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pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 21 (view)

what is with the phone number Posted: 10/25/2009 1:11:09 PM
I have a cheapie pre-paid cell phone to use just for those people I might want to talk with, but don't know well enough to give my real phone numbers. It saves so much time and effort. I don't have to pay for blocked calls. I don't have to take calls at inconvenient times. I don't even take the phone with me anywhere unless I have already made arrangements to receive or make a call. The other advantage is that I don't have to concern myself with those people who are collecting cell phone numbers and names to sell to info collecting companies. Voices, accents, vocabulary, etc. are all important to me re: attraction. I try very quickly to find out if they sound as if they've been inhaling helium or some other oddity.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

My body,My choice! Posted: 10/8/2009 12:56:22 AM
If we must look out for the common good, then I would think it is every bit as important for people who work at schools and people who attend schools to also be required to take the vaccine. Last spring, there were numerous schools that had to close, but I don't recall even a single hospital, clinic, or doctor's office that closed. While we are deciding who needs to take the jab for the common good, then I think that anyone who works at or attends large public gatherings such as sporting events, concerts, etc. should also be required to be injected before they are allowed to be in a crowded venue where they could potentially infect hundreds and hundreds of people in a short period of time. Anyone who uses public transportation should also be mandated to take the shot. Imagine how many people on a crowded commuter train could be infected during the morning rush hour. In fact, if we are so concerned about the well being of the public, there are very few professions, jobs, social interaction situations, etc. that could be excluded. We should all be required to take the vaccine. As I wrote in an earlier post, IMO, no one should be mandated to put anything into their body in order to work. I also think anyone who doesn't take advantage of an opportunity to be well is not thinking very clearly, but that decision should be up to each individual.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

Oyster season is coming.. How do you like them? Posted: 10/7/2009 7:48:08 PM
Dredged in cornmeal and fried. I just love the things.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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My body,My choice! Posted: 10/7/2009 7:40:53 PM
I am just speculating, but it seems the most logical way to resolve this problem would be for those who refuse the vaccine to sign a waiver absolving the employer of all responsibility ( unpaid sick leave, no financial responsibility for complications stemming from the flu for the employee or those close to them). I agree people shouldn't be forced to have anything injected into their body in order to work, but I also understand when people get sick, they tend to jump on the litigation bandwagon. I volunteer at a hospital. We are being offered the vaccine when and if it arrives. I intend to take the shot. I've lived this long with lots worse things I've voluntarily put in my body. I don't think the tiny amount of vaccine is gonna get me.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Misrepresenting Posted: 10/7/2009 10:53:53 AM
Well I'm not going to rude and walk out cause the guy's 230 instead of the 180 he said Why not? Would you have met him if you had known he was 50 lbs. overweight? If you would have, then there is no reason to be rude, but if he wasted your time and money by lying, why in the world would you be polite? Until someone steps up to the line and tells it like it is, people will continue to misrepresent themselves because there is no reprisal. You may not seek out liars, but when you encounter them, you do nothing about it. If you aren't part of the solution, you are part of the problem.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Misrepresenting Posted: 10/7/2009 10:43:49 AM
I have had this happen MORE than once, I was polite but curious nonetheless As long as you feed stray cats, they keep coming back. As long as you are polite to people you feel have misrepresented themselves, they will continue to misrepresent.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

