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canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

Can you have male friends? Posted: 10/24/2006 5:59:08 AM
No one should have to give up their friends...if they are just friends...then why would their be a problem with introducing your partner to them? If you or they have nothing to hide then just go ahead and introduce them....what is so wrong with the other person trying to be friends with their partners friends...its the ones who make excuses before the intended meeting of their friends you need to question....I have alot of male friends...more so then girlfriends....I am a people person and my partner has to understand that about me...I will not give them up...I can only make my partner apart of it...and I would happily do so..afterall he's apart of my life now.

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 54 (view)

Do cougars know they are cougars? Posted: 10/24/2006 5:48:41 AM
Nowadays, I honestly don't believe that you can justify how old someone is by just looking at them...I have met men and women who honestly don't look their age so how is one to know by meeting them for the first time?....I am dating someone who is 5 yrs younger and at the time I had a real problem with that because I am so use to dating men my own age or older....some people think he looks older then I do.....I have realized now that age is just a number and it doesn't really matter anymore as long as the person your dating doesn't look to immature or childish why worry how old the other person may be...if the attraction and chemistry are there why not test it and be happy??? That's what I am doing...so far so good!

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 75 (view)

I'm 30, own my own home, have a full time job, and am very loving! Why am I alone?? Posted: 10/24/2006 5:42:20 AM
Don't rush things....date...date....date.......until the right one comes along...when its' your time....you will appreciate things as they come....if you rush things your only asking for trouble and another disappointment.....everything happens for a reason and you can't always rush the great things in life...let it take its course......be happy with you and Love you first and your life will fall in order and you will meet the right one good luck!!

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

Any other young widows/widowers with advice to share? Posted: 10/24/2006 5:39:06 AM
First off, my condolences....no one should ever have to experience losing a loved one....they say that everything happens for a reason and that you have to look at it as if now that special someone you have lost is your guardian angel...I know this may be a myth but they say they take the good ones first....I think it's to prepare someone else for other side....I myself have never lost someone special as in a partner but I have lost a father figure who was only 58 and a very dear friend of mine who was only in her 20's with three young children...what is ironic with the passing of my girlfriend is that the nite she died....my other girlfriend and I were suppose to be with her...and at the time I was pregnant as well.....she was suppose to come pick the two of us up after she dropped off one of her friends over the border...we had told her we would see her after she came back instead of going with her but she never made it back.....I had to call her father at all hours of the morning to find out where she was and he said he thought she was with us by now...and he was the one who had to deliver the bad news to us about her tragic accident........everyone goes thru the grieving process at a different pace...but sometimes its important to share them with close, dear personal friends of yours.....have your alone time, your own personal space but then again don't delay your life and put things on hold because of what has happened to you....your special someone will always be with you just not in body but in spirit....and in your heart....it's ok to talk out loud to them...and tell them how u feel and ask God for his guidance...don't think no one will hear you......you'll be in my prayers.

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 56 (view)

Is there such a thing as too much sex?? Posted: 10/24/2006 4:53:56 AM
I say NEVER....well it's nice to see their are other NORMAL horny people out there...other than myself.....I am so use to being told that I am not normal because....well you know I can never get enough....and I never turn it down...Why would anyone??? Still trying to figure that one out.....when it's great why deny your partner......maybe that's why....men bail??? I tire them out too easily?? I say they shouldn't look too sexy around me....it's like an automatic button for me......my partner's cologne makes me go wild....one of my weaknesses!! I say...get it all in before your 6 feet under.....because you'll belong to a different part of heaven....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

When do you start your x-mas shopping ? Posted: 10/24/2006 4:46:46 AM
I use to start mine in July....but nowadays....I just give them money....alot easier that way...they can get what they want.....I wait till the last minute to get my special someone something....just incase...they aren't my special someone by that time......

