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Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 119 (view)

She is NOT interested and on POF Posted: 5/4/2013 3:52:33 PM
Looking at your profile pics OP what I see is someone who has a artistic nature. Someone who wants to dress looking hip and youthful, not offset by it really, but the one sentence that might be offsetting is the one where you say that you used to have a car , but getting rid of it got rid of the leaches... that shows another insight to you. Someone who is put off by "image" and what it represents to own that type of car... I'd venture to guess a chick magnet... so in that sentence you sound a tad angry. Or maybe how you view women in that you decided to get rid of the car. That might be making you unapproachable. Those bullet points about yourself being a author, having a degree are appealing it sort of takes the place of the "little red corvette"... perhaps its in the delivery when you chat with someone, but yes, on here many are kids in the candy shop and there are too many choices... that is ALWAYS a consideration... I know of several who have found what they were looking for here... . sometimes it is all about timing...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

How long has it been? Posted: 3/23/2013 7:37:16 PM
That would be immature, uncouth, and what happened to being a conversationalist? Hmmm I wouldn't answer it, and most likely look for a way to end the date... When you say early I assume you mean early on... the subject might be broached at a time when you have gotten past early... LOL... oh lordy if you've watched Reba there is a conversation on that very subject but by the time it came up they were both looking to do something about it...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 82 (view)

Should I Be Suspicious? Posted: 2/22/2013 5:52:57 PM
I have gone long periods of time not dating myself, I would hate to think that someone meeting me would judge me over it, and to be honest its a question that I would not know how to answer without saying to much on a first date. Could be he is busy, but like myself, one occasion was over a terminal parent, I took time off to care for her until her death. Another time it was because I went back to school after losing my job, just didn't have time. but its also something that you would rather talk about later down the line. In this economy depending on the business he owns he may have needed to keep his attention on it... maybe nothing... but people have a myriad of reasons for taking time off from dating when other pressing matters come along, and it doesn't mean there is something wrong with them.

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old? Posted: 2/22/2013 4:06:57 PM
Personally I think you should find someone to date that have experienced more things then high school. She doesn't have the experience in life to know what she wants in her future. If you were 30 and she were 25 at least you would be on better ground... it would bother me if my daughter at 18 dated someone 25....

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 32 (view)

my boyfriend takes fetish to a whole new level. please help Posted: 2/22/2013 3:57:32 PM
I see a trust issue with finding out that he buys other women's shoes online, which how does he locate them? Shoes for sale or websites of women walking around in shoes so a man can beat off and then buy them??? Its very confusing. The trouble with fetishes is that when they take over the sexual part of a relationship meaning they can't perform unless certain criteria has been met then that is when I don't want to deal with that fetish... his not having sex but here and there means he is into his fetish more then he is with you. I speak from experience from a guy I was friends with and knew the women he dated, and after a time he could no longer perform with them because his fetish was more important then the relationship was. He would end up being turned off by them... Its fun and games to sit back as a onlooker and seeing all of his toys and hearing about his fetish but it was another to consider him as relationship material. Yes at the end he wanted to date me, and I knew way to much about him to date him... he was a riot as a friend but not relationship material...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 104 (view)

Torn need advice Posted: 2/16/2013 5:49:39 PM
This is a very difficult situation to resolve. It sounds like you and the ex have been able to communicate well enough, and I am wondering if you have joint custody. Because perhaps with the long distance should you allow her to take him, how that could change visitation such as a couple of months every summer with you and certain winter breaks to keep your relationship close. I would have so much trouble allowing my child to move that far away from me especially if funds were tight. For me they would be. I would say if they make more income then they should help pay for the transportation back and forth to see you. Its hard to split a child with school and everything, and they grow up so fast, this is a valuable time in his life because it is so short before he becomes a teen. Things going through court could be a lot faster if she agrees to work something out that you can live with.

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Do you reply, to keep up your replies often response? Posted: 2/3/2013 6:38:18 PM
Wow I had no idea there was a "replies often" I will have to go look.... Cowboy makes a valid argument... it doesn't prove much... and I too am baffled with someone who demands a rejection letter from me...but sigh if they insist.... LOL... not gonna happen... that would just open another can of worms... I think any woman replies because something that was written perked her interest... and your pic... because I don't even open a email if I'm not the least bit attracted to the pic you have... Sounds mean doesn't it? But I guess its one way of weeding out what you know you aren't going to be attracted to, which also means you should update your pic often just in case the one you put up just was a bad one...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 15 (view)

She says sex isn't important. What does that mean? Posted: 2/3/2013 5:06:04 PM
How old is this woman? Is she in a sexual relationship ? If so, is the man impotent?

