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horses44

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Is this just too blunt? Posted: 11/8/2009 4:49:35 PM
Hi "Pink" Since I have my profile on the grill....I figured I would add mine as well. I think your profile is great, but take the last paragraph off...it may be a deterent to a potential suitor...while you may be stating "I don't think I am better than anyone else" in fact that is what it sounds like...at least to me :) I get email from gentlemen I am not interested in or do not think we are a match...I delete them..simple as that. There are plenty of threads on how awful it is just to ignore an e-mail, I am of the school of thought "silence speaks volumes". I have sent e-mail where I didn't get an answer...for me that is the answer! But honestly, you sound like a fun well rounded individual, I think you just should x out the final paragraph Good luck!

horses44

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Long story: becoming more than friends, awkwardly, with love triangle Posted: 11/8/2009 3:01:38 PM
Okey dokey - I did miss that line :) You sound like a gem :) Call L and do something fun with her tonite!

horses44

Joined: 9/10/2006

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Long story: becoming more than friends, awkwardly, with love triangle Posted: 11/8/2009 2:28:59 PM
Adam...I did read this, about 14 times...you are a stickler for detail :) Here is what I think - you like her right? And you want to see if there is potential in a future relationship, right? Based on what you have written, you are overthinking this much too much!!! I get the impression that your friends are somewhat free spirited, I wouldn't worry too much about M (you state neither one of you is patriachal), I think you should simply ask L out...just the two of you, not the whole herd...and see if there is chemistry when the two of you are solo But based on what I have read 14 times...I do believe this girl likes you

horses44

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Ok, I haven't been here in a while :) Posted: 11/8/2009 12:42:09 PM
I have been busy passing my wealth of knowledge to others on different threads :) I stare at my profile, I tweek it, modify it and still come back to the same, and I wonder, is it "enticing or interesting"? I can assure you today that it is not since I am still sitting in my pajamas and have just finished up a load of laundry :) These things are tough to write, but my eyes immediately glass over when I read, "Honest sincere man looking for a woman to be a partner in life to share lifes adventures" And don't get me wrong guys, I look at plenty of women's profiles and see the same, except, you know, they are looking for a man So, I am throwing my fragile ego out there, and asking all of you... "What do you think of my profile?" Thanks for your input!

horses44

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How much contact is too much? Posted: 11/7/2009 7:08:17 AM
Hi Jim - Ahhh meeting someone for the first time - so exciting and frustrating at the same time, isn't it? From what I can tell you are not over the top at all...she seems interested, because I am an old war horse, I think if you sent a text in the morning, something like - Hope you have a great day, I will give you a call later on tonite, ok? See how she responds to that Good luck!

horses44

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Dating several people Posted: 10/29/2009 8:10:40 AM
My answer is yes...until you and that "special someone" decide to see each other exclusively, then you may do as you please within reason, ie sweating up the sheets, with more than one person "lying", if I met someone for the first time and the topic came up and he told me that he was dating others, I personally would not be put off by it...he is interested in meeting a potential mate...just like me

horses44

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he says its sexy when i shout at him.. how much will he take? Posted: 10/10/2009 7:49:04 AM
OP - Farceur got it right.

horses44

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Let me tell you about a boy and a girl. Posted: 10/10/2009 7:33:19 AM
Woman thought boy's story was kinda cute, a tad long, but kinda cute. Woman felt kind of bad for boy until she read post #7, and that made woman sad. While woman suspects boy may be an ok guy, he can also be a complete jackass. If boy acted like this around girl, no surprise why girl kept relationship under wraps and then baled. Woman advises boy to chalk this up to a "lesson learned" while it is possible that girl may come back, woman thinks it is best that boy and girl move on with their lives

horses44

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Next Craigslist ? ? ? Posted: 9/26/2009 7:48:24 AM
Craigslist gets bashed for the obvious reasons, but I have to say, I have met men from CL over the years, and a few I dated for a while, but the vast majority were the Starbucks/Cocktail/dinner "meet and greet" and that was it, no harm no foul on either side, just no connection, kinda the same thing as on "traditional dating sites" Meetup is a good idea, but as we all know, it is getting out there and participating in life

horses44

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Is it real or is it Memorex? Posted: 9/7/2009 4:35:02 PM
^^^ Sheesh lucky md.....take a step back, you may be in need of a couple of beers after that tirade OP, you sound like a reasonable person and have connected the dots - he just isn't feeling it anymore..but I have a hunch your phone may ring again in the future from this gentleman...keep us posted

