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Thread: Why do men want to see revealing pics right away?
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Why do men want to see revealing pics right away?
Posted:
11/25/2009 2:42:00 PM
She could just circumvent the whole thing and just show some booby...
lol ... now, now,... do you REALLY believe it would stop THERE?
Come on, she should have a beaver shot too, just in case they aren't boob men!
Negative attention is better than NO attention for an attention whore.
(Oops, feeding the troll again.
)
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You can quote me on that ...
Posted:
11/24/2009 12:22:45 PM
^^^ Only a couple???
Hell, let me get my list!
Or better yet, come on over and I'll just get you started, Dave...
P.S. - Boomer, IMO that is NOT a great question.
It shows he hasn't been paying attention at all!
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Oct 5th entry in My Utmost for His Highest....defining sin
Posted:
11/24/2009 12:12:36 PM
Thank you for your logical thinking, Jack.
I'm not saying who is right or wrong.... but who has the right to tell the other they are not Christians?
EXACTLY.
Last week I overheard two 4th grade girls having a "religious" conversation as they walked back to class. (Mind you this is in a public elementary school, and I just substitute.)
Girl 1: Do you pray?
Girl 2: Yes.
Girl 1: Do you pray to God, or do you pray to a statue?
Girl 2: I ...(hesitates)... pray to God.
Girl 1: Because if you pray to a statue it's a SIN.
Girl 2: No, ... I pray to God.
End of conversation.
The intolerance of other's beliefs starts early.
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You can quote me on that ...
Posted:
11/22/2009 7:29:16 PM
daveb...
A man in the house.... is worth two in the street ....
... um , ... depends on what he is actually DOING in the house, doesn't it?
just sayin'
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You can quote me on that ...
Posted:
11/19/2009 5:54:45 PM
grouchy stinky winky forum grump
Harsh, Dave, harsh.
Hmmmm ...
I'm wondering if we can look forward to seeing "grouchy stinky winky forum grump" as a user name soon?
(maybe run all together ... or shortened to gswfg)
I didn't check, but I'm FAIRLY certain it hasn't been taken ... yet.
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You can quote me on that ...
Posted:
11/17/2009 5:58:31 PM
^^^Boomer, don't let him "get your goat" (isn't that the saying???).
Besides, in one pic it looks like Dave is the one being molested by Bubba!
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You can quote me on that ...
Posted:
11/16/2009 11:35:38 PM
Looks aren't everything Dave. You can quote me on that.
... says the dude with no picture!
Just sayin'.
(and I DID quote you on that.)
oops.
Someone in my past used to tell me, "Don't stick out your tongue unless you're going to use it!" I have NO idea at the moment who that was.
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You can quote me on that ...
Posted:
11/16/2009 7:06:28 PM
a BOB would definitely avoid the "knocked-up" condition wouldn't it
Uh, not necessairly, Bob.
Unless the gal is seeing BOB exclusively then, ... Maybe yes.
However, BOB could be just part of the fun, or even a warm up act.
Under these conditions, BOB is not to be considered a reliable method of birth control. (Google it.)
But weren't we talking about door -to -door salesmen ... or was it the mail(male?)man?
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You can quote me on that ...
Posted:
11/16/2009 3:08:08 PM
That was really back in the day when "opportunity knocked"!
That must be where the expression "Knocked-up" came from...
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(sorry, had to do it.)
Good one, Bob.
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You can quote me on that ...
Posted:
11/16/2009 1:40:20 PM
I don't know Boomer, but I suspect a lot of the door-to-door salesmen (encyclopedias, Fuller Brush man, etc.) became FATHERS. That was really back in the day when "opportunity knocked"!
Yes, it's interesting explaining to children "the old fashioned-way" of doing research... going to a library, using a card catalog, and the Dewey decimal system.
It's kind of hard for some to imagine!
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You can quote me on that ...
Posted:
11/16/2009 10:50:48 AM
Same school library as original post, different day ...
the libriarian is wearing a new shirt ...
white, and on the front it says:
"Libriarian ...
the original Google."
First word looked like the colorful " Google " logo.
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Why do men want to see revealing pics right away?
Posted:
11/12/2009 5:15:31 PM
troll thread.
seriously.
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You can quote me on that ...
Posted:
11/7/2009 1:04:52 PM
^ I've been known to use that motto as well, Boomer!
One I use with my students when they are playing with things that they shouldn't be (ie: flipping their pencil around) ...
"It's a TOOL, not a TOY."
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You can quote me on that ...
