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Joined: 8/28/2006

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Question for U.S. Navy Persons Posted: 11/27/2006 12:13:07 PM
Robo- Internet usage is controlled and the speed is really low, but we don't restrict sites unless there is a security risk or it's got porn on it. Chat and IM are not allowed because of bandwidth restrictions and Operational Security concerns. That is primarily why Myspace and yahoo are blocked. Dating sites are fine, as long as the pictures are not pornographic. We don't allow you to connect your personal laptop to the LAN, and if you did your access would be taken away. However, lot's of people on the ship look at dating sites and it's not a big deal. Some commands will be more restrictive than others and it also depends on rank. If you have any other specific questions, email me. Managing this stuff is one of my primary jobs in the Navy.

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Do you look in the shopping cart? Posted: 11/22/2006 4:54:47 AM
There was a comment in another forum that caught my interest, namely: If I look in a guy's cart and see a bunch of frozen pizza or heat and eat meals, I assume he's single. If I see different ingredients, I assume he is cooking for 2 and thus unavailable. So if you are approached at the supermarket, assuming the guy is at least interesting, what kind of judgements do you make about what is in the cart? And, is there anything that you might see (only food items, not things like a treatment for crabs, yeast infection, pregnancy test, or something like that!) that would make you reject someone out of hand?

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Looking for advice. Youngest son is considering joining the military. Posted: 11/16/2006 7:02:22 AM
Bucsgirl, I know that my mom felt the same way when I joined (at 17) and I'm not sure how I feel about my son joining (he's talking about it). I was enlisted, then later, became an officer so I can talk about both sides. Worked with the Marines a lot. I am on a ship deployed right now. If you would like to talk a bit, or have your son talk to me, I would be happy to help. Drop me a line.

Joined: 8/28/2006

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How "quirky" is too quirky when it comes to a date? Posted: 11/2/2006 11:01:05 PM
Lots of people do the "coffee meet" as a first contact but that can get kind of boring after a while. The atmosphere of a job interview makes it hard to realy express who you really are. Maybe that's not true for everyone, but let's assume for the sake of argument that you want to get out of the coffee shop (cause it's going well) and do something different. So, when faced with the quickness of people to see "red flags" in any kind of strange behavior, where would you draw the line on "quirky" dates? Here are some examples: Just riding the bus (saw this in a movie, and I'm talking about the city bus) Going to one of those big toy stores, just to play (this worked great for me) visiting a really old cemetary to do headstone rubbings (also a movie) Going Trick or Treating (in Febuary, also a really fun time) Does anyone have any other suggestions of fun (but kind of strange) dates?

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did women kill chivalry? what do we need to do to bring it back? Posted: 10/26/2006 4:32:49 AM
This may be a matter of semantics, but what most posters seem to be talking about is being a "gentleman" not chivalry. Opening doors and pulling out chairs are artifacts of social customs that had more to do with fasion (hoop skirts) that became accepted behavior when they were taught in etiquitte schools. I am not saying that they are no longer relevant, just that it is really common courtesy more than chivalry. Chivalry is something that runs far deeper than social manners, and it is a statement of social responsibility more than relationships between the sexes. Mainstream media has made many statements on the meaning of "chivalry" and some of them may even be correct, but the common themes seem to be: Live a life of honesty and integrity. Protect the weak. (This applied to any who had less martial skill, not just women) Devotion to God (Every society has had the Paladin or knight, irregardless of religion) Patriotism (this can be misguided, but in general devotion to king and country is needed) Courage in the face of danger Willingness to sacrifice for a greater cause Commitment to Righting of wrongs and the downfall of the wicked. I don't think that these ideals are completely dead, and their demise had nothing to do with women. Being a gentleman may be a different story, but enough posters have commented on that already.

Joined: 8/28/2006

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No more POF dating experiences Posted: 10/17/2006 8:44:11 AM
bikerbabii: This might get deleted, but I hope you at least stick around to post in the forums. I have found your posts interesting and sometimes amusing. Lots of folks seem to do that, just hiding their profiles from searches. Might be a good way to take a break without cutting all ties.

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Wanting drama free relationships, but living vicariously. Posted: 10/9/2006 10:01:15 PM
I think that the horror movie example, although not really what I am talking about, is also a way of living vicariously. Obviously, no one would choose to be put in those types of situations and we generally identify with the victims (although who hasn't wished for the really stupid or annoying charachter to be killed next?). Horror's popularity, I beleive, stems from the endocrinal (sp?) response that those films trigger. Adrenaline is pumped into the system, causing measurable physiological changes that can be quite exciting. Drama, especially of the emotional or relationship type, should not trigger the same type of responses. I found the show extreamly depressing, but strangely compelling. At least enough that I watched all the available episodes. My question was more geared towards understanding why watching people in emotional distress can be considered entertainment. Are we all pain voyeurs? Like slowing down to look at the car accident?