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 63 (view)

All I want for x-mas is... Posted: 10/24/2006 4:41:55 AM
To be happy.....and for my family to remain in good health.....as well as my friends!! I have everything I could want.....ok well maybe not everything....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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Need some input here to help a friend out!! Posted: 10/19/2006 7:46:12 PM
I want to say thanks for all the positive feedback.....I will pass along the msg to her.....I enjoy coming here for advice when the feedback is positive....I am just trying to let her know she was not at all in the wrong for something stupid he choose to do for that moment...the past is in the past....the present is now......

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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Need some input here to help a friend out!! Posted: 10/19/2006 3:57:28 PM
she is not fake....why is she being attacked??? He was the one at fault regardless of who the girl is...her size.....she has nothing against the woman involved....she just couldn't believe she had anything to worry about...he always told her he was the lucky one......

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

WHAT WOULD YOU DO? WHAT WOULD YOU DO! Posted: 10/19/2006 3:25:53 PM
Change the locks if she won't get out then if she breaks in, call the cops and charge her for trespassing....no good can come of her abusing herself or disrespecting others...afterall, you gave her a place to go when she ran from her ex-husband...she should be greatful...not a nitemare Good luck

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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Need some input here to help a friend out!! Posted: 10/19/2006 3:13:50 PM
Is it even possible to black out to the point where you can actually have a hard on???? I am her bestfriend and I have given her my opinions but I keep telling her that her past is not the issue here and she feels guilty now for being truthful with him....I think he was just satisfying his needs as well....btw...he is 42 and she is 36......he plays in a band as well so I told her to think hard about where he was when he came home late.....I guess it's hard when you give ur heart to someone and then one day it's like NEXT!!!

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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Need some input here to help a friend out!! Posted: 10/19/2006 3:05:20 PM
If I would have been her....I would not have given him the chance to call to apologize...I would have kicked his ( Y ) to the curb and move on...she is looking for some advice thats what these forums are for...is it not???? I don't think one's past should have any reflection on the present relationship once the other party has been the one trying to screw around... he's guilty period!

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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Need some input here to help a friend out!! Posted: 10/19/2006 2:51:21 PM
They just split up on the weekend after being together for over a year....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 106 (view)

Will a non smoker date a smoker ? Posted: 10/19/2006 2:34:54 PM
I personally would NOT date a smoker again...I have in the past but I cannot stand the smell...I don't mind small cigars...but not cigarettes....everyone has their own preference

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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Need some input here to help a friend out!! Posted: 10/19/2006 2:33:14 PM
Ok one of my girlfriends and the boyfriend recently split up....they were together for over a year and one nite this past weekend, her life changed forever....they were at her boyfriend sister's place and on the way up, he told her that one of his ex's along with her brother would be there....my girlfriend did not have a problem with this....it was over 25 yrs ago... they got there their was alot of drinking going on, the boyfriend and his ex were smoking a joint together, as my girlfriend does not do this....so everyone else decided to go to bed and the boyfriend and the ex stayed up for a few more drinks....he went to check to see where his girlfriend went...and noticed that she tucked herself in.....so he kissed her and told her that he would be in shortly....my girlfriend never had any insecurity issues as the ex was over 250 lbs and nothing to look at....my girlfriend is tanned, blonde, 5'10 and 118 lbs soaking wet......well she could hear them talking and heard her boyfriend say to the ex that we should get reaquainted...she couldn't understand why he would say that...so she decided to get up and go check things out and to her surprise....their was her man standing tall, pants pulled down with his hard tool in hand....she said I can't believe you....got her stuff together and asked him for her keys and he said he didn't have them....she told him where they were and he got them out of his coat pocket and reached over the table and handed them to her and she said I can't believe you just did this....and he was lost for words. She left and drove home leaving him there with no vehicle of his own. That same day, he never called her until later in the day wanting to apologize for what happened and said that he blacked out...He went to talk to her in person....and he basically told her it was her decision whatever she decided...then the next day, he brings out what had happened in her past...like 4 or 5 yrs ago....she was in a relationship with a black man and she never mentionned this to him in the beginning...he said that had he known 6 months ago when he told her about his ex dating a black man that it would have been over then.......she was scared to say anything to him....but felt now that she had to be honest with him now since he asked her flat out....now he told her she needs to move on....he said he can't treat her the way she should be treated because of what he knows now......is something wrong here with this picture??? How can he make her feel guilty for what she did in her past when he was the one who got caught almost cheating???? Is it possible that he never really loved her in the first place????

