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Joined: 8/26/2006

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Advice for a confused friend Posted: 5/26/2008 7:08:36 AM
Mind Freak~ You can't let something like this scare you out of the dating scene. Shit happens. Not everyone is perfect and not everyone is suited for the person they think they have this great relationship in the beginning. It all takes time. There is no way to know what early. There are so many things that show themselves months down the road. I don't blame you for being a lil insecure. It's scary out there lol. I don't know why ppl seemed to have this reaction to your friend. Maybe they have been burned, maybe they don't trust men. Who knows. I think ppl are losing their ability to forgive and it is sad. Honesty definitely pays off. Maybe it didn't for your friend and THAT particular woman but most of us, atleast I do anyway, appreciate complete honesty. I think ppl do hide themselves from others, due to their own insecurities. If your friend really did nothing wrong, then it's this woman's loss. From what you said about your friend, he was a good guy and treated her well. Should she be pissed at him for something he did before they even met? NO You don't "punish" someone for being honest. He didn't have to tell her. To me, that means he didn't have anything to hide. Yeah, sounds like there are a lot of other details you probably haven't mentioned. I would never let my bf put a picture of us online like that. Maybe she thinks if he did that, he did other things...I dunno. It's too bad for your friend but maybe that just means she wasn't the one for him.

Joined: 8/26/2006

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Advice for a confused friend Posted: 5/26/2008 7:01:54 AM
I don't exactly see why people are attacking your friend, for starters. I think what you are trying to get at is why this woman would suddendly break up with your friend a month after all this happened. None of us know the real story here and none of us know his intentions so I think ppl need to back off your friend. None of us are perfect but I think it says something about him that he showed that stuff to her in the first place. It means he had nothing to hide from her. Anyway, I'm looking at her behavior more than I'm looking at his behavior. The way it seems to me, is she just wasn't serious about him. She wanted to keep looking for some reason, so whatever he thought was there, must just not have been. Maybe on his side, but she wasn't ready for anything serious with him. She may have been looking for love and just didn't find it with him. Or maybe she isn't ready to get serious yet and just put that in her profile. Who knows. But obviously she isn't the one. I'm sorry but your friend just needs to start over. I had dated someone for five months too and thought I had a pretty good start to a relationship. But I just started seeing things I didn't like and realized he wasn't the person I thought he was, regardless how great it was in the beginning. But I refuse to dwell on the why's and just move on and try to find someone who wants to be in a relationship with me. Your friend needs to do that too. For whatever reason, she backed off. I don't think it had anything to do with some sillyness on a computer. I think that was just an excuse. She's telling him she wants something different. Sorry :(

Joined: 8/26/2006

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Guy I met online keeps asking for money Posted: 5/26/2008 6:48:44 AM
He's cussing you out and calling you names???? And THAT'S Christian???? YES IT'S A SCAM. Don't send him money and stop talkiing to him altogether.

Joined: 8/26/2006

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Users Emailing Me Who Have Blocked Me Posted: 10/19/2007 4:56:22 PM
i realize that sending out is not blocked...i just mean that this shouldn't be possible to do lol i'll block him next i just wish i could block him first lol

Joined: 8/26/2006

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Users Emailing Me Who Have Blocked Me Posted: 10/18/2007 7:05:59 PM
I was talking to someone who got pissed that I wouldn't give him my phone number. He blocked me (like I care) but is able to send me messages anytime he wants. He is bothering me and I want to know why it's possible for someone who has blocked you, to then email you. I deleted his message before I realized I should have blocked him. How else can I block him?

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