Why do we cross the boundary line? Posted: 10/7/2009 8:41:31 AM
Look up "Romance Addicts" on the internet. There are people who literally are addicted to the rush of romance. Just as anyone who is a reformed addict can tell you, stay away from temptation. It will jump up and bite you in the derierre every time. An alcoholic can't take just one drink, an addicted gambler can't place just one bet, someone addicted to food can't eat just one cookie. People who are addicted to romance can't just flirt. Sooner or later they will cross the boundary.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Dating a Gamer, would you? Posted: 10/6/2009 11:55:05 AM
In fact, I belong to a flying Squadron that meets every Saturday night online. Nope, I don't date avid gamers. Not any kind of game, virtual or real. The above quote reflects exactly my reasons. If a guy (or woman) does something every Saturday night, Monday night, Tuesday morning, or every third Sunday of the month, he/she is way too into his/her hobby for me. While a person may be willing to forego their activity during the intitial stages of a relationship, as the relationship evolves, they will usually fall right back into their old ways. Before you know it, you can't go anywhere or do anything because that person does something during that period of time.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Do I tell the other guy she's cheating him as well? Posted: 10/6/2009 11:07:56 AM
I would tell him. I would stick to the facts and leave out all the trash you can't prove. I wouldn't place any blame on the other man. You have pictures of you and she, and I suppose you also have hotel receipts, etc.. Offer to prove your allegations. Even if you had protected sex, condoms fail. No telling how many guys the woman has had or is having sex with, and it is in your best interest, and the best interest of anyone who has had sex with her to be aware she has had, and perhaps still does, multiple partners. The best that can happen is you get out of this with a good lesson. The worst that can happen is you have a disease, or 9 months from now, find out there is a possibility you have fathered a child.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Why some people are wanting to move so fast? Posted: 10/5/2009 11:51:31 AM
Nothing in the OP indicated you had agreed to meet and he kept rescheduling. Nothing in the OP indicated he had asked for an exclusive commitment. We can only comment on what is written. It is interesting that these facts seemed to pop up in response to opposing opinions.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Why some people are wanting to move so fast? Posted: 10/5/2009 10:15:29 AM
So I guess the question is why are some so desparate as to just jump into things so blindly? My question is why are some people so reluctant to meet in a public venue for a short period of time? I have been on dating sites for quite awhile, and the one thing my experience has taught me is to meet quickly. Why waste even a couple of weeks emailing and telephoning if there isn't a physical attraction? More info can be exchanged, both by verbal and non-verbal signals in one 15 minute meeting, than in a dozen emails. A cup of coffee or stroll through a mall isn't a lifetime commitment. There is no jumping into anything blindly. As for the guy changing his profile? IMO, he is disgusted with jumping through all the hoops that people seem to require just for the simple act of meeting.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

False I.D. to Proove We're Younger?? Posted: 10/5/2009 10:00:01 AM
I think you should do it. Since you obviously aren't looking for a life partner, it would open many more doors for dating opportunities. Also, I think you should dummy up a false set of books and bank account records in order to "prove" your wealth. Then of course, you could always get a few Ph.D's. While you are at it, how about doing a little photo shop to show how many really famous, influential people you can buddy up to? Of course, it would probably be advisable to 'fess up to these little falsehoods in a short period of time, otherwise, you may run into a lady who takes it seriously. She might not be quite so amused, and who knows what she could be lying about?

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Is senator Graham calling it like it is? Posted: 10/3/2009 10:53:45 AM
I think it's great that Senator Graham is condemning Beck. Now, if only a Democrat would have as much moxy and condemn people such as Joy Behar, some of my faith in the sanity of our elected officials might be restored.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Glen Beck----I used to like him, but he is kinda freaking me out Posted: 10/2/2009 11:34:45 AM
I don't take Glen Beck on the far right anymore seriously than I take Joy Behar on the far left. They both make a living ranting about the other side.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 62 (view)

Casual Relationships...... Can they work???? Posted: 10/2/2009 10:12:24 AM
I thought casual was a friendship that does not involve sex I have all kinds of casual relationships with my hairdresser, my butcher, my neighbors, business associates, my letter carrier, etc.. They all work out just fine. Not one of them involves sex.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Am so confused, we are together but he wont let me in his life.. Posted: 10/2/2009 10:09:52 AM
You want fast, he wants slow. You want public exposure, he prefers something more private. It sounds as though he is letting you into a portion of his life. You want more. If you aren't happy now, in the first bloom of romance, you probably won't be happy later when things calm down a bit. No matter the attraction, some people just aren't good matches.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