Posted:
11/2/2009 12:26:04 PM
TRUE STORY ... I recently saw this quote in an elementary school library, and thought of my Califorum fishie friends ...
The right to be heard does not automatically include the right to be taken seriously.
- Hubert Humphrey
Ok, I KNOW there is a section for quotes and poetry, but the thread there is 175 pages long ... like, who's going to read THAT? Thought we could have some fun here, locally. How about other tidbits from famous - or not so famous - folks?
I'm ready to think AND laugh again.
(P.S. - we already have movie, song, and Bible quotes, so I'm not looking to duplicate those.
)
-->Reminder ... to put something in quotes, start with
then add text,
and end with the same format you started with, only add a / before the word quote and after first [
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POF Halloween party
Posted:
10/29/2009 5:17:13 PM
Did somebody say "candy"???
I wonder if I can make my hair look like Wolverine?
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I'm actually teaching 5th grade tomorrow, so I get to drress up.
At this point it looks like I'm borrowing my son's Abraham Lincoln costume ... lol ... wish me well.
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POF Halloween party
Posted:
10/28/2009 6:13:19 PM
Our first year in the neighborhood I took the kids out trick or treating and got invited into several houses for drinks. ... which I had to take "to go" ... so for the adults in the neighborhood it kind of turned into "trick or drinking".
My ex husband volunteered to take the boys out every year after that!
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Name one good thing about yourself.
Posted:
10/26/2009 9:29:25 AM
I'm a survivor.
In spite of everything, I'm still standing.
Not sure why, and some days are really, REALLY hard, but I'm still here.
(uh, to clarify ... "here" meaning "alive",
... not HERE on PoF - which may be viewed as rather sad and pathetic.)
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CA, DST, and POF...OH MY!
Posted:
10/26/2009 9:11:57 AM
Time, time, time,
see what's become of me...
...well, my computer took a dump so I have been MIA, and it turns out someone I thought was a friend wasn't. Oh yeah, good times.
<---hmmm... *thinking* ... if I could put time in a bottle ...
I wouldn't keep frickin switching it every 6 months! I HATE that.
ug... TIME to find new batteries for my smoke alarms.
(They say change them when you change your clocks. just sayin'
)
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My girl friend and I have been seeing eachother for 3 months now
Posted:
10/22/2009 3:55:26 PM
UGGGGGG!
After all this, calling her a "nutjob", etc, ... OP has a NEW thread today titled
"she took me back"
<a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts13309927.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts13309927.aspx</a>
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You're 'not ready for a relationship'? What does that mean?
Posted:
10/22/2009 3:44:17 PM
I once met a fantastic guy through another website, but he honestly was not ready for a relationship. He had lost his son and one of his son's best friends within a two week period (both in the military oversees), and the stress of it had killed his marriage as well. He and his daughter were still very much grieving the death of the two young men.
He was an amazing man, and I was very attracted to him, but I had to let him go so he could continue his healing. *sigh*
Unfortunately, he just wasn't ready ... the proof was he continued to suggest that he wanted to date me, but never actually followed through, and I just couldn't risk becoming his therapist.
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Any Virgins or those practicing Celibacy
Posted:
10/22/2009 3:24:11 PM
^^^
I would rather have great sex once that I will remember for the rest of my life than to have sex all the time that is forgettable.
If you are having "forgettable sex", something is
wrong
.
If that's the case, then yes, why bother?
And if you wait until marriage, you won't know until it is too late if you are even compatible sexually.
One of you may end up liking it WAAAAAAYYYYYYY more than the other, (or be more kinky, etc!)
Turns out the glue you purchased isn't what you wanted, and the sales receipt says you can't return it!
... then what???
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Any Virgins or those practicing Celibacy
Posted:
10/22/2009 3:05:36 PM
msg.97
Maybe I have been half asleep here but what I am reading is a lot of "justification" FOR SEX before marriage, but not a lot of answers to the WHY of it. WHY can't people just BE satisfied with kissing or cuddling? WHY do we "NEED" to go further in THIS day and age?
Have you considered the fact that
in biblical times people didn't live as long as we do now
??? That families started
young
... wasn't Jesus dead by your age? That women DIED in childbirth?
In addition, if you are dating anyone who has ever been married, obviously you have a girl with more experience than you, and for some of us, once you have sex, there is an actual feeling of "need". Don't know if it is chemical, hormonal, mental, the way we are wired or what, but it can be a need, especially if you are in a loving, trusting relationship. ( I felt AWFUL when my husband stopped wanting sex!) It's a deeper, different kind of connection that, until one experiences it as it is meant to be, is indescribable.