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 57 (view)

What kind of relationship are you looking for here? Posted: 2/3/2013 10:47:41 AM
What if, someone has been here awhile, has met up with many people, but because of the kid in a candy store mentality they find that meeting quickly didn't really get them anywhere except hurt feelings. Then they sit and reconsider that perhaps through several emails perhaps to cut the odds in their favor, if this person gets to know me a bit better, by the time we meet they will see an essence of the real me behind the physical looks. Very few people live up to a two dimensional representation as with photo's... I think if more people would organize group meetings in public places and more people would show up it would really take the pressure off these one on one meet & greets, and allow for the natural unfolding of attraction while observing someone in a real setting. I don't know which way is better, I'm not sure that people just want an e-relationship. Thinking that most are looking for love, the happy ending. I still would prefer the real time vs online meeting and sometimes thinking friendship leading to love, because I'm just that old fashioned.

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 131 (view)

Ladies over 45 - go without sex? Posted: 1/27/2013 7:02:38 PM
MsMicki I couldn't have said it better... Amen sister!!!! I might be past the raging hormone phase in life but a decent toss in the hay is the heartbeat of life, and I wouldn't knowingly enter into a relationship with cuddling and fatherly kisses???? as another woman questioned... THAT my dear sounds creepy....

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 52 (view)

Im 47 She is 56 Posted: 1/27/2013 6:42:52 PM
Seems like you really care about this woman, and that is what she will see and feel, and if her insecurity is fading you are doing exactly what you need to be doing. Best wishes for a long lasting relationship for you both... hope it works out...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 61 (view)

dogs on dates Posted: 1/5/2013 6:52:14 PM
If she were the one she would understand a sit down discussion on why she should leave her dog home. He has a "pet" agreement with a tenant and honestly that has to come first, and his allergies right up there with it. That is the lovely thing about living apart, she can have her dog at home when she comes to visit him. If she can't understand logic then he is going to need to move on. No one should tell a person to get rid of a animal but the animal owner should respect how others feel about pets being in their home if they don't want them there... it would frustrate me to have anyone bring their pet when I have three already in the house... I don't drag my dogs out to other peoples homes and they aren't children...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 164 (view)

Would you date someone that is taking care of a elder parent? Posted: 12/16/2012 5:23:27 PM
Both of my parents are gone now but I took care of my Mom until she died. I guess I don't care what people think in that situation nor did I really have time to date nor did I have the energy to worry about it. I had a daughter in school and a brother who is mentally retarded. So my hands were full. Someone who cannot understand is better off moving on because caring for a parent is the last thing you get to do for them, something you should feel honored to do for them. I miss my parents every day now that they are gone... nothing and no one will ever replace that place they hold in your heart.

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Should I continue chasing this girl? Posted: 12/16/2012 4:45:22 PM
Holidays are hectic and finals should be near, but it doesn't sound like you are much of a priority on her list. Keep looking because late nites in make out sessions and her partying with friends on a Friday nite sounds like even if she dated you that she would not put you high on her list... life is to short to wait around for long.

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 619 (view)

bald guys Posted: 11/28/2012 7:29:48 PM
The first time I dated a guy who was bald was when I was in my early 30's. I have to admit before he came along I doubted I'd be attracted to a bald man. He cured me of that... we didn't work out but it had nothing to do with his not having hair... Baldness has nothing to do with my attraction to a man it has to do with the whole package... so yes, I find bald men just as sexy as men with hair...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

Woman doesn't like penis's and semen, would you date her? Posted: 11/11/2012 4:49:51 PM
Its not worth any relationship that would imply that a body part was offensive to the person I loved and wanted to have sex with. That had to really take a toll on your self esteem. As to her issues? Had she seen one before since she wanted to wait until marriage? It would imply very little experience with perhaps someone persuading her that men were dirty to enforce chastity. Hmm interesting...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 86 (view)

I always have to beg him to have sex, getting tired of that Posted: 11/4/2012 6:42:13 PM
This can be an issue for men or women, whether or not the OP left the site, but I will say that I believe that the guy wants to degrade her and control her and enjoys ruining her self esteem, if someone is in this situation they do need to get out because this situation is sadistic in nature. This is a person who no matter who they are with even if the next woman is tall and thin, who wants to deliberately hurt someone in this way... why not just leave if you aren't attracted physically? In this case its because they enjoy what they are doing.