Casual Relationships...... Can they work???? Posted: 10/1/2009 5:24:38 PM
I THOUGH CASUAL RELATIONSHIP MENT JUST DATING. It usually does. Kind of like having a casual acquantance. It sounds as though the guy as described by the Opie wants only a sexual relationship.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Why do women find it hard to beleive that men feel scared or intimidated by them? Posted: 10/1/2009 9:40:43 AM
IMO, the words fear and intimidate seem to imply there is some sort of danger to the well-being of a person. Unless someone has serious emotional issues, rejection to a romantic overture doesn't fit that criteria. Unless we have some sort of martyr complex, none of us actually enjoy rejection, but to those with a normal psyche, it certainly doesn't mean we need to rush off to fill our Prozac. Consequently, unless a woman is unbelievably skilled at combat techniques, or has some unknown psychic ability for mind control, it would be a surprise to find out they were feared or created an atmosphere of intimidation.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Best scam EVER! Posted: 9/30/2009 5:15:17 PM
Humm...the best scam would have been if the woman had kept her mouth shut and kept the $100.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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the land of misfit kitchen appliances Posted: 9/29/2009 2:07:45 PM
My misfit appliance is a jar opener. I'm like the Burger King commercial for Whopper, Jrs.. I have squenchy hands and they don't fit around most of wide mouth jar lids. I don't have anyone to open jars, so I bought one of those things that look like a V with a handle. They are supposed to slide on jar lids and give you a handle to turn the lid. Nope, mine doesn't work. When I turn it, it just slips around the lid. I hate wanting a pickle and can't get in the darned jar. When I'm really desperate, I hold the jar between my legs and use two hands to open it. Unfortunately, if there is liquid in the jar, some of it spills on the floor, but I can't come up with any other solution.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Are men that cook better for a relationship? Posted: 9/29/2009 1:42:41 PM
I usually don't do well with men who cook. 1. Most of them feel if they cook, I should clean the kitchen, and I truly hate cleaning up someone else's mess. 2. I am old enough to know what I like and how I like it. I don't need a guy to tell me "Just try it. You'll love it." No, I won't. 3. Most men who cook well don't enjoy going out to dine. Even when you can get them to a restaurant, it isn't much fun because they become food critics. 4. And finally, most men I know who cook, keep score. They cooked for me, so I should do such and such for them. Oh I don't mean they actually say it out loud, but they certainly imply it.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Discussing intimacy or just adult natured topics Posted: 9/26/2009 1:52:38 PM
Every single thing posted in a forum is on the internet for as long as the internet exists. There are some things I simply won't post about, and sex (except in the most general terms) is one of them. Face to face, I will not have explicit sexual discussions unless it is with a person I am ready, willing, and able to have sex with. As far as I'm concerned, sexual discussions are just another form of foreplay, and I'm way too old to play silly, teasing games without a conclusion. By the way, IMO, sexual discussions have nothing to do with confidence. They have far more to do with intentions. For some women, it is a flirtatious game. For some, it is a way to earn a living. And for some, it is a foray into a much more interesting evening than eating popcorn and watching a movie.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Overdraft fees Posted: 9/26/2009 9:56:52 AM
Most banks already give you a choice. When you open the account, you can tell them you don't want any overdrafts paid. After Comcast drafted my account for $35,ooo.00 and my bank actually paid it, I had the overdraft feature removed. It was the only time in my life I have ever had an overdraft. As far as how much they charge, doesn't anyone else think the outragious fees are in place to encourage people to keep track of their money? In fact, if it happens very rarely, most banks will forgive the fees. Also, if you know you need to write an insufficient fund check, you can clear it with your bank first.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Different standards based on looks? Posted: 9/26/2009 9:24:56 AM
Look, no one here is going to admit it Quite a number on this thread have admitted it. It's nothing to be ashamed of. If a person has a quality, whether it be physical, one of character, or intellectually, most people have a tendency to overlook other things because the one trait is so outstanding. Here is a terrific example: Many were aghast that Hillary Clinton was so adamant about defending Bill Clinton's little peccadillos, but to her mind, there was something about him that outweighed his transgressions. My own marriage is also an example. My late husband was physically unattractive, but he was a such a brilliant man, his appearance didn't matter. Is there really any doubt why Donald Trump can attract so many beautiful women? An outstanding physical appearance is no different. It completely overshadows other traits or characteristics that may not have normally met our criteria. Very few people are willing to put up with a really awful person, but we all seem to be able to overlook little things.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Opponent of Gov't. Health Care Receives It Himself Posted: 9/25/2009 3:06:44 PM
When millionaires start dying because they can't afford to get sick Last I heard, millionaires die right along with the rest of us. Sorry, I couldn't resist. My smart aleck remarks are out of my system for another month.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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It's Swine flu! Run for your life! Posted: 9/25/2009 8:42:08 AM
IMO, the stir about H1N1 is because so many people have no immunity to it. During a full blown pandemic, the economic fallout could be disasterous. Most of our service-type workforce is made up of under 40's, the most vulnerable to this type of flu. Imagine what would happen if half the people in the workforce under 40 stayed home because of the flu? Plus, those people with young children who were ill would have no place to leave the children, schools and daycares would be closed, consequently, they would also stay home from work. There would be full scale pandemonium. Last spring, our school district closed for 4 days because of it. You should have heard all the whining and moaning. I don't even want to consider what it will be like if the virus spreads as anticipated.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

