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lyrical heart returns

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Tim Hortons / POF Alliance Posted: 8/4/2009 6:46:01 PM
Ah - Timmies. I met my sweetie there for the first time. It's safe, clean, well-lighted and the one in my area is VERY close to the cop shop. Besides that, they make a good chocolate croissant pastry thing. Darn it, now I have a Tim's craving.

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Old broads and come ons. . . . Posted: 6/1/2009 4:06:03 PM
Never offer too much sizzle, if there ain't gonna be steak, might be a good motto. And - I sure wanted to know if my s.o. wanted more than sizzle. because I did (and do) so I was not offended when he discussed it with me. It's all in the approach though. It went something like this - if over time, we find we are compatible in all important ways and decide to have a monogamous long-term relationship, would sex be a part of it? Can't remember the exact wording.

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Financial Compatibilty Posted: 5/12/2009 7:01:37 PM
Financial compatibility does not have to be about comparable incomes. Many women (at least women in my age bracket - 65 and up) made less during their working lives than men of the same age. I made less and have less than my s.o., but, we have the same attitudes and beliefs about money. Don't buy what you can't afford. Have savings, and invest VERY conseratively. Don't make money too important in your life. If you have enough to meet your needs (and reasonable savings) then, you have enough. Be generous towards each other - share porportionately. Provide for your children as you see fit, but don't deny yourself every pleasure. And of course, don't demand money from your partner or potential partner , ever., and don't keep financial secrets. If you don't trust a partner enough to be honest about money matters, other problems WILL occur.

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Marriage Vs LTR Posted: 4/19/2009 1:48:45 PM
I agree, it's best to discuss this early on, or put it in your profiile. Not everyone is looking for another marriage. I sure wasn't and neither was the man who is now in my life (LTR). There are many reasons why people don't wish to marry again/ or live together but do want to have a long-term committed relationship. Just keep fishin' Best

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Concerning makin love.. Posted: 3/31/2009 8:51:19 AM
Still having a great time and glad of it. Certain positions are not as possible to stay in as they once were :) but it matters not, because there are so many ways to enjoy each other, and we do. Here's wishing everyone a happy love life- whatever that may be - lots, some, or none, with the person you most want to share with. Cheers!

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looking ahead sexually Posted: 11/27/2007 12:47:44 PM
A long piece of firm foam,to lay upon ( about four inches thick) is helpful and can be used by either parter, Yes, it works.

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WHAT EVER HAPPENED.... TO THE GOOD OLE DAYS? Posted: 8/27/2007 11:18:47 AM
I would never want to back. High school - not a single date, LOL! Too shy and hadn't maybe I hadn't reached my peak of attractivenss. And, as has been pointed out, there were far fewer opportunities for women. Now will do just fine thanks! There are still some good fish in the sea. Keep lookin' Cheers.

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Men...........women.........and sleep Posted: 8/23/2007 12:24:23 PM
I need somewhat less sleep than my honey does. Most of the time if I awake before him I just snuggle up to him, then after a while I wake him up gently in a nice way.

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Is there an age limt for women wearing jeans? Posted: 8/21/2007 11:00:47 AM
I still wear jeans as casual wear (and cords too, in the winter-time) and I'm 64. I'm somewhat rounded and according to my s.o. my butt looks very fine in jeans. It's a question of finding the right fit for your body type and if you are petite, it's harder, and usually more expensive too. I don't think age matters. My neighbour is 80 and slender and she wears jeans.

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middle aged swingers ;0p Posted: 8/8/2007 6:39:09 AM
I only have one middle-aged friend who admitted to having tried it. She wasn't happy with the result but isn't sorry she took a chance. It's not my cup of tea, but I'm not about to throw stones at people who find it satisfying.

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Returning To School At Age 60! Did You Go Back Later in Life? Posted: 8/8/2007 3:57:29 AM
Yay for you! I went back to school a total of three times and found it to be a great experience. One of the bonuses was making new friends who are younger than I am. Another bonus was discovering I could do as well or better than most of the younger folk and enjoy the process. (I graduated with a 3.999 average even after taking two months off to be with my mother during a serious illness) But, the best thing of all was learning more about subjects I was already passionately interested in. It's never too late. Pass me the eraser and I'll bang it for you. Cheers!