That said, right now that I really feel your beliefs are soooo much a part of you that you
won't
have sex before marriage, regardless of what is posted. That's totally cool, because that's how you feel. I think we are just trying to present the side you don't know.
Edit: from same post...
I think that relationships based entirely on sex are inherently unbalanced
True, but that would NEVER happen with you. A relationship based entirely on sex actually STARTS with sex, then a friendship/relationship develops.
just sayin'
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Any Virgins or those practicing Celibacy
Posted:
10/21/2009 4:51:28 PM
msg.38
Op I`m still a Virgin! My Lovely arse is nice and tight and never been penetrated!
This reminded me of my Catholic girlfriend who was TECHNICALLY still a "virgin" because she'd only taken it up the *ass before her wedding day!
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Any Virgins or those practicing Celibacy
Posted:
10/21/2009 4:13:28 PM
msg. 29...
p.s. - Doesn't "practicing" something imply you are working on getting better at it???
Personally I'd rather practice having sex
I had to comment on this one! Maybe yes you make me smile!! I have been 'practicing' virginity so long I think I'm an expert at it. Are you suggesting now that I am an accomplished virgin, it's time for me to learn something new?
Thank you for making me smile!!
You are soooo welcome!
To answer your question ... sheesh, ... guess I need to fall back on my favorite answer...
Maybe yes...!
(
ok, seriously, I had no idea how well that username would work for me when I chose it.)
Ultimately, you need to do what feels right for you ... it's between you, your partner, and your god, and that's it.
That said, most girls our age DO like a guy with a little experience under his belt, if ya know what I mean.
I'm terrible, I know.
I respect your decision either way, because you have to do what is right for YOU !
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My girl friend and I have been seeing eachother for 3 months now
Posted:
10/21/2009 3:36:42 PM
She was your "first", and will ALWAYS hold a special place in your heart because of this.
My stepson followed his first love into the military when he was very young.
(They secretely married shortly before she went in, as well.) That marriage produced a child, and SHE eventually left both the marriage and the military. (He was oversees when she started seeing someone else.)
My stepson is STILL in the military (another branch) and currently in his
third
marriage. He's not yet 30, and his current wife is in the same branch of the military as he.
I guess I'm trying to say that girls (women!) will likely come and go in your life.
The military may make relationships extra difficult, but it will always be there for you if you want it.
My advise? ... try to get your mind on other things ... distance yourself from this gal. In time you will be happy again, I promise.
Good luck and be strong.
AND
THANK YOU - and all the other military personel - for what you do!
P.S. - I'm n0t sure why, but 3 months seems to be a very common time for a relationship decision like this. There are probably tons of threads on this if you are curious.
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Any Virgins or those practicing Celibacy
Posted:
10/21/2009 2:00:46 PM
going to wait to find the right gal to enter
Pun intended???
(Sorry, but I tend to have a dirty mind.
)
This is one ot those issues that REALLY makes me question organized religions!!!
Here are my personal feelings...
Humans are, for the most part, built for sex, and in fact can enjoy it for more than reproducing. The truth is, it's got a LOT of positives going for it ... besides the feelings of the act itself and orgasm(s), it is great exercise, it is a bonding experience, it's a chance to express your creativity, it's waaaayyyy better than anything on t.v., ... you get my drift.
In this context (and YES, I'm fully aware of the negatives), I wonder why people in a loving, trusting relationship DENY themselves this wonderful experience. For me, it is so important the lack of sex in my marriage killed the marriage itself.
It's like buying a car ...
I would NEVER buy a car without test driving it
, playing with all the switches and knobs, checking the engine, looking in the trunk, etc.
So why would I not fully check out the compatibility of a potential spouse in the same through manner???? That's an even bigger commitment than a car ... well, for most people!
So, I'm basically just as confused as you about organized religions telling folks to be celebate. Sorry I'm probably no help, because like someone else already said, you'll feel like a hypocrite at this point. I thought the Christian dating sites was a great idea, btw! (Don't expect to find you girl in THIS pond!!!)
Best wishes.
p.s. - Doesn't "practicing" something imply you are working on getting better at it???
Personally I'd rather practice having sex.
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Women & Tattoos
Posted:
10/20/2009 9:15:18 PM
Did somebody say "wood"?
In all likelyhood, I'd be allergic to the ink, so no tats.
However
, I do enjoy applying those cheep-o temporary tatoos
from time to time. Keeps things lively.
