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 Author Thread: guys who don't like blowjobs
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 1038 (view)
 
guys who don't like blowjobs
Posted: 11/13/2012 7:59:50 PM
I really think there are some guys out there who are afraid a woman might do something wierd like bite them or something. Why else would a man not want oral sex?
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Erectile Dysfunction ... how prevalent is it?
Posted: 7/9/2012 7:39:36 PM
Yes, dear, I think that over 50 it is a very common problem. But why don't these men try Viagra, Cialis and whatever the other one is? I'm tired of dealing with limp****.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Shaving the boys .
Posted: 7/9/2012 7:27:19 PM
Smooth and clean is the way to go. I only experienced it 4 yrs. ago with my partner, who said he's been doing it since Viet Nam. Who wants a snaggle of hair in their mouth or teeth. Just licking the smooth testicles and bottom of the shaft is a definite pleasure. I shave, too.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 139 (view)
 
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 7/9/2012 6:57:37 PM
I am 0 for 16. Most of the guys are very flawed in some ways. I am not perfect, but I know how to make a man feel wanted and cared for. I met someone three weeks ago. From the first night we began phone conversations that would last anywhere from 3 - 6 hrs. Crazy, I know, but we shared so many things, past experiences (marriages), kids, our expectations, etc. He had a keen sense of humor and was very intelligent. That I loved.

By the second week he told me he loved me, wanted me to meet his family and friends, etc. DANGER! But I fell for it and loved him too. We shared sooo many things in common. So so many things. His humor was superlative. We laughed and laughed. Though I still had my reservations.

We met and had a great evening together, dinner, etc. and spent the night together at his home. Very smooth and romantic and just so right. We spooned all night and it was just perfect. Didn't hear from him for 2 days. I was a little put out. I guess I'm from the old school, when a man would call you the next day to, well, see how you were and hopefully, intensify things and say how lovely it was. A couple of days later I began receiving phone calls and texts. Again, I miss you, I love you. I want to be with you so much. And again, he was so damned funny. A sense of humor I have never experienced. I won't go into the details.

We were to get together the next week. He had an upset stomach and "fever". Un Hmmm. In any event, he has been contacting me on a very regular basis, talking on the phone, sending sweet texts, etc. I know I did things to screw things up. I suspected him of being with someone else and basically said so. After his excuses I said I was going to spent the weekend with people who "wanted to be with me" and his response: "Another snide remark". It went on from there to more things that were not nice - mostly from me. So he thinks I am someone who is always looking for trouble where there is none and am "transferring" my thoughts to him.

I have never been more unhappy. I have lost 6 pounds in less than a week and feel very unhealthy. I don't think he ever wants to hear from me again. He once said that he didn't "need this" had had it before and didn't want it again, yet he called me subsequent to that and things were alright again.

I am still crying and so upset physically and emoti0nally. Perhaps I haven't put this in the right perspective, but he really seemed to love me and wanted to be with me forever.

Am I crazy? Answer: YES! But I would like to hear from anyone who cares to share an opinion.

Thanks, guys.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 138 (view)
 
Has anyone had a good relationship with someone on POF?
Posted: 7/9/2012 6:56:46 PM
I am 0 for 16. Most of the guys are very flawed in some ways. I am not perfect, but I know how to make a man feel wanted and cared for. I met someone three weeks ago. From the first night we began phone conversations that would last anywhere from 3 - 6 hrs. Crazy, I know, but we shared so many things, past experiences (marriages), kids, our expectations, etc. He had a keen sense of humor and was very intelligent. That I loved.

By the second week he told me he loved me, wanted me to meet his family and friends, etc. DANGER! But I fell for it and loved him too. We shared sooo many things in common. So so many things. His humor was superlative. We laughed and laughed. Though I still had my reservations.

