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miss_bren

Joined: 9/4/2006

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What has to happen to turn first date into a great date? Posted: 3/19/2007 2:50:58 PM
I prefer doing low key stuff ..... I also like the guy to take control if he asked... simply put I want to experience what he views would be a good time... I just went on a fun one, where I got to tour parts of a city somewhat that I've been curious about for a while... was nice and relaxed. I'm apparently easy to please LOL

miss_bren

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What the heck does cute mean anyway? Posted: 3/18/2007 9:56:38 PM
I only call guys cute when I find them attractive, and when their actions have either impressed me, or wow'd me in some wonderful way. And also when they are baby faced and so freaking adorable I'd love to jump them

miss_bren

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What Are You Wanting? Posted: 3/17/2007 12:04:11 AM
Honesty, Loyalty, the chemistry to be on the hot side, Intelligence, good hands and nice eyes that I can sink into. That is what I want in a guy.

miss_bren

Joined: 9/4/2006

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Your wandering eye...on the first date???!!!! Posted: 3/16/2007 9:42:16 PM
Talista, I'm talking about first dates, I harass and tease if it's a boyfriend... I'm very secure in myself in that respect I suppose, as that has never bothered me.

miss_bren

Joined: 9/4/2006

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Does the email matter? Posted: 3/16/2007 9:39:47 PM
not at all for me, but then again I'm looking to meet new people in my area not find "the one" (gasp) Seriously I've been known to email back to guys that arent overly attractive if they can capture my interest with intelligence as that's where it is for me.

miss_bren

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How much do you invest in new relationships? Posted: 3/16/2007 9:36:22 PM
For myself if I'm going to invest in someone I'm romantically interested in I've no time to be that way with someone else, I cant stand the little games. Seeing someone casually I still dont date other ppl... not sure if it's because I'm the committed type or if I just dont have the desire to risk hurting myself or someone else in the process of "playing the field."

miss_bren

Joined: 9/4/2006

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Your wandering eye...on the first date???!!!! Posted: 3/16/2007 9:32:14 PM
=( I point out the other cute girls so he doesnt feel like he has to try to be inconspicuous because that's gotta be difficult LOL

miss_bren

Joined: 9/4/2006

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What are your favorite flowers to be given by a beau? Posted: 3/16/2007 9:29:33 PM
lilies / magnolia's either way to be honest anything is good, and for me its not the actual flowers that impress me as much as the thought or sentiment behind getting them. That said I've received flowers only once for no reason from a guy and it was lovely =) Just simple carnations but his though made me happy.

miss_bren

Joined: 9/4/2006

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Paying on Dates Posted: 3/16/2007 9:08:39 PM
I always assume I'm going to pay half at least on dates, cut's down on misconceptions. Besides, I dont mind paying my half. If a guy says that it's on his dime, however, I usually ask them if they'd let me treat them out later. I believe that if I were to ask someone out I'll pay, that's just the way I was raised. I dont worry so much about if they expect anything after, as I'm very picky on who I agree to date to begin with.

miss_bren

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are we better off never speaking again? Posted: 3/16/2007 5:17:25 AM
If you feel it's holding you back from being able to commit with someone else and that's what you want then I'd say yes, also if it's a destructive cycle, is it really worth the heartache? If you say you cant be friends with the woman did you not just answer your own question? the statement "she's the closest I've had to love. so far" is a telling statement that in actuality you might not feel that it was/is love? I could be taking that statement wrong of course... Is setting herself and yourself really casting her to the wolves of life?? Seems to me it might be a healthy thing that would enable you both to heal and move on.

miss_bren

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Why should the men get it? Posted: 3/16/2007 3:05:08 AM
What I am getting from your question is you'd like to know if we really wanted men not to be clueless about when we are hitting on them subtly ???? Of course we do but at the same time lots of women love the hint of thrill of when he finally clues in or finally lets her know he's aware. The only real reason men should be aware that I'm thinking of is so that they dont feel like asses if they shoot a girl down without meaning too..... hahaha I've seen that happen lots... But that's what you get when you play games with one another. You're quite right, we as men and women communicate differently. I've found straight up truth has always worked wonders for me. I cant stand playing games like that. Not sure if that helps or answers your question much.

