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 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Bikini wax
Posted: 5/25/2012 12:11:38 AM
Natural but neat.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 157 (view)
 
Would u still date a girl if she won't sleep with u?
Posted: 5/25/2012 12:04:39 AM
Any girl I date more then once is because I believe there is a relationship potential there. Sex is part of a good one.

Do I expect sex on "x" number of dates? Not at all, although if we go out for more than 2 dates, it seems we are in either her bed or my bed by the fifth one at the latest. I'm a bit picky, and hope the person I am with is too. Picky means not just looks and body, but also the person she is. Strange as some women may feel about a guy saying this, I've turned down sex because I saw no potential for any further relationship. Love to get my rocks off, but there has to be some mental and emotional stuff going on too.

JMHO
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 91 (view)
 
What's Your Number?
Posted: 2/23/2012 2:30:55 PM

They may as well ask me how much I weigh because they will get the same response!!


In other words, more then you should?
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Evolution vs Creationism/Intelligent Design
Posted: 2/17/2012 11:07:15 PM
The answer is simple.

If you believe the bible is as a literal document, you think creationism and nothing anyone says will change your mind.

If you believe that the scientific process applies to all sciences, then you know evolution is the answer.

BTW, for those that don't believe in science, faith healing is the way to go. No sense in wasting the medical staff's time or using pharmaceutics the rest may need.

After all, they were developed by the same scientific methods that has shown evolution to be real.

And if any creationist wants to discuss what "is written", bring it on.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 291 (view)
 
is it harder to date as we get older?
Posted: 2/12/2012 5:14:06 PM

Get back into a size 12?? Are you kidding? Not to be harsh..but that's your problem. You let youself go. Men and women want people that take care of themselves no matter what age


BINGO. I don't expect Barbie as I am not Ken, but I don't expect Sally Struthers either.

I find women in my age range who have taken care of themselves very attractive, and there are a lot out there. Sorry, I just won't be involved with those who have chosen to indulge in too much dessert, fats and eschewed exercise. BTW, the odd wrinkle happens at our age... but if it is as a result of too much sun or tobacco, its your fault.

Harsh? That's reality. I live what I preach, so why would I not want the same from a partner?
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 484 (view)
 
Evolution vs Creationism/Intelligent Design
Posted: 2/6/2012 10:18:56 PM
apurfectmeow said:


Believing in a higher power (I choose to call God) has to do with my understanding the energy of faith. It cannot be proven only felt within believers similar to an emotion. That faith may be expressed but no one really knows besides us if its a truth. To me God is the energy of the universe; he is science as the creator of all. The bible is just reference material of the history of experiences with God (sometimes badly written by men). I don't need it to understand what I feel inside myself although I have read and comprehend most. That doesn't mean I have to agree. Introspection I do well; tapping into the powers of God are a gift of this act. One day maybe modern science will be able to measure that energy (it is in nature all around us). I still do believe that it will be discounted as a Godly source being the vast majority of logical thinkers today discount religion as nonsense.


Oh Good... so seeing the bible is just reference material, you are not with the crowd that says it is the inerrant word of god then?

Good on ya! Many who espouse their devotion tell us that the bible is sacrosanct.

Science can't explain religion, and religion can't explain science.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 457 (view)
 
Evolution vs Creationism/Intelligent Design
Posted: 2/4/2012 5:01:25 PM
and believe me you telling me im ignorant will just make me


As you are so ingratiated by your bible, can you tell us exactly what message we are to learn or receive from Numbers 31:1-54 ?

The short story is Moses tells his buddies to kill the neighboring tribe, including all women and children, but if they find any virgins, they can keep them for themselves.

His buddies found 32,000 Virgins.

Hell, that's a lot better then Muslims who need to blow themselves up before getting 72 in the afterlife.

So... what is the spiritual and godly message taught by these passages?
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 437 (view)
 
Evolution vs Creationism/Intelligent Design
Posted: 2/3/2012 2:11:43 PM
Science can't explain religion, and religion can't explain science.

End of story.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 237 (view)
 
Beauty over age 45
Posted: 2/1/2012 1:45:53 AM
Interestingly enough, I find a LOT of women look great who are near my age (60).