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 49 (view)

best friends quarrel over POF guy Posted: 10/23/2012 4:16:18 PM
I think most girls understand not to step on toes where men are concerned. You wouldn't have to be on the best friend level. The fact that she is clueless that you would be upset would give me a moments pause. She sounds to me that she has a unhealthy competitive view of the both of you. Could end up being a single white female sort of thing if she moves in. A year isn't a long time getting to know someone. Most still are able to hide the skeleton's. Although she allowed you a peek preview by giving you her password...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 105 (view)

Sticky situation with a fake engagement ring ... Posted: 9/23/2012 7:32:45 PM
I don't understand putting a carat requirement on a engagement ring. I do understand after a period of time wondering where the relationship was going if I wanted marriage. And feeling that it was a dead end situation if the conversation seemed to be stringing me along. Lots of factors that we are not privy to in this situation. Now don't give me a ring and lead me to believe its real if it isn't... that isn't exactly honest... that has nothing to do with being materialistic. If he felt pressure to make it a 5-6 carat he should man up and tell her NO... that is the first financial conversation that should let him know what the future is going to look like. I agree who on earth could afford it???? not many of us I'm sure...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 361 (view)

can a woman get spoiled by a BIG penis??? Posted: 9/8/2012 6:22:41 PM
Personally I would say girth rather then length...but honestly in my opinion size only matters when it is abnormally small.. The brain is a magnificent sexual organ, get a woman aroused and the sky is the limit beyond size...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

How far to cast you net Posted: 9/8/2012 5:41:54 PM
With the price of gas I'm staying close to home... my city is large enough, Mr wonderful should be right around the corner...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 75 (view)

does silence = no interest? Posted: 9/8/2012 5:40:32 PM
Closure... ugh... we love it don't we? and it rarely happens.... I can't count the times I or friends of mine (several) were upset over not having closure. It seems to be human nature to duck and hide rather then doing the right thing and just letting someone know when they aren't feeling it anymore. I think you provided yourself the closure by borrowing a friends phone to call him and have him answer... the fact that you hung up tells me that you accepted that closure... You have your whole life ahead of you... keep looking...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

Online sex, simply mutual self satisfaction Posted: 9/1/2012 5:17:05 PM
I think he is hoping to drum up some women to cybersex with.... I am sure that they are out there... I am not into it with strangers, open to almost anything with a lover.... and I just hate to get into the middle of a married couple... I smell drama... and the problem is if a woman isn't agreeable in a married situation with her husband cybersexing with strange women or feels its cheating.... she is not going to want to perform for a married man... I am one who believes it opens a door to infidelity down the line. shrugs, ask what I think I'll tell ya, if you perceive it as judgement so be it...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 91 (view)

If a woman admits to 10 lovers, she's probably had 30 Posted: 9/1/2012 4:22:11 PM
Boy your damned if you do and damned if you don't... admit to what you might consider a bunch of men??? or decide to be celibate for 5 years and they think you've lost that lovin' feeling... LOL... lord help me if a man asks me how many men I've been with period... nunya...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

I am 50+ enjoy playing Madden...deal breaker or not ladies? Posted: 9/1/2012 4:07:00 PM
Hey hey hey, I have imaginary farms!!!! LOL... I also get on Secondlife and enjoy it, I do enjoy real life activities, if you are retired and enjoy your gaming I don't see a problem with it. If its an activity to share with your son and grandsons, a double positive... Honestly I have never heard of Madden, but I'm not into sports type things so why would I ??? I think like with anything we do its about balance... honestly I don't understand why gaming online has become associated with child's play???? I mean how many grown ups play card games, or board games???

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

You both decide you want to start a relationship, how much time do you start spending together? Posted: 9/1/2012 2:43:34 PM
I think you should feel blessed if she wants to be with you twice a week early in the relationship. This phase of the relationship you are trying to make shifts in schedule to work someone else into it. If she wants to see you every week then in my opinion she does like you.