miss_bren

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should i have done something differently w/ this girl? Posted: 3/16/2007 2:27:29 AM
Remember if she says hi, you should talk back and not just smile in response lol

miss_bren

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can love conquer this.......particular body flaw? Posted: 3/16/2007 2:25:19 AM
that is VERY common, especially among women with olive toned skin or who come from a darker skinned background (Middle Eastern/Native American/Indian/Latina/etc) as a latina I've got to say I've darker areas of skin than others, that my doctor attributes to that factor. Let her know she's normal ;) Besides I dont recall any men stripping me then inspecting me for coloration differences before we got to bumping uglys.... hmmmm

miss_bren

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How can you tell if he's genuine or out for sex? Posted: 3/16/2007 2:01:04 AM
Eyvli said it the best, most (almost all) want sex, however there are a lot that are good guys. Just stay true to who you are and you should have no really major issues. Be upfront about what you expect from yourself, and you will exude that confidence, that also will help weed out the guys just looking for a quick lay. Power too you, good luck with your fishing

miss_bren

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Do men really mind dating women with children?? Posted: 3/16/2007 1:31:08 AM
I felt like putting my two cents in here, I've a thing about my son not meeting anyone I'm dating because I dont feel it would be responsible of me to have a revolving door of men, not sure but seems like you're open to letting them meet. I've a question for you, if you met a man that you werent serious about but really enjoyed his company and liked dating, would you really want him spending time with your precious children? Not saying my opinion is universal but maybe you should consider it? It might help relieve the stress for men that wish to date you, that way they dont go WHOLY CRAP she wants me to meet her kids ;) Either way good luck finding what you want.

miss_bren

Joined: 9/4/2006

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Lost in Your Eyes! Posted: 3/16/2007 1:21:38 AM
eye's are one of the very first things that attract me to a person, I'm very drawn to them, I'm a believer in the old adage that eyes are the gateway to the soul...

miss_bren

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should i have done something differently w/ this girl? Posted: 3/16/2007 1:08:49 AM
since no one else will answer..... odds are yes it was JUST a smile. (sigh) what did you really take it to mean? Next time you see her try the word HI... if she's not repulsed she may say hi back...

miss_bren

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Fighting for you.... Posted: 3/14/2007 4:59:35 PM
I'd probably haul back and hit him myself... Whatever the guy does he does... if he acts like a girl I might be offended but that's about it... Would also have to be really rude for me to hit him though.

miss_bren

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Women, Why is it Posted: 3/14/2007 4:05:18 PM
Are you sure it's just women... Geezuz. Some women think the world revolves around them and how they look, others don't. Same goes for men... Stop lumping into categorizing sexes, because odds are it's just a rare few.

miss_bren

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Is it a good reason Posted: 3/14/2007 3:57:46 PM
I'd have cut you loose for the same thing. But the kicker was bugging her for oral or sex... Take it as a lesson learned, you're lucky she even did that. However, that probably made her feel degraded... So odds are no matter what she's done with you.

miss_bren

Joined: 9/4/2006

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First Messages Posted: 3/14/2007 3:51:51 PM
Honestly for me it wouldnt make a difference as I dont look at that, and even if I did I still wouldnt care. I'm a night owl myself, so that's subjective I suppose.

miss_bren

Joined: 9/4/2006

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do men actually like curvy women vs the skinny pencil one? Posted: 3/14/2007 3:38:44 PM
I've never really met any men that don't like me because of how I look, and at that they can/will spout off whatever they want. but the truth is, once you are attracted to someone you're attracted to them no matter what their body is, chemistry does crazy shit to people.

miss_bren

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when guys are drunk or on their way there Posted: 9/22/2006 5:33:22 PM
ouch, my question is why guys feel the need to do that at someones work when drunk or other wise enebriated. wasnt directed in a all about me way. I am just curious as to the why factor in someones place of work. at the bar I can see it... but in a financial institution... made me wonder. just wanted a look into the male brain for a minute =o/ as for the liquid curage comment.... does it really do that.... or does it just give you an excuse to be a jack ass in public?