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Are you really what you portray in your profile? Posted: 8/7/2007 12:58:16 PM
^^no, it isn't. But how about some real blues rather than Stones retreads. Seriously though. When my profile was visible it was direct and honest. Happy fishin/

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But,..are you happy? Posted: 8/6/2007 8:08:48 PM
Yes. I'm happy in my own skin and I'm also delighted to have met a wonderful man. In a perfect world, I wouldn't have to deal with constant financial uncertainty, but then I might be bored. If I could have one just-for-me wish granted, more of my fiction would be published. Happy fishing to all.

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Reasons for having sex ~~ Posted: 8/5/2007 3:02:25 PM
until I actually do the dirty deed (to coin an inaccurate phrase), my thoughts will be completely screwed up for the entire day. I guess it's a 'man thing' Um, no - it's not just a man thing.

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Does their sun sign affect your interest level? Posted: 8/5/2007 2:56:26 PM
It affected my interest level somewhat. It isn't just the sun sign though, it's what signs are rising in all the 'houses'. In any event I found out some time after I met my s.o. that he is an Aries with Cancer in many of his houses and I am a Cancer with Aries in many of my houses. How relevant is that? Who knows. I'm just happy that we are compatible.

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Are you really what you portray in your profile? Posted: 8/2/2007 3:51:33 PM
I'm exactly like my hidden profile. I closely resemble Ann Margaret some of the time and I'm like Margaret Atwood some of the rest of the time.

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Whats this 1st date & I want a kiss bullsh*t Posted: 7/29/2007 4:59:15 PM
My oh my A kiss is just a kiss A sigh is just a sigh If you don't want to kiss somone of the first date - then don't. If you're reasonably perceptive you can see when a guy is about to make a move and avoid it. Maybe it's just that after years of working with men who were cognitively impaired due to strokes and dementia, I have four elbows and at least five hands and am experienced at avoiding unwanted contact, and I've never missed the gonna-get- me- a -kiss clues. My momma raised a loving caring person who was happy to give a guy a friendly kiss on a first date. And furthermore, I happen to know that she kissed on her first date (after her divorce) too.

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So Round So Firm & So Fully Packed! So whats the Problem! Posted: 7/24/2007 5:59:58 PM
There's more around my middle than there used to be and current health info says that isn't a good thing. I'm working on it. Damn trouble is the first place I lose weight isn't my middle - it's the girls. Likely I'll go from a nice full C to a B before much disappears from my middle. I do still have a waist but it's not 24 anymore. Problem is writing about this makes me want to go out and get some chocolate for consolation. I won't - but I sure want to.

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Dominants and Submissives Posted: 7/24/2007 12:16:09 PM
A good point Moraima. And to look at it from the male side, how many man in their 60's who had to support a family, alone, or with financial help from their partner did exactly what they wanted to do. I do things with my s.o. that are mutual choices and don't hesitate to say no if something doesn't interest or appeal to me. But since we have many things in common it's easy. I've never been submissive and was always the leader when I was married. I quite enjoy the fact that my current partner takes the lead some of the time. He's smart though, and only leads me in the direction I would already have gone in any event. Cheers!

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middle aged scaredy cats :0/ Posted: 7/23/2007 11:38:28 AM
If you want to ask someone to dance, then do so. If they say no - it's no big deal. The earth will continue to revolve, even if you don't. If you want to ask someone out, then do so. If they say no - it's no big deal. Take another swim in the POF sea; there are lots of fishies here. When someone asked me to dance, I always said no, because I am not a good vertical dancer. On the other hand, I'm excellent at the horizontal mambo.

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Death do you talk about it? Posted: 7/20/2007 8:49:15 AM
Yes, I've talked about it with my s.o. He has all his plans in place, while I do not, but I do have a will and both types of Powers of Attorney. It wasn't difficult to discuss death with him at all because we both believe the spirit goes on and that there is justice sooner or later (karma). When my time here is up, I hope the ending is quick and merciful. In the meantime, though, I plan rejoice in the days I receive.

