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Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 320 (view)

Is It Cheating If Its Only Online???? Posted: 12/13/2008 1:15:24 PM
Its cheating. But at the same time you should be trying to find out why its happening. If he turns to someone online what is missing from his real relationship? If its constantly about sex then that suggests an area of concern, and raises several questions. As for further advice I would need more information about the stuation.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

Is being turned down for sex even once, really a good enough reason to end a relationship? Posted: 12/13/2008 1:07:02 PM
No it isn't. Only those image driven individuals would strike out at this type of behaviour, after all there are going to be times that one or both don't feel in the mood. Life can throw events at all of us. To simply throw a relationship away because on monday night for example there was no sex is more than pathetic.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

What would your EX say about you to potential SO's? Posted: 12/13/2008 1:03:18 PM
As long as its the truth why should I care? I can admit my faults and who I am. If someone wishes to say something about me as long as its accurate and have the good grace to say it to me too. Unfortunately those accused are not always given the chance to answer the chages levelled against them.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 56 (view)

Does career/position in life play a role? Posted: 12/13/2008 12:59:28 PM
It matters to so many because they are image driven. Their vanity and the impression of others is an important stone in the building blocks of their life. To say it isn't important and actually living by that view are two seperate things.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

should I tell her she's dating a married man? Posted: 12/13/2008 12:57:11 PM
Now be honest with yourself if not with the rest of the net. You only want to tell her about him being married so they'll break up. She'll be distraught and low and behold you can be that shoulder to cry on. Cue the hearts and candles, and then live happily ever after. or of course..... You simply want to see her unhappy so you can get your own back for her spurning your advances. If he is married so be it, its her life.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 954 (view)

Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with? Posted: 12/13/2008 12:49:31 PM
The answer's simple..... NO!...... You are either a cheat or not, and as for love, the word not necessarily the deed is thrown about like confetti. If you are in any relationship whether you said love or not cheating is unacceptable, if things aren't working fix them, if they can't be fixed then you part ways.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 162 (view)

Guy Refuses to talk on cell while driving & also at work Posted: 12/13/2008 12:45:26 PM
Using a phone while driving ranks right up their with drink/drug driving as absolutely unacceptable. I think your other half has the right idea and yet you want to give hime stick. I hope you still want that stick when you run someone over or cause an accident while on your phone. As for chatting at work, I wouldn't unless on abreak. After all your supposed to be there to work not to chat the day away.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

unsure but curious should I tell? Posted: 5/24/2008 2:22:18 PM
I'd tell him straight off. I prefer straight and to the point. After all when would be a good time to bring up any number of items. You'll be amazed what subjects can be brought up in a 'conversation'. Don't be afraid to bring it up, you can of course soften it with any line you want but at the heart of it will be.... this is the situation are you up to facing it......

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 307 (view)

Never married & no kids Posted: 5/24/2008 2:13:01 PM
The fact that they have no kids or haven't said 'I do' isn't high on my priority list. I'm not going to use that as an excuse to not contact them over someone who's been married and divorced and has a selection of kids to their name. After all should i be more interested in the second example there? Each person is an individual and I would take them as who they are and hope they would be honest if they answered me. To me why haven't you been married or have kids isn't a major question, before I've even spoken to them and doesn't gain much more if I get a response.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

eee the male ego Posted: 5/24/2008 2:06:43 PM
Its the same with so many its the group taking over. It takes alot to be able to stand on your own with your own views and ideas. The ego is a fragile thing that too many live by. Appearances are the currency they live by and trade with. Image is all, substance a valueless commodity.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 494 (view)

over 30 and still living at home Posted: 5/24/2008 2:03:12 PM
The only reason I'm still at home is the price of rent and property even several miles away. The greed of others has brought about the situation. I have had to move back twice due to changes in finances and situations but that doesn't stop the hunt for the next way out.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

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Are you a pack or a soliatary creature? Posted: 5/24/2008 1:58:49 PM
I'm a solitary creature, hoping to find someone to share life with me. Otherwise I'd be happy to live where my nerest neighbour isn't in sight. I've never been one for following the crowd.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 27 (view)

'Symbol' of Britannia coming off coins Posted: 3/5/2008 11:39:33 AM
Britannia should be left where she is, and the PC brigade should back off as with comments posted by some of the wishy washies here.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