We met and had a great evening together, dinner, etc. and spent the night together at his home. Very smooth and romantic and just so right. We spooned all night and it was just perfect. Didn't hear from him for 2 days. I was a little put out. I guess I'm from the old school, when a man would call you the next day to, well, see how you were and hopefully, intensify things and say how lovely it was. A couple of days later I began receiving phone calls and texts. Again, I miss you, I love you. I want to be with you so much. And again, he was so damned funny. A sense of humor I have never experienced. I won't go into the details.

We were to get together the next week. He had an upset stomach and "fever". Un Hmmm. In any event, he has been contacting me on a very regular basis, talking on the phone, sending sweet texts, etc. I know I did things to screw things up. I suspected him of being with someone else and basically said so. After his excuses I said I was going to spent the weekend with people who "wanted to be with me" and his response: "Another snide remark". It went on from there to more things that were not nice - mostly from me. So he thinks I am someone who is always looking for trouble where there is none and am "transferring" my thoughts to him.

I have never been more unhappy. I have lost 6 pounds in less than a week and feel very unhealthy. I don't think he ever wants to hear from me again. He once said that he didn't "need this" had had it before and didn't want it again, yet he called me subsequent to that and things were alright again.

I am still crying and so upset physically and emoti0nally. Perhaps I haven't put this in the right perspective, but he really seemed to love me and wanted to be with me forever.

Am I crazy? Answer: YES! But I would like to hear from anyone who cares to share an opinion.

Thanks, guys.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 14 (view)
 
heart broke
Posted: 7/1/2012 6:37:02 PM
I totally agree with your advice, but you don't have to be "mean".
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Dating Games
Posted: 5/23/2012 4:33:49 PM
1. You shouldn't play head games. That's childish stuff.

2. If you can't be honest with someone about your feelings and have to "hold back" or pretend, don't see him (now or again).

3. You're only causing yourself a lot of heartache.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 870 (view)
 
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 3/26/2012 7:24:56 PM
No. I have been with a man for over three years. He has prostate cancer but will do nothing about it. As he says he's "going to the grave with it". In the beginning it was absolutely fantastic. He was very well endowed and sex was wonderful. After a prostate biopsy he couldn't maintain an erection, even with Cialis. Now we don't have sex anymore. He tries with the drug but after so much uh, stimilation, he seems ready but it just goes soft. I still care about him though he can be very callous, but our sex life is over. What do I do?
 jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 55 (view)
 
What do you think Is the chance of actually meeting somebody on a dating site and making it work for life?????
Posted: 3/19/2012 5:29:38 PM
Last for life? It's difficult to find someone who is honest, forthcoming and caring. I've been on this site for a while, and thus far, the men I've met all turned out to be "just not right". It's god damned depressing. Want to get off the site and meet someone another way.
 jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Mail order partners - whether male or female - what would be on your order?
Posted: 3/19/2012 5:26:15 PM
Hmmm,

intelligent
good lover
sense of humor
caring and loving (I count that as 1)
likes to experience new things - in every venue

I guess that's it.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 43 (view)
 
In a relationship with a cellphone....
Posted: 3/14/2012 7:23:03 PM
Yes, but where is the sponteneity? I find that many men can't handle phone conversations. Personally, as I think I've said before, texting is for 20 yr. olds. After that age, grow some balls and call the woman!
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 367 (view)
 
I am a man and I refuse to shave my pubic hair.
Posted: 3/14/2012 7:03:44 PM
It has absolutely nothing to do with prepubescent "boy/girl). It's totally clean and feels free.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 366 (view)
 
I am a man and I refuse to shave my pubic hair.
Posted: 3/14/2012 7:01:38 PM
"My ex just came back for a week of sex? I'm trying to be nice here, yet there has to be some hard truth to it. There is nothing worse than putting your face down between a man's legs and feel hair everywhere. Very distasteful and enough to leave a man who won't comply or at least compromise (trim trim trim) to be alone.