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Where to live to make your (retirement) relationship grow? Posted: 7/20/2007 4:36:33 AM
I'd love to be out of the city, but that'll only happen if my s.o. wins the lottery. If he does, he'll build a house on the Saugeen River. Many older people are moving to the Muskokas and other cottage country areas. The problem is - if your health declines you might not be able to get the medical help you need - or be able to find a retirement community in the area that fits your needs. Then too, if you lose the ability to drive due to vision problems, etc. - you're stuck.

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Keeping The Giddy Alive Posted: 7/19/2007 4:21:51 PM
giddy, over the top, breathless, heightened romantic love I'm not quite sure about this one. If his past relationships began with that overwhelming feeling but then fell apart - why did that happen? There is a honeymoon phase to relationships, but that doesn't mean that as the relationship continues romance and passion fades away. If the love between people is both romantic/ passionate and based on a deep caring and knowledge and acceptance of each other's good points and flaws it will almost always grow stronger and, with luck (both partners still capable etc), the joyful adventure goes on and on.

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How long before you should meet? Posted: 7/17/2007 8:52:36 AM
While there aren't any set-in-stone guidelines, I believe sooner is better than later. E-mailing back and forth to answer a few important questions is fine, but if the other person is a two-finger typist, answers will be short, ha ha. In my case, after we exchanged a few emails he gave me his phone number and asked me if I'd like to call him. I did, and I suggested we meet for coffee. The rest, as they say is history, and a fine history it is.

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Female masterbation Posted: 7/14/2007 8:24:17 AM
I think some men want to see specific info so that they can do the banana dance. Well, first I slowly sensually remove each article of clothing ,caressing each part of myself as I do so and then I ... send the details by e-mail to my s.o. In other words, there are other places on this site where you can read erotica. :

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Are these Conrad Black jurors capable of providing him a fair trial? Posted: 7/14/2007 6:39:07 AM
Black is going to appeal and if his lawyers are smart, they will get their money up-front. The jurors had a difficult job and I think that if they erred at all, it was in Black's favour. I mean - they were not entirely sure he should be convicted on all counts but concluded that he was indeed guilty of four of the charges. The videotape of Black removing boxes of information - when he had been ordered not to do so - was pretty damning evidence to support the obstruction of justice charge.

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Over 45 Men, How should we dress? OK Ladies fire away! Posted: 7/10/2007 5:59:37 AM
Wear a smile, it doesn't cost much and it says a lot Absolutely! Went out with a judge once. He was the best-dressed sourpuss I ever met. No second date for that one. Oh, and briefs, if you have the buns for 'em.

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Over 45 Men, How should we dress? OK Ladies fire away! Posted: 7/9/2007 5:15:48 PM
First date casual dinner Jeans that fit properly, but not like wallpaper a one-colour shirt, socks and shoes. Shine the shoes. Above all, be well groomed and don't wear too much aftershave of any kind. Funny clothing story. When I first met the man in my life at a local coffee shop, he was wearing pressed jeans, a very nice dress shirt, shined loafers with dark socks and a really great leather jacket. All good - so far, right? After a while, he took of his jacket since the coffee place was quite warm - and then I saw it. He had a large belt buckle that said JOY. Uh -oh, I began to wonder if despite my great first impression, he was in fact a player of some kind. I decided I'd ask him about the belt buckle. He actually blushed, then explained that it was the name of a company he'd worked for.

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You know yourself best...new POF Posted: 7/6/2007 11:55:32 AM
It was not bad for an online test. It said my need for independence was even higher than I'd thought but that I'd do fine with someone who understood me. That's true - and he does. It also said I have a high need for touch and that I'm very 'in touch' with my own sexuality etc. Also true and fortunately my s.o. is in tune with me.

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Trusting someone in a new relationship Posted: 7/4/2007 11:27:59 AM
if we see untruss worthly behaviour Does that refer to someone who moves so little in bed that they would never t need a truss, or need to be trussed? M. you unintentionally gave me my afternoon chuckle. Thanks for the fun. On topic - if you have confidence in your ability to interpret other's wisely but without built-in assumptions, you are more likely be able to build a relationship when the right person comes along.