miss_bren

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when guys are drunk or on their way there Posted: 9/22/2006 7:33:01 AM
Ok so I had this guy come into my work the other day, and try to schmooooze me... I could tell he had been drinking and he reeked of it... my entire loby was filled with people looking to cash cheques or something of that nature and he was LOUD about hitting on me... Do you do this to women, if so why!!!! just looking for why guys do this when enebriated (read: not just booze)

miss_bren

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females voting other females.... Posted: 9/22/2006 7:18:48 AM
I am going to agree with the jealousy or issues period. as for the question about why we have ours up to be voted on..... mine just got put up at the request of a cute boy

miss_bren

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let's hear some love Posted: 9/22/2006 7:15:07 AM
I agree with the cuddles when cold (or just in general), those little looks they give you to let you know they think you're nuts but ...... after all they are still there...... the little things they do, like playing with my hair. Also whoever it was who said, the contrasts between his ability to be a man but have a bit of boy left in him.

miss_bren

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Attracted to Bastards Posted: 9/22/2006 7:08:51 AM
not all girls go for that..... seriously.... theres a few great guys I've met in my life that really are some of the best catches....... its all in what the woman is ready for. Some arent ready for someone with self respect because they dont feel that way about themselves.

miss_bren

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Why must it always start with friendship? Posted: 9/20/2006 10:32:52 AM
In my experiance when I've done what you're looking for it doesnt work, simply because sex gets in the way. Starting off as friends or on a fairly mellow sexual level helps ensure a bond that can be worked on through everything so it isnt all about sex to begin with... works better that way IMO

miss_bren

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Friends.... are you picky? Posted: 9/20/2006 1:32:14 AM
I meet ppl and get along with them on a surface level fairly easy, however, I am very very picky about those I let get close, its rare that I just click with someone and let them in.... I do have a fairly large group of close friends, but most of us grew up together and bonded through some rough times as well as all the good ones.....and I love each person in my close group...

miss_bren

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My car wont star... Posted: 9/19/2006 2:25:43 PM
alternator? ........

miss_bren

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Scars and more Posted: 9/19/2006 12:09:02 PM
I doubt you'll have problems...... on a side note...... if you go to vegas .... take me .....

miss_bren

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lies or Posted: 9/19/2006 12:04:15 PM
if you feel the need to explain yourself in that situation..... tell the truth if she's too dumb to understand..... do you really wanna be on a date with her? LOL JMO

miss_bren

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children seeing you naked Posted: 9/19/2006 9:14:57 AM
My son was about three or four when he was put in the not allowed to be in the room cat...... at that, it was because he started having issues with my lack of a penis... he thought girls were born with one but they fell off..... =o/ in hind sight was pretty damn funny, and he is peculiar about getting undressed in front of someone... but once he's naked he's usually past caring about someone seeing him... unless its a cute girl hehe

miss_bren

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what do you think of girls who Posted: 9/19/2006 8:59:10 AM
I am like that too ^^^^^, serious stuff I hit head on, but if there is no reason to be serious then I am not....... thats a given fact... besides girls/guys who cant joke around are usually full of drama..... ie headache time.. IMO

miss_bren

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Dress for success. Posted: 9/19/2006 8:03:06 AM
none of the above, hands, smile or eyes catches my attention before their clothes on a physical level

miss_bren

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I agree with chaztity Posted: 9/19/2006 7:59:52 AM
I make my own money I dont care about a mans. so long as he can feed and house himself I dont care, humble and itelligent will get me every time.