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 84 (view)

Men don't like letting women watch them masturbate? Posted: 8/24/2012 6:19:33 PM
I like how Danny on page one described it... "sexual maturity"... I grew up a good little Catholic girl and have even gone to confession for "self abuse"... I was trying really hard to figure out what the terminology was at the time and knew it wasn't fornification. The priest asked me to explain "self abuse"... I can't remember my exact words but I was mortified... I was given 5 Hail Marys and I am sure he chuckled or maybe not... who knows.... I was a teen at the time... Moving on in time I admit I was intimidated by the thought that my husband would masturbate rather then have sex with me. Then after our divorce and he had been my only one for 10 years I gained my sexual maturity.... Honestly though like in a new relationship with someone you have to get to know one another sexually... I can't imagine pulling out all the tricks in my goody bag until I got to know the guy better, nor would I expect him to feel that comfortable with me right at first... but I suppose if someone is repressive about sex you'll find out soon enough. and yes, having a man show me how its done is a turn on... :)

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

First date turns sour Posted: 8/6/2012 6:37:32 PM
Funny how she had no qualms about making a racist remark in front of a stranger, sounds to me like she has no filters what so ever, and you normally can't change their minds anyway. What would the point be in correcting it now? Like others have stated the time to let someone know is when its happening... I guess you were dumbstruck with her crass behavior?

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 45 (view)

Separated, says he wants true love, but then runs.... Posted: 8/5/2012 7:02:21 PM
Its been said, but that is why I don't date separated men... In my opinion they are still married until divorced. They can change their minds for a variety of reasons, and once they are divorced they have some healing to do before they get their heads straight for the next relationship... and it rarely happens on a single woman's time table...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 451 (view)

Divorced? Would you re-marry? Posted: 8/3/2012 5:47:52 PM
I haven't seriously given marriage a thought in the past 10 years.... I was listening to NPR the other night and there was a story about a woman who was 86 I think and she remarried her ex husband that she had divorced 50 years earlier... it was a sweet story actually.... actually bitter/sweet... they had 4 children together divorced then married other people and what brought them back together was the death of one of their children... they were amicable in the divorce and eventually the spouses died and they got back together... the end... Moral to the story is never say never....

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 49 (view)

pretty clear already,just checking.... Posted: 8/3/2012 5:41:02 PM
Life is complicated enough its good you moved on and it is a reminder all of us the pitfalls of drugs and booze when its out of control. 3 or 4 years ago I chatted over the phone ONCE with a guy who was obviously drunk... hadn't met him but decided not to even try to talk again. Every few months he calls out of the blue with a remember me???? want to talk???? and he's drunk every time... I don't answer ever, but I guess he drunk dials. It is sad really because normal people just don't do this... and its another reason why I don't jump to "talking" on the phone to early in the contact phase here of emailing back and forth...because after ONE conversation he still hasn't lost my number...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 93 (view)

Clip in extensions on middle aged women? Posted: 7/31/2012 6:54:09 PM
Angel, I think your hair looks great, and if the guy that you date likes it and I do see the Stevie Nicks look in your pics... go for it... HEY even Stevie is 59ish... who knows maybe she has extensions... LOL... My hair grows fast, I can cut it shoulder length and in six months its down my back again. But not everyone has that luck. Do I color my hair??? You betcha, but I've seen women with gray hair look fabulous too. My mother told me to enjoy my long hair because by the time I was 40 I would be to old to wear it long... I still defy her logic. If she were around though she would find a way to compliment my hair, yet she would say you look wonderful in long or short hair... how about that short hair daughter??? I get it, its a philosophy of yesteryear but Goldie Hawn looks great in long hair also :)

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 77 (view)

Erectile Dysfunction ... how prevalent is it? Posted: 7/28/2012 5:51:19 PM
I have dated a few men who didn't perform the way they had hoped to in the beginning yet all of them managed to perform eventually. Maybe it is anxiety for some when its new, for some maybe its more. but if its more and they need to take a pill I just wish they would be honest about it. Nothing worse then to try to figure out if its a physical issue or something else entirely. The older we get the more we are going to run into this situation, and communication is key... When I was a much younger woman I dated a guy who would be hard as a steel rod yet he couldn't cut lose if you know what I mean... that was curious also.. I guess those little heads have a mind of their own after all...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 42 (view)