horses44

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now I have herpes Posted: 9/6/2009 9:35:58 AM
Agree with zephyrmoon on this...although I do not know all of the intraquacies of your relationship - I wish you well and hope it works out. I have herpes (admitted it on other threads) it rocked my world for several months (in a bad way) - clearly kept everything in perspective, could have been ALOT worse. That said, it is what is - taking valtex (it helps), but that little bugger will never leave and as a responsible adult, it will be discussed when the time is right, way before articles of clothing are strewn all over the house. I sincerely hope it works for you and that he wants to pursue the relationship

horses44

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Why would a guy string a girl along? Posted: 9/6/2009 8:31:49 AM
Another way to look at this "Why would a woman (or man for that matter) remain with a man/woman that is stringing him/her along"? Also, how would you define stringing along? Does he cancel on dates? Not call when he says he would? If that is some of the scenario, then the really big question is why would you want to stay around someone like that?

horses44

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Where do I start? Posted: 8/31/2009 6:53:51 PM
Merrylass - You and I are on the same page as Mr. Mthomjmark is concerned, he has left some draw dropping comments on the forums that I have called him out on.....nary a response I might add....

horses44

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Where do I start? Posted: 8/30/2009 5:52:11 PM
Photonics - I just saw "Adam" yesterday - story of a young man with Asperger's and dating...really lovely film. Without going into great detail, there are aspects of my life that are very private, ones that I would not reveal until I felt comfortable with that person. I am a firm believer that a first greeting is just that, exchange of pleasantries and see if there is a connection. I personally do not believe in the philosophy "Ask me anything you want, I am an open book", nor do I want to know everything about someone in a course of two hours. Getting to know someone is a process, not a race. If you meet a woman and feel there may be potential after a couple of dates, bring it up. Perhaps she may notice something about your interactions and ask questions..answer them. Good luck!

horses44

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Might throw in the towel Posted: 8/30/2009 9:12:21 AM
Ok Joe, my opinion of you has just increased a zillion percent!!! I was a smart aleck and I apologize But as I am sure you have read in these forums ad nauseam, it is tough out there, I believe most of us are good people, it is just meeting that piece of the puzzle that fits Good luck to you

horses44

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Might throw in the towel Posted: 8/30/2009 8:44:24 AM
Well Joe, since you have it all figured out, why aren't all the women running to you? The last sentence of your profile is absurd, any woman with the sense of a third grader will see that. You are also defending yourself whenever someone offers a suggestion (many of them are valid)....so steer the course you are continuing and keep us posted on all of your success with the ladies

horses44

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How should I take it? Posted: 8/30/2009 8:35:47 AM
Hmmmm, I read all the replies, and I am still in agreement with notsureaboutyou, buesgirl and zephyrmoon. She was still in the "getting to know someone stage" you were ready to move beyond that - nothing wrong with either of those, sounds like your timing was just out of wack. She met someone now that she is interested in, you got hurt, no two ways about it. Based on what you have said - do I think she was a player? No I do not, she wasn't ready to take the relationship to the next level...and from what I can tell made that clear from the get-go

horses44

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The infamous disappearing woman, or is it just something about me?? Posted: 8/30/2009 7:59:37 AM
Too much too soon I'm afraid, so yes this is about you. Your intentions are in the right place, just reel back on the smiley faces and flowers...

horses44

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Why Are Some Men Intimidated By Strongwilled Women? Posted: 8/10/2009 6:30:28 AM
Steve CHO - You rock!!!!! One of the most intelligent responses to this re-occurring, somewhat tiresome thread. A variance of it will show up under "Why are women so b____chy? Why are men intimidated by strongwilled/confident women?" Steve CHO nailed it, THAT is what a confident person is New week is upon us

horses44

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Twice Bitten,Thrice Shy Posted: 8/9/2009 3:13:27 PM
Joiey - I kind of remember your thread from a while back.... I am sorry that you got hurt a bit, but I get the impression that you take "accountability" for returning to a situation that was toxic...and kudos to you for recognizing that...please keep that in mind in the future, I suspect "Romeo" may show up again with a sob story about what a rotten person his ex is, and he was a fool to let you go - then the merry go round may start again Sounds like you need a time for self examination...I got involved in a "situation" a while back that was ridiculous (kind of close to yours ) and I thought "What the heck am I doing? Why on earth would I subject myself to this nonsense?" It came down to good old fashion insecurity... Situations like this seem "exciting" and they are, but they all end the same way - disasterous!!! Be well

horses44

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It finally happened Posted: 8/9/2009 2:22:38 PM
Maesbaby got it right............. Perhaps there will be another date...but maybe not. Sounds like you just enjoyed the "now" of the date Thanks for sharing...