miss_bren

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Profile importance... Posted: 9/19/2006 12:41:06 AM
the profile that attracts my attention is usually something that makes me laugh.... I wont message a guy back if it's about my looks usually (unless its funny).... then again a man who shows he has brains will make me curious.. looks I can give or take

miss_bren

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Kamloops Posted: 9/12/2006 4:15:54 PM
if you go to kelly'o's I suggest having fun with the menu.... prime rib, crab, lobster or more traditional dishes are all worth a try there.... I've yet to have something there I didnt like.. as for appies.... seriously try the mushroom capps..... and the mccracken rolls are well liked as well =oD enjoy kam its a wonderful place

miss_bren

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What do you find most sexy about the opposite sex? Posted: 9/12/2006 4:11:49 PM
there is a disgusting habit of adoring hands... heh but thats my biggy... also eyes, teeth and lips.... after that I could care less about looks.... now for brains... some man who is intelligent and exudes that confidence in himself gets my riled up..

miss_bren

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What a sight! Posted: 9/12/2006 3:55:50 PM
a yellow hazel color...... or green are my fav... that said I'm easy that way..... all eyes interest me. mmmmmmmm S*ite brown are mine LOL so I have no room to judge

miss_bren

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quick question Posted: 9/10/2006 8:44:09 PM
"All three are subjective and would give someone an easy out of a relationship that they can't control. " I'm not looking for a relationship myself, just honestly curious about why people feel this insane need to point that out in profiles. Seems redundent to me, as I dont know anyone who wants someone that needy in their life. and as for walks at three to five am.... to do drunk/stupid dialing is silly... meh then again thats the topic isnt it

miss_bren

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Where do you live presently...... Posted: 9/10/2006 8:22:48 PM
I am in abbotsford..... but I grew up in Kamloops.... I miss it and some of the people..... I want to retire in scotland though

miss_bren

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quick question Posted: 9/10/2006 8:20:53 PM
Stalkers, psyhco's, or clingy girls.......I've learned a long time ago that these are the only flavours girls come in. shit does that mean that I am out of luck and doomed to eventually become one? where the hell will I find the time ...... Heeeeeeeeeellllllllllppppppppp LOL

miss_bren

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Sharing your food... Posted: 9/10/2006 5:50:44 PM
In a nice private booth feeding eat other is a nice bit of foreplay, or sharing from an appy platter is good. but a picnic in the bedroom on a rainy day....grrrrr....eating on the bed naked, sharing and exchanging everything edible....ok gotta stop now getting excited..... thats different lol

miss_bren

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Sharing your food... Posted: 9/10/2006 1:16:02 PM
hmmmmm I'll share food with friends, if its something lame like fries... as I am not a big fan of those...... or tomatos..... I am always trying to pawn off tomatos ewwwww..... my pickles or chocolate are no go zones.... you touch my good stuff.... I break your fingers.... my kid however... knows I get grossed out from sharing stuff like juice or milk.... so he takes sips on me and I wont touch it ....... =o/

miss_bren

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Kamloops Posted: 9/10/2006 11:31:00 AM
good place for a first date is lunch at Kelly O'Brians, awsome food with a fun atmosphere, I suggest lunch because for dinner it becomes a damn zoo the place is very very popular but prices are decent and I already said how the food is also kam has lots of little places to do stuff, the bowling on 8th, lazer tag, riverside park etc.....

miss_bren

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Left over veggies...... Posted: 9/10/2006 11:19:47 AM
chocolate zuccinni cake is one of the best cakes you will ever eat, all you have to do is follow a recipe for it and top it off with whipped cream, the cake will do the rest. It is a moist, chocolate cake that melts in your mouth for real lol good luck today.

miss_bren

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Your Birthday Month...It's kinda cool!!! Posted: 9/10/2006 11:15:01 AM
I've never understood this line, I have seen it in lots of things regaurding the month and sign.... "Sometimes sexy in a way that only their lover can understand"

miss_bren

Joined: 9/4/2006

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quick question Posted: 9/10/2006 12:45:03 AM
I figured... was just being cheeky and adding to it... I know too many girls that cant sleep with someone right away because they think they get "feelings" for every sap who manages to spread their legs...

miss_bren

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quick question Posted: 9/10/2006 12:36:26 AM
so what you're saying is they are real issues? wtf... isnt that supposed to be something for women to **** and moan about so they can ignore guys? hmmmm as for weeding out guys trying to get laid..... thats most of them.... however, that said most are willing to put some effort into what we like to call relationships in my experiance.... lol but thanks for answering me.

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