she isn't really ready for a serious relationship just yet! I believe this woman must have originally had thoughts that, 'hey, maybe he is the one' but she's not sure of her willingness or capability of maintaining such a close loving relationship now that she has experienced what it feels like to actually have a special man in her life at this time.....even though it was her idea to see you everyday...I bet she got scared and was actually being Very Honest with you in the texts when she stated it wasn't anything you did...it's her feeling of being "retarded Emtionally". She may indeed have scared herself because she couldn't stop thinking about you all the time and it sounds as if she has not gotten over her last relationship..she is still dealing with a lot of "emotional Baggage", I can imagine that you were confused at this point but...she did try to tell you honestly that she is not ready emotionally to enter into a committed relationship because she is scared and just not ready to give her whole heart and soul to another man just yet! Don't hold it against her that she is scared emotionally 'as well as the fact that she admitted her feeling about this is serious, sad, and She is AShamed that she is not quite ready to let go of her old demons that have caused her this awful and sad position she is in! She did try though to see if she was ready...unfortunately, she's just not ready! Don't take it seriously or personally. My advice is.....give her her space....give her her alone time to actually think about you and then..only then after not hearing from you or seeing you..she may actually want to see you again but........you must be in control this time!!!!! Do not 'crowd her' as some woman call it, never let her think you're lonely and needy....You, Mr. USA Marine, are a strong independant men that does not need to be with any woman everyday!!! You have your own life! She will definately admire you for that and most likely find you even more desirable when you are not always available.....give her time to decide if she misses you or if maybe"the Chemistry" just wasn't there! If that's the case..no chemistry...that is neither one's fault!! there should then be no hard feelings and maybe you will both develope a Great Friendship! Please promise me that you will not do anything more to act needy or like you really need her in your life!!! Lots of women LOVE men that have served and protected our Country! We respect you guys.....and have the strongest admiration for you!!!! There is a special woman out there somewhere just wondering where you are! I wish you nothing less the Best.....

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

Heartbroken Posted: 4/19/2008 3:40:33 PM
The reason men and women do this is because sweet innocent people like you allow them to do anything they want. I am not saying you should change the way you are but now that you're aware of what can happen...Look for any Red Flags....keep your "eyes" and "ears" open...while protecting your HEART!!! (keep legs closed and panties on for a longer period of time) People like this guy are just out to 'score'. Men love the chase...once they catch their prey the excitement of the chase is gone so they move on! Of course, Not all men are like this so it's going to be a tough job for an inexperienced young woman to weed out the Users..but...it's something we all have to constantly look-out for ....Protect your heart first and formost. Try not to jump into bed so fast next time...Wait awhile...let him show you his true colors before you get all caught-up in passion with all the ecstasy and lose touch with reality. This particular type of men (or women) are very charming and will tell you anything you want to hear just so they can get what they want..... BEWARE You stated that he later told you he found you repulsive and he called you nasty names.....Hon, he was just trying to hurt your feelings so you wouldn't 'bother' him anymore by calling or texting. Do not let his nasty remarks hurt you...afterall, he didn't find you too repulsive when he was getting him some. Did he? Remember......he is a predator, you were his prey, he captured you, had his fun, chase is over, he moves on! The End....

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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what should i do? Posted: 4/19/2008 3:12:34 PM
I think since it's obviously on your mind troubling you then you have an obligation (morally, that is) to tell someone your feelings about this guy. You don't say how strongly you felt about this young girl you were dating but I sense you did care about her and if not for the age difference you would not have broken-up. Yes, you did break the law by dating a minor when you were 18 yrs. old but,,,,, the 21 year old "RAPIST" is really the crminal here. Don't let this creep go unpunished by you staying silent just because you think women aren't nice to you anymore. Think about all the innocent girls and women out there who may someday become a victim of this Sicko? "Do the right thing.........help other innocent females live safe lives as well as helping your exgirlfriend get the justice due her!!!

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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She prefers to have her age Unlisted Posted: 2/27/2008 4:34:30 PM
Why lie about your age???? Better to be honest upfront then to later be found out to be a liar! Most people want to meet someone they have something in common with...their generation! I have never lied and never intend to lie either. Here I am...take me as I am or leave me! Your choice! Just my opinion.....