Advice? Posted: 7/28/2012 5:05:54 PM
I think part of it is postpartum depression... You need to let some time pass to figure out if you still feel this way. I have a feeling that there is more to the story with your fighting then you could put down in a few sentences. It takes two to tango as they say...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

It's gonna be a loooooooong year :) Posted: 7/22/2012 4:28:45 PM
I want to lose 25 pounds myself... its been a rough 3 years... but now that I have finished school and have a great job its time to focus on my physical self again... I think most of us have our struggles at some point in life. and weight gain for me anyway has been a emotional one... so I had put off dating because of school, now I want to be accepted for who I am today and who I will become tomorrow...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 76 (view)

A lesson from Hot In Cleveland Posted: 7/22/2012 2:10:32 PM
I watch that show fleetingly and its entertaining... imo they made that show around Betty White and she is great! Love her and she has more of the devious spunk from years past before Gold Girls... but she was great in that show also.. I give Valerie credit for maintaining her weight as not all Jenny Craig celebs do... but she seems down to earth even if she is a high priced celeb... I think she has grown more attractive as she has gotten older also... she was quirky cute in the 80's... I think it would take a very naive soul not to realize that they pay lots of cash to look good, and its great that there are still roles out there for older actresses because it is such a youth driven market in show business. Lord forbid you turn 40... let alone over 50 in that industry... I haven't watched the resurrected "Dallas" show but take them out of the limelight and bring em back in and it shocks you even though logically they HAVE to age... Patrick Duffy looks like a old man now... sigh... its okay that I'm aging but not him.. hehehe

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 130 (view)

skirt length when over 50 Posted: 7/22/2012 1:31:37 PM
I guess I don't consider two inches above the knee as being a mini skirt... I am thinking mid thigh... I agree a couple of inches above the knee looks good on most any woman... I wear shorts but not short shorts... and love my capri's... when its a 100 + nothing feels cool...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

Prayers for Colorado Posted: 7/21/2012 6:24:58 PM
Reaching out from Kansas City, MO.... my thoughts and prayers go out to Colorado and its innocent victims and their families...everything that happens in one area radiates out and effects the whole, we are connected.. I feel utter sadness and grief...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

It's gonna be a loooooooong year :) Posted: 7/21/2012 5:35:21 PM
I don't think you should close the door on dating "in the meantime" I think your inner confidence should be allowed to shine and realize that men will be attracted to many qualities that you have... practice makes perfect and you don't want to wake up one morning being a thin woman and wonder why they aren't banging down your door... losing weight isn't a cure all to finding love... Love yourself, love your journey and pay attention because you will get those second glances...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

where did I go wrong? Posted: 7/21/2012 5:15:06 PM
Man, don't give out your addy to relative strangers....now he can drive by and watch who comes and goes and tries to figure out what went wrong... its not a compliment its creepy...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

why do some men click they want to meet, but never hear from them? Posted: 7/21/2012 5:09:30 PM
I have clicked it not knowing it auto sent emails to the individual... I don't really do it anymore because I don't know for sure if I want to, because like others have mentioned you are strictly looking at a photo... doesn't tell the whole story, and likewise I have gotten the email from men and thought what the hay I will send them an email with no response, so from then on I just sort of disregard the whole function... No words of wisdom .... but seems like an experiment that isn't working...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

Caught in the Middle Posted: 7/21/2012 4:53:51 PM
I agree with the others, you need to back away from him if he is not over you. He needs a clear signal evidently that you've closed the door on the relationship. As far as the other woman goes you have let her know that she won't be breaking a friendship code by going after him... that is where your responsibility to their relationship or not ends... maybe she was hoping that with telling you she is interested that you would back off because I am sure she already knows what her obstacles are...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 62 (view)