horses44

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Telling little lies Posted: 8/2/2009 5:37:05 PM
DeepLove - I was kinda hoping you were a kook but I believe you are a reasonable person....which is taking all of the fun out of it for me, however I have a sneaking suspicion that this may open up a hornet's nest Within the context you state, yes I am guilty of the little white lie... Even as we speak I think I am in the middle of such, while not a romantic interest (it is one of my girlfriends :)), a friend of mine who I feel has been giving me the "brush off" of late, now I could confront her and say "Hey, are you avoiding me?" I have known her long enough to know that the answer is yes...and in this instance I am fine with it. Now when it comes to those gosh darn matters of the heart, when I am getting involved with someone, and it "seems" things "might" be going south, when I "hear" what may be a white lie, I get apprehensive....cause then I start the hampster on the wheel in my brain "He never said he was busy before, maybe he isn't interested anymore, but if I ask him he might think I am clingy, and if he thinks that then we won't see each other anymore....." Much too neurotic for my own good..

horses44

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Telling little lies Posted: 8/2/2009 5:13:27 PM
Define "little white ones" - your little whites might be defined as a cardinal sin in your neighbor's eyes There is one of those "dancing green bananas" on another site, except it shows two little smiley faces sharing popcorn and watching what will happen next....I need that one right now This should be a hoot

horses44

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and once again :) Posted: 8/2/2009 12:17:02 PM
Ouch!!!! Never fun, I don't care what age you are...it hurts. From what I can gather it sounds as though you were both adult about it - but that darn heartbreak - blech! You sound like a gem, give yourself a little time, and when ready, start wading back into the pool

horses44

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Fat guy at the gym. Does it look pathetic? Posted: 8/2/2009 12:09:21 PM
OP - looks as though the answer is unanimous - you are taking an active role in improving your life. I completely agree with hot mess, I think most people at gyms are looking for common courtesy than how much someone weighs - wipe down machines, put weights away, etc... But I will say this, sometimes I will see someone at the gym who is overweight, and perhaps wearing something that you would see on a more fit person (sports bra, bicycle pants) and it will make me smile. I like to think that they have lost a bunch of weight, feel excited about their success - and are taking positive steps to see themselves in a more positive manner. Keep up the good work!

horses44

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being blown off Posted: 8/2/2009 11:56:22 AM
Brawl 808 - If you ever make it to southern california......truer words never spoken in my opinion. OP, this will be a head scratcher until the end of time (and six zillion more threads will be posted). While "good manners" should dictate all aspects of our lives, there are times when I personally feel "silence speaks volumes". Via another site, I got into a "brawl" with a gentleman that expressed interest, I politely said "thanks but no thanks". This escalated into WWIII with this guy. My thought was if this is how you handle e-mail, you must be a real delight when you meet someone who isn't interested - sheesh. I have been "disappeared on" a few times in my dating career, and I can say it stings...not fun. But generally speaking, it has been VERY early in the relationship, perhaps there is another woman they are more interested in, he didn't find me as attractive as when we first met, he doesn't like the way I hold my fork, etc etc etc. Some feel that the are "entitled" to an explanation, I disagree, because at the end of the day as both the book and movie say "He just is not into you". Be well, dust yourself off a bit (though it sounds as though you have this in perspective) and get back in the game

horses44

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Do many women here initiate the interaction? Posted: 8/1/2009 9:52:28 AM
A Fashion Lady....you rock!!! I have seen your responses on other threads and always in agreement. She is right -no harm, no foul.... I am an older model, so a little nervous about "first contact" - I have a couple of times, and if memory serves me correctly, they didn't respond. I didn't think they were jerks, I figured they weren't interested. Now this will no doubt spin into the VERY tiresome thread "Why do people not respond to e-mail?" If I had a dime everytime I read that thread...well, you know the rest