Also ALWAYS freaks my mom out.
Edit: ... apparently they also freak out my ex husband.
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Girlfriend's Ex Won't Leave Her Alone - Need Advice!
Posted:
10/20/2009 12:08:35 AM
She's responding to him while with you ... (oh my!)
- she still enjoys the attention from him
- she's keeping him on the back burner ("just in case")
- she is being VERY disrespectful to you (her "future fiancee")
- she has the option to simply
NOT RESPOND
, and he would probably stop
... unfortunately by responding she is encouraging him!
YOU...
- must need more life experience, if you believe this is the woman you should marry
- should
not
make ANY attempt to contact this guy ... it's between him and her
- you are putting up with her rude/ disrespectful behavior now,
... do you SERIOUSLY think it well change for the better once you are married?
I'm sorry but you have FAILED this reality check.
Please reconsider your options, and report back to us in the immediate future.
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Forum personality impact on dating life
Posted:
10/19/2009 11:33:28 PM
I actually liked when the last 5 forum posts showed on people's profiles ...
... you could tell more from the forum posts than the testimonials, that's for sure!
I'm posting as myself, so I'm not too worried about what I write ... it is really ME.
However, I do try to keep my dirty mind in check just a wee bit.
No need to revel toooooo much.
Doesn't always work, but I try.
Edit: I miss those "SEX and DATING" threads ... that was some fun lurking!!!
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LET'S GET SCARY
Posted:
10/19/2009 9:26:00 PM
They're after
the wood
.
uh, match ... maybe THAT'S why he's afraid?
(ouch!)
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Wouldn't it be great...
Posted:
10/19/2009 6:49:27 PM
LOL
<-------- also has her mind in the gutter much of the time!
(just didn't show it in my above post!
)
... um margo64, ... your things would be great too!
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would you date a guy who doesn't believe in education-content with his job
Posted:
10/19/2009 5:47:32 PM
Wait, the original post was YESTERDAY and the OP is already gone?
I'm 45, so NO,
I
wouldn't date a 21 year old regardless of his education!
(Sheesh, was that a trick question?)
There are different ways to be "smart".
Not all of them come from institutions and books, and some of the brightest people have had HUGE difficulties in school. Just something to think about.
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Wouldn't it be great...
Posted:
10/19/2009 5:28:48 PM
Wouldn't it be great...
- if we all felt more loved and appreciated
- if we all had jobs we love
- if we all had more than enough money to survive
- if we were all healthy enough to seldom need doctors
- if we were all sane enough to not need lawyers
- if we understood autism better, had a cure for cancer and aids and...
(you get the idea)
- if there was no suffering in the world
- if there was peace on earth
peace,
Edit: oops, this is a relationship thread??? ok, ...
- if people could all just be more peaceful and respectful and helpful towards each other
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Is he stringing me along or is this goodbye? Or am I the ONE.
Posted:
10/18/2009 6:02:20 PM
From his original email...
I will try to explain some things about me, so maybe one day you will understand. This is not a goodbye note or anything of the sort.
Not a "goodbye note"??? - OK, how about "I'm really confused, and I'll sweep you back into that emotion as well, so I can string you along and try to resolve my own issues"?
so maybe
one day you will understand
Doesn't SOUND like he plans on a future with you.
I thought it would be good for you to know that you have always been special to me, and
not a minute goes by when I do not think about you.
Boldfaced lie
, sweetie. You might be special, but not THAT special, unless he's a stalker.
... I really have to work on that and
if I want to be happy in any relationship,
Note he didn't say "our relationship" or "a relationship with YOU".
I want the best that life has to offer......
Do you know ANYONE who doesn't???
I need to be able to accept the fact that
maybe I really do have someone truly phenomenal.
If you broke up a month ago,
why does he think he still has you???
CREEPY, and manipulating.
I hope one day you will forgive me
Doesn't sound like he thinks he's "the ONE", that's for sure.
I can see why you are confused by his words, OP. However, like others have said, his words are empty without action. If you've had enough drama, cut off contact with him. If not, stay around and get hurt more. He's an EX for a reason, no?
Just my 2 cents worth.
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why did he do this?
Posted:
10/18/2009 5:19:45 PM
^^^ Both of the above (messages 2 and 3), and mostly BECAUSE YOU LET HIM,
and by responding, you ENCOURAGED HIM.
Why would he NOT try to string along his distance second choice, when he is unsure about his FIRST choice?
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Can you be TOO honest?