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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not sure what to do Posted: 10/19/2006 12:35:09 PM
Respect her wishes and continue to be there for her as a friend....you cannot change a girls mind unless she feels the same way....lots of other great fishies out there....throw ur line back in and wait patiently for what comes along....good things come to those who wait..rush things and then your looking for trouble. Good luck

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 43 (view)

Is she crazy? Posted: 10/19/2006 11:39:48 AM
Can u live with STD's??? Stay clear..........when the timing is right...it will be worth the wait....and you'll have no regrets or long term scars..... good luck!!

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 85 (view)

B4 or Only when married??? Posted: 10/19/2006 11:33:20 AM
Interesting comment Spaceman, I have to say I agree....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 70 (view)

when should you move in with your new partner Posted: 10/19/2006 11:30:31 AM
One of my ex's taught me a valuable lesson....you shouldn't NEED someone in ur life...or do something so drastic as to move far away with this person.....5 months is ONLY 5 months...it would be different if you both were together for a year or more......the first year is like a trial run.....just because you think you may be in love, moving that far of a distance will not make things any easier....just think if things didn't work out, he has something to hold him there...his Job....what will you lose??? Besides' I thought you could not move within so many Km's or miles if you shared a child with someone else??? Long distance relationships are hard to maintain....but you do have your own life where u are and if things are meant to be in the near future then let time tell...don't change your life or rearrange your living situation for another human being....5 months is not a hell of a long time to know where your relationship will head......I have several girlfriends who have given up everything and moved to another country with their children to be with the man she thought she loved to only find out years later, they were being played....they had to start from scratch with their kids and move back and start all over....think about what you want for ur future....and your kids.... Good luck!! Follow ur heart....listen to your head....you can't always follow your heart.

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 90 (view)

She said she's in love with me. Oh, Christ. What now? Posted: 10/4/2006 7:51:07 AM
be honest with her.....and let her go....no matter what she will take it hard but later on she will appreciate you and respect you for not stringing her along.....their is nothing wrong with what you are trying to achieve in ur life but stringing someone else along knowing that your not ready to just commit to her alone is not the right thing to do for You or Her.....things happen for a reason......

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

How do you get over a man? Posted: 10/4/2006 7:37:51 AM
Time, time and more time.....don't do the rebound thing...it isn't fair for anyone involved...... think positive and say to urself in the mirroir, I don't need a man.....but someday I would like to have someone around....if we tend to need a man in our life rather than wanting someone in our life you deffinetly become a different person.....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

permission to call Posted: 10/4/2006 7:30:03 AM
Smith Reality is she did not give you her number personally...but I have to admit....why would she tell you it would be ok for you to call her sometime if she KNOWS that she never gave you her number in the first place.......that's a mystery to me.....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

Would you ...... for a wedding ring? Posted: 10/4/2006 7:26:16 AM
Not in this lifetime....how would the girl really know the guy was interested in marrying her for HER or her top rack???? Besides if things didn't work out later on...would he be entitled to visitation???

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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Got question for all ladys Posted: 10/4/2006 7:20:45 AM
well like I have said in other posts....their has to be an attraction between two individuals.... always nice to know that there are still gentlemen out there in todays society......

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

Soulmates... Posted: 10/4/2006 7:02:44 AM
I onced believed that my soul mate was out there somewhere but I have come to realize that Minnie mouse....yeah I said her name is not willing to let Mickey go anytime soon. I am not giving up on finding my soulmate but I am not going looking for him, I will leave it in God's hands and when the timing is right....then I hope we will have the pleasure of meeting someday....I am not one for the dating scene....hate it really but I enjoy meeting new people and making new friends Things happen for a reason and if you try and rush things they will backfire on u..patience is a virtue.....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