You have a very mysogenistic aura about you. Maybe the dog was a huge problem. That's uinderstandable, but come on, give a little. Share a little.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 15 (view)
 
FWB do they really exist
Posted: 3/12/2012 8:51:19 PM
You are a very bright woman.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Texting or calling?
Posted: 3/12/2012 8:41:52 PM
Frankly, I think texting is just a way out of having an actual conversation with the other person. There's nothing like hearing the guy's voice, whether it be on a voice mail or one on one. Texting for kids is fine, but once you get to be over 25, start making actual calls!
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 819 (view)
 
Double standard on Oral?
Posted: 3/11/2012 6:31:35 PM
I definitely concur. It feels so good to make your man hapy.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 41 (view)
 
What to do about a surplus?
Posted: 3/2/2012 7:21:57 PM
I mean no disrespect, yet how can you say you "hope you pick the right one"? Don't you have some inkling as to which woman you feel closest to and not cloud your judgment by other things. I have found that a relationship based on total honesty and communication is the one that will last the longest.

Good luck.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 177 (view)
 
Told me to get rid of my pets
Posted: 2/13/2012 5:23:50 PM
You knew the answer to your question before you posed it. He sounds heartless and selfish. "Nuff said. BTW I have two cats I consider to be my babies (seeing as I never had any).
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Is My Profile Too Sexual or Not at All?
Posted: 2/13/2012 10:23:51 AM
Coyotefeller,

That gave me a big laugh. Thanks for your opinion!
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Is My Profile Too Sexual or Not at All?
Posted: 2/12/2012 6:44:03 PM
In my profile, which I have shortened several times, I try to express my real feelings about relationships, being with someone I want to please, etc. I wonder if there is something in there about being "playful" or passionate" that is being taken the wrong way.

I really haven't had any men respond in such a way that makes me feel that way, but I just would like to have an outside opinion.

Thanks in advance.

J
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Should I take all my clothes off?
Posted: 2/11/2012 4:36:46 PM
No need to take your clothes off. Your profile is one that would certainly pique my interest - a little eccentric, but I love eccentric. The dogs, your interests, I don't know why you aren't getting a boatload of responses. You are very goodlooking. I didn't notice on your profile if you had an age restriction. Perhaps, you're looking for 20 yr. olds, who wouldn't be able to really figure out your profile. I'm sure they're still scratching their little blonde heads!
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 60 (view)
 
No Money and Looking for Love
Posted: 2/11/2012 4:27:13 PM
Sorry, but why do you use the term "gold diggers"? No one wants to get involved with more money issues than herself. I still offer to pay my part of a meal (most men decline), but don't call people like me gold diggers. It's very derogatory and insensitive.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 59 (view)
 
No Money and Looking for Love
Posted: 2/11/2012 4:08:22 PM
You know, what you say is true in some respects (more so when we were young and idealistic), but while I'm not looking for a millionnaire, I want someone who has a job, is responsible and yes, makes decent money. I don't want to go backwards, I want move ahead. This probably comes from my experience as always having money and over the last six yrs. being living just about on the poverty line. It isn't pleasant. Just saying, money IS important, as crass as it may sound. If you love that man, it's never about money.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Am I Overreacting?
Posted: 2/11/2012 3:55:31 PM
Tell her to go back to that "super cute" guy and admire his c***. End of story.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 4 (view)
 
cant talk to girls
Posted: 2/10/2012 7:20:05 PM
Stop being so judgmental and critical.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Fell Hard Too Fast
Posted: 2/10/2012 3:59:37 PM
God, I never thought I should "take him back". And yes, I did tell him things were moving much too fast, but it just didn't register with him. And yes again, he had his own apartment and a decent job (not some derelict). I just felt so boxed in, especially when at one point I was talking about spending time with friends and he said "Well, you have a boyfriend now".