Different standards based on looks? Posted: 9/25/2009 8:30:18 AM
Most women will put up with being treated like garbage if the guy is hot enough. No where in the Op did I see anything about being treated like garbage. The question was would we be willing to put up with more. Would I be willing to put up with women ogling my guy? Yep. Would I be willing to have my guy openly flirting and ogling back in my presence? Nope. Would I be understanding if my guy spent money on his appearance? Yep. Would I be understanding if he spent money on his appearance at the expense of the mortgage and utility bills? Nope. Perhaps putting up with more is subjective, but my interpretation is that putting up with more does not equate being treated badly.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Opponent of Gov't. Health Care Receives It Himself Posted: 9/25/2009 7:58:22 AM
Bill Moyers is certainly a beacon of objectivity, and we can count on Arianna Huffington to present all sides of a debate in her fair and balanced publications. I haven't seen or heard any Republicans say people shouldn't have healthcare. I have heard Republicans and Democrats express serious doubts about the effectiveness and efficiency of a government run health care agency.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Next Craigslist ? ? ? Posted: 9/25/2009 7:44:19 AM
What's old is new again. We used to call them party lines, and guess what, they are once again being advertised as party lines. No picture, no profile, just talking with random people on the telephone. Right now, they are free, but I'm pretty certain as they grow in popularity, someone will figure out how to make a buck off of them.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Different standards based on looks? Posted: 9/25/2009 7:38:15 AM
Humm...if the guy was extrememly sexually appealing to me for whatever reason, I don't think that is lowering my standards, only meeting them. And yep, I would sure as heck put up with more from someone that could make my heart race just by looking at him.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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How to eat on 200 dollars a month? (Frugal)? Posted: 9/25/2009 12:49:16 AM
If you are near an angelfood distribution center, here is what you get for $30 for this month's order: 3-8 oz New York Strip Steaks, 1 lb. steak fajita strips 2 lbs. chicken stir fry skillet meal, 1 lb. lean ground beef 1.5 lbs. breaded white meat chicken tenders 1 avg. center cut ham steaks, 1 lb. bake or fry fish sticks (32) 1 lb. pasta, 25 oz. marinara sauce 1 lb. frozen baby lima beans, 1 lb. frozen mixed veggies 2 lb. bag fresh apples 8-10 count, 10 ct. flour tortilla wraps 32 oz. shelf stable 2% milk, 1 dozen eggs You don't have to be poor. There is no paper work other than placing your order. You don't have to be qualified or meet any certain standards.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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A strange relationship at work - insights? Posted: 9/24/2009 3:59:15 PM
You were there to stroke her ego, make her feel desirable, and give her a sounding board, all without any danger of her becoming emotionally involved with you.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Anthony Bourdain - No Reservations -- the BEST show on tv! Posted: 9/24/2009 5:26:01 AM
Awww darned! I'll do my part for this thread. The truth is I'm not a fan. The guy just aggravates me. Everytime he lights up a cigarette, my hands itch to knock it out of his mouth. I don't really object to smoking. I think I am probably envious because he can enjoy an after dinner smoke, and I can't.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him? Posted: 9/24/2009 5:18:38 AM
I don't have a dollar amount in mind, but he should have enough that money (mine or his) is not an issue in our relationship. Also, his attitude about money plays a huge role in its importance.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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How to eat on 200 dollars a month? (Frugal)? Posted: 9/22/2009 9:01:00 PM
$61 dollars a month is frugal, $200 a month is downright decadent, especially if you are getting free meals and groceries. Other than steak and lobster tails, there isn't much you can't buy. I don't know about Canada, but in the States there is an organization called Angelfood. You can buy a box of really good food for about $30 that will last a week for two people, two weeks for only one. You can look up their offerings on the 'net.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Islam Goes to bat for America Posted: 9/22/2009 3:31:28 PM
I don't care if they are praying, chanting, sending balloons into the air, or shaking tamborines. When people of good will come together, they can be a positive force, and goodness only knows, everyone could use a little help. Good for them.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Fish Sandwiches Posted: 9/22/2009 9:26:48 AM
