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palejewel

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Why bother clicking Meet Me if you're just going to delete a message I send without reading it? Posted: 5/5/2012 3:04:10 PM
The "meet me" section is really redundant here. Sort of like a time waster. Don't get caught up in it.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Kid's ages Posted: 5/4/2012 3:56:26 PM
Not a bad idea. It would remove a lot of the guess work.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Go for the real date. Posted: 5/3/2012 7:53:04 PM
Agreed. The sooner you have a meet, the less time you will invest in a fantasy.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Are you going to enjoy this weekend's Supermoon on Saturday Night? Posted: 5/3/2012 7:46:30 PM
Thanks for letting me know. I think I will ask my sweets to go out with me. Appreciated!

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Lust, Passion and Love Posted: 5/3/2012 7:43:59 PM
I really question your age. Not what I would have expected.

palejewel

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at what point do you men stop going on POF? Posted: 5/3/2012 7:40:31 PM
At least you understand what happened. Two dates does not solidify a relationship. Communication does. Lesson learned and move on.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Opinions on those (Women,in the case of who I see) posing with/shooting firearms in their profile? Posted: 5/3/2012 5:52:29 PM
I don't like guns. If anyone on here has a gun in one of their photos, then I leave. Same with men and dead fish.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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voice mail Posted: 5/3/2012 5:50:19 PM
Wouldn't it be wonderful if we didn't have to go through this stage of a relationship? Unfortunately, that is not an option. Just remember, you did the right thing, and in time, the pain will disappear. Try to think good thoughts.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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So is talk about sex forbidden on here or what Posted: 5/3/2012 5:33:13 PM
It exists. Sex and Sexuality Issues

palejewel

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Orgasm without ejaculation Posted: 5/3/2012 11:36:11 AM
^^^^ lol! Igor that is priceless!

palejewel

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Is it true, in your experience, that after the first six months or year the honeymoon is over? Posted: 5/2/2012 7:40:31 PM
I've been with my man for over a year, and we have not had one fight. I even mentioned to my mom yesterday about how amazing it's been. The key is communication and LOTS of it.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Is marriage necessary or a fading institution Posted: 5/1/2012 3:37:12 PM
I think marriage is important if you would like to raise a family together. Otherwise, I see no point to it. Sure does bring in a lot of money for the government and lawyers.

palejewel

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the couple that doesnt talk Posted: 4/30/2012 5:20:47 PM
Can be if you don't make your marriage a priority. People just become too comfortable and don't put forth any effort anymore. Sad eh? So let that be a lesson to you. You CAN make it better, if you want too.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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What do you think of when you hear 'Online Dating'? Posted: 4/30/2012 3:43:30 PM
Online Dating is just another avenue to meet someone. Unfortunately it's gotten a bad rap, as a good portion of the individuals who are online are not who they say they are.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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The over analytical 30 something? Posted: 4/30/2012 3:41:46 PM
Yup, relationships require a lot of compromise. Are you up for that?

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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WTF...advice?? Posted: 4/29/2012 5:48:29 PM
He isn't answering...I feel like he is avoiding the conversation. Am I wasting my time...should I keep pushing him?? Should I give up and move on?? I have told him many times that I want to be with him, he says I deserve better and that he needs to get his life back on track...I hate this argument. You should listen to what he says. It sounds like you are his fwb and nothing more. I say move on.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Guys sharing horniness Posted: 4/29/2012 5:45:24 PM
Female complaints make me so hot ... anyone want a pic of my winky? lol!!! Oh Christ, yes please. Post that for us! lol OP these " men" will send out hundreds of the " I'm horny" messages because one silly " woman" will reply and that's all they need to keep going, is one. This is so true! OP, just block and delete.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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How to tell a woman you have epilepsy Posted: 4/29/2012 3:19:16 PM
They weren't the women for you. When you find the right one, it will not phase her one bit. Keep looking.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Animal cruelty........... WHY? Posted: 4/29/2012 3:10:40 PM
What goes around comes around.

palejewel

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First Contact ...Men or women? Posted: 4/29/2012 3:06:49 PM
YOU are woman. Choose. If you do not choose, how will they know that you find them attractive? If you choose, you will choose men that you are attracted to. What's the worst that can happen? They can say no thank you.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Maybe TOO NIce? Posted: 4/29/2012 3:04:23 PM
Sounds like your picker is off. You are the one choosing them. You have to figure out why you are choosing them, and then choose more wisely.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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No relationship until you're 30..... Posted: 4/29/2012 3:02:31 PM
You sound like my mother. She tells me that all the time. and you know, I listen. It makes a lot of sense. She got married at 18 to my Dad, and life was very difficult for her. So her take is, enjoy yourself when you are young. I will be 30 next year, and have enjoyed my younger years. Now it is time for me to settle down and move on to the next stage in life. LoveHelper, you are one wise woman. Wanna meet my mom?