I am neither needy nor mean spirited. And, for the record, he is 56 and get this, had an 18 yr. relationship with a woman he never lived with. OK, Sigmund, how 'bout that?
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Fell Hard Too Fast
Posted: 2/10/2012 3:50:20 PM
Thank you. I feel better, but haven't read the rest of the posts yet.

Jayne
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 154 (view)
 
A man must love the woman more than the woman loves the man
Posted: 2/9/2012 9:05:27 PM
I, too like this thread. My mother said "It's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor man". And boy, was she right. I, on the other hand, didn't listen to a word she said . . . lol
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 153 (view)
 
A man must love the woman more than the woman loves the man
Posted: 2/9/2012 9:03:48 PM
Yes, indeed. IMHO.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
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Fell Hard Too Fast
Posted: 2/9/2012 8:48:54 PM
I met someone on this site about 3 wks. ago. We hit it off with out marathon phone conversations and before you know it he's talking about love. How he never felt such a connection before, his plans for the future, etc.

He is a very nice person but so needy. I realized I had to do something to cut this thing off. I suggested taking things slowly, but his talk of loving was starting to make me crazy. The second time he came over he brought shaving cream, razors, deodorant, etc. Wanted his own drawer.

The problem is when we spoke 2 days ago I told him how I felt about things and basically let him know things couldn't go on this way. I knew this wasn't a situation where I could just say let's cool it for a while. It had to end. Now I feel badly about it. He was a truly nice guy but I have to believe that the decision I made was totally right and there was no turning back. Am I nuts?
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Will I be getting played by this girl?
Posted: 2/9/2012 8:34:32 PM
1. Why "play it cool"? Why keep your conversation spare?

2. You say you like this girl, but be careful. If she's still connected in any way with the ex, you're going to end up on the short end of the stick.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 21 (view)
 
What Time of The Day Do You Prefer To Have Sex?
Posted: 2/8/2012 3:32:19 PM
I've never really understood the "musky" thing. I've also heard that some men like it even more than musky. I guess whatever makes you happy, right?
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Squirting
Posted: 2/6/2012 10:50:12 PM
I've recently met someone who asked if I squirt. I've read about it but am totally unaware of how that happens. Is there something wrong with me? I do not squirt. I get very wet but squirting? Is that an acquired talent?
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 154 (view)
 
can a woman get spoiled by a BIG penis???
Posted: 2/6/2012 10:45:59 PM
I've never experienced women friends "bragging" about their man's**** Maybe my friends are a little more discreet.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 153 (view)
 
can a woman get spoiled by a BIG penis???
Posted: 2/6/2012 10:44:45 PM
I'm no expert, but it's so obvious that having a large man is so much more enjoyable (unless it's really big and then it hurts). I recently met someone who is a very nice person, very loving but has a tiny penis and I just can't deal with it. Is there something wrong with me?
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 1233 (view)
 
oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it
Posted: 2/6/2012 10:42:14 PM
Try sampling some of your own sperm and you'll see why women don't want to do it. It's not very tasty!
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 1232 (view)
 
oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it
Posted: 2/6/2012 10:40:14 PM
I have to agree. If you actually love the person you are with, you would do anything to make him happy. And if swallowing sperm does it, well, then, OK!
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 15 (view)
 
playing with the mess?
Posted: 2/6/2012 10:36:38 PM
I've always liked it when a guy comes on my tummy and I put my fingers in it and lick it with my tongue. I think men love that.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 108 (view)
 
Meow
Posted: 1/21/2012 1:24:46 PM
Your woman is a very lucky woman.

J.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 107 (view)
 
men who truly desire the shaved/waxed kitty
Posted: 1/21/2012 1:22:35 PM
Amen! It seems to me that most men prefer a totally smooth "kitty". Personally, I think it comes from watching too much porn. But anyway, you are so so right. If a man wants the clean shaven look, than for God's sake, shave yourself, totally! It makes it so much nicer to, uh, play with, for lack of a better term.