horses44

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Informing People That Someone Has Herpes Posted: 7/26/2009 8:16:18 AM
MilkLover with all due respect what planet are you coming from? Please provide me with data to prove your point.... When I first read this, I was with the "mind your own business". I certainly have a different perspective (or at least willing to admit to) - I have herpes. I got it as a result of being irresponsible back in the early 80's - disco and alcohol - not a good combination for clear thinking! It did in fact stay dormant in my system for MANY years, symptoms re-occurred within the last few years. Probably one of the most difficult phone calls I ever had to make was calling my ex-fiance (we ended on very good terms) and tell him he may have been exposed - thankfully he was clean For me personally, it is a no brainer, I will be informing whoever I may become intimate with that we need to have "the talk". If I had someone admit to me that they had herpes and saw him/her pursuing people with the intention of getting in their pants? What I may say to them is something along the lines of, "How long have you been playing sexual roulette? Now may be the time to take out some insurance..." Within reason, we are all responsible for our own actions, choose wisely, ask questions, be honest...if you don't want to do any of those, then use a condom

horses44

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Sending gifts? Posted: 7/19/2009 9:21:40 AM
At my age, I think they are ridiculous - sort of feels high schoolish... But to each his own

horses44

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I Accidentally Found My Bf/Gf On A Dating Site Posted: 7/19/2009 8:21:52 AM
I have struggled with this - as there are so many variables. For instance, if I go out with someone, heck even 3 - 4 times, and it is clearly the "dating phase" and not the "You may be my soul mate (blech, I HATE that term), you are the one I have been searching for, you are the "one" - I always get leery when I hear terms that I consider extremes VERY early in the getting to know each other stage...I call it verbal diarrhea. Granted, I am no saint either, if I met someone, and I was intrigued, I would in fact look at other sites and see if he was on there....Would I bring it up with him? Probably not, cause I am feeling a little sheepish for checking, and as long as we are in the getting to know each other stage, he is free to get to know and date other people...just like I am. I will finish up by saying this, if I met someone and were "in a committed relationship" I would stop checking, I fee it isn't healthy, and if I have to sneak around to see if he is sneaking around - what am I doing there in the first place? Trust is paramount in an adult healthy relationship

horses44

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Does honesty hurt more than just dissapearing? Posted: 7/18/2009 7:35:58 AM
I think I am in the same camp as Tracyannk and workinggenius on this one. How long the relationship has been established is crucial. I have gone out with someone 3 or 4 times, and I thinking everything is moving smoothly...and the phone calls end. Of course it stings, I "wonder" what happened, but I certainly don't feel he owes me an explanation - he lost interest. Truth be told I have done it a few times Now it is a whole different animal if you have an established relationship - then an explanation (where hopefully everyone acts like an adult) should be done

horses44

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What makes you think you can pick better next time? Posted: 7/17/2009 8:26:27 PM
Oh Daisypetals - you are a wise soul And I am really glad this post hasn't taken on the "it's all them not me" theme. After much soul searching of late (evaluating why I have never been married, no kids) at this somewhat late state in life, I realize that I am aloof, private and a loner - qualities that will not sustain ANY relationship . There is no horrible man or rotten relationship that defined this quality in me - I think I have been like this all my life. Probably like you, I hate all the cliche' expressions...yet it applies in my case "comfortable in my own skin". In order for me to even enter a relationship, I would have to go out of my "comfort zone" - parties, blind dates, etc. I don't exactly dread those situations, but I don't seek them out either. I have come to the conclusion that unless someone falls out of the sky or shows up at the front door, my chances of meeting someone are small....and I think I am ok with that...for now

horses44

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DO I CONTINUE TO DATE HIM Posted: 7/12/2009 9:40:24 AM
Advantageous - Prepare yourself, you might get slammed for this thread.... Thankfully I am in your corner I am older than you, but finances are a big consideration - I sure get the impression you are not a "gold digger" but rather someone looking at "the big picture". I have dated men who were financially strapped, and they were nice guys, funny, polite, etc. But ultimately the relationship ended (not always by me either). I just kind of felt like I was on eggshells. Sounds like he is a nice guy, and you like him - are his finances important? Only you can decide that, and if they are, then you should probably walk away. It doesn't make you a "shallow person" - just a person who is able to identify one component of the relationship that is important. Be well