Texting all the time, at our age? Posted: 7/21/2012 4:34:11 PM
I finally upgraded to a smartphone... I am still getting used to it and love the swype function, and enjoy technology. Texting has its place in my world, for most the reasons already mentioned. But texting, IM, email does not take the place of verbal communication. Just like living behind a screen does not constitute having a relationship. I don't respond to someone's text when I see that they are more comfortable doing that then talking over the phone. And its much easier to conceal a budding relationship from your significant other... So that makes me a tad suspicious if I don't know you because I might start wondering if you are multi tasking between several women... But when anyone man, woman, child resorts to texting more then they pick up the phone it irritates the @#% out of me...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 124 (view)

skirt length when over 50 Posted: 7/21/2012 3:59:15 PM
I was thinking of Diahann Carroll's Book "The Legs are the last to go: aging, acting, marrying and other things I learned the hard way".... I would imagine its true for most women that the legs hang in there long after some of the other body parts shift... and some women look remarkable in the over 50 crowd... Not sure I want to dress in the junior section anymore though... funny that topic came up in my 40's with a friend who still had the frame and still selected her clothes in the junior section... Just not sure that I agreed with it... it can be very difficult to transition over to the "Misses" section of the store especially when they look so matronly and your still young at heart. But I do believe that there is more of a selection and specialty shops today that appeals to us over 50 and not resort to dressing like our grandmothers... I enjoy skirts at the knee, a bit above the knee, and mid calf ... I love wearing tights in the fall/winter... I am a dress sort of woman anyway and always have been. I enjoy being feminine. I have to say though that I wore my share of mini skirts as a young woman and after all mini skirts, hot pants, sizzlers, where at the height of fashion. Maybe I got it out of my system... I think the style more then the length is what matters ..

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 81 (view)

Deal Breaking Quarrel Posted: 6/8/2012 6:24:53 PM
Just looking at what you've written, and not knowing what time the date was made for, but it tells me that usually he calls prior to the date. This time he didn't call, that made you wonder what was going on, so you call him, he says give him 15 minutes that turns into over a hour just to be canceled and all over a rough day. I agree something came up like he forgot. You might have forgiven that but he stalls even longer by saying give me 15 and you are left wondering for another hour. Then confirmation, date is off for the night. THAT would irritate the blank blank out of me...( give me honesty here guy, tell me your tired, tell me you forgot) you say you could have made other plans and yes you could, but the point is that your time is worth while and you were left waiting on him without concern for your time. I totally get that. NOW he gets angry, and then the 30 phone calls shows compulsion on his part, and a loss of control. That would scare me too. I wouldn't want to date someone who did this. This is not what caring and attraction are about. This is odd behavior. PS wish I had thought up "snotty white girl"... snickers...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

is this normal or not Posted: 6/8/2012 6:03:29 PM
Well I find it strange that she doesn't invite you along with her on these trips. In a relationship, you would THINK that one would discuss a upcoming trip regardless. Perhaps even months prior to.... She doesn't pay her way, belongs to a "diving club" and takes exotic vacations... mmmmm..... I'm jealous.. I think your being taken advantage of...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

Please Advise!!! Posted: 5/22/2012 8:10:55 PM
Be glad he didn't bed you and then tell you he wasn't interested.... Don't over analyze it, and don't pick yourself apart because he didn't want to sleep with you. Honestly I think he was being honorable. If you are going to put yourself out there be prepared for rejection, its not you, its them... it is what it is... keep looking... and yes, you are attractive enough... don't change...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

Didnt stay 2 more hrs, relationship over. Posted: 5/22/2012 8:04:42 PM
Well based on what you've shared, you didn't do anything wrong. She could be upset over your leaving, but not enough to end a budding relationship. With what you shared about the night I would have wanted to leave too... lol...

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

Obligated to educate your kids Posted: 5/10/2012 7:13:25 PM
Unless someone has had their hand out asking for your money, I'd say you are putting the horse before the cart. It sounds like you are caught up in the "what if"s".... If you don't want to pay for college for some woman's kid then don't... Is there anything wrong with that? No.... that will be up to her and her ex ... the kids DAD....

Pixy Dust

Joined: 9/6/2006

Msg: 404 (view)

You are Hot!!! Posted: 5/10/2012 6:53:25 PM
I have heard the compliment "your hot" or its variation so many times that it really loses its meaning. I don't blow up, or get mad or stop dating them, but I start wondering how serious they are about dating for the RELATIONSHIP... perception is everything and it doesn't come across as a serious dating proposition. To me it comes across as a booty call. To comment on your eyes or hair is another matter, of course you want to know that you are desirable, but I do understand what the OP is saying. I guess telling me how hot I am doesn't come across as sincere, it comes across as desperate.

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