You start a relationship and sex ends it. Or did it? Posted: 10/4/2006 6:53:40 AM
Dano this is where the bad might lay.....it depends on what each other are looking for....if a man pursues a relationship with someone he chooses to be interested in....and then one day after being intimate it all stops....well then yeah chances are, your going to be considered a player.....everyone needs to be honest....maybe you weren't sexually compatible but what's wrong with being honest with your mate and telling her the truth....afterall if your first intimate encounter was not everything you had hoped it to be.....who says the second one would not be more pleasureable.....it depends on the situation...could be nerves, or distractions or many other factors that could ruin ur first intimate encounter....but I know...and I am sure many others would agree with me, that if you bail right after....you have earned the right to be nic named a player.....if the chemistry isn't there be honest..... we're not kids anymore....everyone should know what they want out of life and in a partner

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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anyone know how to fix a broken heart?? Posted: 10/4/2006 5:29:45 AM
Time.....trust me I have been there and TIME is ur best medicine......

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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does looks really count ? Posted: 10/4/2006 4:42:58 AM
For me, their has to be an attraction there....if their is no attraction....then I am ok with making a new friend....besides it should never be a one way street.....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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okie so ladies what do you think of this? Posted: 10/4/2006 4:41:31 AM
Maybe she realized that she made a mistake??? Communicate with her and see what her goals are...then take it from there....as the saying goes, you don't know what you had until it's gone...maybe she woke up and realized what she let go? Good luck

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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Phone number on a business card Posted: 10/4/2006 4:16:17 AM
New Guy She wants you to call her....what do you have to lose??? Call her if your interested and say...I hope I am not being too forward but I noticed that you wrote your phone number down and thought maybe you would be interested in going out for a drink...the worst she could say is no....but if she says yes then...go for it.....I don't think someone who wasn't interested would hand out a buisness card with a phone number and a smiley face...besides' girls aren't going to write....I am interested although that would be much clearer to the obvious but were females remember that

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 14 (view)

Got question for all ladys Posted: 10/4/2006 4:05:38 AM
Nothing wrong with being a gentleman....hard to find those now a days....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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I don't know how to help her.......maybe you can Posted: 10/2/2006 2:22:35 PM
I once dated someone for along time and he experienced problems with getting an erection.. No matter how sexual I got....he just couldn't get it up.....One day I approached him and sat him down and told him how I felt about the situation, he reassured me as well that he had had problems in the past with other girls and that it was not me.....I felt like I was not desirable to him anymore.....so I convinced him to go see a doctor ( a hard thing for a man to do) and I went with him for support....it turned out that his blood was not circulating around enough to help him get an erection.....so the doctor suggested taking Viagra....it wasn't something that he would have to take long term but it was a solution to help him fix the problem he was having at that time.......it certainly helped then...I am not sure if he is on them now, as it has been almost 3 yrs since we last split....but from what I can remember I think it only took two months to correct the problem and it was worth it.....would hate to see a relationship end because a man is skeptical about taking meds to help him fix something so minut as not being able to have an erection...besides if he can satisfy his woman in the bedroom, it would keep her satified and he wouldn't have to worry about her finding someone else...... Good luck Keep us posted and let us know what the outcome was

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 123 (view)

Nice guys finish first sometimes.......but they just don't get laid a lot Posted: 9/26/2006 3:36:14 AM
I can't believe someone posted this....afterall if your just trying to get laid....their are plenty out there that are only interested in just that.....Getting laid Girls want to meet a nice guy so they can persue a relationship with and if the Nice guy just wants.....sex...then really how much of a nice guy can he be??? A player is a player regardless of how Nice the guy is......