J.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 196 (view)
 
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/3/2012 3:13:32 PM
Wow, a gentleman and considerate lover.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 195 (view)
 
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/3/2012 3:12:57 PM
Bravo and well said fashionlady.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 81 (view)
 
Std dating?
Posted: 12/25/2011 3:34:29 PM
Keep in mind Herpes is not AIDS!
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Std dating?
Posted: 12/25/2011 3:33:09 PM
No, I don't think it's pointless totry and look for people in your "same boat". As a matter of fact, if you are a good person and are not interested in just meeting someone for sex, there are women here who would date you and just have safe sex. Don't pidgeonhole yourself.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Getting Off POF
Posted: 11/23/2011 5:42:25 PM
How terribly sad.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 170 (view)
 
Is the new Independent woman really interested in guys
Posted: 11/23/2011 5:37:14 PM
There's a man with an open mind!
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Younger men, Older woman
Posted: 11/17/2011 6:39:18 PM
I believe I already posted this, but was a no-go. I have always been with men a few yeard older than me. Has worked for 47 yrs. Always a one-man woman. But since we have separated and I am "free" so to speak, I find I have had many younger men e-mailing me. I mean - young. At first I was kind of apprehensive, but as time went by, I thought I'd give it a try.

Scroll down if you don't want to hear the outcome . . . . Daniel was 26 yrs. old. A very nice person, who spoke Russian and didn't mind being with an older woman - ahem, ya I know. Without going into any detail, he was the best sexual experience I have ever had. Older women, don't turn them down. They may not have things in common with you and politics may NEVER be discussed, but the sex is out of this world!!!!
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Younger men, Older woman
Posted: 11/17/2011 4:47:55 PM
While I admire older men for their power, knowledge and he ability to make you happy in other ways, there is nothing NOTHING like a younger man. This is something new to me. I don't know why (my profile is very innocent), but I get messages from younger guys, much younger guys, and they are hot!

I was very trepidicious at first, but once I met my first young man it was like nothing I've ever experienced (I was very oppressed in my young years). Just the feeling of abandon, touching a hard body and have him so interested in mine. It went on and without going into detail, I was most satisfied.

Only once after that did I meet someone younger, though he lied about his age by 10 yrs., we met, had dinner, a nice conversation and, well, oral sex prevailed. I was not ready to have intercourse with him. Since I have seen him and the sex was FANTASTIC!

I just can't imagine me going back to an older man with a big belly, medical problems and erectile disfunction.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Younger men, Older woman
Posted: 11/17/2011 4:38:30 PM
While I admire older men for their power, knowledge and he ability to make you happy in other ways, there is nothing NOTHING like a younger man. This is something new to me. I don't know why (my profile is very innocent), but I get messages from younger guys, much younger guys, and they are hot!

I was very trepidicious at first, but once I met my first young man it was like nothing I've ever experienced (I was very oppressed in my young years). Just the feeling of abandon, touching a hard body and have him so interested in mine. It went on and without going into detail, I was most satisfied.

Only once after that did I meet someone younger, though he lied about his age by 10 yrs., we met, had dinner, a nice conversation and, well, oral sex prevailed. I was not ready to have intercourse with him. Since I have seen him and the sex was FANTASTIC!

I just can't imagine me going back to an older man with a big belly, medical problems and erectile disfunction.
 Jayne0927
Joined: 11/1/2010
Msg: 153 (view)
 
Masterbation...How much is Too Much???
Posted: 11/16/2011 5:43:27 PM
Yes, I have heard of men who are highly sexual and masturbate several times per day. Problem: When he gets with a woman, he has his own technique, stroking time, etc. etc. that cannot, sorry for this, be duplicated by a woman (or a man). I had a friend who was in a good relationship except the sex was a problem. He wa so accustomed to getting off by his own hand(s) that when he had the real thing, he couldn't handle it. Very disappoining. End of that relationship. Take a lesson, girls.
 
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