Posted:
10/18/2009 1:10:25 PM
^ good point, Ace.
If your honesty is unsolicited and going to hurt, it would be NICE for the listener to have that emotional support from the teller.
Unfortunately, that doesn't always happen, ... sometimes the "teller" is just being a jerk.
Edit: @ msg110 ... lol . I tend to avoid Wal Mart, always have, but thanks for the clarification on their hiring practices!
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Is Height an issue to Men?
Posted:
10/18/2009 12:55:14 PM
women dont need a guy to be taller to feel protected
sooooo true.
Our bodies are just vessels for our souls.
I do not get why some people are soooo hung up about height, something that can not be changed.
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LET'S GET SCARY
Posted:
10/17/2009 5:52:05 PM
lol...
I'll vouch for Maybe not's cooking - it's usually yummy and she can be quite creative!
Unfortunately her kitchen IS really more like a small walk-in closet.
If you don't want to move around much, I think 3 adults can fit in there!
(So for someone who enjoys cooking and is good at it, a small kitchen IS a nightmare.)
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LET'S GET SCARY
Posted:
10/17/2009 3:20:06 PM
... um ... I dated some guys from this website ... SCARY!
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i just want to kiss you.......all night long !!! RIGHT...................
Posted:
10/17/2009 3:03:19 PM
Um, ... I KNOW a couple who started out like this ...
they decided together they would NOT have sex when they first met, ...
BUT the attraction was there, and SHE had come all that way ... so they DID IT.
They did end up getting married, but were totally incompatible. They didn't KNOW each other.
They are divorced now, and BOTH miserable.
She's back in her home state.
This could be your life.
Don't invest what you can't afford to lose into this relationship!
You only THINK you know this person.
Keep your expectations very LOW, or you are likely to be disappointed.
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the odds of POF... STACKED for ladies, discouraging for men
Posted:
10/17/2009 2:49:55 PM
lol ... just because women appear to have more choices doesn't necessairly mean they are good ones!
I've met, dated, and yes, even tried to have relationships with a few male fishies.
Unfortunately, so far I've had to release them all.
In one way or another, they've all told me "I'm a jerk."
(Some just more blatant about it.)
And when they say that, you kind of have to listen.
PoF for "friends" ... Maybe yes...
PoF for dating/ finding a "great" guy/gal ... Probably not.
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She brought a friend to our date..
Posted:
10/17/2009 2:08:28 PM
Why did you go to the movies if you were already "miserable" (due to the fact that you were trying to be nice and accomodate her ... uh ... girlfriend, and THAT wasn't working in your favor)???
You could have bowed out when she asked if her friend could join,
but you didn't
!
You could have bowed out BEFORE she paid your way into the movie,
but you didn't
!
She had to basically TELL you it was ok to leave???
Listen to your inner voice! ... Guys need to pay attention to the red flags too.
Be happy you learned you aren't a good match so QUICKLY. (2nd date)
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Another four-letter word: LOVE
Posted:
10/17/2009 1:47:21 PM
^^responding to msg. 14
The art of communication also seems to be lost and I believe that to be vital in maintaining any relationship.
I agree. One of the reasons I DON'T like texting - soooo impersonal, and no emotion!
I dont want to think that love is just a novelty, I maybe a dreamer but I believe in it.
I don't think love IS just a novelty, and I
totally
"believe in it",
but at the same time...
I
love
my children.
I
love
my parents.
I
love
my pets.
I
love
my job.
I
love
sex.
I
love
dark chocolate.
I
love
the t.v. show ...
... you see where I'm going, right?
- ALL can be examples of love ... (not to mention how easily the meanings for things change in the English language!) ... so personally I take the word "love" with a grain of salt and TRY to put it into context.
Actions speak volumes.
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Msg:
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Bat shit crazy?
Posted:
10/14/2009 10:10:09 AM
Maybe Yes"
- Having her want to take the kids out to see my family would put them in an uncomfortable situation. Like I had mentioned before they are getting on in years and aren't in the best health. They are also small town folk who would not slam a door in someones face as opposed to just gritting there teeth through something, why should they have to deal with that.
If your family chooses to accept your ex into their house, there is absolutely NOTHING you can do about it, period. That is THEIR choice.
Stop trying to control what you have no control over!
Her cheating relationship ended back in February or so when he kicked her out. She has since moved on to another guy to whom she has been living with for a few months now and to whom she is engaged to marry in July.
WOW, and she
still
includes YOU in her drama ... because you let her!
Original post
my STBE...