Unless you are from Texas or La. you probably won't understand that I am about to share one of the best seafood coating recipes in the world. It is the one Luby's Cafeteria uses for shrimp and other fried seafood. 1/2 cup all-purpose flour 2 1/2 cups coarsely crushed saltine crackers 1 cup buttermilk 3 extra large eggs 1/2 tsp. salt 1/2 tsp. pepper Place flour in small bowl. Place crackers in speparat small bowl. In medium bowl, whisk together buttermilk, eggs, salt, and pepper until blended. Coat seafood with flour, shaking off excess. Dip into buttermilk mixture, then into cracker crumbs, coating evenly and pressing crumbs firmly onto seafood. In a large saucepan or Dutch oven, heat about 2 inches of oil ( I like peanut for frying seafood) to 325-350 degrees. For fish sandwiches, I like to use a fillet of cod about 1/4 inch thick.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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feeling hopeless from PTSD and other problems Posted: 9/22/2009 8:58:43 AM
Reason number 247 I love the forums. Every so often, someone such as nappy writes in such a moving, thought-provoking way, it actually contributes something worthwhile to my life. Opie, I'm so sorry for your troubles, but if I've learned anything in 61 yrs., it's that all things pass. Sometimes much more slowly than we like, but eventually, we have a good day, then a few good days string together, and then a few weeks, etc. If you can find one thing to hang onto. One thing to believe in. One thing to make you stiffen your backbone and keep trying, you will survive and succeed.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Create your own destiny... Posted: 9/22/2009 8:51:53 AM
"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." Helen Keller That quote has been a favorite of mine for many years. IMO, the Pollyanna Syndrome is every bit as destructive as always dwelling on the negatives. Unless you are able to see and acknowledge the challenges in your life, you will be unable to execute the required action to reach a solution. Life isn't always wonderful. Life is always interesting and exciting.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Why it is asking if she have been tested considered an offense?? Posted: 9/20/2009 4:43:52 PM
(i always say first and during the conversation that i make testing myself (not only for STD's) each 3 months.. I wouldn't be offended, but I would be highly amused and also a tad concerned that I was having a conversation of that nature with someone so naive. I would also be more than a little curious about how many things, others than STDs, you are testing yourself for, and why. Unless you are having tests conducted after each encounter, and then staying celibate for a period of time, plus being certain the tests are analyzed by a reputable lab, there is no guarantee you are disease-free for the next encounter. The same is true for your potential partner. Even in monogamous relationships, there is no guarantee that sex is risk-free. Your best bet is not bothering to ask until there is a basis of trust in the relationship. Then suggest you both are tested at the same time. Until then, use the most reliable condoms money can buy.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Last minute date requests Posted: 9/20/2009 10:17:59 AM
I don't want to feel as though I'm a last minute, desperation booty call, but by the same token, some of the most fun I've had have been on spontaneous dates. I suggest if you are going to extend last minute invitations, make it clear you expect nothing other than the pleasure of their company for a few hours.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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why do woman see men as just friends Posted: 9/20/2009 10:13:05 AM
Women don't see all men as just friends. Evidently, some women see you as just a friend. It probably doesn't have a thing to do with how you behave, but how you look and dress. If you look anything like your picture, I would never guess you to be only 33. Men who are balding can look very sexy and attractive. If they dress incorrectly, or try to camouflage their hair loss, they can look older and stodgey. My guess is that is your problem. Women in your age bracket, for the most part, aren't sexually attracted to guys who remind them of their Father. I suggest going through men's mags, or even look at men's pics here on POF, and check out how other men who are perceived as attractive achieve "the look". A little effort at cosmetic changes on your part, and I imagine you will soon be out of the friend zone.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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something different for holloween Posted: 9/16/2009 1:03:51 PM
The first thing I would do is check with the school. The schools here don't allow Halloween themes, anymore. The only thing we can do are celebrations of fall. The next thing is to find out if there are food restrictions. At our schools, we can do nothing with certain types of foods such as peanut butter, and very few sugar products. Most of the time, the teacher or PTA Mom will have a list of things you can do for the children. I know it isn't nearly as fun as doing something creative on your own, but the rules are there for a reason.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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What Makes You Say, Yeah, Right? Posted: 9/3/2009 9:46:59 PM
Electrocardiophysiologist - He really was. Owned a company that rocketed cremains into space - He did own the company. Russian diplomat - He was. Stock broker - He wasn't. Financial analyst - He wasn't. I could go on. Some of the oddest jobs and professions have been legit, and everyday, plain vanilla stuff were lies. Every day is a whole new adventure in dating. Who could possibly get bored?