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

Meeting people OFFLINE, in the REAL world...What do you do? Posted: 9/26/2006 3:31:46 AM
I have met people online and in person.....One experience I have encountered that has made a lasting impression on me is when I met this guy at a local club...I was with my friends and I seem to always tell them that I am not there to pick up....I work hard for a living and when I do go out I do enjoy my time with my friends.....I notice the stares and quite honestly it annoys me....I feel like a piece of meat....ready to be cooked anytime.....about four weeks ago....a gentleman approached me on the dance floor infront of my friends and introduced himself to me, then shook my hand and asked if it was ok if he could dance with us and then apologized for not being a good dancer.....I was alittle intoxicated...ok...maybe I drank alittle more then I have said.....but I was impressed and it allowed us to become friends and now I am getting to know him alittle better.....I am having a hard time dealing with the fact that he is younger then myself but....what do I have to lose right? That nite two other guys at separate times tried to dance with me but they danced behind me as I was trying so hard to lose them on the dance floor.....nothing like trying to invite urself to be with someone without notifying the person....kind of like a tagalong....not my cup of tea....I believe you should be open to meeting people in person as well....if your interested in them, all you simply have to do is say Hi, and it goes from there.....I had one guy watch me while driving in a parking lot, got out of this van, walked over towards myself while talking to a friend and I had my son present....the parking lot has alot of empty space and he choose to walk infront of my friend and I to stare me down and say Hi.....as he went to the bank....I quickly disappeared after that.....and waited until I didn't see him any longer....then my son and I walked to my car and took off....as I was driving on the main street I seen him come out of the grocery store and look around the parking lot as if he had lost his bestfriend....that situation was very wierd........

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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What are you thinking right now ? part 2 Posted: 9/26/2006 3:19:59 AM
Hoping that it doesn't rain today...need to hang my laundry out and going to go out of town to visit some friends along with some friends from here....besides I believe it should only rain when I am working:) I love taking a stroll by the water and I plan on doing this today...

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 39 (view)

First Impressions Posted: 9/26/2006 3:16:54 AM
To me first impressions are very important....big plus for a man who comes up to you and introduces himself and shakes your hand....and continues to be polite and courtieous after that.....I hate being looked at as a piece of meat......it makes me want to hide in the crowd.

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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halloween costumes Posted: 9/26/2006 3:13:07 AM
Last year, a bunch of us gathered at a halloween party, and this year it's on again....Only a few of us dress up, the rest just attend to see what's going on...Last year, I was a witch with the works, green face, mold on my nose....long black hair....pointy hat and yes you got it glow in the dark kitty nylons.......This year, I will be sporting a french maids outfit....Its one day out of the year where I can look the way I want and not get called names for it.....Since I am so short I could probably pass for a teenager...height wise that is....sometimes I can become a kid myself

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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how do you convey who you really are on here?? Posted: 9/26/2006 3:07:50 AM
I believe talking on the phone is a big plus....that way there you can get to know the person and if for any reason, you have a negative feeling about something, you can always hang up....I've had to hang up on guys who were into heavy breathing and their hands weren't ontop of their blankets......If you are interested in meeting someone, you will know what they are all about beforehand, only in person will you be able to put a face to who you were talking with......I have made it quite clear that I am only interested in making new friends anyone wanting anymore then I can offer is not worth meeting in my opinion.....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

answer this question Posted: 9/26/2006 3:01:43 AM
I will answer #3 The hurting will stop once you let go of ur past relationship.........chances are they have already moved on so why dwell on things....you need to give yourself time to heal so that you will be emotionally ready for the next person that crosses ur path......

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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it's 27 years later... Posted: 9/26/2006 2:53:02 AM
If you can forgive someone from the past....who has truly hurt you or did things to you because they themselves were hurting....then you should email them back....but ONLY if they email you first to do the apologizing.......it shows they have matured...I wouldn't say go back to the way things once were but do acknowledge the apology and wish them all the best for their future....it will give you inner peace and help you become a better person...I try to become friends with all of my ex's.....except where my ex husband is concerned....6 yrs of misery is too much to forgive him for....considering he is still being miserable....not just to myself but to the kids......I hope one day that will all change.....maybe once the kids are grown up...who knows!!!