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Trusting someone in a new relationship Posted: 7/4/2007 6:05:32 AM
Avalon has it right. If both people approach a relationship with a built-in "prove I can trust you" attitude the relationship may never get off the ground. Begin with optimism or at least neutrality toward the unknown- don't "expect" to be hurt. Back when I was a counsellor, I learned about the unconditional positive regard approach and found it to be most helpful. I still apply Roger's ideas when I meet new friends etc. It's amazing how people respond when you are positive, open and uncritical. It tends to bring out the best in others - and also the truth.

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hormone replacement therapy? pro or con? Posted: 7/3/2007 4:51:02 AM
If you are experiencing a normal menopause, then HRT would be a choice and not a necessity in my opinion. It is important to ensure you get enough Calcium (with vitamin D) and enough regular weight-bearing exercise to help prevent bone loss. Each woman's expeience can be different. For me, there's been NO loss of sex drive, sexual sensitivity/response or lubrication after menopause . In fact, my love life has never been better and I am not on HRT.

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hormone replacement therapy? pro or con? Posted: 7/2/2007 6:29:55 PM
Ack!!! There are threads about this. Menopause is NOT - "a condition that can cause serious diseases". It is a natural part of aging. Both my mom and her sister had breast cancer and my doctor advised against HRT.

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How long does it take to really know..love or infatuation Posted: 6/27/2007 9:17:58 AM
First, there's the attraction phase, infatuation and lust (or else it's a friendship) then; with time and knowledge, you might discover you do love the other person. How long might it take? For some people it could be as little as three months, for others six months, a year, or maybe they'll never feel sure because they can't establish trust, or let go ofthe past, because the bond is simply not stong enough to allow them to do so. I think that if you don't know after seeing someone on a consistent basis for a year, then you'll never know; but that's only my opinion.

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Go Grey or dye? Posted: 6/27/2007 4:00:02 AM
Some people look wonderful with silver-grey or all white hair - and some don't. Choose what you like, not what others say you should do. My hair hasn't changed much. It's still kind of a strawberry blonde with maybe a few very light silver hairs mixed in (my daughter says she can't see any silver, but I can in a certain kind of light). I don't dye it. Semi-permanent hair dye is a favoured by my daughter although she has no grey hair, and by my grandson, whose natural hair colour is light brown. My daughter's hair has been auburn, black, and dark blonde, courtesy of dye, and my grandson's hair is currently bright blonde. Maybe I'll join them someday, but I'm happy with my hair as it is, for now.

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Age Appropriate Behavior Posted: 6/22/2007 4:00:40 PM
"clown dancing" = darn Montreal_ Guy. I'd pay to see you do that. As for me, I'd rather learn the meringe (not sure of the spelling) dance. It's more senusal. And, as my s.o. says, if people knew some of the things we do, we'd scandalize 'em.

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Being on the Defensive Posted: 6/19/2007 1:26:47 PM
Possibly he thought you were being overly cautious. That would be his problem - and not yours. I don't see any good reason for him to become angry. There's nothing wrong with asking for some reassurance. A man who is worthy of the name would be happy to supply it, in my opinion, and would not fly off the handle.

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Drinking over 45 Posted: 6/18/2007 5:38:01 PM
Anyone who drinks more than a moderate amount, and does so on a regular basis is unlikely to say so in their profile. But, there might be clues in the way they communicate with you.

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Alternative physical activities Posted: 6/18/2007 5:31:06 PM
Walking is number one on my list. Can't run or do aerobics because one knee is in bad shape. Hot weather and smog limit my outdoor walking, but there is a treadmill downstairs. Also dance to upbeat music in my living room, by myself and lift small weights. Playing the piano for an hour or so helps arm strength too. And, the other kind of regular indoor exercise certainly helps maintain my cardio vascular fitness.

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When to mention s*x in letters..? Posted: 6/14/2007 6:17:51 PM
Okay, to try to be serious for a minute - or maybe less. I wouldn't discuss it in the first email, or the second email. A lot depends on the depth of the conversations (by letter) that you've had. I would, and have discussed sexuality - in a general way - by the third or fourth email. Maybe I was the exception though.

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Canada - where can I seek justice ? Posted: 6/11/2007 7:09:59 PM
Not sure who is misleading whom, but if he did get paid, the owner should have reported his income to Canada Revenue and there would be a record and CanRev would have that. It would make sense for the owner to report it because it would have been an expense that would decrease the amount of tax the owner would need to pay. Or maybe your ex was paid 'in kind' with a share of the business. If so, the owner would have to show that on his return. Without documentation I can't think of any way to proceed. Maybe someone else will.