Police spend £24 million on translation services Posted: 3/5/2008 11:37:45 AM
Another no brainer. The money should be spent on more Police and less PC crap. English classes are everywhere, the offenders should use them.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

Is there still a need for a Monarch? Posted: 3/5/2008 11:34:52 AM
Of course there's still a need. I think we should actually give more power back to the monarchy and my views about you republicans can't be expressed here.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Police catch your child drinking Posted: 3/5/2008 11:31:24 AM
I'd name and shame to all local bars, shops and anywhere else public. I'd also inform the Police that the next time they could arrest them.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 112 (view)

SNOGGING IN PUBLIC YES OR NO???? Posted: 3/5/2008 11:28:35 AM
A definite NO. There's a time and a place for everything, and in public isn't the place to watch this behaviour. The phrase get a room comes to mind.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 50 (view)

Should we have a referendum on the EU Treaty? Posted: 3/5/2008 11:25:05 AM
We should pull out of the Eu not get bogged down further with them. But Labour are anti-British anyway, so its not like they really care what we think.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 118 (view)

Is the armed forces raceist Posted: 3/5/2008 11:23:03 AM
No they bloody well aren't. The PC brigade should back off they've screwed things up enough to date. I'd simply stick them in the front lines.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 536 (view)

What book are you currently reading? Posted: 3/5/2008 11:19:49 AM
Pendulum of war: the three battles of el alamein

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

Should We Condem The UK's Celebrity Drug Culture More? Posted: 3/5/2008 11:18:30 AM
Of course we should condemn anyone who takes drugs, and the UN were talking about celebrities of all nations. after all it seems being one of their number allows you to get away with everything. I'd make an example of anyone taking illegal substances.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

Are Fog Lights on becoming the new accessory? Posted: 3/5/2008 11:15:46 AM
It seems to be those and spots of a variety of colours. Its amazing the peopel who drive these days, whether any of them are entitled to drive is another question.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 85 (view)

Should I make a deal of less than ideal ring? Posted: 3/5/2008 10:58:05 AM
No you don't want to make a 'big deal' out of the ring. Yet you slag it off. The truth is you felt special about it till you found out it wasn't worth as much as you wanted. Vanity and materialism.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 53 (view)

Best Way to tell a new lover what you like in bed. Posted: 3/5/2008 10:44:48 AM
Just tell them, if they can't take it then you can discuss the problem. If you don't then you'll only resent them and when you break up it'll be among the first things you throw in their face.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 87 (view)

first horror movies you saw? Posted: 1/21/2008 11:09:10 PM
Hammer Horror, the Nightmare series, Thriller, Vincent Price movies, if its horror I watched it and still do. The original Fog beats the new version by miles as with so many older horrors, the new stuff lacks bite and tries to make up for the lack of ideas with excess gore.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Our Boys ripped off by the MoD Posted: 1/21/2008 11:05:32 PM
Its because the whole government set up are taking the piss out of our forces. They're an ungrateful bunch who land our armed services with problems which are generally sorted through the hard graft of the personnel themselves. They sell off barracks to make way for housing for certain elements and charge high rents to the forces. Instead of wasting money on goody-goodies and other countries they shoud be putting more into the armed forces.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 55 (view)

NHS is it time to scrap it? Posted: 1/21/2008 10:59:49 PM
No it shouldn't be scrapped. The system there works. what you need to do is get rid of all those bloody managers and ingrates. Cut the huge wage bills that the quacks earn, get some decent staff who actually realise why they're there and it'll start to improve, it won't be an overnight success but it'll recover.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

time! Posted: 1/21/2008 10:56:26 PM
There would be various points I'd like to visit, and pass on some serious information at each.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

So who paid the 1 million pounds for Londons fireworks NYE? Posted: 1/21/2008 10:54:04 PM
Those of us who pay tax, bought that display. Why? Because the twat we've got in No.10 wants to look good along with livingstone. Its the latest in their campaign to waste our money, another point being the coming olympics. Of course the money could have been put to better use.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 40 (view)

Is It Acceptable To Throw A Snowball At A Complete Stranger? Posted: 1/21/2008 10:49:09 PM
No its not acceptable. Would you think it was acceptable for me to smash your window just for a laugh?