The nice thing about that is that I don't have to worry what they will look like when they get older... they already have a combination of good genes, a healthier lifestyle, including not smoking or having excessive sun exposure, they keep their weight in check, are active and most of all have a great attitude.

For those that are not like that, I have little interest in finding out if there are other good qualities a great relationship needs. Many women in the age bracket I am interested in (51-64) look great, so why would I date someone who doesn't? I'm sorry if you smoke or smoked for a long time, if you thought being in the sun all the time was great, or you indulged in foods that did not much for nutrition but stuck around on your body as a reminder. If your interest is your couch and TV shows, oh well, I'm not your guy.

There are so many quality women out there that have an inner and outer beauty, many here on POF.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Is it just me or does the term 'girl' seem odd 'at our age'?
Posted: 1/24/2012 9:27:26 PM
Boy, people get their panties in a knot over the stupidest things!

How many of you women go out Friday nights "with the girls"? Some of us men go out "with the guys" or "with the boys".

I never call a woman a girl when referring to her professionally or in a non-familiar setting, but good grief, my girlfriend is my girlfriend, and yes, she calls me her boyfriend. We're not "partners" (we're not gay or in business), we're not "significant other" (who ever canned that politically correct term should be shot) and we certainly are not FWB. And she would NEVER be "the biatch"... THAT is rude and disrespectful.

But girlfriend? Come on... find something serious to get upset about.

I might change my mind in 10 years when I'm 70.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 191 (view)
 
Ageism
Posted: 12/20/2011 9:57:19 PM
My search parameters are from 10 years younger to 5 older.

Why older? Because at our age (I'm 60), I figure if a lady 1, 2 or more years older then me has taken of herself and still looks good, then the likely hood is she will look great 10 years from now.

Sorry if that is a bit shallow, but it is one of the coarse filters I use. Personality of course is the primary one for a relationships, but I know I don't look my age, am very active, and want the same from a potential partner.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Girls go first?
Posted: 12/4/2011 8:59:16 PM

Actually I have had men say to me that they think a woman that messages them is easy and has no respect for herself, so I think that is why some women feel that way about messaging someone. (Personally if they feel that way I wouldn't be interested in them but I do know that some men feel that way)


What? No respect for herself because she messages me first?

Last I checked that is SO 19th century, and believe it or not, we are in the 21st.

I'm flattered when a women contacts me first. Some I have no interest in, some perhaps, and some is like, "wow, how did I miss contacting her first". In all cases my reply is polite, and I don't have ANY preconceived ideas about where a contact will lead.

As it should be.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
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no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 12/4/2011 8:53:58 PM
I did in the past, but experiences has taught me... DON'T.

It might be viewed as shallow, and so be it. "A Few Extra Pounds" shows up and would make Rosie O'Donnell look positively skinny.

A "trust me, you'll like my looks" appeared and looked like she went bobbing for french fries.

You get the picture.

Pictures (yes, plural). One closeup that is NOT a glamour shot, and a full body one. If that is not on the initial profile, I just won't respond if contacted, or won't contact you.

There are too many nice women out there, both in personalities and looks to bother with those that hide their features. And yes, I'm no Ken, and I don't expect you to be Barbie.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Dealing with POF rejection
Posted: 11/6/2011 7:55:29 PM

Do not use POF as your primary means to meet people. You will always be disappointed.


Really?

I better tell that to my son who met his wife on POF, and now has a son of his own.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 38 (view)
 
How do people get laid all the time?
Posted: 11/4/2011 9:21:22 PM
By being interested, truly interested in HER. Not her sister, her roommate or her classmate. HER. And meaning it. Treat her with respect, and don't expect to get laid right away.

Go out a few times; she'll let you know when the time is right. If your not pushing, your going to get laid more often then if you do. If you really do this, I bet it won't take 5 dates before you guys are not "Getting Laid" but making love.

Huge difference, and you won't want to brag about it, because you respect her.