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Canada - where can I seek justice ? Posted: 6/11/2007 5:05:26 PM
If you know ( and have proof) there is fraud, then contact the police and they will involve the RCMP if needed. If you simply think this is going on and have no proof then be careful. It could backfire.

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Faith politics Posted: 6/11/2007 4:59:05 PM
"Faith politics" is more important in the U.S. than it is in Canada, but I'm sad to note that it is making inroads here in Canada. Religion and the state should not be intimately connected. Maybe people should read Becky Garrison's book Red and Blue God, Black and Bue Church (Eyewitness acounts of how american churches are hijacking Jesus, baggin the beatitudes and worshiping the almighty dollar). Garrison is a Christian satirist and her chapter "How Would Jesus Vote?" is excellent. I'll just quote a few bits from it - "I am not sure how the Lord and Savior would feel about today's houses of worship doubling as political battle stations." .. (and this) "Unlike many of our contemporary leaders , Jesus seems to have this separation of church and state idea down pat. ..." (and) " Speaking of the Religious right, the story of the Pharisee and the tax collector in Luke 10:10-14 pretty clearly demonstrates that Jesus isn't thrilled with leaders who talk up their holiness and strut around saying, 'Lookit me--I be praying'" It's better to live your principles than to talk about them, but it's a lot harder, especially for politicians.

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What would our kids think Posted: 6/11/2007 4:32:37 PM
My daughter is happy for me but we don't discuss intimate details. Don't need to really since she is 43 and should be able to figure it out.

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Blending Life Styles Posted: 6/11/2007 1:33:58 PM
Hmmm, well, my significant other needs to watch his diet. But I don't nag him about it. There would be no point. He is careful most of the time and I know that. Once in a while he eats things that are too salty and pays the price, then he gets back on the wagon again. I don't criticize since I'm not flawless either. He commits a significant amount of his time to an organization that's an essential part of his life and will always be. I don't belong to anything but I understand his need to do that. I spend siginificant amounts of time working on my writing, or simply thinking about working on it. He understands that's essential for me. We work together to find a balance.

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Dance of the sexes................... Posted: 6/8/2007 3:37:31 PM
I made the first move and it I'm so very glad I did.

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Sign’s He’s Just Not That Into You Posted: 6/8/2007 1:22:26 AM
If he doesn't make SOME kind of small move within the first four meetings - say a kiss on the cheek, a touch, say on your arm, a hug - or any small indication that shows he'd eventually like more, then he's either "not that into you" or so shy it could take him three years to do anything. (Who in their right mind would wait that long?) Oh- and if he kisses your forehead, he sees you more as a potential friend/ addition to his extended family.

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R.I.P.......but then what? Posted: 6/3/2007 3:14:52 PM
Some wise advice above. I only wish everyone would consider being prepared for any eventuality. I have one elderly male friend who is almost a recluse and has no family left. I'm the only long-time friend he has - and I live in another city. I hope he lives a long long time because I may have to deal with everything if he doesn't. And - he has no current will and no other arrangements made. Sigh. As for me, my will is up-to-date, my Powers of Attorney (financial and personal care) are accessible, I'm in regular contact with my daughter and I have no pets. Plus, I live in a condo apartment, so if my neighbours didn't see me on a regular basis, I'm sure they'd ask questions. I don't imagine that would be necessary though, since my s.o. and I talk every day and if he thought something was wrong, he'd contact my daughter immediately.

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Growing Older - Stretching the truth more often? Posted: 6/1/2007 5:06:08 PM
Sure, sometimes I stretch the truth a little about minor things, for example, I might slightly embroider a funny incident to make it even funnier. Also, I'm a fiction writer and of course writers make things up in order to show a truth.

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How is the rose working for us old farts? Posted: 6/1/2007 11:53:45 AM
When I was "on the market" here, no one sent me a rose. I did send one to a man whose writing I liked, but I didn't know it said Be Mine. No wonder there was no reply! The roses and other things are a good addition to the site and since they're free, I'm guessing that they are sent often.

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