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

The NHS condemn fat people and smokers to a life of ill health Posted: 1/21/2008 10:47:15 PM
If you're responsible for your condition why should the rest of us have to bale you out. True weight can be down to several factors but if self induced should be that person's own problem. As for problems caused by smoking, drinking, drugs and the like the individual chose that path and so should have to suffer the consequences.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

Parking in loading bays Posted: 1/21/2008 10:41:43 PM
I don't park in bays or areas that I'm not supposed to, and haven't a good thought for those who do.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

Could you be so forgiving.. Posted: 1/21/2008 10:31:17 PM
I don't see the attraction in forgiving a cheat. after all those involved will soon be whining that they did it again.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 96 (view)

SNOGGING IN PUBLIC YES OR NO???? Posted: 1/21/2008 10:29:12 PM
Snogging and other things in public shows me the insecurity of those involved. Now before you all jump off your chairs and say how it shows your in love and simliar, it simply shows that you want to prove who's with who and show off. To me there's a time and place for everything, and in public isn't it. A quick kiss fine, after all you may be a couple but anything else, No.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 43 (view)

Has political correctness gone mad? Posted: 1/21/2008 10:22:03 PM
PC has gone mad. But to try and say your a poor innocent for the term spastic, did you use it in the correct usage or simply to refer to someone with a disability? if you used it to describe part of a condition then it would probably have been ok but I bet you weren't. Alot of the Pc squad get worked up over everything, and have no idea about the subject at hand.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

Could you be funny on stage too? Posted: 1/21/2008 10:16:25 PM
Couldn't be any worse than some of the supposed comedians they have around these days.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 95 (view)

Why do men brag about money? Posted: 1/20/2008 8:23:43 PM
Because alot of women are only interested in materialism. True alot say they're above that and are more interested in personality etc, but its generally a line. Its how things look and how much someone has that attracts them.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 40 (view)

When Do You Send a Rose..... Posted: 1/20/2008 8:13:10 PM
Don't know never sent one.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 442 (view)

Men paying for the sitter ? Posted: 1/20/2008 7:57:21 PM
Why should he have to pay for her kids? Does he get it refunded if the date doesn't go further (and by that I mean a relationship, not sex)?

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 69 (view)

Is it ever ok to sleep over on a first date? Posted: 1/20/2008 7:52:02 PM
Its a decision you need to make for yourself, as situations can vary.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 42 (view)

Would you buy shoes for a woman you just met? Posted: 1/20/2008 7:39:54 PM
I wouldn't be reaching into my wallet.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 146 (view)

Has being online toughened you up emotionally or made you more sensitive? Posted: 1/20/2008 7:34:20 PM
The net has simply proved the views I already have. As for being tougher or more sensitive because of the net, why would it change who I am?

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 192 (view)

Posting about your disability in your profile? Posted: 1/20/2008 7:31:56 PM
The only ones to be put off buy information on disabilities are the vain. I don't hold with the idea that some disabilities are fine to date and others are no go areas. To me you're all missing the point you're supposed to be dating the person. True if there are disabilities you find out from the other person any and all relevant information, you could even research some yourself. But at no time should that detract from who the person is.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 351 (view)

why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink?? Posted: 1/20/2008 7:26:10 PM
Its a rising trend as more and more people of all ages lose the ability to have fun without a few drinks inside.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 83 (view)

Arrange to meet someone and their a no show Posted: 1/20/2008 7:24:06 PM
Definite reason for arranging to meet at a cinema. That way if she doesn't show I can still take in a film.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 433 (view)

If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 1/20/2008 7:21:55 PM
It can be a pain trying to rearrange some e-mails, but its often the price of using a keyboard. It could be cofidence about using the computer, typing quickly and missing key strokes, or just poor grammar and spelling. If you don't find out from the person you'll never really know. Do you judge them on anything other than this level?

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 316 (view)

Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 1/20/2008 7:15:54 PM
Because alot of them have double standards.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 80 (view)

Should what you post on the forums be included on profile page? Posted: 1/20/2008 7:14:27 PM
I don't have a problem with them appearing.

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 137 (view)

HAVE YOU DATED A MARRIED MAN?????? Posted: 1/20/2008 7:11:37 PM
Its always good to see how many cheats and prospective cheats are on site at any given time. And you all have the same line....

Lahmia

Joined: 8/23/2006

Msg: 78 (view)

Do you think this is creepy? Posted: 1/20/2008 7:09:12 PM
Does the actual chatting to a person rather than a screen scare you? are you afraid they may discover something from talking that may slip by online?

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