Keep pushing, and you might get lucky, but is that a person you want to be with?
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Need opinion please!!!
Posted: 11/4/2011 9:05:07 PM
Just a question... is it possible he "needs" to take ED drugs, and if he hasn't, cant' perform? I suspect a lot is psychological with him, but have you though this may be an issue?
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 230 (view)
 
Celibacy - a more common choice than people admit?
Posted: 11/1/2011 7:01:27 PM

...
Well I am happy to say that I have spent the past 19 years alone. No sex with anyone.
No relationships that I would end up destroying, and no more broken hearts.
I still think about having sex with someone but givin the amount of time that has past
now, I don't think the little guy even works anymore.
I don't miss it anymore, in fact I can even joke about it now. Imagine me bringing home
a date and then explaining to them that if they think they're going to get laid, they're out
of luck.
Anyway, I'm a happier man and I can much better enjoy the company of women. Going
to dances, I have had a few that would like to come home with me, but I very nicely tell
them that I came to the dance alone and I will be going home alone.
So at 59 years of age, sex is just something that I did when I was a younger man.
19 years, and when I get to twenty, I'll stop counting.


No one should judge another's choice, but your choice certainly is not mine, and I am 60.

My celibacy period lasted over 10 years; I was in a marriage that only worked for the kids, and my morals said no stepping out, even though I was dearly missing the physical part.

When I finally got divorced after the kids grew up, I was like a kid in a candy store. I had no idea women found my sexy, or that they at my age (I was in my 40's then) wanted sex as much as I did. The three date rule was not only prevalent, it appeared to be a 2 date rule in most cases. My relationships all lasted at least 6 months, most longer, so it was not jumping from bed to bed.

I recently broke up with a good woman who was 17 years younger then me. We had dated for 2 years, and I am back looking, albeit I am pretty selective (and it is not all about looks). Am I looking for 17 years younger again? Nope, only if it happens, but I also have no problem looking at someone older then me.

The important component is that once compatibly and goals are sorted out, sex defiantly needs to be part of the equation. It always has been, and I can't see that changing.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Yes I know that age is just supposed to be a number ...
Posted: 10/31/2011 10:54:21 PM
60, and not worried about telling anybody I am.

I keep pretty active, and still able to take part in any physical activity my kids choose to do. I know this won't last forever, but for now, proud to be a sextigenarian.

Attitude, diet, genetics and exercise all contribute to "age is just a number". Genetics is the only thing I can't control, and got lucky on that one.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
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is it harder to date as we get older?
Posted: 10/31/2011 8:12:15 PM

Could be its harder if you go back to doing the same old stuff you used to do in your 20s. But, this online scene doesn't seem to work much either, FWIW.


Really? Every woman I have ended up having a longer term relationship with in the past 13-14 years I met online first.

Where else can one do an initial screening by email or phone without having met before. I don't do bars, and one can only ask how to pick the ripe tomato so many times at the grocery store before someone reports you

Online is a wonderful way to meet people, and many turn out to be wonderful people.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Ok, so there's this 18 year old at work that got me thinking
Posted: 10/30/2011 6:17:14 PM
Hmmm.. I can't agree with you.

I have had longer term relationships with women who were 18 years younger to 3 years older. I would go out with a woman who is 5 years older also.

Why? Because for one (no offense to anyone), you already know what she will look like when she gets older. If she is still good looking at 64, bets are she will be at 74. And yes, there are many good looking 64 year olds right here on POF. And some not so good looking 43 year olds.

Secondly, I would rather go out with an active and vibrant 64 year old then a staid and withdrawn 50 year old who has no more life and pizazz left in her.

And you may not know it, but sex can be just as exciting with someone in their 60's as someone in their late 40's.

The saying "age is just a number" is one some people live up to. I believe I am one of those, and the women I date will also be.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 247 (view)
 
is it harder to date as we get older?
Posted: 10/30/2011 6:09:05 PM
Harder to date? Not really.

What does seem more difficult is to find someone who matches you in viewpoints, life styles and experiences. Or maybe we are all more critical of who we meet.

It's easy to date once or twice, but if a relationship is not potentially there, I will probably not be there the third time. I do screen via email and phone calls, so once I do meet, often I or we already know there is some compatibility.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 65 (view)
 
First Date Expectations - Over 50
Posted: 10/30/2011 6:01:35 PM
What a boor!

Any groping that happens should be mutual, and certainly not on the first date, and not in public.

A couple will know when it is appropriate for them. Sometimes that will never happen.