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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rude emails that spoil your POF experience Posted: 2/27/2008 4:14:04 PM
I don't get many rude emails at all but...recently I did get 2 messages that were rude. One guy accused me of being 'rude' to him because I hadn't replied soon enough for his liking. (I do try to reply to all messages but sometimes (most times) I recieve something like 20 or more messages a day and can not reply to all of them that day. I do try to return to them within a decent period ( a few days) at least. This guy told me I was just looking for attention or sympathy (that remark was made because I had kept my friends updated on my shoulder problem). I tried to email him back and apologize/explain but HE had me blocked by then. I felt bad that he had such a low opinion of me but....oh well, can't win them all! The other email I recieved was all about SEX!!! he was so vulgar..what a pig! But, no problem, just Blocked him and he is now history. For the most part I find that the men on here are gentlemen and do enjoy corresponding with them all. Would I delete my profile because of a couple of bad messages? No way! Like I said, most of the men on here are just looking to find a friend, partner or a date just like us! Your friend probably justs needs some time to cool-off and she'll probably come back because POF is full of wonderful people!

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 2/18/2008 5:55:46 AM
Cocytus...... I am not bitter....I was married for most of my life since age 18 and have been a widow now for almost 18 years....I know in my heart and soul that "My Husband" never cheated on me!!!!! Thank you very much!!!!!!! yes, one man,,,,,,cheated on me...that was someone from last year! He is the loser...not me! And, these icons are here to use....... Bitter???? Me?????? I am in no way bitter....just wiser!!! I have a lot of self-respect and I expect "respect" from others because I deserve it!!!

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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Confusion About His Motive Posted: 2/17/2008 2:58:55 PM
Oops, looks like I was a little late in posting my advice or opinion!!! you got your answer Babe!!! HE WAS LETTING YOU DOWN IN A 'COWARD'S WAY' GOOD LUCK AND KEEP LOOKING....plenty of fish in the sea and here on POF! Now, make this loser just a memory>>>>>

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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Confusion About His Motive Posted: 2/17/2008 2:47:14 PM
Well, it seems to me that maybe you're leaving something out!!! Like, have you been clingy or perhaps you're way ahead of him in this relationship???Sometimes when a woman is newly divorced she can't deal with being alone and the man starts getting nervous because he has had the experience of 'being alone' for quite sometime. He may see that you are already too involved in this relationship so he is trying to cool things down a little.... This man is obviously not interested in having someone around him all the time and really enjoys his "SPACE" perhaps he's really being truthful about not seeing anyone else and this is his choice.......but,'''' he just doesn't want to be smothered by you either. Give him his "SPACE", go out and see what else is out there in this great big world!!! Get it all out of your system...... If he decides that it bothers him that you are out with other men (hugging and kissing), he will then know just how much he wants to invest in this relationship. Personally, I have found that if I am dating a 'special man' and he feels deeply for me....he would NEVER tell me to go out with another Man. It would drive him crazy to imagine me being in the arms of another man! Like I said before, Maybe you're more into him than he is to you!!! I hope I did hurt your feelings but maybe it's time for you to take off those rose-colored glasses and see things as they really are!

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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Marriage vs Dating Posted: 2/17/2008 2:24:01 PM
I believe most women do want some sign of a commitment to show 'the world' that her man loves her with all his heart and soul!!! maybe it's my catholic upbringing but I personally do NOT want to give my whole heart and Soul (body too) to a man that doesn't think we'll be together forever Perhaps to rush into a marriage is foolish so...at least get engaged while living together as Man and wife!!!! I firmly believe in that old saying..."why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free!" If a woman settles for a man that wants to just take her 'milk' then she has already told him that she doesn't think she's worthy of his total commitment and he will do just that...keep using her for his convenience for as long as he wants and not step up to show her his undying love!!! Yes, I am old-fashioned...please be kind with your criticism......