horses44

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whack jobs! are they on the increase? Posted: 7/12/2009 9:23:07 AM
Mz taken - you took on Desert Rat earlier in this thread - thank you Sanschele - thank you for your sensible response! When I am in the process of getting to know someone (first phone calls and meeting) my eyes start to glaze over when they tell me about all the loons they have met. I start to nod off when they continued to date them. If you find someone's behavior unacceptable for heaven's sake stop seeing them I have said it before and here again, generally speaking, most of the men I have met have been "normal" - there just wasn't that connection of wanting to get to know each other better. Sanschele - I think you said you pull your shirts up over you versus over your head? That is awesome!!! I too am an odd duck, eccentric, hopelessly trapped in some routines which I love, etc. We all have some quirks that may be considered wacky - but that is what makes you "you". I sometimes think when I am meeting someone for the first time and pretty sure that it will end with "It was nice getting to know you, I hope we can get together again". Both of you know that won't happen, but even though it didn't work out for us, there is someone out there that is a perfect fit

horses44

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I believed his every word...now I'm left with a broken heart Posted: 7/5/2009 9:37:34 AM
Ouch...not fun Just add what has been said, I am sure this is a lesson learned

horses44

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Is this a game, or interest? Posted: 7/5/2009 9:10:30 AM
Severin - First off you have received some great advice here - especially from mysteriosa Granted I have only skimmed this, but you just entered this relationship, what you may interpret as "over the moon" may not be how she views things. From what you have described, clearly she likes you. She may be reserved and have a tough time sharing feelings, nothing wrong with that, alot of people are. You have to decide how that makes you feel - perhaps you are someone that wants to discuss everything, get it all out and then hash over it, once again, nothing wrong with that either. I can identify with her, I am somewhat reserved, a big observer and listener...."Do I agree with what this person is saying? How do they interact with other people? How are they around my friends and their friends?" Certainly sounds like you enjoy being with her...enjoy it!!! I think it is a little to early to decide exactly where the relationship is going

horses44

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Ex boyfriendss????? Posted: 7/5/2009 8:45:46 AM
"What is he thinking? Why does he keep contacting me?" Who cares Are you "done" with him? Then ignore calls/text/e-mail - he will get the picture My mantra - silence speaks volumes

horses44

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Ladies, i need your opinion on this... Posted: 7/5/2009 8:31:23 AM
Kamelotfan - first off you sound like a gem Which would lead me to believe you have good taste/common sense when it comes to the young ladies. She is all over the map, I am not quite sure she is your "B" plan, I think since you no longer work together that takes some pressure off pursing a dating relationship. My vote is to call her something casual coffee or alcohol - if she says no then I would back way off and leave the ball in her court. If she says yes, I would keep it very low key, get caught up on your former workmates, catching up, blah blah blah. I wouldn't say "so have you thought more about what we talked about?" Just let the conversation take its own direction, you will have your answer then Good luck!

horses44

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persian men Posted: 6/27/2009 8:32:59 AM
Goody - one of my favorite topics!!!! I just answered something similar a couple of weeks ago. Alicia - you sound like a logical woman - and have handled some of the dimwits here very well I am in Los Angeles, a place that has an ABUNDANCE of Persian and Armenian men. I swoon whenever I see these guys - super attractive to me. I have dated middle eastern men for years, and there is no hard and fast answer on this, I will say that if they were born in their respective countries, you may not have as much of a chance with a "relationship" versus having been born here. LOTS of family dynamics, mom and dad want them to marry the nice little persian girl or armenian girl. Now have I done the deed with middle eastern men and they disappeared? SURE! Have I done the deed with "white guys" and they disappeared? Of course!!! Like I said, you seem like a sensible woman, "players" come from every corner of the earth, if you are sensing any red flags with this guy, then you will need to make the decision if you want to sweat up the sheets with him or not. Good luck!

horses44

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First phone calls... Posted: 6/27/2009 8:17:12 AM
I'm with Forum101 and Fishin on this one.... Voices are a big deal to me, and I admit with some embarrassment that I have not met men based on how their voice sounds.....this may explain that at nearly 49 yo I have yet to be married

horses44

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broke up with her AGAIN! Posted: 6/27/2009 8:07:47 AM
Scrappy - Pull out a kleenex and dab your eyes - Still unclear as to "why" you cannot have a relationship with this woman, sometimes that elusive "vibe" just isn't there

horses44

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What do white/arabi girls think of indian guys/guys of indian origin? Posted: 6/21/2009 7:23:36 PM
OP - here is the question I have for you - what are you attracted to? Back in the day (when I was a little older than you ) I only went out with Armenian and Persian men - physically they are extremely attractive to me, and thankfully I live in a city that has an abundance of them (Los Angeles) But I was very young (and almost all of these guys weren't even first generation, they had been born in their respective country) so I was a "secret" as far as their families were concerned, I can only remember meeting one of the guys families, and while they were cordial, it was clear that their darling son would be marrying someone from their country. I think Raider mentioned it as well, I kept in contact with some of these guys over the years, they did marry the "nice armenian or persian girl" that their family approved of. I have dated middle eastern men since, and most are "americanized" so to speak. But if you are looking for a hard and fast answer on this you won't get it - we all have different looks and personalities that we are attracted to Girlygirl above answered better than I could!!!