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 133 (view)

what made you cry the last time. Posted: 9/19/2006 4:51:45 AM
The last time I cried was when I got burnt again for trusting someone I wanted to get to know better..and tried to persue a relationship when I knew I wasn't ready yet.....Now I am taking the time to chill out not get involved with anyone and enjoy life without a partner...If and when the right one comes along, he will wait until I am ready.....I swore after my last ex I would never trust someone or open my heart up to anyone ever again and instead I had my feelings hurt...yeah I know its part of life but now I refuse to date anyone right now...and for once in my life I am enjoying being single....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

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Posting a Profile Picture or Not..... Posted: 9/19/2006 4:31:19 AM
I personally don't msg anyone without a pic....I would like to know who I am talking too...what's odd is someone msging you without a pic in the first place and then telling you that he has seen you around or out one nite and how good you look but yet you have No idea of who or what this person looks.....had that done...not a good feeling.

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

Brockville Kingston Cornwall and surrounding area Posted: 9/19/2006 4:21:09 AM
<-------------Born and raised in Cornwall......my dream is to move down south for the winter....I swear I was born in the wrong country!!! The cold and I are not a good mixture.

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

Sex with a fish Posted: 9/19/2006 4:19:13 AM
As long as ur not having sex with all the sharks.....weed them out quickly...you'll get to know who they are when u meet them....those are the ones I would stay clear of...

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 89 (view)

Would you date a cop? Posted: 9/15/2006 5:36:26 PM
I personally wouldn't date a Male cop every again...I once tried to date one and it really freaked me out knowing that they know could possibly know more about me then I possibly do about myself......and that they could cover up anything if things should go wrong...... not for me, I think it would be different if you were to date a female cop.....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 66 (view)

If you where a cartoon character who would you be Posted: 9/15/2006 2:24:49 PM
I would have to say Mickey Mouse, then I could finally get rid of that witch who has had him for way too long and go back to being me and Marry him.....FINALLY!!!

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

What makes a guy not want to see you again Posted: 9/15/2006 3:02:24 AM
Niamh Responding to ur #10 post, sad but true, alot of guys SAY things to get what they WANT until they get it....some like the challenge....and sadly his challenge for that time was to see if you would put out for him....and you didn't so if he doesn't come back COUNT yourself lucky and say his loss...instead of thinking I was just another notch on his belt...you didn't give him the chance of being able to be intimate with you....More Fishies out there...that's when you learn how to eliminate the dead fish....throw him back and keep him at arm's length...he isn't worth having someone who has respect for herself.......he's a player.... Hopefully the next one....will do the same and throw him back too Just asking why does your heading say in your profile Lookin 4 mr wrong???

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

20 RESPONSES TO USE WITH TELEMARKETERS!!! Posted: 9/13/2006 1:27:52 PM
If you don't reconize the number....answer like this...city morgue they will be lost for words then hang up;) works everytime!!!

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 65 (view)

Should we write negative testemonials? Posted: 9/12/2006 6:00:08 PM
First of all, you can only write testimonials on people who are on ur friends list so why would you have someone who is a stalker or someone who treated u like dirt on ur list??? Just because one person was not the right one for you does not mean they aren't right for someone else....everyone knows what they want in their partner....if the person wants to know more about the one they are interested in...I would suggest doing ur own investigations...for instance you can tell alot about someone by reading what they have written in their past Threads here on POF....pay attention to every detail...and I mean EVERY detail.....writing something negative about someone will only make u look like your having problems dealing with past issues....its time to let go....and look ahead into ur future instead of constantly living in the past and always looking back.........to those who have made someone miserable or lied to someone in the past will meet their match in their future...and those will be the ones who will have missed out.....Not you...be good to you and don't seek negativity to make urself feel good....

canadian female

Joined: 8/22/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

why so many 3 months relationships??? Posted: 9/12/2006 5:40:56 PM
I think by the time you have been with someone for 3 months you should know if the relationship is going anywhere....I think the first month (depending on how often you see each other) by then you should know if your interested in that someone.....someone who is thinking about all the negativity that the future MAY hold is a cop out when they use that as an excuse to end things now instead of things possibly ending later on in life.....or they use their past relationship as an escape goat as to why they refuse to allow themselves to give themselves to their new partners.....if everyone would just be honest in the beginning.... it would allow certain people to just avoid certain situations....I say you never really know someone until your apart from that person.....

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