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Throw Caution to the Wind Posted: 4/29/2012 1:50:07 PM
You communicated with someone online. You met this person on a holiday for three weeks. After 5 days you figured out it didn't work, and now you want to know if any of us did that. NOPE. Never did, never will, and would really question your thought process. You're not going to do that again are you? Next time try the meet and greet method. Meet him for 30 minutes for a coffee. If you like him, then set up a date. If you don't, then thank him for coffee and move on.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Dealbreaker? Posted: 4/29/2012 1:41:03 PM
At your age and where you are living, I can't see why it would be. You still have years ahead of you to worry about that.

palejewel

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Sent Messages - Last Online Now Pay Feature: Post all comments here - other threads will be deleted Posted: 4/29/2012 6:49:12 AM
Moderators are volunteers and know just as much / or as little as you do - we are not given prior notice and have no say in changes admin impliments. We also do not have any different way of contacting admin as you do. Hopefully the Bigfish will look at paying the moderators for their time, and then keeping them up to date with what is happening. That would make for better business, wouldn't it?

palejewel

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Why is it so hard to find a girl for casual encounters? Posted: 4/29/2012 6:44:00 AM
This thread is hilarious! ^^^baldguy, I read your profile. Are you serious??? Having much luck with that? lol As for this being a hook up site, I met my love on her over a year ago. We've just moved in together, and are planning where our future will take us. So it does work. Women just have to weed through all the men who have profiles on here like you do. Good luck with that buddy! OP, most of the women on this thread have given you good advice. Look elsewhere. At your age thinking that women are just going to pull down their drawers and bend over, you are delusional. Maybe you can team up with baldguy. lol

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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The power women have on dating sites/ A suggestion to fairly balance this power. Posted: 4/28/2012 9:39:10 PM
A forced response to some unique un-responded message, say after, every 5 messages one reads or replies to, would serve as both a reminder for women and a courtesy to men for the purpose of providing a previously thwarted user a chance to engage. (In layman's terms, she saw your message, didn't respond, read or replied to a few more OTHER messages, and was forced to decide that if she wanted to respond to that super hot dude again, she had to go back to reply to YOUR message first.) lol, are you a lawyer? Now, inverse. You're a woman. (if not, just pretend) You get tons of messages every now and then (I'm exaggerating). There is a really good thread on here, about how many emails women really receive. You should search that out. You are internet dating. You need to understand that "no reply = no thank you'. There are many threads on that topic.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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What makes the relationship for you? Posted: 4/28/2012 1:02:49 PM
Respect Love Honesty Integrity (Say what you mean and mean what you say) Commonalities

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Ever run off on a date? Posted: 4/28/2012 12:56:28 PM
NO I have not. Doing so sounds extremely childish. If you don't want to meet someone, or feel that there is no chemistry (or whatever you want to call it), excuse yourself, and bow out politely. Remember, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Be an adult, not a child. \/\/\/ Great point. If people just did the 30 minute meet and greet, then that would elevate a lot of those LONG drawn out dates, where there really isn't a match.

palejewel

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thedouble standardissue,alive and well... Posted: 4/28/2012 9:59:23 AM
Strange. And this broke your heart?