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Wanting drama free relationships, but living vicariously. Posted: 10/8/2006 5:25:53 AM
Many of the profiles I look at on this and other sites talk about “Drama.” I am sure you have all seen these: “I run from Drama” or “You must be Drama free” or other variations. I also make the assumption that the profiles that don’t say these things are probably not looking to intentionally put drama into their lives. Drama is hard to deal with and mentally exhausting, so most don’t seek it out. Because of a number of circumstances beyond my control, I recently watched all 6 disks of “Grey’s Anatomy.” I’ll admit that even though the show is kind of depressing, it seems to reflect the real state of many people’s relationships. Most of the characters seem to be miserable and confused most of the time as to what they really want. So, here is my question: If most people aspire to drama-free relationships, why are programs that allow us to live vicariously in a drama filled situation so hugely popular? Do we need the release of seeing people in painful situations to relieve the boredom and pain in our own lives? BTW- I only posted this in “Ask a Girl” because it doesn’t seem to fit anywhere else and women tend to be more drawn to these types of programs than men. If any men have gotten hooked on these types of shows, I would be interested in your opinion as well.

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trusting again Posted: 9/28/2006 11:16:37 PM
Building trust should be a slow, gradual process. Right now, you have a very shakey foundation on which to start laying the stones for a future relationship. So start by working on yourself first. Going to the gym is great, but not the only thing. If you can find time for some other activities that you enjoy, that will be a big plus. You stated that you have esteem issues, so discover what is great about YOU. Look in your kid's eyes for validation on what a fantastic person you are. Surround yourself with people you trust. Freinds are great for this. Male platonic freinds can help a lot, hope you have some. Only when you think you can forget the last man, should you bring a new one into your life. Don't let the sins of the past affect how you treat your new interest. Be cautious, but not accusatory. Don't test. Trust is something that takes time to build, but you shouldn't put it in terms of "having to prove" oneself. People tend to rise to the level of your expectations, so if you are constantly mistrusting, a decent guy will probably either leave or eventually your mistrust will sour the relationship in some other way. Don't rush into anything and don't even think about taking this buy back. Good luck.

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Are you using the right bait? Posted: 9/26/2006 9:56:35 PM
hmmmmm...... seems to be a lot of confusion about the semantics we are all using. Maybe we should collectively set the definitions? I have no idea what the difference is in some of the categories. For instance: Hang out and Activity partner: Aren't these the same? Freinds: Does this mean platonic freinds, "help you move" freinds, or FWB? OTHER: F*** Buddy? Dating: We may or may not sleep together but I'm seeing other people as well. LTR: I'll date exclusively for some length of time, and consider marriage. Intimate encounter: One night stand (what if it's really good? Can we move to Other?).

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Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated? Posted: 9/22/2006 10:30:34 PM
OP, so if I have this right, he was pretending to be single not seperated? That's a bit different than being up front about your situation from the beginning. There are quite a few people that won't consider dating a person that is seperated, which is their perogitive and shouldn't be questioned. This is the story I tell myself for all the read/deleated I see But it seems to me, knowing this fact, putting "seperated" under status is inherantly more limiting than putting "single" or "divorced." So a status of seperated shows a greater possibility of honesty than other categories, because if I am just lying to get sex, why wouldn't I put "single" or "divorced?" Depending on the State, Divorce can be a pretty long process. At least a year if you have kids in a lot of places. Depending on individual circumstances, the person may be ready to move on or not, you never know. I am sure there will be a good number of people who have had a bad experience with someone who is seperated who will disagree, and council to never do it under any circumstances. OK, but that is why I have it right out front, so that they have that choice. To seek, to find, to strive, and not to yeild.

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I need serious advice Posted: 9/18/2006 11:58:35 PM
Actually, if you are bored you can have a lot of fun with these people (who knows if they are women or not). See how long you can make up stories, the more outlandish the better, and see if they will continue to beg you for money. I spent about 30 minutes IMing one, talking about how I couldn't get to the bank because the doctors wouldn't release me from the restraints and I had to wait for my medication. She wanted to know what the medication was for. I told her it was to make sure the aliens couldn't read my thoughts and thus gain the secret of taking over the Earth, thus acheiving interstellar dominance! If nothing else, it gives you something to do in between horrible innings of a Red Sox game!

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Strike, strike, STRIKE! Posted: 9/16/2006 3:39:50 AM
I am so glad someone asked about the "420." None of these things are strikes. If you do a quick search on the dating sites, most of the women in the 30-40 range have kids. I don't have exact numbers, but I would say 9 out of 10 profiles I look at fit this description. Any man worth having is going to understand the kid needing your time. Single dads know exactly what you are going through. I have no idea about the lightning, I always thought it was being abducted by terrorists Good luck, don't worry about finding a spouse (that makes guys run ). Just have fun and the right one will show up.

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