Please don't view all men the same because of one a$$hole out there.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Family Fued Question
Posted: 9/15/2011 12:06:13 AM

I can't see that paying for sex implies a great need for a woman's body any more than paying for a ticket to six flags implies a great need to ride a roller coaster. If it's fun and the price is right, why not?


I'm pretty sure I am not the minority here, and I know it is the oldest profession, but to me going with a prostitute is just plain wrong and disgusting on so many levels (and I am not including religious ones).

I just don't get why any man does. Women I date like sex just as much as I do, and once we get to know each other, it usually doesn't take that long before we get intimate.

Was that way when I was 18, 24. after I got divorced at 46 and now at 60. It's just sick to use a prostitute.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Sex over 50?
Posted: 9/11/2011 9:08:46 PM

Also, past 60, looks don't matter as much., So we're all on equal footing. An intelligent, well kept older woman, some erection enhancing drugs, equals a pleasant time!


Looks don't matter?

I take just the opposite view.

There are so many good looking women who have taken care of themselves that are 55-63 that I know they will still look good 10 years later.

That is the nice part about being our age (I'm 60). Less inhibitions and there is a much wider range to choose from, as it seems some of our sex decided to live too hard when younger, and they are not around.

My last GF was 42 - we're still friends- the one before that was 2 years older then me. I think I will stick with ones that have life experiences that I have. That last gap was too much... she was only 4 years older then my son-in-law.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Evolution vs Creationism/Intelligent Design
Posted: 9/4/2011 3:49:12 PM

Actually, I would disagree with the entirety of the statement "Religion can't explain science, and science can't explain religion."

Religion DOES explain Science, just not in a manner acceptable to most scientists.


Meaning what? Science develops from observations, from which a hypothesis is drawn, and becomes a theory once the factors utilized in the experiments are repeatable. In other words, based on facts. BTW, although common usage of theory implies doubt, in fact for a scientific theory to be labelled as such, it requires a high level of proof derived from the hypothesis.

Religion is based on faith.


Religion CAN be explained by science, unless one refuses to consider the various disciplines that study human behavior to be sciences.


Religion developed for three reasons:

[list]
*Explain the unexplained (eclipses of the moon as example)
*Provide some guidance to an orderly society
*Fulfill a spiritual need
[/list]

When one does a comparative religious analysis, the commonality of religions traced back to 7-8000 years ago versus what they evolved into is strikingly similar, and has a large resemblance to the 3 points I have listed.

There is nothing new in this.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 461 (view)
 
When does physical attraction stop being so important?
Posted: 9/4/2011 3:26:40 PM
It doesn't, but it needs to go along with other attributes that are important in a LTR; you know, respect, attentiveness and doing things together.

I'm 60, my last GF of 2.5 years (we're still friends) was 18 years younger. The one before that 2 years older than me. Both were attractive, active and kept themselves in good shape.

There are *many* attractive women in their late 50's and early 60's. Why should I attempt to make a connection with those in the same age group who have let themselves go? I'm not talking about botoxed and plastic ones, I mean the real ones who eat right, haven't smoked most of their lives, avoided too much sun, and exercise.

Some curves are OK, but if your dumpy (and you know if you are, just look in the mirror), why should we men who take care of ourselves want to meet you? I don't care how nice a personality you are, because there are a lot of women who DO take care of themselves who have just as nice or nicer personality.

I'm not being shallow, just realistic. I don't look, act or feel 60, and I want to be with a woman who thinks and is the same (even if she were older than me).
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 162 (view)
 
Do Others find it harder to meet other people in their 50s?
Posted: 9/4/2011 11:04:42 AM

Quite right. Men in their 50's with something to offer, reasonable health, financially comfortable, and so on want younger women and can get them. Why not!!!


I disagree.

My last GF was 18 years younger, and we are still good friends, just not a couple any more. Our relationship lasted 2.5 years.

My previous GF was 2 years older then me. That relationship lasted over a year.

The commonality between both?

They were interesting people intellectually, they thought "young", in other words, were active and had no problem hiking in the mountains or taking a canoe down a river, and yes, of course the physical was there also.

My next relationship may be someone anywhere's in between those two age gaps... or it may not.

