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buttercupismyname

Joined: 9/15/2006

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MFM threesomes and sharing your wife? Posted: 10/31/2008 6:17:34 AM
Holay... is it warm in here? My ex used to talk about watching me with another guy --- not necessarily f*cking but maybe giving him a bj or a hand job. I always thought, if you really love me why would you want to share me. But after reading through these posts I can see that there are a lot of like-minded people out there. But, really, would you not be worried that she would like it too much with the other guy?

buttercupismyname

Joined: 9/15/2006

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why do people cheat? Posted: 10/25/2008 8:50:47 AM
People cheat because of a "character flaw"? Seriously???? Well if that's true then over half of the population in North America suffers this same character flaw because that is how many spouses cheat. I've done a lot of reading on this subject because I too was cheated on by my spouse I have a number of friends who have either been cheated on themselves or are doing the cheating. It really has nothing to do with the person's personality. I used to believe that people cheated primarily for sex but in any of the literature I have read (all written by people trained in social behaviour) the number one reason people cheat is due to a lack of intimacy in their existing relationship. Sex is not the main motive for cheating. People need to feel validated, loved, desired and you can only go so long without having those needs met. We all know how it feels to be rejected. Imagine being rejected by your significant other for years, maybe even decades. It won't take too long before that person's self esteem is at an all time low. And to say ... "well if you're not happy, just leave" isn't always possible either because of financial constraints. Imagine leaving a combined family income of $70k and going to a single income of $30k or less. For a lot of people that is incentive enough to stick it out. Or on the other side, the higher income earner is told that s/he has to give up half of everthing that they have spent their whole life working for and then have to pay monthly spousal support on top of that. Divorce can be very messy and very costly. Plus there are often kids involved and a lot of people will stay together to prevent the disruption in their children's lives. Yes, I am sure that there are some out there who cheat primarily for the thrill of cheating but they are certainly in the minority. I'm not saying that cheating is right .... I'm just trying to understand it rather than condemn them all to hell. There are a lot worse things out there that people do to each other.

buttercupismyname

Joined: 9/15/2006

Msg: 104 (view)

woman bad in bed? Posted: 9/6/2008 1:58:45 PM
"what makes a woman bad in bed?" changing the channels on the TV while he's riding her ... true story ... I heard it from a friend of a friend of mine.

buttercupismyname

Joined: 9/15/2006

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3 Somes Posted: 9/6/2008 12:42:30 PM
I can see this as being really problematic when two of the three are in a relationship. Why would any man want to watch the woman he loves engage in sexual activity with another man? Wouldn't he wonder: "what if he's better than me?" especially if she seems to be enjoying it? Would that not be a major blow to your ego? While the FFM combo seems to be more the norm, I've known guys who told me that they would find it erotic to watch their gf giving another guy a bj. I'm by no means a prude but just find that really odd.

buttercupismyname

Joined: 9/15/2006

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what's your take on bf asking other women for their picture Posted: 1/17/2008 10:09:13 AM
Thanks for the replies folks ... just confirms what I thought. Although I expect that there are people out there who likely don't see anything wrong with this behaviour --- maybe they are just afraid to post that opinion in a public forum for fear of repercussion???

buttercupismyname

Joined: 9/15/2006

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what's your take on bf asking other women for their picture Posted: 1/17/2008 5:34:15 AM
I've been with Leroy (not his real name) for almost a year. He tells me he loves me and is totally committed to me and only me. Before we met he spent a lot of time chatting with people on the net -- men and women, but mostly women -- that's actually how we met. We've talked about it and I've said that I don't so much have a problem with him talking to women that he met before me but I do have a problem with him trolling for new women to chat with -- especially when he admits that he has asked them for pictures -- in some cases nude pictures. When I told him that I will never be ok with that and asked why he would do that if he was completely happy with me, he replied "because it's fun". He's always been honest with me -- he TOLD me about the pictures when I asked him -- and I believe that he has never and would never cheat on me. So, gentlemen, what's your take? Is this normal male behaviour to always be checking out the grass on the other side of the fence even if you have no intent on mowing it?

buttercupismyname

Joined: 9/15/2006

Msg: 80 (view)

What to do if person you are starting a relationship with still frequents POF Posted: 11/6/2007 12:43:26 PM
Ok, so let's say you've been together 6 months or more and have had the exclusivity talk. Yet, he doesn't change or take down his profile. You ask him why he's still active on the site. He says he was was looking at his matches that are emailed weekly to his hotmail account. One of his matches was someone he knew years ago so he emails her just to say hi. He swears it was completely innocent. Red flags?

buttercup37

Joined: 9/15/2006

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Ricky don't lose that number Posted: 12/30/2006 8:21:28 AM
Hey everyone. Thanks for the great advice. I'm pretty new to this "putting yourself out there" so I really appreciate your words of wisdom. And you are right! Of course people are busy during the holidays. I'll give him a couple more days and then call. I was just afraid of coming across as being pushy, but sh!t happens right? Maybe he did lose my number and there is only one way to find out. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Summerskies: LMAO "walked into the Mens room again" too funny, girl! Thanks for the support!

buttercup37

Joined: 9/15/2006

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Ricky don't lose that number Posted: 12/29/2006 2:12:38 PM
I was out at a small pub last weekend and was rather attracted to the bartender. I'm normally pretty shy but thought what the hell ... so I left him a note with my phone number asking him if he wanted to get together for coffee. He phoned the next day! We only chatted for a few minutes because I had company when he called but he said he would like to get together and that he would call me after the 27th because I'd be out of town until then. So, here is it December 30th and I haven't heard from him. So, what do you think, gentlemen? Did he lose my number? Did he change his mind? Should I call him?

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