palejewel

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Having SO around your child Posted: 4/27/2012 7:02:14 PM
Import, that was a real owch. I hope the boys have been able to put that into perspective. OP, unfortunately your ex holds the cards. He can play them any way he wants, and you don't have control. I would suggest that you take your children to a counselor. When my Mom split with my step dad, she took my brother to an amazing Behaviorial Therapist so he had someone to talk to. My mom was struggling herself, and she wanted someone in my brothers life who could help him through his transition period. I was given the same offer. She was the most amazing women I ever met. The reason I call her amazing, is because she inspired me so much, that I went into Social work so I could help others.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Separated, but not divorced Posted: 4/27/2012 6:51:47 PM
josh, you are the rebound. You are the first one in and you are not going to be taken seriously. You are only there to ease the fear, lonliness and pain. You are going to be a distraction from her healing. Not a good place to be. As for your demands, you have no right. She is not in a safe place yet.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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What exactly is sexual compatibility? Posted: 4/27/2012 6:45:02 PM
I like the breakdown of the levels listed by ForRumOnly, but I agree with Ms. Vicki. I dont care how much you care for each other........ if there are issues in the bedroom the relationship will not work. I have come across men who are not willing to participate in oral sex. They just don't like it, which is a real shame. That removes a good chunk of the foreplay, and with that gone, what's really left? Climb on? That grows old. Which makes the sexual portion of the relationship boring. This is adult playtime. Time to share, and laugh, and experiment, and try to make your partner feel loved and desired. If you don't want that type of adult playtime, then you are just being selfish, or are there other issues that need addressing? I once watched a show where they brought in a sex expert, that assisted you (as a couple) to move out of your comfort zone and learn to simulate and excite your partner. This may sound extreme, but if you truly love and care for one another, then this may be a good idea. It can be amazing the things you learn.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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what a lier Posted: 4/26/2012 7:19:09 PM
Thank God he didn't sleep with you while he was with her. You never know what you could have caught. Don't meet him anymore. Show him how happy you are without him. That will drive him nuts!

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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what is your thoughts ladies???? Posted: 4/26/2012 7:16:11 PM
That is one weird situation. You did the right thing. I've read some guys who just put up with it. At least you spoke your mind, and found out that she was somewhat nuts.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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What does this mean? Posted: 4/26/2012 7:11:18 PM
Yea, it does sound that way, doesn't it.

Palejewel

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Why are girls like this? Posted: 4/26/2012 2:43:42 PM
Owwww. Why do you allow them to do that to you? You are totally lacking self esteem. You need a way to up that.

Palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Free cake inside Posted: 4/26/2012 2:41:06 PM
Are you ADD? Looks like it.

palejewel

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to stay or not to stay Posted: 4/26/2012 12:49:26 PM
What can I possible say that the others haven't? Very low on self esteem, aren't we?

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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How do I say hello??? Posted: 4/26/2012 12:42:16 PM
Please change your username. If you remove "THEniceguy" it will fair you better.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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user on 2 different dating sites Posted: 4/26/2012 12:38:51 PM
So in order for you to know he has himself on 2 different dating sites, you must be too. Are you the same on both sites?

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Require You must have a photo to contact people to have a photo themselves Posted: 4/26/2012 11:40:08 AM
Makes sense. But why don't you have a photo?

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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U.S Marine discharged after Pres. Obama facebook criticism. Posted: 4/26/2012 8:26:53 AM
Think about it. If you say something derogatory towards your employer on facebook (for the WORLD to see), then your employer has the right to release you. It's common sense. Use it. Obviously he didn't, so now he has to pay the price for his stupidity.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Boudoir pictures good idea or bad Posted: 4/25/2012 8:01:42 PM
I say go for it. Yes it will improve your self esteem. Just google boudoir shots and you will get a lot of tastefully done photos.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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The MEET ME section is FAIL Posted: 4/25/2012 7:59:40 PM
They should remove the "meet me" section and replace it with a "wink". That would help the shy people take a step out of their comfort zone.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Do you search for ONLY those displaying profile photos? Posted: 4/25/2012 7:58:39 PM
I did. I have a photo, and I want you to have a photo. It's not difficult.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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'nothing serious' and 'no commitment'. Does it even make sense? Posted: 4/25/2012 3:56:32 PM
I just asked a MAN why he would put that as his intent. Read that right, a MAN. So it's not gender specific. But I'm guessing at your age all the women are out enjoying them selves, and not getting tied down. I know I was. So don't be in a hurry. Have fun and enjoy the moment.

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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No way to pay for membership? Posted: 4/25/2012 3:50:22 PM
No need to pay for a subscription, we manage just fine without one. What are you really going to obtain by handing over your credit card number?

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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ADHD in Teenagers Posted: 4/25/2012 11:06:58 AM
You're welcome Import. It amazes me that people think we are disabled. When in fact we can run circles around the average Joe. We just have to learn how to harness our God given abilities. And there are many! Education is the key, and as you educate yourself, educate your son. Thank God for mothers!

palejewel

Joined: 9/12/2006

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Friend in relationship jealous of me Posted: 4/25/2012 7:11:53 AM
my best female friend just got a new boyfriend a few weeks ago Just huh? Sounds like she bounces a lot and is unhappy with herself. And really, do you think this is her "TRUE" love? Maybe the next one will be too.

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