Clear thinking, down to earth, and stimulate me intellectually as well as physically, and we'll have a good start.

If she is tied into possessions and status we won't be compatible. In fact, I down play were I am at, as I want to know that she is into me, not what I may or may not have.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 2649 (view)
 
Evolution.
Posted: 9/4/2011 10:52:36 AM
Best line I have heard:

Religion can't explain science, and science can't explain religion.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 175 (view)
 
Evolution vs Creationism/Intelligent Design
Posted: 9/4/2011 10:51:51 AM
Boiling it down to the very basics:

Religion can't explain science, and science can't explain religion.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
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Advanced Search not working
Posted: 9/4/2011 10:45:36 AM

I think it's safe to say there is an issue from the same observations - Admin has been notified.

In the meantime, try upping the distance to 10 miles and you'll get results


Actually, no distance works, whether it's 10 miles or 250 miles.

My symptoms are the same as others outlined; my search is for the Tampa area, I got 3 from California and one from Europe last night, and today I get nothing as a return

I have tried resetting all my parameters to be as inclusive as possible, and still nothing.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 596 (view)
 
Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 9/3/2011 11:15:45 PM

So one should assume that the two of you abstained until post-nuptials? And that if you were not virgins, you'd both been married and only had sex with those particular partners? Or maybe that you've both been "re-born" and that now you've adopted the Bible as your guide to when it's OK to have sex? Just curious


I just wonder which part of the Bible talks about pre-marital sex? Seems to me much of the old Testament is a lot of random fornication going on that didn't wasn't exactly sanctioned by the benefit of any clergy. The new Testament? It's kind of silent on the whole matter also. Oh, except for Paul, who kind of grudgingly said something to the effect, "OK, if you want to get laid, get married. But I rather you don't get laid".

He never said anything about jacking off, so one must assume either he liked the cabin boys or manhandled himself. Wait... there were a lot of sheep around then, weren't there?
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
in love with someone i cant have
Posted: 1/21/2007 8:58:40 PM

I'm sorry but I don't have any sympathy for anybody who would shoot Bambi.


Heck, that ain't Bambi, that's Bambi's grandpa, about 150 I'd say. Nice deer. Better for you then any farm raised critter, no drugs, no hormones. Oh, I know, you think all meat comes from Safeway on a Styrofoam tray and wrapped in cellophane. You get some else to do the killing for you. Clean, antiseptic and no semblance of reality.
 cupper3
Joined: 8/28/2006
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would u stay with someone if ?
Posted: 12/2/2006 10:35:09 AM
Let me answer this from the point of view of someone who was on the receiving end of this kind of dilemma.

I went out with a wonder full girl who I fell for pretty hard. My feelings, however, where not her feelings, and after two months, we had "the talk".

I was pretty devastated at first; one always is in those circumstances. Now, things took a bit of a different turn. We agreed that we would not see each other romantically any more, as there was no point if one or the other did not feel the relationship would grow because we could not both give each other totally to the other person.

We did, however, agree to be friends. Now I know that this is not suppose to work... many say let an ex be an ex. In our case, though things have worked out differently. We did, and do have the relationship where we really can talk about anything. So she knows about people I may be dating, and vice versa, as well as the stage that our relationships are in. Now neither has been in another relationship that is getting serious, and frankly, I don't know how either I or she would handle that. We will cross that bridge when we face it.

In the meantime, we see each other 2-3 times a week, going for long walks in a local park (yeah, I know how that sounds!). We continue to talk about many things that are not relationship related. We really are still friends. I have let others that I am dating know about the situation, as I do not need to have a scenario where down the road any suspicions are raised should any of those I am dating turn into a serious relationship.

So, what is my advice?

You need to have "the talk" with the person who you really don't have romantic feelings for. It is MUCH better to have that sooner rather than later. Just imagine if he continues to have feelings for you, that those feelings grow, and then 1 or 2 or 6 months from now you decide to let him know. Just thing how much harder that is for him. I know it would have been for me.

As much as I was hurt at the time, it was better that she did let me know about her feelings then. We are moving on in our lives, we have stayed good friends, and truly wish each other luck in finding someone who we know can reciprocate our feelings. After all, is that not what everyone on POF wants in the end?

Good luck with your decisions.
 
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