10/13/09
also posted by OP on 10/13/09
Fourth,
our settlement was signed last week
, so there isn't any money or custody motivation anymore. That chapter has been closed for now and we're just waiting for the final piece of paper that says divorced on it.
Holy Crap Batman ... YOU still can't decide if she's your ex!
She moved out and lived with another guy? -> EX
She moved on from him and is engaged to new guy? -> EX
YOU SIGNED THE DIVORCE PAPERS??? ---------> oh, never mind.
This IS a troll post.
OP is NOT interested in advice, unless it suupports what HE wants to hear .
^^^the Rockman is correct.
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Msg:
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Oct 5th entry in My Utmost for His Highest....defining sin
Posted:
10/14/2009 9:07:47 AM
For those who don't believe, there is no evidence of God
For those who do believe, evidence of God is everywhere
EXACTLY
, mn!
^ gg:
It says becuase the evidence around us clearly shows there is a Creator, there is no excuse for those who do not believe.
What about the area between "believers in a Creator" (which could encompass multiple viewpoints/ realities / even religions!) and "using the Bible to live/ justify a lifestyle" ... ( and if you don't agree with
my
literal interpretation,
you are wrong
, period)?
Does your religion allow the belief of reincarnation, for example?
And what's your God's take on these folks?? Are all those believers wrong?
For the record, I'm skeptical to literally believe a book that says because the evidence is all around, I should believe. In my house that could be called a cookbook!
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Msg:
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....i do......but he doesnt
Posted:
10/13/2009 4:48:58 PM
I KNEW you were up to something ... you were being too quiet!
I have not problem with how you resolved this anna. You had to do it in your own way!
The double slap of his cheating AND drugs will sting for a bit, but ultimately it is what has brought you to clarity . He WASN'T the right guy for you.
Glad you are clear on that now!
Now, if you are feeling down, remind yourself these things (any or all that work for you)...
He's my ex because...
- he lied to me.
- he cheated on me.
- he did drugs without my knowlege and had them in the house when my child was there.
- he wanted an "arrangement", I wanted marriage.
- he is controlling.
- he is spoiled and used to getting what he wants, which isn't good for me or my child.
- he had his MOTHER argue against marriage with me!
- he is absolutely wrong ... he told me nobody else will love me.
...
he is absolutely wrong!
Feel good about your intelligence and growth. Don't waste your time missing him, as he is not reciprocating. Aren't you glad you are no longer involved with THAT messed up family????
I suspect someone a lot better is in your future.
Be patient.
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Bat shit crazy?
Posted:
10/13/2009 4:15:12 PM
Ok, what's an "STBX"?
... Soon To Be Ex???
At any rate, she seems to be having a blast getting off on messing with you!
Let the stuff about her taking the kids to visit YOUR family go ... you are playing into her game with that. Truthfully, who cares who takes the kids to see
family
? ... if the family gets along I'm all for it ... regardless of how they became family .... they are not "ex-family", they are the kids' RELATIVES.
Your ex sounds pretty bitter. (Did her "cheating" relationship end recently?)
Regardless,
she's baiting you, and you are taking the bait.
Ignore the crap. Deal with the REAL issues only, and only to the extent you have to.
And good luck with that ... FOR THE SAKE OF THE KIDS!
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Msg:
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Am I being Paranoid
Posted:
10/12/2009 1:58:35 PM
Keep a copy of this thread ... just in case, it's documentation ... and report back if he shows up again!!!
I've had a nutjob like this after me before ... go with you gut , cease all contact, and be very, VERY careful. You may need to get the authorities involved if he continues ... some guys won't take your "no"... but be clear: his behavior is
NOT ACCEPTABLE
!!!
Good luck
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Not such a sweet transvestite!
Posted:
10/12/2009 10:55:44 AM
I get the disrespect aspect, but how is it any of YOUR business if it is not your relationship???
Apparently more than a few have found this transvestite "sweet" ... just not you OP!
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Imprisoning nonviolent pot dealers -- a useless expense?
Posted:
10/12/2009 9:59:06 AM
Legalize and decriminalize it, and tax it like we do alcohol and tobacco.
no one has died from smoking pot
Oh Lordy, I forgot all about those who will be firing up their bongs while driving ...
... sheesh, it's probably STILL safer than lots of the sh*t I see when I'm driving out there! ... plus it would probably fall under a "distraction" (like a cell phone or shaving or applying make-up or reading the paper or... ), which is already illegal, no?
EDIT: @mn, msg 52 ... does somebody have PMS today???
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