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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What is it with someone that tells you they are in love with you Posted: 2/17/2008 2:08:02 PM
I have had that happen to me before and it is scary........ It is like those RED FLAGS started waving this told me immediately that this person was needy and most likely a possessive person...so start running in the opposite direction!!! Now, I do believe that sometimes people can "THINK" they are in love because the pics. are so cute or you've written something flowery and romantic in your profile and this type of person is so 'in love' with "LOVE" that he/she has already started fantasizing about how wonderful you are and how Great their life would be with you in it... They are "Dreamers" and really want to be 'in love' so they start saying it to you hoping that you're going to say it right back to them!!! Love takes time...."Chemistry" is a big factor in "being in Love".... My advice is...."run...run...run... Good luck my friend.....I hope my input has helped if only a little bit!!!

.kathydlton.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 2/15/2008 11:03:43 AM
Forgive a Cheater???? that's the same as forgiving a Liar!!!! Will you ever be able to truly believe a Liar??? NO, right??? Same goes for a CHEATER*****cheats, liars, abusers,thieves, etc,etc., etc..,***** ALWAYS RESPECT YOURSELF FIRST AND FOREMOST,,,,,,,,,,,,never let anyone treat you with anything less than the TOTAL RESPECT you deserve. Obviously, Mr. Cheater was not thinking about how he was disrespecting you while he was doing her!!!!! Move on baby....if you let him get away with it once.....he'll never take you seriously and he WILL CHEAT again!!!! You got burnt once that should be enough!! I've always told my man: "If you decide to cheat on me better' BE SURE ' she's worth it because you've lost me forever! It happened to me once.....he became Instant history because I love me the most!!! It's hard sometimes but...be true to you!!! even if he's not!

kathy d.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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Didn't sleep well for 10 days of tossing and turning Posted: 6/17/2007 4:57:11 AM
ooofirefighter, Re: Sorry but I just don't get these types of posts. Sometimes people just need to write and share their experience with others because obviously it still hurts deep inside. It often helps the individual to hear responses from others as well as other peoples experiences to know they are not alone in this mixed-up world of 'Dating and Love". We are here to help and share not just for hooking up with a fishy in this POF pond. She was also a hurtful woman by saying those awful remarks to him when he broke-off the relationship. Haven't we all at one time or another heard how people will say 'hurtful things' just because they are really hurt that they got dumped??? He needs reassurance (maybe) they he is not a fat hairy troll or whatever nasty things she spurted out to him because....this man has lost alot of weight and has been working on his appearance. I say...Kudos to him!

kathy d.