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 104 (view)

is falsifying one's profile age no longer taboo? Posted: 9/3/2009 7:27:33 PM
.. you really don't care to find out that someone lied to you? If lying bothered me a lot, I would have left my husband when he told me the present under the tree was a blender, but it was actually two cruise tickets for a second honeymoon. If I were extremely rigid about lies, I would have been furious when my husband told me he didn't have time to get a b'day gift for me, however, when the icecubes in my drink melted, there was a set of beautiful diamond earrings. And then there was the time he took my car in to be serviced, but brought back a brand new car I had been admiring for weeks. It's a good thing I didn't have to divorce him over that particular lie. And if Antonio Banderas wants to tell me he's 48 instead of 49, I believe I can deal with it.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

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Holding on despite other interest Posted: 9/3/2009 2:35:54 AM
Call it a day. If you haven't met by now, neither of you is really very interested in the other. Long distance doesn't work unless one or both of you are free to travel often.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 56 (view)

is falsifying one's profile age no longer taboo? Posted: 9/2/2009 9:15:23 PM
! Let all of the ones who think its ok to lie about their ages, date each other. Why stop with age? Why not also include those that lie or are deliberately ambiguous about employment, their location, their education, or anything else that may not be the absolute and complete truth? A person who lists themselves as business owner or self-employed could throw a paper route or be a bag lady that recycles cans. While I'm certain those are honest jobs, I don't want to date someone who is employed in that manner. Is a more specific job description that difficult? How about those that think their education is not applicable? Perhaps to a person whose life is steeped in academia, it is very applicable. Then there are those who don't tell the complete truth about their location. I understand every internet security company in the world tells us it's a good idea not to reveal where we live, but if we demand truth, then we must be prepared to take the risk. And last but not least, my very favorite, the answer to "Do you do drugs?". Read the darned question. It doesn't say do you do illegal drugs. It doesn't say do you do recreational drugs. I don't know a single person who doesn't occasionally take some kind of drug for a headache, upset tummy, antibiotic, etc. Yet almost every person answers "no" to that question. Wow! Are they all lying? I've read about this issue so many times, I even know the argument some of you will use to justify the lie. Some things are subjective, so it isn't really a lie. You can't have it both ways. Either a person is completely truthful, or they aren't. The trick is to understand what lies you can accept and what lies you consider to be deal breakers. There is nothing wrong with demanding honesty, but honesty is not always the truth. A person can be honest, but still mislead and distort reality. It is easy to wear blinders and refuse to see our own hyporcrasy, but that is very often what this type of thread reveals. I'm not pointing fingers at any one person, but if you have not been absolutely straight forward about everything on your profile, you could be lumped right along with those who lie about age. IMO, lies don't make a criminal or even a bad person, just as the complete truth doesn't make someone admirable or desirable.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

the last- Best You Ever Had Posted: 9/2/2009 7:14:26 AM
I"ve already had wonderful, but I learned early on not to give a ranking or assign a number to anyone. They are each terrific in their own right, and I'm so fortunate to have them as a part of my life.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

is falsifying one's profile age no longer taboo? Posted: 9/2/2009 7:12:08 AM
I don't feel resentful because I have been around chat rooms, social networking, and dating sites so long, I understand most of the prevarications are security measures or just their particular brand of humor. When we meet, and I have any real interest, if there is nothing obviously different from their profiles, I ask if they have anything they need to 'fess up about. I don't lie about my age, but it doesn't bother me if someone else does. Of all the things on a profile, age is the least important. Lying about marital status ranks #1, followed closely by alcohol and drug use.

Pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006

Msg: 7 (view)

California Wildfires - Self-Responsibility Posted: 8/31/2009 9:19:59 PM
The same thing happens with hurricanes. I can't imagine not heeding the evacuation warnings, but in every hurricane, people will insist on staying. Down here on the Gulf Coast, there is a measure afoot to make evacuation manditory. If people will not go willingly, they can be forced to leave. I think the same law should exist for every area that experiences foreseeable disasters. Absolutely no one should be asked to put their life on the line to rescue people who are too stubborn to get out.

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