horses44

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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do? Posted: 6/21/2009 12:03:41 PM
Farceur message #24 Reveal1K message #39 Fantastic responses!!!! OP - Whether it is legal or illegal is not relevant to me personally....but I question someone's own security issues (in this case your friend) that she feels she must snoop in order to get what she is looking for. Did the end justify the means? I suppose it did. Still doesn't make it right in my opinion. I would be very curious to get her boyfriend's response to all this. But I am willing to bet the bank that she has been involved with people like this in her past, and probably will continue to do so - if you are so unsure of what your partner is doing that you feel you have to hijack their computer, what are you doing there in the first place?

horses44

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Promised to call. Didn't But checked POF mail HELP PLS Posted: 6/21/2009 11:36:15 AM
Wow....I am exhausted. Getting through your first post was painful, but your responses to anyone who thought you might want to re-evaluate your choices and behavior makes me "want to take a nap". He took a nap as it appears you suck the oxygen right out of the room. Your profile is clearly a rant, you may want to re-think it in order to attract the kind of gentleman you are seeking. And heaven help the man who checks his e-mail before calling you....

horses44

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Pictures and average body type Posted: 6/21/2009 9:37:28 AM
Thanks Drinks for a positive post! I can honestly say that I have been fortunate, every guy I have met via the internet has an "accurate" photo posted, sometimes they are a little cuter in person, sometimes a little less, but I have yet to experience some guy who is 84 instead of 48, states he is athletic and clearly the last weight lifting he has done was a fork to his mouth, etc.

horses44

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Real interest vs Assumption. Are there warnings signs to prevent this from happening? Posted: 6/20/2009 7:22:34 AM
Sugar Kisses - big KUDOS to you, you took a chance, struck up a conversation with a man you found interesting, I am way to much of a chicken for that I am sorry it turned out the way it did, for whatever reason he bailed. But I hope you don't let it discourage you, I have no idea what your conversation consisted of, by what you have posted here it did seem pretty friendly and social. As I said, if you find someone attractive and decide to start chatting with them - keep doing so. There are plenty of threads on here where men would LOVE if a woman came up and chatted with them Romny, I have read a million posts on here, and I can honestly say yours is one of the most asinine I have come across - how you possibly came up with the logic you did is beyond me. Sugar Kisses - you rock!

horses44

Joined: 9/10/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

Need help with this one... Posted: 6/15/2009 6:00:19 PM
Padriag - As I suspected, you did get several responses to creepy rose at work. I am still sticking to my guns on this, someone pointed out if she had to explain this to co-workers, since you had only gone out a couple of times, explaining it to her collogues might be awkward You got some valuable advice here....

horses44

Joined: 9/10/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

How do I go on after a devastating breakup? Posted: 6/14/2009 6:11:37 PM
James Bottomtooth - I have finally stopped laughing enough to type..... Thank you for pointing out the obvious - beautiful

horses44

Joined: 9/10/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

Need help with this one... Posted: 6/14/2009 12:50:46 PM
Padraig - I think your intentions are in the right place, however - you state you are not pressuring her - I disagree, I think you are, and for me personally, the rose at work thing was pretty creepy. Have you been to her workplace before? You left her a message after that and she didn't return your call? Not surprising I liked what Kimbo said until the end, leave her a message of some sort that if things get better in her life and she would like to resume a friendship, you would be more than open to that. Just let it go, I don't know her, I don't know you, but based on what you have said if I were her I would be creeped out by your behavior She has your number, let her decide if she wants to call you or not.

horses44

Joined: 9/10/2006

Msg: 70 (view)

Is it racism when.... Posted: 6/14/2009 12:31:42 PM
Wow.....someone posted that this thread should die a quiet death, but since I have been on vacation I have to say a little something - actually I don't need to say anything as Revilors said it so succently.... And SagMan4u #28 - I can't even comprehend your neanderthal logic - jeepers!

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