Joined: 8/19/2006

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Didn't sleep well for 10 days of tossing and turning Posted: 6/17/2007 1:07:58 AM
movie set builder.....I am glad you shared your story here with the rest of us. Don't ever think you're alone in what happened to you. I had actually moved in my boyfriend and his small child (a little girl) because he asked me to. I was a little leery about the move at first but because he had told me he loved me so many times and how beautiful I was and how sexy my body was ....etc., etc., I was totally convinced this man loved me with all his heart and respected and trusted me enough to want me around his daughter (we were extremely close and loving) As time went on we were like a small happy family but still when it was just he and I we were passionate lovers. He had promised me a diamond ring in the month of June. This was early April. I believe when he made this promise to me. Ooops, should have mentioned first that he was going thru a very difficult divorce while we were together. (He is a very very wealthy, well known media person) I stuck by his side thru everything (and believe me...there was lots of drama and difficult mood swings with him) well, the divorce finally went through and all that aggravation was behind us now or I sure say..so, I thought! This divorce became final in May and as I stated earlier I was promised a ring for June. The day before June 1st, he had been out all day, came home late, ate the lovely dinner I had planned and prepared in celebration of the end of his ordeal and the beginning of our stress free loving life together all by himself since I had finally given up on his coming home and had kept his dinner warmed for him in the oven. His daughter had been asleep in her room for hours already and I was exhausted and in dispair because of his not calling to say he'd be late or even answering my cell calls to him. I sat in the family room trying to stay awake long enough to discuss what his day had been like and what could have happened to keep him gone all day and evening while he ate and enjoyed the dinner I had lovingly prepared for us. When he was done eating....he told me he was too tired to discuss his day any further then to say he had visited his older son at his other ex-wife's house and visited her parent in the hospital. THE END OF CONVERSATION!!!!! We went to bed and not long after he became "Mr. Lovable &Apologetic" making Love to me like he was really sorry he had hurt my feelings that evening. OK, sooooo all is forgiven..we drift off to sleep, his was a sound deep sleep while mine was restless and minimal. The very next day he says , "We need to talk". I thought it would be something about explaining his whereabouts the previous day...Big Surprise!!!!! He calmly said to me, About that ring..you won't be getting it this month (which is now..yup..June 1st.) he then went on to tell me that he thought it would be best for me to move out and go back to my own home because he has decided that He really doesn't Love me and doesn't want to marry me anymore now that he is divorced! Talk about cruelty and heartbreak......I asked the usual questions like, did I do something to hurt you and make you change your mind?, did you meet someone else?, did your other ex-wife talk you out of marrying me by maybe saying, it's too soon?, anything, anything????? Well, you know the scenerio..I cried and asked questions....he remained calm and just kept repeating, I don't love you anymore!!! End of conversation....... no explanation needed as far as he was concerned. I packed my stuff up and carried some out to the car all while crying softly to myself. At one point, he grabbed me and pulled me to him, he hugged me so tight and said the most idiotic thing I've ever heard........He said, "I really do still Love you Baby" but, not the right way....that was the end! I left...moved all my belongings out in a few days and settled back into my own home wondering over and over again what his last statement meant but I never picked up that phone to call him ever again....... Here it is now...two years later...He suddenly shows up at my door telling me, "Kathy, you always said I'd miss you and I really do" He suddenly misses me????? I now have the power......do I let him back in my life and take a chance of him breaking my heart again or do I say to him, "I am not your Band-Aid to fix you when you're broken!!!! The big Joke of this story is......He had met someone else and married her soon after I was gone. This new marriage fell apart after only three months! Does he really relize I was the one and he misses me???? or...Does he expect me to once again be there for the "Divorce period" as his personal "Band-Aid"????? For once in my Life.....I sincerely believe in Myself as a human being with feelings and not some guys "Band-Aid". Am I right or does he really miss me and realizes he made a mistake??? Who knows for sure but I WILL PROTECT MY HEART regardless of whatever he says to me!!!! By the way...movie set builder...my 5 year old granddaughter insisted I write you that personal email because she kept saying, "if he was my size..I'd want him to wait and marry me"! How's that for a compliment to you from an innocent 5 year old????!!! Kudos to u!

Kathy D.

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 309 (view)

Slip-not Posted: 4/24/2007 8:44:34 AM
Hi everybody, sorry I haven't been around in awhile but just wanted to say, I will be coming to the Slip-not on April 28th but not to dinner. Soooooo, do I sign up if I'm not going to meet for dinner and just coming to the party? I will be bringing 4 other people with me...maybe 5. (still working on the 5th one) LOL Hi Laurene, long time..no see! how ya been?

kathydlton

Joined: 8/19/2006

Msg: 148 (view)

Port Charlotte/Northport/Ft Myers area Get Together March 24, 2007 Posted: 3/16/2007 2:29:44 PM
Hey Laureen, I am happy to say that another great guy "Terry" will be coming to the Slip-not. He's a good-looker and hopefully he dances!! Welcome Terry and thanks for signing up....I do expect a dance!

kathydlton

Joined: 8/19/2006

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Port Charlote area after the party pic Posted: 1/30/2007 5:19:23 PM
OOPS, I meant D-Mac the hot italion guy! LOL Also, David is the name of the hot tall new guy that enjoys dirty Dancing and gave me a Lap dance ladies.... great pics. Kathy

kathydlton

Joined: 8/19/2006

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Port Charlote area after the party pic Posted: 1/30/2007 2:47:30 PM
Hi Laureen, first let me thank you for going out of your way to give me a ride. You're so sweet and I'm glad I met....A friend for life! As for the Get together..it was the best I've ever been to. I had a wonderful time..especially dancing the night away with dennis aka Mac-D..you all know who I mean.the great looking, great dancer!!! It was great meeting the whole gang..everyone is so nice. Can't wait to go back to the Slip knot Kudos to you Laurene for a great party!!!!! Kathy

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